October 23, 2025 • 16 mins
The average cost ot be a bridesmaid is $2,000!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the Bread Show each time. Celebrate the holiday
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thanks to Live Nation. So this will make some of
you laugh in the room, I think. But being a
bridesmaid hope. So Boy is now costing us women as
(00:42):
much as rent yep, and that sounds a little low
based on the things I've heard around here, fifteen hundred
to twenty five hundred dollars on average for local weddings,
this is more realistic. And then for destination weddings that
member can jump to between three and five thousand dollars.
The average rent monthly rent in the US two thousand dollars.
So basically, for a local wedding, to be a bridesmaid,
(01:04):
you spend as much as you do on your rent
just said, there's a math math on that issue.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
A trigger warning before you, that's.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
What I just said. Well, what I just said was
I think you're gonna laugh when I say this laugh.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
I was ready to have some fun.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
That was my warning to you.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Yeah, no, I'm none of this is funny. As Jason
said one day, I think it was Jason. I don't
know who said that, but none of this is funny.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Is it right? I mean, I don't know. I've never
been a bridesmaid, not yet at leastad Okay, so.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
You obviously don't know how I deal with my problems
because I also have a ton of unread emails, not workwise,
but for other emails, and I don't ever calculate how
much it costs me in total.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I don't want to be hurt in that way, you know, So.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
You have no idea. Maybe that's why you don't have
any money what you spent. Well, no, you just said
about ten seconds ago the way, I have zero dollars, So.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
That's why I was, Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
But when you called yourself a broken so I'm not
saying I don't know how much that might be why.
I mean, who knows. Maybe people are coming and taking
money from you left and right. You don't even know.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Well, in your like logic, I got to pay it
either way, So why am I going to calculate the
total and hurt my own feelings. I got to pay
it off somehow, so I know, I just want to
get the number to zero.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Well, I guess if I don't have any if I
don't have enough money, then I might tell someone like,
I'm not going to do that.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
I would never dare oh someone down in that way.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
I let someone down. So what are the expenses? How
are you letting someone down in your spending being a bridesmaid?
Speaker 3 (02:29):
I just think it's an honor to be asked. I
know I might be in the minority.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Which is than just whatever I'm asking, though I'm not judging.
I don't know the answers. So then anything, anything they
say they want, then you just buy it because you've
been asked, because it's an honor. Yeah, I don't know
how it works. I don't know what you're expected to do.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Yeah, I've never been in a situation where it's like
I want this, I want that, But certainly there are expectations,
at least that we've set amongst our friend group, and
there's usually a bachelorette trip, there's you know, and there's
a certain way that we do it in our friend group.
You really don't pay for anything but your own flight
of Like, it's just how we do it. And I
would hope that people would do it for me. I mean,
(03:05):
I would be conscious of it.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
But it sounds like you should get married just to
get your money back.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
Well, Hillary and I think I've talked about this on
the show. Hillary and I Hot Hillary as we call her,
have discussed, like actually discussed, not joking, having a bachelorette
party joint and taking our front and they just have
to celebrate us in that way because both of us
may never get married.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I don't think that's a bad idea. In fact, I'm
starting to think now who all I I had to
you know, do things for in that regard, Like whose
weddings have I stood in and had to go to
bachelor parties and things like that? Or excuse me, I
had the honor of being asked to go to a
bachelor guards honor? Is that weird to say no? It's
not that it's not an honor to be in, No,
(03:46):
one's saying it's not an honor to be in a
wedding party. I think what I'm saying is it's not
necessarily because of that honor that I'm going to go
broke trying to make you happy on your bachelor party.
That's what I'm saying. If I don't have the money,
I can't spend it. That's just like if you, like,
we're going to SANCHOPEI I'd be like, we're not or
for you? Are I mean, I don't know. I guess
(04:07):
the honor can extend to like, I'm your friend. I've
done enough for you that you're asking me to be
in it, So I'm gonna do the best I can.
But I'm also going to stand there and support you,
which I thought was the point. Not necessarily the beach vacation.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Yeah, No one's asking for it to be an honor.
It's just how I personally view it, and I'm just
willing to do whatever.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Yeah that's yah.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Well I'm not that sweet thing, I guess.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
No, I probably won't be in any weddings at this
point in my life because I'm thirty three. Honestly, now,
my friends really got married like that, except for me
like I've never been in a wedding, Like I've been
a flower girl once and that's it, and that was
for my cousin. I think it was like last year yea, yeah, yeah,
literally last year was by default. They're like, you got
to be in this, I guess, and I'm like, I
guess I got it because we're family. But I've never
been asked. But when I had my wedding, I truly
(04:51):
try to be like the Chillis bride. It could be
because well, I was pregnant, I couldn't do much. But
I also felt like I didn't want to do the
whole beach vacation in Kenkun or wherever, like the other
spot that to Loom or whatever, because I'm like, I
know it's going to cost a lot of money, and
I'm already asking you guys to be a part of this.
I know, just to get to the wedding. It's going
to cost you money, you.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Know, Yeah, for a destination wedding. I would understand why
you would take that into consideration.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
I don't know that I paid. We paid for food.
I think we paid for hotel. The last bachelor party
I went to, I don't think we paid we didn't
pay for his flight.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
We don't pay for flights. That's like how we do it.
We pay for everything else.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, But I mean, I think if
someone in the group hadn't been able to afford it,
or didn't have the money, or it was too extreme,
then we would have figured that out. You know what
I mean? I guess, I guess no one. I'm honored
that you asked me to be part of that group,
especially because most of the people in that group had
known each other a lot longer in this particular group
than I had known them, So it was nice to
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have been included in that. I wasn't in the wedding.
I was invited at the bachelor party. I wasn't invited.
I don't. I don't know that anyone was standing up there.
I don't know. I didn't go to the wedding. I
couldn't go, But anyway, I guess I didn't. That was
the honor for me. It was the gesture. The rest
of it was, I was not asked to stand in
my brother in law's wedding party, and I also wasn't
asked to go to the bachelor party. I love the guy,
(06:04):
but Shenanigan's. I want to know what sort of low
rent strippers were there, That's what I want to know.
I want to know what was going on at this
bachelor party that I couldn't see as the brother of
the bride.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Yeah, Amanda's nice because I would have forced you to go.
Speaker 5 (06:18):
Yeah, me too, literally, like I would have all my
spies at Timothy's bachelor right.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
That's right, girl.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
But we've talked about this before. I was not the
least benefendive. I would have found it disingenuous if he
had asked me to be in his wedding party because
I didn't know him that well. I'd only known him
for like a year. So you're saying, if you've only
got seven or eight spots, because I think it was
supposed to be even on both sides, and Amanda obviously
drove that, then I take the spot of somebody that
(06:43):
you've known since childhood because I'm the brother, Like, no.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
You're the exactly, you're the new brother.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
No people standing up there should be the closest people
to you. And you know, I officiated the wedding, which
was also my sister's idea, which was very nice. But
if I hadn't been included, it wouldn't upset me at all.
I should not take a spot. He was in a band.
He toured the entire country for years with five of
these people. The band broke up, so the White Arms
(07:13):
of Athena are no longer with us. But that being said,
I wouldn't have been least offended because again, like I
can come up right now with five, six, seven guys
that I would ask, and I could probably come up
with twenty honestly that would stand up there right. So
then my future bride, let's say I'm not all that
close with the brother I haven't really met that, I've
only met the brother a handful of times. Whatever. If
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she wanted that, then she's going to get that. But
I would not necessarily think, well, now you know, Steve
can't stand up here, because you know, Bruce has to
stand up here instead a guy who I just met. Oh, So, like,
if that's your request, fine, but I think that that's
a space that should go to someone who's who represents
(07:57):
what that's supposed to stand for, which are the closest
people in your life.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
My brothers will be included in my wedding.
Speaker 5 (08:02):
But period with them he is, but if he wasn't,
Bruce would have to just sit it out or we
would find another girl.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Go find a girl for Bruce the same.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
I know it's weirder to care about, like the numbers matching.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
I've always thought that is so odd.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
Like figuring out my best friend and I held hands
getting down my friend Maddy's aisle because it was an
uneven number. Yes, what You're never going to look back
at your wedding photos and go.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Wow, you were there.
Speaker 6 (08:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:27):
And I also had two people take up hobby spots
because I had two men right on my side and
my other two men. So I was like, well I
need those two spots. So you know, Bruce and whoever
failed anymore, What.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
If you'd been like, hey, hovey, they have to be
they have to be groomsmen, those two because we got
to get them up there somehow.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
I did.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
No, no, no, But but I thought they were on
your side.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
No, they stood, they had to stay with the men.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I can't remember. I thought you had men stand on
your side. I can't remember.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Jason was not in a pink power suit, was shorts?
Speaker 1 (08:57):
No, I can't remember the layout.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Yeah, I have to look at photos now I know.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Of weddings where men have stood on the women's side
because they're close with the women.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
Oh, I think they did another thing about it. I
think like Jonathan and Jason were on my side. But yeah,
they weren't in pink power suits. But you can tell
they absolute should have.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Don't know why they was.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
I thought that was what I spent good money on
that Paulina, and I wasn't even in the wedding.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
That's a outfit. Yes, Oh, will Ryan stand up there
with the ladies.
Speaker 5 (09:25):
No, he has appointed himself as the chief of staff,
so he will walk down what he wants to Yeah,
with his own moment in life, maybe the aunts or
something like. He's like, I'm the chief of staff. Because
I was like, would you like to be my man
of honor or? He was like, no, I'm giving more
(09:45):
chief of staff And I said, okay, whatever you want
to be.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
You invited him to be the man of honor. Yes,
I thought I was the main man in your life.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
You are my flatwer girl. We talked about this.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Happy to do it, Happy to do it?
Speaker 7 (09:58):
Honor?
Speaker 1 (09:59):
What an incredible I'm back. I'm so excited about this.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
To show up right, Please if.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Someone texted, I definitely prioritize my bridemaid by the way,
I will be at your wedding. I don't come to
a lot of stuff, but you keep saying it. After
we see a video about it, then maybe we'll get
to attend the exclusive screening at AMC theaters.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Like that would be iconic.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
That's what that's what we're going to be invited to
go to do it.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
They don't want to support me the.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Exclusive the screening. I definitely prioritize my bridesmaids being able
to afford going to the Bachelor read party. We did
it in Madison, Wisconsin, which I guess is close to
where this person lives. But yeah, because some people wouldn't
be able to go. I've also heard about I've told
the story before, but I've heard about people having not
having to but offering to pay for someone who couldn't
(10:50):
attend a destination wedding. Like there's the story about my
buddy Grant who got married. Sadly he's divorced. I'm tryl
standing his next wedding too, but bless his heart. But
one of the guys who was there weren't Peel didn't
stand at this wedding, but we were honorary roomsmen, I guess,
and one of them we were all in college together,
(11:11):
and one of them couldn't afford to go because he
was in dental school, so they picked it up so
that he could go. And then he's the guy that
wound up with the honeymoon suite. He wound up with
the presidential suite because because he got Louis, he got
grouped into like the wedding budget, so they somehow got
the room mixed up. So when the when the bride
and groom checked in, they were like, yeah, I don't
know the presidential suite book. Sorry, and they're like what
was supposed to be ours? And they're like, I don't
(11:31):
know what happened, sorry about that. Well, turned out that
the guy they were paying for our fraternity brother got
the presidential suite because they because it was on the
same like bill. And so this dude like if he
hadn't said anything, he would have had the week of
the long weekend from like you know, of heaven, you know,
because he goes to his he comes down from seeing
his room and he was like, did I have four bedrooms?
(11:51):
I have a pool and my Buddy's like, wait, what,
I have a regular room. What I'm paying for you?
What are you talking about? He's like, dude, double doors
at the end of the hallway. The whole thing, got
I gotta view of like the entire beach from it.
Guys like, get out of my room, give me the key, like.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
That's my room.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
But if I hadn't said anything, then this dude would
have been just balling all weekend. They were like, dude,
they brought me like food and like you're feeding me
things and there's saw this champagne in the room.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Vary's congratulations and child ate like.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Like I didn't know I got to be congratulated. You
don't get out of my room. Hey, Valerie, Valerie, good morning.
So you tell me about this. This this is a
bachelorette experience.
Speaker 6 (12:37):
Bachelor and wedding.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
What happened?
Speaker 6 (12:40):
So my best friend I met her down in Texas.
Her father was German Air Force Air Force, so he
was stationed over there, Okay, and then years down the
line while she got married in Germany and then her
bachelorette party was in London. So I did that whole
thing and they lasted like two whole weeks.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
And how much did that cost?
Speaker 6 (13:01):
Oh that was quite a bit.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Yeah, and there was no part of you. It's like
I can't if you didn't have the money, then would
you have said I can only do part of it
or do you just say forget about I'm going into
debt for this.
Speaker 6 (13:16):
I would have tried anything that I could have.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Yeah, that's kind of cool. Friends. That's a two week
European vacation too, Like you know, you get to that
vacation but because you're probably doing stuff, but like that's
a cool experience as well. So I get to thank you,
have a good day, thank you, and I love you guys,
and thank you.
Speaker 6 (13:36):
I listened to you guys every single morning.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Thank you, appreciate that, have a good day. I'd be
so mad if I were like, you know, I don't
know in between jobs and other than my buddies, like hey,
we're going to Dubai and you know we're going and
it's going to cost eight thousand dollars and we're going
and like you better be there, buddy, And here I am, like,
you know, taking up payday loans I could pick up
(14:00):
he look yeah, yeah, hey Kim Hi, good morning, Hi
Kim so you're the you prioritize your bridesmaids. You said,
we're going to have a bachelor at party that's closer
to homes that everyone doesn't go broke on this thing.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Oh yeah, Like.
Speaker 7 (14:15):
Three of my bridesmaids don't even live in Illinois. So
I was like, I'm already asking you to fly in
plus like multiple times. And I was like, if I want.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Everybody to show up.
Speaker 7 (14:27):
And be there for me, like when I'm having fun,
versus like two or three being able to come, Like,
to me, that was more important.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
See, I like that. I like that. I think you're
asking especially bachelorettes or bridesmaids. I should say you're asking
a lot. Is there's day of planning this help with.
I didn't realize how much goes into this and how
much is expected. You know, Kiki's developing a little army
here and they all have jobs and positions and business
cards and whatever else. But I mean, you're asking a lot.
(14:55):
So like I get it's your day, but the idea
of you have to have this particular drastic cost this much,
or we have to do this, or we have to
do that, or we have to go to this place.
I mean you're asking a lot, so you got to
make it like kind of user friendly on the people
who you're asking to help work for you. Basically, right,
I think you should you consider it, well, Kim, Yeah
go ahead.
Speaker 7 (15:14):
Yeah I was gonna say yeah for sure, because like,
those are the people that you want to be in
your life after the wedding too, Like you don't want
to make them made it.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Wouldn't that be something By the time the wedding comes
and ends the next day, everyone's like, probably I'm not
your friend anymore. I I want nothing to do with you.
You're absolutely terrible. Thank you, Kim. Have a good day
you guys. I lost an entire friend group because I
couldn't afford to go on a bachelor party. That's insane.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
That's insane. So you are better for it because they suck.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
That is terrible. I'm divorced now, but by ex wife.
She wanted to put her brothers, her friends and people
I didn't know on my side. Oh yeah, that's what
I mean. That's what I'm talking about. Like you should
get to pick and you shouldn't be pressured to pick
the weird random sibling.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
Don't put them on friend You're not weird or random.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
But I'm just saying like I was not the least
bit offended, and I wouldn't have been offended if I
had no role, because, like again, I looked at everybody
up there, and everybody up there had a deep, significant,
long term meaning to my brother in law. They should
be up there. I shouldn't, No, you should. I didn't
know the guy's middle name.
Speaker 5 (16:18):
You and Amanda are a package deal. You come with her,
yes exactly, Yes you happy.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
But I'm not going anywhere.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
You are her only begotten brother.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
This is a symbolic gesture. It's not like, if you're
not up there, we're gonna have to offer you. We're
gonna have to offer you and your God forever. It's
really sad.
This is the Bread Show each time. Celebrate the holiday
season with Mariah Carey's Christmas Time in Las Vegas this
November twenty eight through December thirteenth, Adobe Live at Park MGM,
and you could be going a trip for two to
the December twelfth show at two Night's Day at Park
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(00:20):
Texts Fantasy to five seven seven three nine right now
for a chance to win. A confirmation text will be
sent standard message and data rates may apply. It's all
thanks to Live Nation. So this will make some of
you laugh in the room, I think. But being a
bridesmaid hope. So Boy is now costing us women as
(00:42):
much as rent yep, and that sounds a little low
based on the things I've heard around here, fifteen hundred
to twenty five hundred dollars on average for local weddings,
this is more realistic. And then for destination weddings that
member can jump to between three and five thousand dollars.
The average rent monthly rent in the US two thousand dollars.
So basically, for a local wedding, to be a bridesmaid,
(01:04):
you spend as much as you do on your rent
just said, there's a math math on that issue.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
A trigger warning before you, that's.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
What I just said. Well, what I just said was
I think you're gonna laugh when I say this laugh.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
I was ready to have some fun.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
That was my warning to you.
Speaker 3 (01:18):
Yeah, no, I'm none of this is funny. As Jason
said one day, I think it was Jason. I don't
know who said that, but none of this is funny.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Is it right? I mean, I don't know. I've never
been a bridesmaid, not yet at leastad Okay, so.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
You obviously don't know how I deal with my problems
because I also have a ton of unread emails, not workwise,
but for other emails, and I don't ever calculate how
much it costs me in total.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I don't want to be hurt in that way, you know, So.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
You have no idea. Maybe that's why you don't have
any money what you spent. Well, no, you just said
about ten seconds ago the way, I have zero dollars, So.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
That's why I was, Yeah, that's true.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
But when you called yourself a broken so I'm not
saying I don't know how much that might be why.
I mean, who knows. Maybe people are coming and taking
money from you left and right. You don't even know.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Well, in your like logic, I got to pay it
either way, So why am I going to calculate the
total and hurt my own feelings. I got to pay
it off somehow, so I know, I just want to
get the number to zero.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Well, I guess if I don't have any if I
don't have enough money, then I might tell someone like,
I'm not going to do that.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
I would never dare oh someone down in that way.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
I let someone down. So what are the expenses? How
are you letting someone down in your spending being a bridesmaid?
Speaker 3 (02:29):
I just think it's an honor to be asked. I
know I might be in the minority.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Which is than just whatever I'm asking, though I'm not judging.
I don't know the answers. So then anything, anything they
say they want, then you just buy it because you've
been asked, because it's an honor. Yeah, I don't know
how it works. I don't know what you're expected to do.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
Yeah, I've never been in a situation where it's like
I want this, I want that, But certainly there are expectations,
at least that we've set amongst our friend group, and
there's usually a bachelorette trip, there's you know, and there's
a certain way that we do it in our friend group.
You really don't pay for anything but your own flight
of Like, it's just how we do it. And I
would hope that people would do it for me. I mean,
(03:05):
I would be conscious of it.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
But it sounds like you should get married just to
get your money back.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
Well, Hillary and I think I've talked about this on
the show. Hillary and I Hot Hillary as we call her,
have discussed, like actually discussed, not joking, having a bachelorette
party joint and taking our front and they just have
to celebrate us in that way because both of us
may never get married.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I don't think that's a bad idea. In fact, I'm
starting to think now who all I I had to
you know, do things for in that regard, Like whose
weddings have I stood in and had to go to
bachelor parties and things like that? Or excuse me, I
had the honor of being asked to go to a
bachelor guards honor? Is that weird to say no? It's
not that it's not an honor to be in, No,
(03:46):
one's saying it's not an honor to be in a
wedding party. I think what I'm saying is it's not
necessarily because of that honor that I'm going to go
broke trying to make you happy on your bachelor party.
That's what I'm saying. If I don't have the money,
I can't spend it. That's just like if you, like,
we're going to SANCHOPEI I'd be like, we're not or
for you? Are I mean, I don't know. I guess
(04:07):
the honor can extend to like, I'm your friend. I've
done enough for you that you're asking me to be
in it, So I'm gonna do the best I can.
But I'm also going to stand there and support you,
which I thought was the point. Not necessarily the beach vacation.
Speaker 3 (04:20):
Yeah, No one's asking for it to be an honor.
It's just how I personally view it, and I'm just
willing to do whatever.
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Yeah that's yah.
Speaker 1 (04:27):
Well I'm not that sweet thing, I guess.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (04:29):
No, I probably won't be in any weddings at this
point in my life because I'm thirty three. Honestly, now,
my friends really got married like that, except for me
like I've never been in a wedding, Like I've been
a flower girl once and that's it, and that was
for my cousin. I think it was like last year yea, yeah, yeah,
literally last year was by default. They're like, you got
to be in this, I guess, and I'm like, I
guess I got it because we're family. But I've never
been asked. But when I had my wedding, I truly
(04:51):
try to be like the Chillis bride. It could be
because well, I was pregnant, I couldn't do much. But
I also felt like I didn't want to do the
whole beach vacation in Kenkun or wherever, like the other
spot that to Loom or whatever, because I'm like, I
know it's going to cost a lot of money, and
I'm already asking you guys to be a part of this.
I know, just to get to the wedding. It's going
to cost you money, you.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Know, Yeah, for a destination wedding. I would understand why
you would take that into consideration.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
I don't know that I paid. We paid for food.
I think we paid for hotel. The last bachelor party
I went to, I don't think we paid we didn't
pay for his flight.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
We don't pay for flights. That's like how we do it.
We pay for everything else.
Speaker 1 (05:24):
Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, But I mean, I think if
someone in the group hadn't been able to afford it,
or didn't have the money, or it was too extreme,
then we would have figured that out. You know what
I mean? I guess, I guess no one. I'm honored
that you asked me to be part of that group,
especially because most of the people in that group had
known each other a lot longer in this particular group
than I had known them, So it was nice to
(05:44):
have been included in that. I wasn't in the wedding.
I was invited at the bachelor party. I wasn't invited.
I don't. I don't know that anyone was standing up there.
I don't know. I didn't go to the wedding. I
couldn't go, But anyway, I guess I didn't. That was
the honor for me. It was the gesture. The rest
of it was, I was not asked to stand in
my brother in law's wedding party, and I also wasn't
asked to go to the bachelor party. I love the guy,
(06:04):
but Shenanigan's. I want to know what sort of low
rent strippers were there, That's what I want to know.
I want to know what was going on at this
bachelor party that I couldn't see as the brother of
the bride.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Yeah, Amanda's nice because I would have forced you to go.
Speaker 5 (06:18):
Yeah, me too, literally, like I would have all my
spies at Timothy's bachelor right.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
That's right, girl.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
But we've talked about this before. I was not the
least benefendive. I would have found it disingenuous if he
had asked me to be in his wedding party because
I didn't know him that well. I'd only known him
for like a year. So you're saying, if you've only
got seven or eight spots, because I think it was
supposed to be even on both sides, and Amanda obviously
drove that, then I take the spot of somebody that
(06:43):
you've known since childhood because I'm the brother, Like, no.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
You're the exactly, you're the new brother.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
No people standing up there should be the closest people
to you. And you know, I officiated the wedding, which
was also my sister's idea, which was very nice. But
if I hadn't been included, it wouldn't upset me at all.
I should not take a spot. He was in a band.
He toured the entire country for years with five of
these people. The band broke up, so the White Arms
(07:13):
of Athena are no longer with us. But that being said,
I wouldn't have been least offended because again, like I
can come up right now with five, six, seven guys
that I would ask, and I could probably come up
with twenty honestly that would stand up there right. So
then my future bride, let's say I'm not all that
close with the brother I haven't really met that, I've
only met the brother a handful of times. Whatever. If
(07:35):
she wanted that, then she's going to get that. But
I would not necessarily think, well, now you know, Steve
can't stand up here, because you know, Bruce has to
stand up here instead a guy who I just met. Oh, So, like,
if that's your request, fine, but I think that that's
a space that should go to someone who's who represents
(07:57):
what that's supposed to stand for, which are the closest
people in your life.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
My brothers will be included in my wedding.
Speaker 5 (08:02):
But period with them he is, but if he wasn't,
Bruce would have to just sit it out or we
would find another girl.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Go find a girl for Bruce the same.
Speaker 3 (08:10):
I know it's weirder to care about, like the numbers matching.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
I've always thought that is so odd.
Speaker 3 (08:16):
Like figuring out my best friend and I held hands
getting down my friend Maddy's aisle because it was an
uneven number. Yes, what You're never going to look back
at your wedding photos and go.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Wow, you were there.
Speaker 6 (08:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (08:27):
And I also had two people take up hobby spots
because I had two men right on my side and
my other two men. So I was like, well I
need those two spots. So you know, Bruce and whoever
failed anymore, What.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
If you'd been like, hey, hovey, they have to be
they have to be groomsmen, those two because we got
to get them up there somehow.
Speaker 3 (08:45):
I did.
Speaker 1 (08:45):
No, no, no, But but I thought they were on
your side.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
No, they stood, they had to stay with the men.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
I can't remember. I thought you had men stand on
your side. I can't remember.
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Jason was not in a pink power suit, was shorts?
Speaker 1 (08:57):
No, I can't remember the layout.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Yeah, I have to look at photos now I know.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Of weddings where men have stood on the women's side
because they're close with the women.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
Oh, I think they did another thing about it. I
think like Jonathan and Jason were on my side. But yeah,
they weren't in pink power suits. But you can tell
they absolute should have.
Speaker 2 (09:11):
Don't know why they was.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
I thought that was what I spent good money on
that Paulina, and I wasn't even in the wedding.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
That's a outfit. Yes, Oh, will Ryan stand up there
with the ladies.
Speaker 5 (09:25):
No, he has appointed himself as the chief of staff,
so he will walk down what he wants to Yeah,
with his own moment in life, maybe the aunts or
something like. He's like, I'm the chief of staff. Because
I was like, would you like to be my man
of honor or? He was like, no, I'm giving more
(09:45):
chief of staff And I said, okay, whatever you want
to be.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
You invited him to be the man of honor. Yes,
I thought I was the main man in your life.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
You are my flatwer girl. We talked about this.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Happy to do it, Happy to do it?
Speaker 7 (09:58):
Honor?
Speaker 1 (09:59):
What an incredible I'm back. I'm so excited about this.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
To show up right, Please if.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
Someone texted, I definitely prioritize my bridemaid by the way,
I will be at your wedding. I don't come to
a lot of stuff, but you keep saying it. After
we see a video about it, then maybe we'll get
to attend the exclusive screening at AMC theaters.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Like that would be iconic.
Speaker 1 (10:25):
That's what that's what we're going to be invited to
go to do it.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
They don't want to support me the.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Exclusive the screening. I definitely prioritize my bridesmaids being able
to afford going to the Bachelor read party. We did
it in Madison, Wisconsin, which I guess is close to
where this person lives. But yeah, because some people wouldn't
be able to go. I've also heard about I've told
the story before, but I've heard about people having not
having to but offering to pay for someone who couldn't
(10:50):
attend a destination wedding. Like there's the story about my
buddy Grant who got married. Sadly he's divorced. I'm tryl
standing his next wedding too, but bless his heart. But
one of the guys who was there weren't Peel didn't
stand at this wedding, but we were honorary roomsmen, I guess,
and one of them we were all in college together,
(11:11):
and one of them couldn't afford to go because he
was in dental school, so they picked it up so
that he could go. And then he's the guy that
wound up with the honeymoon suite. He wound up with
the presidential suite because because he got Louis, he got
grouped into like the wedding budget, so they somehow got
the room mixed up. So when the when the bride
and groom checked in, they were like, yeah, I don't
know the presidential suite book. Sorry, and they're like what
was supposed to be ours? And they're like, I don't
(11:31):
know what happened, sorry about that. Well, turned out that
the guy they were paying for our fraternity brother got
the presidential suite because they because it was on the
same like bill. And so this dude like if he
hadn't said anything, he would have had the week of
the long weekend from like you know, of heaven, you know,
because he goes to his he comes down from seeing
his room and he was like, did I have four bedrooms?
(11:51):
I have a pool and my Buddy's like, wait, what,
I have a regular room. What I'm paying for you?
What are you talking about? He's like, dude, double doors
at the end of the hallway. The whole thing, got
I gotta view of like the entire beach from it.
Guys like, get out of my room, give me the key, like.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
That's my room.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
But if I hadn't said anything, then this dude would
have been just balling all weekend. They were like, dude,
they brought me like food and like you're feeding me
things and there's saw this champagne in the room.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
Vary's congratulations and child ate like.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Like I didn't know I got to be congratulated. You
don't get out of my room. Hey, Valerie, Valerie, good morning.
So you tell me about this. This this is a
bachelorette experience.
Speaker 6 (12:37):
Bachelor and wedding.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
What happened?
Speaker 6 (12:40):
So my best friend I met her down in Texas.
Her father was German Air Force Air Force, so he
was stationed over there, Okay, and then years down the
line while she got married in Germany and then her
bachelorette party was in London. So I did that whole
thing and they lasted like two whole weeks.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
And how much did that cost?
Speaker 6 (13:01):
Oh that was quite a bit.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Yeah, and there was no part of you. It's like
I can't if you didn't have the money, then would
you have said I can only do part of it
or do you just say forget about I'm going into
debt for this.
Speaker 6 (13:16):
I would have tried anything that I could have.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Yeah, that's kind of cool. Friends. That's a two week
European vacation too, Like you know, you get to that
vacation but because you're probably doing stuff, but like that's
a cool experience as well. So I get to thank you,
have a good day, thank you, and I love you guys,
and thank you.
Speaker 6 (13:36):
I listened to you guys every single morning.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Thank you, appreciate that, have a good day. I'd be
so mad if I were like, you know, I don't
know in between jobs and other than my buddies, like hey,
we're going to Dubai and you know we're going and
it's going to cost eight thousand dollars and we're going
and like you better be there, buddy, And here I am, like,
you know, taking up payday loans I could pick up
(14:00):
he look yeah, yeah, hey Kim Hi, good morning, Hi
Kim so you're the you prioritize your bridesmaids. You said,
we're going to have a bachelor at party that's closer
to homes that everyone doesn't go broke on this thing.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
Oh yeah, Like.
Speaker 7 (14:15):
Three of my bridesmaids don't even live in Illinois. So
I was like, I'm already asking you to fly in
plus like multiple times. And I was like, if I want.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Everybody to show up.
Speaker 7 (14:27):
And be there for me, like when I'm having fun,
versus like two or three being able to come, Like,
to me, that was more important.
Speaker 1 (14:33):
See, I like that. I like that. I think you're
asking especially bachelorettes or bridesmaids. I should say you're asking
a lot. Is there's day of planning this help with.
I didn't realize how much goes into this and how
much is expected. You know, Kiki's developing a little army
here and they all have jobs and positions and business
cards and whatever else. But I mean, you're asking a lot.
(14:55):
So like I get it's your day, but the idea
of you have to have this particular drastic cost this much,
or we have to do this, or we have to
do that, or we have to go to this place.
I mean you're asking a lot, so you got to
make it like kind of user friendly on the people
who you're asking to help work for you. Basically, right,
I think you should you consider it, well, Kim, Yeah
go ahead.
Speaker 7 (15:14):
Yeah I was gonna say yeah for sure, because like,
those are the people that you want to be in
your life after the wedding too, Like you don't want
to make them made it.
Speaker 1 (15:20):
Wouldn't that be something By the time the wedding comes
and ends the next day, everyone's like, probably I'm not
your friend anymore. I I want nothing to do with you.
You're absolutely terrible. Thank you, Kim. Have a good day
you guys. I lost an entire friend group because I
couldn't afford to go on a bachelor party. That's insane.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
That's insane. So you are better for it because they suck.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
That is terrible. I'm divorced now, but by ex wife.
She wanted to put her brothers, her friends and people
I didn't know on my side. Oh yeah, that's what
I mean. That's what I'm talking about. Like you should
get to pick and you shouldn't be pressured to pick
the weird random sibling.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
Don't put them on friend You're not weird or random.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
But I'm just saying like I was not the least
bit offended, and I wouldn't have been offended if I
had no role, because, like again, I looked at everybody
up there, and everybody up there had a deep, significant,
long term meaning to my brother in law. They should
be up there. I shouldn't, No, you should. I didn't
know the guy's middle name.
Speaker 5 (16:18):
You and Amanda are a package deal. You come with her,
yes exactly, Yes you happy.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
But I'm not going anywhere.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
You are her only begotten brother.
Speaker 1 (16:25):
This is a symbolic gesture. It's not like, if you're
not up there, we're gonna have to offer you. We're
gonna have to offer you and your God forever. It's
really sad.
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