August 20, 2025 • 9 mins
A Reddit user is asking if she's being unreasonable after her husband asked if he could take a vacation alone while she's recovering from a C-section... Fred and the crew weigh in.
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the twenty eighth. All right, guys, So this is from
the New York Post and from Reddit. But some husbands
dream of a romantic getaway. Others dream of a solo
(00:47):
trip while their wife recovers from a C section.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
I can't wait he just go ahead and line them
up eighty three five.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I just can't wait to hear everybody's outraised from this
because I'm age and I don't have any connection to
any of this. I don't have a wife, I never
had a kid. But this, I can't believe this, I read.
A user sparked outrage online last week in the infamous
Miva hole forum after revealing that her husband asked for
a free pass to travel just weeks after she was
(01:17):
set to deliver via sea section. The woman who's expecting
in December, said that she told her husband she might
be okay traveling with the newborn and friends for a
short trip over the holidays. His response, okay, but if
you change your mind, do I get a free pass?
When she asked what he meant, he explained it was
a chance for him to jet off alone, while she
stated home recovering from the abdominal surgery sea section, breastfeeding,
(01:40):
and adjusting to life with the newborn and possibly their
toddler as well. Oh my god, I'd be less than
a month postpartum from major abdominal surgery, and I thought
he'd obviously be home to help and support me. So
I was shocked and hurt that he would even ask this.
She asked that, She added that he claimed that he
was just checking in case she changed her mind, but
(02:02):
she called the idea of selfish, asking the online community
if it was wrong for her to be upset. The post,
of course, went viral very quickly, and read it users
blasted the husband for his timing and lack of empathy.
You are not the a whole. One person said, no
way that he should be leaving you alone with kids
that soon. I don't think your husband knows what a
partnership is or how serious c sections are if his
(02:22):
first instinct is to leave you alone two weeks after
giving birth. Others piled on, not only is he the
a whole, it seems extremely immature to worry about New
Year's Eve plans when you have a family, especially a
new baby, and your wife had surgery.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Get a grip.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
It's just one night, So I guess he wanted to
make sure that he had a place to go for
New Year's Eve.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
That's ridiculous. Wow.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
And then they wonder why the birth rate is dropping
and like why people don't want to have kids? Like
this is exactly it, because there's just no I don't know,
there's just no common sense anymore when it comes to this,
Like why would you ever even ask that I wouldn't
even ask my next door neighbor if it was fine
if she had a sea section, like you need to
be there for your wife, that this requires a like
this is crazy.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
No, what would you say to your husband or your
partner eight five five five n one one oh three five,
you know, and then remember it's early and I can't
say what I would You can't say that loud, but
but I mean or my other question would be, uh,
you know, did your partner make any sort of absurd
request around that time?
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Because we've done it before.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
We've talked on the show before about guys who brought
their PlayStation into the delivery room, you know, or we
heard the one years ago where a guy had ordered
a pizza and then she goes into labor and it
was about I guess it was like things were really happening,
and he was like, I gotta go downstairs to get
my pizza. It's like, get no to your pizza, get
another one later. Because like we're doing.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
This now, I understand that I'm just kidding. What kind
of pizza was.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
You know?
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Was it jets? But it was the ranch? What did
they get the ranch? A big bottle of the ranch because.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
If you did squeeze it for a second. Okay, we're
gonna keep this warm somewhere. But what would you say
to your to your partner if in this case he
or I guess she?
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Well, I guess she could be a she.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
But we're to say, hey, look, I uh, I'm gonna
go ahead and get going. Now, what are we doing
for the holidays? Because if you're not feeling great, you know,
I want to make sure I got someplace to go
and something to do.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Rest in peace. Mm hmmm.
Speaker 5 (04:13):
I mean would is it divorceable? Yes, that's the thing
for you. Yeah, No, I think it is divorceable. Yes,
I think it's it shows your character. First of all,
even if it wasn't it was just one incident. But
second of all, that on its own is enough.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Yeah, someone else did I have? My friend had an
emergency C section, was out of commission for a while.
It's a massive surgery.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Yes it is.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I don't think people are considering that. No, it's unreasonable
and insensitive of him to even ask.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
I mean, it's overwhelming.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I don't think there's anybody that can argue, can you
argue at all that that this person is being unreasonable
for saying no, I think not only that, but you've
got I mean, there's a baby.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
There's a child you got too. I think that's a
lot of work for New YEAR'SZ plans. We still do that.
She can't lift me. This is stressing.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Man.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Someone said, but you can't listen anything.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
You've got two kids.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
You've got uh you know, as if the infant isn't enough,
you're recovering. There's the emotional component to it all. Someone
texted mine left me alone with my daughter three days
after my C section. He was with what turned out
to be wife number. Oh you know what, call this person, BELLA,
call this person right now. I need to hear this story.
Oh my god. Y'all like to text, but sometimes I
(05:29):
like to talk to you. So just know if you
text something wow, well you might get a phone call
from We call him out, We call him out, We
outbound around.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Better answer.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Someone else Laurren said, I had a panic attack the
first time I was home alone overnight with my newborn.
Stay home with your partners. And then someone else said,
but there's time about catalytic converters. Now we've moved on
to catalytic. We're no longer we're no longer talking about
the catalytic converter. Jason already told us he's he's partners
(05:59):
with a mechanic.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
You know, they probably have them in their car right now. Yeah,
I agree. I'd be so mad.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I would be wondering who this man was that I married,
the fact that he doesn't want to be there at
the beginning of our child's life, let alone help me
after surgery. Okay, Uh so, Tina, this is sort of
happened to you.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
Then he husband at the time left three days after
my C section to go with his what turned up
to beauty wife's number three on a trip that I
was alone with our daughter.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Wife's number three. So he was married to a you
and two other people.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
She was married to me. I was wife number two,
and then he took wife number three. What he married
her after we were married and we went through our divorce.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
When I found out out, I see she was the
mistress at the time. Yes, okay, so I got it.
Let me make sure I understand it. I got Tina,
this is I gotta draw this out. Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
So you were married to him, you conceived a baby,
you got pregnant, you got divorced over the course of
that time, or were you kind of dabbling after the divorce.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
No, we were. I thought we were happily married when
we had her daughter.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Okay, and then you have the daughter and then he's like, no, psych,
I'm going to go now and marry this other woman
and I'm not going to be here for this baby.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
I didn't know about her until two years.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Oh my god, this guy. That would have been helpful
information before you had a baby. Huh did she know
about you? Yeah, and she'd had a good question she'd
show us she knew about Did she know that you
were pregnant?
Speaker 1 (07:36):
She knew?
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Oh you you're going to a special place with something
like that.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Oh yes. Are they still together?
Speaker 4 (07:43):
They are? And I actually get along with her better
than him because she took care of my baby when
they were together.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Wow. Wow, what a wild story to you.
Speaker 4 (07:53):
He's eighteen now and me and my daughter are best friend.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
So it is no, of course.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
And that's that's that's amazing. Wow, And they're still I
was going to say, I think I know what's going
to happen to her, But I guess after eighteen years
he got his act together kinda, I guess.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
I mean they're happy, so it's fine.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Or she just puts college so wow.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
Put up with them?
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Wow, Tina, thank you for sharing. Have a good day
you too, Wow you love you to Wow.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Wow Wow Joanna, Hey, Hi, what'd your husband do?
Speaker 6 (08:29):
We were driving to the hospital that was thirty minutes away.
I was in active labor with my second child, and
he asked the step at the seven eleven because he
didn't have time to get dessert. No good, And that
was after I had already cooked him dinner while I
was in labor.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Are you still married to this guy?
Speaker 6 (08:53):
He's the ex husband.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
I was going to say, not surprising that he's the X.
Now wow, Joanna, Wow came out of nowhere. Wow Wow.
That's two and that's a lot of wows already in
the last five minutes.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Thank you, Joanna.
Speaker 6 (09:06):
The end result was by the time I got to
the house, but it was too late to get an
epiderl oh girl.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
But he's over here eating his pop tarts like it's
at least he got dessert, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Oh wow, that dessert. He makes me mad. Thank you, Joanna.
I have a good day alrighty. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
I divorced my husband because I spent two months in
the hospital high Risk pregnancy with a two year old
at the time, and was alone at the Ronald McDonald
House in Chicago while dealing with a premie C section
postpartum hys direct tomy. Oh my god, so I guess
he just he was nowhere to be found, this guy
while she was dealing with all that.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Wo what are we doing? Raise the bar man? Do better?
Do better? Ridiculous? What are we kind of desserting you wanted? Though?
It was it with an ice cream?
Speaker 2 (09:53):
What do you do you have to have that is
so damn it port more freadshell next
This is the press show.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Let's get you hotel a trip for two to see
Jennifer Lopez her brand new Las Vegas residency, Jennifer Lopez
Up All Night Live in Las Vegas from March thirteenth,
twenty twenty six, at the Coliseum at Caesar's Palace. Text
Lopez to three seven three three seven right now for
a chance to win two tickets to the March thirteenth show,
a twout hotels day March twelve through the fourteenth at
(00:24):
the Flamingo Hotel Casino, Las Vegas and Ron Trevert Peer.
A confirmation text will be sent. Dennered message and data
rates may apply. All thanks to Live Nation. Tickets are
on sale now at ticketmaster dot com for all shows
running December thirtieth through January third, and March sixth through
the twenty eighth. All right, guys, So this is from
the New York Post and from Reddit. But some husbands
dream of a romantic getaway. Others dream of a solo
(00:47):
trip while their wife recovers from a C section.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
I can't wait he just go ahead and line them
up eighty three five.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
I just can't wait to hear everybody's outraised from this
because I'm age and I don't have any connection to
any of this. I don't have a wife, I never
had a kid. But this, I can't believe this, I read.
A user sparked outrage online last week in the infamous
Miva hole forum after revealing that her husband asked for
a free pass to travel just weeks after she was
(01:17):
set to deliver via sea section. The woman who's expecting
in December, said that she told her husband she might
be okay traveling with the newborn and friends for a
short trip over the holidays. His response, okay, but if
you change your mind, do I get a free pass?
When she asked what he meant, he explained it was
a chance for him to jet off alone, while she
stated home recovering from the abdominal surgery sea section, breastfeeding,
(01:40):
and adjusting to life with the newborn and possibly their
toddler as well. Oh my god, I'd be less than
a month postpartum from major abdominal surgery, and I thought
he'd obviously be home to help and support me. So
I was shocked and hurt that he would even ask this.
She asked that, She added that he claimed that he
was just checking in case she changed her mind, but
(02:02):
she called the idea of selfish, asking the online community
if it was wrong for her to be upset. The post,
of course, went viral very quickly, and read it users
blasted the husband for his timing and lack of empathy.
You are not the a whole. One person said, no
way that he should be leaving you alone with kids
that soon. I don't think your husband knows what a
partnership is or how serious c sections are if his
(02:22):
first instinct is to leave you alone two weeks after
giving birth. Others piled on, not only is he the
a whole, it seems extremely immature to worry about New
Year's Eve plans when you have a family, especially a
new baby, and your wife had surgery.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
Get a grip.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
It's just one night, So I guess he wanted to
make sure that he had a place to go for
New Year's Eve.
Speaker 1 (02:41):
That's ridiculous. Wow.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
And then they wonder why the birth rate is dropping
and like why people don't want to have kids? Like
this is exactly it, because there's just no I don't know,
there's just no common sense anymore when it comes to this,
Like why would you ever even ask that I wouldn't
even ask my next door neighbor if it was fine
if she had a sea section, like you need to
be there for your wife, that this requires a like
this is crazy.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
No, what would you say to your husband or your
partner eight five five five n one one oh three five,
you know, and then remember it's early and I can't
say what I would You can't say that loud, but
but I mean or my other question would be, uh,
you know, did your partner make any sort of absurd
request around that time?
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Because we've done it before.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
We've talked on the show before about guys who brought
their PlayStation into the delivery room, you know, or we
heard the one years ago where a guy had ordered
a pizza and then she goes into labor and it
was about I guess it was like things were really happening,
and he was like, I gotta go downstairs to get
my pizza. It's like, get no to your pizza, get
another one later. Because like we're doing.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
This now, I understand that I'm just kidding. What kind
of pizza was.
Speaker 4 (03:43):
You know?
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Was it jets? But it was the ranch? What did
they get the ranch? A big bottle of the ranch because.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
If you did squeeze it for a second. Okay, we're
gonna keep this warm somewhere. But what would you say
to your to your partner if in this case he
or I guess she?
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Well, I guess she could be a she.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
But we're to say, hey, look, I uh, I'm gonna
go ahead and get going. Now, what are we doing
for the holidays? Because if you're not feeling great, you know,
I want to make sure I got someplace to go
and something to do.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
Rest in peace. Mm hmmm.
Speaker 5 (04:13):
I mean would is it divorceable? Yes, that's the thing
for you. Yeah, No, I think it is divorceable. Yes,
I think it's it shows your character. First of all,
even if it wasn't it was just one incident. But
second of all, that on its own is enough.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Yeah, someone else did I have? My friend had an
emergency C section, was out of commission for a while.
It's a massive surgery.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Yes it is.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
I don't think people are considering that. No, it's unreasonable
and insensitive of him to even ask.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
I mean, it's overwhelming.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I don't think there's anybody that can argue, can you
argue at all that that this person is being unreasonable
for saying no, I think not only that, but you've
got I mean, there's a baby.
Speaker 1 (04:51):
There's a child you got too. I think that's a
lot of work for New YEAR'SZ plans. We still do that.
She can't lift me. This is stressing.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
Man.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
Someone said, but you can't listen anything.
Speaker 3 (05:03):
You've got two kids.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
You've got uh you know, as if the infant isn't enough,
you're recovering. There's the emotional component to it all. Someone
texted mine left me alone with my daughter three days
after my C section. He was with what turned out
to be wife number. Oh you know what, call this person, BELLA,
call this person right now. I need to hear this story.
Oh my god. Y'all like to text, but sometimes I
(05:29):
like to talk to you. So just know if you
text something wow, well you might get a phone call
from We call him out, We call him out, We
outbound around.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Better answer.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Someone else Laurren said, I had a panic attack the
first time I was home alone overnight with my newborn.
Stay home with your partners. And then someone else said,
but there's time about catalytic converters. Now we've moved on
to catalytic. We're no longer we're no longer talking about
the catalytic converter. Jason already told us he's he's partners
(05:59):
with a mechanic.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
You know, they probably have them in their car right now. Yeah,
I agree. I'd be so mad.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
I would be wondering who this man was that I married,
the fact that he doesn't want to be there at
the beginning of our child's life, let alone help me
after surgery. Okay, Uh so, Tina, this is sort of
happened to you.
Speaker 4 (06:16):
Then he husband at the time left three days after
my C section to go with his what turned up
to beauty wife's number three on a trip that I
was alone with our daughter.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Wife's number three. So he was married to a you
and two other people.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
She was married to me. I was wife number two,
and then he took wife number three. What he married
her after we were married and we went through our divorce.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
When I found out out, I see she was the
mistress at the time. Yes, okay, so I got it.
Let me make sure I understand it. I got Tina,
this is I gotta draw this out. Okay.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
So you were married to him, you conceived a baby,
you got pregnant, you got divorced over the course of
that time, or were you kind of dabbling after the divorce.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
No, we were. I thought we were happily married when
we had her daughter.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Okay, and then you have the daughter and then he's like, no, psych,
I'm going to go now and marry this other woman
and I'm not going to be here for this baby.
Speaker 4 (07:16):
I didn't know about her until two years.
Speaker 2 (07:20):
Oh my god, this guy. That would have been helpful
information before you had a baby. Huh did she know
about you? Yeah, and she'd had a good question she'd
show us she knew about Did she know that you
were pregnant?
Speaker 1 (07:36):
She knew?
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Oh you you're going to a special place with something
like that.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Oh yes. Are they still together?
Speaker 4 (07:43):
They are? And I actually get along with her better
than him because she took care of my baby when
they were together.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Wow. Wow, what a wild story to you.
Speaker 4 (07:53):
He's eighteen now and me and my daughter are best friend.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
So it is no, of course.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
And that's that's that's amazing. Wow, And they're still I
was going to say, I think I know what's going
to happen to her, But I guess after eighteen years
he got his act together kinda, I guess.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
I mean they're happy, so it's fine.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Or she just puts college so wow.
Speaker 4 (08:16):
Put up with them?
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Wow, Tina, thank you for sharing. Have a good day
you too, Wow you love you to Wow.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Wow Wow Joanna, Hey, Hi, what'd your husband do?
Speaker 6 (08:29):
We were driving to the hospital that was thirty minutes away.
I was in active labor with my second child, and
he asked the step at the seven eleven because he
didn't have time to get dessert. No good, And that
was after I had already cooked him dinner while I
was in labor.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
Are you still married to this guy?
Speaker 6 (08:53):
He's the ex husband.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
I was going to say, not surprising that he's the X.
Now wow, Joanna, Wow came out of nowhere. Wow Wow.
That's two and that's a lot of wows already in
the last five minutes.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
Thank you, Joanna.
Speaker 6 (09:06):
The end result was by the time I got to
the house, but it was too late to get an
epiderl oh girl.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
But he's over here eating his pop tarts like it's
at least he got dessert, you know.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Oh wow, that dessert. He makes me mad. Thank you, Joanna.
I have a good day alrighty. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
I divorced my husband because I spent two months in
the hospital high Risk pregnancy with a two year old
at the time, and was alone at the Ronald McDonald
House in Chicago while dealing with a premie C section
postpartum hys direct tomy. Oh my god, so I guess
he just he was nowhere to be found, this guy
while she was dealing with all that.
Speaker 1 (09:41):
Wo what are we doing? Raise the bar man? Do better?
Do better? Ridiculous? What are we kind of desserting you wanted? Though?
It was it with an ice cream?
Speaker 2 (09:53):
What do you do you have to have that is
so damn it port more freadshell next
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