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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's a fresh show. This is what's trending sports quickly.
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Jason Brown, the Rams won last night. That was your pick,
which means that you did better with the picks than
Bellahamin did. Wow, he wants to actually be a sports person. Oh,
I feel bad, but Sean McVay, I mean, when you're good,
you're good, though, you shouldn't feel bad for your excellence.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Okay, well, thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Yeah. And Mike McCarthy will not return as a Cowboys coach.
Why is this important? Because Deon Sanders might replace him?
They were saying coach Prime. I don't know if that
what really happened, but they're talking about it. And then
Mike McCarthy, who used to coach the Packers, might wind
up being the coach of the Bears, which would be
something Michael. There was a man named Mike McCarthy used
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to work here. It turns out it wasn't the same guy. Yeah. Yeah,
that guy tried to ask you to day, didn't he?
Who isn't that the guy who asked you on a
date one time? I thought you just said texted Kaylin?
What did you mean?
Speaker 3 (00:55):
No?
Speaker 4 (00:55):
I said, who I said? He texted Kayleb Like joking
about that.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Pray.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
No, I don't know where McCarthy is.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I thought there was a guy that worked here. I
don't know who it was. Never mind, it wasn't Mike McCarthy.
I thought there was a guy that worked here that
asked you on to day. They've probably been several, but anyway,
we don't talk.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
About it's not name.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
We all just watched the video. I know it would
take too long. It would take it would take longer
than he keeps talking about all the fish that she
won't eat. We just watched the sexual harassment video. You're
not supposed to do that, Okay. You can't be asking
people out around here. Yeah, don't do that, yea. Yeah,
So people stop asking me out because I'm just not
I'm not going to go. I watched the video. I'm
very worried about him. Yeah, but Dean Sanders, the University
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of Colorado coach, might be considered for the Dallas Cowboys job.
So we'll see. The Palasage fire has covered over twenty
three thousand acres and it was only fourteen percent contained
as of yesterday. They eating fire has burned over fourteen
thousand acres and was thirty three percent contained. As of yesterday,
the two fires have destroyed around twelve thousand structures so far,
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and there are lawsuits now. Southern California Edison now has
four lawsuits against it overclaims that it's electrical equipment is
response for starting one of the wildfires in the LA area.
Also in fire news, there are people who are some
of the worst people ever. They're looting homes dressed as firefighters.
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So what is lower than looting homes evacuated amid the
LA wildfires with people who are losing everything that they
have or potentially losing everything they have. How about looting
the homes well dressed as a firefighter. Police say at
least one of the dozens of looting suspects arrested over
the weekend was in disguise. We are turning him over
to LAPD because he was dressed like a fireman and
he was not, said the sheriff about the guy who
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was arrested in malibuom he got caught burglarizing a home.
So those are issues that our frontline deputies and police
officers are dealing with. Also, there's a thing called the
b Platoon that's saving bees from the LA fires in
response to the destructive wildfires happening. They are, there's an
organization called the b Platoon that's stepping into help. The
nonprofit group out of Davis focuses on assisting beekey pers
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who have been affected by the disasters. Over one hundred
bee keepers from the Pacific Palisades in nearby areas had
to evacuate. The Bee Platoon will remove hives out of
the way of firefighters and other emergency personnel. They'll also
safely move bee hives out of harm's way and support
beekeepers and finding shelter for their bees or evacuating them
as needed. They're also planning to return in February to
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help set up the hives again. The bees. Hey lady
on TikTok, I hope she's okay. Oh, she's in California. Yeah,
the bees. You ever seen her?
Speaker 5 (03:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (03:29):
Yeah, I know because you because of TikTok another day
with saving the bees and she says it like that too.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I hope, hope, hope she's well, okay, can do you
want to explain what Red notice to everybody? Yes? Well
I figured you would know.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yeah, it's a new app that is waiting on us.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
That's what I figured you were already on it, so.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
I'll pull up.
Speaker 7 (03:49):
Actually I'm not there yet because I am going what
I've noticed, I'm going through the stages of grief with TikTok.
Name today is denial. Oh, I am in full denial
that it's actually going away. Yeah, so I can't planned
for the future because I don't believe this is this
is actually our reality. But you know, if you're passing
me on that Red Note is the new app, the
new hotness that is waiting for us. They've actually I've
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heard the CEO of the app drop the video to
welcome all Americans as they begin to join.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Yes, so, ahead of a looming US van on TikTok,
content creators have been flocking to Red Note as well
as Lemon and Eight, which is TikTok's sister app. So
it's a dynamic lifestyle platform out of China for young
people to share experiences, explore a real, beautiful and diverse world,
and find the lifestyle they desire. It's just if it's
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in China that it's gonna have the same problem.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
I am not doing that, and they're going to go
after next.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
But that's the whole that's the whole purpose.
Speaker 7 (04:42):
Of everybody joining it because they're trying to troll the
Supreme Court, basically saying like, oh, you're going after TikTok,
well we'll go join another app from China and.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Make you go through this whole process all over again.
Speaker 7 (04:53):
And it's actually, I think, like the number one app
in the App Store right now because so many people
are downloading it.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Did you see the video I sent you last night?
It's like like former million dollar creators now working at
Applebee's And it was like a girl like standing there
like doing a little dance and that dude. It is sad,
but like we we knew this was possible. This has
happened in other ways with other things. I mean, if
you thought you were once a Vine star, you know
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Vine's gone or whatever. So I'm just saying, like, you
gotta you gotta make sure you're constantly No, there's a
lot of really good things having Like this dude. I
don't know if you guys are familiar with the SB
mowing guy, the guy who does he most people's launch
for free. So he's engaged right now with this older woman.
I don't know the whole story, but like here's an
example of why TikTok shouldn't go away like this dude.
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He goes to people's houses and he and he like
that are just overgrown, and a lot of times it's
old people or they don't have enough money or whatever.
He pulls up, knocks on the door, says, can I
clean up your house? Most a lot of times people
are either rude or dismissive or not impressed. And it's
just amazing to me because he does, like a day
worth of work transform the look of these people's homes
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and then doesn't charge them. He's making money on the
TikTok views, but people are just like, oh cool now.
Some people are super grateful. He came across some old woman.
I don't know the whole backstory. All I know is
he decided that he didn't like the way she was
living and so he started, like the video went viral.
There's a gofund me. As of last night, I had
like seven hundred thousand dollars worth of donations for this
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one old woman. And they're going to like reconstruct her
house so it's accessible. They're gonna get her a new
car that's accessible. They're gonna like reado her driveway and
or stairs and stuff. I mean, but they thought they
might raise like, you know, tens of thousands maybe, and
now they can buy her a whole new house if
they want to. And it's all because people are touched
by this woman. And I think it's stuff like that
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going on on on TikTok oh. Yeah, while our information
is being stolen, But.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Like what information? Exactly? What do you want from me?
Speaker 3 (06:50):
I have it all.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
You guys have everything you want to see my browsing history,
then go right?
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Are are they are already?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Don't think they aren't for one second.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
I don't and I don't care. Look at me, watch me.
I'm not interested.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah, anyway, so that's what everyone's flocking to. Lemonade and red. Note,
if you want to hang out at Starbucks for free,
it's not gonna work anymore. Now you have to buy something.
So if you if you've been working from home, yeah,
this is terrible. But if you've been working from home
aka working from Starbucks, think you can we camp out
in there. I kid you know how. A bunch of
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years ago in the city, I did see a man.
This is not a joke. I saw a man set
up his full on desktop computer at a Starbucks full on,
and he wasn't just wasn't like a TikTok video. Like
he brought a monitor in and a tower and he
plugged that thing in the wall and he sat there
and just worked away all. I don't know how long
he was there. But Starbucks said Monday that it's reviewing
a policy. Reversing rather a policy that invited everyone into
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its store. Is a new code of conduct also bands
discrimination or harassment, consumption of outside alcohol, smoking, vaping, drug use,
and panhandley. That wasn't part of the policy already. I
could vape and use drugs in the Starbucks and then
no one was gonna say anything to me.
Speaker 5 (08:01):
Now.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
A Starbucks person, a person there, A spokesperson. That's hard
to say, A Starbucks spokesperson, Yeah, person that's there said
that the new rules are designed to help prioritize paying customers.
Most other retailers already have similar rules. They'll be asked
to leave, they might call law enforcement if necessary, and
there's going to be training on enforcing the new policy.
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So guys, if you were you know, Giki, I know
what you do when you leave here. You just go
camp out in Starbucks all day, you know, me, you
don't pay for anything. Nope, free Wi Fi, Nope, that's it.
Let me get a water cook not anymore, Not anymore.
And a pizzeria is trending because they're charging one hundred
and twenty five dollars for a standard Hawaiian pizza to
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deter customers from choosing the controversial pineapple topping. This places
in England. I guess one hundred and twenty five bucks.
You can have it, order the champagne too. Go on,
you monster, is what the sign says. When asked why
they decided to charge such a large fee, the owner's
answer simple, they hate pineapple on pizza. They got all
kinds of different stuff you can get on pizza, whipped tofu,
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garlic whipped tofu, beef, shin oh, brendang. I don't know.
They got a bunch of different stuff, but you can't
eat pineapple unless you want to pant twenty bucks you're sick?
Speaker 4 (09:18):
You want warm fruit on your pizza?
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Yeah, I am not a Yeah, I don't get it.
I mean you know more, you know more, power to you,
But I don't understand the only warm fruit like maybe
like a nice h apple pie warmed up or something
it's grows like a warm Apple's fine, you know what
I mean, But like, I'm not trying to have a
warm anything else but on your pizza, on my pizza.
Speaker 6 (09:38):
And it goes with bacon, right, you put bacon on
your ham, So ham and pineapple kind of a slap.
That's the only thing that will go together, like warm
fruit wise.
Speaker 4 (09:47):
And then mare and narrow sauce and grass.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
It's not bad.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
It's not good, but I'm bad the cops on you too. Honestly,
I'm not sure. I'm not sure what's worse the fact
that you can't have a Starbucks all day, like pineapple
pizza while you're there. That's me. He did even buy
from there. No, she's a person that brings us. She
brings the duncan into the Starbucks, then sits down their
Wi Fi, doesn't pay for anything. It's a ratification day,
recognizing the act that officially ended the American Revolution. National
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Shot for Travel Day and National Hot Pastrami Sandwich Day
today as well. So there you go. Please enjoy just
not piecing with pineapple on it. The Entertainment Report in
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Fresh Show is on. It's Stay or Go. All right, abe,
this is here, Good morning, a welcome to the show.
(10:34):
How are you hey there? Yeah, oh no, we're here. Hey.
What's going on with.
Speaker 5 (10:43):
This?
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Is your wife? Right?
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Kind of going through a little something with my wife here?
Speaker 1 (10:50):
All right, Well, thank you for the note. So you
I want you to kind of walk us through this.
But I you were adopted, but you never met your
birth mother, right, that's where this whole thing. That's kind
of like where it starts.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
Yeah, correct, correct, Like you said, I'm adopted. I've never
met my birth mother. I made it very clear my
whole life to everybody, not just my wife, but to everybody,
that I have no interest. I do not want to
meet my birth mother, my biological mother. Never something I
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wanted to do. I took a DNA test recently because
I needed to know if I had any specific health
issues and try to figure out some background about my health.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
Really, yeah, a lot of people doing this because you know,
if you don't have a relationship with your birth parents,
then there's there are holes obviously in your in your
lineage or you know, in your history as to what
might be sort of looming there, and if you want
to have kids, I know that can also be helpful
to know ahead of time. You know what might be
in your family history from a health standpoint, but you don't.
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You don't know, right because you don't know this woman,
right right, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
Yeah, I don't know any any of my family. So
I want to take this DNA test.
Speaker 8 (12:13):
Right, Okay, So my wife goes behind my back and
finds my birth mother and sets up a meeting, thinking it.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Was it was going to be a good thing.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
I went to the meeting and I met my biological
mother and it did not go well at all.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Yeah. I like to avoid this your whole life and
then for it to happen and then it not go well.
It's like, well, this is why I was avoiding it, right,
Like this is I wasn't. I didn't want to do this.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
Yeah, I didn't want to do it. I had a
feeling that whatever I'm going through, it just it was
something I did not want to do. You know, she
thought she was helping my wife I'm talking about. She
thought she was helping. She wasn't, And it's just something
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I can't seem to get over. I'm really upset at
my wife. It's something she knew I didn't want to do.
She made me go to this meeting anyway, and now
it's just something I can't undo, I can't take back.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
And.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
I just I feel like I can't get over it.
I feel like I don't know if this is something
I'm ever going to get over.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I'd be betrayed on any level because I'm thinking in
my head, what could she have done to get this
information for you to you know, because we could potentially
affect if you want to have children, It could affect children,
and that would be half hers. So I can understand
her interest in this, But like, I don't think I
have a strange men right, I'm a stranger in my
birth father. I don't. I would not be okay if
my wife called him and had some form of interaction
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with him, even if it was just a fact finding mission,
I wouldn't be okay with it. I start wouldn't be
okay if there was a meeting broker that I wasn't
a part of, especially if I expressed my wishes, which
is I want nothing to do with this. I've had
nothing to do with this I've made a conscious decision
my whole life not to have anything to do with this.
So why are you now going and deciding this is
what I should be doing. I wouldn't be okay with that.
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And so where are you guys at now? Like you
did it because okay, okay, it's been set up, so
I'll do it. Maybe she encouraged you. It goes poorly,
so now you're pissed. You're mad? Yeah, very mad.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
We had an initial blowout, big argument that day into
the next day, lasted, you know, quite a while. We
were pretty I was pretty upset at her, and lately
we've been, you know, kind of cordial to each other,
but it's just been a lot of tension.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
It's just it's just festering inside me.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
I'm getting very angry when I see her, you know,
our time together, and I'm just I just I'm not
over it. If I'm being honest, I feel like it's
something I'm not over. I'm gonna take me a while
to get over. If I'm even going to get over it.
But it was a I can't help but to take
it as an act of betrayal from her, and I
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don't know what to do whom here.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Well, let me take some phone calls on this, because
it's his group therapy of course eight five five unlicensed
group therapy. Yet you get what you paid for eight
five five five nine to one one O three five.
You can call it textas same number. I'm gonna take
these calls. Have the radio one and you can hear
what people have to say. But good luck with all
of this. It's a tough situation. I'm sorry going through it.
I appreciate it. Yeah, take care of man. Thanks for listening.
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What do you guys? I mean, I don't what jumps
out of you.
Speaker 7 (15:47):
I'm big on intention, right, So, like, I understand he
feels betrayed and this is not what he wanted. But like,
I don't think his wife's intention was to hurt him
in any type of way. If anything, she may, because
she's his partner, may notice some issues there, some mimmy
issues and some things that are not resolved, and this
might have been her attempt to try to help, although
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not the best way, and it really wasn't up to
her to do that. I really hope he doesn't leave her,
because I do think she had she didn't have ill
intention in setting this up.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
I'm big on intent too, but he did say I
don't want to do this. He has avoided it his
whole life, I know.
Speaker 7 (16:24):
But then as somebody who's maybe in a relationship with
you may say, you need to confront this. You know,
you need to heal from this, you need some resolution there.
And as your wife and as your partner, I think
she thought she was doing what was best for him,
and you know, even though he still is upset about it,
I think he kind of needed to come like confront it.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
As well and maybe work through it.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
You can, Kicky, this is a big deal. It's hurt
up to but this is a big deal, Like what
else is she going to take into her own hands
that is his?
Speaker 7 (16:53):
I know, I just don't think it was ill intent
at all, and I just, you know, yeah, I'm.
Speaker 9 (16:58):
Really big on not going I mean, he said, he
said it over and over and over, and now he's
probably way more hurt than he was. I don't know
what the mom said, And I also think if you're
not in a situation, you can't understand how it affects you.
So I'm assuming that she wasn't adopted, so she may
not know how that feels. And maybe he had you know,
great parents growing up and they weren't his biological parents,
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but he doesn't want maybe they didn't want him to go,
So I'm not for it. I think if somebody says
I don't want this over and over again, I don't
think you can go behind someone's back and do that,
and I wouldn't be able to get over it, especially
that it ended badly.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Well, I haven't shared this before because well there was
there's also estrangement on my mom's part of the family
with her sisters, and that woman just passed away, so
I guess I can say it. But you know, she
has an estranged child, an extended member of my family,
and that child reached out found my mom on like
a ancestry or one of those things, reached out and
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specifically said, I do not want any I don't want
any contact with this person. Do not tell I know
I'm asking a stranger for a lot, but I am
about to have children. We're trying to have kids, and
I do want to know what I'm up against. Would
you mind? You know, I'm not asking for any sort
of link up here. I just want you to provide
me with the information which my mom did and kept
her personal opinion out of it for the most part,
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because you know, I think she would have probably encouraged
this person not to go down that road. But again,
it's one of those things where you know, my mom
had a decision to make right. It was, you know,
and obviously the estrangement helped. They weren't talking anyway. But
I mean, I thought it was a very valid question,
something I had never considered before that Hey, I don't
I don't know what's looming, and if you've never met
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your birth parents, you may not have any clue what
you're up against one hundred person.
Speaker 6 (18:42):
So yes, I think what this you know, his wife
did was a form of betrayal, going behind somebody's back,
I do, one hundred percent. But as somebody who goes
to the doctor and I'm constantly asked, like, you know, oh,
tell me about your father's you know, whatever, health history,
and somebody who's never even met their biological father me,
I that quite shouldn't. Just I can't answer it because
I don't know. So like I have a child now too,
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so obviously you know, I don't know what my dad,
you know, his health and all of that, and what
that looks like for me in my future because I
don't have that answer. So like the only thing or
part I respect out of this is that maybe that
he'll get some medical information that he'll need.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
He is that something that you got.
Speaker 9 (19:17):
I know you've taken DNA test, and I know that
you can do the health one. I did the health one,
and I think you did and you can see, you
know things that are our genes are showing.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Is that you.
Speaker 9 (19:26):
Feel like that's not enough of a sample survey or
whatever to know.
Speaker 6 (19:30):
I mean it is, but like I would rather know
like oh, my father or from our course side of
the family, you know, our carriers for this, right or
maybe like I'm making this up, my grandfather had this,
Like you know, because I get asked all these questions
and I honestly don't have the answer.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
I just have my mom's infaults, and that's I barely
have that. Inact.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
I don't know the answers.
Speaker 4 (19:45):
And I knew my grandparents by the way, I'm like,
I don't know what the hell health Yeah they have
not too, but.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Yeah I am a good morning, welcome to the Friend Show.
How are you are you? Hey? So just to recap
here doing well, thanks for asking this. Dude is upset
because he doesn't talk to his mother. Never knew his
mother got married. They were talking about sort of like
previous health issues and things like that. The wife went
and reached out to the mother, linked them up without
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his knowledge, and the meeting went poorly, and now he's resentful,
very resentful. What do you think?
Speaker 10 (20:17):
Yeah, Okay, so a couple things. First, he either needs
to go or they need to go to therapy at
a very bare minimum, just to figure out if like
they I's moving on from this is even within the
realm of possibilities, because I mean, obviously he's portrayed like
there's literally I cannot and I understood health things whatever.
I cannot think of though of a reason why she
would go behind his back and not like talk it
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through with him first, like, oh, I think this would
be good for it, Like there's just no reason she
should have gone behind his back.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Yeah, I mean in my life, for example, that is
not a debatable thing, like even if you deeply believe
that it is important to me, like if I make
the decision, no, the decisions know and I would expect
my wife if I had one, to understand that that's
you know, this is a forty plus your thing you
know that has it's way bigger than that, you know,
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so this is this is not for you to sit
you know, uh to say, you know what I mean.
Speaker 11 (21:09):
And the other thing that that's too with health like
and I know, like this isn't necessarily a possibility for
everybody because you know, health stuff is expensive and whatnot.
But like there's also like just genetic testing and what
you can go through a doctor. Like there's like which
is actually.
Speaker 10 (21:23):
Technically two even more accurate than just word them out whatever. Anyways,
there are other options. She did not need to do
this at all.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Yeah, yeah, I agree. Hey, Emily, thanks for listening, Thanks
for calling. Have a good day you too. Liz has
a different Liz, you have a different take on this.
Good morning, welcome Hi, And I'm saying this on the
text too. A lot of people feel the same way,
but go ahead.
Speaker 12 (21:43):
Yeah, I mean, I definitely agree that the wife should
not have done it, she should have stayed on it.
But I don't necessarily think it's a go situation. I
think it's something that can be worked out because you know,
there's a portion of it that he has to take
responsibility and account of ability. For sure, the wife planned
the meeting, but it was his choice to go through
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with the meeting, and I definitely think that's an important
piece of the puzzle. It's not all on her.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Yeah, but you and I don't know this because I
don't know her or really him. But have you ever
been in a relationship where someone just harps on something
to the point where you're like, fine, I'm going to
do this. If anything, he was doing it for her.
It almost seems like, fine, I'll do this, I'll do
this for you, and I'm making I'm taking some liberties
here because I don't know that, but it's like, okay, fine,
like you need It's almost like she needed this information
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in order to feel confident moving forward, and maybe I'd
like to believe she thought it would be helpful. But
if do it is like, this is not going to
help me. I mean, I think that you got to
sort of respect that, don't you.
Speaker 10 (22:45):
Oh yeah, I totally agree.
Speaker 12 (22:47):
But you know, I'm very big on at the end
of the day, everybody has choices, and.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
You know, yeah, he could. Thank you, Liz, have a
good day, Welcome you too. Thank you so much for
calling for saying hey Jessica, good morning, good morning, Hi Jessica,
what do you think you know?
Speaker 10 (23:06):
Honestly, I agree with Kiki. I feel like there's I think.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
There's a reason she set it up.
Speaker 5 (23:11):
I mean, if he continuously said no, whether he was
making like subliminal comments or something along with lines, something
in her gut sets out like it was something she
needed to do.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Yeah. Yeah, And I'm big on intention too, because I
do think like people need to take into consideration. I
think as a society we need to take into consideration
sometimes like where's somebody coming from when they said something
before we just get, you know, absolutely furious and livid.
And I understand that you're entitled to feel however you
feel about something, but I do think intention matters in
this case though. This is beyond all of that, and I.
Speaker 4 (23:44):
Thinking, you know better like for somebody than they know.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
This is foundational, right, Like this is this is not
you know I said this and you interpreted it as this.
You know, this isn't like I didn't say good morning
to you in the right way and you get kissed
off and you're mad at me all you know, and
like you know what I'm saying, Like what I said,
good morning, Like, I know what you're mad at me,
But like I said, good morning, this isn't that. This
isn't a communicative you know, a difference, right.
Speaker 5 (24:10):
She loves him, you know, Yeah, I just like you know,
they're married, she loves them, And I feel like I agree, Chiki.
I just feel like there had to have been some
type of reason she did that. She's not going to
stop and doing like, oh, you just need to meet her.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Yeah, fair enough. But again, and Kiky, I'll get you
to say, but if you're not going to if we
talked about that and I said no, and you do
it anyway, Now, I'm going to wonder for the rest
of our relationship, what else are you going to disregard?
What do you want to say?
Speaker 7 (24:36):
I just I just think that she loves him. I
don't think she's trying to hurt him. Yes, it did hurt,
you know, it did hurt. She made a mistake, but
I don't think she intentionally tried to set this up
to hurt him in any kind of way.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
Yeah, maybe I agree, Jessica. Thank you, have a great day.
Thanks for listening too. Thank you glad you called Tanya. Okay, Tanya,
good morning. Hey, So you you you have adopted children, correct, okay,
and so you how would your kids feel about that?
Like what is kind of can you give us like
a little backstory, a little bit of the context.
Speaker 13 (25:11):
Yeah, yeah, I've had mine, so I got to as
a single mother. I've had them since they were very young,
so they don't know anything different. And they're fifteen and.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
Seventeen now, okay.
Speaker 13 (25:22):
And what I'm thinking about is like the wife hasn't
been there all their childhood or all his childhood, so
you know, the wife doesn't know the feelings that he
went through growing up.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
Right.
Speaker 13 (25:31):
You know, my children, even no matter how great I
am to them as a mother, they still feel so abandoned.
You know, my own mother didn't love me. You know,
how could that she leave me? And that hurt that
they carried all their childhood and you know the pain
they've been through. So I think the wife doesn't know
that she's been there maybe three years, five years, you know,
she hasn't seen that all the childhood and all that
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trauma that carries along with feeling abandoned by you know,
your birth mother. So I think for somebody to set
that up and to do that if he didn't want
to do his own. Nobody should ever do that for him,
Like I will never do that for my children. I will,
you know, never force them to go meet their birth mother.
They can do it on their own, but I would
never push that on them.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Well, and you can tell you can instill in your
kids that hey, maybe maybe you weren't unwanted. Maybe they
were circumstances. I mean, you can say all this, but
and who knows, maybe that conversation would be beneficial for
them to hear from. You know, I don't know the situation.
But let's say that mother was very young or incapable
of caring for them, and this was the best choice
for you know, whatever. It's possible that conversation could benefit them,
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But they have to decide that it can't be you
because you're the next closest thing they trust you, right,
and they said no. So now if you go do it, now,
you're putting your relationship with them at risk. It's almost
like another level of betrayal.
Speaker 13 (26:46):
Exactly another in that you know, he's his wife, he
has you know, a relationship with and he trusted her
and now she's making him feel I don't know, maybe
that feeling of like abandonment again, like she's abandoning him
in the relationship, like she's.
Speaker 11 (26:57):
Turning on him.
Speaker 13 (26:58):
Yeah, and I think that's probably that's what's like striking
with it.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Yeah, that's hard, that's hard. That's a lot.
Speaker 13 (27:03):
And we don't know what it feels like, you know,
if we unless you're in that situation as a child,
I don't think of any clue what it feels like, right.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
I agree, I agree, Thank you, Tania, have a good day.
I'd be pretty pissed if somebody went around me and
just went together.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
He has a right to be mad. Don't get me
wrong here.
Speaker 7 (27:19):
I'm just trying to extend a little grace to the wife,
Like I just I don't think she tried to hurt him, you.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Know, well, well forget her, man, don't wow. Okay, Usually
I say I'm surprised. I'm just taking it in the
entertainment of
It's a fresh show. This is what's trending sports quickly.
(00:03):
Jason Brown, the Rams won last night. That was your pick,
which means that you did better with the picks than
Bellahamin did. Wow, he wants to actually be a sports person. Oh,
I feel bad, but Sean McVay, I mean, when you're good,
you're good, though, you shouldn't feel bad for your excellence.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Okay, well, thank you.
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Yeah. And Mike McCarthy will not return as a Cowboys coach.
Why is this important? Because Deon Sanders might replace him?
They were saying coach Prime. I don't know if that
what really happened, but they're talking about it. And then
Mike McCarthy, who used to coach the Packers, might wind
up being the coach of the Bears, which would be
something Michael. There was a man named Mike McCarthy used
(00:43):
to work here. It turns out it wasn't the same guy. Yeah. Yeah,
that guy tried to ask you to day, didn't he?
Who isn't that the guy who asked you on a
date one time? I thought you just said texted Kaylin?
What did you mean?
Speaker 3 (00:55):
No?
Speaker 4 (00:55):
I said, who I said? He texted Kayleb Like joking
about that.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Pray.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
No, I don't know where McCarthy is.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I thought there was a guy that worked here. I
don't know who it was. Never mind, it wasn't Mike McCarthy.
I thought there was a guy that worked here that
asked you on to day. They've probably been several, but anyway,
we don't talk.
Speaker 4 (01:08):
About it's not name.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
We all just watched the video. I know it would
take too long. It would take it would take longer
than he keeps talking about all the fish that she
won't eat. We just watched the sexual harassment video. You're
not supposed to do that, Okay. You can't be asking
people out around here. Yeah, don't do that, yea. Yeah,
So people stop asking me out because I'm just not
I'm not going to go. I watched the video. I'm
very worried about him. Yeah, but Dean Sanders, the University
(01:32):
of Colorado coach, might be considered for the Dallas Cowboys job.
So we'll see. The Palasage fire has covered over twenty
three thousand acres and it was only fourteen percent contained
as of yesterday. They eating fire has burned over fourteen
thousand acres and was thirty three percent contained. As of yesterday,
the two fires have destroyed around twelve thousand structures so far,
(01:53):
and there are lawsuits now. Southern California Edison now has
four lawsuits against it overclaims that it's electrical equipment is
response for starting one of the wildfires in the LA area.
Also in fire news, there are people who are some
of the worst people ever. They're looting homes dressed as firefighters.
(02:14):
So what is lower than looting homes evacuated amid the
LA wildfires with people who are losing everything that they
have or potentially losing everything they have. How about looting
the homes well dressed as a firefighter. Police say at
least one of the dozens of looting suspects arrested over
the weekend was in disguise. We are turning him over
to LAPD because he was dressed like a fireman and
he was not, said the sheriff about the guy who
(02:37):
was arrested in malibuom he got caught burglarizing a home.
So those are issues that our frontline deputies and police
officers are dealing with. Also, there's a thing called the
b Platoon that's saving bees from the LA fires in
response to the destructive wildfires happening. They are, there's an
organization called the b Platoon that's stepping into help. The
nonprofit group out of Davis focuses on assisting beekey pers
(03:00):
who have been affected by the disasters. Over one hundred
bee keepers from the Pacific Palisades in nearby areas had
to evacuate. The Bee Platoon will remove hives out of
the way of firefighters and other emergency personnel. They'll also
safely move bee hives out of harm's way and support
beekeepers and finding shelter for their bees or evacuating them
as needed. They're also planning to return in February to
(03:21):
help set up the hives again. The bees. Hey lady
on TikTok, I hope she's okay. Oh, she's in California. Yeah,
the bees. You ever seen her?
Speaker 5 (03:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (03:29):
Yeah, I know because you because of TikTok another day
with saving the bees and she says it like that too.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
I hope, hope, hope she's well, okay, can do you
want to explain what Red notice to everybody? Yes? Well
I figured you would know.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
Yeah, it's a new app that is waiting on us.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
That's what I figured you were already on it, so.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
I'll pull up.
Speaker 7 (03:49):
Actually I'm not there yet because I am going what
I've noticed, I'm going through the stages of grief with TikTok.
Name today is denial. Oh, I am in full denial
that it's actually going away. Yeah, so I can't planned
for the future because I don't believe this is this
is actually our reality. But you know, if you're passing
me on that Red Note is the new app, the
new hotness that is waiting for us. They've actually I've
(04:10):
heard the CEO of the app drop the video to
welcome all Americans as they begin to join.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
Yes, so, ahead of a looming US van on TikTok,
content creators have been flocking to Red Note as well
as Lemon and Eight, which is TikTok's sister app. So
it's a dynamic lifestyle platform out of China for young
people to share experiences, explore a real, beautiful and diverse world,
and find the lifestyle they desire. It's just if it's
(04:36):
in China that it's gonna have the same problem.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
I am not doing that, and they're going to go
after next.
Speaker 2 (04:41):
But that's the whole that's the whole purpose.
Speaker 7 (04:42):
Of everybody joining it because they're trying to troll the
Supreme Court, basically saying like, oh, you're going after TikTok,
well we'll go join another app from China and.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Make you go through this whole process all over again.
Speaker 7 (04:53):
And it's actually, I think, like the number one app
in the App Store right now because so many people
are downloading it.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Did you see the video I sent you last night?
It's like like former million dollar creators now working at
Applebee's And it was like a girl like standing there
like doing a little dance and that dude. It is sad,
but like we we knew this was possible. This has
happened in other ways with other things. I mean, if
you thought you were once a Vine star, you know
(05:19):
Vine's gone or whatever. So I'm just saying, like, you
gotta you gotta make sure you're constantly No, there's a
lot of really good things having Like this dude. I
don't know if you guys are familiar with the SB
mowing guy, the guy who does he most people's launch
for free. So he's engaged right now with this older woman.
I don't know the whole story, but like here's an
example of why TikTok shouldn't go away like this dude.
(05:40):
He goes to people's houses and he and he like
that are just overgrown, and a lot of times it's
old people or they don't have enough money or whatever.
He pulls up, knocks on the door, says, can I
clean up your house? Most a lot of times people
are either rude or dismissive or not impressed. And it's
just amazing to me because he does, like a day
worth of work transform the look of these people's homes
(06:01):
and then doesn't charge them. He's making money on the
TikTok views, but people are just like, oh cool now.
Some people are super grateful. He came across some old woman.
I don't know the whole backstory. All I know is
he decided that he didn't like the way she was
living and so he started, like the video went viral.
There's a gofund me. As of last night, I had
like seven hundred thousand dollars worth of donations for this
(06:22):
one old woman. And they're going to like reconstruct her
house so it's accessible. They're gonna get her a new
car that's accessible. They're gonna like reado her driveway and
or stairs and stuff. I mean, but they thought they
might raise like, you know, tens of thousands maybe, and
now they can buy her a whole new house if
they want to. And it's all because people are touched
by this woman. And I think it's stuff like that
(06:42):
going on on on TikTok oh. Yeah, while our information
is being stolen, But.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Like what information? Exactly? What do you want from me?
Speaker 3 (06:50):
I have it all.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
You guys have everything you want to see my browsing history,
then go right?
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Are are they are already?
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Don't think they aren't for one second.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
I don't and I don't care. Look at me, watch me.
I'm not interested.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Yeah, anyway, so that's what everyone's flocking to. Lemonade and red. Note,
if you want to hang out at Starbucks for free,
it's not gonna work anymore. Now you have to buy something.
So if you if you've been working from home, yeah,
this is terrible. But if you've been working from home
aka working from Starbucks, think you can we camp out
in there. I kid you know how. A bunch of
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years ago in the city, I did see a man.
This is not a joke. I saw a man set
up his full on desktop computer at a Starbucks full on,
and he wasn't just wasn't like a TikTok video. Like
he brought a monitor in and a tower and he
plugged that thing in the wall and he sat there
and just worked away all. I don't know how long
he was there. But Starbucks said Monday that it's reviewing
a policy. Reversing rather a policy that invited everyone into
(07:48):
its store. Is a new code of conduct also bands
discrimination or harassment, consumption of outside alcohol, smoking, vaping, drug use,
and panhandley. That wasn't part of the policy already. I
could vape and use drugs in the Starbucks and then
no one was gonna say anything to me.
Speaker 5 (08:01):
Now.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
A Starbucks person, a person there, A spokesperson. That's hard
to say, A Starbucks spokesperson, Yeah, person that's there said
that the new rules are designed to help prioritize paying customers.
Most other retailers already have similar rules. They'll be asked
to leave, they might call law enforcement if necessary, and
there's going to be training on enforcing the new policy.
(08:24):
So guys, if you were you know, Giki, I know
what you do when you leave here. You just go
camp out in Starbucks all day, you know, me, you
don't pay for anything. Nope, free Wi Fi, Nope, that's it.
Let me get a water cook not anymore, Not anymore.
And a pizzeria is trending because they're charging one hundred
and twenty five dollars for a standard Hawaiian pizza to
(08:44):
deter customers from choosing the controversial pineapple topping. This places
in England. I guess one hundred and twenty five bucks.
You can have it, order the champagne too. Go on,
you monster, is what the sign says. When asked why
they decided to charge such a large fee, the owner's
answer simple, they hate pineapple on pizza. They got all
kinds of different stuff you can get on pizza, whipped tofu,
(09:06):
garlic whipped tofu, beef, shin oh, brendang. I don't know.
They got a bunch of different stuff, but you can't
eat pineapple unless you want to pant twenty bucks you're sick?
Speaker 4 (09:18):
You want warm fruit on your pizza?
Speaker 1 (09:19):
Yeah, I am not a Yeah, I don't get it.
I mean you know more, you know more, power to you,
But I don't understand the only warm fruit like maybe
like a nice h apple pie warmed up or something
it's grows like a warm Apple's fine, you know what
I mean, But like, I'm not trying to have a
warm anything else but on your pizza, on my pizza.
Speaker 6 (09:38):
And it goes with bacon, right, you put bacon on
your ham, So ham and pineapple kind of a slap.
That's the only thing that will go together, like warm
fruit wise.
Speaker 4 (09:47):
And then mare and narrow sauce and grass.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
It's not bad.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
It's not good, but I'm bad the cops on you too. Honestly,
I'm not sure. I'm not sure what's worse the fact
that you can't have a Starbucks all day, like pineapple
pizza while you're there. That's me. He did even buy
from there. No, she's a person that brings us. She
brings the duncan into the Starbucks, then sits down their
Wi Fi, doesn't pay for anything. It's a ratification day,
recognizing the act that officially ended the American Revolution. National
(10:12):
Shot for Travel Day and National Hot Pastrami Sandwich Day
today as well. So there you go. Please enjoy just
not piecing with pineapple on it. The Entertainment Report in
two minutes on The Fresh Show one on three to
five Kiss FM, Chicago's number one hit music station, The
Fresh Show is on. It's Stay or Go. All right, abe,
this is here, Good morning, a welcome to the show.
(10:34):
How are you hey there? Yeah, oh no, we're here. Hey.
What's going on with.
Speaker 5 (10:43):
This?
Speaker 1 (10:43):
Is your wife? Right?
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (10:47):
Kind of going through a little something with my wife here?
Speaker 1 (10:50):
All right, Well, thank you for the note. So you
I want you to kind of walk us through this.
But I you were adopted, but you never met your
birth mother, right, that's where this whole thing. That's kind
of like where it starts.
Speaker 3 (11:04):
Yeah, correct, correct, Like you said, I'm adopted. I've never
met my birth mother. I made it very clear my
whole life to everybody, not just my wife, but to everybody,
that I have no interest. I do not want to
meet my birth mother, my biological mother. Never something I
(11:27):
wanted to do. I took a DNA test recently because
I needed to know if I had any specific health
issues and try to figure out some background about my health.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
Really, yeah, a lot of people doing this because you know,
if you don't have a relationship with your birth parents,
then there's there are holes obviously in your in your
lineage or you know, in your history as to what
might be sort of looming there, and if you want
to have kids, I know that can also be helpful
to know ahead of time. You know what might be
in your family history from a health standpoint, but you don't.
(12:03):
You don't know, right because you don't know this woman,
right right, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
Yeah, I don't know any any of my family. So
I want to take this DNA test.
Speaker 8 (12:13):
Right, Okay, So my wife goes behind my back and
finds my birth mother and sets up a meeting, thinking it.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Was it was going to be a good thing.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
I went to the meeting and I met my biological
mother and it did not go well at all.
Speaker 1 (12:40):
Yeah. I like to avoid this your whole life and
then for it to happen and then it not go well.
It's like, well, this is why I was avoiding it, right,
Like this is I wasn't. I didn't want to do this.
Speaker 3 (12:49):
Yeah, I didn't want to do it. I had a
feeling that whatever I'm going through, it just it was
something I did not want to do. You know, she
thought she was helping my wife I'm talking about. She
thought she was helping. She wasn't, And it's just something
(13:10):
I can't seem to get over. I'm really upset at
my wife. It's something she knew I didn't want to do.
She made me go to this meeting anyway, and now
it's just something I can't undo, I can't take back.
Speaker 1 (13:25):
And.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
I just I feel like I can't get over it.
I feel like I don't know if this is something
I'm ever going to get over.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I'd be betrayed on any level because I'm thinking in
my head, what could she have done to get this
information for you to you know, because we could potentially
affect if you want to have children, It could affect children,
and that would be half hers. So I can understand
her interest in this, But like, I don't think I
have a strange men right, I'm a stranger in my
birth father. I don't. I would not be okay if
my wife called him and had some form of interaction
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with him, even if it was just a fact finding mission,
I wouldn't be okay with it. I start wouldn't be
okay if there was a meeting broker that I wasn't
a part of, especially if I expressed my wishes, which
is I want nothing to do with this. I've had
nothing to do with this I've made a conscious decision
my whole life not to have anything to do with this.
So why are you now going and deciding this is
what I should be doing. I wouldn't be okay with that.
(14:17):
And so where are you guys at now? Like you
did it because okay, okay, it's been set up, so
I'll do it. Maybe she encouraged you. It goes poorly,
so now you're pissed. You're mad? Yeah, very mad.
Speaker 3 (14:30):
We had an initial blowout, big argument that day into
the next day, lasted, you know, quite a while. We
were pretty I was pretty upset at her, and lately
we've been, you know, kind of cordial to each other,
but it's just been a lot of tension.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
It's just it's just festering inside me.
Speaker 3 (14:56):
I'm getting very angry when I see her, you know,
our time together, and I'm just I just I'm not
over it. If I'm being honest, I feel like it's
something I'm not over. I'm gonna take me a while
to get over. If I'm even going to get over it.
But it was a I can't help but to take
it as an act of betrayal from her, and I
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don't know what to do whom here.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Well, let me take some phone calls on this, because
it's his group therapy of course eight five five unlicensed
group therapy. Yet you get what you paid for eight
five five five nine to one one O three five.
You can call it textas same number. I'm gonna take
these calls. Have the radio one and you can hear
what people have to say. But good luck with all
of this. It's a tough situation. I'm sorry going through it.
I appreciate it. Yeah, take care of man. Thanks for listening.
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What do you guys? I mean, I don't what jumps
out of you.
Speaker 7 (15:47):
I'm big on intention, right, So, like, I understand he
feels betrayed and this is not what he wanted. But like,
I don't think his wife's intention was to hurt him
in any type of way. If anything, she may, because
she's his partner, may notice some issues there, some mimmy
issues and some things that are not resolved, and this
might have been her attempt to try to help, although
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not the best way, and it really wasn't up to
her to do that. I really hope he doesn't leave her,
because I do think she had she didn't have ill
intention in setting this up.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
I'm big on intent too, but he did say I
don't want to do this. He has avoided it his
whole life, I know.
Speaker 7 (16:24):
But then as somebody who's maybe in a relationship with
you may say, you need to confront this. You know,
you need to heal from this, you need some resolution there.
And as your wife and as your partner, I think
she thought she was doing what was best for him,
and you know, even though he still is upset about it,
I think he kind of needed to come like confront it.
Speaker 2 (16:44):
As well and maybe work through it.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
You can, Kicky, this is a big deal. It's hurt
up to but this is a big deal, Like what
else is she going to take into her own hands
that is his?
Speaker 7 (16:53):
I know, I just don't think it was ill intent
at all, and I just, you know, yeah, I'm.
Speaker 9 (16:58):
Really big on not going I mean, he said, he
said it over and over and over, and now he's
probably way more hurt than he was. I don't know
what the mom said, And I also think if you're
not in a situation, you can't understand how it affects you.
So I'm assuming that she wasn't adopted, so she may
not know how that feels. And maybe he had you know,
great parents growing up and they weren't his biological parents,
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but he doesn't want maybe they didn't want him to go,
So I'm not for it. I think if somebody says
I don't want this over and over again, I don't
think you can go behind someone's back and do that,
and I wouldn't be able to get over it, especially
that it ended badly.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Well, I haven't shared this before because well there was
there's also estrangement on my mom's part of the family
with her sisters, and that woman just passed away, so
I guess I can say it. But you know, she
has an estranged child, an extended member of my family,
and that child reached out found my mom on like
a ancestry or one of those things, reached out and
(17:55):
specifically said, I do not want any I don't want
any contact with this person. Do not tell I know
I'm asking a stranger for a lot, but I am
about to have children. We're trying to have kids, and
I do want to know what I'm up against. Would
you mind? You know, I'm not asking for any sort
of link up here. I just want you to provide
me with the information which my mom did and kept
her personal opinion out of it for the most part,
(18:17):
because you know, I think she would have probably encouraged
this person not to go down that road. But again,
it's one of those things where you know, my mom
had a decision to make right. It was, you know,
and obviously the estrangement helped. They weren't talking anyway. But
I mean, I thought it was a very valid question,
something I had never considered before that Hey, I don't
I don't know what's looming, and if you've never met
(18:38):
your birth parents, you may not have any clue what
you're up against one hundred person.
Speaker 6 (18:42):
So yes, I think what this you know, his wife
did was a form of betrayal, going behind somebody's back,
I do, one hundred percent. But as somebody who goes
to the doctor and I'm constantly asked, like, you know, oh,
tell me about your father's you know, whatever, health history,
and somebody who's never even met their biological father me,
I that quite shouldn't. Just I can't answer it because
I don't know. So like I have a child now too,
(19:03):
so obviously you know, I don't know what my dad,
you know, his health and all of that, and what
that looks like for me in my future because I
don't have that answer. So like the only thing or
part I respect out of this is that maybe that
he'll get some medical information that he'll need.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
He is that something that you got.
Speaker 9 (19:17):
I know you've taken DNA test, and I know that
you can do the health one. I did the health one,
and I think you did and you can see, you
know things that are our genes are showing.
Speaker 2 (19:26):
Is that you.
Speaker 9 (19:26):
Feel like that's not enough of a sample survey or
whatever to know.
Speaker 6 (19:30):
I mean it is, but like I would rather know
like oh, my father or from our course side of
the family, you know, our carriers for this, right or
maybe like I'm making this up, my grandfather had this,
Like you know, because I get asked all these questions
and I honestly don't have the answer.
Speaker 2 (19:42):
I just have my mom's infaults, and that's I barely
have that. Inact.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
I don't know the answers.
Speaker 4 (19:45):
And I knew my grandparents by the way, I'm like,
I don't know what the hell health Yeah they have
not too, but.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Yeah I am a good morning, welcome to the Friend Show.
How are you are you? Hey? So just to recap
here doing well, thanks for asking this. Dude is upset
because he doesn't talk to his mother. Never knew his
mother got married. They were talking about sort of like
previous health issues and things like that. The wife went
and reached out to the mother, linked them up without
(20:12):
his knowledge, and the meeting went poorly, and now he's resentful,
very resentful. What do you think?
Speaker 10 (20:17):
Yeah, Okay, so a couple things. First, he either needs
to go or they need to go to therapy at
a very bare minimum, just to figure out if like
they I's moving on from this is even within the
realm of possibilities, because I mean, obviously he's portrayed like
there's literally I cannot and I understood health things whatever.
I cannot think of though of a reason why she
would go behind his back and not like talk it
(20:37):
through with him first, like, oh, I think this would
be good for it, Like there's just no reason she
should have gone behind his back.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
Yeah, I mean in my life, for example, that is
not a debatable thing, like even if you deeply believe
that it is important to me, like if I make
the decision, no, the decisions know and I would expect
my wife if I had one, to understand that that's
you know, this is a forty plus your thing you
know that has it's way bigger than that, you know,
(21:04):
so this is this is not for you to sit
you know, uh to say, you know what I mean.
Speaker 11 (21:09):
And the other thing that that's too with health like
and I know, like this isn't necessarily a possibility for
everybody because you know, health stuff is expensive and whatnot.
But like there's also like just genetic testing and what
you can go through a doctor. Like there's like which
is actually.
Speaker 10 (21:23):
Technically two even more accurate than just word them out whatever. Anyways,
there are other options. She did not need to do
this at all.
Speaker 1 (21:29):
Yeah, yeah, I agree. Hey, Emily, thanks for listening, Thanks
for calling. Have a good day you too. Liz has
a different Liz, you have a different take on this.
Good morning, welcome Hi, And I'm saying this on the
text too. A lot of people feel the same way,
but go ahead.
Speaker 12 (21:43):
Yeah, I mean, I definitely agree that the wife should
not have done it, she should have stayed on it.
But I don't necessarily think it's a go situation. I
think it's something that can be worked out because you know,
there's a portion of it that he has to take
responsibility and account of ability. For sure, the wife planned
the meeting, but it was his choice to go through
(22:05):
with the meeting, and I definitely think that's an important
piece of the puzzle. It's not all on her.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Yeah, but you and I don't know this because I
don't know her or really him. But have you ever
been in a relationship where someone just harps on something
to the point where you're like, fine, I'm going to
do this. If anything, he was doing it for her.
It almost seems like, fine, I'll do this, I'll do
this for you, and I'm making I'm taking some liberties
here because I don't know that, but it's like, okay, fine,
like you need It's almost like she needed this information
(22:33):
in order to feel confident moving forward, and maybe I'd
like to believe she thought it would be helpful. But
if do it is like, this is not going to
help me. I mean, I think that you got to
sort of respect that, don't you.
Speaker 10 (22:45):
Oh yeah, I totally agree.
Speaker 12 (22:47):
But you know, I'm very big on at the end
of the day, everybody has choices, and.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
You know, yeah, he could. Thank you, Liz, have a
good day, Welcome you too. Thank you so much for
calling for saying hey Jessica, good morning, good morning, Hi Jessica,
what do you think you know?
Speaker 10 (23:06):
Honestly, I agree with Kiki. I feel like there's I think.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
There's a reason she set it up.
Speaker 5 (23:11):
I mean, if he continuously said no, whether he was
making like subliminal comments or something along with lines, something
in her gut sets out like it was something she
needed to do.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
Yeah. Yeah, And I'm big on intention too, because I
do think like people need to take into consideration. I
think as a society we need to take into consideration
sometimes like where's somebody coming from when they said something
before we just get, you know, absolutely furious and livid.
And I understand that you're entitled to feel however you
feel about something, but I do think intention matters in
this case though. This is beyond all of that, and I.
Speaker 4 (23:44):
Thinking, you know better like for somebody than they know.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
This is foundational, right, Like this is this is not
you know I said this and you interpreted it as this.
You know, this isn't like I didn't say good morning
to you in the right way and you get kissed
off and you're mad at me all you know, and
like you know what I'm saying, Like what I said,
good morning, Like, I know what you're mad at me,
But like I said, good morning, this isn't that. This
isn't a communicative you know, a difference, right.
Speaker 5 (24:10):
She loves him, you know, Yeah, I just like you know,
they're married, she loves them, And I feel like I agree, Chiki.
I just feel like there had to have been some
type of reason she did that. She's not going to
stop and doing like, oh, you just need to meet her.
Speaker 1 (24:22):
Yeah, fair enough. But again, and Kiky, I'll get you
to say, but if you're not going to if we
talked about that and I said no, and you do
it anyway, Now, I'm going to wonder for the rest
of our relationship, what else are you going to disregard?
What do you want to say?
Speaker 7 (24:36):
I just I just think that she loves him. I
don't think she's trying to hurt him. Yes, it did hurt,
you know, it did hurt. She made a mistake, but
I don't think she intentionally tried to set this up
to hurt him in any kind of way.
Speaker 1 (24:48):
Yeah, maybe I agree, Jessica. Thank you, have a great day.
Thanks for listening too. Thank you glad you called Tanya. Okay, Tanya,
good morning. Hey, So you you you have adopted children, correct, okay,
and so you how would your kids feel about that?
Like what is kind of can you give us like
a little backstory, a little bit of the context.
Speaker 13 (25:11):
Yeah, yeah, I've had mine, so I got to as
a single mother. I've had them since they were very young,
so they don't know anything different. And they're fifteen and.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
Seventeen now, okay.
Speaker 13 (25:22):
And what I'm thinking about is like the wife hasn't
been there all their childhood or all his childhood, so
you know, the wife doesn't know the feelings that he
went through growing up.
Speaker 1 (25:31):
Right.
Speaker 13 (25:31):
You know, my children, even no matter how great I
am to them as a mother, they still feel so abandoned.
You know, my own mother didn't love me. You know,
how could that she leave me? And that hurt that
they carried all their childhood and you know the pain
they've been through. So I think the wife doesn't know
that she's been there maybe three years, five years, you know,
she hasn't seen that all the childhood and all that
(25:51):
trauma that carries along with feeling abandoned by you know,
your birth mother. So I think for somebody to set
that up and to do that if he didn't want
to do his own. Nobody should ever do that for him,
Like I will never do that for my children. I will,
you know, never force them to go meet their birth mother.
They can do it on their own, but I would
never push that on them.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Well, and you can tell you can instill in your
kids that hey, maybe maybe you weren't unwanted. Maybe they
were circumstances. I mean, you can say all this, but
and who knows, maybe that conversation would be beneficial for
them to hear from. You know, I don't know the situation.
But let's say that mother was very young or incapable
of caring for them, and this was the best choice
for you know, whatever. It's possible that conversation could benefit them,
(26:30):
But they have to decide that it can't be you
because you're the next closest thing they trust you, right,
and they said no. So now if you go do it, now,
you're putting your relationship with them at risk. It's almost
like another level of betrayal.
Speaker 13 (26:46):
Exactly another in that you know, he's his wife, he
has you know, a relationship with and he trusted her
and now she's making him feel I don't know, maybe
that feeling of like abandonment again, like she's abandoning him
in the relationship, like she's.
Speaker 11 (26:57):
Turning on him.
Speaker 13 (26:58):
Yeah, and I think that's probably that's what's like striking
with it.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
Yeah, that's hard, that's hard. That's a lot.
Speaker 13 (27:03):
And we don't know what it feels like, you know,
if we unless you're in that situation as a child,
I don't think of any clue what it feels like, right.
Speaker 1 (27:09):
I agree, I agree, Thank you, Tania, have a good day.
I'd be pretty pissed if somebody went around me and
just went together.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
He has a right to be mad. Don't get me
wrong here.
Speaker 7 (27:19):
I'm just trying to extend a little grace to the wife,
Like I just I don't think she tried to hurt him, you.
Speaker 1 (27:24):
Know, well, well forget her, man, don't wow. Okay, Usually
I say I'm surprised. I'm just taking it in the
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