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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's stay or go.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Okay, Jenny is here calling a local radio show to
solve life's problem.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Jenny, Hey, guys, Hey.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Jenny, what's going on? Tell us your situation?
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Okay, So I do need some advice.
Speaker 4 (00:20):
My husband and I got married last year, and I
know that this is called stay or go, but I'm
not actually considering divorce.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Okay, Well, thanks for calling by. Yes you did, Yes,
you signed the waiver.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
The waiver says at the end, you have to do
whatever we tell you have to. You have to divorce
the man if we tell you to divorce the man.
That's that's part of the people don't realize this. It's
a waiver. People have to sign it and they have
to do what we decide at the end.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
Go ahead, Jenny, Well, I want your opinion on something
that has actually been affecting our marriage though, so I
haven't changed my last name to his like I originally planned.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Prior to the marriage.
Speaker 5 (00:58):
We discussed it.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
And I said I would do it, but I'm kind
of changing my tune now.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
And I don't want to.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
But it's because I'm really proud of being a lawyer,
and I'm proud of my name in my line of work.
Speaker 5 (01:12):
And I'm the one that.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Went to law school and busted my butt, not my husband.
Speaker 5 (01:17):
It's my name.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
And also, you know, my dad is my hero and
it's his name, so I want to honor him also,
and basically I.
Speaker 5 (01:27):
Don't want to change it anymore.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Meanwhile, well give me well, yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
No, he's devastated. He's not happy about it. He said,
I've always dreamed of having the woman I love take
my last name, and it's something that heightened when he
met me, and he's really been looking forward to it
that he barely asks me for anything. This is the
one thing and it's gotten his hopes up. I mean,
(01:54):
it's been.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Causing some issues at home.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
And while I do feel bad that I changed my mind,
I think it's okay that we change your mind about things,
you know, once they marrinate. And I want to know,
I want your advice.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Why did you tell him that you would if you
if you don't want to. I mean, like these aren't
new things, right, Like you probably were a lawyer, your
dad was, you're here. All these reasons existed before. So
why was it okay before and it's not okay now?
Speaker 4 (02:26):
Maybe because I had time to think about it.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
It wasn't right away, and.
Speaker 4 (02:31):
Now I'm thinking, maybe it's important to have my name
because of my dad and because of my you know,
pride to myself.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
I guess I just wonder what changed, because you could
have said no before, you know, you could have said, hey,
look the all these things, all these reasons are why
I want to keep my name. But I still want
to be married to you now. Granted, I don't think
you have a right to change your mind. It's your name.
You've changed your mind, You've created an identity for yourself,
a brand. Again, there's this familial pride, all these different things.
(03:03):
I guess I don't know why you can't. I don't
have an issue with this. You change your mind, How
does that? How does that change the fundamentals of your
marriage at all? It doesn't. You still love the guy.
Everything is exactly the same. You just decided that you're
not okay with this. You are right to it.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
It's your name.
Speaker 6 (03:19):
It's the one thing, though, that he's asking her for.
The one thing he's asking I think.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
That's not true.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
That's the one thing he's asking for, But how many
other things are implied in a relationship? Or in marriage
that he's saying that's the one thing he's asking. He's
also asking for love and affection and loyalty and all
these things that she's giving back to him.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
This is this is vanity. Wow, Okay, what do you mean?
Speaker 5 (03:43):
I mean, it's your partner.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
Is your husband?
Speaker 6 (03:45):
If you you took on this Marrior, you guys married,
you are one now, So can't you just maybe hyphenate
his name at least at the very least he wants
you to be missus Jones or whatever, Like, can you
even consider that at all?
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Like that's this one. I'm a little I'm a.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Little surprised by you, Kiki, because you are a strong,
independent type a woman period. And I know, and I'm
not I'm not trying to pin you on this, but
I know that you believe that a woman or a
man has the right to change their mind about things.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
I absolutely believe that.
Speaker 6 (04:15):
But as I'm mature, Okay, I'm a little bit more
mature since firm.
Speaker 7 (04:19):
When did that happen? I was going to say it
was the weekend. Interesting, I can kind of see it.
I can sort of see it, except for your viewpoint
on this.
Speaker 5 (04:29):
Seriously, Like it's not a lie.
Speaker 6 (04:31):
He's not asking for the world like in there, there's
a way that you can hyphenate your name and still
honor your father, still keep your name. You don't have
to go change your business cards. But if he wants
to say this is missus so and so, like, why
not do that for your partner?
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Is that an option? Would you hyphenate?
Speaker 3 (04:48):
I would consider hyphenating.
Speaker 4 (04:50):
It's just I want to carry my dad's name, like
he basically came to the US with nothing and gave
me everything that I feel like that's how I can
honor my dad. So there's a way for me to
hyphenate but still use my dad's name my name.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Then I would consider that.
Speaker 8 (05:09):
Yeah, yeah, you were asking her kind of like what's changed,
right Fred? You were saying, you know, you agree to it.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
I was just curious, Yeah, why was it a good
idea before and not a good idea?
Speaker 8 (05:16):
I think it could be a form of I don't
want to call it cold feet because I don't think
it's the same thing. But I think when you're about
to make that change, I can see how you do.
Speaker 5 (05:24):
You do switch up and you change your mind. I
did that.
Speaker 8 (05:26):
I was standing in the Las Vegas Courthouse, and I said,
I don't want to change it, and my husband said,
I wish we talked about this prior because we're standing
in front of this person. We got to sign this paperwork,
and now we're over here debating about a last name.
He had every right to feel that way, and I
did sign the paperwork as his last name.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
The thing is, I never went to go change it,
and I chose not to.
Speaker 8 (05:47):
Yeah, I chose not to because I was like, I
just don't want to go through the hassle of it.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
I really don't. It's not a hassle. He's not a hassle.
Speaker 8 (05:53):
It's just I didn't want to Reveeels laughing, because I
know that's what he wants his wife to do.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
I know women have to be the ones to do it.
Speaker 5 (05:58):
That's another question.
Speaker 7 (05:59):
Why so I never I never said I never. I
was never like, all right, you're taking my last name.
It's just the fact that Jess says it's it's too hard.
There's so much things to do.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I'm like there is. I'm like, it's is it that hard?
Speaker 7 (06:12):
Like, yeah, you get new numbers, you get new credit cards,
you get but it's like it's so it's not worth
it though, like like it's been. We've been married for
seven years. She still has her last name. I could
see if I had kids some uniformity. And I also
and by the way, Jenny, I'm gonna take some phone
calls on this, so have your radio one.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
But thank you.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Well, now we're gonna talk about you behind your back.
It's our favorite part. So thank you. Have a good day. Okay,
thanks eight five five, five nine one one three five.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
You can call it text the same number.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I think I would not have any issue if if
I married somebody who didn't want to take my name
for whatever reason, especially if it was reasons like this.
She was proud of her own name for some reason.
But I have to say that because the Frederick name
only lives on with me at this point, because my
sister is she took her husband's name, and her kids
have there's no Frederick involved, and they're also girls, and
(07:01):
so I don't really know what happens with that. But
if I ever were to have a kid, it would
be important to me for the child to have my name, simply,
especially if it were a boy, simply because that's the
only the Frederick name at least as it pertains to me,
dies with me, and it has meaning because it was
not my birth last name. It was the name that
my mom got from my sister and me when she
(07:23):
got divorced. We all took her maiden name, which is
pretty rare. That's not often granted, and it was in
this case. So my last name actually changed in fourth grade,
which is where the Fred nickname came from, because I
come to school and I have a new last name,
and everyone called me Fred. They were making fun of me.
And then you've heard the story before, then you can
(07:43):
be telling you haven't. It's one of my ten stories.
And my grandfather picked me it from school because it
was his last name and he didn't have sons, so
I was his son. He had three daughters. And I
was upset and I said, they were making fun of me.
They call me Fred. And to this Dad do not
know if it's true, but he said, well, that was
my nickname. His nickname was Fritz. I never heard Fred.
I think he lied. I think he's a liar. But
(08:04):
my grandfather lied to me. But nonetheless, that immediately became
I embraced it and immediately became my nickname. And there
you have it, so it would be important for me.
I think if ever someone were unlucky enough to be
impregnated by me to then have to you know that
that would be important.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
But otherwise I don't care.
Speaker 7 (08:21):
Yeah, I'll also say that when it's very when we
go places, like, we get certain looks. You know what
I'm saying, like what is your relate? Like I'll say
my last name, and they'll be like, what's your name?
And then she'll say her last name. So like and
we got two kids. I'm like, it does but even
at school. Even at school, like she's listed as one
(08:43):
parent under her last name. I was like, are we
And then I'm the one that comes to pick the
kids up and takes them off, like are we together?
Are we not together? It's a very weird look, but
like to me, that's how it looks. We go to
the doctor, we got two different names. Our kids have
my last name, so it's like a weird I get
this weird vibe every time he goes somewhere. We got
to give our names. I'm like, uh yeah, but like
(09:04):
we're wearing rings. I'm like, it's so it's so confusing.
I feel like it's so confusing to people sometimes if
he could be disappointed and his feelings can be heard.
But if this is the biggest problem that they have,
that she changed her mind about her own identity, I
don't know how far I would push that again. If
everything else is functioning and great, we're talking about something
(09:24):
that she has to do. She has to change her name,
she has to go to the court and get her
you know whatever, all of her paperwork changed and credit
credited for a credit cards and bank account. She has
to do all that, not to mention the fact that
it's I would imagine it's it's somewhat of a psychological
shift too, especially if you believe that you're honoring a
parent or a family member that you love.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
I don't like that.
Speaker 7 (09:46):
I don't like that idea of her like, oh, it's
my dad's last name, I'm honoring my dad. I'm like,
but you are. This is your family now, this is
who you married. If you have kids, like you are,
this is your unit now, Like this is your fan. Yes,
your deb's your dad, but he's not going to be
around forever, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
So I'm gonna say WHOA.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
I guess I'm somebody I pick, and she's the trends
or not the trends, the traditions I think that I honor.
For example, I don't care about this. Sure it would
be nice, but I don't care my mom hyphenated her
last name.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
It it's fine.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
I mean, if we want to talk about the history
of like why.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Yeah, but like another but yes.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
What I was going to say is I still believe
that someday I will ask a woman's father for quote unquote,
not permission, but blessing. And there are people, I mean,
we've done this topic over the years and people who
have been on this show have been like, that is insane,
that's ridiculous, it's antiquated as property, all this bs And
I'm like, no, it's respect, it's respect. Like this, this
(10:48):
woman is one of the most you created it. Hopefully
you guys have a great relationship. It's one of the
most important things, if not the most important thing in
your life. The least I can do is take the
time to look you in the eye and tell you
what I know the promises that.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
I intend to uphold. That's the least I can do.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Yeah, because I like that one.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
It has nothing to do with property nothing.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
It's simply like I would be upset if I found
out that Polly or May my nieces got it. I
would have been upset if Amanda had gotten engaged and
Colin didn't take the time to ask any of us.
And by the way, we can say no and he
can still do it because it's up to her. But
he not only asked my dad, but he asked me,
and my sister told him that he had to, that
we both had to, you know, and my dad actually
(11:31):
kind of told him no the first time. My Dad's like,
I don't know about this.
Speaker 9 (11:37):
He knew.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
My dad is so savage for that.
Speaker 6 (11:39):
Colin knew that it was important to Amanda to get
your approval, right, He did it because he loved her,
so kind of in this case, like it's okay to
have your independence and feel how you feel, but you
can't take your partner's feelings into consideration, like it's bothering him,
you know.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it makes sense. I remember what I
said to him. I think I said because he asked
as my dad and then he asked me. We were all
in New York on for I think it was her
birthday for a trip, and so he asked us on
the same day, and I knew that he had asked
dad and that Dad was shook. And then he came
to me and he was like, your dad kind of
said no, what do you think? And I go no, no, no, no.
(12:15):
He said what do you think? And I said what
did my dad say? He was kind of no, And
I was like, well, you might want to work on
that answer the.
Speaker 7 (12:26):
Time.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
But obviously we, you know, have come a long long way.
But Brittany, Hi, how are you Hi?
Speaker 10 (12:33):
Good warning her?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Are you very well? Thanks for calling? So stare go.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
This woman is having an issue in her relationship because
her husband, they're married, and they have a great relationship
by her own admission, but she had agreed to take
his last name, and then now that they're married and whatever,
does not want to for I think pretty good reasons.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
What do you think?
Speaker 11 (12:50):
Yeah? So, I mean, I see both sides that you're
really so mad at me. I agree with Rufio.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Have a good day.
Speaker 9 (13:00):
I talk.
Speaker 11 (13:04):
So like I said, I see both sides, I totally do.
But like he said, this is her family now, she
needs to take her husband's kneelings into considerations. Obviously, it's
really important to him. I mean, I get that it's
important to her too, for like her law firm and stuff,
But I mean she.
Speaker 12 (13:18):
Could just hypenate it and then she really.
Speaker 11 (13:20):
Doesn't have to change much like her name within her
law firm, you know, like I get that or like
for whatever reasons, but like, I mean, she could at
least like compromise with him and like hypenate it. Like
I don't understand what's so bad about that.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Yeah, no, I think you're right, Thank you, Brittany. I
think it's a good compromise, and she seemed maybe open
to that.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Have a good day, Thank you too.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
I think this actually happened in my life too, because
you know, if you don't, we've talked about it a
million times. But when I turned eighteen, I was adopted
by the man who raised me, who is not my
birth father, and I think he probably would have liked
it had I taken his last name as my last name,
which I was not opposed to. His last name is
my middle name because I didn't have a middle name.
(14:01):
But I was not going to give up Frederick for
the reasons I've already said. It was too important to
my mom to have Because again I don't know if you.
Hopefully a lot of people listening have not been divorced,
but it's not real common when when the male and
the female figure are fighting for, you know, whatever they
can get in a divorce, it's not super common for
the female to win that one. And we did, plus
(14:23):
my grandfather and everything else. So I don't think my
dad's upset with me because his name is part of
my name, but I'm sure he would have liked it
because I'm his son. And then my sister went and
threw both of them boys. Someone, Hey, Rachel, that went
overwhelm Rachel. Hi, how you doing O great?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
My poor sister takes the brunt of no one.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
No one in the world can complain about not having
a say except for my sister. That woman. And by
the way, she has the phone omber she can call
up here anytimes. She just doesn't listen, which is probably
good for her mental health. What did you want to say?
Speaker 13 (14:58):
I'm gonna fix everything right here.
Speaker 14 (14:59):
Good.
Speaker 13 (15:00):
I'm going to tell you what, thank you. I'm going
to tell you what my mom does, I think is genius.
Speaker 14 (15:05):
She continues to.
Speaker 13 (15:06):
Practice her real estate business under her maid's name, so
that's what she used to advertise. That's what she uses
for all like bitiness and professional purposes. But legally she
has changed her last name to her husband's name. So
for all personal reasons, personal mail, you know, to to
close press and stuff.
Speaker 9 (15:24):
She uses my dad's name.
Speaker 13 (15:27):
And I think that that is the perfect middle ground here,
because then you're, you know, Jenny's still able to honor
her dad with his last name, like carrying on the
lawyer's profession.
Speaker 9 (15:36):
But also she.
Speaker 13 (15:38):
Can still take her husband's name and make him happy.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
I agree with you some form of compromise here, but
he's going to have to accept that otherwise I don't
think he's getting anything.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I don't think she's going to do it. What what if?
When do they have kids?
Speaker 2 (15:52):
Listening so many Erica had the point, Rachel, thank you
have a good day.
Speaker 8 (15:55):
Okay, they have kids going to take what would they pick?
Speaker 5 (15:59):
I picked my daughter to have her dad's last name.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Okay, but she wants to honor her dad. Well, if
they have a boy that.
Speaker 5 (16:04):
Doesn't like, that's that's their family. That's the baby. That's
not dad's baby.
Speaker 8 (16:09):
You don't know that that's father's baby, that's her husband's baby.
Speaker 7 (16:12):
Yeah, but she could have the same last name as
her mom. The baby could have the same last name
as her mom. What they want, that's what I'm saying.
But that's different. That's a child you're saying. You're saying
that the child defers to the father.
Speaker 5 (16:22):
Like, yeah, I would believe.
Speaker 8 (16:23):
So if I have a baby, I do she has
her father's last name, I'll give baby.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Yeah, yeah, is this kid right here.
Speaker 5 (16:32):
I don't think you guys knew, but I have a baby.
Speaker 7 (16:36):
But a lot of times they differ because of insurance
reasons or whatever. You know what I'm saying, that's whore
the insurance is under Like, like, I have the insurance,
so obviously the kids have my last name. But but
like if they if they can't decide on their last
names as a couple when they have a kid, and
if it happens to be a boy, and she's like, oh,
let's honor my dad by giving them my last name.
Speaker 5 (16:56):
And now we're like talking different stories.
Speaker 8 (16:58):
I'm just saying, I know, I think at the end
of the day, you got to give the kid the
dad's last name for insurance reasons.
Speaker 5 (17:03):
Also, that's half of the dad, Like, that's dad's baby.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I would still argue, I mean, yes, I would like that,
but I would still argue this is all up to
the comfort level of both parents. I would I would
say that's there, but I agree that that would be nice,
especially if I had a son. But I don't know that.
I don't know anything should be considered automatic anymore.
Speaker 5 (17:22):
Baby like, H Well.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Yeah, I get you, Erica.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
Hi, So you're saying she should take his last name
because of the kids.
Speaker 15 (17:31):
Yes, I kind of agree with what Rachel was saying.
Oh wait, sorry, Hi, you can.
Speaker 14 (17:35):
Hear me right?
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Oh yeah, no, very much.
Speaker 12 (17:37):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
How you doing loud and clear?
Speaker 9 (17:39):
Hi?
Speaker 15 (17:41):
Sorry? I agree with what Rachel was saying about taking
it or having things under her name for business purposes.
So a little bit of a backstory is that my
husband was not really a fan of his family, so
we really considered taking my last name when we married
for our family. However, he ended up keeping his name.
(18:05):
I kept mine, and when I had my daughter, we
realized that it was very hard with her name being
the same last name as his and mine being different.
So kind of like she said, for kind of like
you guys mentioned for insurance purposes, for pickup at school.
Speaker 5 (18:23):
Things like that.
Speaker 15 (18:24):
So eventually I had to change my name, and it
was my choice, and I was very connected to my
family and my family's history. But that still is a
part of me. And if she wants to keep her
name on things for business purposes or hyphenate, she she should.
But one of the one of the things I've discovered
(18:46):
after having my husband's last name with my daughter and
us having the same last name, is that it's not
necessarily taking his last name, but it's having you all
as a family as a unit.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
Okay, all right, and.
Speaker 15 (19:02):
So yeah, so now we're all our family with our
last name.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
If that are Erica, well, thank you, have a good day.
Speaker 5 (19:12):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Let's also address one for the thing that has not
been addressing. What is this last name that she's that
she's taking. What is this last name?
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Is it a better last name? Is it a worse
last name?
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Right?
Speaker 3 (19:25):
You know? Is it longer harder to spell?
Speaker 1 (19:29):
I mean, I mean that changes what the initials turn
off all the information.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
I also would like.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
To point out that divorced parents do it all the
time with two different last names, and the kids are.
Speaker 7 (19:42):
Okay, the name is one of the last name is
may As.
Speaker 6 (19:46):
Look at this point, I take you.
Speaker 9 (19:51):
The girl.
Speaker 6 (19:51):
Just just you know, what you're doing a reservation is
just put missus you know, missus Jones. Just make her
feel good. You ain't got to change the paperwork. Just
put it down there.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
Girls, just make it look nice, don't actually fundamentally change it.
Speaker 4 (20:03):
Thing.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Yeah, I need to hear all the information.
Speaker 14 (20:06):
A few things.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
Miss It's gonna be like, hey, it's easy. It's not
good Fred Show. I've ever been left waiting by the phone.
It's the Fred Show. Hey Lee, good morning, Welcome to
the show. How are you big.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Mine guys, how you doing doing? Okay? Man Colin?
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Uh, well, we're talking to you because we got to
call this woman Arihana because you guys went out, I guess,
and you can't get a hold of her. You feel
like you're being ghosted. So give us the backstory. How
did you guys meet and tell us about any dates
you've been on and all of that good stuff.
Speaker 14 (20:39):
Okay, cool.
Speaker 12 (20:40):
So we're talking about Arianna. She's a girl I met
on Hinge and uh, you know, we matched up and
we chatted for a couple of days. She wanted to
make traveling crazy. Same with the same with me. And
we met up. I took her out to dinner and
a really nice spot down town. It was great. We
had a really good conversation, you know, I mean it
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was really good back and forth. Honestly, it was better
than it was on Hinge. And we both kept saying, now,
this is better than we thought it would go. And
drinks were good and going good, and you know, it
was just it just felt like, oh, this might be
but this might be the other half.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
Oh yeah, oh you felt like that.
Speaker 12 (21:17):
Yeah, okay, I did, and she certainly didn't. I mean
I thought you did too. You know, it really felt
like it was that way, and I thought we would
be going out again. But for some reason, she just
completely cut off communication right after the date, and I
went over it with my friends. I went over it
with like like, there's people I know, the girls I know,
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and they were like, what did you say? Did you
say anything? And I was like, no, I don't think
I said anything. I can't think of a single moment
where everything went wrong.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
So yeah, well that's frustrating because you go on these
dates and we talked about it almost every day. It's
like you meet somebody and it's a numbers game, and
it could be hard to meet people. And then when
you finally meet someone and you connect and you feel
like they connected and as a vibe, you know the difference,
and that's what happened. And yet since the date, you
can't get a hold of this woman and you want
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to know why.
Speaker 12 (22:07):
Yeah, because I didn't feel like she was gonna be
playing games, but this kind of feels like one, So
I don't know why.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
Okay, well, we're gonna call her just a second. We'll
see if we can figure out what's going on. You'll
be on the phone too, and the hope, as always
is that we can set you guys up on another
date after we figure out what's up in day four.
Speaker 12 (22:21):
Okay, that'd be great.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
All right, thanks, we're gonna get to the bottom of
this after Sabrina Carpenter back, get two minutes on the
Fred Show. Don't boom, Sabrina Carpenter, It's the Fred Show.
Good morning, Lee. Hi, Hey guys, all right, let's call Arianna.
You guys went on a nice dinner after matching on
the dating app Pinge, and you felt a connection. I
mean you said a minute ago that you felt like
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maybe she was it I think you referred to her
as maybe the other half or something. I mean, like
you really felt strongly about this.
Speaker 12 (22:50):
I mean, the conversation was so good.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
I felt like it could have been that way.
Speaker 12 (22:53):
And she was to be recept it too, And I
don't know what happened, but it was great at the moment.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
Okay, right, Well, let's see when you get her on
the phone, because you can't. We'll see if we can,
and we're gonna ask some questions at some point. You're
welcome to jump in and I wish you the best,
good luck.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
Thank you.
Speaker 16 (23:15):
Hello.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
Hi is this Ariana?
Speaker 10 (23:18):
Yes, this is Arianna.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Hey, Arianna, good morning.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
My name is Fredam calling in from the Fred Show,
the Morning radio show, and I do have to tell
you that we are on the radio right now and
I would need your permission to continue with the call.
Is it okay if we chat for just a second
on the show. You can hang up anytime.
Speaker 15 (23:32):
Oly Yeah, sure, Hey, Okay.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
Well, thank you very much for calling on behalf of
a guy. I guess you recently matched with him on
the dating app Hinge. His name is Lee. Do you
remember Lee?
Speaker 4 (23:43):
Hi?
Speaker 10 (23:43):
Yeah, I remember Lee.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
Okay, So he called us and he just I mean
for like five minutes basically gushed about you and talked
about how great you were and how he let you
a lot and felt a connection. It was excited to
see where things went. Had high aspirations, except he said,
since that date, you haven't had a word to say
to him, You have a responded to him, you ever
reached out.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
He feels like he's being ghosted.
Speaker 10 (24:05):
Yeah, so look, okay, it was really really good at first,
Like we had a lot of like text chemistry, you
know what I mean. Like we were just like vibing
really hard, right, like just going back and forth, back
and forth, and I was like, oh my god, I
need to meet this guy, you know, And like that's
always the hardest part, is like going from text to
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like real life dating, and because like people can be
totally different in person, you know, like they can be
amazing and wonderful on text, and then it's like you
meet and just like I don't know, it like gets weird,
like if they're not the same, it's like.
Speaker 5 (24:40):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 10 (24:41):
And so at the beginning of our date, like things
were going really well, but then it like took a
weird turn because I told him how like I love
to work out, okay, Like I'm a big fitness girl.
And I mentioned that my trainer is a guy, like
totally triggered because he was like, oh.
Speaker 5 (25:03):
Is your trainer a guy or a girl?
Speaker 10 (25:05):
And I was like it's a guy, and he like
totally lost it.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
Okay, what use it because like a guy's touching you
or something, or I means, I mean like.
Speaker 10 (25:16):
You're supposed to help people out a little bit when
you're working out together, like he spots me. But it's
not like weird inappropriate touch. It's like anyway, he just
kept going on and on and on, like he would
never date a girl as a male trainer, and like
it always leads to cheating, like one hundred percent of
the time.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
Oh, I guess for a surprise. Then I guess my
male trainer is in for a surprise.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Oh my god.
Speaker 10 (25:39):
And so yeah, so he like wouldn't let it go,
you know, and he just like doesn't understand why men
don't stick with the men and women to stick with
the women, and it just seems like really like sexist. Honestly,
one of.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
The husbands on the Married The Secret Lives of Mormon
Wives or whatever, because he sounds like a.
Speaker 10 (25:57):
Yeah, like like yeah, so you know he's like, oh,
their bodies are.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
Different, you know, and like it just really professional.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Every single time, you, guys, it leads to infidelity.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
This is crazy. I don't even know how this industry exists.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
As soon as your husband are running for a boyfriend
or girlfriend gets a trainer, forget about it.
Speaker 3 (26:19):
But I have a question for the ladies's name? Would you,
guys let your man have a hot female if?
Speaker 5 (26:24):
Again, is my man right, he's starting to get that
little dad belly.
Speaker 8 (26:27):
Oh yeah, hey, I've been having a dad belly, but
now we're twining.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
Wow, okay, would you would you love big Tim have
a female trainer?
Speaker 14 (26:38):
Now?
Speaker 1 (26:38):
What what does he need that for?
Speaker 3 (26:39):
In her tiny little short All.
Speaker 6 (26:41):
These great male trainers out here, I just feel it.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Wait a minute, so you're on the same page with
the guy.
Speaker 5 (26:45):
I'm not on his page.
Speaker 6 (26:46):
But you know, first of all, I don't have to
worry about my man going to anybody's gym red hot. Yeah,
it's a lot of male trainers out here, you know.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Wow, Well, let me bring Lee and because I guess
you and lincould probably hang out because it sounds like
you guys feel the same way, which is wild. Uh Lee, already, Lee,
I'm sorry. I forgot to mention that he's been here.
What is this about? Why can't she have a male trainer? Like,
what do do you care?
Speaker 16 (27:13):
Look, No, okay, I got a friend, a really good friend,
was really close to me, and he need this girl.
One story, I had a male trainer and all of
a sudden, it was just it was immediate. He walked
a ring, they had a vibe together, and he knew
and he was just like, this is it's a road
to cheating. It doesn't make me sense.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
This this goes back to like you know, and even
more of a reach.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
But it's like, oh, every pilot cheats, and every pro
athlete cheats, and every this and that and then everybody
every this.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
Is every man.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Yeah, these are stuff that nobody says it. You say that,
say it ever, I've heard it except the times I've
been cheated on.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
It was for the woman who was doing the cheating. Correct,
I was that it was a woman.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Crazy, But we're saying they're wrong.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Yeah, that's ridiculously so no on that you can cheat.
Speaker 12 (28:10):
It doesn't make sense.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
That's a very old school mentality that I don't think
has carries much weight, and it makes you look really insecure.
So either you are lee or you're not, and you
look that way, and that's unattractive.
Speaker 12 (28:22):
Okay, you know what. I'll be honest here. The person
was me, the person was med.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
So you were cheated on, Yes, I was. You're ex
cheated with her trainer. Yes, I'm very sorry that happened
to you. But I don't think you can project that
onto every new relationship because if you do, it's unlikely
things are going to work out. And I'm sorry that
happened to you, but you're gonna have to get over I.
Speaker 12 (28:44):
Think it's all right to have to have something like that.
It's a prerequisite if I've been hurt like that before.
I don't see why that's that's I mean, it's obviously
triggering me for for obvious reasons. I think it's valid.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
So you like this girl enough to call her maybe
the other half, but because she has a male trainer,
we're done.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
We're not. I didn't see you were doing.
Speaker 12 (29:05):
I said that it's a bit of an issue.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
It's kind of pay he said, wild world we live in.
He's twenty twenty four. It's an involved environment. Who's to
say if she got a female trainer that she wouldn't
find that she has feelings for that person too. I
don't think you can keep it that. I don't think
it's not that. It's not that straightforward.
Speaker 12 (29:21):
Yeah, if you.
Speaker 10 (29:22):
Try to trust your partner like who you know what
I mean, because there's so many people, there's so many options,
you know, like you could hook up with every like barista.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
I've heard about those barista. Yeah, I mean I've heard
about those. Yeah, a secret menu, Yeah, yep, I've heard
all about the barista industry. Yes, promiscuous. I'll tell you what,
but don't take care of you later. You know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Yeah, you know what you're.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
Onto something there. Okay, look, Arianna, so wait, I just
want to be clear about something.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Lee.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
You'll go out with her again own if she gets
a female trainer.
Speaker 12 (30:02):
Or at least considered it.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Okay, let's say she considered it and decided no. Right now,
she just said yep, no, we're not.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
So I don't know.
Speaker 12 (30:13):
It's cheated one again.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
Okay, so he doesn't Arianna, after hearing all of this,
I want to know what your interest level is. But
then beyond that the fact that you probably are going
to have to change trainers if you want to stay
with this man who you went out with one time.
Speaker 10 (30:25):
Controlling. Yeah, I don't leave the house like you know,
like I would not come on.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Yeah, I mean so. I hear people when they drive
by gym. Sometimes they're immediately copelled to cheat. I hear
the cary lot where they'll proceed to walk in and
find the hottest trainer and sleep with them.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
Control right there. Yeah, Planet fitness man.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
It's like every time I see the purple, I'm like purple,
I start, I get a tingle.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
You want to talk about a judgment before.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
Long, I'm cheating the girlfriend, I know. Then that lunk
alarm goes off. Oh I don't know what that is,
but I watch, no clue what the hell has happened?
Then alarm.
Speaker 7 (31:08):
It's like you're not supposed to when you're like doing weights,
you're not supposed to like drop weights, or if you're
acting like a like like screaming and making.
Speaker 3 (31:15):
All this it's a deep cut. Yeah, they'll they'll they'll
turn the alarm on.
Speaker 7 (31:19):
And yeah, I go on Mondays for the free pizza.
Speaker 5 (31:27):
And the cheating.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
I don't know if any traders are cheating with you.
I love you, I love you guys. It's not gonna
work out. I don't know, man, I'm sorry that happened
to you. I think you got to get over and Horiana,
thank you for answering it, for your time, Best of
luck to both of you. The entertainer of for trending
(31:56):
stories and fun fact all next, Fred show back in
two minutes, and I want to welcome a special guest
this morning to the program, personal trainer to the stars.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
And then also met.
Speaker 2 (32:09):
And multiple time marathon runner Giddy and the Torturer is here,
Gidea in the torch.
Speaker 9 (32:17):
I gotta go. I'm so happy to be here. Thank
you for the celebratory clouds. I'm far from a torture,
but I appreciate the time.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
Giddy in the torture Now. Kiki wants to leave the room,
but we locked the door.
Speaker 5 (32:30):
Let me out.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
She was telling me this morning she wants to run
the marathon with you next year. I told you that.
Speaker 9 (32:38):
We start our training this afternoon.
Speaker 14 (32:41):
I can't wait to see your our first session.
Speaker 3 (32:43):
Well, it's been nice knowing everybody you know.
Speaker 6 (32:47):
Get my graphic ready, aloud on my T shirt.
Speaker 2 (32:53):
Let me tell you something the other day. So Gideon's
trying to make me into a runner. He's trying very hard,
and I appreciate the encouragement, but I was running at
a pace that I was going to die.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
He took a zoom call.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
He was like doing backflips and screwing around with people,
and I mean like you just was like you were
barely even exerting yourself. You literally took a zoom call
and I'm over here gasping for my final breath.
Speaker 14 (33:17):
Well, well, let's be clear. It wasn't a zoom call.
It was the FaceTime and.
Speaker 9 (33:23):
I got off the phone immediately because we were having
so much fun. And he set up PR. If you
don't remember, a PR, a personal record, a personal best
during that same exact run.
Speaker 14 (33:33):
So he credit.
Speaker 9 (33:34):
You're the type of person who doesn't give himself as
much credit as you should.
Speaker 14 (33:38):
Want to get an auction job.
Speaker 3 (33:39):
Thank you your PR.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Yes, I was able to run one hundred feet with
that something, and today I'm going for one hundred and
twenty five. It's gonna be crazy. It's no, it's I'm
telling you. This running thing is so hard. I never
I never knew. At first, I didn't know. I didn't
know how to run. I don't know how to run.
I don't even physically know like my form and like
how my feet are just it. I didn't realize you
to think about that. But then, this man is such
(34:03):
a physical specimen. You just ran the marathon. I always
talk about me anymore, tell me about the Chicago Marathon, man,
How did that go?
Speaker 4 (34:11):
Well?
Speaker 9 (34:11):
First off, this Chicago Marathon is one of the greatest
times of the year in the city. If you have
not run the Chicago Marathon or have not experienced it
as the spectator in this beautiful.
Speaker 14 (34:21):
City that we have, I encourage you to do.
Speaker 17 (34:23):
So.
Speaker 9 (34:24):
There were fifty thousand people out there on the course
and it was a beautiful day for a run and
a great fall day in general. And yeah, it's just
the excitement that comes through running through I want to say,
twenty seven plus different neighborhoods throughout the city and being
able to test your physical ability after training for as
long as twelve to eighteen weeks to conquer twenty six
(34:48):
point two miles, it's really a sight to behold and
and for those who do it and complete it, it's
something that you'll never forget.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Now.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
I know you almost won the whole race. I know
you didn't, but it was a close so it was
extremely full.
Speaker 14 (35:03):
Far from it.
Speaker 9 (35:04):
A matter of fact, my race didn't go the way
I wanted it to go, and did not go the
way that I trained and prepared for it to. It
was actually in all honesty and disappointment for what I
expected the race to be. But at the same time too,
I like to think of the marathon as a victory lap.
It's a celebration of the time that you put in,
the commitment that you that you had during all of
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the training efforts to eventually be able to complete that distance,
no matter what your time was.
Speaker 1 (35:31):
So take this out.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
You ain't selling me, But this is this is like
the most positive person.
Speaker 1 (35:41):
Look at this.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
I mean, like, the marathon was the victory lap of
the training.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
Are you kidding me?
Speaker 3 (35:46):
Get in?
Speaker 4 (35:47):
What are you running from a seat on the couch lady?
Speaker 2 (35:51):
And like, can I want to talk about your childhood
or something? What's wrong with you?
Speaker 14 (35:56):
There ain't nothing wrong.
Speaker 1 (35:57):
I mean, we only have one.
Speaker 14 (35:58):
Life to learn. You have to find the positive in
it all.
Speaker 9 (36:01):
There are positive points in there despite the obstacles and
the setbacks. But once you find those those silver linings,
your mentality changes, your energy changes, and you just.
Speaker 7 (36:11):
Go for more and you go for better. So why not, Well,
I want to challenge you. You can do it again next year.
I want you to put your kids in the stroller
and push the stroller the whole thing.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
Can you do that?
Speaker 12 (36:20):
I absolutely will not do that.
Speaker 14 (36:23):
However, I take them on a couple of training runs
with me. Twenty six point two is hard enough by myself.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
Let's go look at this. Get harder for him, right.
I want to just run around the office for a second.
I want to do that. There's every breaks around the corner.
I ran. He didn't run back, though. I'll say this, yeah.
Speaker 14 (36:47):
Thank you.
Speaker 9 (36:47):
One of the one of the benefits of training is
first off, you have to have long runs in there,
and that requires time. And if you have the support
system of friends and family and you are a parent
out there, it's going to give you a little bit
of a much needed break from all of the hustle
and bustle that happened inside the household. So for those
of you who were like I don't want to do this,
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but you also want a little bit of a break
from all the things that happened inside, you know.
Speaker 14 (37:12):
Just general adulthood. Maybe taking up running might be a
good change of pace for it.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
Well, Ruvio has been doing that. He's been telling Jess
that he's training for the marathon. Then when he comes
home it's like, why do you feel like culvert?
Speaker 9 (37:21):
Right there?
Speaker 1 (37:27):
Right? And then I hate everything. Well, I'm proud of you.
Speaker 2 (37:30):
Congratulations one of the most encouraging positive people I know.
He's made a big difference in my life. And the
guy ran a freaking marathon with fifty thousand other people,
So congratulations to all of you. Please give me that
medal today. I'm gonna wear the medal as I run
two hundred feet and then fall over, and at least
when i'm when they collect my body, I'll have a
marathon medal on.
Speaker 14 (37:51):
You know what, I'll let you wear it for the
whole week.
Speaker 9 (37:53):
Matter of fact, I do have to ask, am I
now officially one of the thirteen? Maybe? Maybe?
Speaker 1 (37:58):
Oh well that's if you choose to be.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
If you're a sick person and you want to be
part of the thirteen and follow this show. But yes,
you you are part of the crew. My friend you
are the official personal trainer of the Frend Show, which means, Kik,
you get a small disc show.
Speaker 6 (38:13):
I need a discount. What did you do after the marathon?
What was the first thing you did?
Speaker 9 (38:19):
I went to the shirting brand and they had a
finish line fest there, which was just a beautiful recovery
experience for all of the runners. I got immediately on
the Dellos therapy table. If anybody doesn't know about Dello therapy,
whether you're an athlete or just somebody who is looking
to look better, feel better and had their muscles, the
line had better posture, et cetera, lease go find one
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of their locations.
Speaker 14 (38:41):
Yes, you do a great job with muscular therapy.
Speaker 17 (38:44):
Secure I got s Yeah, the bag is my body
and I want this thing to last for as long
as possible, so I made.
Speaker 14 (38:55):
Sure I got that therapy.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
I've been saying that. I've been saying that for a year.
The bag is my body. I've been saying that for years.
There's the other way around.
Speaker 12 (39:10):
Actually, yeah ya, I'll.
Speaker 2 (39:15):
See you later, Kik. He got a boots with the first.
She'll be out there later too. I'll see you a
little bit. Congratulations, Giddy, and we love you, Jock. I
appreciate that fit with giddy on the socials. You can
go follow him. Look at him, they said, and the
other that smooth though, you know it. Let me make
sure I want to get Let me get something in there,
Let me sneak that in there. You know we were
calling him either, so he got just off the fly.
Speaker 1 (39:37):
I love it. The Entertainment report is next. Fred shows
a kiss.
It's stay or go.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Okay, Jenny is here calling a local radio show to
solve life's problem.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Jenny, Hey, guys, Hey.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Jenny, what's going on? Tell us your situation?
Speaker 3 (00:17):
Okay, So I do need some advice.
Speaker 4 (00:20):
My husband and I got married last year, and I
know that this is called stay or go, but I'm
not actually considering divorce.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
Okay, Well, thanks for calling by. Yes you did, Yes,
you signed the waiver.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
The waiver says at the end, you have to do
whatever we tell you have to. You have to divorce
the man if we tell you to divorce the man.
That's that's part of the people don't realize this. It's
a waiver. People have to sign it and they have
to do what we decide at the end.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
Go ahead, Jenny, Well, I want your opinion on something
that has actually been affecting our marriage though, so I
haven't changed my last name to his like I originally planned.
Speaker 3 (00:57):
Prior to the marriage.
Speaker 5 (00:58):
We discussed it.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
And I said I would do it, but I'm kind
of changing my tune now.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
And I don't want to.
Speaker 4 (01:05):
But it's because I'm really proud of being a lawyer,
and I'm proud of my name in my line of work.
Speaker 5 (01:12):
And I'm the one that.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Went to law school and busted my butt, not my husband.
Speaker 5 (01:17):
It's my name.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
And also, you know, my dad is my hero and
it's his name, so I want to honor him also,
and basically I.
Speaker 5 (01:27):
Don't want to change it anymore.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Meanwhile, well give me well, yeah, I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
No, he's devastated. He's not happy about it. He said,
I've always dreamed of having the woman I love take
my last name, and it's something that heightened when he
met me, and he's really been looking forward to it
that he barely asks me for anything. This is the
one thing and it's gotten his hopes up. I mean,
(01:54):
it's been.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
Causing some issues at home.
Speaker 4 (01:57):
And while I do feel bad that I changed my mind,
I think it's okay that we change your mind about things,
you know, once they marrinate. And I want to know,
I want your advice.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Why did you tell him that you would if you
if you don't want to. I mean, like these aren't
new things, right, Like you probably were a lawyer, your
dad was, you're here. All these reasons existed before. So
why was it okay before and it's not okay now?
Speaker 4 (02:26):
Maybe because I had time to think about it.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
It wasn't right away, and.
Speaker 4 (02:31):
Now I'm thinking, maybe it's important to have my name
because of my dad and because of my you know,
pride to myself.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
I guess I just wonder what changed, because you could
have said no before, you know, you could have said, hey,
look the all these things, all these reasons are why
I want to keep my name. But I still want
to be married to you now. Granted, I don't think
you have a right to change your mind. It's your name.
You've changed your mind, You've created an identity for yourself,
a brand. Again, there's this familial pride, all these different things.
(03:03):
I guess I don't know why you can't. I don't
have an issue with this. You change your mind, How
does that? How does that change the fundamentals of your
marriage at all? It doesn't. You still love the guy.
Everything is exactly the same. You just decided that you're
not okay with this. You are right to it.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
It's your name.
Speaker 6 (03:19):
It's the one thing, though, that he's asking her for.
The one thing he's asking I think.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
That's not true.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
That's the one thing he's asking for, But how many
other things are implied in a relationship? Or in marriage
that he's saying that's the one thing he's asking. He's
also asking for love and affection and loyalty and all
these things that she's giving back to him.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
This is this is vanity. Wow, Okay, what do you mean?
Speaker 5 (03:43):
I mean, it's your partner.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
Is your husband?
Speaker 6 (03:45):
If you you took on this Marrior, you guys married,
you are one now, So can't you just maybe hyphenate
his name at least at the very least he wants
you to be missus Jones or whatever, Like, can you
even consider that at all?
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Like that's this one. I'm a little I'm a.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
Little surprised by you, Kiki, because you are a strong,
independent type a woman period. And I know, and I'm
not I'm not trying to pin you on this, but
I know that you believe that a woman or a
man has the right to change their mind about things.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
I absolutely believe that.
Speaker 6 (04:15):
But as I'm mature, Okay, I'm a little bit more
mature since firm.
Speaker 7 (04:19):
When did that happen? I was going to say it
was the weekend. Interesting, I can kind of see it.
I can sort of see it, except for your viewpoint
on this.
Speaker 5 (04:29):
Seriously, Like it's not a lie.
Speaker 6 (04:31):
He's not asking for the world like in there, there's
a way that you can hyphenate your name and still
honor your father, still keep your name. You don't have
to go change your business cards. But if he wants
to say this is missus so and so, like, why
not do that for your partner?
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Is that an option? Would you hyphenate?
Speaker 3 (04:48):
I would consider hyphenating.
Speaker 4 (04:50):
It's just I want to carry my dad's name, like
he basically came to the US with nothing and gave
me everything that I feel like that's how I can
honor my dad. So there's a way for me to
hyphenate but still use my dad's name my name.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
Then I would consider that.
Speaker 8 (05:09):
Yeah, yeah, you were asking her kind of like what's changed,
right Fred? You were saying, you know, you agree to it.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
I was just curious, Yeah, why was it a good
idea before and not a good idea?
Speaker 8 (05:16):
I think it could be a form of I don't
want to call it cold feet because I don't think
it's the same thing. But I think when you're about
to make that change, I can see how you do.
Speaker 5 (05:24):
You do switch up and you change your mind. I
did that.
Speaker 8 (05:26):
I was standing in the Las Vegas Courthouse, and I said,
I don't want to change it, and my husband said,
I wish we talked about this prior because we're standing
in front of this person. We got to sign this paperwork,
and now we're over here debating about a last name.
He had every right to feel that way, and I
did sign the paperwork as his last name.
Speaker 5 (05:43):
The thing is, I never went to go change it,
and I chose not to.
Speaker 8 (05:47):
Yeah, I chose not to because I was like, I
just don't want to go through the hassle of it.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
I really don't. It's not a hassle. He's not a hassle.
Speaker 8 (05:53):
It's just I didn't want to Reveeels laughing, because I
know that's what he wants his wife to do.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
I know women have to be the ones to do it.
Speaker 5 (05:58):
That's another question.
Speaker 7 (05:59):
Why so I never I never said I never. I
was never like, all right, you're taking my last name.
It's just the fact that Jess says it's it's too hard.
There's so much things to do.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
I'm like there is. I'm like, it's is it that hard?
Speaker 7 (06:12):
Like, yeah, you get new numbers, you get new credit cards,
you get but it's like it's so it's not worth
it though, like like it's been. We've been married for
seven years. She still has her last name. I could
see if I had kids some uniformity. And I also
and by the way, Jenny, I'm gonna take some phone
calls on this, so have your radio one.
Speaker 1 (06:29):
But thank you.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Well, now we're gonna talk about you behind your back.
It's our favorite part. So thank you. Have a good day. Okay,
thanks eight five five, five nine one one three five.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
You can call it text the same number.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
I think I would not have any issue if if
I married somebody who didn't want to take my name
for whatever reason, especially if it was reasons like this.
She was proud of her own name for some reason.
But I have to say that because the Frederick name
only lives on with me at this point, because my
sister is she took her husband's name, and her kids
have there's no Frederick involved, and they're also girls, and
(07:01):
so I don't really know what happens with that. But
if I ever were to have a kid, it would
be important to me for the child to have my name, simply,
especially if it were a boy, simply because that's the
only the Frederick name at least as it pertains to me,
dies with me, and it has meaning because it was
not my birth last name. It was the name that
my mom got from my sister and me when she
(07:23):
got divorced. We all took her maiden name, which is
pretty rare. That's not often granted, and it was in
this case. So my last name actually changed in fourth grade,
which is where the Fred nickname came from, because I
come to school and I have a new last name,
and everyone called me Fred. They were making fun of me.
And then you've heard the story before, then you can
(07:43):
be telling you haven't. It's one of my ten stories.
And my grandfather picked me it from school because it
was his last name and he didn't have sons, so
I was his son. He had three daughters. And I
was upset and I said, they were making fun of me.
They call me Fred. And to this Dad do not
know if it's true, but he said, well, that was
my nickname. His nickname was Fritz. I never heard Fred.
I think he lied. I think he's a liar. But
(08:04):
my grandfather lied to me. But nonetheless, that immediately became
I embraced it and immediately became my nickname. And there
you have it, so it would be important for me.
I think if ever someone were unlucky enough to be
impregnated by me to then have to you know that
that would be important.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
But otherwise I don't care.
Speaker 7 (08:21):
Yeah, I'll also say that when it's very when we
go places, like, we get certain looks. You know what
I'm saying, like what is your relate? Like I'll say
my last name, and they'll be like, what's your name?
And then she'll say her last name. So like and
we got two kids. I'm like, it does but even
at school. Even at school, like she's listed as one
(08:43):
parent under her last name. I was like, are we
And then I'm the one that comes to pick the
kids up and takes them off, like are we together?
Are we not together? It's a very weird look, but
like to me, that's how it looks. We go to
the doctor, we got two different names. Our kids have
my last name, so it's like a weird I get
this weird vibe every time he goes somewhere. We got
to give our names. I'm like, uh yeah, but like
(09:04):
we're wearing rings. I'm like, it's so it's so confusing.
I feel like it's so confusing to people sometimes if
he could be disappointed and his feelings can be heard.
But if this is the biggest problem that they have,
that she changed her mind about her own identity, I
don't know how far I would push that again. If
everything else is functioning and great, we're talking about something
(09:24):
that she has to do. She has to change her name,
she has to go to the court and get her
you know whatever, all of her paperwork changed and credit
credited for a credit cards and bank account. She has
to do all that, not to mention the fact that
it's I would imagine it's it's somewhat of a psychological
shift too, especially if you believe that you're honoring a
parent or a family member that you love.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
I don't like that.
Speaker 7 (09:46):
I don't like that idea of her like, oh, it's
my dad's last name, I'm honoring my dad. I'm like,
but you are. This is your family now, this is
who you married. If you have kids, like you are,
this is your unit now, Like this is your fan. Yes,
your deb's your dad, but he's not going to be
around forever, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
So I'm gonna say WHOA.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
I guess I'm somebody I pick, and she's the trends
or not the trends, the traditions I think that I honor.
For example, I don't care about this. Sure it would
be nice, but I don't care my mom hyphenated her
last name.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
It it's fine.
Speaker 3 (10:21):
I mean, if we want to talk about the history
of like why.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Yeah, but like another but yes.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
What I was going to say is I still believe
that someday I will ask a woman's father for quote unquote,
not permission, but blessing. And there are people, I mean,
we've done this topic over the years and people who
have been on this show have been like, that is insane,
that's ridiculous, it's antiquated as property, all this bs And
I'm like, no, it's respect, it's respect. Like this, this
(10:48):
woman is one of the most you created it. Hopefully
you guys have a great relationship. It's one of the
most important things, if not the most important thing in
your life. The least I can do is take the
time to look you in the eye and tell you
what I know the promises that.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
I intend to uphold. That's the least I can do.
Speaker 3 (11:06):
Yeah, because I like that one.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
It has nothing to do with property nothing.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
It's simply like I would be upset if I found
out that Polly or May my nieces got it. I
would have been upset if Amanda had gotten engaged and
Colin didn't take the time to ask any of us.
And by the way, we can say no and he
can still do it because it's up to her. But
he not only asked my dad, but he asked me,
and my sister told him that he had to, that
we both had to, you know, and my dad actually
(11:31):
kind of told him no the first time. My Dad's like,
I don't know about this.
Speaker 9 (11:37):
He knew.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
My dad is so savage for that.
Speaker 6 (11:39):
Colin knew that it was important to Amanda to get
your approval, right, He did it because he loved her,
so kind of in this case, like it's okay to
have your independence and feel how you feel, but you
can't take your partner's feelings into consideration, like it's bothering him,
you know.
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it makes sense. I remember what I
said to him. I think I said because he asked
as my dad and then he asked me. We were all
in New York on for I think it was her
birthday for a trip, and so he asked us on
the same day, and I knew that he had asked
dad and that Dad was shook. And then he came
to me and he was like, your dad kind of
said no, what do you think? And I go no, no, no, no.
(12:15):
He said what do you think? And I said what
did my dad say? He was kind of no, And
I was like, well, you might want to work on
that answer the.
Speaker 7 (12:26):
Time.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
But obviously we, you know, have come a long long way.
But Brittany, Hi, how are you Hi?
Speaker 10 (12:33):
Good warning her?
Speaker 1 (12:33):
Are you very well? Thanks for calling? So stare go.
Speaker 2 (12:36):
This woman is having an issue in her relationship because
her husband, they're married, and they have a great relationship
by her own admission, but she had agreed to take
his last name, and then now that they're married and whatever,
does not want to for I think pretty good reasons.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
What do you think?
Speaker 11 (12:50):
Yeah? So, I mean, I see both sides that you're
really so mad at me. I agree with Rufio.
Speaker 1 (12:57):
Have a good day.
Speaker 9 (13:00):
I talk.
Speaker 11 (13:04):
So like I said, I see both sides, I totally do.
But like he said, this is her family now, she
needs to take her husband's kneelings into considerations. Obviously, it's
really important to him. I mean, I get that it's
important to her too, for like her law firm and stuff,
But I mean she.
Speaker 12 (13:18):
Could just hypenate it and then she really.
Speaker 11 (13:20):
Doesn't have to change much like her name within her
law firm, you know, like I get that or like
for whatever reasons, but like, I mean, she could at
least like compromise with him and like hypenate it. Like
I don't understand what's so bad about that.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Yeah, no, I think you're right, Thank you, Brittany. I
think it's a good compromise, and she seemed maybe open
to that.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Have a good day, Thank you too.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
I think this actually happened in my life too, because
you know, if you don't, we've talked about it a
million times. But when I turned eighteen, I was adopted
by the man who raised me, who is not my
birth father, and I think he probably would have liked
it had I taken his last name as my last name,
which I was not opposed to. His last name is
my middle name because I didn't have a middle name.
(14:01):
But I was not going to give up Frederick for
the reasons I've already said. It was too important to
my mom to have Because again I don't know if you.
Hopefully a lot of people listening have not been divorced,
but it's not real common when when the male and
the female figure are fighting for, you know, whatever they
can get in a divorce, it's not super common for
the female to win that one. And we did, plus
(14:23):
my grandfather and everything else. So I don't think my
dad's upset with me because his name is part of
my name, but I'm sure he would have liked it
because I'm his son. And then my sister went and
threw both of them boys. Someone, Hey, Rachel, that went
overwhelm Rachel. Hi, how you doing O great?
Speaker 1 (14:42):
My poor sister takes the brunt of no one.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
No one in the world can complain about not having
a say except for my sister. That woman. And by
the way, she has the phone omber she can call
up here anytimes. She just doesn't listen, which is probably
good for her mental health. What did you want to say?
Speaker 13 (14:58):
I'm gonna fix everything right here.
Speaker 14 (14:59):
Good.
Speaker 13 (15:00):
I'm going to tell you what, thank you. I'm going
to tell you what my mom does, I think is genius.
Speaker 14 (15:05):
She continues to.
Speaker 13 (15:06):
Practice her real estate business under her maid's name, so
that's what she used to advertise. That's what she uses
for all like bitiness and professional purposes. But legally she
has changed her last name to her husband's name. So
for all personal reasons, personal mail, you know, to to
close press and stuff.
Speaker 9 (15:24):
She uses my dad's name.
Speaker 13 (15:27):
And I think that that is the perfect middle ground here,
because then you're, you know, Jenny's still able to honor
her dad with his last name, like carrying on the
lawyer's profession.
Speaker 9 (15:36):
But also she.
Speaker 13 (15:38):
Can still take her husband's name and make him happy.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
I agree with you some form of compromise here, but
he's going to have to accept that otherwise I don't
think he's getting anything.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
I don't think she's going to do it. What what if?
When do they have kids?
Speaker 2 (15:52):
Listening so many Erica had the point, Rachel, thank you
have a good day.
Speaker 8 (15:55):
Okay, they have kids going to take what would they pick?
Speaker 5 (15:59):
I picked my daughter to have her dad's last name.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Okay, but she wants to honor her dad. Well, if
they have a boy that.
Speaker 5 (16:04):
Doesn't like, that's that's their family. That's the baby. That's
not dad's baby.
Speaker 8 (16:09):
You don't know that that's father's baby, that's her husband's baby.
Speaker 7 (16:12):
Yeah, but she could have the same last name as
her mom. The baby could have the same last name
as her mom. What they want, that's what I'm saying.
But that's different. That's a child you're saying. You're saying
that the child defers to the father.
Speaker 5 (16:22):
Like, yeah, I would believe.
Speaker 8 (16:23):
So if I have a baby, I do she has
her father's last name, I'll give baby.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Yeah, yeah, is this kid right here.
Speaker 5 (16:32):
I don't think you guys knew, but I have a baby.
Speaker 7 (16:36):
But a lot of times they differ because of insurance
reasons or whatever. You know what I'm saying, that's whore
the insurance is under Like, like, I have the insurance,
so obviously the kids have my last name. But but
like if they if they can't decide on their last
names as a couple when they have a kid, and
if it happens to be a boy, and she's like, oh,
let's honor my dad by giving them my last name.
Speaker 5 (16:56):
And now we're like talking different stories.
Speaker 8 (16:58):
I'm just saying, I know, I think at the end
of the day, you got to give the kid the
dad's last name for insurance reasons.
Speaker 5 (17:03):
Also, that's half of the dad, Like, that's dad's baby.
Speaker 2 (17:07):
I would still argue, I mean, yes, I would like that,
but I would still argue this is all up to
the comfort level of both parents. I would I would
say that's there, but I agree that that would be nice,
especially if I had a son. But I don't know that.
I don't know anything should be considered automatic anymore.
Speaker 5 (17:22):
Baby like, H Well.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Yeah, I get you, Erica.
Speaker 2 (17:25):
Hi, So you're saying she should take his last name
because of the kids.
Speaker 15 (17:31):
Yes, I kind of agree with what Rachel was saying.
Oh wait, sorry, Hi, you can.
Speaker 14 (17:35):
Hear me right?
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Oh yeah, no, very much.
Speaker 12 (17:37):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
How you doing loud and clear?
Speaker 9 (17:39):
Hi?
Speaker 15 (17:41):
Sorry? I agree with what Rachel was saying about taking
it or having things under her name for business purposes.
So a little bit of a backstory is that my
husband was not really a fan of his family, so
we really considered taking my last name when we married
for our family. However, he ended up keeping his name.
(18:05):
I kept mine, and when I had my daughter, we
realized that it was very hard with her name being
the same last name as his and mine being different.
So kind of like she said, for kind of like
you guys mentioned for insurance purposes, for pickup at school.
Speaker 5 (18:23):
Things like that.
Speaker 15 (18:24):
So eventually I had to change my name, and it
was my choice, and I was very connected to my
family and my family's history. But that still is a
part of me. And if she wants to keep her
name on things for business purposes or hyphenate, she she should.
But one of the one of the things I've discovered
(18:46):
after having my husband's last name with my daughter and
us having the same last name, is that it's not
necessarily taking his last name, but it's having you all
as a family as a unit.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
Okay, all right, and.
Speaker 15 (19:02):
So yeah, so now we're all our family with our
last name.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
If that are Erica, well, thank you, have a good day.
Speaker 5 (19:12):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Let's also address one for the thing that has not
been addressing. What is this last name that she's that
she's taking. What is this last name?
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Is it a better last name? Is it a worse
last name?
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Right?
Speaker 3 (19:25):
You know? Is it longer harder to spell?
Speaker 1 (19:29):
I mean, I mean that changes what the initials turn
off all the information.
Speaker 3 (19:37):
I also would like.
Speaker 4 (19:37):
To point out that divorced parents do it all the
time with two different last names, and the kids are.
Speaker 7 (19:42):
Okay, the name is one of the last name is
may As.
Speaker 6 (19:46):
Look at this point, I take you.
Speaker 9 (19:51):
The girl.
Speaker 6 (19:51):
Just just you know, what you're doing a reservation is
just put missus you know, missus Jones. Just make her
feel good. You ain't got to change the paperwork. Just
put it down there.
Speaker 2 (19:59):
Girls, just make it look nice, don't actually fundamentally change it.
Speaker 4 (20:03):
Thing.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Yeah, I need to hear all the information.
Speaker 14 (20:06):
A few things.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
Miss It's gonna be like, hey, it's easy. It's not
good Fred Show. I've ever been left waiting by the phone.
It's the Fred Show. Hey Lee, good morning, Welcome to
the show. How are you big.
Speaker 1 (20:22):
Mine guys, how you doing doing? Okay? Man Colin?
Speaker 2 (20:25):
Uh, well, we're talking to you because we got to
call this woman Arihana because you guys went out, I guess,
and you can't get a hold of her. You feel
like you're being ghosted. So give us the backstory. How
did you guys meet and tell us about any dates
you've been on and all of that good stuff.
Speaker 14 (20:39):
Okay, cool.
Speaker 12 (20:40):
So we're talking about Arianna. She's a girl I met
on Hinge and uh, you know, we matched up and
we chatted for a couple of days. She wanted to
make traveling crazy. Same with the same with me. And
we met up. I took her out to dinner and
a really nice spot down town. It was great. We
had a really good conversation, you know, I mean it
(21:01):
was really good back and forth. Honestly, it was better
than it was on Hinge. And we both kept saying, now,
this is better than we thought it would go. And
drinks were good and going good, and you know, it
was just it just felt like, oh, this might be
but this might be the other half.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
Oh yeah, oh you felt like that.
Speaker 12 (21:17):
Yeah, okay, I did, and she certainly didn't. I mean
I thought you did too. You know, it really felt
like it was that way, and I thought we would
be going out again. But for some reason, she just
completely cut off communication right after the date, and I
went over it with my friends. I went over it
with like like, there's people I know, the girls I know,
(21:38):
and they were like, what did you say? Did you
say anything? And I was like, no, I don't think
I said anything. I can't think of a single moment
where everything went wrong.
Speaker 1 (21:46):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (21:46):
So yeah, well that's frustrating because you go on these
dates and we talked about it almost every day. It's
like you meet somebody and it's a numbers game, and
it could be hard to meet people. And then when
you finally meet someone and you connect and you feel
like they connected and as a vibe, you know the difference,
and that's what happened. And yet since the date, you
can't get a hold of this woman and you want
(22:07):
to know why.
Speaker 12 (22:07):
Yeah, because I didn't feel like she was gonna be
playing games, but this kind of feels like one, So
I don't know why.
Speaker 2 (22:12):
Okay, well, we're gonna call her just a second. We'll
see if we can figure out what's going on. You'll
be on the phone too, and the hope, as always
is that we can set you guys up on another
date after we figure out what's up in day four.
Speaker 12 (22:21):
Okay, that'd be great.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
All right, thanks, we're gonna get to the bottom of
this after Sabrina Carpenter back, get two minutes on the
Fred Show. Don't boom, Sabrina Carpenter, It's the Fred Show.
Good morning, Lee. Hi, Hey guys, all right, let's call Arianna.
You guys went on a nice dinner after matching on
the dating app Pinge, and you felt a connection. I
mean you said a minute ago that you felt like
(22:44):
maybe she was it I think you referred to her
as maybe the other half or something. I mean, like
you really felt strongly about this.
Speaker 12 (22:50):
I mean, the conversation was so good.
Speaker 1 (22:52):
I felt like it could have been that way.
Speaker 12 (22:53):
And she was to be recept it too, And I
don't know what happened, but it was great at the moment.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
Okay, right, Well, let's see when you get her on
the phone, because you can't. We'll see if we can,
and we're gonna ask some questions at some point. You're
welcome to jump in and I wish you the best,
good luck.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
Thank you.
Speaker 16 (23:15):
Hello.
Speaker 1 (23:15):
Hi is this Ariana?
Speaker 10 (23:18):
Yes, this is Arianna.
Speaker 1 (23:20):
Hey, Arianna, good morning.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
My name is Fredam calling in from the Fred Show,
the Morning radio show, and I do have to tell
you that we are on the radio right now and
I would need your permission to continue with the call.
Is it okay if we chat for just a second
on the show. You can hang up anytime.
Speaker 15 (23:32):
Oly Yeah, sure, Hey, Okay.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
Well, thank you very much for calling on behalf of
a guy. I guess you recently matched with him on
the dating app Hinge. His name is Lee. Do you
remember Lee?
Speaker 4 (23:43):
Hi?
Speaker 10 (23:43):
Yeah, I remember Lee.
Speaker 2 (23:45):
Okay, So he called us and he just I mean
for like five minutes basically gushed about you and talked
about how great you were and how he let you
a lot and felt a connection. It was excited to
see where things went. Had high aspirations, except he said,
since that date, you haven't had a word to say
to him, You have a responded to him, you ever
reached out.
Speaker 1 (24:03):
He feels like he's being ghosted.
Speaker 10 (24:05):
Yeah, so look, okay, it was really really good at first,
Like we had a lot of like text chemistry, you
know what I mean. Like we were just like vibing
really hard, right, like just going back and forth, back
and forth, and I was like, oh my god, I
need to meet this guy, you know, And like that's
always the hardest part, is like going from text to
(24:25):
like real life dating, and because like people can be
totally different in person, you know, like they can be
amazing and wonderful on text, and then it's like you
meet and just like I don't know, it like gets weird,
like if they're not the same, it's like.
Speaker 5 (24:40):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 10 (24:41):
And so at the beginning of our date, like things
were going really well, but then it like took a
weird turn because I told him how like I love
to work out, okay, Like I'm a big fitness girl.
And I mentioned that my trainer is a guy, like
totally triggered because he was like, oh.
Speaker 5 (25:03):
Is your trainer a guy or a girl?
Speaker 10 (25:05):
And I was like it's a guy, and he like
totally lost it.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
Okay, what use it because like a guy's touching you
or something, or I means, I mean like.
Speaker 10 (25:16):
You're supposed to help people out a little bit when
you're working out together, like he spots me. But it's
not like weird inappropriate touch. It's like anyway, he just
kept going on and on and on, like he would
never date a girl as a male trainer, and like
it always leads to cheating, like one hundred percent of
the time.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
Oh, I guess for a surprise. Then I guess my
male trainer is in for a surprise.
Speaker 1 (25:38):
Oh my god.
Speaker 10 (25:39):
And so yeah, so he like wouldn't let it go,
you know, and he just like doesn't understand why men
don't stick with the men and women to stick with
the women, and it just seems like really like sexist. Honestly,
one of.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
The husbands on the Married The Secret Lives of Mormon
Wives or whatever, because he sounds like a.
Speaker 10 (25:57):
Yeah, like like yeah, so you know he's like, oh,
their bodies are.
Speaker 1 (26:03):
Different, you know, and like it just really professional.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Every single time, you, guys, it leads to infidelity.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
This is crazy. I don't even know how this industry exists.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
As soon as your husband are running for a boyfriend
or girlfriend gets a trainer, forget about it.
Speaker 3 (26:19):
But I have a question for the ladies's name? Would you,
guys let your man have a hot female if?
Speaker 5 (26:24):
Again, is my man right, he's starting to get that
little dad belly.
Speaker 8 (26:27):
Oh yeah, hey, I've been having a dad belly, but
now we're twining.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
Wow, okay, would you would you love big Tim have
a female trainer?
Speaker 14 (26:38):
Now?
Speaker 1 (26:38):
What what does he need that for?
Speaker 3 (26:39):
In her tiny little short All.
Speaker 6 (26:41):
These great male trainers out here, I just feel it.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
Wait a minute, so you're on the same page with
the guy.
Speaker 5 (26:45):
I'm not on his page.
Speaker 6 (26:46):
But you know, first of all, I don't have to
worry about my man going to anybody's gym red hot. Yeah,
it's a lot of male trainers out here, you know.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
Wow, Well, let me bring Lee and because I guess
you and lincould probably hang out because it sounds like
you guys feel the same way, which is wild. Uh Lee, already, Lee,
I'm sorry. I forgot to mention that he's been here.
What is this about? Why can't she have a male trainer? Like,
what do do you care?
Speaker 16 (27:13):
Look, No, okay, I got a friend, a really good friend,
was really close to me, and he need this girl.
One story, I had a male trainer and all of
a sudden, it was just it was immediate. He walked
a ring, they had a vibe together, and he knew
and he was just like, this is it's a road
to cheating. It doesn't make me sense.
Speaker 1 (27:33):
This this goes back to like you know, and even
more of a reach.
Speaker 2 (27:37):
But it's like, oh, every pilot cheats, and every pro
athlete cheats, and every this and that and then everybody
every this.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
Is every man.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Yeah, these are stuff that nobody says it. You say that,
say it ever, I've heard it except the times I've
been cheated on.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
It was for the woman who was doing the cheating. Correct,
I was that it was a woman.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
Crazy, But we're saying they're wrong.
Speaker 2 (28:03):
Yeah, that's ridiculously so no on that you can cheat.
Speaker 12 (28:10):
It doesn't make sense.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
That's a very old school mentality that I don't think
has carries much weight, and it makes you look really insecure.
So either you are lee or you're not, and you
look that way, and that's unattractive.
Speaker 12 (28:22):
Okay, you know what. I'll be honest here. The person
was me, the person was med.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
So you were cheated on, Yes, I was. You're ex
cheated with her trainer. Yes, I'm very sorry that happened
to you. But I don't think you can project that
onto every new relationship because if you do, it's unlikely
things are going to work out. And I'm sorry that
happened to you, but you're gonna have to get over I.
Speaker 12 (28:44):
Think it's all right to have to have something like that.
It's a prerequisite if I've been hurt like that before.
I don't see why that's that's I mean, it's obviously
triggering me for for obvious reasons. I think it's valid.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
So you like this girl enough to call her maybe
the other half, but because she has a male trainer,
we're done.
Speaker 1 (29:03):
We're not. I didn't see you were doing.
Speaker 12 (29:05):
I said that it's a bit of an issue.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
It's kind of pay he said, wild world we live in.
He's twenty twenty four. It's an involved environment. Who's to
say if she got a female trainer that she wouldn't
find that she has feelings for that person too. I
don't think you can keep it that. I don't think
it's not that. It's not that straightforward.
Speaker 12 (29:21):
Yeah, if you.
Speaker 10 (29:22):
Try to trust your partner like who you know what
I mean, because there's so many people, there's so many options,
you know, like you could hook up with every like barista.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
I've heard about those barista. Yeah, I mean I've heard
about those. Yeah, a secret menu, Yeah, yep, I've heard
all about the barista industry. Yes, promiscuous. I'll tell you what,
but don't take care of you later. You know what
I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (29:50):
Yeah, you know what you're.
Speaker 2 (29:52):
Onto something there. Okay, look, Arianna, so wait, I just
want to be clear about something.
Speaker 1 (29:57):
Lee.
Speaker 2 (29:58):
You'll go out with her again own if she gets
a female trainer.
Speaker 12 (30:02):
Or at least considered it.
Speaker 2 (30:04):
Okay, let's say she considered it and decided no. Right now,
she just said yep, no, we're not.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
So I don't know.
Speaker 12 (30:13):
It's cheated one again.
Speaker 2 (30:14):
Okay, so he doesn't Arianna, after hearing all of this,
I want to know what your interest level is. But
then beyond that the fact that you probably are going
to have to change trainers if you want to stay
with this man who you went out with one time.
Speaker 10 (30:25):
Controlling. Yeah, I don't leave the house like you know,
like I would not come on.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
Yeah, I mean so. I hear people when they drive
by gym. Sometimes they're immediately copelled to cheat. I hear
the cary lot where they'll proceed to walk in and
find the hottest trainer and sleep with them.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
Control right there. Yeah, Planet fitness man.
Speaker 2 (30:50):
It's like every time I see the purple, I'm like purple,
I start, I get a tingle.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
You want to talk about a judgment before.
Speaker 1 (30:56):
Long, I'm cheating the girlfriend, I know. Then that lunk
alarm goes off. Oh I don't know what that is,
but I watch, no clue what the hell has happened?
Then alarm.
Speaker 7 (31:08):
It's like you're not supposed to when you're like doing weights,
you're not supposed to like drop weights, or if you're
acting like a like like screaming and making.
Speaker 3 (31:15):
All this it's a deep cut. Yeah, they'll they'll they'll
turn the alarm on.
Speaker 7 (31:19):
And yeah, I go on Mondays for the free pizza.
Speaker 5 (31:27):
And the cheating.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
I'm just kidding.
Speaker 2 (31:35):
I don't know if any traders are cheating with you.
I love you, I love you guys. It's not gonna
work out. I don't know, man, I'm sorry that happened
to you. I think you got to get over and Horiana,
thank you for answering it, for your time, Best of
luck to both of you. The entertainer of for trending
(31:56):
stories and fun fact all next, Fred show back in
two minutes, and I want to welcome a special guest
this morning to the program, personal trainer to the stars.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
And then also met.
Speaker 2 (32:09):
And multiple time marathon runner Giddy and the Torturer is here,
Gidea in the torch.
Speaker 9 (32:17):
I gotta go. I'm so happy to be here. Thank
you for the celebratory clouds. I'm far from a torture,
but I appreciate the time.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
Giddy in the torture Now. Kiki wants to leave the room,
but we locked the door.
Speaker 5 (32:30):
Let me out.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
She was telling me this morning she wants to run
the marathon with you next year. I told you that.
Speaker 9 (32:38):
We start our training this afternoon.
Speaker 14 (32:41):
I can't wait to see your our first session.
Speaker 3 (32:43):
Well, it's been nice knowing everybody you know.
Speaker 6 (32:47):
Get my graphic ready, aloud on my T shirt.
Speaker 2 (32:53):
Let me tell you something the other day. So Gideon's
trying to make me into a runner. He's trying very hard,
and I appreciate the encouragement, but I was running at
a pace that I was going to die.
Speaker 1 (33:03):
He took a zoom call.
Speaker 2 (33:06):
He was like doing backflips and screwing around with people,
and I mean like you just was like you were
barely even exerting yourself. You literally took a zoom call
and I'm over here gasping for my final breath.
Speaker 14 (33:17):
Well, well, let's be clear. It wasn't a zoom call.
It was the FaceTime and.
Speaker 9 (33:23):
I got off the phone immediately because we were having
so much fun. And he set up PR. If you
don't remember, a PR, a personal record, a personal best
during that same exact run.
Speaker 14 (33:33):
So he credit.
Speaker 9 (33:34):
You're the type of person who doesn't give himself as
much credit as you should.
Speaker 14 (33:38):
Want to get an auction job.
Speaker 3 (33:39):
Thank you your PR.
Speaker 2 (33:41):
Yes, I was able to run one hundred feet with
that something, and today I'm going for one hundred and
twenty five. It's gonna be crazy. It's no, it's I'm
telling you. This running thing is so hard. I never
I never knew. At first, I didn't know. I didn't
know how to run. I don't know how to run.
I don't even physically know like my form and like
how my feet are just it. I didn't realize you
to think about that. But then, this man is such
(34:03):
a physical specimen. You just ran the marathon. I always
talk about me anymore, tell me about the Chicago Marathon, man,
How did that go?
Speaker 4 (34:11):
Well?
Speaker 9 (34:11):
First off, this Chicago Marathon is one of the greatest
times of the year in the city. If you have
not run the Chicago Marathon or have not experienced it
as the spectator in this beautiful.
Speaker 14 (34:21):
City that we have, I encourage you to do.
Speaker 17 (34:23):
So.
Speaker 9 (34:24):
There were fifty thousand people out there on the course
and it was a beautiful day for a run and
a great fall day in general. And yeah, it's just
the excitement that comes through running through I want to say,
twenty seven plus different neighborhoods throughout the city and being
able to test your physical ability after training for as
long as twelve to eighteen weeks to conquer twenty six
(34:48):
point two miles, it's really a sight to behold and
and for those who do it and complete it, it's
something that you'll never forget.
Speaker 1 (34:55):
Now.
Speaker 2 (34:55):
I know you almost won the whole race. I know
you didn't, but it was a close so it was
extremely full.
Speaker 14 (35:03):
Far from it.
Speaker 9 (35:04):
A matter of fact, my race didn't go the way
I wanted it to go, and did not go the
way that I trained and prepared for it to. It
was actually in all honesty and disappointment for what I
expected the race to be. But at the same time too,
I like to think of the marathon as a victory lap.
It's a celebration of the time that you put in,
the commitment that you that you had during all of
(35:25):
the training efforts to eventually be able to complete that distance,
no matter what your time was.
Speaker 1 (35:31):
So take this out.
Speaker 2 (35:37):
You ain't selling me, But this is this is like
the most positive person.
Speaker 1 (35:41):
Look at this.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
I mean, like, the marathon was the victory lap of
the training.
Speaker 1 (35:45):
Are you kidding me?
Speaker 3 (35:46):
Get in?
Speaker 4 (35:47):
What are you running from a seat on the couch lady?
Speaker 2 (35:51):
And like, can I want to talk about your childhood
or something? What's wrong with you?
Speaker 14 (35:56):
There ain't nothing wrong.
Speaker 1 (35:57):
I mean, we only have one.
Speaker 14 (35:58):
Life to learn. You have to find the positive in
it all.
Speaker 9 (36:01):
There are positive points in there despite the obstacles and
the setbacks. But once you find those those silver linings,
your mentality changes, your energy changes, and you just.
Speaker 7 (36:11):
Go for more and you go for better. So why not, Well,
I want to challenge you. You can do it again next year.
I want you to put your kids in the stroller
and push the stroller the whole thing.
Speaker 1 (36:19):
Can you do that?
Speaker 12 (36:20):
I absolutely will not do that.
Speaker 14 (36:23):
However, I take them on a couple of training runs
with me. Twenty six point two is hard enough by myself.
Speaker 1 (36:30):
Let's go look at this. Get harder for him, right.
I want to just run around the office for a second.
I want to do that. There's every breaks around the corner.
I ran. He didn't run back, though. I'll say this, yeah.
Speaker 14 (36:47):
Thank you.
Speaker 9 (36:47):
One of the one of the benefits of training is
first off, you have to have long runs in there,
and that requires time. And if you have the support
system of friends and family and you are a parent
out there, it's going to give you a little bit
of a much needed break from all of the hustle
and bustle that happened inside the household. So for those
of you who were like I don't want to do this,
(37:08):
but you also want a little bit of a break
from all the things that happened inside, you know.
Speaker 14 (37:12):
Just general adulthood. Maybe taking up running might be a
good change of pace for it.
Speaker 2 (37:16):
Well, Ruvio has been doing that. He's been telling Jess
that he's training for the marathon. Then when he comes
home it's like, why do you feel like culvert?
Speaker 9 (37:21):
Right there?
Speaker 1 (37:27):
Right? And then I hate everything. Well, I'm proud of you.
Speaker 2 (37:30):
Congratulations one of the most encouraging positive people I know.
He's made a big difference in my life. And the
guy ran a freaking marathon with fifty thousand other people,
So congratulations to all of you. Please give me that
medal today. I'm gonna wear the medal as I run
two hundred feet and then fall over, and at least
when i'm when they collect my body, I'll have a
marathon medal on.
Speaker 14 (37:51):
You know what, I'll let you wear it for the
whole week.
Speaker 9 (37:53):
Matter of fact, I do have to ask, am I
now officially one of the thirteen? Maybe? Maybe?
Speaker 1 (37:58):
Oh well that's if you choose to be.
Speaker 2 (38:01):
If you're a sick person and you want to be
part of the thirteen and follow this show. But yes,
you you are part of the crew. My friend you
are the official personal trainer of the Frend Show, which means, Kik,
you get a small disc show.
Speaker 6 (38:13):
I need a discount. What did you do after the marathon?
What was the first thing you did?
Speaker 9 (38:19):
I went to the shirting brand and they had a
finish line fest there, which was just a beautiful recovery
experience for all of the runners. I got immediately on
the Dellos therapy table. If anybody doesn't know about Dello therapy,
whether you're an athlete or just somebody who is looking
to look better, feel better and had their muscles, the
line had better posture, et cetera, lease go find one
(38:40):
of their locations.
Speaker 14 (38:41):
Yes, you do a great job with muscular therapy.
Speaker 17 (38:44):
Secure I got s Yeah, the bag is my body
and I want this thing to last for as long
as possible, so I made.
Speaker 14 (38:55):
Sure I got that therapy.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
I've been saying that. I've been saying that for a year.
The bag is my body. I've been saying that for years.
There's the other way around.
Speaker 12 (39:10):
Actually, yeah ya, I'll.
Speaker 2 (39:15):
See you later, Kik. He got a boots with the first.
She'll be out there later too. I'll see you a
little bit. Congratulations, Giddy, and we love you, Jock. I
appreciate that fit with giddy on the socials. You can
go follow him. Look at him, they said, and the
other that smooth though, you know it. Let me make
sure I want to get Let me get something in there,
Let me sneak that in there. You know we were
calling him either, so he got just off the fly.
Speaker 1 (39:37):
I love it. The Entertainment report is next. Fred shows
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