September 24, 2025 • 9 mins
Fred goes down the Reddit rabbit hole and a user posted that they were hitting it off with someone, but the only issue is that she's hooked up with his brother years ago. Fred asks the 13 if she's obligated to tell her new boo!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
There was a scenario for morality Monday on a Wednesday.
We've had a lot of morality this week, and I
like it. But for whatever reason, if you're on Reddit
and you read these things, they come and go quickly.
I don't know why, people like take them down or
they get deleted or I don't know why. So I
don't I can't read you the exact scenario, but I
want to know what you guys would do. And I
think maybe some of you have been through something like this,
(00:21):
but eight five five five, three to five, you can
context the same number. But essentially, it was a woman
who and I'm paraphrasing because they don't have it in
front of me anymore, but she was saying that years
and years and years ago, she hooked up with a
guy who had brothers, hooked up with him, very casual,
no big deal whatever. Years later, she runs into another
(00:46):
one of the brothers, who she didn't think much of
at the time, didn't really know him, got to know
him a little bit, they kind of started to have
feelings for each other and maybe it's going somewhere. She's
not sure if it's going somewhere yet, but like, maybe
it's going so we're more substantial, not a hookup, but
like an actual dating situation. And the question is, do you,
(01:06):
if you're in that situation, come clean. Do you immediately
say to this person who you might be developing something with,
I hooked up with your brother a bunch of years ago.
Do you assume that he already knows. Do you assume
he doesn't know? Do you not say anything at all
because it's not really relevant and it might sort of
take things off track. You know, like if I had
(01:28):
a brother and I didn't know that some woman ten
years ago or five years ago hooked up with him,
and then I kind of start to see this and
reconnect with her, and I'm like, oh, that's cool. Only
to find out that my brother hooked up I might
just stop liking I mean, I'm being honest. I might
just be like, I don't, I'm not. I'm not going
to fall in love with somebody. I don't. I don't
want to. I don't want that commonality. I don't want
my brother standing up there at my wedding being like, yeah,
(01:51):
I slept with his wife, Like I just don't want
that in my life. And that might be very immature
of me, and I might be missing out of something
really good. But I'm just being honest. I don't. But
I also wouldn't want to necessarily marry someone only to
find out later or fall in love with someone. And
then there was this information out there that somebody could
have shared with me, and then at least I could have,
you know, dealt with it on my own. Now I
almost feel trapped. I'm like, wait a minute, So now
(02:14):
I have all these deep feelings for this person, but
then there's this information I didn't know that. I think
I should have known. What would you guys do in
this situation or have you been in this situation before?
What would you do? Kiki?
Speaker 2 (02:24):
You don't don't let one brother stop you from finding
a husband, okay, the world is small.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Or wife, yeah you know, or husband or husband in
this case husband yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
But I do think you should be very upfront with it,
you know, like, so the moment I think you and
I are going to take this to the next level. Hey,
so back in the day, I gave you brother some cat,
just letting you know, just throwing it out.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
I didn't save the cat, you know, I wear the shirt,
but I certainly didn't.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I think you should tail that part and then move on.
Yeah I shouldn't, you know, stop.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
You, but you could derail the whole thing from the
very beginning. Something that a situation that didn't matter to
you at all in the long run. But this might,
you know, you have a different feeling about this, but
that might. The new thing may never happen if you
reveal the old thing that didn't matter.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
That's on honesty. You gotta be honest going into a
situation because I don't want to six months down the
line throw that on you or you find out some
way that wasn't for me.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
That's really messed up.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
So I rather tell you upfront, let you process that,
deal with it, and decide if we're going to keep
moving forward.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
But I don't, you know, I don't like a secret.
But what if he already knew and he just doesn't
really want to, He doesn't really want to, you know,
dig that up again. Like they're brothers, right, So there's
a good chance he knows, and for her to bring
it up again would be like, yeah, I already knew that,
Like I really don't want to relive that, you know.
So there's a chance that he's already informed. And what
(03:45):
difference does it make. Honestly, because I'm playing Devil's advocate here,
I would want to know. But what difference does it make? Really?
Like it it didn't change the course of time by
any means. It was insignificant. There are other people before you,
you know what I mean, Like you didn't. I mean,
I guess you knew me, but you didn't know me
know me back then, So it wasn't like you chose
him over me. So it's not it's not really relevant
(04:06):
to the course of history.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Oh, it's relevant. I need you to tell me if
you hooked up with my sister, I need you to
tell me that.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
She needs to tell the guy. Uh. Someone else said yeah,
I mean the universally, you got to tell the person. Yeah.
To Chase, you can tell the person you don't want
to live with that, like you don't want to like oh,
like to me, it's like you're living forever with like
something that you probably want to make sure your partner knows,
but they may not know. Like that's really hard to stomach. Forever.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
First of all, I have hooked up with brothers okay,
and they knew, they both knew, but one of them
was only a makeout and one of them was a
little more and they were fine with it, so as
was I.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
It was a long time separated.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
One was in high school and the rest was later
in life, so but everybody was aware. Yeah, And also I.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Think it's on the brother to say something.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
If you see your sibling getting dating someone that you
hooked up with, you need to tell.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Someone needs to tell them. But it should on your
blood to tell that. I'm like, that's weird, interesting, interesting take. Yeah, no, no, no,
you're right, like I shouldn't have to be the one
to tell on myself, or do you just just no
one ever say anything and you just sort of apolonia?
Hi Hi, Hi, So you tell you gotta tell You're saying, yes, I.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Will tell him because the family function and bump into
which at some point he going to find out anyway
as well, you'll tell him.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
That could make the family function very weird. And by
family function, I mean the wedding. You could make the
wedding very weird.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
Not too because I remember in one episode you guys
have the Brooms came on talking about how you stuff
with the with the wife verse or something had one.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
We've had a lot of episodes of Bologna. So I
don't know. I don't know who specifically that which episode
that was, but yeah, no, it could be. Okay, so
you would want to know, you would want to know
what yourself, Yes, that was.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
You would tell if a figure it, sucially if a
figure out that they're related, Yes, because because at some
point the feeling when we start dating and falling in
love is then it's gonna be a problem between the
family them. I not talk anymore. The brother might talk,
not talking about make fun of the relationship iever I've gone.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Yeah, yeah, I know would be very complicated. Yeah, thank you,
have a good day.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
One second. One second, my daughter want to say high.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Please, Hey, let's just have it. Yeah, Hi, Hi? What
is your name?
Speaker 5 (06:36):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (06:36):
My name is Belle.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Belle. How old are you?
Speaker 4 (06:40):
I'm thirteen?
Speaker 1 (06:40):
You're thirteen? Okay, and you're in You're in Raleigh, right, Durham.
Oh you're in Durham. My bad? How dare I I?
How dare I make that assumption? I'm sorry? And where
are you going to school?
Speaker 4 (06:53):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
George L. Carrington Middle School? All right? What's the mascot?
The mascot it's a huge cougar. It's a huge cougar.
It's not a small cougar. It's a big one. Yeah, no,
it has to we need a big cougar obviously. Hey guys,
thank you so much for listening. Have a great day,
glad anyone else in the cars that everybody make sure
I say how to everybody? Well, thank you for listening.
(07:15):
We appreciate that. I think for me, the timing is
the issue though, because if you say something up front,
then nothing may happen. If you say something once feelings emerge,
then the person could be like, wait minute, you let
me fall in love with you, Like we got this far.
You didn't tell me about the little stick and move
with my brother, you know what I mean? Like, so
when do you do it exactly?
Speaker 3 (07:33):
You can't trap someone though, like you have to give
them all the info up front.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Yeah I get that, but but it may prevent.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
You're going to fall in love with me, So I
need to tell you.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
You know, it may thwart anything from developing though. You
may ruin it from the start. It's not your personal
You don't tell them.
Speaker 5 (07:50):
Never no, and then you use it where you pen
for the last ten minutes all the sudden, Now we
gotta go and all this stood on TV. I get
or something that's going on now all of a sudden,
now you got to completely opposite take him everyone else.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Ten minutes later, here comes Paulina. I wouldn't say nothing.
The reason, welcome to the program.
Speaker 6 (08:11):
The reason I wouldn't tell is because I would use
his AMMO later. You gotta use his AMMO if we
get into a fight.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Wait, wait, come on, that's the reason that you're not
telling is because you want to be able to drop
a bomb and really hurt him. Talk only married one
and you know what she's doing something right?
Speaker 5 (08:31):
Right?
Speaker 1 (08:32):
My god, Hobvey, do I understand your life? Do you
get it now? What is so messed up?
Speaker 2 (08:37):
I know what you have.
Speaker 6 (08:38):
You have to always have AMMO in your pocket. You
gotta have like just like, I'm ready for this, because
you never know what people are gonna do to you.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
So you'll be like, that's why I slept with your brother,
That's why he was better.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Oh, I would be sliding down the wall. Sometimes I
think I'm a bad person, and then I think about
moments like this. Then I realized I'm hair would fall,
the raptures coming, and I'm going with it. So more
fresh show next
There was a scenario for morality Monday on a Wednesday.
We've had a lot of morality this week, and I
like it. But for whatever reason, if you're on Reddit
and you read these things, they come and go quickly.
I don't know why, people like take them down or
they get deleted or I don't know why. So I
don't I can't read you the exact scenario, but I
want to know what you guys would do. And I
think maybe some of you have been through something like this,
(00:21):
but eight five five five, three to five, you can
context the same number. But essentially, it was a woman
who and I'm paraphrasing because they don't have it in
front of me anymore, but she was saying that years
and years and years ago, she hooked up with a
guy who had brothers, hooked up with him, very casual,
no big deal whatever. Years later, she runs into another
(00:46):
one of the brothers, who she didn't think much of
at the time, didn't really know him, got to know
him a little bit, they kind of started to have
feelings for each other and maybe it's going somewhere. She's
not sure if it's going somewhere yet, but like, maybe
it's going so we're more substantial, not a hookup, but
like an actual dating situation. And the question is, do you,
(01:06):
if you're in that situation, come clean. Do you immediately
say to this person who you might be developing something with,
I hooked up with your brother a bunch of years ago.
Do you assume that he already knows. Do you assume
he doesn't know? Do you not say anything at all
because it's not really relevant and it might sort of
take things off track. You know, like if I had
(01:28):
a brother and I didn't know that some woman ten
years ago or five years ago hooked up with him,
and then I kind of start to see this and
reconnect with her, and I'm like, oh, that's cool. Only
to find out that my brother hooked up I might
just stop liking I mean, I'm being honest. I might
just be like, I don't, I'm not. I'm not going
to fall in love with somebody. I don't. I don't
want to. I don't want that commonality. I don't want
my brother standing up there at my wedding being like, yeah,
(01:51):
I slept with his wife, Like I just don't want
that in my life. And that might be very immature
of me, and I might be missing out of something
really good. But I'm just being honest. I don't. But
I also wouldn't want to necessarily marry someone only to
find out later or fall in love with someone. And
then there was this information out there that somebody could
have shared with me, and then at least I could have,
you know, dealt with it on my own. Now I
almost feel trapped. I'm like, wait a minute, So now
(02:14):
I have all these deep feelings for this person, but
then there's this information I didn't know that. I think
I should have known. What would you guys do in
this situation or have you been in this situation before?
What would you do? Kiki?
Speaker 2 (02:24):
You don't don't let one brother stop you from finding
a husband, okay, the world is small.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Or wife, yeah you know, or husband or husband in
this case husband yeah yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
But I do think you should be very upfront with it,
you know, like, so the moment I think you and
I are going to take this to the next level. Hey,
so back in the day, I gave you brother some cat,
just letting you know, just throwing it out.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
I didn't save the cat, you know, I wear the shirt,
but I certainly didn't.
Speaker 2 (02:47):
I think you should tail that part and then move on.
Yeah I shouldn't, you know, stop.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
You, but you could derail the whole thing from the
very beginning. Something that a situation that didn't matter to
you at all in the long run. But this might,
you know, you have a different feeling about this, but
that might. The new thing may never happen if you
reveal the old thing that didn't matter.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
That's on honesty. You gotta be honest going into a
situation because I don't want to six months down the
line throw that on you or you find out some
way that wasn't for me.
Speaker 1 (03:19):
That's really messed up.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
So I rather tell you upfront, let you process that,
deal with it, and decide if we're going to keep
moving forward.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
But I don't, you know, I don't like a secret.
But what if he already knew and he just doesn't
really want to, He doesn't really want to, you know,
dig that up again. Like they're brothers, right, So there's
a good chance he knows, and for her to bring
it up again would be like, yeah, I already knew that,
Like I really don't want to relive that, you know.
So there's a chance that he's already informed. And what
(03:45):
difference does it make. Honestly, because I'm playing Devil's advocate here,
I would want to know. But what difference does it make? Really?
Like it it didn't change the course of time by
any means. It was insignificant. There are other people before you,
you know what I mean, Like you didn't. I mean,
I guess you knew me, but you didn't know me
know me back then, So it wasn't like you chose
him over me. So it's not it's not really relevant
(04:06):
to the course of history.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
Oh, it's relevant. I need you to tell me if
you hooked up with my sister, I need you to
tell me that.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
She needs to tell the guy. Uh. Someone else said yeah,
I mean the universally, you got to tell the person. Yeah.
To Chase, you can tell the person you don't want
to live with that, like you don't want to like oh,
like to me, it's like you're living forever with like
something that you probably want to make sure your partner knows,
but they may not know. Like that's really hard to stomach. Forever.
Speaker 3 (04:34):
First of all, I have hooked up with brothers okay,
and they knew, they both knew, but one of them
was only a makeout and one of them was a
little more and they were fine with it, so as
was I.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
It was a long time separated.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
One was in high school and the rest was later
in life, so but everybody was aware. Yeah, And also I.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
Think it's on the brother to say something.
Speaker 3 (04:54):
If you see your sibling getting dating someone that you
hooked up with, you need to tell.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Someone needs to tell them. But it should on your
blood to tell that. I'm like, that's weird, interesting, interesting take. Yeah, no, no, no,
you're right, like I shouldn't have to be the one
to tell on myself, or do you just just no
one ever say anything and you just sort of apolonia?
Hi Hi, Hi, So you tell you gotta tell You're saying, yes, I.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
Will tell him because the family function and bump into
which at some point he going to find out anyway
as well, you'll tell him.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
That could make the family function very weird. And by
family function, I mean the wedding. You could make the
wedding very weird.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
Not too because I remember in one episode you guys
have the Brooms came on talking about how you stuff
with the with the wife verse or something had one.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
We've had a lot of episodes of Bologna. So I
don't know. I don't know who specifically that which episode
that was, but yeah, no, it could be. Okay, so
you would want to know, you would want to know
what yourself, Yes, that was.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
You would tell if a figure it, sucially if a
figure out that they're related, Yes, because because at some
point the feeling when we start dating and falling in
love is then it's gonna be a problem between the
family them. I not talk anymore. The brother might talk,
not talking about make fun of the relationship iever I've gone.
Speaker 1 (06:21):
Yeah, yeah, I know would be very complicated. Yeah, thank you,
have a good day.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
One second. One second, my daughter want to say high.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Please, Hey, let's just have it. Yeah, Hi, Hi? What
is your name?
Speaker 5 (06:36):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (06:36):
My name is Belle.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
Belle. How old are you?
Speaker 4 (06:40):
I'm thirteen?
Speaker 1 (06:40):
You're thirteen? Okay, and you're in You're in Raleigh, right, Durham.
Oh you're in Durham. My bad? How dare I I?
How dare I make that assumption? I'm sorry? And where
are you going to school?
Speaker 4 (06:53):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
George L. Carrington Middle School? All right? What's the mascot?
The mascot it's a huge cougar. It's a huge cougar.
It's not a small cougar. It's a big one. Yeah, no,
it has to we need a big cougar obviously. Hey guys,
thank you so much for listening. Have a great day,
glad anyone else in the cars that everybody make sure
I say how to everybody? Well, thank you for listening.
(07:15):
We appreciate that. I think for me, the timing is
the issue though, because if you say something up front,
then nothing may happen. If you say something once feelings emerge,
then the person could be like, wait minute, you let
me fall in love with you, Like we got this far.
You didn't tell me about the little stick and move
with my brother, you know what I mean? Like, so
when do you do it exactly?
Speaker 3 (07:33):
You can't trap someone though, like you have to give
them all the info up front.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
Yeah I get that, but but it may prevent.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
You're going to fall in love with me, So I
need to tell you.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
You know, it may thwart anything from developing though. You
may ruin it from the start. It's not your personal
You don't tell them.
Speaker 5 (07:50):
Never no, and then you use it where you pen
for the last ten minutes all the sudden, Now we
gotta go and all this stood on TV. I get
or something that's going on now all of a sudden,
now you got to completely opposite take him everyone else.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Ten minutes later, here comes Paulina. I wouldn't say nothing.
The reason, welcome to the program.
Speaker 6 (08:11):
The reason I wouldn't tell is because I would use
his AMMO later. You gotta use his AMMO if we
get into a fight.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
Wait, wait, come on, that's the reason that you're not
telling is because you want to be able to drop
a bomb and really hurt him. Talk only married one
and you know what she's doing something right?
Speaker 5 (08:31):
Right?
Speaker 1 (08:32):
My god, Hobvey, do I understand your life? Do you
get it now? What is so messed up?
Speaker 2 (08:37):
I know what you have.
Speaker 6 (08:38):
You have to always have AMMO in your pocket. You
gotta have like just like, I'm ready for this, because
you never know what people are gonna do to you.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
So you'll be like, that's why I slept with your brother,
That's why he was better.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
Oh, I would be sliding down the wall. Sometimes I
think I'm a bad person, and then I think about
moments like this. Then I realized I'm hair would fall,
the raptures coming, and I'm going with it. So more
fresh show next
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