August 18, 2025 • 18 mins
Jason tells us how his 2.5 hour drive to his family vacation turned into 9 hours.. Plus, we debate family drama on an all new Keke's Court! Listen now!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the fread Show. Let's get to hotel A
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Turn Matt, Yeah, they talk better than they say. These
(00:44):
are the radio blogs on the Fred Show. So it's
like we're running in our diaries, except we save them aloud.
We call them blogs. Jason Brown's got one go.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Thank you, dear blogs.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
So this weekend, Mike and I took a long weekend
and we went up to his family's Lake House just
for a little you know, lake time, little get away.
And it's about two and a half hours away. And
so Thursday we left after the show so that you know,
we could beat rush hour get up.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
There in time. But blah blah.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
So I go home, get everything in the car, get
the dogs in the car. We're all picked up or
ready to go. I'm about twenty minutes away from his parents'
house when I remember I forgot my bag of stuff,
which has everything I need in it. It has my laptop,
it has my charger, it has my phone chargers, it
has my medicine, it has everything. I had my clothes
(01:35):
bag because we put our clothes in the same bag,
but I didn't have my bag of stuff. And when
I tell you, I have never been so mad. I've
been this mad, but I've never been so mad at myself,
Like I could not blame anybody but myself for this occurrence. Okay,
(01:57):
so I just start like I'm dry, and Mike's turn around,
We'll go back. I was like, no, the girls, I've
been in the car for almost three hours at this point,
you are not going to ruin your first day of vacation.
Because I'm an idiot. Right, So I'm like I'm driving.
I drove all the way to his parents' house, dropped
him and the dogs off.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
And I was like, Okay, I'm gonna do it, like I've.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Been up since three am, but we're gonna make the
three hour drive.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Back and then three hour day home.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
So then I get there and his mom's already got
her purse in her hand. She's like, I'm going with you.
You've been up too late, too long, like you got
up so early this morning, like I'm driving you, we
can switch off like whatever. I was like, please, like
let me be by myself. I'm so mad, Like I'm
like in tears. I'm just so mad at myself.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
And like nine hours of driving total in yes.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
So literally she drove us back here, got my stuff,
walked right in the kitchen, grabbed my bag, got right
back in the car.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
And three hours back.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Literally nine hours in the car to and from Michigan
three times for.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Two Was there no other way?
Speaker 3 (02:59):
There was no other I was trying, like, you know,
my brain is like immediately problem solving, right, so I'm
going through like a rolodex in my brain, like okay,
can I get a temporary prescription. Can I log into
another computer?
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Can I like do this?
Speaker 3 (03:11):
And I could not think of a way where all
outcomes could reach where it needed to be. So I
was like, I got to there's no other there's no
other option.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Besides the medicine.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
I don't really think you needed much else my personal opinion,
like you would never but you couldn't have had a
dead phone and a no lesson.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Oh yeah, no, I definitely could have.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
There was I just was planning to do a lot
of stuff from the lake House that I needed to do,
so I need.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Maybe it was maybe maybe they maybe the work gods
were like, no, it's okay, the boss doesn't need to
email you on Saturday night to make a PowerPoint presentation.
Like it's maybe that was the you know, the vacation
god saying, well, now he has no choice but to relax.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, So like I brought the computer back do I
need to do?
Speaker 3 (03:55):
But then I did make like a conscious effort to
disconnect like all day Saturday and didn't touch anything Sunday
until Sunday night.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
I like was disconnected. So you know, I'm trying.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
But I was like, wow, I am so dumb.
Speaker 5 (04:08):
Wow, Yeah, if you know anything about Jason. He's not
leaving it, think bad, honey. He will he will leave,
will leave that leaving it So Jason, I.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
You, man, Jason can't go anywhere with that. That two
thousand and six and I rely on.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
It's my biggest memesis.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
But I know, yeah, nine hours of driving, bro, I
was I was exhausted.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Yeah, but you know, big up to Mike's mom.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
For particularly I bond her culverts on the way back.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I was like, dinner's on me. What do you want?
She's like, I want cheesekirts. I'm like that, let's go.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Yeah, yes, man, I want have taken you to a
pawnshop and got you a new computer. I would have
taken you to Target and got you into a cord
and told you I don't know what's up with the medicine,
but you're gonna be a little nuts this weekend. So yeah,
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on demand. It's a Fred Show. It's Kik's Court. All rise,
the Honorable Kikileik is here. Judge Kiki, if you would
(05:28):
present your case?
Speaker 5 (05:29):
All right, let's get into the courtroom. The gavel has
been hit, it says Judge Kiki. Am I wrong for
skipping my sister's baby shower?
Speaker 6 (05:37):
So?
Speaker 5 (05:37):
My younger sister is pregnant with her fifth child by
her second husband, and she's living back at my parents' house.
Her ex is a deadbeat, her current husband can't hold
a job, and my parents have basically been carrying her
financially for years.
Speaker 7 (05:53):
We're talking school.
Speaker 5 (05:54):
Fees, medical bills, lawyer bills, you name it. Now she's
having another baby and expects yet another baby shower. My
mom is upset that I won't help decorate or hosts
like I've done in the past, but honestly, I feel
like going would just be me co signing her irresponsible choices.
My parents are supposed to be enjoying retirement, not raising
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her kids and paying her bills.
Speaker 7 (06:20):
I love my niece and nephews. But enough is enough.
Speaker 5 (06:23):
Someone in the family has to draw the line, and
it looks like that person is me. So am I
a jerk for refusing to go to the baby shower?
Speaker 1 (06:32):
First of all? How many? How many baby showers?
Speaker 6 (06:34):
Do you know?
Speaker 1 (06:34):
How many crib?
Speaker 5 (06:35):
Mean?
Speaker 1 (06:35):
I guess you need another crib because you go? But
I mean, don't you have enough stuff by now?
Speaker 7 (06:39):
I would think so, like what happened to baby number four?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Stuff?
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Hey? How about baby number one? Baby number one's in college? Now,
you know? Yes, what do you think? Keki?
Speaker 7 (06:49):
Well, you know y'all.
Speaker 5 (06:50):
Get mad at me when I don't have sympathy for
people who make terrible decisions in life. WILL take all
the smoke on this one because I do not think
she is wrong. At some point, when you are not
financially where you need to be, you need to close
your legs because I let me tell you something, when
my money is funny, I don't even have the urge
to do what you do to make babies like I
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don't even come one talk to nobody. I'm not in
a joyful spirit. You know you go through a hard time.
I understand that you went through a bad divorce. I
understand that it's okay to move back. Sometimes you have
a husband, Okay, somebody need to go.
Speaker 7 (07:29):
To work and keep a job. And then if you
can't keep a job.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
And you can't go to work, then you need to
stop having children because who's paying for this? And then
the poor parents? You know, and I have. I come
from a family of my sister. You know, she loves
her grandchildren down she'll do anything for her grandchildren. But
if I was to ever see one of my siblings
taking advantage of her in her retirement, I'm absolutely gonna
speak up. You should it's not the pay. It's not
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our parents' responsibility to raise your children. They loud, but
you you know it's that's fan, it's not.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Yeah, maybe she should have used some of that money
she borrowed from her parents and gotten some birth control.
Speaker 7 (08:05):
Hello, I mean that's responsible, that's real.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
Listen. I've always said this too, like if you are
not in a good place, like I think having a
child maybe.
Speaker 7 (08:14):
Isn't the best decision we're making right now.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Is always saying that, she's always she always walking around saying, hey,
you you don't look like you're in a spot for this.
Speaker 7 (08:24):
As a mother.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
I can tell you firsthand. It is expensive, it is hard,
It is everything you can think of. Okay, it is beautiful,
but it is hard. And I also feel like maybe
she should work on picking her man correctly, Like I
think that's another thing we gotta.
Speaker 7 (08:35):
Work out with this girl.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
Hello. You guys are the journey though eight five five
five nine one three five. You have to call it
today because the text is down because we've got to
pay the bill. I guess, but we call now.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
I don't think that's unfair. I really don't. And I
know that accidents happened. I realize that it's possible, very
possible to have a kid when you're not when you're
as you would say, when your money is funny mm hmm.
But I mean, when we're on the fifth one. Come on,
what point do we need to take responsibility for ourselves?
It was probably four kids ago, you know, when we're
not having our parents pay our bills. What is this
(09:09):
dude doing who's knocking you up? Why is he not
doing this? I mean, I feel terrible for these kids, honestly,
because there's no accountability here, you know, I'm sure their
quality of life is affected by the fact that that
the resources aren't there, and now you got grandma and
grandpa having to pay for all this, and then I guess,
you know, another baby shower. So we're it's just more
(09:30):
people enabling. I'm with you, Kiki, I'm sorry, but you know,
you can call up here and you can say what
you want, but this stuff does happen, but it doesn't
happen five times.
Speaker 7 (09:39):
Right, And you're at home with our parents.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
They have worked hard to enjoy their retirement and I'm
sure they love having the kids there, but they should
not be taken on the financial burden of raising your children.
You know, they should be enjoying themselves, going on vacations,
going you know, to travel and do things, not raising
your paying for school fees and oh my goodness, it
(10:02):
just seems like you're just irresponsible. And everybody in the
family is like enabling this because they keep having parties
for these kids.
Speaker 7 (10:09):
That you keep bringing it to the family financially supporting.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
And to your point earlier, Kiki, there are two adults
involved here, right right, So if one needs to stay
and raise the kids, understandable, because now you've got five
of them, But well, what's the other person doing, Like
and I mean clearly they're good at making babies. So
and where are his parents? Where are you're in laws?
Maybe you stay over their house a couple of months. Yeah, Alison,
(10:37):
good morning, Alison. There, Hi, Hey, Alison Keky's court. So
just to recap here, this woman is on you know,
working on child number five. Well, she already worked on it.
It's already done, it was worked on, it's on the way.
There's another baby shower, another baby shower, except this woman
who who is reaching out to judge Kinky is like,
(10:59):
I don't think I should have to support this because
my parents support this whole family, we've all been supporting this.
What do you think.
Speaker 6 (11:08):
I completely agree that it's irresponsible for her to continue
to have children, but I also think that once that
child is born and grows up, they might feel some
type of way about the sister not attending her baby
shower and she went to all the other kids' baby showers.
Speaker 8 (11:26):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 7 (11:27):
My niece nephew type get that.
Speaker 6 (11:30):
Yeah, yeah, because if my aunt didn't go to mind,
but once all my.
Speaker 8 (11:34):
Other siblings, I'd be like, you know who kind of
stringled out?
Speaker 1 (11:38):
I hear what you're saying. Alison, but almost nobody who
is at my mom's baby shower for me, it is
still in the picture. Dad's not even in the picture.
So I mean she has she has the right to
be frustrated by this. I agree. I guess that the
sentiment of this child coming and and you sort of
not celebrating that. At the same time, though, I can
(12:00):
understand why everybody in the family is exasperated. It's like,
especially when it's her parents having to pay for all this,
and I guess in some ways the rest of the
family too is supplementing this behavior. And again, I'll say
it again, I know that this stuff just happens sometimes,
but how many times has it happened and you're not
able to be responsible about it and provide for it
(12:20):
before you come up with another way?
Speaker 6 (12:24):
Yeah, that is true, But then I also think she's
looking out for her parents. Then it's just going to
stress the parents out more if she's not going to
help them at all, because then they're going to have
to do it all by themselves.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Well, and these poor parents, and what are they supposed
to do, you know, I mean, I don't have to
go back to work. This is I know, it's terrible, Alison,
thank you, have a good day. Love you. Normally I
wouldn't I'm not sure that I would do this, but
but I would really like to hear from Hadley. Now,
Hadley is ten years old. Hadley, All, Hi, Hadley, Hi, Hi?
(12:59):
Now you are ten years old. Now you you heard
this and you feel a certain kind of way about it. Now,
what did you want to say? Hadley?
Speaker 9 (13:07):
I want to just say that I think it's okay
that she skipped out on this one because this is
their first kid. They they should have gone to the
other ones. And if you're financially not okay and you
have your parents helping you, you shouldn't be able to
have another baby and then have another baby shower.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
You know what. That's exactly right, Catli, that is fantastic.
Now you is your mom there with you? Or did
you just are you listening about yourself? You just called
on your own.
Speaker 9 (13:37):
My dad's here with me.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Can I talk to your dad?
Speaker 9 (13:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Let me talk to your dad.
Speaker 6 (13:43):
Hello, dad.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I just want to I want to give you a
random A plus that is a ten year old that
knows what's up. Random A plus. Fantastic. How happy were
you to hear that? From your ten year old. You
shouldn't have a baby unless you can afford it. How
happy did that make you?
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Oh?
Speaker 8 (14:01):
When I heard that, I was like, weth, how have
anything to worry about them?
Speaker 1 (14:04):
This sounds good to me. That's right. You could start
planning your retirement because your daughter, Hadley knows what's up. Hey,
thank you, guys, have a great day.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Thank you. All right.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
That's the kind of responsible Yeah, that's the kind of
responsibility we need to hear it in today's youth. You
know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (14:21):
It's more responsible than our own girl over there, eat
our own old girl.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Yeah, you remember that, Hadley. You remember that you called
up here and said that, Okay, hey, Rebecca, good morning,
Good morning, Rebecca. You got to follow up a ten
year old who just educated all of us. But what
would you like to say in.
Speaker 8 (14:37):
Kieki scored, I would just like to say that I
fill hardly agree with Tiki. I have actually found myself
in a position. I am forty married for almost twenty years.
I have a fourteen year old son, and I felt
pregnant recently, not expected. But you know, with the economy
in today's age, it's really expensive to raise children, and
(14:59):
I I don't know how anybody can do five children.
That is outrageous. It's ridiculous to think and expect your
parents and your family members to help you raise these
kids nowadays. And so, you know, my husband and I
had to sit down look at our finances and can
we give the life we want to give to our
fourteen year old if we have a second child? Now
(15:21):
I also have medical conditions, and it was like, do
we want to put myself through that just to risk
you know, my life and the baby's life. So, you know,
ultimately we came to the decision that it wasn't for us,
you know, because my health problems and financially, we didn't
think we could give our fourteen year old the life
he you know, deserves to have. So, you know, like
(15:42):
tough decisions do have to be made, but we were
very responsible and knew that, like, it just wasn't in
the future for us. It's not in our plans. And
it's about time that woman was sat down by family
members and she's informed of how stressful this is for
the rest of them.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Well, Recca, I said, that's a heavy situation. And I
you know, I respect you calling and sharing your story. Uh,
you know, I hope your health is okay and uh
and all of that, but yeah, I mean it's uh,
it's it's a responsibility when you pull that thing out.
So uh, Rebecca, thank you.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Good day.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Glad you called. Yeah, I mean, I all I can
say is every time my sister, you know, asked my
parents for something, I'm just thinking, this is my inheritance. Okay,
you know every time. Every time, it's every single time,
it's you know, what do you buy those kids? Now?
Speaker 9 (16:36):
Mom?
Speaker 1 (16:37):
You know that's that's coming out of my piece, you
know what I mean. And that's all I'm thinking.
Speaker 5 (16:41):
You're not wrong when my brothers keep having kids, I
do add it up?
Speaker 7 (16:45):
What's left forlox?
Speaker 1 (16:46):
You know what I'm saying, Like, come on, no, I'm kidding,
but you know, it's whatever my mom is with Polly.
It's just like a total free for all, you know,
and all the stuff that we never got to do.
Like we went to somewhere recently, went to a bowling
alley and Pollie's like I want to play video games
and my mom's just whipping out twenties like it's nothing.
I'm like, where were those when I was ten years old?
You wouldn't give me nothing. And every time I see
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this little girl come back with all these little tickets
and all this stuff, I'm like, you know, I could
retire earlier, but no, they know probably had to play
the little game. So I understand. But I think when
it comes down to Kiki, is that you know, how
many times do you have to do do you make
decisions that affect your family before and I know these
things happen, and what are you supposed to do? But
(17:30):
like maybe address alternatives like birth control or abstinence. I
don't know, I really don't know what the answer is,
But like how many times do you get to have
other people fulfill your obligations before they have a right
to just say I can't help you anymore, Like it's
time for me to retire. It's time for me. I
(17:51):
already did this, you know. If I'm her parents, I'm like,
I already raised you guys, and now I'm raising four
your kids. I can't do five.
Speaker 5 (17:59):
Right, when you start to feel some type of self accountability,
like when do you feel bad?
Speaker 7 (18:03):
You know, when do you apologize?
Speaker 5 (18:05):
When do you get up and try to go get
a job to help out with all the children, you're creating.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I don't understand, all right, well, Kiki close, ladies,
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Turn Matt, Yeah, they talk better than they say. These
(00:44):
are the radio blogs on the Fred Show. So it's
like we're running in our diaries, except we save them aloud.
We call them blogs. Jason Brown's got one go.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
Thank you, dear blogs.
Speaker 3 (00:53):
So this weekend, Mike and I took a long weekend
and we went up to his family's Lake House just
for a little you know, lake time, little get away.
And it's about two and a half hours away. And
so Thursday we left after the show so that you know,
we could beat rush hour get up.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
There in time. But blah blah.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
So I go home, get everything in the car, get
the dogs in the car. We're all picked up or
ready to go. I'm about twenty minutes away from his parents'
house when I remember I forgot my bag of stuff,
which has everything I need in it. It has my laptop,
it has my charger, it has my phone chargers, it
has my medicine, it has everything. I had my clothes
(01:35):
bag because we put our clothes in the same bag,
but I didn't have my bag of stuff. And when
I tell you, I have never been so mad. I've
been this mad, but I've never been so mad at myself,
Like I could not blame anybody but myself for this occurrence. Okay,
(01:57):
so I just start like I'm dry, and Mike's turn around,
We'll go back. I was like, no, the girls, I've
been in the car for almost three hours at this point,
you are not going to ruin your first day of vacation.
Because I'm an idiot. Right, So I'm like I'm driving.
I drove all the way to his parents' house, dropped
him and the dogs off.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
And I was like, Okay, I'm gonna do it, like I've.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
Been up since three am, but we're gonna make the
three hour drive.
Speaker 2 (02:20):
Back and then three hour day home.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yes.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
So then I get there and his mom's already got
her purse in her hand. She's like, I'm going with you.
You've been up too late, too long, like you got
up so early this morning, like I'm driving you, we
can switch off like whatever. I was like, please, like
let me be by myself. I'm so mad, Like I'm
like in tears. I'm just so mad at myself.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
And like nine hours of driving total in yes.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
So literally she drove us back here, got my stuff,
walked right in the kitchen, grabbed my bag, got right
back in the car.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
And three hours back.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Literally nine hours in the car to and from Michigan
three times for.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Two Was there no other way?
Speaker 3 (02:59):
There was no other I was trying, like, you know,
my brain is like immediately problem solving, right, so I'm
going through like a rolodex in my brain, like okay,
can I get a temporary prescription. Can I log into
another computer?
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Can I like do this?
Speaker 3 (03:11):
And I could not think of a way where all
outcomes could reach where it needed to be. So I
was like, I got to there's no other there's no
other option.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Besides the medicine.
Speaker 4 (03:21):
I don't really think you needed much else my personal opinion,
like you would never but you couldn't have had a
dead phone and a no lesson.
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Oh yeah, no, I definitely could have.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
There was I just was planning to do a lot
of stuff from the lake House that I needed to do,
so I need.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Maybe it was maybe maybe they maybe the work gods
were like, no, it's okay, the boss doesn't need to
email you on Saturday night to make a PowerPoint presentation.
Like it's maybe that was the you know, the vacation
god saying, well, now he has no choice but to relax.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, So like I brought the computer back do I
need to do?
Speaker 3 (03:55):
But then I did make like a conscious effort to
disconnect like all day Saturday and didn't touch anything Sunday
until Sunday night.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
I like was disconnected. So you know, I'm trying.
Speaker 3 (04:05):
But I was like, wow, I am so dumb.
Speaker 5 (04:08):
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leaving it, think bad, honey. He will he will leave,
will leave that leaving it So Jason, I.
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You, man, Jason can't go anywhere with that. That two
thousand and six and I rely on.
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But I know, yeah, nine hours of driving, bro, I
was I was exhausted.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
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Speaker 3 (04:39):
For particularly I bond her culverts on the way back.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I was like, dinner's on me. What do you want?
She's like, I want cheesekirts. I'm like that, let's go.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Yeah, yes, man, I want have taken you to a
pawnshop and got you a new computer. I would have
taken you to Target and got you into a cord
and told you I don't know what's up with the medicine,
but you're gonna be a little nuts this weekend. So yeah,
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(05:28):
present your case?
Speaker 5 (05:29):
All right, let's get into the courtroom. The gavel has
been hit, it says Judge Kiki. Am I wrong for
skipping my sister's baby shower?
Speaker 6 (05:37):
So?
Speaker 5 (05:37):
My younger sister is pregnant with her fifth child by
her second husband, and she's living back at my parents' house.
Her ex is a deadbeat, her current husband can't hold
a job, and my parents have basically been carrying her
financially for years.
Speaker 7 (05:53):
We're talking school.
Speaker 5 (05:54):
Fees, medical bills, lawyer bills, you name it. Now she's
having another baby and expects yet another baby shower. My
mom is upset that I won't help decorate or hosts
like I've done in the past, but honestly, I feel
like going would just be me co signing her irresponsible choices.
My parents are supposed to be enjoying retirement, not raising
(06:17):
her kids and paying her bills.
Speaker 7 (06:20):
I love my niece and nephews. But enough is enough.
Speaker 5 (06:23):
Someone in the family has to draw the line, and
it looks like that person is me. So am I
a jerk for refusing to go to the baby shower?
Speaker 1 (06:32):
First of all? How many? How many baby showers?
Speaker 6 (06:34):
Do you know?
Speaker 1 (06:34):
How many crib?
Speaker 5 (06:35):
Mean?
Speaker 1 (06:35):
I guess you need another crib because you go? But
I mean, don't you have enough stuff by now?
Speaker 7 (06:39):
I would think so, like what happened to baby number four?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Stuff?
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Hey? How about baby number one? Baby number one's in college? Now,
you know? Yes, what do you think? Keki?
Speaker 7 (06:49):
Well, you know y'all.
Speaker 5 (06:50):
Get mad at me when I don't have sympathy for
people who make terrible decisions in life. WILL take all
the smoke on this one because I do not think
she is wrong. At some point, when you are not
financially where you need to be, you need to close
your legs because I let me tell you something, when
my money is funny, I don't even have the urge
to do what you do to make babies like I
(07:11):
don't even come one talk to nobody. I'm not in
a joyful spirit. You know you go through a hard time.
I understand that you went through a bad divorce. I
understand that it's okay to move back. Sometimes you have
a husband, Okay, somebody need to go.
Speaker 7 (07:29):
To work and keep a job. And then if you
can't keep a job.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
And you can't go to work, then you need to
stop having children because who's paying for this? And then
the poor parents? You know, and I have. I come
from a family of my sister. You know, she loves
her grandchildren down she'll do anything for her grandchildren. But
if I was to ever see one of my siblings
taking advantage of her in her retirement, I'm absolutely gonna
speak up. You should it's not the pay. It's not
(07:52):
our parents' responsibility to raise your children. They loud, but
you you know it's that's fan, it's not.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
Yeah, maybe she should have used some of that money
she borrowed from her parents and gotten some birth control.
Speaker 7 (08:05):
Hello, I mean that's responsible, that's real.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
Listen. I've always said this too, like if you are
not in a good place, like I think having a
child maybe.
Speaker 7 (08:14):
Isn't the best decision we're making right now.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Is always saying that, she's always she always walking around saying, hey,
you you don't look like you're in a spot for this.
Speaker 7 (08:24):
As a mother.
Speaker 4 (08:25):
I can tell you firsthand. It is expensive, it is hard,
It is everything you can think of. Okay, it is beautiful,
but it is hard. And I also feel like maybe
she should work on picking her man correctly, Like I
think that's another thing we gotta.
Speaker 7 (08:35):
Work out with this girl.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
Hello. You guys are the journey though eight five five
five nine one three five. You have to call it
today because the text is down because we've got to
pay the bill. I guess, but we call now.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
I don't.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
I don't think that's unfair. I really don't. And I
know that accidents happened. I realize that it's possible, very
possible to have a kid when you're not when you're
as you would say, when your money is funny mm hmm.
But I mean, when we're on the fifth one. Come on,
what point do we need to take responsibility for ourselves?
It was probably four kids ago, you know, when we're
not having our parents pay our bills. What is this
(09:09):
dude doing who's knocking you up? Why is he not
doing this? I mean, I feel terrible for these kids, honestly,
because there's no accountability here, you know, I'm sure their
quality of life is affected by the fact that that
the resources aren't there, and now you got grandma and
grandpa having to pay for all this, and then I guess,
you know, another baby shower. So we're it's just more
(09:30):
people enabling. I'm with you, Kiki, I'm sorry, but you know,
you can call up here and you can say what
you want, but this stuff does happen, but it doesn't
happen five times.
Speaker 7 (09:39):
Right, And you're at home with our parents.
Speaker 5 (09:42):
They have worked hard to enjoy their retirement and I'm
sure they love having the kids there, but they should
not be taken on the financial burden of raising your children.
You know, they should be enjoying themselves, going on vacations,
going you know, to travel and do things, not raising
your paying for school fees and oh my goodness, it
(10:02):
just seems like you're just irresponsible. And everybody in the
family is like enabling this because they keep having parties
for these kids.
Speaker 7 (10:09):
That you keep bringing it to the family financially supporting.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
And to your point earlier, Kiki, there are two adults
involved here, right right, So if one needs to stay
and raise the kids, understandable, because now you've got five
of them, But well, what's the other person doing, Like
and I mean clearly they're good at making babies. So
and where are his parents? Where are you're in laws?
Maybe you stay over their house a couple of months. Yeah, Alison,
(10:37):
good morning, Alison. There, Hi, Hey, Alison Keky's court. So
just to recap here, this woman is on you know,
working on child number five. Well, she already worked on it.
It's already done, it was worked on, it's on the way.
There's another baby shower, another baby shower, except this woman
who who is reaching out to judge Kinky is like,
(10:59):
I don't think I should have to support this because
my parents support this whole family, we've all been supporting this.
What do you think.
Speaker 6 (11:08):
I completely agree that it's irresponsible for her to continue
to have children, but I also think that once that
child is born and grows up, they might feel some
type of way about the sister not attending her baby
shower and she went to all the other kids' baby showers.
Speaker 8 (11:26):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 7 (11:27):
My niece nephew type get that.
Speaker 6 (11:30):
Yeah, yeah, because if my aunt didn't go to mind,
but once all my.
Speaker 8 (11:34):
Other siblings, I'd be like, you know who kind of
stringled out?
Speaker 1 (11:38):
I hear what you're saying. Alison, but almost nobody who
is at my mom's baby shower for me, it is
still in the picture. Dad's not even in the picture.
So I mean she has she has the right to
be frustrated by this. I agree. I guess that the
sentiment of this child coming and and you sort of
not celebrating that. At the same time, though, I can
(12:00):
understand why everybody in the family is exasperated. It's like,
especially when it's her parents having to pay for all this,
and I guess in some ways the rest of the
family too is supplementing this behavior. And again, I'll say
it again, I know that this stuff just happens sometimes,
but how many times has it happened and you're not
able to be responsible about it and provide for it
(12:20):
before you come up with another way?
Speaker 6 (12:24):
Yeah, that is true, But then I also think she's
looking out for her parents. Then it's just going to
stress the parents out more if she's not going to
help them at all, because then they're going to have
to do it all by themselves.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Well, and these poor parents, and what are they supposed
to do, you know, I mean, I don't have to
go back to work. This is I know, it's terrible, Alison,
thank you, have a good day. Love you. Normally I
wouldn't I'm not sure that I would do this, but
but I would really like to hear from Hadley. Now,
Hadley is ten years old. Hadley, All, Hi, Hadley, Hi, Hi?
(12:59):
Now you are ten years old. Now you you heard
this and you feel a certain kind of way about it. Now,
what did you want to say? Hadley?
Speaker 9 (13:07):
I want to just say that I think it's okay
that she skipped out on this one because this is
their first kid. They they should have gone to the
other ones. And if you're financially not okay and you
have your parents helping you, you shouldn't be able to
have another baby and then have another baby shower.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
You know what. That's exactly right, Catli, that is fantastic.
Now you is your mom there with you? Or did
you just are you listening about yourself? You just called
on your own.
Speaker 9 (13:37):
My dad's here with me.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Can I talk to your dad?
Speaker 9 (13:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (13:42):
Let me talk to your dad.
Speaker 6 (13:43):
Hello, dad.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
I just want to I want to give you a
random A plus that is a ten year old that
knows what's up. Random A plus. Fantastic. How happy were
you to hear that? From your ten year old. You
shouldn't have a baby unless you can afford it. How
happy did that make you?
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Oh?
Speaker 8 (14:01):
When I heard that, I was like, weth, how have
anything to worry about them?
Speaker 1 (14:04):
This sounds good to me. That's right. You could start
planning your retirement because your daughter, Hadley knows what's up. Hey,
thank you, guys, have a great day.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Thank you. All right.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
That's the kind of responsible Yeah, that's the kind of
responsibility we need to hear it in today's youth. You
know what I mean.
Speaker 4 (14:21):
It's more responsible than our own girl over there, eat
our own old girl.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Yeah, you remember that, Hadley. You remember that you called
up here and said that, Okay, hey, Rebecca, good morning,
Good morning, Rebecca. You got to follow up a ten
year old who just educated all of us. But what
would you like to say in.
Speaker 8 (14:37):
Kieki scored, I would just like to say that I
fill hardly agree with Tiki. I have actually found myself
in a position. I am forty married for almost twenty years.
I have a fourteen year old son, and I felt
pregnant recently, not expected. But you know, with the economy
in today's age, it's really expensive to raise children, and
(14:59):
I I don't know how anybody can do five children.
That is outrageous. It's ridiculous to think and expect your
parents and your family members to help you raise these
kids nowadays. And so, you know, my husband and I
had to sit down look at our finances and can
we give the life we want to give to our
fourteen year old if we have a second child? Now
(15:21):
I also have medical conditions, and it was like, do
we want to put myself through that just to risk
you know, my life and the baby's life. So, you know,
ultimately we came to the decision that it wasn't for us,
you know, because my health problems and financially, we didn't
think we could give our fourteen year old the life
he you know, deserves to have. So, you know, like
(15:42):
tough decisions do have to be made, but we were
very responsible and knew that, like, it just wasn't in
the future for us. It's not in our plans. And
it's about time that woman was sat down by family
members and she's informed of how stressful this is for
the rest of them.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Well, Recca, I said, that's a heavy situation. And I
you know, I respect you calling and sharing your story. Uh,
you know, I hope your health is okay and uh
and all of that, but yeah, I mean it's uh,
it's it's a responsibility when you pull that thing out.
So uh, Rebecca, thank you.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Good day.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Glad you called. Yeah, I mean, I all I can
say is every time my sister, you know, asked my
parents for something, I'm just thinking, this is my inheritance. Okay,
you know every time. Every time, it's every single time,
it's you know, what do you buy those kids? Now?
Speaker 9 (16:36):
Mom?
Speaker 1 (16:37):
You know that's that's coming out of my piece, you
know what I mean. And that's all I'm thinking.
Speaker 5 (16:41):
You're not wrong when my brothers keep having kids, I
do add it up?
Speaker 7 (16:45):
What's left forlox?
Speaker 1 (16:46):
You know what I'm saying, Like, come on, no, I'm kidding,
but you know, it's whatever my mom is with Polly.
It's just like a total free for all, you know,
and all the stuff that we never got to do.
Like we went to somewhere recently, went to a bowling
alley and Pollie's like I want to play video games
and my mom's just whipping out twenties like it's nothing.
I'm like, where were those when I was ten years old?
You wouldn't give me nothing. And every time I see
(17:08):
this little girl come back with all these little tickets
and all this stuff, I'm like, you know, I could
retire earlier, but no, they know probably had to play
the little game. So I understand. But I think when
it comes down to Kiki, is that you know, how
many times do you have to do do you make
decisions that affect your family before and I know these
things happen, and what are you supposed to do? But
(17:30):
like maybe address alternatives like birth control or abstinence. I
don't know, I really don't know what the answer is,
But like how many times do you get to have
other people fulfill your obligations before they have a right
to just say I can't help you anymore, Like it's
time for me to retire. It's time for me. I
(17:51):
already did this, you know. If I'm her parents, I'm like,
I already raised you guys, and now I'm raising four
your kids. I can't do five.
Speaker 5 (17:59):
Right, when you start to feel some type of self accountability,
like when do you feel bad?
Speaker 7 (18:03):
You know, when do you apologize?
Speaker 5 (18:05):
When do you get up and try to go get
a job to help out with all the children, you're creating.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
I don't understand, all right, well, Kiki close, ladies,
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