September 23, 2025 • 39 mins
Fred and the crew give a motivational speech to a listener who is about to get induced for labor! Plus, we debate relationship advice on an all new Stay Or Go!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
A text eight five five five nine one three five
Fred my sister, who is a huge Fred show supporter. Okay,
so that I feel like we're running for office or
something like we're probably if you're a big supporter of
the show, like we're running for mayor or something collectively,
which that would be just a disaster. I think we'd win, Honestly,
I think we could easily win. But can you imagine
(00:20):
if all of us had to come together to make
every decision collectively, no one of us can run and win.
And I think it's probably Paulina. Yes, I'll tell you what.
You can be the older men, the city council woman,
and then I'll be the mayor, and then we'll we'll
attempt to work together on things.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
That's gonna be a tough job.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Yeah, of us.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Yeah, that's the worst job ever. I have zero I
believe I could win, Actually I do. Sorry, Sorry, Mayor Johnson.
I believe I could be the mayor of I believe
I could win.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Wow, I think I had the name recognition.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Yes, of course you do.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
I think in New City, all you have to do
is get you don't You only have to win the
runoff of the runoff of the runoff. So I think
the name recognition alone would I'd have to quit my job. Yeah,
I don't do that, but I I think enough people
would see on the ballot and be like this guy,
you know, may and then maybe it's possible.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
I would never do it. I don't want to do it.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
And by the way, that's not because I'm qualified, because
i'd be a good editor, because I should. I just
think that, you know, you know, we talk enough and
we say fred enough. I think I could probably, I
think I could win. I think I really could. Yeah, no,
I'm not knowing. I shouldn't. It's a terrible job. Being
a politician is an awful job. But but that's none
of this matter, because we could change be the change
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you want to see. Oh that's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
It doesn't matter.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Like you you have to pick a party and then
you know I'm I'm and then immediately I'm headed by
half of the people. The only way I would do
it is I could start my own party of like
people that makes like the people that make sense. It'd
be the people that make sense party. It would be
like reasonably be the reasonable people party. It would be
can we just be reasonable? That's all I'm asking for.
Can we just can you? Can you stop being a
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holes on both sides and just be reasonable party the
non a whole party.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
That would be yeah, exactly that.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
None of this matters though, because the text says, my
sister is a huge Fred Show supporter, is having a
baby today. She's being induced this morning and could use
your motivational vibes.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Can you shout around? Her name is Jackie?
Speaker 1 (02:13):
You want you want us to motivate you as you
go into the room and they and they make the
baby come out of you, and you you want us
to mote it.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Because they're inducing for Jason. Yeah, I know that. Yeah,
and I know that.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
It's just a yeah, you see.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
You see what you're puzzled on your face?
Speaker 4 (02:31):
Was a gracious hit me because that's exactly what happens.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
I just yeah, makes the baby come out of you.
That's that's what an induction is.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Yeah, no, I does what happens.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
But that's just a startling phrase to me.
Speaker 5 (02:41):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Yeah, they're gonna give her potosin baby come out there,
and then the baby comes out. It could be it
could be an hour, it could be nineteen hours.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
When you see doctor Mike walk in with that cape.
Speaker 6 (02:54):
But Harry Potter cape and he's ready to go with
the gloves hes.
Speaker 5 (02:56):
Yeah, he was a cape and he says, baby's coming
right now.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Also, he doesn't with the gloves on until it's time.
Oh no, it's go time. When the gloves come on.
You't even see him until it's go time. This smoke, yeah,
and this music and then this music you know plays Hello, ideas.
You can do this, Jackie, you can do this girl. Yeah,
it's not gonna take a long time. It's not gonna
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take it a long t It's not gonna hurt at all.
And everything's gonna look normal in three to six months afterwards,
gonna look like.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
It did before.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
It's gonna look totally norm right, even it might even
look better better, right right, I know that's right.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
You're the only one has had a baby and I
get tested.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
That's true. Never looked better, It never looks better.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
How long does it take to go back to normal?
Three to six months?
Speaker 7 (03:47):
You know, ask your professional for that girl, that's your obi.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Everybody's different.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I've never gotten to the end of the Alan Parsons project.
Eye in the Sky, but we get down with the guitar,
don't we No, Because normally Michael Jordan's been introduced by now.
They're already playing the games. Scottie Pippens, Dennis Robbins already
out there, we're already doing him.
Speaker 6 (04:07):
All right.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
You got this, Okay, Jackie, you got this? Yes, everything
look great. Everything's gonna be great. Baby's gonna be healthy. Notice,
I'd go right to what the huhas gonna look like
in three to six months, That's right.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
I assume that.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
The baby's going to be perfectly outfread show is course
friends the biggest stories of the day. I hope that
you are so fired up now as a friend show supporter, yep,
that'd be the song on stage I would use when
I was on stage, you know when.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
They bring me out every time.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
And then of course Alan Parsons Project would say they
would like send me a season assists to be like,
we don't agree with you, you reasonable person. Party, you know,
a whole party, you know, going to Facebook and bitching party.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
That's what I would be.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
I'd be the no Facebook having party.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Yeah No.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I made actually a city council a city councilman friend
of mine. I made him very angry by I don't
really believe this. I was just talking, but I told
him I think I could win the mayor RaSE.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
He got so mad. Oh no, no, you wouldn't know the
first thing. You don't know anything you could know.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
I'm like, he was just mad because I mean, you know,
I think there are people that would be dumb enough
to see a name they know and go oker, you know,
and yeah, that's what I'm saying. That's what I mean.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
So I feel like it's kind of a learn on
the job sort of thing, like you don't get like
trained to be mad.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Clearly not clearly he's seen you know, we're still learning
in some cases. Yeah that's fat and we may never
learn in other cases. It depends where you are. But no, yeah, no,
I think. But he was so mad at me. Oh
you think you think? No, I don't, Actually I don't.
I am not qualified. Nobody should vote for me. I
don't know what I'm doing, but I just think that
there are enough people out there who might recognize the
name to go, really that guy, okay, and then boom
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and then I have to do it for what three
to six years or however long you have to do
it for I don't even know how long the job
I guess anyway, No, it's not happening all right, headlines
biggest stories today. I hope that was uh. I hope
that was what you were looking for. Jackie's sister. I
hope that was the kind of inspiration that you needed
to go into the day.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
She wanted you to talk about her. Hu huh.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
She did well, and then I was successful. Yeah, I did.
I always deliver, kidd me.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I'll tell you.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
What's weird though, is that I have friends who have
like ten year olds and we've done this for them
when they were walking around the hospital trying to get
the baby to fall out, and now the kid is
like going to high school, and it's like, remember, hey,
you're Fred, uncle Fred. Remember when you talked about me
when I was like, oh god, Like you're a grown
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you're a grown woman. Like we've been doing this that long.
I mean it's a good thing, right, Like say, that's
what you want. Like when you get into the radio business,
you know, the media business, you want to hang around
for a long time. But then you realize, like, man,
it's been a long time. Yeah, oh boy, Jimmy Kimmel's
back guys, which it didn't take long. I kind of
saw this coming, But Jimmy Kimmel said to return to
(06:57):
ABC tonight after being suspended from making controversial comments about
conservative activist Charlie Kirk's death. Kimmel had falsely claimed that
Kirk's alleged killer was associated with the MAGA movement, despite
authorities clarifying that the suspect may have had left wing views.
At least that's the way that some people characterize what
happened here. In response to ABC temporarily pulled Jimmy Kimmelive
(07:18):
from the air, replacing it with other programming, Kimmel has
negotiated his return, but will refuse, has refused and will
not apologize for his remarks. There are still thirty eight
ABC affiliates owned by Sinclair Broadcast Group that have announced
they will not air the upcoming episode, citing the need
for an apology and a donation to Turning Point USA,
the organization founded by Kirk. So he's back tonight, and
(07:43):
I had a feeling this would happen, to be honest
with you, because I don't think it was necessarily the
best look for ABC and Disney to say, Okay, we're
going to be influenced here, potentially influenced by the government. Now,
if they had said we don't like what you said,
you're an employee of ours. We don't like what you said,
(08:04):
We're going to fire you. Now, that's bad for people.
And by the way, I'm coming from the perspective of
someone who talks for money for a company, right, like,
we don't own this place. I've learned this year. A
lot of people think a lot of people think I
own the place. A lot of people think I own
the show. A lot of people think I write the checks.
A lot of people think I have any power to
make any executive decision around here.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
I have none of that. I do none of that.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
I have an employee, just like everybody else in this room.
That being said, it's a scary thing if you're in
the broadcasting world to think that I could share my
opinion short of alienating an advertiser or the company, or
saying something hateful or spiteful or inaccurate. It's just my
opinion about something, especially in a comedic sense. It's almost
scary to think that, you know that some government influence
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could say we don't like that he said that, fire him.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
And then we get fired. Like that's not great.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Now the company deemed that what I said was inappropriate, well,
then I guess they can fire me, and that sucks.
But I signed a contract that we all sign a
contract that says that they can do that.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
And it's a shame.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
But I guess for me, it's just how about we
let the viewers and the listeners decide whether you think
that the thing that was said was inappropriate, Like, hey,
you might be listening now and saying what Jimmy Kimmel
said was abhorrent. He never should have said that. It
wasn't funny and it was inaccurate. Well then don't watch.
Then don't watch ever again, you know. And by the way,
this is not a new thought from me. You know, people,
every now and again, we'll come. We'll text up your eye,
(09:22):
you know, like Fred sucks and you know so and
so sucks and these comments. Okay, well, I'm sorry that
you feel that way. That's not our intent, but you know, hey,
you can do that all day or if you must.
And I don't want this, but if you must, and
don't listen anymore, and then maybe we'll get fired because
the ratings will be bad. I don't know, like that
isn't that Ultimately don't we all decide as consumers what
we're willing to consume and what we're not. So I
(09:44):
guess I don't know. And it's murky because it depends
who you ask about this.
Speaker 7 (09:48):
Yeah, the free speech line seem I don't understand the rules.
It seems like confusing to me. I think a lot
of people also don't realize that it's not just ABC,
it's not just Disney and you touched on this, but
like Sinclair on the smaller markets are running that show,
and so that's the issue is like they were going
to lose advertisers, YadA, YadA. So it's not just as
(10:08):
black as what and white as people thought it was.
But yeah, I don't understand the guidelines for free speech.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
I'm confused a little bit. Yeah, I need to go
a playbook or something.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
At this point, Well, this was complicated because they're you
know again, it's political, right, It depends who you If
you talk to two people who have two different political viewpoints,
they'll describe this whole thing to you differently. And you
know it's well, the government was saying that he needs
to be fired. Well it did seem like the government
was you know, FCC was involving them, say hey, we're
(10:38):
gonna we're gonna eliminate this sort of smut or whatever
the terminology was from the airwaves. It did seem that way.
But then on the flip side, it's like, you know,
but but they don't have the right to do that,
and I don't.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
I don't think they should, right.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
I think, I think, short of something that's obscene, and
there are guidelines and regulations about this, but I don't
necessarily think that, you know, the government should be able
to come in and start firing shows or or dictating
who's on the air and who's not. Again, I think
it should be up to the audience to decide what
you want to listen to and what you don't. And
that's not a political it's an a political statement. That's
I think that's the easiest way to handle this again,
(11:11):
short of misinformation propagandu you know, there are protections in
place already for things that we can and can't say,
So maybe we leave it there exactly, But then you've
got you know, people saying, well, Disney can firement if
they want to, they can, and then they could say, well,
advertisers of advertisers don't like it, and then you can say, well,
if individual broadcast companies, if they don't want to air
the show, they don't have to.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
Well they don't. That's true.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
It's just there are a lot of different angles here,
and it really depends, you know, you know, from what
perspective you view it.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
It's just for me at the in.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
In summation, in conclusion, as a dude who talks for
a living, I got a little scared.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
I got a little worried.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
And you know, I don't know, and we don't say
like crazy things on this show. In fact, like the
design of the show is not to be that way,
is to sort of be the antithesis of all of
that and of all of that because there's so many
places you can go for the polarity.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
But I don't know, it's just like what are we
doing here?
Speaker 5 (12:05):
Right?
Speaker 8 (12:06):
And the more you talk, you can't please everybody, and
we have to be okay with not being pleased. If
I'm not being pleased somewhere there are other options.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Right, And you know, again it appears what he said
may not have been totally accurate, and that's not great. Again,
and then don't watch the show if you don't like
it or whatever. I guess I know business, Yeah, because
you do have power in that. You could just say
I'm not going to support that anymore and then don't.
And I'm not saying you shouldn't speak up if you
think that someone said something you don't agree with. But
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as far as like, we're firing people now and we're
taking people off the air, and I don't know it
just needs.
Speaker 7 (12:40):
To stop wanting big changes to happen just because of
their own personal preferences. I think we all need to
individually support and not support who we would like to
and who we would not, and stop trying to have
others join us.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
The Detroit Lions have defeated the Baltimore Ravens.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Do hear that?
Speaker 3 (12:56):
Monday night football? Yeah, we're not doing it anymore.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
You're making your own picture now, Okay, even though I
think you I don't think you would have pick picked it.
I don't think you would have pickn I don't think
you would have What's wrong, I was gonna be going
to be mayor and I'm trying not to get canceled,
and I'm picking stuff you would have picked the Ravens anyway,
because you don't pick the Lions for some reason, even
though your friend's right there.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
No, the only time I.
Speaker 4 (13:15):
Don't pick the Lions is when they're playing the Bears, right,
and normally picked you tell.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Me anyway they won and you didn't pick it that
I don't think like you had the Ravens.
Speaker 7 (13:26):
And she told me, I want them to win for
you because on a personal level, but I don't think
that's going to happen, and I have to make the pick.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
That's correct. That's how I feel.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
Take that. Yeah, all right, which is not as good
as I thought.
Speaker 9 (13:43):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Gabrielle has intensified into a Category four storm, which is
east of Bermuda. Two more potential tropical systems in near by,
one year the Caribbean and another further east, could develop
later this week. The storms are not an immediate threat
to land, but the area of activity the Leeward Islands
in Bahamas is the wild card, with the future US
impact possible if atmospheric conditions align.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
You're a weather guy, Jason, Yes, did it all makes
sense to you?
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (14:09):
Atmosphere, you know, we don't want them.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Forecast indicate that Bermuda could experience rain, gusty winds, and
large swells from the storm. The hurricane will also generate
rough seas and dangerous rip currents along much of the
US East Coast from North Carolina, New England through midweek.
A teenager is in custody for a twenty twenty three
cyber attack on MGM resort casinos. And in fact, I
think we had to go there, weren't we? Yes, the
(14:32):
festival was right around this time, and it was a
complete disaster.
Speaker 4 (14:35):
Yeah, like none of the machines were nothing more cards
where the Wi Fi was down.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
Like nothing works. Gosh.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
But anyway, as a teenager who did this and is
in custody reportedly cause at least one hundred million dollars
in losses. The hackers gain access by tricking MGM's IT
team into resetting a password and then disabled slaw machines,
hotel key cards, employee emails, and booking systems. Jason, were
you working there, freelance guy?
Speaker 3 (15:01):
Did you fall?
Speaker 1 (15:02):
With the facts of the email schemes and what happened.
They also access some customers personal data, including driver's licenses
and social security numbers. The team turned himself in last
week and could be tried as an adult on charges
including extortion, identity theft, and computer related crimes. I don't
know a lot about this, but I feel like and
I'm not sure how sophisticated this was, but maybe maybe
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we hire the team. Maybe we hire the team to
work at MGM, and then then maybe you know, this
sounds like a pretty smart group of kids. You know,
you're not supposed to be sealing people's identities and information. Again,
I don't know the full extensive but I know what
I just read to you, But I don't know, you know,
I know that there are companies I think Apple's, won
maybe Google, where if you can hack them and you
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can identify to them how you did it, they'll pay you.
You know, so you find a whole and then I've
read about this before because they don't want you to
hack them. They because if all you want is money,
then they'll they'll say, thank you for telling us where
the whole was. Here's money, and now we'll fix the whole.
To try this for the wedding flot let's do it.
Speaker 3 (16:01):
Yeah, you guys are going to be neckers now.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Well, they need to get this wedding done.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
Yeah, Well, then buy a t shirt, just like I did.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Yeah, we'm supporting.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Yeah no, Kiki, Yeah, that's how you do it. Don't
become hackers. I don't need you guys going to jail
or being canceled for any reason. Nearly ninety percent of
daily life runs on autopilot, according to a new study.
Research is found that eighty eight percent of what we
do every day happens out of habit. Two thirds of
our actions triggered automatically by our surroundings. Nearly half of
these habits still match our intentions, meaning they help us
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reach goals without much thought. Experts say that this explains
why change is hard routines are deeply ingrained, but also
why building good habits works best when we set up
cues in our environment to trigger them. It's a little
scary if you think about it, But I mean, if
I don't like stop and actually am conscious for a
second the process of getting up every day and getting
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ready and coming to work and doing it and sitting here,
I don't. It's about eight thirty before I realize what
I've done, and I've done a whole radio show.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
By that point.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
It's just automatic, you know, You get up, you take
a shoer. You do those things and whatever you drive
and then you drive to work. You're in a car,
you're in a large object. You move that object. They
weighed thousands of pounds, and like I wasn't I mean,
I was paying attention right obviously, because but I also
wasn't fully conscious for that because it's automatic. So you
think about like your routines and stuff. It's a little
bit scary. You're like half awake doing all this stuff.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
It'll be like four o'clock and I'll be like, what
did I What happened today?
Speaker 1 (17:28):
Right? Because you just get up and you just know
what to do. It's like you just I gotta do
this and that and the other thing. And Americans are
rethinking their subscriptions is rising costs to make them harder
to justify. The average person has one hundred and twenty
dollars in unused services every year, and new survey shows
at households have trimmed their average from just over four
(17:49):
subscriptions last year to fewer than three and twenty twenty five,
with spending dropping slightly to about thirty seven bucks a month.
Streaming services and food delivery perks are the first to
go as price hikes and password cracked down to push
many to cancel or turn to piracy. I guess using
other people's stuff, but on average one hundred and twenty
bucks a year and unused subscriptions, so you gotta think
(18:09):
about that.
Speaker 3 (18:10):
Yeah, that's probably true.
Speaker 4 (18:11):
I think I have like multiple, like Netflix subscriptions or
something like.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
I signed up and then I forgot. This is why
you're broke. You don't pay a mortgage, but you're broke.
It's because you have seven Netflix subscriptions. Probably also of
the worst memory.
Speaker 4 (18:23):
So I feel like I signed up for stuff and
then I forget, and then as I signed up again
and now I'm paying again.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
This is my pro tip for you, and this might
be the most valuable thing I've said in forty two
minutes today, is is go like, if you have a
credit card, go look at the like look it up
on the website the benefits of your credit card, because
I don't really I hadn't really done this for a
while and then I went looked At'm like, wait a minute,
I can get door Dash like my credit card. I
can get door Dash monthly for free if I get
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the subscription thing and I put it on my credit
card to take it off TSA pre check free. I
think clear is.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
A bunch of stuff is free. There's like Lululemon credit
on one of them. There's all stuff you got Uber
credit per month on it. I didn't know about any
of this because they don't. They don't really tell you.
It's almost like they don't really want you to know.
But if you go like, I'm like, well, I can
get Disney Plus for free, you know, which is why
I didn't.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
Have to cancel it.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Can I see what kind of card do you have?
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (19:13):
No, you can't. It's it's a uh, it's a it's
a it's a gift card.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
Show is on, it's stay or go?
Speaker 9 (19:22):
All right?
Speaker 1 (19:23):
Max is here, turning to a likely source for advice. Hi, Max,
how you doing?
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Hey?
Speaker 3 (19:31):
Hey, I'm all right? How are you guys?
Speaker 1 (19:33):
Oh my gosh, Max here, we are to help you,
so stairego. You can hit us up fred shirt radio
dot com, you can d m us and all the
different socials which Max did. What's going on with your
with your girlfriend?
Speaker 10 (19:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (19:47):
I appreciate your guys's help.
Speaker 5 (19:49):
And I know it's gonna sound harsh what I'm about
to say so just you know, no no judging.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
So, if this is about Jimmy Kimble, hang up. If
this is about Jimmy Kimmel, hangup, I'm not I'm not
doing it. Max. I'm not doing it with you. Max,
I'm not doing it with you. I just want to
be clearing me. Okay, good, all right, because I'm not
doing it.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
Okay, No, no, you don't need to.
Speaker 5 (20:09):
It's not about that.
Speaker 3 (20:09):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (20:11):
So I started dating a girl about five six months ago,
and I really like her. I'm not going to say
her name just out of you know, respect for her privacy.
But there's one issue I'm running into over and over again,
and that is actually her health.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
I don't know how to say. Okay, she has she
has severe.
Speaker 5 (20:32):
I b s okay, okay, and that I don't mean
to laugh. But it affects pretty much every aspect of
her life, and now it's kind of affecting mine since
we've been together all these Now.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Why would you call my name out?
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Why would you do that?
Speaker 2 (20:50):
I was looking at Jason, who was laughing at this
because I'm signing.
Speaker 3 (21:01):
Kicking out of and then she calls him out. Okay,
I think it's same. Well, I was gonna say, Jason,
Jason diagnosed has this issue. Okay, So so she.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
I don't even know how to appropriately describe i bs'.
So she needs to access a bathroom regularly needs And
this is this is not a fun thing. And I
feel bad for anybody who encounters a Kiki and Jason. Okay,
so she has this issue, and you know that, So
why is this a problem for you?
Speaker 3 (21:33):
Exactly just like you said, it's not fun.
Speaker 5 (21:35):
She's the bathroom everywhere we go, everywhere we go, every
place we go, She's got to figure out where's the
closest bathroom.
Speaker 3 (21:41):
Every place we eat.
Speaker 5 (21:42):
You've got to know the menu ahead of time, make
sure she can eat something there. And there's just a
lot of places we can't go together, like we can't
I can't take her to whatever theme park festival, so
she because of the bathroom situation, and we can't travel
so many places, and so it's just becoming a lot.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
I don't know, as the months go on, and I
and I feel bad.
Speaker 5 (22:05):
I really like her, but you know, I know there's obviously,
like there's no cure for IBS. You know, the only
things you can do to prevent flare.
Speaker 3 (22:15):
Ups, And I just you know, there's a lot.
Speaker 5 (22:19):
That comes with it, and I didn't expect it and
it would be the rest of my life and I
just don't know, like I.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
Don't know if I'm I'm not okay, so far enough?
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Yeah no, So I'm sorry to interrupt you with maxim.
So you're your girlfriend has this this condition that that's
limiting to her lifestyle in a lot of ways. Not
people live with this and and they deal with it.
But you're saying that for you, the limitations may sort
of you are already are a burden to you or
may forever be a burden to you. I hate to
(22:48):
use the word burden, but you know, for whatever reason,
for various reasons, rather you think it's holding you back.
And so you're asking yourself, and you're being honest and transparent,
is this something that I want to deal with for
the rest of my life? Like do everywhere we go?
Do I want to have to consider these things? Do
I want to be limited to where we can go
and what we can do? And you know things you
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brought up theme parks and festivals and things like that,
and so you're asking yourself, this is just something I
can commit to you for the rest of my life.
Speaker 5 (23:18):
That you got it exactly. I feel terrible, but that's
what I'm asking.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Yeah, And I think the reason that this is not
I mean, is not an easy thing right to consider,
but I think there is. It's not coming to you naturally.
I'm beginning to my gut tells me that the answer
is no, you can't and you're not going to. And
there's your answer. I hate to say it. That's just
me being honest. The fact that you're considering this, the
fact that you wrote us, the fact that you're calling.
And I'm not judging you for this. I mean again,
(23:42):
I appreciate the transparency. I feel like the fact that
you're thinking about this is already saying to me, this
isn't something that you want to deal with and you
want someone to tell you it's okay.
Speaker 5 (23:53):
Oh I mean god maybe, I mean I really like
or I like spending time with her.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
It just kind of affects it.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I pretty where we go because I wonder I wonder
if you if you were just head over heel. And again,
I don't know, I've never dealt with this before, but
I wonder if you were, you know, if you were
sure about this relationship and you were sure about every
aspect of it, then maybe I don't know. My gut
tells me that you wouldn't see this as a barrier.
That means that you would eliminate her from your life
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or and the relationship.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
That's what you're talking this this is not Is.
Speaker 8 (24:25):
It really something to leave off because you need a
little alone time in the bathroom?
Speaker 1 (24:28):
And see, I don't know the answer. Eight five five
five nine three five. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
I've not minimizing, ibs. Oh yeah, I think it's really severe.
Like yeah, I think so.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
Yeah, Well I'm not minimized. I don't I don't know.
I don't know. I've never dealt with this. I've never
known anyone to be super communicative, and I know I've
known people who have dealt with it. No one's ever
fully communicated to me their issues or said to me, hey,
we can't do X y Z because of it. But
it sounds to me like the cost benefit doesn't work
for you. That's what that's That's what my gut is
(24:58):
telling me about this situation.
Speaker 5 (25:02):
And it's really severe, ibs. I think there's different levels
of it. She's got really severe.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
Okay, all right, well, let me again.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
There are people out there listening who have perspective on this,
who either deal with it or have dealt with it,
and I'd rather hear from them because I don't I
don't have enough information to really be able to speak
on this. But Mike, I think that if you weren't
really sort of strongly contemplating ending the relationship, then I
don't think that this phone call would even take place.
(25:30):
That's that's that's what I'm I'm not judging you for that.
That's just that's where I am on this. It's you
wouldn't call us and have this conversation with us if
that were becausetherwise, I think you would just we wouldn't
have to talk about it. It would just be something
that you'd have to deal with, and that that's a shame.
But that's that's where I'm at. Let me take some
phone calls, Max, have a good day, Thanks for calling.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (25:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
I mean, look, and again, this is this is his
it's his life and his feeling and and and he
has every right to live his life how he wants to.
I just think he's looking for validation because I think
we've probably all encountered folks in our lives who have
different situations that are limiting or complicated, and we have
to make a decision if it's something that we want
(26:12):
to deal with, you know, together, And I think if
the answer is yes, then you just do it. If
the answer is maybe or no, then you start asking
other people what you should do, right, yeah, because you
don't know, right, you would think it would be organic.
I guess that's where I'm getting it.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
Like like what you said, like if it's something you
would you wouldn't even question it, it would just be something
that you would accept and like keep it moving.
Speaker 3 (26:33):
I guess that's what I That's what I mean. Judgment
or shade to hit exactly.
Speaker 4 (26:36):
Everyone has their preferences and what they can deal with
and what they can exactly.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
But he's calling up here, you know, looking for some feedback.
And my feedback is you're asking us because you already know.
Hey donnay, Hey Donna. Okay, So I have to be honest.
It says on the screen Donna in parentheses has ibs.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
So I just you're I'm not going to call you ibs, Donna.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
But you know that's what it says on this and
it might forever unless we are rec the part that
says has IBS. So I just want to say thank
you for your freeing candid, and we really appreciate that
about you.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
Don Okay, okay, good?
Speaker 11 (27:09):
Yeah, So I have IBS and IBD.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
So I have Crown's disease as well, and so.
Speaker 12 (27:16):
It's been severe.
Speaker 10 (27:17):
It's a severe saying.
Speaker 12 (27:18):
It's something you.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Have to deal with.
Speaker 6 (27:20):
But honestly, I feel like he should go for her sake.
Speaker 11 (27:24):
I'm married, I've had I've been with my husband since
high school. He's seen it all through everything I've gone through,
and he's always been supportive. So if this dude isn't
able to be supportive and is worried about having to
find a different restaurant for a different bathroom, that's just crazy.
And she honestly, she does not he did not deserve her.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Okay, yeah, because I want to. I hope you don't
and you can tell us, but I hope no. You
don't feel that we're trivializing this at all. You know,
his perspective is that this is limiting to him and
I and my thought is he's focused more on how
this limits him than how much he values her, and
that tells me everything I need to know about what
(28:06):
he thinks about this relationship. No, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 12 (28:11):
I feel like a lot of people, I.
Speaker 11 (28:13):
Mean, don't I don't get offended if people minimize it
or trivialize it, but I feel like a lot of
people don't understand the severity of it. Sure, and like
he was even saying, there are different.
Speaker 6 (28:22):
Levels to it, So she might have something that's to per.
Speaker 11 (28:25):
Severe, whereas like some people might just have a stomach
ache every once in a while.
Speaker 6 (28:29):
But if he's not willing to.
Speaker 11 (28:30):
Work through that or like deal with that, it's really honestly,
it's really not that hard, like finding a bathroom, it's easy.
Speaker 12 (28:39):
I look at the menus before we go anywhere.
Speaker 11 (28:42):
And if it's something that I can't have, like my
husband's willing to like adapt to it.
Speaker 12 (28:47):
There's so many options.
Speaker 11 (28:49):
So if this is a deal breaker or a possible
deal breaker for.
Speaker 6 (28:52):
Him, he just should go and not even waste her time.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
There you go, Hey, Donad, thank you and thanks for
calling him for the transparency and authenticity.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
Appreciate that. Yeah, yeah, you too, appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
See again, like I don't know anything about this, So
the fact that you're calling, and a lot of people
are texting and you know, being very transparent about their
journey with the two. I don't, I don't, I don't know.
I've not dealt with this, so I'd rather hear from you,
is it.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
Reeve, yes? Ree Hey, good morning, welcome.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
So you heard the guy max on waiting by the
phone or excuse me on ustre go. This guy, you know,
he's been dating a woman and she has IBS and
he feels it's very limiting to her and he's not
sure if he can do it for the rest of
his life, if he can not go to festivals in
this case, and it was an example that he used
in theme parks. Apparently, you know, it's a big problem.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
What do you think?
Speaker 12 (29:38):
Okay, I found it really interesting. My girlfriend has chronic
health issues. So for me, like I was just hearing him,
I was like, oh wow, sounds like he's really not
ready to be in a relationship at all, because for
me to love someone is to consider them, to consider
them like always, and it just sounds like he doesn't
(29:59):
want to consider her. And it's like I can appreciate
that it's difficul or whatever, but you know, I don't
know it sounds like he just wants to me and
that's like less serious, more of a fling whatever.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
But yeah, I mean, I feel like everybody comes with
something right, and I'm not gonna list things because I'm
not I'm not equating one with another. But you know,
we all we all come with things right, and I
think we all as we're dating and meeting people, we
have to make the determination whether those things are things
that we want to deal with or we don't, and
that's our choice. And he might be missing on an
amazing person because he feels inconvenienced. That's on him, I guess.
(30:36):
But better that he identify that and move on and
let her move on and find somebody else. Then I
suppose continue to tread water on this because he's obviously
thinking about it.
Speaker 3 (30:46):
What's that I said her?
Speaker 1 (30:49):
Yeah there, Reeve, thank you for calling her for listening.
Have a great day.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
Yeah you too, Joanna.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Hi, Joanna, Hey, good morning. So this dude's already got
one foot on the door, you think absolutely.
Speaker 10 (31:03):
I think in two seconds of hearing his story, I'm like,
he's already at the door. He just wants us to
tell him it's okay. Not to be fair, as someone
in my fifties and who's single. I always ask about
chronic illnesses before I get too far into it.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Oh do you Okay, so you you know a couple
of dates and you're like, hey, so what about anything
deadly going on?
Speaker 10 (31:24):
Yeah, like if they're like, got a whole list of
meds that they're on and they're sick, and yeah, I
don't want I don't want to deal with that.
Speaker 3 (31:33):
Okay. I mean that's you're right. I suppose, yeah, you.
Speaker 10 (31:36):
Got to like get into that before you fall in
love with him. But if he's already been dating her
and he's feeling like this and he doesn't love.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Her enough, I can't believe I'm the one making this
argument because I tend to be a little sort of
not cold but unemotional about things. But you know, who's
to say, Joanna, you don't fall in love with someone
who also happens to have these issues, like you're preventing
yourself from.
Speaker 12 (31:58):
You ask first?
Speaker 1 (31:59):
But is that how love works? And I'm asking. I
don't hate all people. I don't know, but I mean,
is is that how it works?
Speaker 9 (32:06):
Like?
Speaker 1 (32:06):
I can't fall in love with you because you you
you might die?
Speaker 10 (32:12):
Yeah? You just remove yourself from the aquaintance.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Okay, well, I mean, hey, that's you're right.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
I guess the way that I understand love would be
that I fall in love and then those are challenges
that we overcome. But maybe that's a Hallmark movie. Maybe
that's something I saw with Rebecca Remains Demos or something.
Speaker 10 (32:26):
I'm with them.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
Have you been burned by them to fall in love?
Speaker 5 (32:30):
No?
Speaker 2 (32:30):
Not at all?
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Okay, yes them? Yeah again, this is her right, I
mean fall in love with you? Now you're about that?
Speaker 10 (32:37):
That?
Speaker 8 (32:37):
Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (32:38):
Ye that's terrible. That's an awful thing. That's bad luck.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
I'm before you fall in love. She hadult with already
and she done.
Speaker 5 (32:46):
But maybe I have.
Speaker 10 (32:47):
I have been burned, but in just like family and
personal life, not so much as a partner.
Speaker 1 (32:53):
Okay, yeah, you feel like people would take it from
you or something. No, there's always more to the story here,
and I appreciate you calling. You have a good day.
You know, I can understand that. You know, you fall
in love, you felt like somebodyho's taken from you early,
and or you felt I don't know, like you were
shorted in some way, and then you don't want to
deal with that again, so you sort of block that,
you prevent that from happening in your.
Speaker 7 (33:14):
Life because like if you have been a caretaker, it's
a lot, and so maybe people would be a little
gunshy about going into that situation.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
Again. My mom loves my dad deeply, like they have
a wonderful thirty five years. They've been through ups and
downs and whatever. But my mom would tell you in
front of him, he's twelve or twelve years older than
she is. And now you know that she's her age
and he's his age. She would tell you if she
had to do over again, she wouldn't choose somebody who's
that much older because she's having just sort of you know,
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everyone's getting older now, and it's happening for him faster
because he's older. Again, this is no slam on him,
and she's not slamming in when she's saying it. But
you know, when people look back on life, I think
it's like, well, I probably would have chosen someone my
age or younger even I mean, that's not how love works.
I guess the point I was making to her is
you fall in love with who you fall in love with,
but you know, odds are she's going to be present
(34:06):
for his aging process before hers, and that's hard to watch.
So I I see what she's saying. It just sounds
a little harsh. Hi Jenna, Hi, Hi, good morning. So
you you've been in this situation before?
Speaker 5 (34:24):
I have.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
Yeah, And I.
Speaker 6 (34:26):
Actually feel like such a horrible person with what I'm
going to say after hall of.
Speaker 9 (34:30):
These No, nobody should feel like a horrible person, like, yeah,
this might be one of our last days, you know,
for one reason or another, either the raptures coming from
one place or it's coming from another, I don't know,
but no, I mean, look, I wanted to be really
clear here, Like this guy called he was transparent.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
People are calling, They're being honest. Everyone's entitled to whatever
their limitations are or whatever they want to live their life.
And even if it doesn't sound good. I never want
to make anyone feel bad. Well I shouldn't say it.
Occasionally I want to make you feel bad for being
a moron, but not you what going to go ahead?
Speaker 12 (35:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (35:06):
So, I mean so I definitely feel like after what
I was listening to, like love is not enough all
the time, and like there's so many different fish in
the sea, and there's so many different situations that fit
for different people. So for me, you know, like I mean,
I'm a single mom, I'm dating, and I don't know,
(35:27):
I'm a foodie, like I love going out to restaurants
and eating like all different types of food. And like
the guy who you know, I was just went on
some dates with he could only eat like chicken fingers
and mazzurostics, and you know, like, I just don't know
if that's what I want for the rest of my life.
(35:49):
And I think that's okay to be like, no, that's
just not what I want. So ye, his his stuff
was limiting, and I'm I didn't take it, like I
kind of cut it off at the beginning because I
knew that wasn't right for me. But I don't know
just I mean, I think he is looking for validation,
so I want to validate him, and just being like
(36:10):
if this doesn't work for your lifestyle, just that's okay,
Like there is going to be somebody else who works
for her lifestyle and your lifestyle. And for me, just
the fact that he could only eat off the kid's menu,
you know.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
Just and Jenna, I don't I'm not putting I said
this earlier. I'll say it again and people still won't
hear it. But I'm not I'm not putting all these
things on the same level, like it's different health versus
versus lifestyle versus whatever. I'm not saying these are all
the same. But how how would you feel? And I'm
sure it's happened to you where you've met men since
you're dating and you're a single mom who has said, Hey,
(36:44):
I don't I don't necessarily I like you, but I
don't necessarily want what comes with your obligation as a parent.
I mean, how does that make you feel? Because because
you're sort of saying the same.
Speaker 6 (36:54):
Thing, thank you so much for just letting me know,
because I get it, you know, like I want someone
who wants all of those things. But just like the
girl who I was just listening to, like, yeah, maybe
prerequisites are smart, especially when you're like a little bit older.
Speaker 1 (37:12):
So you're not being a hypocrite about this, Jenna, You're
being You're open minded about the fact that people need
different things for their lives.
Speaker 6 (37:18):
Yeah, one hundred percent, you know, And I would much
rather someone be like, listen, I like you who you are,
but I'm not ready to you know, step in and
for me listen, I've got a great situation, you know.
So I'm not looking for some of this step in
and being dad, but I one hundred percent like that
comes with you know stuff, So I am much more.
(37:39):
Just let me know, because again, there are just too
many fish in the sea.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
Because you know, I think about this as a single
guy in my in my mid forties. It's like, I'm
probably not having kids of my own. The demographic, there's
a demographic of people that I would date who have
been married and have kids. And I think about that like,
I'm not opposed to one or the other. I was
that kid, right I was adopted. I was that kid
at one point. My dad chows to marry my mom
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and then take us all in as his family and
treat us as his own. So I mean, I've been
through this, but I think about it like my life
would change drastically if I fell in love with someone
who had a kid, But like, would I limit myself
from falling in love with that person?
Speaker 3 (38:16):
I would like to believe no.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
But I mean if I'm married or dated somebody or
was with someone as a partner who didn't, then my
life looks completely different. So I don't know it's right.
But am I a bad person if I choose not
to date the person with a kid. And I don't
think I'm a bad person, but I mean, you say
it out loud, it kind of sounds bad.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
But listen, no, I mean we all have choices, right, Yeah, Jenna,
thank you. I appreciate you.
Speaker 6 (38:42):
Have a good day you too.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
Oh oh, okay, I misread that someone said. I thought
I said my wife has cancer, I'm leaving her?
Speaker 3 (38:51):
You know.
Speaker 1 (38:51):
It was what if she gets cancer? Will he leave her?
Is what it says. I misread that. I was like, oh,
oh my, we're taking this call so I canot just
i'roy this human being, but I'm not going. I don't
have to because this is that what it's said perfect.
Speaker 7 (39:03):
I think the difference is like this guy is getting
into something knowing what comes with this person. And if
you are in love with someone in marriage to them
for years and they get cancer, it's a different story.
Speaker 2 (39:14):
And I agree with the last caller. Love is not
always enough.
Speaker 7 (39:18):
You can have love, but there can be a lot
of things that come with a person that it just
doesn't work for long term.
Speaker 2 (39:23):
And that's also okay, you know
A text eight five five five nine one three five
Fred my sister, who is a huge Fred show supporter. Okay,
so that I feel like we're running for office or
something like we're probably if you're a big supporter of
the show, like we're running for mayor or something collectively,
which that would be just a disaster. I think we'd win, Honestly,
I think we could easily win. But can you imagine
(00:20):
if all of us had to come together to make
every decision collectively, no one of us can run and win.
And I think it's probably Paulina. Yes, I'll tell you what.
You can be the older men, the city council woman,
and then I'll be the mayor, and then we'll we'll
attempt to work together on things.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
That's gonna be a tough job.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Yeah, of us.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
Yeah, that's the worst job ever. I have zero I
believe I could win, Actually I do. Sorry, Sorry, Mayor Johnson.
I believe I could be the mayor of I believe
I could win.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Wow, I think I had the name recognition.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Yes, of course you do.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
I think in New City, all you have to do
is get you don't You only have to win the
runoff of the runoff of the runoff. So I think
the name recognition alone would I'd have to quit my job. Yeah,
I don't do that, but I I think enough people
would see on the ballot and be like this guy,
you know, may and then maybe it's possible.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
I would never do it. I don't want to do it.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
And by the way, that's not because I'm qualified, because
i'd be a good editor, because I should. I just
think that, you know, you know, we talk enough and
we say fred enough. I think I could probably, I
think I could win. I think I really could. Yeah, no,
I'm not knowing. I shouldn't. It's a terrible job. Being
a politician is an awful job. But but that's none
of this matter, because we could change be the change
(01:28):
you want to see. Oh that's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
It doesn't matter.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Like you you have to pick a party and then
you know I'm I'm and then immediately I'm headed by
half of the people. The only way I would do
it is I could start my own party of like
people that makes like the people that make sense. It'd
be the people that make sense party. It would be
like reasonably be the reasonable people party. It would be
can we just be reasonable? That's all I'm asking for.
Can we just can you? Can you stop being a
(01:53):
holes on both sides and just be reasonable party the
non a whole party.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
That would be yeah, exactly that.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
None of this matters though, because the text says, my
sister is a huge Fred Show supporter, is having a
baby today. She's being induced this morning and could use
your motivational vibes.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Can you shout around? Her name is Jackie?
Speaker 1 (02:13):
You want you want us to motivate you as you
go into the room and they and they make the
baby come out of you, and you you want us
to mote it.
Speaker 3 (02:24):
Because they're inducing for Jason. Yeah, I know that. Yeah,
and I know that.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
It's just a yeah, you see.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
You see what you're puzzled on your face?
Speaker 4 (02:31):
Was a gracious hit me because that's exactly what happens.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
I just yeah, makes the baby come out of you.
That's that's what an induction is.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Yeah, no, I does what happens.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
But that's just a startling phrase to me.
Speaker 5 (02:41):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Yeah, they're gonna give her potosin baby come out there,
and then the baby comes out. It could be it
could be an hour, it could be nineteen hours.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
When you see doctor Mike walk in with that cape.
Speaker 6 (02:54):
But Harry Potter cape and he's ready to go with
the gloves hes.
Speaker 5 (02:56):
Yeah, he was a cape and he says, baby's coming
right now.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Also, he doesn't with the gloves on until it's time.
Oh no, it's go time. When the gloves come on.
You't even see him until it's go time. This smoke, yeah,
and this music and then this music you know plays Hello, ideas.
You can do this, Jackie, you can do this girl. Yeah,
it's not gonna take a long time. It's not gonna
(03:21):
take it a long t It's not gonna hurt at all.
And everything's gonna look normal in three to six months afterwards,
gonna look like.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
It did before.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
It's gonna look totally norm right, even it might even
look better better, right right, I know that's right.
Speaker 3 (03:39):
You're the only one has had a baby and I
get tested.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
That's true. Never looked better, It never looks better.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
How long does it take to go back to normal?
Three to six months?
Speaker 7 (03:47):
You know, ask your professional for that girl, that's your obi.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Everybody's different.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
I've never gotten to the end of the Alan Parsons project.
Eye in the Sky, but we get down with the guitar,
don't we No, Because normally Michael Jordan's been introduced by now.
They're already playing the games. Scottie Pippens, Dennis Robbins already
out there, we're already doing him.
Speaker 6 (04:07):
All right.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
You got this, Okay, Jackie, you got this? Yes, everything
look great. Everything's gonna be great. Baby's gonna be healthy. Notice,
I'd go right to what the huhas gonna look like
in three to six months, That's right.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
I assume that.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
The baby's going to be perfectly outfread show is course
friends the biggest stories of the day. I hope that
you are so fired up now as a friend show supporter, yep,
that'd be the song on stage I would use when
I was on stage, you know when.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
They bring me out every time.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
And then of course Alan Parsons Project would say they
would like send me a season assists to be like,
we don't agree with you, you reasonable person. Party, you know,
a whole party, you know, going to Facebook and bitching party.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
That's what I would be.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
I'd be the no Facebook having party.
Speaker 3 (04:52):
Yeah No.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
I made actually a city council a city councilman friend
of mine. I made him very angry by I don't
really believe this. I was just talking, but I told
him I think I could win the mayor RaSE.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
He got so mad. Oh no, no, you wouldn't know the
first thing. You don't know anything you could know.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
I'm like, he was just mad because I mean, you know,
I think there are people that would be dumb enough
to see a name they know and go oker, you know,
and yeah, that's what I'm saying. That's what I mean.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
So I feel like it's kind of a learn on
the job sort of thing, like you don't get like
trained to be mad.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Clearly not clearly he's seen you know, we're still learning
in some cases. Yeah that's fat and we may never
learn in other cases. It depends where you are. But no, yeah, no,
I think. But he was so mad at me. Oh
you think you think? No, I don't, Actually I don't.
I am not qualified. Nobody should vote for me. I
don't know what I'm doing, but I just think that
there are enough people out there who might recognize the
name to go, really that guy, okay, and then boom
(05:52):
and then I have to do it for what three
to six years or however long you have to do
it for I don't even know how long the job
I guess anyway, No, it's not happening all right, headlines
biggest stories today. I hope that was uh. I hope
that was what you were looking for. Jackie's sister. I
hope that was the kind of inspiration that you needed
to go into the day.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
She wanted you to talk about her. Hu huh.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
She did well, and then I was successful. Yeah, I did.
I always deliver, kidd me.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I'll tell you.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
What's weird though, is that I have friends who have
like ten year olds and we've done this for them
when they were walking around the hospital trying to get
the baby to fall out, and now the kid is
like going to high school, and it's like, remember, hey,
you're Fred, uncle Fred. Remember when you talked about me
when I was like, oh god, Like you're a grown
(06:37):
you're a grown woman. Like we've been doing this that long.
I mean it's a good thing, right, Like say, that's
what you want. Like when you get into the radio business,
you know, the media business, you want to hang around
for a long time. But then you realize, like, man,
it's been a long time. Yeah, oh boy, Jimmy Kimmel's
back guys, which it didn't take long. I kind of
saw this coming, But Jimmy Kimmel said to return to
(06:57):
ABC tonight after being suspended from making controversial comments about
conservative activist Charlie Kirk's death. Kimmel had falsely claimed that
Kirk's alleged killer was associated with the MAGA movement, despite
authorities clarifying that the suspect may have had left wing views.
At least that's the way that some people characterize what
happened here. In response to ABC temporarily pulled Jimmy Kimmelive
(07:18):
from the air, replacing it with other programming, Kimmel has
negotiated his return, but will refuse, has refused and will
not apologize for his remarks. There are still thirty eight
ABC affiliates owned by Sinclair Broadcast Group that have announced
they will not air the upcoming episode, citing the need
for an apology and a donation to Turning Point USA,
the organization founded by Kirk. So he's back tonight, and
(07:43):
I had a feeling this would happen, to be honest
with you, because I don't think it was necessarily the
best look for ABC and Disney to say, Okay, we're
going to be influenced here, potentially influenced by the government. Now,
if they had said we don't like what you said,
you're an employee of ours. We don't like what you said,
(08:04):
We're going to fire you. Now, that's bad for people.
And by the way, I'm coming from the perspective of
someone who talks for money for a company, right, like,
we don't own this place. I've learned this year. A
lot of people think a lot of people think I
own the place. A lot of people think I own
the show. A lot of people think I write the checks.
A lot of people think I have any power to
make any executive decision around here.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
I have none of that. I do none of that.
Speaker 1 (08:26):
I have an employee, just like everybody else in this room.
That being said, it's a scary thing if you're in
the broadcasting world to think that I could share my
opinion short of alienating an advertiser or the company, or
saying something hateful or spiteful or inaccurate. It's just my
opinion about something, especially in a comedic sense. It's almost
scary to think that, you know that some government influence
(08:50):
could say we don't like that he said that, fire him.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
And then we get fired. Like that's not great.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Now the company deemed that what I said was inappropriate, well,
then I guess they can fire me, and that sucks.
But I signed a contract that we all sign a
contract that says that they can do that.
Speaker 3 (09:01):
And it's a shame.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
But I guess for me, it's just how about we
let the viewers and the listeners decide whether you think
that the thing that was said was inappropriate, Like, hey,
you might be listening now and saying what Jimmy Kimmel
said was abhorrent. He never should have said that. It
wasn't funny and it was inaccurate. Well then don't watch.
Then don't watch ever again, you know. And by the way,
this is not a new thought from me. You know, people,
every now and again, we'll come. We'll text up your eye,
(09:22):
you know, like Fred sucks and you know so and
so sucks and these comments. Okay, well, I'm sorry that
you feel that way. That's not our intent, but you know, hey,
you can do that all day or if you must.
And I don't want this, but if you must, and
don't listen anymore, and then maybe we'll get fired because
the ratings will be bad. I don't know, like that
isn't that Ultimately don't we all decide as consumers what
we're willing to consume and what we're not. So I
(09:44):
guess I don't know. And it's murky because it depends
who you ask about this.
Speaker 7 (09:48):
Yeah, the free speech line seem I don't understand the rules.
It seems like confusing to me. I think a lot
of people also don't realize that it's not just ABC,
it's not just Disney and you touched on this, but
like Sinclair on the smaller markets are running that show,
and so that's the issue is like they were going
to lose advertisers, YadA, YadA. So it's not just as
(10:08):
black as what and white as people thought it was.
But yeah, I don't understand the guidelines for free speech.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
I'm confused a little bit. Yeah, I need to go
a playbook or something.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
At this point, Well, this was complicated because they're you
know again, it's political, right, It depends who you If
you talk to two people who have two different political viewpoints,
they'll describe this whole thing to you differently. And you
know it's well, the government was saying that he needs
to be fired. Well it did seem like the government
was you know, FCC was involving them, say hey, we're
(10:38):
gonna we're gonna eliminate this sort of smut or whatever
the terminology was from the airwaves. It did seem that way.
But then on the flip side, it's like, you know,
but but they don't have the right to do that,
and I don't.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
I don't think they should, right.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
I think, I think, short of something that's obscene, and
there are guidelines and regulations about this, but I don't
necessarily think that, you know, the government should be able
to come in and start firing shows or or dictating
who's on the air and who's not. Again, I think
it should be up to the audience to decide what
you want to listen to and what you don't. And
that's not a political it's an a political statement. That's
I think that's the easiest way to handle this again,
(11:11):
short of misinformation propagandu you know, there are protections in
place already for things that we can and can't say,
So maybe we leave it there exactly, But then you've
got you know, people saying, well, Disney can firement if
they want to, they can, and then they could say, well,
advertisers of advertisers don't like it, and then you can say, well,
if individual broadcast companies, if they don't want to air
the show, they don't have to.
Speaker 3 (11:32):
Well they don't. That's true.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
It's just there are a lot of different angles here,
and it really depends, you know, you know, from what
perspective you view it.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
It's just for me at the in.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
In summation, in conclusion, as a dude who talks for
a living, I got a little scared.
Speaker 3 (11:49):
I got a little worried.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
And you know, I don't know, and we don't say
like crazy things on this show. In fact, like the
design of the show is not to be that way,
is to sort of be the antithesis of all of
that and of all of that because there's so many
places you can go for the polarity.
Speaker 3 (12:03):
But I don't know, it's just like what are we
doing here?
Speaker 5 (12:05):
Right?
Speaker 8 (12:06):
And the more you talk, you can't please everybody, and
we have to be okay with not being pleased. If
I'm not being pleased somewhere there are other options.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
Right, And you know, again it appears what he said
may not have been totally accurate, and that's not great. Again,
and then don't watch the show if you don't like
it or whatever. I guess I know business, Yeah, because
you do have power in that. You could just say
I'm not going to support that anymore and then don't.
And I'm not saying you shouldn't speak up if you
think that someone said something you don't agree with. But
(12:35):
as far as like, we're firing people now and we're
taking people off the air, and I don't know it
just needs.
Speaker 7 (12:40):
To stop wanting big changes to happen just because of
their own personal preferences. I think we all need to
individually support and not support who we would like to
and who we would not, and stop trying to have
others join us.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
The Detroit Lions have defeated the Baltimore Ravens.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Do hear that?
Speaker 3 (12:56):
Monday night football? Yeah, we're not doing it anymore.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
You're making your own picture now, Okay, even though I
think you I don't think you would have pick picked it.
I don't think you would have pickn I don't think
you would have What's wrong, I was gonna be going
to be mayor and I'm trying not to get canceled,
and I'm picking stuff you would have picked the Ravens anyway,
because you don't pick the Lions for some reason, even
though your friend's right there.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
No, the only time I.
Speaker 4 (13:15):
Don't pick the Lions is when they're playing the Bears, right,
and normally picked you tell.
Speaker 1 (13:21):
Me anyway they won and you didn't pick it that
I don't think like you had the Ravens.
Speaker 7 (13:26):
And she told me, I want them to win for
you because on a personal level, but I don't think
that's going to happen, and I have to make the pick.
Speaker 2 (13:34):
That's correct. That's how I feel.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
Take that. Yeah, all right, which is not as good
as I thought.
Speaker 9 (13:43):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Gabrielle has intensified into a Category four storm, which is
east of Bermuda. Two more potential tropical systems in near by,
one year the Caribbean and another further east, could develop
later this week. The storms are not an immediate threat
to land, but the area of activity the Leeward Islands
in Bahamas is the wild card, with the future US
impact possible if atmospheric conditions align.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
You're a weather guy, Jason, Yes, did it all makes
sense to you?
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (14:09):
Atmosphere, you know, we don't want them.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Forecast indicate that Bermuda could experience rain, gusty winds, and
large swells from the storm. The hurricane will also generate
rough seas and dangerous rip currents along much of the
US East Coast from North Carolina, New England through midweek.
A teenager is in custody for a twenty twenty three
cyber attack on MGM resort casinos. And in fact, I
think we had to go there, weren't we? Yes, the
(14:32):
festival was right around this time, and it was a
complete disaster.
Speaker 4 (14:35):
Yeah, like none of the machines were nothing more cards
where the Wi Fi was down.
Speaker 3 (14:40):
Like nothing works. Gosh.
Speaker 1 (14:42):
But anyway, as a teenager who did this and is
in custody reportedly cause at least one hundred million dollars
in losses. The hackers gain access by tricking MGM's IT
team into resetting a password and then disabled slaw machines,
hotel key cards, employee emails, and booking systems. Jason, were
you working there, freelance guy?
Speaker 3 (15:01):
Did you fall?
Speaker 1 (15:02):
With the facts of the email schemes and what happened.
They also access some customers personal data, including driver's licenses
and social security numbers. The team turned himself in last
week and could be tried as an adult on charges
including extortion, identity theft, and computer related crimes. I don't
know a lot about this, but I feel like and
I'm not sure how sophisticated this was, but maybe maybe
(15:23):
we hire the team. Maybe we hire the team to
work at MGM, and then then maybe you know, this
sounds like a pretty smart group of kids. You know,
you're not supposed to be sealing people's identities and information. Again,
I don't know the full extensive but I know what
I just read to you, But I don't know, you know,
I know that there are companies I think Apple's, won
maybe Google, where if you can hack them and you
(15:43):
can identify to them how you did it, they'll pay you.
You know, so you find a whole and then I've
read about this before because they don't want you to
hack them. They because if all you want is money,
then they'll they'll say, thank you for telling us where
the whole was. Here's money, and now we'll fix the whole.
To try this for the wedding flot let's do it.
Speaker 3 (16:01):
Yeah, you guys are going to be neckers now.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
Well, they need to get this wedding done.
Speaker 3 (16:06):
Yeah, Well, then buy a t shirt, just like I did.
Speaker 2 (16:08):
Yeah, we'm supporting.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
Yeah no, Kiki, Yeah, that's how you do it. Don't
become hackers. I don't need you guys going to jail
or being canceled for any reason. Nearly ninety percent of
daily life runs on autopilot, according to a new study.
Research is found that eighty eight percent of what we
do every day happens out of habit. Two thirds of
our actions triggered automatically by our surroundings. Nearly half of
these habits still match our intentions, meaning they help us
(16:33):
reach goals without much thought. Experts say that this explains
why change is hard routines are deeply ingrained, but also
why building good habits works best when we set up
cues in our environment to trigger them. It's a little
scary if you think about it, But I mean, if
I don't like stop and actually am conscious for a
second the process of getting up every day and getting
(16:55):
ready and coming to work and doing it and sitting here,
I don't. It's about eight thirty before I realize what
I've done, and I've done a whole radio show.
Speaker 3 (17:02):
By that point.
Speaker 1 (17:03):
It's just automatic, you know, You get up, you take
a shoer. You do those things and whatever you drive
and then you drive to work. You're in a car,
you're in a large object. You move that object. They
weighed thousands of pounds, and like I wasn't I mean,
I was paying attention right obviously, because but I also
wasn't fully conscious for that because it's automatic. So you
think about like your routines and stuff. It's a little
bit scary. You're like half awake doing all this stuff.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
It'll be like four o'clock and I'll be like, what
did I What happened today?
Speaker 1 (17:28):
Right? Because you just get up and you just know
what to do. It's like you just I gotta do
this and that and the other thing. And Americans are
rethinking their subscriptions is rising costs to make them harder
to justify. The average person has one hundred and twenty
dollars in unused services every year, and new survey shows
at households have trimmed their average from just over four
(17:49):
subscriptions last year to fewer than three and twenty twenty five,
with spending dropping slightly to about thirty seven bucks a month.
Streaming services and food delivery perks are the first to
go as price hikes and password cracked down to push
many to cancel or turn to piracy. I guess using
other people's stuff, but on average one hundred and twenty
bucks a year and unused subscriptions, so you gotta think
(18:09):
about that.
Speaker 3 (18:10):
Yeah, that's probably true.
Speaker 4 (18:11):
I think I have like multiple, like Netflix subscriptions or
something like.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
I signed up and then I forgot. This is why
you're broke. You don't pay a mortgage, but you're broke.
It's because you have seven Netflix subscriptions. Probably also of
the worst memory.
Speaker 4 (18:23):
So I feel like I signed up for stuff and
then I forget, and then as I signed up again
and now I'm paying again.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
This is my pro tip for you, and this might
be the most valuable thing I've said in forty two
minutes today, is is go like, if you have a
credit card, go look at the like look it up
on the website the benefits of your credit card, because
I don't really I hadn't really done this for a
while and then I went looked At'm like, wait a minute,
I can get door Dash like my credit card. I
can get door Dash monthly for free if I get
(18:49):
the subscription thing and I put it on my credit
card to take it off TSA pre check free. I
think clear is.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
A bunch of stuff is free. There's like Lululemon credit
on one of them. There's all stuff you got Uber
credit per month on it. I didn't know about any
of this because they don't. They don't really tell you.
It's almost like they don't really want you to know.
But if you go like, I'm like, well, I can
get Disney Plus for free, you know, which is why
I didn't.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
Have to cancel it.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Can I see what kind of card do you have?
Speaker 3 (19:13):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (19:13):
No, you can't. It's it's a uh, it's a it's
a it's a gift card.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
Show is on, it's stay or go?
Speaker 9 (19:22):
All right?
Speaker 1 (19:23):
Max is here, turning to a likely source for advice. Hi, Max,
how you doing?
Speaker 2 (19:31):
Hey?
Speaker 3 (19:31):
Hey, I'm all right? How are you guys?
Speaker 1 (19:33):
Oh my gosh, Max here, we are to help you,
so stairego. You can hit us up fred shirt radio
dot com, you can d m us and all the
different socials which Max did. What's going on with your
with your girlfriend?
Speaker 10 (19:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (19:47):
I appreciate your guys's help.
Speaker 5 (19:49):
And I know it's gonna sound harsh what I'm about
to say so just you know, no no judging.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
So, if this is about Jimmy Kimble, hang up. If
this is about Jimmy Kimmel, hangup, I'm not I'm not
doing it. Max. I'm not doing it with you. Max,
I'm not doing it with you. I just want to
be clearing me. Okay, good, all right, because I'm not
doing it.
Speaker 3 (20:06):
Okay, No, no, you don't need to.
Speaker 5 (20:09):
It's not about that.
Speaker 3 (20:09):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (20:11):
So I started dating a girl about five six months ago,
and I really like her. I'm not going to say
her name just out of you know, respect for her privacy.
But there's one issue I'm running into over and over again,
and that is actually her health.
Speaker 3 (20:28):
I don't know how to say. Okay, she has she
has severe.
Speaker 5 (20:32):
I b s okay, okay, and that I don't mean
to laugh. But it affects pretty much every aspect of
her life, and now it's kind of affecting mine since
we've been together all these Now.
Speaker 2 (20:47):
Why would you call my name out?
Speaker 3 (20:48):
Why would you do that?
Speaker 2 (20:50):
I was looking at Jason, who was laughing at this
because I'm signing.
Speaker 3 (21:01):
Kicking out of and then she calls him out. Okay,
I think it's same. Well, I was gonna say, Jason,
Jason diagnosed has this issue. Okay, So so she.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
I don't even know how to appropriately describe i bs'.
So she needs to access a bathroom regularly needs And
this is this is not a fun thing. And I
feel bad for anybody who encounters a Kiki and Jason. Okay,
so she has this issue, and you know that, So
why is this a problem for you?
Speaker 3 (21:33):
Exactly just like you said, it's not fun.
Speaker 5 (21:35):
She's the bathroom everywhere we go, everywhere we go, every
place we go, She's got to figure out where's the
closest bathroom.
Speaker 3 (21:41):
Every place we eat.
Speaker 5 (21:42):
You've got to know the menu ahead of time, make
sure she can eat something there. And there's just a
lot of places we can't go together, like we can't
I can't take her to whatever theme park festival, so
she because of the bathroom situation, and we can't travel
so many places, and so it's just becoming a lot.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
I don't know, as the months go on, and I
and I feel bad.
Speaker 5 (22:05):
I really like her, but you know, I know there's obviously,
like there's no cure for IBS. You know, the only
things you can do to prevent flare.
Speaker 3 (22:15):
Ups, And I just you know, there's a lot.
Speaker 5 (22:19):
That comes with it, and I didn't expect it and
it would be the rest of my life and I
just don't know, like I.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
Don't know if I'm I'm not okay, so far enough?
Speaker 1 (22:28):
Yeah no, So I'm sorry to interrupt you with maxim.
So you're your girlfriend has this this condition that that's
limiting to her lifestyle in a lot of ways. Not
people live with this and and they deal with it.
But you're saying that for you, the limitations may sort
of you are already are a burden to you or
may forever be a burden to you. I hate to
(22:48):
use the word burden, but you know, for whatever reason,
for various reasons, rather you think it's holding you back.
And so you're asking yourself, and you're being honest and transparent,
is this something that I want to deal with for
the rest of my life? Like do everywhere we go?
Do I want to have to consider these things? Do
I want to be limited to where we can go
and what we can do? And you know things you
(23:10):
brought up theme parks and festivals and things like that,
and so you're asking yourself, this is just something I
can commit to you for the rest of my life.
Speaker 5 (23:18):
That you got it exactly. I feel terrible, but that's
what I'm asking.
Speaker 1 (23:21):
Yeah, And I think the reason that this is not
I mean, is not an easy thing right to consider,
but I think there is. It's not coming to you naturally.
I'm beginning to my gut tells me that the answer
is no, you can't and you're not going to. And
there's your answer. I hate to say it. That's just
me being honest. The fact that you're considering this, the
fact that you wrote us, the fact that you're calling.
And I'm not judging you for this. I mean again,
(23:42):
I appreciate the transparency. I feel like the fact that
you're thinking about this is already saying to me, this
isn't something that you want to deal with and you
want someone to tell you it's okay.
Speaker 5 (23:53):
Oh I mean god maybe, I mean I really like
or I like spending time with her.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
It just kind of affects it.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I pretty where we go because I wonder I wonder
if you if you were just head over heel. And again,
I don't know, I've never dealt with this before, but
I wonder if you were, you know, if you were
sure about this relationship and you were sure about every
aspect of it, then maybe I don't know. My gut
tells me that you wouldn't see this as a barrier.
That means that you would eliminate her from your life
(24:21):
or and the relationship.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
That's what you're talking this this is not Is.
Speaker 8 (24:25):
It really something to leave off because you need a
little alone time in the bathroom?
Speaker 1 (24:28):
And see, I don't know the answer. Eight five five
five nine three five. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (24:32):
I've not minimizing, ibs. Oh yeah, I think it's really severe.
Like yeah, I think so.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
Yeah, Well I'm not minimized. I don't I don't know.
I don't know. I've never dealt with this. I've never
known anyone to be super communicative, and I know I've
known people who have dealt with it. No one's ever
fully communicated to me their issues or said to me, hey,
we can't do X y Z because of it. But
it sounds to me like the cost benefit doesn't work
for you. That's what that's That's what my gut is
(24:58):
telling me about this situation.
Speaker 5 (25:02):
And it's really severe, ibs. I think there's different levels
of it. She's got really severe.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
Okay, all right, well, let me again.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
There are people out there listening who have perspective on this,
who either deal with it or have dealt with it,
and I'd rather hear from them because I don't I
don't have enough information to really be able to speak
on this. But Mike, I think that if you weren't
really sort of strongly contemplating ending the relationship, then I
don't think that this phone call would even take place.
(25:30):
That's that's that's what I'm I'm not judging you for that.
That's just that's where I am on this. It's you
wouldn't call us and have this conversation with us if
that were becausetherwise, I think you would just we wouldn't
have to talk about it. It would just be something
that you'd have to deal with, and that that's a shame.
But that's that's where I'm at. Let me take some
phone calls, Max, have a good day, Thanks for calling.
Speaker 2 (25:50):
Thank you.
Speaker 3 (25:51):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
I mean, look, and again, this is this is his
it's his life and his feeling and and and he
has every right to live his life how he wants to.
I just think he's looking for validation because I think
we've probably all encountered folks in our lives who have
different situations that are limiting or complicated, and we have
to make a decision if it's something that we want
(26:12):
to deal with, you know, together, And I think if
the answer is yes, then you just do it. If
the answer is maybe or no, then you start asking
other people what you should do, right, yeah, because you
don't know, right, you would think it would be organic.
I guess that's where I'm getting it.
Speaker 4 (26:27):
Like like what you said, like if it's something you
would you wouldn't even question it, it would just be something
that you would accept and like keep it moving.
Speaker 3 (26:33):
I guess that's what I That's what I mean. Judgment
or shade to hit exactly.
Speaker 4 (26:36):
Everyone has their preferences and what they can deal with
and what they can exactly.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
But he's calling up here, you know, looking for some feedback.
And my feedback is you're asking us because you already know.
Hey donnay, Hey Donna. Okay, So I have to be honest.
It says on the screen Donna in parentheses has ibs.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
So I just you're I'm not going to call you ibs, Donna.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
But you know that's what it says on this and
it might forever unless we are rec the part that
says has IBS. So I just want to say thank
you for your freeing candid, and we really appreciate that
about you.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
Don Okay, okay, good?
Speaker 11 (27:09):
Yeah, So I have IBS and IBD.
Speaker 2 (27:12):
So I have Crown's disease as well, and so.
Speaker 12 (27:16):
It's been severe.
Speaker 10 (27:17):
It's a severe saying.
Speaker 12 (27:18):
It's something you.
Speaker 2 (27:19):
Have to deal with.
Speaker 6 (27:20):
But honestly, I feel like he should go for her sake.
Speaker 11 (27:24):
I'm married, I've had I've been with my husband since
high school. He's seen it all through everything I've gone through,
and he's always been supportive. So if this dude isn't
able to be supportive and is worried about having to
find a different restaurant for a different bathroom, that's just crazy.
And she honestly, she does not he did not deserve her.
Speaker 1 (27:46):
Okay, yeah, because I want to. I hope you don't
and you can tell us, but I hope no. You
don't feel that we're trivializing this at all. You know,
his perspective is that this is limiting to him and
I and my thought is he's focused more on how
this limits him than how much he values her, and
that tells me everything I need to know about what
(28:06):
he thinks about this relationship. No, yeah, exactly.
Speaker 12 (28:11):
I feel like a lot of people, I.
Speaker 11 (28:13):
Mean, don't I don't get offended if people minimize it
or trivialize it, but I feel like a lot of
people don't understand the severity of it. Sure, and like
he was even saying, there are different.
Speaker 6 (28:22):
Levels to it, So she might have something that's to per.
Speaker 11 (28:25):
Severe, whereas like some people might just have a stomach
ache every once in a while.
Speaker 6 (28:29):
But if he's not willing to.
Speaker 11 (28:30):
Work through that or like deal with that, it's really honestly,
it's really not that hard, like finding a bathroom, it's easy.
Speaker 12 (28:39):
I look at the menus before we go anywhere.
Speaker 11 (28:42):
And if it's something that I can't have, like my
husband's willing to like adapt to it.
Speaker 12 (28:47):
There's so many options.
Speaker 11 (28:49):
So if this is a deal breaker or a possible
deal breaker for.
Speaker 6 (28:52):
Him, he just should go and not even waste her time.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
There you go, Hey, Donad, thank you and thanks for
calling him for the transparency and authenticity.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
Appreciate that. Yeah, yeah, you too, appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
See again, like I don't know anything about this, So
the fact that you're calling, and a lot of people
are texting and you know, being very transparent about their
journey with the two. I don't, I don't, I don't know.
I've not dealt with this, so I'd rather hear from you,
is it.
Speaker 3 (29:15):
Reeve, yes? Ree Hey, good morning, welcome.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
So you heard the guy max on waiting by the
phone or excuse me on ustre go. This guy, you know,
he's been dating a woman and she has IBS and
he feels it's very limiting to her and he's not
sure if he can do it for the rest of
his life, if he can not go to festivals in
this case, and it was an example that he used
in theme parks. Apparently, you know, it's a big problem.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
What do you think?
Speaker 12 (29:38):
Okay, I found it really interesting. My girlfriend has chronic
health issues. So for me, like I was just hearing him,
I was like, oh wow, sounds like he's really not
ready to be in a relationship at all, because for
me to love someone is to consider them, to consider
them like always, and it just sounds like he doesn't
(29:59):
want to consider her. And it's like I can appreciate
that it's difficul or whatever, but you know, I don't
know it sounds like he just wants to me and
that's like less serious, more of a fling whatever.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
But yeah, I mean, I feel like everybody comes with
something right, and I'm not gonna list things because I'm
not I'm not equating one with another. But you know,
we all we all come with things right, and I
think we all as we're dating and meeting people, we
have to make the determination whether those things are things
that we want to deal with or we don't, and
that's our choice. And he might be missing on an
amazing person because he feels inconvenienced. That's on him, I guess.
(30:36):
But better that he identify that and move on and
let her move on and find somebody else. Then I
suppose continue to tread water on this because he's obviously
thinking about it.
Speaker 3 (30:46):
What's that I said her?
Speaker 1 (30:49):
Yeah there, Reeve, thank you for calling her for listening.
Have a great day.
Speaker 3 (30:53):
Yeah you too, Joanna.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
Hi, Joanna, Hey, good morning. So this dude's already got
one foot on the door, you think absolutely.
Speaker 10 (31:03):
I think in two seconds of hearing his story, I'm like,
he's already at the door. He just wants us to
tell him it's okay. Not to be fair, as someone
in my fifties and who's single. I always ask about
chronic illnesses before I get too far into it.
Speaker 1 (31:17):
Oh do you Okay, so you you know a couple
of dates and you're like, hey, so what about anything
deadly going on?
Speaker 10 (31:24):
Yeah, like if they're like, got a whole list of
meds that they're on and they're sick, and yeah, I
don't want I don't want to deal with that.
Speaker 3 (31:33):
Okay. I mean that's you're right. I suppose, yeah, you.
Speaker 10 (31:36):
Got to like get into that before you fall in
love with him. But if he's already been dating her
and he's feeling like this and he doesn't love.
Speaker 1 (31:44):
Her enough, I can't believe I'm the one making this
argument because I tend to be a little sort of
not cold but unemotional about things. But you know, who's
to say, Joanna, you don't fall in love with someone
who also happens to have these issues, like you're preventing
yourself from.
Speaker 12 (31:58):
You ask first?
Speaker 1 (31:59):
But is that how love works? And I'm asking. I
don't hate all people. I don't know, but I mean,
is is that how it works?
Speaker 9 (32:06):
Like?
Speaker 1 (32:06):
I can't fall in love with you because you you
you might die?
Speaker 10 (32:12):
Yeah? You just remove yourself from the aquaintance.
Speaker 3 (32:15):
Okay, well, I mean, hey, that's you're right.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
I guess the way that I understand love would be
that I fall in love and then those are challenges
that we overcome. But maybe that's a Hallmark movie. Maybe
that's something I saw with Rebecca Remains Demos or something.
Speaker 10 (32:26):
I'm with them.
Speaker 2 (32:27):
Have you been burned by them to fall in love?
Speaker 5 (32:30):
No?
Speaker 2 (32:30):
Not at all?
Speaker 3 (32:31):
Okay, yes them? Yeah again, this is her right, I
mean fall in love with you? Now you're about that?
Speaker 10 (32:37):
That?
Speaker 8 (32:37):
Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (32:38):
Ye that's terrible. That's an awful thing. That's bad luck.
Speaker 2 (32:42):
I'm before you fall in love. She hadult with already
and she done.
Speaker 5 (32:46):
But maybe I have.
Speaker 10 (32:47):
I have been burned, but in just like family and
personal life, not so much as a partner.
Speaker 1 (32:53):
Okay, yeah, you feel like people would take it from
you or something. No, there's always more to the story here,
and I appreciate you calling. You have a good day.
You know, I can understand that. You know, you fall
in love, you felt like somebodyho's taken from you early,
and or you felt I don't know, like you were
shorted in some way, and then you don't want to
deal with that again, so you sort of block that,
you prevent that from happening in your.
Speaker 7 (33:14):
Life because like if you have been a caretaker, it's
a lot, and so maybe people would be a little
gunshy about going into that situation.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
Again. My mom loves my dad deeply, like they have
a wonderful thirty five years. They've been through ups and
downs and whatever. But my mom would tell you in
front of him, he's twelve or twelve years older than
she is. And now you know that she's her age
and he's his age. She would tell you if she
had to do over again, she wouldn't choose somebody who's
that much older because she's having just sort of you know,
(33:44):
everyone's getting older now, and it's happening for him faster
because he's older. Again, this is no slam on him,
and she's not slamming in when she's saying it. But
you know, when people look back on life, I think
it's like, well, I probably would have chosen someone my
age or younger even I mean, that's not how love works.
I guess the point I was making to her is
you fall in love with who you fall in love with,
but you know, odds are she's going to be present
(34:06):
for his aging process before hers, and that's hard to watch.
So I I see what she's saying. It just sounds
a little harsh. Hi Jenna, Hi, Hi, good morning. So
you you've been in this situation before?
Speaker 5 (34:24):
I have.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
Yeah, And I.
Speaker 6 (34:26):
Actually feel like such a horrible person with what I'm
going to say after hall of.
Speaker 9 (34:30):
These No, nobody should feel like a horrible person, like, yeah,
this might be one of our last days, you know,
for one reason or another, either the raptures coming from
one place or it's coming from another, I don't know,
but no, I mean, look, I wanted to be really
clear here, Like this guy called he was transparent.
Speaker 1 (34:49):
People are calling, They're being honest. Everyone's entitled to whatever
their limitations are or whatever they want to live their life.
And even if it doesn't sound good. I never want
to make anyone feel bad. Well I shouldn't say it.
Occasionally I want to make you feel bad for being
a moron, but not you what going to go ahead?
Speaker 12 (35:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (35:06):
So, I mean so I definitely feel like after what
I was listening to, like love is not enough all
the time, and like there's so many different fish in
the sea, and there's so many different situations that fit
for different people. So for me, you know, like I mean,
I'm a single mom, I'm dating, and I don't know,
(35:27):
I'm a foodie, like I love going out to restaurants
and eating like all different types of food. And like
the guy who you know, I was just went on
some dates with he could only eat like chicken fingers
and mazzurostics, and you know, like, I just don't know
if that's what I want for the rest of my life.
(35:49):
And I think that's okay to be like, no, that's
just not what I want. So ye, his his stuff
was limiting, and I'm I didn't take it, like I
kind of cut it off at the beginning because I
knew that wasn't right for me. But I don't know
just I mean, I think he is looking for validation,
so I want to validate him, and just being like
(36:10):
if this doesn't work for your lifestyle, just that's okay,
Like there is going to be somebody else who works
for her lifestyle and your lifestyle. And for me, just
the fact that he could only eat off the kid's menu,
you know.
Speaker 1 (36:22):
Just and Jenna, I don't I'm not putting I said
this earlier. I'll say it again and people still won't
hear it. But I'm not I'm not putting all these
things on the same level, like it's different health versus
versus lifestyle versus whatever. I'm not saying these are all
the same. But how how would you feel? And I'm
sure it's happened to you where you've met men since
you're dating and you're a single mom who has said, Hey,
(36:44):
I don't I don't necessarily I like you, but I
don't necessarily want what comes with your obligation as a parent.
I mean, how does that make you feel? Because because
you're sort of saying the same.
Speaker 6 (36:54):
Thing, thank you so much for just letting me know,
because I get it, you know, like I want someone
who wants all of those things. But just like the
girl who I was just listening to, like, yeah, maybe
prerequisites are smart, especially when you're like a little bit older.
Speaker 1 (37:12):
So you're not being a hypocrite about this, Jenna, You're
being You're open minded about the fact that people need
different things for their lives.
Speaker 6 (37:18):
Yeah, one hundred percent, you know, And I would much
rather someone be like, listen, I like you who you are,
but I'm not ready to you know, step in and
for me listen, I've got a great situation, you know.
So I'm not looking for some of this step in
and being dad, but I one hundred percent like that
comes with you know stuff, So I am much more.
(37:39):
Just let me know, because again, there are just too
many fish in the sea.
Speaker 1 (37:44):
Because you know, I think about this as a single
guy in my in my mid forties. It's like, I'm
probably not having kids of my own. The demographic, there's
a demographic of people that I would date who have
been married and have kids. And I think about that like,
I'm not opposed to one or the other. I was
that kid, right I was adopted. I was that kid
at one point. My dad chows to marry my mom
(38:04):
and then take us all in as his family and
treat us as his own. So I mean, I've been
through this, but I think about it like my life
would change drastically if I fell in love with someone
who had a kid, But like, would I limit myself
from falling in love with that person?
Speaker 3 (38:16):
I would like to believe no.
Speaker 1 (38:18):
But I mean if I'm married or dated somebody or
was with someone as a partner who didn't, then my
life looks completely different. So I don't know it's right.
But am I a bad person if I choose not
to date the person with a kid. And I don't
think I'm a bad person, but I mean, you say
it out loud, it kind of sounds bad.
Speaker 3 (38:36):
But listen, no, I mean we all have choices, right, Yeah, Jenna,
thank you. I appreciate you.
Speaker 6 (38:42):
Have a good day you too.
Speaker 1 (38:44):
Oh oh, okay, I misread that someone said. I thought
I said my wife has cancer, I'm leaving her?
Speaker 3 (38:51):
You know.
Speaker 1 (38:51):
It was what if she gets cancer? Will he leave her?
Is what it says. I misread that. I was like, oh,
oh my, we're taking this call so I canot just
i'roy this human being, but I'm not going. I don't
have to because this is that what it's said perfect.
Speaker 7 (39:03):
I think the difference is like this guy is getting
into something knowing what comes with this person. And if
you are in love with someone in marriage to them
for years and they get cancer, it's a different story.
Speaker 2 (39:14):
And I agree with the last caller. Love is not
always enough.
Speaker 7 (39:18):
You can have love, but there can be a lot
of things that come with a person that it just
doesn't work for long term.
Speaker 2 (39:23):
And that's also okay, you know
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