October 8, 2025 • 17 mins
Keke is stressed because she has to make big wedding decisions coming up! Plus, find out why Mark got ghosted on an all new Waiting by the Phone!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:33):
You tell me.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
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Speaker 3 (00:43):
Away, man, Oh my goodness.
Speaker 4 (00:44):
All right, So this is whole wedding planning thing is tough,
and I know every bride has been through this. I'm
not unique to this experience, but I am a certified
people pleaser and being a people pleaser is not going
well with this whole rhyto process. So Caitlin had to
have a little come to you know, the Lord talk
with me the other day about peak You're gonna have
(01:06):
to just make a decision and stop worrying about how
far you know, Fred is gonna have to drive, or
how you know if Ryan doesn't like Chicken and Jason
doesn't want to be She was like, you have to
just pick like lady, you know, And so I took
that into consideration.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
I think I'm getting closer.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
With the venue.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
However, it is now time to select the bridal party,
and I can't do this. I really just want to
put a filler out there. Actually, right now, this is
a message. If you think that you should be in
my bridal party, hit me up and let me know.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
I mean, I know, I mean it. So then who
else who else has a problem with it? After me?
Speaker 3 (01:42):
So you feel that you should be in Big Tim's
bridal party?
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Oh no, no, I should be in your I don't
know Big Tim because you've never introduced with Jym, so
I know. No.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
So you want to be a bride's maid?
Speaker 1 (01:53):
I do, got you. Yeah, No, that's that's obvious though,
But I don't even know what we're talking about. That.
So let's move on to other people who are disgruntled.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Well, it can't just.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
Be you, So, like, I need to know who else
wants to be in this bridal party, so that I
can make sure that I don't exclude anyone, because you know,
I was.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
A wage sister. Ryan, you're you're a photographer and personal
assistant me, I'm actually.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
His personal assistant.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
But yeah, and then I don't know who else. I mean,
that's it right. I'm sure you know some other people.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
I don't know, but I don't understand how brides narrow
this whole thing down. And Pauline, I know you've been
through this. Yeah, at your girls in their power suits,
I sure did. Was anyone left out or mad that
they didn't get a pink power suit?
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Or like, how did you make how did you make
the decision?
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Girl?
Speaker 4 (02:36):
Because I can't make a decision to save my life,
I feel like they should tell me if they want
to rock with me.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Yeah, I hear that. I don't think anybody was mad.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Nobody vocalized they were mad, and like to be honest,
like at this big age, like it's probably lowki a
bigger blessing not to be earls because I see how
much Caitlyn.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Has spend on that credit card bill.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Being a guest.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
It's very expensive and That's why I was very I
was like, Hey, we're gonna go to sheen dot com.
We're gonna get twenty nine dollars power suits and we're
gonna wear that. And I bought them like vans, like
matching fans is a gift or whatever. That's all I wanted,
right because I was like, I know this is very expensive.
But I did have a big bridal party that I
look at it. I had like what six friends and
three family members. Okay, so it's nine people on my side. Yeah,
(03:17):
so the girls in the gays with me and then
Haave I had a we had a pool, cousins and stuff, just.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
So we can like match him, you know what I mean.
So we have enough people.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Oh so he had to match your number?
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Yeah exactly, only has like two friends and so do I.
But and then he's like a lot of cousins, so
we made it work.
Speaker 4 (03:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
But yeah, you need to do whatever you This is
your day, what you want, Like, it doesn't matter who who,
how far away it is, or who gets their feelings hurt.
You get one shot at this, maybe two they'll get it,
so you don't. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks
about this.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
And everyone is saying that, but it really a wedding
is really for your guests. You want them to enjoy
the experience.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
Not okay, no, it's not a test for you.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
It's your one day to be selfish. This is the
best day of your life.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Hopefully it happens once.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Right, It's not about your guests at all.
Speaker 5 (04:04):
Zero.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
I want you all to have a good time. I
want you to enjoy yourself.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Well, if you're happy, then we should have a good time.
And that's I think people miss that and they spend
money on a bunch of crap. I've said this a
thousand times. They spend money on a bunch of crap
that they think will make their guests happy, when no
one remembers any of it, because it just needs to
reflect you and make you happy and be within your budget.
And that strets you out and it will anyway. Yeah.
(04:28):
And there's no way to choose a group of people
five or six or seven or ten or whatever. There's
no way to choose that group and not alienate someone.
It's impossible. So while that's very difficult, I'm sure, there's
just no way around it. So I think you just
have to accept the fact that someone's going to be angry.
We're old enough now that we have enough friends and
acquaintances and people who think that they play a certain
(04:49):
role in our lives, and they may be important, but
unfortunately there's only so many slots for so many things,
and so there are people who won't get invited, and
there are people who won't it won't be convenient for them.
And there are people who won't be in the wedding
party next to me, you know, who will be very
upset about it, and uh, and I'm sorry, but you
can only make the best decisions for you.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
This is true, This is true.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
But if you feel in your heart that you should
be in my bridal party, just tell me.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Now, I just do love you. You are on the list.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Thank you. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
You're right, you are on the list.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Side of but I just don't I.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Could just imagine if somebody feels like like they should
absolutely stand next to me on my day and I
don't pick them.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Oh, I don't want this smoke.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
So actually, as a guy who wants to be invited
but then doesn't want to have to go, I'm going
to your wedding. Thank you for including me and your
bridal party, I respectfully declared with me, we can do it.
I can walk around the wedding go. Yes, she asked me, Do.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
We even know we're going?
Speaker 1 (05:50):
We have not been invited by that's you too. I've
known you for eight years and something or something and
I have never met Big Tim, so so you're right,
you're very good. Point I invited? Are you even going
to tell us where it is?
Speaker 6 (06:01):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (06:02):
You guys, whatever you want, please, yes.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Just don't make me be the MC Wait. This is
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It's the Fread Show. Hey Mark, good morning, Welcome to
(06:47):
the program. How are you. Hey, guys, good morning, How
are you doing? Okay, what's going on with this woman Casey?
We got to know how you met, about any dates
you've been on, and then why you think you're being ghosted? Yeah.
Speaker 7 (06:57):
So I met Casey on one of the dating apps
that are obviously very popular, and wh she had it
for a bit. I got her number, and we're both
sort of playing the date. I'm pretty assertive, and so
I wanted to kind of get right into it and
get into a sort of a meet and greet. It's because,
you know, it's easy to get lost in the mixtause
you don't pretty much on these apps. We both lived
(07:18):
in the suburbs, so I picked a place to meet
for dinner and we had a great meal. You know,
I really felt like we had fun, and you know,
before we parted ways at the end of the night,
I suggested, Hey, what's seven dinner again? And she agreed,
she thought it was a good idea. But she hasn't
responded to me since the date. It was previously pretty
(07:40):
quick to apply to my Texas and stuff, but something
changed and I just don't know what happened.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Okay, all right, so I like it, you know, you
matched with her. It's hey, let's get right to this,
because you're right. What happens is, you know, people are
matching constantly or getting more than one match and then
trying to juggle, and then you get lost in the
process on the dating apps if you haven't been on them,
and so you're like, hey, I want to meet you.
I'm attracted to you. You seem cool. It's going a date.
You planned it, you went, you suggested the place. Even
(08:07):
I mean, this dude planned the date. It wasn't okay,
let's go out, and then what do you want to do?
And you know, and then basically make the other person
planned the date like I tend to do. But nonetheless,
all of this went well. You even asked for confirmation
at the end of the date. Am I going to
see you again? She said yes? But you're now you're
being ghosted. Now you're not getting any responses from her,
and you want to know why. That's You're right, like, the.
Speaker 7 (08:29):
Date went well, and we made a plan to see
each other again, but now I haven't heard her.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
All right, well, let's play a song Mark, we'll come
back in a couple of minutes. We'll call Casey you'll
be on the phone. We're going to see if we
can get her on the phone and ask the questions
on your behalf. You're welcome to jump in at some point,
and the hope is that we can straighten all of
this out and then set you guys up on another day,
the second date that we pay for. Okay, yeah, so good,
thank you? Hey, Mark, Yeah, let's call Casey. You guys
met on one of the apps and you planned a date.
(08:55):
You went out, you went to dinner, you thought everything
went really well. You asked on the date, Hey, you
want to go on another date? She said yeah, except
you've reached out to plan that date and she hasn't
responded to you at all. And you want to know
why you're being ghosted?
Speaker 7 (09:09):
Yes, I would love to know.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Well, let's call Casey now, Good luck, Mark. Hello, Hi
is this Casey?
Speaker 5 (09:25):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Yeah, this is she. Hi Casey, good morning. My name
is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred Show, the morning
radio show. The whole crew is here, and I do
have to tell you that we are on the radio
right now and I would need your permission to continue
with the call. Can we chat for just a couple
of minutes? You can hang up anytime, Okay, Okay, I
guess okay, well, good, thank you. I'll take it. No,
it does happen, and I'll take it as a yes.
(09:47):
But we're calling on behalf of a guy who reached
out to us. This name is Mark. I guess you
met him on one of the dating apps. You guys
had dinner recently. Do you remember meeting Mark?
Speaker 5 (09:56):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (09:58):
Yeah, I do.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Okay, Well, he called us and had nice things to
say about you, that he was excited to meet you
and planned a date. Said you guys went to dinner.
He says he asked you on the date if he
could see you again. He says that you said yes.
He then said that he's been reaching out trying to
get a hold of you and and you haven't responded
in any way. We had no trouble getting a hold
of you, So what's what's the issue?
Speaker 5 (10:19):
Yeah, no, I guess, uh, yeah, I guess he hasn't
really been getting the hints. So it's funny that.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Okay, well, why would he need why would he need
to get the hints if you told him? And I'm
not saying you did anything wrong, but you said you
wanted to see him again. So he has been reaching.
But what happened?
Speaker 5 (10:37):
Oh okay, I feel bad about that. And okay, I
guess I got Can I tell you about our date?
And I guess maybe that's like some context.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Okay, yeah, yeah, he said that you guys met in
the suburbs because you both live in the suburbs and
you met at a restaurant. Okay, so then.
Speaker 5 (10:55):
Yeah, great, Yeah, we had like a really nice banter before.
You know, he had a tract of pictures and he
took me to Olive Garden for dinner, and which is
which is fine. You know, like you know, maybe my
other first dates they're usually at non chain restaurant.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
I was gonna say, I don't I don't really hate
Olive Garden. I mean, I don't know if that's so
you're saying you're used to going to like I don't know,
neighborhood places or whatever. But anyway, he picked Olive Garden,
so you okay, yeah, he.
Speaker 5 (11:26):
Picked it like a chain, which is you know, actually
I don't have a problem with Olive Garden either. You know,
it's down to earth, it's a it's a pretty down
to earth choice for him to make, and you know,
it's good to good looking and charming. I guess it
was just a little less charming when it was time
to order. Uh, Like he went for the never Ending Possible,
(11:48):
which cool, you know that's not a big deal. Yeah,
it's great and it is.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
It's a lot of value, a lot of value there.
Yeah yeah, right, you can eat as much as you want.
K okay, all right, okay, yeah.
Speaker 5 (12:01):
So yeah, that was exactly what Mark wanted to do.
He made it clear from the start that he was
going to get his money's worse. Like, and it was
cute at first, like two three bowls, but then he
started making a scene like acting like some poks to
mob guy, like when this bowl is half empty, you
(12:21):
bring another, Okay, okay. He's very enthusiastic about this never
ending Possible. And then it's getting into like bowl six
and seven. He like went to the bathroom and came
back and tried to order three more bowls at one.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Oh wow, was a competitive eating situation, Like he he
wanted to impress you with how much he could consume.
Speaker 5 (12:49):
Yeah, I guess it was yeah, like the show boat,
he was really showboating, I guess, But I mean he's
trying to like order so much at once, and the
and the servers explaining, you know, it's just one at
a time. So I'm getting a little embarrassed. And then
fast forward two hours, like I'm I've been done eating,
(13:10):
like I can have like two bowls at most, maybe
he's on bowl number twelve or thirteen.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
You had to sit there for like another forty five
minutes an hour or whatever and watch him just like
I don't know, just I don't know whatever, to shovel
this stuff into his mouth.
Speaker 5 (13:26):
Yeah, literally shoveling, like the whole wedge of parmesan had
been had been like down to the rind. And then
he finally called it and like, I'm sorry, I was
a little disgusted. It looked like he was in pain.
It doesn't even look like he was enjoying it, really,
so you were not impressed, that's what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
It didn't turn anyone.
Speaker 6 (13:48):
Exactly, but then what maybe the exact opposite, Oh, I mean,
And then he tried to negotiate like a to go
order with the waiters and.
Speaker 5 (13:58):
Then wanted to to leave all the empty bowls so
I could take a picture of him. So I don't
know if it's like he's plus competitive it's just all lacking.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
And I forgot you mentioned that that Mark is here.
Speaker 7 (14:13):
Mark.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
You didn't mention any of the competitive eating. You didn't
mention any any of this, like seventeen bowls apasta thing
and you made us sit there and watch you do this.
You didn't mention any of that.
Speaker 7 (14:23):
Okay, Look, I can't believe that this is an issue. Okay,
it's never ending fasta. This is what you're supposed to do.
You're supposed to eat as much as you hold.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
That's what they want to do.
Speaker 7 (14:32):
Mary, Why would I not get as much as possible?
Speaker 1 (14:35):
I don't think that. I don't think that's true. I
don't think that they're anticipating that the average person on
a date is going to eat seventeen bowls of pasta.
Like I think it's sort of I don't think you're
supposed to take it that literally, right? Do you have
food out right right that it's never ending? Actually? Like,
I think it's more of like, oh wow, I can
have as much as I want, and maybe you splurge
on an extra bowl or something, but you know, it's
(14:56):
the seventeen bowls, the picture, it's it's making her watch
you do the it's then driving to negotiate the that's
a go. I mean there's kind of a lot of
layers here. What if she wanted to hook up? Like
how would you that? I mean I realized you carbo loaded,
but like you know, I mean I don't think I
could function after that?
Speaker 7 (15:12):
No, how can you not bely not be impressed with
me eating this?
Speaker 1 (15:20):
I was he was killing.
Speaker 5 (15:22):
It's just like just because you can. You never stopped
to ask why or if you should, And like seventeen
bowls is no exaggeration either, It's just like it's it's
not really a great first impression.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
I think you're not allowed at that out of garden anymore.
I think they banned you. I think you ate enough
never ending possive for the entire promotion.
Speaker 7 (15:43):
Take it off like the menu probably, I mean they
seem like they were they were enjoying me eating all
that passa. I thought you were having a good time.
I felt good in the moment, and you know, with.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
You or laughing at a certain point, I mean you
were making a spectacle, it sounds like and then ordering
people around, you know, as I don't know, and I
don't think that's date activity. It's certainly not first date activity.
Speaker 5 (16:07):
No, maybe like something you reveal to me later on
and it's like, oh wow, this is like a secret
in talent or it's just you're really enthusiastic about pacto.
Speaker 7 (16:18):
Or or deals.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Yeah, impressing, Okay, there it is. I was like, were
you trying to get a good deal or were you
trying to impress her? And he keeps bringing up that
he was trying to impress her and it didn't actually
did not impress her at all. Let me ask this
question though, Casey on his behalf, maybe we don't go
to any kind of like never ending situation, but we'll
pay for another date if you'd like to try and
(16:41):
go out with him again, and maybe he'll agree to
not competitive on the date.
Speaker 5 (16:46):
I mean it's a hard sell. It's a hard sell
because like, uh, I can't really get the image of
all the pasta sauces kind of Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
How did you feel after that? I mean that's a lot,
that's a lot of probably, I don't know, I don't
know what sauce you got, the different sauce choices, but
it's just a lot.
Speaker 5 (17:08):
Yeah, I'm pretty sure he needed some gas X and
the anti acids after like.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
How did you feel for the next couple of days.
Speaker 7 (17:17):
Look at I'm a grown guy. I like to eat,
and I felt fine. Everything went down fine, everything came
out fine, it was.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Great, Okay, good news. All right. Look, so she's not interested.
It doesn't seem so Mark. Look, I wish you the best, Casey,
thank you for your time. Good luck to you as
well out there. And maybe maybe we toned down the
sort of boasting how much we can eat on the
first date. That's my advice to you.
This is the Thread Show. Each time. Celebrate the holiday
season with Mariah Carey's Christmas Time in Las Vegas this
November twenty eight through December thirteenth, Adobe Live the Park
MGM and you could be going a trip for two
to the December twelfth show at two Night's Day at
Park MGM December twelfth through to fourteenth and round trip airfare.
(00:20):
Text Obsessed to five seven seven three nine right now
for a chance to win. A confirmation text will be
sent standard message and data rates may apply. It's all
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they say.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
You tell me.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
These are the radio blogs on the Fread Show. I
thanks for running in our diaries, except we say them
a load. We call them blogs cakeke yo, no take it.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Away, man, Oh my goodness.
Speaker 4 (00:44):
All right, So this is whole wedding planning thing is tough,
and I know every bride has been through this. I'm
not unique to this experience, but I am a certified
people pleaser and being a people pleaser is not going
well with this whole rhyto process. So Caitlin had to
have a little come to you know, the Lord talk
with me the other day about peak You're gonna have
(01:06):
to just make a decision and stop worrying about how
far you know, Fred is gonna have to drive, or
how you know if Ryan doesn't like Chicken and Jason
doesn't want to be She was like, you have to
just pick like lady, you know, And so I took
that into consideration.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
I think I'm getting closer.
Speaker 1 (01:22):
With the venue.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
However, it is now time to select the bridal party,
and I can't do this. I really just want to
put a filler out there. Actually, right now, this is
a message. If you think that you should be in
my bridal party, hit me up and let me know.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
I mean, I know, I mean it. So then who
else who else has a problem with it? After me?
Speaker 3 (01:42):
So you feel that you should be in Big Tim's
bridal party?
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Oh no, no, I should be in your I don't
know Big Tim because you've never introduced with Jym, so
I know. No.
Speaker 3 (01:52):
So you want to be a bride's maid?
Speaker 1 (01:53):
I do, got you. Yeah, No, that's that's obvious though,
But I don't even know what we're talking about. That.
So let's move on to other people who are disgruntled.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Well, it can't just.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
Be you, So, like, I need to know who else
wants to be in this bridal party, so that I
can make sure that I don't exclude anyone, because you know,
I was.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
A wage sister. Ryan, you're you're a photographer and personal
assistant me, I'm actually.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
His personal assistant.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
But yeah, and then I don't know who else. I mean,
that's it right. I'm sure you know some other people.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
I don't know, but I don't understand how brides narrow
this whole thing down. And Pauline, I know you've been
through this. Yeah, at your girls in their power suits,
I sure did. Was anyone left out or mad that
they didn't get a pink power suit?
Speaker 3 (02:33):
Or like, how did you make how did you make
the decision?
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Girl?
Speaker 4 (02:36):
Because I can't make a decision to save my life,
I feel like they should tell me if they want
to rock with me.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
Yeah, I hear that. I don't think anybody was mad.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
Nobody vocalized they were mad, and like to be honest,
like at this big age, like it's probably lowki a
bigger blessing not to be earls because I see how
much Caitlyn.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
Has spend on that credit card bill.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
Being a guest.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
It's very expensive and That's why I was very I
was like, Hey, we're gonna go to sheen dot com.
We're gonna get twenty nine dollars power suits and we're
gonna wear that. And I bought them like vans, like
matching fans is a gift or whatever. That's all I wanted,
right because I was like, I know this is very expensive.
But I did have a big bridal party that I
look at it. I had like what six friends and
three family members. Okay, so it's nine people on my side. Yeah,
(03:17):
so the girls in the gays with me and then
Haave I had a we had a pool, cousins and stuff, just.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
So we can like match him, you know what I mean.
So we have enough people.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Oh so he had to match your number?
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Yeah exactly, only has like two friends and so do I.
But and then he's like a lot of cousins, so
we made it work.
Speaker 4 (03:31):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
But yeah, you need to do whatever you This is
your day, what you want, Like, it doesn't matter who who,
how far away it is, or who gets their feelings hurt.
You get one shot at this, maybe two they'll get it,
so you don't. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks
about this.
Speaker 4 (03:48):
And everyone is saying that, but it really a wedding
is really for your guests. You want them to enjoy
the experience.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
Not okay, no, it's not a test for you.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
It's your one day to be selfish. This is the
best day of your life.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Hopefully it happens once.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Right, It's not about your guests at all.
Speaker 5 (04:04):
Zero.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
I want you all to have a good time. I
want you to enjoy yourself.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Well, if you're happy, then we should have a good time.
And that's I think people miss that and they spend
money on a bunch of crap. I've said this a
thousand times. They spend money on a bunch of crap
that they think will make their guests happy, when no
one remembers any of it, because it just needs to
reflect you and make you happy and be within your budget.
And that strets you out and it will anyway. Yeah.
(04:28):
And there's no way to choose a group of people
five or six or seven or ten or whatever. There's
no way to choose that group and not alienate someone.
It's impossible. So while that's very difficult, I'm sure, there's
just no way around it. So I think you just
have to accept the fact that someone's going to be angry.
We're old enough now that we have enough friends and
acquaintances and people who think that they play a certain
(04:49):
role in our lives, and they may be important, but
unfortunately there's only so many slots for so many things,
and so there are people who won't get invited, and
there are people who won't it won't be convenient for them.
And there are people who won't be in the wedding
party next to me, you know, who will be very
upset about it, and uh, and I'm sorry, but you
can only make the best decisions for you.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
This is true, This is true.
Speaker 4 (05:11):
But if you feel in your heart that you should
be in my bridal party, just tell me.
Speaker 3 (05:15):
Now, I just do love you. You are on the list.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Thank you. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
You're right, you are on the list.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
Side of but I just don't I.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Could just imagine if somebody feels like like they should
absolutely stand next to me on my day and I
don't pick them.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Oh, I don't want this smoke.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
So actually, as a guy who wants to be invited
but then doesn't want to have to go, I'm going
to your wedding. Thank you for including me and your
bridal party, I respectfully declared with me, we can do it.
I can walk around the wedding go. Yes, she asked me, Do.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
We even know we're going?
Speaker 1 (05:50):
We have not been invited by that's you too. I've
known you for eight years and something or something and
I have never met Big Tim, so so you're right,
you're very good. Point I invited? Are you even going
to tell us where it is?
Speaker 6 (06:01):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (06:02):
You guys, whatever you want, please, yes.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
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(06:47):
the program. How are you. Hey, guys, good morning, How
are you doing? Okay, what's going on with this woman Casey?
We got to know how you met, about any dates
you've been on, and then why you think you're being ghosted? Yeah.
Speaker 7 (06:57):
So I met Casey on one of the dating apps
that are obviously very popular, and wh she had it
for a bit. I got her number, and we're both
sort of playing the date. I'm pretty assertive, and so
I wanted to kind of get right into it and
get into a sort of a meet and greet. It's because,
you know, it's easy to get lost in the mixtause
you don't pretty much on these apps. We both lived
(07:18):
in the suburbs, so I picked a place to meet
for dinner and we had a great meal. You know,
I really felt like we had fun, and you know,
before we parted ways at the end of the night,
I suggested, Hey, what's seven dinner again? And she agreed,
she thought it was a good idea. But she hasn't
responded to me since the date. It was previously pretty
(07:40):
quick to apply to my Texas and stuff, but something
changed and I just don't know what happened.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Okay, all right, so I like it, you know, you
matched with her. It's hey, let's get right to this,
because you're right. What happens is, you know, people are
matching constantly or getting more than one match and then
trying to juggle, and then you get lost in the
process on the dating apps if you haven't been on them,
and so you're like, hey, I want to meet you.
I'm attracted to you. You seem cool. It's going a date.
You planned it, you went, you suggested the place. Even
(08:07):
I mean, this dude planned the date. It wasn't okay,
let's go out, and then what do you want to do?
And you know, and then basically make the other person
planned the date like I tend to do. But nonetheless,
all of this went well. You even asked for confirmation
at the end of the date. Am I going to
see you again? She said yes? But you're now you're
being ghosted. Now you're not getting any responses from her,
and you want to know why. That's You're right, like, the.
Speaker 7 (08:29):
Date went well, and we made a plan to see
each other again, but now I haven't heard her.
Speaker 1 (08:33):
All right, well, let's play a song Mark, we'll come
back in a couple of minutes. We'll call Casey you'll
be on the phone. We're going to see if we
can get her on the phone and ask the questions
on your behalf. You're welcome to jump in at some point,
and the hope is that we can straighten all of
this out and then set you guys up on another day,
the second date that we pay for. Okay, yeah, so good,
thank you? Hey, Mark, Yeah, let's call Casey. You guys
met on one of the apps and you planned a date.
(08:55):
You went out, you went to dinner, you thought everything
went really well. You asked on the date, Hey, you
want to go on another date? She said yeah, except
you've reached out to plan that date and she hasn't
responded to you at all. And you want to know
why you're being ghosted?
Speaker 7 (09:09):
Yes, I would love to know.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Well, let's call Casey now, Good luck, Mark. Hello, Hi
is this Casey?
Speaker 5 (09:25):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Yeah, this is she. Hi Casey, good morning. My name
is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred Show, the morning
radio show. The whole crew is here, and I do
have to tell you that we are on the radio
right now and I would need your permission to continue
with the call. Can we chat for just a couple
of minutes? You can hang up anytime, Okay, Okay, I
guess okay, well, good, thank you. I'll take it. No,
it does happen, and I'll take it as a yes.
(09:47):
But we're calling on behalf of a guy who reached
out to us. This name is Mark. I guess you
met him on one of the dating apps. You guys
had dinner recently. Do you remember meeting Mark?
Speaker 5 (09:56):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (09:58):
Yeah, I do.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
Okay, Well, he called us and had nice things to
say about you, that he was excited to meet you
and planned a date. Said you guys went to dinner.
He says he asked you on the date if he
could see you again. He says that you said yes.
He then said that he's been reaching out trying to
get a hold of you and and you haven't responded
in any way. We had no trouble getting a hold
of you, So what's what's the issue?
Speaker 5 (10:19):
Yeah, no, I guess, uh, yeah, I guess he hasn't
really been getting the hints. So it's funny that.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Okay, well, why would he need why would he need
to get the hints if you told him? And I'm
not saying you did anything wrong, but you said you
wanted to see him again. So he has been reaching.
But what happened?
Speaker 5 (10:37):
Oh okay, I feel bad about that. And okay, I
guess I got Can I tell you about our date?
And I guess maybe that's like some context.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Okay, yeah, yeah, he said that you guys met in
the suburbs because you both live in the suburbs and
you met at a restaurant. Okay, so then.
Speaker 5 (10:55):
Yeah, great, Yeah, we had like a really nice banter before.
You know, he had a tract of pictures and he
took me to Olive Garden for dinner, and which is
which is fine. You know, like you know, maybe my
other first dates they're usually at non chain restaurant.
Speaker 1 (11:10):
I was gonna say, I don't I don't really hate
Olive Garden. I mean, I don't know if that's so
you're saying you're used to going to like I don't know,
neighborhood places or whatever. But anyway, he picked Olive Garden,
so you okay, yeah, he.
Speaker 5 (11:26):
Picked it like a chain, which is you know, actually
I don't have a problem with Olive Garden either. You know,
it's down to earth, it's a it's a pretty down
to earth choice for him to make, and you know,
it's good to good looking and charming. I guess it
was just a little less charming when it was time
to order. Uh, Like he went for the never Ending Possible,
(11:48):
which cool, you know that's not a big deal. Yeah,
it's great and it is.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
It's a lot of value, a lot of value there.
Yeah yeah, right, you can eat as much as you want.
K okay, all right, okay, yeah.
Speaker 5 (12:01):
So yeah, that was exactly what Mark wanted to do.
He made it clear from the start that he was
going to get his money's worse. Like, and it was
cute at first, like two three bowls, but then he
started making a scene like acting like some poks to
mob guy, like when this bowl is half empty, you
(12:21):
bring another, Okay, okay. He's very enthusiastic about this never
ending Possible. And then it's getting into like bowl six
and seven. He like went to the bathroom and came
back and tried to order three more bowls at one.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Oh wow, was a competitive eating situation, Like he he
wanted to impress you with how much he could consume.
Speaker 5 (12:49):
Yeah, I guess it was yeah, like the show boat,
he was really showboating, I guess, But I mean he's
trying to like order so much at once, and the
and the servers explaining, you know, it's just one at
a time. So I'm getting a little embarrassed. And then
fast forward two hours, like I'm I've been done eating,
(13:10):
like I can have like two bowls at most, maybe
he's on bowl number twelve or thirteen.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
You had to sit there for like another forty five
minutes an hour or whatever and watch him just like
I don't know, just I don't know whatever, to shovel
this stuff into his mouth.
Speaker 5 (13:26):
Yeah, literally shoveling, like the whole wedge of parmesan had
been had been like down to the rind. And then
he finally called it and like, I'm sorry, I was
a little disgusted. It looked like he was in pain.
It doesn't even look like he was enjoying it, really,
so you were not impressed, that's what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
It didn't turn anyone.
Speaker 6 (13:48):
Exactly, but then what maybe the exact opposite, Oh, I mean,
And then he tried to negotiate like a to go
order with the waiters and.
Speaker 5 (13:58):
Then wanted to to leave all the empty bowls so
I could take a picture of him. So I don't
know if it's like he's plus competitive it's just all lacking.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
And I forgot you mentioned that that Mark is here.
Speaker 7 (14:13):
Mark.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
You didn't mention any of the competitive eating. You didn't
mention any any of this, like seventeen bowls apasta thing
and you made us sit there and watch you do this.
You didn't mention any of that.
Speaker 7 (14:23):
Okay, Look, I can't believe that this is an issue. Okay,
it's never ending fasta. This is what you're supposed to do.
You're supposed to eat as much as you hold.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
That's what they want to do.
Speaker 7 (14:32):
Mary, Why would I not get as much as possible?
Speaker 1 (14:35):
I don't think that. I don't think that's true. I
don't think that they're anticipating that the average person on
a date is going to eat seventeen bowls of pasta.
Like I think it's sort of I don't think you're
supposed to take it that literally, right? Do you have
food out right right that it's never ending? Actually? Like,
I think it's more of like, oh wow, I can
have as much as I want, and maybe you splurge
on an extra bowl or something, but you know, it's
(14:56):
the seventeen bowls, the picture, it's it's making her watch
you do the it's then driving to negotiate the that's
a go. I mean there's kind of a lot of
layers here. What if she wanted to hook up? Like
how would you that? I mean I realized you carbo loaded,
but like you know, I mean I don't think I
could function after that?
Speaker 7 (15:12):
No, how can you not bely not be impressed with
me eating this?
Speaker 1 (15:20):
I was he was killing.
Speaker 5 (15:22):
It's just like just because you can. You never stopped
to ask why or if you should, And like seventeen
bowls is no exaggeration either, It's just like it's it's
not really a great first impression.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
I think you're not allowed at that out of garden anymore.
I think they banned you. I think you ate enough
never ending possive for the entire promotion.
Speaker 7 (15:43):
Take it off like the menu probably, I mean they
seem like they were they were enjoying me eating all
that passa. I thought you were having a good time.
I felt good in the moment, and you know, with.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
You or laughing at a certain point, I mean you
were making a spectacle, it sounds like and then ordering
people around, you know, as I don't know, and I
don't think that's date activity. It's certainly not first date activity.
Speaker 5 (16:07):
No, maybe like something you reveal to me later on
and it's like, oh wow, this is like a secret
in talent or it's just you're really enthusiastic about pacto.
Speaker 7 (16:18):
Or or deals.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Yeah, impressing, Okay, there it is. I was like, were
you trying to get a good deal or were you
trying to impress her? And he keeps bringing up that
he was trying to impress her and it didn't actually
did not impress her at all. Let me ask this
question though, Casey on his behalf, maybe we don't go
to any kind of like never ending situation, but we'll
pay for another date if you'd like to try and
(16:41):
go out with him again, and maybe he'll agree to
not competitive on the date.
Speaker 5 (16:46):
I mean it's a hard sell. It's a hard sell
because like, uh, I can't really get the image of
all the pasta sauces kind of Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
How did you feel after that? I mean that's a lot,
that's a lot of probably, I don't know, I don't
know what sauce you got, the different sauce choices, but
it's just a lot.
Speaker 5 (17:08):
Yeah, I'm pretty sure he needed some gas X and
the anti acids after like.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
How did you feel for the next couple of days.
Speaker 7 (17:17):
Look at I'm a grown guy. I like to eat,
and I felt fine. Everything went down fine, everything came
out fine, it was.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Great, Okay, good news. All right. Look, so she's not interested.
It doesn't seem so Mark. Look, I wish you the best, Casey,
thank you for your time. Good luck to you as
well out there. And maybe maybe we toned down the
sort of boasting how much we can eat on the
first date. That's my advice to you.
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