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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Allen rights today, there's no place like Vegas. There's no
higher achy there archy. Oops, it's just a bunch of
degenerates with the same common goal. Well I don't know, Okay,
Well I think there are a lot of goals in Vegas.
I mean there's the drunk goal, there's the gambling goal,
there's the drug goal, there's the maybe the.

Speaker 2 (00:19):
Ladies to be a degenerate though, like everyone has a
nefarious goal, and like I was talking about this with Jason,
and there's just there's no one's better than the other.

Speaker 3 (00:28):
We're all just, you know, we want to just have
a bad good time.

Speaker 4 (00:32):
The land of the equal.

Speaker 5 (00:33):
Yeah, except that's not true.

Speaker 4 (00:35):
They go for shows. I feel like they think they're
better than everybody.

Speaker 1 (00:43):
I just go for the shows in the eating. That's
your way of saying, like, I'm not like the rest.

Speaker 6 (00:47):
Of you better than Yes, yeah, that's true, that's true.

Speaker 1 (00:52):
I agree. I agree. I just I just go to
eating for the shows. That's that's the people saying to you,
I'm not like you. I don't gamble, I'll go to
the club. I don't you know what, You're right, You're
exactly right.

Speaker 6 (01:08):
Yes, I turned into that. Yeah, that is me. I
am the person.

Speaker 2 (01:12):
I am the one you go to your shows because
we're trying to be degenerates.

Speaker 7 (01:16):
Okay, roller coaster in Vegas for my wedding, Like.

Speaker 5 (01:19):
Yeah, it's a lot going on.

Speaker 4 (01:20):
Oh well, Kaylin was changing outfish.

Speaker 3 (01:24):
Yeah, listen, I love it. It's a beautiful place.

Speaker 5 (01:27):
I know, we do.

Speaker 3 (01:28):
I have one tear going down my face right now.

Speaker 5 (01:30):
It's beautiful.

Speaker 1 (01:32):
It is that place, right it's you know, anything goes
what happened in Vegas. So yeah, I had the extra drink,
you know, have the extra food when I was in Vegas. Man,
you know, that's what you're supposed to when you're there.
How was the trip you were going Thursday through yesterday?
How was the trip?

Speaker 2 (01:46):
Yeah, and I went Wednesday night, so like that's a
long time to be in vague.

Speaker 8 (01:51):
You know. It was a.

Speaker 3 (01:53):
It was a difficult adventure.

Speaker 2 (01:54):
I decided to embark on going to Vegas for four
nights in a row.

Speaker 3 (01:58):
That's that's a little too much. But it was fun.

Speaker 2 (02:03):
Lots of I don't know, basketball, but then that ended
sadly for me. I didn't really gamble as one would
think I would, but yeah, just ate some good food.

Speaker 1 (02:13):
I guess already, degenerate gambler, Why didn't you gamble in Vegas?
Is it just not as appealing when it's just, you know,
everywhere you look. It's just a little better when it's
just on your phone and it feels a little.

Speaker 2 (02:26):
Yeah, yeah, it feels like naughtier that way or something.

Speaker 3 (02:29):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (02:29):
And then I tried to use my app, but it
says because I wasn't in Illinois, I couldn't use it
in Vegas.

Speaker 3 (02:34):
But I don't know.

Speaker 5 (02:36):
Justation.

Speaker 1 (02:38):
This morning a spider was hanging from the ceiling in
my kitchen today. Yes, now they have gone too far.
This is a bathroom insect. What are you doing in the.

Speaker 9 (02:46):
Kitchen exactly by my food? How dare you?

Speaker 10 (02:50):
Like?

Speaker 5 (02:50):
I don't know.

Speaker 9 (02:51):
I hate seeing a spider in the shower. But at
this point, okay, if you're gonna be anywhere, like that's
an acceptable spot, right, Like I'm vulnerable, I'm naked, I'm wet,
there's water everywhere, right, but like, okay, if I'm gonna
see you anywhere in my home, then like, oh.

Speaker 1 (03:06):
My god, I had a sip of coffee in my
mouth when you said that, I just get it everywhere
the text I'm looking for on a Friday night.

Speaker 2 (03:13):
Isolate that Chris hands in my God, I'm naked, I'm wet,
I'm in the shower.

Speaker 9 (03:20):
I mean it's see, there's a lot going on, but like, okay,
I can avoid the spider in the shower, right, of course,
but for it to be hanging from my ceiling in
the kitchen to a point where I almost walked right
into it, like in the walkway, Like, no, bro, you
gotta chill, Like you got to chose, you're doing too much. Yeah,
take several seats. And so I took a lot of

(03:43):
pleasure in squishing him.

Speaker 5 (03:46):
I had to do it.

Speaker 9 (03:48):
How dare I just set you know, a lesson or
whatever an example? Yeah, it's like tell your friends first,
and now I'm gonna kill you.

Speaker 1 (03:56):
And he's not gonna be able to tell his friends
back in the nest or whatever this spiders and wherever
they live because he's no longer aware us. Yeah, I mean,
what was he thinking? Everyone knows. Everyone knows that spiders
only belong in the bathroom. Everyone knows that the number
one about being a spider.

Speaker 9 (04:12):
Right, what's next? The bedroom? Absolutely not. You got to
stop it here exactly no, but as we.

Speaker 1 (04:19):
Learned, your fear of spiders was not. In fact, you
learned that over time for whatever reason of a spider
bit you or if someone told you to be afraid
of spiders, because in the fun fact that last week
of the week before, we learned that what is it
the fear of falling and something else fears, yeah, but
not not the fear of spiders. So you taught yourself that.

Speaker 9 (04:42):
Yeah, that seems about It was probably like impression, you know,
it's an impression from others. So I feel like that's
a common fear, right, spiders. I've never had a spider
bit bite me, like Spider Man. Spider Man, I just
don't like, like, I just don't like how they how
they be moving, you know, like they never had a.

Speaker 1 (04:59):
Spy bite me. Okay, like just a guy on in
Boystown dress like Spider Man.

Speaker 9 (05:05):
One. But you asked, but you wanted that that was
something you wanted, yes, and that spiders can be in
any room that they would.

Speaker 5 (05:11):
Like did your parents lie to you growing up?

Speaker 1 (05:15):
Because I've had this, I've had this on my okay,
all right, well i'll see in therapy. No, but I've
had this on my list for a while and we
just haven't gotten to it. But what was the lie
that your parents told you growing up? And this is
this is this sit with you to this day. Eight five, five, five, nine,

(05:38):
one one three five. You can call him text the
same number, because this list is coming from the perspective
of your parents did a great job with you if
you believed these lies. Okay, it's it's kind of funny actually,
but I'll go through this list and then we can
talk about the ones that I think are probably more
common for people. But or maybe you're the parent and

(05:59):
you're doing the lying now. I would love to hear
about it, because you probably like you were like I
would never do that to my kids, and then you're
doing it now because it's just easier. I think sometimes
my sister lies to my niece because it's just easier.

Speaker 5 (06:13):
And it's a lie.

Speaker 1 (06:14):
You know, the toy stores closed, the ice cream stores
out of ice cream or whatever. And by the way,
probably and I had a very long talk yesterday about
and she just kept asking the same question over and
over again, and I kept answering the same question. But
apparently she's having a hard time being a big sister
because because may who was one. Polly's for Mayve is
one Polly's maybe is boring?

Speaker 5 (06:36):
Oh yeah, and.

Speaker 1 (06:38):
I guess Polly tries to body slammer all the time.
It's like wwe except maybe is not, you know, really
able to move or let limb, so so it's an
unfair advantage. And my sister and brother in law are like, hey,
you gotta like chill out. And then she's like, well,
this is boring, and then my sister says, well, why
don't you call Bubba? She calls me Bubba, Why don't
you call bubb And I asked him what it was
like to be a big sibling. So she calls me

(06:59):
what's it like to be a big sibling? And then
I tell her? And then she asked me the same
question again, and I'm like, why, I just told you,
And then she did but Bubba, and it was almost
like she was proud she did the sentence, which she
should because she's brilliant, but it was no, but what's
it like to be a big sibling? I'm like, Polly,
I just told you, so yeah, so you know what,

(07:21):
Now there's a reception?

Speaker 5 (07:22):
Is she with the phone? Go figure it out by
slam the kid?

Speaker 1 (07:25):
I don't care. That's what it's like. You know what
it's like. Being a big sibling is like body slamming
somebody all the time. That's that's what being a big
sibling is like. Nonetheless, here are the lies that you
were told growing up, and if you believe them. According
to this author, your parents did a great job. Number one,
you can do anything you want.

Speaker 5 (07:45):
Why A big, old lie.

Speaker 1 (07:48):
Complete and total lie. However, parenting experts are saying that
if you believed that that your parents did a nice job,
telling that your kids that they can do anything is
a classic parents technique. It might be deceptive, but it
serves a noble purpose. It's meant to inspire hope, encouraging
kids to embrace the world instead of counting themselves out.

(08:09):
Of all the lies you can tell your kids, of
all the lies I was told, that is not the worst. Sure,
why not? You can do anything you put your mind to. Okay, great,
even if it's a lie. You got to eat your
vegetables to grow up big and strong. Not sure if
there's really even any proof of that, but yeah, you're
supposed to eat your vegetables. However, if you were able
to convince your kids that was a good idea and

(08:30):
they like broccoli and asparagus. Now, then I guess you
were a good parent. I won't be specific here, but
if your kids believed, or if you believe as a kid,
that certain things that aren't real were real, are you
picking up what I'm putting down?

Speaker 11 (08:47):
Oh?

Speaker 1 (08:47):
Yes, if you believe that certain things that are not
actually real or real, that means that you were raised
by good parents, because it means that the parents were
able to keep their kids' sense of wonder alive.

Speaker 4 (08:59):
Yes, I agree with that.

Speaker 5 (09:01):
So why don't you even a lie?

Speaker 11 (09:03):
Like?

Speaker 1 (09:03):
I know they say white lie, but is it even
is that even a lie? If you tell your kids
that certain things are real when they or not, when
you're just trying to get them to be excited about
you know, I don't know, holidays and that kind of thing.

Speaker 7 (09:14):
It doesn't hurt anybody, no, And it's like given that magic,
you know, like that holiday magic for kids, because once
you grow up, buddy, it's over.

Speaker 3 (09:20):
Yeah it's not.

Speaker 5 (09:21):
It's not magical.

Speaker 7 (09:22):
This is anything about magical.

Speaker 4 (09:23):
It's always a miserable kid that ruins it for the
happy key.

Speaker 5 (09:26):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (09:27):
Oh I remember the kid that went around running around
telling everybody about this and that I remember, and I'm
being careful.

Speaker 5 (09:32):
Because about this and that and that. I mean, yeah, just.

Speaker 1 (09:39):
Like just like Klein's being careful with the words she's
using this early in the Entertainment Report, I'm being early
about the things that I've ruined for anybody. These are
the are lies that if you believed, if your parents
told you them, and you believe them, then your parents
did a good job. You're the smartest kid in school.
My parents never told me that, and they never that
would have been a lie.

Speaker 5 (09:57):
So that's nice.

Speaker 1 (09:58):
If they didn't tell me that if you work hard,
all of your dreams will come true.

Speaker 5 (10:02):
That's the one.

Speaker 7 (10:04):
That's one I'm like, mom, well, my dreams, Like I
get it.

Speaker 5 (10:10):
I get it.

Speaker 7 (10:11):
You should always work hard and like do your best.
But I don't think it always pays off in that way,
you know what I mean? That makes sense because like
be life, and that's not like anyone's fault, it's just
how life works.

Speaker 1 (10:21):
I would argue that you have no shot at anything
if you don't you know, have a dream and then
work really hard trying to inspire the dream, so it's
possible that it won't come true. But I mean, I
guess as a parent, that's why I would tell my
kid too, because if I'm like, nah, it ain't happening, well,
then you know, then what's the point of even attempting it.
So yeah, I guess I don't have it. I mean,

(10:43):
what do you what are you supposed to say? I
guess there's a I mean, no, you're not going to
go to the NBA. I remember I thought I was
going to the NBA when I was in like middle school,
even though I was absolutely completely and totally uncoordinated in
average like two points a game in my basketball game.
But I remember I'm like, I'm going, I'm going to
the NBA, and my parents had to be like, you
were absolutely not going to the NBA, So like do

(11:04):
your homework because you're not getting bailed out. So I
guess there's there's realism. But then like not crushing a
kid's dream, I guess, right, So there's more here.

Speaker 5 (11:15):
You know, your art is good.

Speaker 1 (11:18):
You know you're good at singing at the recitals when
you really weren't.

Speaker 5 (11:21):
Oh god, now how do you do that as a parent?
Do you think? Now?

Speaker 1 (11:25):
I mean, the only one who's a parent is Paulina
and Gigi's just not one. But how do you do that?
Like if your kid is terrible at something like really
bad and really there's not a whole lot of hope,
and I don't know how you know that. Like, if
your kid's a bad singer at like ten but wants
to be a professional singer, can you tell your kid like, man,
maybe we should try something else. Or do you let
them do it and and keep telling them that they're

(11:47):
good at it even when they're not because they might
get good at it, or do you like steer them
towards something else, Like if they're terrible at soccer but
they think they're going to be the next David Beckham
or whatever, then do you say, like, yeah, at what
point do you tell him?

Speaker 5 (12:03):
Like I don't think so.

Speaker 3 (12:05):
Yeah, I'm all for like re routing.

Speaker 7 (12:06):
Obviously, Gigi's only one, but I think about this all
the time because I'm like, well, if she sucks at this,
like I don't want to encourage her. And I'm all
for like a Delulu mindset because sometimes I feel like
that works out for people. But I also don't want
her to like walk around thinking she's that girl and
she's not.

Speaker 5 (12:21):
You know what I mean no.

Speaker 7 (12:22):
Like in the sense of like, oh I can sing.
Listen to me sing, guys, and everybody makes fun of her,
Like then I'm being a fat parent, right, Like I'm
not doing her any good.

Speaker 5 (12:30):
With that, in my opinion.

Speaker 7 (12:31):
So I feel like rerouting maybe like lean into her strengths,
whatever those.

Speaker 3 (12:35):
Are gonna be.

Speaker 7 (12:36):
But my kid of kind of has an attitude already.
She's only one, so she might fight me that. Imagine
that I birth myself.

Speaker 1 (12:43):
I birth myself, yeah, my sister and so to a
lot of people. And I'm I'm I'm sorry, Hovey. I
love you deeply, Paulina, but two of you. Oh, and
same with my brother in law. I love my sister,
but three of them. Oh my god, it's hard. I
can only hope that Maye is a complete and total opposite,
like a pothead. And uh, you know, I don't know, honestly,

(13:10):
because Polly is going to be a princess. A man
is kind of a princess. I think, you know, Holla
needs the other end of the spectrum, like some going
to listen to death metal with and smoke a joint
as early as possible.

Speaker 5 (13:21):
I don't know if that's.

Speaker 1 (13:22):
A nice thing to say, Hey, Jessica, good morning, Jessica,
how are you hi?

Speaker 12 (13:28):
Good morning.

Speaker 1 (13:29):
Okay, so let's get to the real eyes. Like, okay,
so your parents told you, oh, you're gonna be great
in life, and you believed it. Well, that's a good thing.
If you're a parent, you can convince your kids of
that now. But there were a whole series of lies
that we were told growing up that were simply a
matter of convenience. For example, Jessica.

Speaker 13 (13:47):
My parents told me that if we turned on the
lights in the backseat of the car that we would
go to jail.

Speaker 5 (13:52):
Like immediately, yes, yes, with the same thing.

Speaker 1 (13:56):
Now, we weren't told we're gonna go to jail, Jessica,
but we were told that it was against the law.

Speaker 5 (14:00):
I guess something about it. I don't know why.

Speaker 1 (14:02):
Like, and if you turn the dome lights on in
the car while you were driving at night, that that
was against the law. I honestly believe you weren't allowed
to do that until not that long ago.

Speaker 14 (14:11):
It made me wonder why they existed.

Speaker 13 (14:13):
If it's against the law, why do they exist?

Speaker 1 (14:17):
Yeah, I agree, I agree. Now, if you ever tried
to drive with the dome lights on, at night. It
does change the visibility a little bit, but like, it's
not against the law. But I think it was mainly
because as a kid, when you figured out that light
was there, you were just turning it on and off
and it was probably really annoying. So that was the
reason why. But it turns out, Jessica, you won't go
to jail for that.

Speaker 15 (14:36):
Yeah, well now I know.

Speaker 16 (14:38):
Now I have my own kids that sent me.

Speaker 1 (14:40):
To jail too, And do you tell that you tell
them the same thing, I assume yep. Yeah, Jessica, thank you,
thanks for listening. Have a great day.

Speaker 5 (14:50):
You're too glad you call uh heinikoll good morning.

Speaker 4 (14:54):
Time, good morning, good.

Speaker 17 (14:55):
How are you guys?

Speaker 5 (14:57):
Now? It is just your parents lied to you about this?

Speaker 17 (15:00):
Yeah, So my parents lied to me for years to
tell me that I was allergic to dogs and cats
because they did not want the responsibility of taking care
of them.

Speaker 3 (15:09):
And as I got.

Speaker 17 (15:10):
Older in grammar school and was around like friends' houses
and animals, and I was like, something seems a little suspicious.
And then I got a dog in my twenties and
found out I wasn't allergic, so.

Speaker 5 (15:23):
Damn I had to call them out. Yeah, they told
you had a health condition. Yeah, I get.

Speaker 17 (15:33):
But now I have a dog who's thirteen and my
mom's obsessed with him, so it's kind of it's kind
of funny.

Speaker 1 (15:41):
Take the dog over there, just rub it all over
your face and be like, hey, look see everything.

Speaker 5 (15:45):
Oh yeah, I still call her out all the time.
You have a good day, you too.

Speaker 1 (15:50):
I remember a lot of years ago I had a
friend speaking of the pet thing and the lies you
tell your kids. They got like a fish at a
pet store or whatever. I don't even think it was
fancy fish. It was just a fish. Maybe it was
a carnival or something, I don't know. And it was
in a little tank, and I don't think there was
a lot of investment made in preserving the fish, Like
I don't think they went and got their proper tank
and the aerration, and I think it was kind of

(16:13):
just like, okay, look, it was in a bull It
died and the kid and their kid was young, and
so they went to the store and they got another
fish that looked just like it and dump that in there.
Because they just weren't they weren't in the mood, nor
were they ready to have to explain to their child
what happened, and that you know, fish go to heaven.
Sometimes they just weren't in the mood to have to
do this, so they just kept replacing the fish until

(16:35):
finally the kid was no longer interested in the fish,
and then the fish just kind of, I don't know,
was given away or something, but I remember I was like,
now you can't use this as a teachable moment like
it you know we're gonna lie. I mean, how long
are we going to keep this? Does not fish alive?
Not the same fish alive before we actually made like
seventeen eighteen twenty, I mean, how long you had to
be before we actually explained like, yeah, fish don't live forever,

(16:57):
and it's sad, but you know, this is life and
this is what happened. I don't know when you teach
a kid about that, that's a good question.

Speaker 4 (17:04):
I would just replace.

Speaker 6 (17:05):
That fish because it was kind of traumatizing once you
figured out what happens after the fish died. I will
never forget that watching his spin spin and on the toylet.

Speaker 5 (17:16):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (17:16):
I never had to do the disposal of the dead animals.
That was my dad's job. Poor guy. That is that
that that continues to be his job. He has to
do all the all the hard stuff in the family.
I'm not doing it. I refuse. Hey, Samantha, Hi, this
is a good one. So this is uh, you lie
to your kid about this?

Speaker 7 (17:36):
Yeah, so I lie.

Speaker 10 (17:36):
To her saying that Chuck E Cheese has to invite us.
We can't just go whenever we want to.

Speaker 5 (17:43):
I've heard that.

Speaker 1 (17:43):
No, I've heard that. I've heard that. Don't think you
can just pull up on a Chuck E Cheese and
walk in. Absolutely not. That's not how it works. You've
got to know somebody. I talk to mister Cheese man,
and he's got to be like, all right, Samantha's kids
can come this week, but not all the time.

Speaker 12 (18:00):
Yep, I tell her.

Speaker 4 (18:00):
Oh, he called me.

Speaker 18 (18:01):
He said we can come this weekend.

Speaker 1 (18:04):
He's amazing. That is a that's a really good one.
Thank you, Samantha. Have a good day.

Speaker 10 (18:08):
Yes, thank you too.

Speaker 5 (18:10):
I love it.

Speaker 1 (18:13):
He said we can go this week, but you better
be a good girl, because you.

Speaker 3 (18:16):
Know you want to get in my IRAQ.

Speaker 5 (18:18):
Right.

Speaker 1 (18:18):
He gets to decide. Hey, Shannon, good morning, good morning.

Speaker 16 (18:23):
Hi.

Speaker 1 (18:24):
Okay, so this is a lie. That is it what
you were told or what you tell your kids that.

Speaker 13 (18:30):
I was told my whole life by my parents and
my grandpa. So my grandpa came here from Croatia when
he was twenty years old. And every time when you're learning,
like when you're in second grade learning about immigrants and
you know alis Iowa's, everyone would tell me and my family, oh,
Papa swam here from Croatia, That's how he got here.
So why would I ever think that my strong Croatian

(18:52):
grandfather whatever lie to me. So it wasn't until I
was twenty years old that I was swimming in the
Adriatic Seat with my cousin that I thought, hmmm, I
don't think Papa actually swam and no one knew.

Speaker 14 (19:06):
But yeah, no one, no one knew.

Speaker 13 (19:09):
I was still believing this.

Speaker 12 (19:11):
Kale.

Speaker 5 (19:12):
Yeah, wow, yeah, I know.

Speaker 1 (19:13):
He Yeah, he in fact did not swim from Croatia,
but that would have been quite a few exactly.

Speaker 13 (19:19):
He still calls himself the Adriatic Seat champ.

Speaker 5 (19:22):
So there you go. Let him have it.

Speaker 1 (19:25):
Have a good good morning. Yeah you too, appreciate you.
Hey's Steve, cool, Good morning, Steve. You a lot of
your kids about this.

Speaker 5 (19:35):
What is it?

Speaker 16 (19:37):
Well, we used to tell him that if they pulld
us a lot a dot would tramp on their tongues.

Speaker 15 (19:41):
But our adults could shoot.

Speaker 13 (19:43):
Well, they couldn't lie to each other, but that way
we could catch them when there are.

Speaker 1 (19:47):
I see, yeah, our eyes in the back of the head.
I'm trying to think of some of the other ones
that had to do with lies. Yeah, right, but your
parents had lie to detectorir ability.

Speaker 5 (19:56):
Yeah. Well, do you think they still lie to you
or no?

Speaker 11 (20:00):
Oh?

Speaker 7 (20:00):
Yeah, rappinly.

Speaker 1 (20:02):
I didn't believe you. Thank you, Steve. Have a good day. Okay,
wait a minute, Nicole, Hey, Nicole, good morning.

Speaker 10 (20:10):
Hello, Hello, good morning.

Speaker 5 (20:12):
Uh what did your parents tell you? This is a lie?
Your parents told you?

Speaker 10 (20:16):
Yeah, so, like it was ever like any event going
on or anything, and the weather it was like really
bad or it was raining, like it always forecasted, like
rain on my birthdays. My dad would always say, oh,
they don't worry about it. I called the weatherman, like
the weather's gonna be perfect. And I seriously thought that
the weatherman could control the weather when I was younger,
and so it's sweet, but lo and behold, my dad

(20:36):
just kind of looked at the forecast and like he
knew it was gonna be sunny later.

Speaker 1 (20:40):
Yeah, he didn't call the weather man. He didn't call
Chuck e Cheese, he didn't call anybody, didn't.

Speaker 10 (20:46):
No, I don't think so.

Speaker 5 (20:47):
I don't think you did, Nicole. Thank you, have a
good day.

Speaker 10 (20:50):
Thank you too. Bye.

Speaker 1 (20:52):
Here's some of the other, like more classic ones that
I think we were probably all told at one point
or another. As kids reading in the dark will ruin
your eyes. Not true. According to eye doctors at Harvard.
It might cause a headache because it causes strain, but
I guess it does not actually damage your eyesight, which
I can tell you. I was today years old when
I learned that, because I read in dim light all
the time, and I'm convinced that that's why my eyesight's

(21:13):
going if it is, and I just now learned that's
not true. Oh wow, knuckle cracking leads to arthritis.

Speaker 5 (21:21):
That it does not.

Speaker 1 (21:22):
Apparently, Swallowing gum takes seven years to digest.

Speaker 5 (21:27):
Apparently it does not.

Speaker 1 (21:29):
In fact, your parents didn't want you to chew that
chocolate milk come or just swallow it. Rather, chocolate milk
comes from brown cows.

Speaker 5 (21:36):
Never believe that.

Speaker 1 (21:39):
Cross eyes. Crossed eyes will get stuck that way, they won't.
In case you're wondering, swim too soon after eating and
you'll cramp up and drown.

Speaker 5 (21:47):
By the drowned part, no one ever.

Speaker 3 (21:49):
Told me that.

Speaker 1 (21:52):
They did say you have to wait ninety minutes after
showing down or something might happen. But according to the
American Academy of Pediatric the American Red Cross, that is
not true. If you finish swallowing at least before jumping in,
then you'll be okay. The hour weight was just made
up completely. Watermelons will grow in your stomach if you
swallow the seeds. Not true. Sitting too close to the

(22:15):
TV will cause eye damage not true. Apparently touch a
toe you'll get warts. Not true. I'm trying to think
of some I'm skipping over some of these.

Speaker 5 (22:23):
I don't. It's too early for this.

Speaker 1 (22:26):
Keep your eyes open when sneezing, and they'll fall out.

Speaker 3 (22:31):
It's terrifying.

Speaker 5 (22:32):
What parent was teaching their kid that? That is terrifying?

Speaker 1 (22:35):
Oh, the family pen's living happily on a farm up stair. Yeah,
that one goes back to the Uh. Sometimes it's just easier.
I guess drinking coffee will stunt your growth. It won't
the toy. The candy story is closed. Eating carries will
let you see in the dark.

Speaker 5 (22:52):
Really.

Speaker 1 (22:53):
Oh and here's the most classic one. And I grew
up in Arizona where everybody had a pool. If you
pee in the pool, the water will turn blue. The
water will turn red. There's some kind of a chemical
in there that will make it so people can tell
if you pee in the pool or not. That is
not true, and in fact that Okay, Caitlyn, it is true.

Speaker 5 (23:14):
More Fredshell.

Speaker 19 (23:16):
Next.

Speaker 1 (23:18):
Okay, I've ever been left waiting by the phone.

Speaker 5 (23:23):
It's the Fred Show. Hey, Abby, good morning, Welcome to
the show. How are you?

Speaker 14 (23:26):
I'm good, guys, how are you doing?

Speaker 5 (23:29):
Great? Welcome to waiting by the phone.

Speaker 1 (23:30):
So we're trying to figure out what happened with this
guy Patrick, and we got to have the backstory.

Speaker 5 (23:35):
So how did you meet?

Speaker 1 (23:36):
Tell us about any dates you've been on and and
how those went, and then where things are now?

Speaker 15 (23:41):
Right?

Speaker 14 (23:42):
So first I met Patrick at a Saint Patrick's Day party,
the irony there, and we just we just talked for
like hours. We both have kids, and we bonded over that,
like we're both single parents, and you know, just talking

(24:02):
about like the funny stories that our that our kids,
you know do, So we just like really clicked right away.
It was like instant connection. Then we like the more
we talk, Like he was asking, like, you know, whereabouts
I lived. We found out that we lived pretty close
to each other, and he asked for my number before

(24:22):
he left, which was like, you know, I was excited
because like I thought he was really cute and we
feel like I felt like there was definitely connection there.
So we had been kind of texting back and forth
after he got my number, and then a few days
later it was a really nice day and Patrick was like, hey,
you know, like I'm going to take my son to
the park, which was not too far from my house

(24:45):
because I said it was pretty close to his, and
like I said, we lived pretty close, and he was like, hey,
do you like want to come and join. It's like
I felt comfortable because it's like a big thing, like
introducing your children to any other adult that you had,
like even if he's like not my boyf and it's
just a lot to introduce to anybody coming into our lives.
So I really appreciate him saying like if I felt

(25:07):
comfortable like bringing my kids over so I grant, so
I have two daughters, and I said, sure, you know what,
like what why not? You know, it's it's innocent. It's
not a date. You know, it's just kind of meeting
up and kind of getting to know us better. And
you know, we had like a real like it was
a really it was really nice to see him again.
We tried a lot, the kids had a lot of
fun playing. But after that, like I never heard from

(25:31):
him again, Like it was very weird, Like he didn't
like I turned him a text afterwards, they said, hey, like,
you know, thanks for inviting us. We had a great time.
You know, talk to you soon or like, love to
see you again, you know, let me know. And it
was just cricket. So I just don't know, like what
happened if I said something, you know, It's just I'm
just sitting here trying to figure it out.

Speaker 1 (25:51):
Yeah, that's interesting because you guys, you did meet in
the wild per se, you met in person, so this
guy wasn't a total stranger. And you have kids and
he has kids, so you know, getting them together and
figuring out, you know, if they're going to get along
and stuff. I suppose that's the innocence enough and since
things went well in your opinion, then it's like, well,
wait a minute, what's going on?

Speaker 5 (26:11):
Why wouldn't this guy call me again?

Speaker 10 (26:12):
Yeah, it was just.

Speaker 14 (26:13):
Very strange, Like I feel like both interactions, like the
first and the second, you know, like you know, hanging out,
we're fine, like totally you know, innocent but fine, and
you know, there was no awkwardness at all. So I'm
just I'm kind of stumped of what could have happened.

Speaker 1 (26:28):
Okay, Well, let's call this guy Patrick, see if we
can get him on the phone. We'll ask these questions
for you. You'll be on the phone, of course, at the
same time. At some point you're welcome to jump in
after we get you some in phone. And the hope
is always is that we can figure out what happened
or what's going on. Set you guys up on another
date and we'll pay for this. All right, let's find
I was going on for to waiting by the phone
right after Lowly Young back in two minutes, stay right

(26:51):
in here a commercial trees, the Fread show on the radio,
and the iHeart app check in live and then anytime
get caught up and make us a preset search for
the Fread Show on demand. Hey Abby, Hello, Hi Abby,
let's call Patrick. You guys met at the Saint Patrick's party.
You talked for a long time. You thought it went
really well. You bonded over the fact that you both
are single parents and you have kids, and so you
decided collectively to get together at a park or a

(27:14):
playground or whatever.

Speaker 5 (27:15):
With the kids.

Speaker 1 (27:16):
And it wasn't really a date per se, but you know,
the kids got to meet each other and you guys
got to talk some more, and you thought everything went
really well. Except you have not heard from Patrick since then,
and you want.

Speaker 14 (27:25):
To know why exactly. So I'm just kind of racking
my brain. What's happening? So I don't know, Like at
this point, I need some help. I need some intervention.

Speaker 1 (27:37):
Look at mom multitasking over there. I got the kids
in the background. Still try to figure out. Yeah, you know,
I mean you got needs or I understand. Let's call
this guy now, Good luck, Abby, thank you?

Speaker 5 (27:57):
Hello? Hi is this Patrick?

Speaker 1 (28:00):
Yes?

Speaker 5 (28:00):
This is he Hey Patrick, Good morning.

Speaker 1 (28:02):
My name is Bred I'm calling for the Fred's Show,
the Morning radio Show, and I have to tell you
that we are on the radio right now. And I
would need your permission to continue with the call. Is
uh is it cool if we talk for just a second.

Speaker 8 (28:14):
Yeah, yeah, that's that's fine.

Speaker 1 (28:15):
Okay, Well, thank you for calling on behalf of a
woman who reached out to us. Her name is Abby.
I guess you guys met at a party recently and
went on a date. I guess it was kind of
more of like like an outing with your kids. Do
you remember this woman?

Speaker 14 (28:27):
Uh?

Speaker 8 (28:27):
Yeah, yeah, I remember Abby.

Speaker 5 (28:29):
Yeah, okay, So what happened?

Speaker 1 (28:31):
Because she we just talked to her a second ago
and she was talking about how she met you at
the party and you guys bonded over being parents and
and you know, she thought everything went great. You guys
apparently decided to meet up with your kids, and she
hasn't heard from you since.

Speaker 5 (28:44):
So what what happened?

Speaker 10 (28:46):
Yeah?

Speaker 8 (28:46):
Yeah, I was I was going to take my son
out to a park and just called her up to
see if she wanted to join. You know, nothing serious,
but yeah.

Speaker 4 (28:56):
We met up.

Speaker 5 (28:57):
She's she was great.

Speaker 8 (28:58):
You know, she's really fun to be around. Honestly, her
her two kids were just paris.

Speaker 14 (29:08):
That was kind of my opinion.

Speaker 8 (29:11):
Yeah, well, I just in the in the way that
they terrorized my son, and I guess me, I do
want to say, though, you know, I'm I'm a dad,
I'm a single dad. I understand how kids can be.

Speaker 5 (29:25):
But her her two kids were just next level.

Speaker 8 (29:28):
I mean they they spent most of the afternoon just
double teaming on my son, taking his toys, pushing him.
One of her daughters sneezed at one point. You know,
I said, God, bless you, and she just made a
bee line straight for me and wiped her nose and
just wiped it all over my jeans. You know, we
kind of laughed, but I was thinking, this is this
is really out of line, and so I tried to

(29:51):
get him to play some games. They just didn't want
to listen to me. One of them just straight up
told me I was ugly and then just took off running.

Speaker 5 (29:58):
And okay, I.

Speaker 8 (30:03):
Mean that hurts it ego a little bit, and I'm like,
all right, whatever.

Speaker 5 (30:07):
But you know the.

Speaker 8 (30:08):
Worst part of it, they they're biers. Both of her
kids bite like one of them literally bit me. I
don't know if you've ever been bit by a kid,
but that hurts.

Speaker 1 (30:19):
I'm sorry to laugh, but I mean, okay, so yeah,
robing germs on you. They're biting you, they're calling you ugly,
they're roasting you. And what is during all of this? Like,
what what she just watching this and laughing? Is she
enabling it?

Speaker 5 (30:31):
Is she?

Speaker 1 (30:32):
Is she trying to correct them? I mean, what's happening?
What is her?

Speaker 8 (30:35):
Well, no, she wasn't trying to correct them. I don't
know that she was enabling other than just not stepping in.
But it just seemed like they ran the show. I
could tell that there's probably no consequences at home, you know,
if they get in trouble. It just felt like they
were in charge.

Speaker 5 (30:52):
So I don't know it was.

Speaker 14 (30:54):
It was just a lot for me for an afternoon.

Speaker 8 (30:56):
She never really told them to stop, and I didn't
really feel like it was my place.

Speaker 5 (31:01):
To do that.

Speaker 8 (31:01):
So I thought, I'll just remove myself from the situation
after this afternoon, we can kind of be done with it.

Speaker 1 (31:05):
Yeah. I did like that much either. But let me
bring Abby in. I forgot to mention that Abby is here.
You didn't say was that your kids were biting this man?

Speaker 14 (31:13):
Okay, so my two year old cuz, like, we are
working on it. I told her to apologize, like, first
of all Terris is like really extreme and like I
really don't like that word, especially associated with my children.
So I really hate that, Like that's just for me,
Like if he's turned off by me, that's fine. Like

(31:35):
him using that word to describe my children, that's a
huge turn off by for him, like for me towards him.
They're not They obviously were like a little more on
the excited side obviously to like meet new people, meeting
new kids, Like they weren't ganging up on his son.
I did try to interject, there's just so much like
it's hard to be a single parent, like you know,

(31:58):
like it's kind of hard since he like I devoted
some issues like with my acts, like I don't have
much of support from my child's father, so it's me
doing it all. So it's like really hard that he's
like blasting me as a mother. It's just very hurtful
because I was trying so like he's kind of going
to the stream, but I did nothing.

Speaker 1 (32:18):
Yeah, I mean my mom, my sister and I were
raised by my mom primarily, and she was a single
parent for a while, and and I commiserate with what
you're saying. I think though you know your kids can
act up. But just from my perspective, if it were
me and I'm Patrick, I guess what I would have
been looking for is less about what a two year
old's doing and more about maybe what you're doing about it.

(32:42):
Because he certainly couldn't discipline the kids. That would have
been unexcittable.

Speaker 14 (32:46):
But that's what I'm saying. So you're listening to what
he's saying that I didn't discisten my childrend Well.

Speaker 5 (32:51):
I'm asking you if okay, I'm not criticizing you.

Speaker 1 (32:55):
I started resulting out by not criticizing you, But I'm
saying if I But I.

Speaker 14 (32:59):
Had argued, I had already explained that when she did
go to bite him, I put her aside and said,
you cannot be doing that and you need to apologize.

Speaker 5 (33:08):
Is that what happened? Patrick? She did?

Speaker 1 (33:10):
She was Are you not giving her enough credit for
her trying to manage your kids?

Speaker 10 (33:14):
Well?

Speaker 5 (33:15):
No, no, she did. She did step in.

Speaker 8 (33:17):
I mean, it's not like she didn't do anything. It's
just that I didn't see necessarily the results coming out
of her telling her her kids what to do. I mean,
it's not like they just continue doing it. They would stop,
but then it would they would back up. So and
again I have one hundred percent support for her for
single moms, and I do apologize for using the word terrorists.

(33:39):
That may have been a little harsh. That's not necessarily
what I meant. It just it was a lot for
me and my boy. We're just not used to that
kind of energy.

Speaker 14 (33:46):
So it was just a lot, And that's fine. But
like also I feel like he's trying to come off
at like their boat says like his son, Yes, his
son has behaved, but his son also like through stand
at my daughter's a few times.

Speaker 8 (33:56):
I want to.

Speaker 14 (34:00):
They they weren't biting the child like by like I said,
only my two year old bid him. And like again
I try, I disciplined them. We're working on it. Like
she's too so like maybe she got scared, you know,
like we're trying to communicate with her. We're trying to
explain that that's not okay. Sometimes her older sister will
get upset and bite her back, but my other my

(34:21):
older daughter does not bite other people. Like it's a
it's a sibling thing between them that like we're trying
to work on. So the fact that like it's all
coming down on me, it's just like really hard, like
I'm trying my best, and I know he's trying his best,
Like I would never have used that like, you know,
feeling that he didn't disciplined his son enough or that
his son was doing things like I give everybody like

(34:44):
I give everybody like the greatest ault I give everybody
like you know, I feel for I feel for every
single parent out there trying the best they can.

Speaker 6 (34:52):
Yeah, we all feel for you. We are not trying
to criticize you. We are not trying to criticize you
at all. But I think we have to respect his
decision to not I want to be a part of
that right now.

Speaker 4 (35:01):
It was a lot for him.

Speaker 15 (35:02):
And you can admit that, right, fine, you can admit that.

Speaker 14 (35:07):
Is totally fine. I can admit that the whole thing
is is just like be a man and say, you
know what, I feel like this is not working and like,
you know, like it's better off.

Speaker 10 (35:15):
Exactly we see.

Speaker 1 (35:16):
Okay, but hold on, hold on, I mean just one second.
This is not an indictment on parents to sell parents
as a whole. And I also understand we're talking about
your children, and so understandably you have emotion about this
and you should and that is fair. But that's probably
why he chose not to say anything and just sort
of fade away, because he probably didn't want to have

(35:38):
to tell a woman who he just met, I think
your kids were unruly and then get into this sort
of conversation because I understand why you're defensive. I totally do,
but I also think you need to understand from the
other side that it's a difficult conversation to have with
someone when you're talking about their kids.

Speaker 14 (35:54):
Well, sure, but he didn't even have to bring up
the kids. He could have just said, you know what,
I'm just not feeling the vibe, like I think, you know, relationship,
you know what, honestly, like just say something like don't
leave somebody on red, like just be respectful. Like I've
had to end things. They're not They're uncomfortable. They're uncomfortable
when you have to tell someone yeah, you know, like

(36:16):
I'm not feeling it, or like you can there's a
respectful way to end things without ghosting. That's all I'm saying. Like,
I just feel like I deserved a little bit more
respect than that. After I feel like you really didn't
have a connection.

Speaker 5 (36:29):
But that's fine, that's I think.

Speaker 1 (36:31):
I think that's fair. I think that's fair. I think
that you're you know, your your emotion and defensiveness about
this is also fair. But I also think that it's
possible that when we're talking about our own kids and
our own families and our own especially when they're our
own kids, that maybe you're a little blinded by how
that experience may have been for someone else and why
that may not be for them. I also understand the

(36:53):
communication part of this. So look, no one's coming down
on you, no one's criticizing you. It's not for him.
He has that right. That is dating. But Patrick, I'll
ask the question, I mean, would you like to go
out with her again? Maybe we, you know, don't bring
the kids this time, and then slowly work on that
whole thing, you know another time.

Speaker 8 (37:12):
You know, Honestly, had we had this conversation, I may
have understood a little more. We we kind of kept
it pretty surface. But I really dig the fire that
she has that she's representing standing.

Speaker 5 (37:26):
Up her kids.

Speaker 8 (37:27):
I see that she's.

Speaker 14 (37:29):
Working on it.

Speaker 8 (37:30):
I'm I'm absolutely not opposed to going out again.

Speaker 5 (37:34):
If oh.

Speaker 1 (37:37):
This, I did not see this coming. So you have
no problem being a human Kleenex.

Speaker 14 (37:41):
Again, Well, I don't think it's going to be that way.

Speaker 8 (37:44):
I think I just have a bit more of an
understanding of what she's going through. And I like her passion,
all right.

Speaker 1 (37:50):
I mean, look, I'm a little surprised, but Abby, I
I understand where you're coming from. Patrick, I I didn't
expect this. But great, So it'll be an adult date.
You guys will go out again. We'll pay for it
and then, uh, you know, maybe we'll check in down
the road. But Abby, I appreciate your perspective and I
hope that you can see his and maybe see where
we're coming from as observers and uh, and I hope

(38:11):
you guys have a great taste.

Speaker 18 (38:13):
I can.

Speaker 14 (38:13):
I mean, I appreciate it, and obviously, like maybe we
do have some stuff to talk about, So I do
appreciate it. Like Patrick being honest, I can respect the
honesty here, so I can. So hopefully, you know, if
it doesn't work, it doesn't work, Like Patrick, you can
be honest with me. We don't have to do this
over the radio. If it doesn't work.

Speaker 5 (38:29):
Yeah, you did.

Speaker 1 (38:30):
You did kind of chew us out a little bit,
so I'm a little afraid of I'm a little afraid of.

Speaker 5 (38:34):
That we're talking about your kids. I get it.

Speaker 14 (38:40):
Yeah, I've had a rough go and I do stand up.
So I mean, I really wasn't trying to fight anybody's
head off, but like when you start talking about my
kids and.

Speaker 13 (38:50):
Me as a parent, like you.

Speaker 14 (38:51):
Know, obviously I'm always going to defend what I believe
is right. So it wasn't anything against you guys, because
we all we all don't know each other.

Speaker 1 (39:02):
Hey, I think he's a little turned on over there.
So that's right. You guys go out as adults. Have
a great cent. We'll pay for it and we'll check
you later. And and good luck to both of you.
Thank you the entertainer reporting you what it says that.

Speaker 4 (39:17):
UK with the ky I know that's right.

Speaker 1 (39:22):
Okay, now we take a moment to appreciate it.

Speaker 7 (39:25):
And okay, let's welcome Katie.

Speaker 5 (39:34):
Hi, Katie, how you doing, Hi?

Speaker 8 (39:37):
How are you?

Speaker 5 (39:38):
Katie? Welcome to the program. Tell us all about you.

Speaker 13 (39:42):
My name is Katie.

Speaker 15 (39:44):
I work for a school districts. I'm on my way
to work right now. Okay, I'm getting married November.

Speaker 10 (39:51):
That's my fun fact.

Speaker 1 (39:53):
Well, congratulations. What's the lucky guy or girls name?

Speaker 7 (39:57):
Max?

Speaker 1 (39:58):
Okay, I don't know, you know, I don't want to.
If I say guy, then it's a girl. If I
say girl, it's a guy.

Speaker 5 (40:05):
So I you the guy?

Speaker 1 (40:07):
I mean, I just say it. You know, you just
never know these days to you, but it's all good.
Three hundred bucks is the prize, which could be our
wedding gift to you. Eleven and one is Kiki's record
filling in for the show is Shelley four straight wins
or at least four You're on a four game win streak.
Maybe some times I'm not sure, but let's play the game.
Five question, let's.

Speaker 5 (40:25):
Go all right, good luck, good luck Kiki?

Speaker 1 (40:29):
All right, with all due respect, heeky, get the heck
out off, She goes at a sound boof poof. Okay,
here we go. Question number one. Bridge Aton actress Simona
Ashley turned thirty over the weekend on witch streaming service.
Which you find that show?

Speaker 9 (40:45):
I think Netflix?

Speaker 1 (40:47):
Which actress was foun at hanging out with her anyone
but you? Co star Glenn Powell amid breakup rumors with
her fiance. I know, okay, all right, Cardi B said
her ex husband is using bloggers to spread rumors about
her name her ex.

Speaker 10 (41:07):
Uh CARDI b.

Speaker 7 (41:10):
Got oh this is so hard.

Speaker 1 (41:13):
I I know, No, it's harder to actually do it.
All right, two questions left. We got this. We're going
to rebound right here. Sexy Red was gifted five thousand
a five thousand dollars Lubiton cowboy boot thang cowboy boots
shoes from country singer Caldwell. Lubaitons are famous for having
what color bottoms? Oh Red and Drew Taggard once again

(41:38):
had an unwanted visitors show up to his home claiming
to be his wife. Which EDM group is Drew one
half of.

Speaker 16 (41:46):
The change fokers.

Speaker 5 (41:47):
All right, it's a three, so you did get the
last two? Nice job, all right?

Speaker 1 (41:51):
Get Kiki back from the booth food answer within three
score to beat? Are you ready?

Speaker 11 (41:59):
No?

Speaker 5 (42:01):
You got this? I feel good about this for you.

Speaker 1 (42:04):
Question number one Brijitan actress Simone Ashley turned thirty over
the weekend on which streaming service?

Speaker 5 (42:10):
Which you find that show? Netflix?

Speaker 1 (42:12):
That is correct? Which actress was spotted hanging out with
her anyone but you? Co star Glenn Powell amid breakup
rumors with her fiance Sydney Sweeney. Yeah, Cardi b said
her ex husband's using bloggers to spread rumors about her name.
Her ex offset Sexy Red, was gifted five thousand dollars
Lubatan cowboy boots from country singer Caldwell. Lubatons are famous

(42:33):
for having what color bottoms? Red and Roadsaggered once again
had an unwonted visitors show up to his home claiming
to be his wife. Which edm group is Drew one
half of now.

Speaker 4 (42:45):
Hold on it Oh three, Drew Drew two half group
Marshmallows on my person?

Speaker 3 (42:54):
Yes giving you that one?

Speaker 5 (42:57):
Yeah, smoker to wait wait wait, what kind of.

Speaker 9 (43:07):
You're judging the chain music?

Speaker 5 (43:10):
Are they call that.

Speaker 1 (43:14):
Technically? But I think em fans might kick them out.
But anyway, I don't know.

Speaker 4 (43:18):
I don't know, and I would not call the Chinese
smokers a m a.

Speaker 2 (43:24):
Right, But all the groups that Drew Taggart is in,
there's only one, and it's that one.

Speaker 3 (43:29):
So that's how you could figure.

Speaker 4 (43:33):
I would take the four.

Speaker 5 (43:34):
I'm gonna take. That is a win, Katie. I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 (43:39):
Three is a good score, and you did clean it up,
but you're gonna have to say my name is Katie.
I got showed up on a showdown, and you know
the rest.

Speaker 7 (43:46):
All right, My name is Katie.

Speaker 15 (43:48):
I got showed up on the showdown, and I can't
hang with the Kiki.

Speaker 5 (43:56):
That was you, Katie, who's getting married to a dude
not a name? Max?

Speaker 1 (44:01):
Can't hang with a kik can't.

Speaker 6 (44:07):
Cat, can't cash shout out to you.

Speaker 3 (44:12):
Can't cat, can't cat, can't.

Speaker 5 (44:18):
Cast shut up? Who was gonna run out of breath? First? Katie?

Speaker 1 (44:20):
Am I gonna run out of birth? You're gonna run
out of breath? That's what I want to know everyone.
I heard you guys. You guys are starting to get
a little like Hoffy with it. To help me, Katie,
hang on one second, have a great day. Thank you
for listening, and congratulations on the wedding.

Speaker 10 (44:37):
Awesome, Thank you so much.

Speaker 1 (44:38):
Okay, stay right there, all right, cakes, Yes, well the
job three fitty twelve and one five straight for the
show biz Kiki.

Speaker 6 (44:50):
Yeah, man, I live to find another day twelve and one.

Speaker 1 (44:56):
That is really that's way better than I did when
I was filling in.

Speaker 5 (45:00):
Oh, excellent work.

Speaker 3 (45:01):
I remember who believed in you?

Speaker 5 (45:03):
Yes, yes, that's right.

Speaker 3 (45:04):
From the start.

Speaker 1 (45:05):
I always believed it. I've been saying how much I
believe in you. I'm constantly saying I can't get enough
of how much I believe in.

Speaker 14 (45:17):
Here.

Speaker 5 (45:17):
Judge Kiki, if you would.

Speaker 6 (45:18):
Yes, let's get into it. The case says, Hey Kiki,
my name is Lauren. I'm a longtime listener of the show.
My husband and I have three kids. I have one
daughter from a previous relationship, and we have two kids together.
My oldest daughter has never met her biological father, so
my husband is the only father that she knows. For
her sixteenth birthday, she thought it would be a sweet

(45:41):
thing to ask my husband to finally adopt her. She's
always wanted to have the same last name as my
other kids, and I always wanted it to be her decision.
So at her birthday party, she asks my husband in
front of all of our family and friends, and he
said yes. Well, a week later, my husband came back
to me and said that after thinking about it and
talking it over with his mom, he's had a change

(46:03):
of heart. Oh my god, he doesn't want to complicate
things by legally adopting my daughter. I'm heartbroken. His excuse
was that he already plays the father role for her.
And it's no need to get the courts involved. I
told him, there's no way I'm telling my daughter that
you've changed your mind. He has to adopt her or
I will leave. Am I wrong forgiving him an ultimatum?

Speaker 5 (46:27):
Damn baby? What say you judge?

Speaker 6 (46:33):
This is one that I really needed thirteen to weigh
in on because it's really been bothering me all weekend.
Because my issue really comes in is that you went
and spoke with your mother. What happened in that conversation
between him and his mother that made him change his
mind to come back and say he doesn't want to
legally adopt my kid. And I don't want to tell

(46:54):
her to leave her husband because it's easy to say
blow up your family when you're not the one in
the situation. Obviously, he's a good guy, a good father.
He's raised her other children and alone. You know, he's
taken the girl in to be her father, but not legally.
What is stopping him? It makes me think of, like,
is he worried about if they ever divorced, then maybe
he's going to be responsible for child support or something,
or you know, is there some type of legal thing

(47:15):
that he's scared of getting the courts involved. I just
feel like there has to be more to it, and
I would love to know the conversation between him and
his mother. But for him to renegue on the original
agreement and he promised this girl this in front of
the entire family. He is so dead wrong, Like he's
so wrong, And I feel for you, Lauren Kiki.

Speaker 1 (47:35):
I lived this like this is I was adopted by
I guess quote unquote my stepfather. So is my sister. Yeah,
and I we turned eighteen, we went to court and
did it. And I cannot imagine because that was we
were never like it was ever, this is what's going
to happen, or it was always do you want this
to happen?

Speaker 5 (47:56):
And it was kind of I don't know it.

Speaker 1 (47:59):
It was a very thing between each of us and
this guy who raised us, and it's I just can't
imagine how I would feel if all of a sudden
he were like, not, yeah, I'm not into this anymore.
Like it almost makes me wonder if there's that something
that's heartbreaking going on in the in the primary relationship,
like between he and the mom or something like maybe

(48:19):
I don't know, because why would he I can't imagine
that he goes to talk to his mom and mom says, yeah,
you don't want that kid.

Speaker 5 (48:26):
It's almost like.

Speaker 1 (48:27):
Giving that no, but it's it's well maybe, but it's
almost like it's almost like mom doesn't like the wife
or girlfriend or whatever and doesn't know if that's going
to last, So then don't adopt the guy. I don't know,
because I can't imagine that my mom would talk me
out of adopting somewhat a child that I helped raise
over the child, correct, I would think it would be

(48:48):
something something else.

Speaker 7 (48:49):
Yeah, can I say an unpopular opinion? So why is
he consulting with his mother? Like, this is a grown
ass man and this is his family, his mother, his mother.

Speaker 4 (48:58):
Is his family.

Speaker 3 (48:58):
It's his mother.

Speaker 7 (48:59):
I'm very aware of that, but this man created his
own family. So I'm just really confused as to why
we're consulting mom about your family dynamic and what you're
going to do in adoption. You know what I'm saying,
Like to me, I don't like that, that that's too much.
This is your family, You're a grown ass man.

Speaker 1 (49:14):
This is from the woman who calls Hobby's mom. Absolutely
was not doing what you want.

Speaker 5 (49:20):
Him to do he didn't watch the dishes.

Speaker 7 (49:21):
I call his mother. This is true, but we when
comes to our family, but when it comes to our
family dynamic, we're not going to consult our mommies. Like
that's we're not doing.

Speaker 5 (49:30):
No, you consul his mom.

Speaker 1 (49:32):
So what you're saying is his mom has influence, and
I don't think that's unfair. I don't think it's unfair
to have your mom be someone that you you can
you can talk.

Speaker 7 (49:39):
To her, of course, But at the end of the day,
I still feel like, this is your family. When you
get married, you create your own family. You guys know that,
Like we've been preaching this on this radio for years,
Like I'm learning not too I consult my mom for
the littlest things. I admit it. I'll say, hey, Ma,
you know I want to do this, what should I do?
I want to get a tattoo. I'm still like, oh,
should I ask my mom? Like yeah, I think these things,
But at the end of the day, it's like, no,
I'm a grown ass woman. I'm thirty two years old.

(50:00):
I have a family now, I have a child, and
I have a husband. This is now my family. We're
gonna making all decisions.

Speaker 1 (50:06):
But Pete, we don't know that that she's the one
who said don't do it, or he may have gone
to her with this, with this idea anyway, and she
may have reinforced it. So no, I mean, mom shouldn't
be running the family. But I don't think that consulting
family who are important to you when it comes to
making big decisions, isn't that what family's for, may to
help you sort of work through those kind of things.

Speaker 7 (50:26):
It sounds like you got doubts though, if you're going
to go to your mom too, I would call my mom,
or let in this case, this man called his mom
and say, hey, guess what, Mom, I'm going to adopt first.
I don't know her name, that's any whatever, I'm going
to adopt her. Like this is what we're doing in
beautiful family birth right beautiful birth up.

Speaker 1 (50:43):
And we're going to change her. Yeah, yeah, I gotta.
I mean, no Bertha Frederick out there, We'll change her.
So that's my bigger, my bigger issue here is rightness.
I love the name birth It's beautiful, he said.

Speaker 5 (50:59):
I hear it's making it come.

Speaker 6 (51:00):
Actually, don't enough you know, we don't and to play
devil advocate like it all happened at the girl's birthday party,
so she asked him in front of the family, So
I'm sure his mom was there and his family and
her family were there, So of course that opens it
up for people to have opinions. However, you're in a
marriage and you've raised this girl. I couldn't imagine telling

(51:22):
a kid I don't want to adopt you, like it
could be a kid I just met yesterday if they
asked me to adopt him. Yes, you know what I'm saying, Like,
how could you tell somebody living in your house that
you raised that you don't want to take on that
responsibility for them.

Speaker 1 (51:37):
Well, and I obviously don't know these people can judge, Kiki,
but these things, in my experience, at least in my
personal experience, they don't just happen. There's normally some discussion. Now,
she may have surprised him, my guess a viral cause
these things go viral sometimes.

Speaker 5 (51:52):
Who knows.

Speaker 1 (51:52):
Maybe she just sprung it on him, but I doubt
it because, Yeah, I mean, like in our family was
discussed for a long time before it happened, and everybody
was comfortable with it. So I don't know. I mean
maybe if she surprised him. I mean, and there are
some things we don't know. How long is a relationship.
Do we know how long they've been together.

Speaker 6 (52:10):
No, but she said that her daughter is sixteen and
he's the only father that she's known.

Speaker 5 (52:15):
So okay, well then yeah, then I don't know.

Speaker 1 (52:18):
Most in my experience, most adults, when the child that
they raise that isn't technically their blood child, when that
kid wants them to be their legal father, that is
normally the biggest honor that you can bestow on someone. Oh,
because it's a choice, you know, it's it's I mean,
I love my parents, and I love my mom and

(52:39):
my mom I got so lucky. I won the mom
lottery with mom of Fred. But not everybody did. Not
everybody won the family lottery. And so a lot of
times we hear people say that friends are the family
that you choose. Well, in this case, he's the dad
that she gets to pick because they could go on.
I mean, how many stepparents do you know that are
just kind of there, you know, and they're nice, and

(52:59):
they're they're not bad people, but they're you're not necessarily
running out to go to court and have them adopt you.
So I can't imagine a world where this guy would
be shunning this child that he raised. It's got to
be something more. Yeah, five, it's crazy to me.

Speaker 5 (53:20):
Yvonne hi yavanod morning, good morning. Hey you heard this
whole thing? What say you?

Speaker 14 (53:27):
So?

Speaker 18 (53:28):
I've been with my husband for fourteen years now. He
came into the picture when my daughters were seven and four,
and he I know, would adopt them in a heartbeat
if he had the chance. And so the fact that
he changed his mind, not only is that heartbreaking for
the mom because she's been a second guest, you know, like,

(53:50):
how does he really feel about my daughter if he's
second guessing this, but also the daughter I couldn't imagine
having to go back and tell her like, hey, he
changed his mind. It's just really sad.

Speaker 11 (54:00):
And coming from like someone in a blended family. If
I had any doubts on the way my husband felt
about my kids, I'd be out, I believe.

Speaker 18 (54:12):
I mean, it's just you've raised this kid, I mean,
her whole life. I don't know why he would like
have any reservations or have changed his mind.

Speaker 1 (54:23):
Yeah, this this doesn't sound like a snap decision. I mean,
maybe I don't know. It's it's really crazy to raise
a child and then this happens, and then have you
go never mind. I don't I don't really want that
obligation anymore because you took it off already, you already
did it.

Speaker 6 (54:37):
And it sounds like he still don't for the obligation.
He just doesn't want to make it legal. And to me,
something ray causing that.

Speaker 5 (54:43):
Yeah, yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 11 (54:45):
I don't know.

Speaker 1 (54:47):
I know it's it's it's puzzling, isn't it. Thank you
so much for listening, for calling. Have a great day.

Speaker 18 (54:51):
Thank you, guys.

Speaker 1 (54:53):
Yeah, I Mike, Good morning, Mike.

Speaker 5 (54:56):
How you doing.

Speaker 16 (54:57):
Hey you guys, good morning.

Speaker 5 (54:58):
How are you.

Speaker 1 (55:00):
I'm doing great, Thanks for listening, Thanks for calling. So Keiki,
just to make sure I have this right. Guy and
a girl been together for a while. Dude raises his
stepdaughter and we're kind of putting this together. But if
he's the only dad she ever knew, then let's just
say an extended period of time that the stepdad's been
raising this woman's daughter. And so there was discussion about
him adopting her legally, and they said let's do it,

(55:22):
and he said yes, and then he went back now
and has said to the woman, to his girlfriend or wife, whatever, no,
I don't want it anymore, which is crazy to me, Mike,
what do you think?

Speaker 16 (55:33):
So I'm I was kind of put in that kind
of same situation. I've been with my wife now eleven
years today actually, so I've known.

Speaker 5 (55:43):
Congratulations, thank you.

Speaker 16 (55:45):
I've been with I've known my fourteen year old she'll
be fifteen here in July, since basically she was three.
So her father now is a deceased But after we
had our second that we have three girls including her,
that she felt left out. So my wife, instead of

(56:07):
going through the adoption process, we actually petitioned the court
to her legally take my last name. My family loved her,
they thought that she you know, she's the world to
all of us. But yeah, even after was it last months,
we actually mentioned, hey, you know, we know you have

(56:32):
my last name. Would you like for me to adopt you?
And she's like, no, I say, I'm okay that you
know I have your last name. I love you and
that doesn't change anything. She doesn't wanted to have the
same last name as her sisters and the rest of
my family because I come from a very big family,
So that was kind of the.

Speaker 5 (56:53):
Gist with.

Speaker 10 (56:55):
That.

Speaker 16 (56:55):
So, I mean, yes, adoption is awesome. It's very expensive,
but we just petitioned the court. We had to jump
through a couple of hoops for it to happen because
he is deceased. But other than that, I mean, it
was kind of easy peasing.

Speaker 1 (57:10):
Well, it's a nice Mike, it's a great story, and
and that you guys talked about it and that she's
comfortable with it or whatever. I just I can't imagine
for if you had said it offered her that, or
if she asked you and you say yeah, and then
you come back a little while later and go, actually,
I thought about it, and I definitely don't want to
be legally attached to you in any way, even though
I've done everything else in the role of your father.

Speaker 5 (57:32):
It's I don't get it.

Speaker 16 (57:34):
I don't get it either, don't understand. I mean there
could be I mean, there could be so other like
factors that she didn't mention, but I mean, yeah, it
is kind of, you know, crappy that he did that,
But I'm sure there's other reasons that we don't know of,

(57:54):
you know of why?

Speaker 5 (57:55):
So yeah, yeah, Mike, Mike. Thanks for sharing that. By
the way, I have a great.

Speaker 16 (58:01):
Thanks you two guys have a good one.

Speaker 5 (58:02):
Glad Yeah, glad you called KB? Hi, KB? How you doing.

Speaker 18 (58:06):
I'm wonderful.

Speaker 12 (58:07):
How are you guys this morning?

Speaker 5 (58:08):
KB?

Speaker 1 (58:09):
Thanks for listening. Thanks for calling. So you heard you
heard the case in Kiki's court?

Speaker 5 (58:14):
What say you?

Speaker 19 (58:15):
Oh, this is a messy mess I would definitely say divorced.
But here's my reason why. So you're legally taught to me,
you made that declaration, that obligation, but you don't want
to do it for my children, and then you make it,
you know, very.

Speaker 12 (58:30):
Loud at the birthday party.

Speaker 10 (58:32):
Then you go back on that.

Speaker 12 (58:33):
No, we're not going to create that type of hurt
within our children.

Speaker 19 (58:37):
We're just not. We're just not in Your mom needs
to go sit down and enjoy her own life because
you have your own.

Speaker 5 (58:42):
Oh.

Speaker 1 (58:43):
I just I got to think there's something very adult
going on here, because it can't be about the child.
I mean sixteen, she's a kid like any raiser supposedly,
so it can't be about the.

Speaker 19 (58:53):
Did So then he makes directed by that within himself,
and if he does have conversations with his mom, then
he needs to talk to his wife before and say,
you know what my mom said this. My mom said
that it's not a flat out no, but how let's
talk through it. But to just say a flat out no,
that's a problem. Like the previous gentleman he said, they
went through out of the name change. I mean, that's

(59:15):
also an option, but to flat out no, the answer
for me is not yeah.

Speaker 1 (59:20):
Yeah, thank you, KB, have a great date, Thanks for listening.
Appreciate you. Alicia, Hi, Alicia, Hi, Hey, good morning, welcome.
What do you think you're the jury here? Tiky scored.

Speaker 15 (59:35):
So kind of a little similar situation. My parents have
been together, which was my mom and my stepdad twenty
seven years now. Came into our life when my sister
was six and I was two. My sister asked, when
she was like thirteen fourteen, for him to adopt her.
He flat out said no. He said no, he wouldn't
do it.

Speaker 3 (59:55):
Even though he is our parent.

Speaker 15 (59:56):
He's on all of our you know, emergency contacts, he
has whatever, he's our son dad.

Speaker 5 (01:00:01):
What words?

Speaker 15 (01:00:04):
I don't really know because I was so young and
I've never really like asked exactly. I just know my
sister still feels hurt by it and actually, like fast
forward to quarantine time, my mom finds out that he's
been messaging some lady like the love of his life.

Speaker 10 (01:00:24):
And he also in those messages was like, I'm.

Speaker 15 (01:00:26):
Not a dad to these two girls.

Speaker 3 (01:00:28):
See, you can't trust a man who.

Speaker 5 (01:00:31):
See he didn't know.

Speaker 1 (01:00:32):
My gut tells me there's something going on at the
relationship level, at the romantic relationship level that's making this now.
That said that said that, even if they were to
break up, like if my parents were to break up,
my dad's my dad, my mom's my mom, they're still
going to be in my life. They don't have to
be together. So that's weird too. But maybe he just

(01:00:52):
doesn't want to go through all this. If he knows
they're going to break up, it.

Speaker 16 (01:00:56):
Could be, you know, maybe he's saving feelings later on.

Speaker 5 (01:01:00):
Yeah, that's crazy.

Speaker 1 (01:01:02):
Well, see there you go, this dude was there was
There was nefarious niss going on here.

Speaker 6 (01:01:08):
It always is, it always is, you know, Yeah, you go.

Speaker 1 (01:01:18):
I don't know if nefarious niss is a word, but
it sounds good to me. Winter, Hi, welcome to the
Friend Show.

Speaker 5 (01:01:23):
How are you, good morning?

Speaker 16 (01:01:26):
How are you guys?

Speaker 5 (01:01:27):
Winter?

Speaker 1 (01:01:28):
So Kiki's court I'm just trying to make this as
simple as possible, But it's it's it's the woman riding
in right.

Speaker 5 (01:01:34):
Yes, so she is. And is she married to this
guy or they just together?

Speaker 6 (01:01:38):
No, she's married to him and they shared two other
kids biologically together. But she had a daughter from a
previous relationship, and this man has been in her daughter's
life forever.

Speaker 4 (01:01:46):
She's the only he's the only dad that she knows.

Speaker 6 (01:01:49):
And the girl asked him to adopt her, and he agreed,
But then later a week later, came back and renigged
on it.

Speaker 5 (01:01:55):
Yeah, what do you think? Winter?

Speaker 12 (01:01:58):
So I wasn't a real very similar situation. I was
raised by my stepdad. My parents got married when I
was two or three, so my stepdad is my dad.
When I was sixteen, I asked my dad to adopt me.
And now at twenty eight, I have taken that back
where now I do have a relationship with my dad
full into adulthood. But I was the same way, and

(01:02:20):
I was like, no, I won't really want my stepdad
to adopt me. But coming into adulthood, I'm like, I
really wish I would have regretted my stepdad adopting me
because there's still an opportunity for her to have that
relationship with her dad that might be where he is
coming from, where the mom is coming from, Like hold on,
because if the dad really wants to reach out in adulthood,

(01:02:42):
he doesn't have any right. Again, he shouldn't have a
right because he wasn't there her entire life. So I
see that part. But there is more sides to the story.
Because she is just a teenager. She wants these decisions
like yes, having that parental figure in your life, your
entire life, and being like, no, that is my dad.
That's how I feel about my stepdad. But I would
have regretted it at sixteen had I asked him to

(01:03:04):
adopt me and not been able to have that relationship
with my biological father. So there's there's a little bit
more to it. But I see everybody's point where like
if the step dad came back to me was like, no,
I don't want to adopt you.

Speaker 11 (01:03:17):
I get that point.

Speaker 5 (01:03:17):
Too, man.

Speaker 1 (01:03:19):
I mean the kind I mean, the abandonment ceiling that you.
I mean, that's the kind of stuff that lives with you.
It would stay with you your whole life. Like this
guy that raised me doesn't want me and I just
can't imagine a world where it's about the kid. But
you know, we don't know everything. But wow, Winter, thank
you so much for calling. You have a good day.

Speaker 12 (01:03:38):
Thank you guys.

Speaker 10 (01:03:38):
Love you guys.

Speaker 5 (01:03:39):
Yeah, I love you. So you just can't you can't
play with this.

Speaker 7 (01:03:41):
Yeah, I was gonna just say when you turn eighteen though,
you're technically an adult, right, so like you can do
and whatever as you please. So like, if you're by
allowed to a dad does come around and knocks on
your door, you're legally able to talk to him and
have a relationship with him right after eighteen Or am
I making this?

Speaker 5 (01:03:56):
Yeah? I mean it's a legal thing.

Speaker 1 (01:03:58):
And if he's raised her in the other guy hasn't
been around, and I don't know why anybody would be surprised, Right,
that's the way this went. But they wouldn't preclude you
from having a relationship with your birth father. I mean
I could still do that if I chose to, you know,
and again I didn't.

Speaker 5 (01:04:12):
I didn't.

Speaker 1 (01:04:13):
Well I didn't get adopted. Uh yeah, because he went
for cigarettes. Both of our dads went for cigarettes. Ever
came back. But I I'm yeah, I mean if my
birth father wanted to have a relationship with me or whatever,
then that's very that's still possible. And the fact of
the matter is my dad who adopted me, the guy

(01:04:34):
who raised me. I mean that's it was, that was
appropriate for our relationship because well he was he's been
the guy. So that doesn't mean you can't have a
relationship with your birth father. He's not even around. So
what indication do we have that's gonna happen?

Speaker 5 (01:04:50):
I don't know. I don't know.

Speaker 1 (01:04:52):
All right, well ki ki, yeah, man, I think we're
headed to divorce courts.

Speaker 4 (01:04:58):
We are.

Speaker 5 (01:05:08):
Let's learn so much.

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(01:05:30):
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Speaker 2 (01:05:47):
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