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Speaker 1 (00:01):
One O three to five Kiss FM, Chicago's number one
hit music station, show this is what's trending. The Dodgers
beat the Yankees, They've beat our Yankees. Are Yankees Man
Paulleen has got her Yankees head on to day. I'm
surprised no one's worn a Dodgers hat. I'm surprised I
haven't warn a Dodgers hat.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
No, No, I'd wear it.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Oh. I mean Kylen's meme, they're the ones she found
encapsulates it best. It's the series of the people who've
ever been to LA and New York and bought I had.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
That's what this is.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Yeah, I feel like most people own either a Dodgers
and or a Yankees hat.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
You know it.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
You're right. I couldn't wear the Dodgers have. But they're
gonna win tonight. It looks like Game four Yankee Stadium.
They're up three to nothing in the Fall Classic, and
if you are interested, the Boston Red Sox were down
three to nothing to the Yankees. Incidentally won four in
a row to win the two thousand and four American
League Championship Series and advanced to the World Series. No
team has ever come back though from three to nothing
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in the World Series itself. I could see him winning
tonight and then they lose in La or I guess
it's three.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Straight here, yeah, three in New York. Yeah yeah, I'm
gonna lose. They're not gonna win.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
At least win one. Please, you never know. And it
was all because ice cube. That ice Cube intro was
so cold, cold and hard and other things too.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
It was really good. It was yeah, it was well. No,
Kiki was.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Sick, but literally More than sixty percent of people in
gen Z specifically say that their mental health has either
been slightly, moderately or significantly negatively impacted by the upcoming election.
Forty six percent reported feelings of anxiety, thirty seven felt stress,
thirty one experienced feelings of fear.
Speaker 2 (01:45):
Suffer, and silence. Like the rest of us, I don't
feel that you're not first. Why are you right?
Speaker 1 (01:50):
I don't think there's any generation that's going, Man, this
is gonna be great pleasure.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Whatever happens, it's gonna be great. Like it's gonna be
so good. We discovering things that have been around forever.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
I think it's going to be a catastrophe, not maybe
in the long term, but in the short term. It's
going to be a catastrophe no matter who wins, because
it's gonna be one. It's gonna be a bunch of
people saying they're leaving the country. If one person win,
another person say any that that person didn't lose. God,
who knows, honestly, who knows? But I can't wait. Not
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huge holiday travel season. Oh, they'll take your money real fast.
Oh yea like a lot of places. Oh, one click
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take your money, no problem, one click sign up, and
then you try and get your money back. And I think,
like the insurance companies and a bunch of other industries,
I think they're just hoping that you'll give up. It's
not that they're not going to give it to you,
they're just hoping. There's just too many steps, and they're
hoping at some point that you'll just say, you know what,
I don't whatever, I don't care, and then not take it. No, no, no,
no no. If you're denying me my money, then I
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am rightfully owed. I will I will fight. I will fight.
I will because I don't know. It's principle, right, like
insurance company right now, not trying to pay me for
something for like multiple years. And it's one thing after
well you didn't do this, oh you did well, you
didn't do this, but I did. But then all but
then because you didn't do this, you didn't do this,
Oh but you did that, but you didn't do this.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
And that should be against the law. I agree, pay
me to day have money. Y'all make enough off of me.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
I no, no, So I just keep calling them and
I feel bad because the people who answered the phone,
they're the people that make the decision, but they're the
ones that get yelled at. And I try not to yell,
you know, for all the reasons that we've talked about before,
because like and I don't yell.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
But but sometimes it's like are you even listening? Like
are you paying attention?
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Did you understand what you're being asked to say to
me right now? Like you know that what you're saying
doesn't make sense? Right, Like like I know you're reading
a script or whatever, and I know you're following orders,
but like, you wouldn't put up with this, right I did?
I asked that question finally the last time I called,
I'm like, you actually know this is wrong as a
human being, right, Like you wouldn't do this, right, Yeah,
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And it was just a lot of silence, kind of
they're all being the calls are being recorded in our
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Speaker 4 (05:08):
Are all these restaurants just doing this now because they
saw how we say red lobster?
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Right?
Speaker 4 (05:13):
You know, because now it's starting to feel like, oh,
let's just put out they were found of a bankruptcy
and then rally all the.
Speaker 2 (05:17):
Ten everybody in Yeah, because I was just out of TGI.
You know, I have no problem with teach at Friday's,
But what are they like? Okay?
Speaker 1 (05:25):
You know, Chili's is known for the baby back ribs
and the Triple Dipper and the margaritas and the margaritas
and the chips, and Chili's has done a nice job
with the marketing.
Speaker 2 (05:35):
What is TGI Fridays like? What am I going?
Speaker 1 (05:38):
I know what I'm getting when I go there, but
what I'm what specifically.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Spinish Dip is that what their thing? Is Oh my god.
Speaker 5 (05:44):
Yeah, they used to have everything with Jack Daniels, Jack Danils,
Jack Daniels.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
You need to lay off the dairy. You're right, Friday.
Speaker 5 (05:52):
Said, like these I used to go to well, my
friend used to work at one and used to have
like the bartender competitions because they were all that flair
and they flip all the stuff like the.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Pretzel bites, beard cheese. Their buffaloings look good like saucy wet.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Wow. Well there you go, go get you some saucy wet today.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
M dollar happy hour. Yes, Oh why are you going
to that well? I don't know.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
You better find one and before it closes like tomorrow.
And the Florida woman says an uber each driver spit
in her face and stole her fall yard decor after
she confronted the woman about taking some of her food.
So an uber each driver went to this home shortly
after midnight to make a delivery. The woman inside the
home said she went outside and confronted the driver after
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seeing the delivery woman take some of her food from
the bag that she ordered. The victim said that she
saw her holding a ten dollars happy fall y'all sign.
When the victim grabbed the sign, she said. The pair
began arguing and the woman spit in her face. The
driver took a decorative urn from the victim's yard and
then walked back to her car, where the victims said
that she saw her decorative column by the suspects vehicle.
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She said she was missing four decorative plaster pumpkins as well,
each worth seventy five dollars. Seventy five dollars pumpkins in
your yard, so I want to take an inventory here.
She took the happy fall y'all sign and a decorative
urn and four plaster pumpkins. Unbelievable, they called the cops.
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She was charged with burglary and assault and a grand
theft from a dwelling. So yeah, that's bad. That's bad karma.
You can't steal people's yard decorations for the holidays. The
only way I think you should. You should be allowed
to steal their yard decorations if they leave it out
ninety days or more beyond the holiday, then I say
you can steal it. I'm giving you permission. Like if
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you've got a pumpkin out in February, I can steal that,
and I.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Wouldn't want to touch a pumpkin in February. Well, these
were decorative.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
So if you've got your if you've got your happy
fall y'all sign out in March, then it's not it's
and we're not and it's going away and I don't
feel bad about that. Or maybe you could take it
and like hold on to it and then return it
when it's fall y'all, you know what I mean? Yeah,
like that that would be the right thing to do
for them, right exactly because it's not fall y'all, and
I that drives me crazy. Or like Kiki here who
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left her Christmas tree up all year, I did and
never took it down, and now all of a sudden
it's like, oh, look see it's the holidays, and you
plug it in like it wasn't there in July, which.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
It was, Yes, you gotta plug it in.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Did you even like cover it up or did you
literally just leave a Christmas tree as it could?
Speaker 4 (08:30):
Because I decorated it to match my living room, so
you know, after so.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Long, it just blends in.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I told you my mom has a rich friend and
she has a closet for the tree in the living room,
and so like literally she when it's Christmas. She opens
that closet. All that's in it, it was designed for
a Christmas tree. She pulls the Christmas tree out into
the corner like you know, five feet booms. It's Christmas.
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It plug it in. It's fully decorated. And then when
it's like you know, I don't know, January first opens
the door, wheels it back in, closes, unplugs, closes the door.
It is no longer Christmas problem solved. I love that
you've got storage, you've got utility, you've got convenience, you've
got efficiency all in one.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
That's what happens when you're rich. You can have stuff
like that happens.
Speaker 6 (09:22):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Me, on the other hand, I got to go down
to the cave where the tree is and the parking garage.
I gotta wheel that thing and pull it up, and
then I gotta you know, refluff it because you know
it's got like all bent decks faith so it's all
bent down. So you got to like make it look
not like not like the Peanuts Christmas tree. You know,
it's then it may it look for They got to
decorate it in the whole thing, and then yes, it's
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a it's a whole thing. But that's because I don't
have a rich person closet. It's a National cat Day
and National hermit Day, a person who lives to some
degree in seclusion from society. Thank you for celebrating me today.
I appreciate it. It's wonderful. That was like somebody on
Friday at our event going, I know you don't like people. No,
I do like people, especially these people, but not. On
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three five Kiss FM, Chicago's number one hit music station,
The Bread.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
Show is on. It's stay or Go all right, Kelly
is here? Hi, Kelly, Good.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Morning, Good morning Kelly. What's going on in your life,
in your relationship? You're a newlywed. Congratulations, I am.
Speaker 7 (10:26):
Thank you so much.
Speaker 8 (10:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (10:28):
So, my husband and I have been married for just
over a year and we've got a baby on the way.
Things are actually going really well. You know, I love
my husband, but we have kind of an issue that's
really starting to concern me and I could really use
your advice.
Speaker 6 (10:46):
Hmm.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
Yeah, this is where you should turn. Anytime you have
a difficult decision to make, you should turn to us.
I mean, who else who else would you turn to? Obviously,
So congratulations on the on the marriage congratulations on the baby.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
What is the issue, though.
Speaker 7 (11:00):
Well, so he won't get a joint bank account, and
every time that we've talked about it, he just says,
you know, his money is his and my money is mine,
and if I ever need money for the baby or anything,
you know, I'll just pay for it and ask him
for the money back or you know whatever. But I mean,
I just I don't understand why he won't just get
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a joint bank account. Just seems like the most rational
thing to do here, especially before the baby gets here.
And I'm just tired of fighting, and I just I
just want some advice, Like what should I do.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
I mean, so you split the bills, I assume where
you have some sort of arrangement where you pay this
and he pays that, and that works.
Speaker 7 (11:44):
Yeah, but I mean that's before baby gets here and
you know other things. I just think we should be
able to have a joint account for both of us
to put into and both of us be able to
take from as needed.
Speaker 2 (11:56):
Why is that so important to you?
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Because I suppose if things are working and you guys
keep your finances separate, I mean, I don't I'm I'm
trying to understand the psychology here, like, do you feel
to see have more money than you and you feel
like you know he could run away with it?
Speaker 2 (12:12):
Is it?
Speaker 1 (12:13):
Is it that it would help you to feel like
there's a something that you're both contributing to that money
is coming out of. I mean, what is it for you? Like?
Speaker 2 (12:20):
Why is that so important?
Speaker 7 (12:22):
I mean, I just want a joint account. You know,
I came into this marriage of first you know, with
my account and then and his account, and you know
we were together for a while, but this is part
of us being like joining together as a as a family,
and we should have you know, something that reflects that,
and that can't be you know that that's to me.
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It seems like a lack of trust or something like
that on his side. And you know, he does make
more money than me. He's certainly going to be making
more money than me when I'm you know, on maternity
leave and you know, I don't know how long it
will be before I go back to work.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
So now, Kelly, I don't mean to be critical of you.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I don't know you, of course, but I'm just gonna
ask the question, because you did call up here, is
do you have a good hold on your finances, like
do you have DABT?
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Do you? Are you a spender?
Speaker 1 (13:11):
I mean, is there any reason that would preclude him
from saying this is a great idea, let's put all
our money together. Like, does he have any sort of
if you're being self aware, does he have any basis
for saying I'm more responsible with money than Kelly is,
other than the.
Speaker 7 (13:28):
Fact that he makes more. No, Honestly, I think it's
a control thing and it's starting to hurt my feelings.
Speaker 1 (13:35):
Okay, so then what is what is the alternative if
he were to say to you, we're keeping our finances separate.
That's what I'm comfortable with. Do you leave him? Or
are you just angry? I mean, what sort of what?
What's the recourse?
Speaker 7 (13:48):
And that's kind of what I'm calling you guys. I
mean I guess should I say or should I go?
I mean, I don't know if that's.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Uh, we get to make out. Oh that's wow? Oh good? Okay,
no pressure or anything?
Speaker 2 (14:02):
All right? Eight three five is our number. You can
call him text the same number. What was that? What
were we going to say?
Speaker 7 (14:08):
Well, I mean, I obviously don't want to leave, but
I mean I do think that joint finances is something
that's big enough to be, you know, a leaving offense
or you know. I don't want to give him an ultimatum,
but I feel strongly enough about this that if you
won't sit and talk to me about it, then you know,
I will make other arrangements.
Speaker 1 (14:30):
So all the money that you guys make together, all
of it should go into one account, and you both
should have access. And that's what you want, that's what
make you feel better.
Speaker 7 (14:38):
I personally think that we should have a joint account
that's like a shared account, and that's what I've been
asking for. But he doesn't even want to do that.
He just wants to keep it his and his, you know,
and mine and mine. I'm like, why don't we just
have a central you know, even seven account, especially for
you know, for the baby and stuff like that, even
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open to it.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
So I would love your advice.
Speaker 7 (15:01):
I'd love to hear what your audience has to say.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
All right, we'll keep the radio on that I heard
APP on it, and we're gonna a heart app. I
don't like, I became southern right there. And then we
want to talk about you now behind your back and
come up with a solution and then you have to
do what we say. So good luck to you, Kelly, hmm,
thank you, thank you for calling. I don't know, Kiki.
I mean, you're single, even though you've lived with the man.
He's lived with you, that's right, for six years. Do
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you see a world where you combine your finances into one.
Speaker 4 (15:27):
Yes, especially if we have a baby and I'm going
on maternity leave and I may need extra help from
him or whatever. I don't want to have to ask
you every single time I need to buy formula, like
let's let's put it, let's get an account together where
we can pay our bills out of we can pay
for child expenses. And if I'm expressing that to you
and that's you are absolutely shutting it down. To me,
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that's a major rift flag because what are you doing?
Speaker 1 (15:53):
Yeah, that's why I asked the question about her spending,
because it's like, you know, some of some people save
lot and some people were raised to spend in a
certain way, and then some people have a different perspective
on it. And short of being in massive debt, I
don't know that any one is right or wrong, but
I mean, if I were to get with somebody who's like,
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I get paid, I spend it all. That's fine if
it as long as some of that's going to the
stuff that we decide w'th you know, allocating to one another.
But if you want to spend all your money, fine,
But you don't get to spend all my money too,
because I feel better at night knowing that I'm saving
a certain percentage or whatever.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
I don't you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
So, like, people can have different philosophies about money, and
as long as everybody's contributing what you know to what
you agreed to as a couple, then I guess I
think having separate accounts might actually be more healthy because
it's like, again, if hey, look, if we were splitting
this and you're paying for that and I'm paying for this,
and then you want to go spend the rest of it,
(16:54):
I mean, I guess that's up to you. But again,
that doesn't mean that you get to adapt that ending
to also my money because well, my you know, my
psychology and the way that I need to save and
structure things and the money I need to have in
the bank that matters too.
Speaker 4 (17:09):
Yeah, But I think if we both agree on what
we're going to put into this account and what it's for,
and we both stick to stick to that.
Speaker 2 (17:15):
Then I don't see there's an issue.
Speaker 4 (17:17):
I think it's okay for him to have a separate account,
but your wife is telling you she wants to have
something that you shared one.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yes, I agree with that. Well, yeah, I'm fine with
a shared account. But she's saying she wants commingling of
all the funds. I did ask that question. I said,
the only way you're happy is if you everybody puts
everything together into one and that's what she wants.
Speaker 4 (17:35):
Well, see, I would I would tell her that we're
putting everything together and then keep.
Speaker 2 (17:38):
A separate.
Speaker 5 (17:41):
She'd be even okay with just a shared account.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
And he doesn't even want to do that.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
But at the end I asked her, I said, so
you want all the money commingled, and she said yes,
so you're okay. Yeah, So I suppose some form of
account where we both contribute X amount of dollars and
then we both have access to it. That's a nice
that's a nice compromise. Yeah, sure, but you know, then
we got Paulina over here, who's going to go buy
chains and medallions with it.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Why do you think I don't have a joint account. Yeah,
he doesn't trust me. See, but that's the thing.
Speaker 1 (18:08):
Hobby is a hobby more of like a he's more
of a like structured saver. And yes he's and you're not,
and you've know and I'm not calling you out. These
are things you've said on the air before. No, but
I just I just mean, don't you think that's probably
why he's not all in on a joint account because
if all your money went into one, then you guys
have a little bit of a different philosophy on spending.
Speaker 3 (18:29):
Yes and no, Because for us, what we're doing is
keeping separate accounts, you know, before marriage accounts, and I
have access to them.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
I can see things I want to, which I think
is very fair in marriage.
Speaker 3 (18:38):
I'm married to you, But I just don't we don't
need to combine them, in my opinion, because I just
feel like I'm not going to be able to contribute,
not even nearly as much as he does, because he
is better with money and I'm still paying off debt
from right, you know, ten fifteen years ago, so I'm
kind of cleaning that up first before we do anything joint.
But however, I do want to do with joint savings
or something for like the rainy days that probably will
come in the.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
Future that you can't predict for.
Speaker 5 (19:00):
Yeah, we have to say, like that's where all our
tax returns and stuff that we get as gifts go
into a joint savings account. But as far as regular accounts, no,
we both Jess and I have separate accounts.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
I mean it's for our situation.
Speaker 5 (19:12):
It works because I pay majority of the bills, So
it's just like and she saves her money, you know
what I'm saying, So she we use her money for
whatever vacations and this and that and whatever the kids
need and stuff and groceries. So I mean it works
out because, like I said, I would be in Pauline's
both too.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
Like I am a spender, So I think Jess wouldn't
trust me if.
Speaker 5 (19:34):
We had a joint account because then her money.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Would be disa because I would be spending it.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Yeah, somebody texted, if you're legally married, the money is
now fifty to fifty years to be careful with that.
That's not entirely true. People think that that's not entirely true.
If I come into a marriage with a whole bunch
of money or family money, or something that doesn't automatically
become half yours. What becomes half yours is what happens
once we get married, what we earn together that becomes
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half yours. But just so, this dude may have a
million dollars in the bank and he doesn't want her
to know that, which, by the way, I don't know
why they're married if they're keeping things like that from
each other.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
Yes, but you know it.
Speaker 1 (20:12):
I know people who would say, you have X amounts saved, Great,
we can now spend this on a house. We can
now do this, we can now do that, And my
comfort level might be no, we can't see there you go.
And so maybe he knows that about her, and maybe
he loves her and he wants to be with her
obviously and they got married whatever, But maybe they have
vastly different ideas of what a nest egg is and
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what security looks like. And there kind of can be
a right answer, I guess, because some people will just
spend everything they've got, and that's fine, but are you
really thinking about what happens when everything crumbles? And I
don't know that people necessarily want to look at it
that way.
Speaker 2 (20:50):
That's why you gotta lie a little bit. Okay, just
a little bit.
Speaker 4 (20:53):
It's not hurt anybody, you know, Hey, babe, let me
put this is what I'm going to put into our
joint account, and what I got on the side.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
It's just between me and the lord.
Speaker 4 (21:01):
Nobody else needs to know, you know, like even if
I win at the lot, like if I went at
the casino, you never let you never tell everything.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
But like if we are commingling funds into one account
and you know how much I make, then you're gonna
know how much isn't there and you're gonna be what
happened to the other you know, several thousand dollars?
Speaker 2 (21:16):
Where's that? You know that? I don't know?
Speaker 5 (21:20):
That's why, like he said, like something that's not You
don't just have a joint account where you could see
each other stuff. You have an account where So I
was like, all right, I'm gonna put one thousand dollars
a month into there.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
Yeah, don't worry about the other about three grand that
I got. Then I'm making it on the side over here.
Oh you're making money like that?
Speaker 8 (21:38):
No?
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Yeah, not at all.
Speaker 5 (21:40):
No, damn, we put three thousand dollars this in the
whole year about four grand Hey Sarah, good morning, Welcome
to the show.
Speaker 8 (21:50):
Hi, good morning.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
So what what say you on this?
Speaker 1 (21:54):
Do you think that people it should be in relationships
should be just commingling all the fun so they just
put it all together like this woman is saying, would
make her comfortable? Or do you believe in some kind
of a split situation?
Speaker 8 (22:09):
Well, I mean every marriage is different, but I've been
married to my husband for five years. We keep our
our accounts separate. I have access to his money whenever
I need it. He has access to mind whenever he
needs it. He makes more money than I.
Speaker 9 (22:23):
Do, but it's like mortgagees. Stay, the bills are paid.
Speaker 8 (22:25):
I paid all I pay all the kids stuff, and
we rarely find about money. So it works for us.
Speaker 2 (22:31):
Yeah, okay, there we go. Fair enough, there you go.
Speaker 1 (22:34):
That's what I wonder is is she being fair saying
I'm gonna be I don't know. I would consider leaving
if I don't have access to all of his money too.
And I don't mean to make her a villain or something,
because he also sounds a little controlling talking about like
like it's a corporation, like go buy stuff for the kid.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
And I'll reimburse you.
Speaker 1 (22:53):
Like that sounds a little That sounds a little corporate
for me, which is good for him for imbursing.
Speaker 8 (23:00):
That's pay for whatever we need.
Speaker 1 (23:03):
That's cool that that that company reimburses people for stuff.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Thank you, Sarah, you have a good day. That likes nice.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
Where'd you call like, I'm not like your child, not
going to go to a hobby and be like, hey,
can you pay me back for this?
Speaker 2 (23:14):
Like I'd rather just go on the account. We do
have a joint. I didn't say this.
Speaker 3 (23:17):
We have a joint credit card because I want those
three points, you know, shout out to the airlines.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
But like that's the only thing we have joint. I
think he.
Speaker 3 (23:22):
Regretted it one time because you know, I did over
use it. But that's kind of what we're using at
the moment, is the credit cards joint. But who pays it?
Speaker 2 (23:30):
What do you think the provider protect your and provider hobby?
Yes see, yeah, this is a time champ.
Speaker 1 (23:36):
Someone's saying in the text, these are discussions that you
should be proactive about. These are things that you need
to iron out before you get married. That's true, that's fair,
But I think it has a lot to do with
you know, how you were brought up. I mean, you know,
Kishi you said it. It's like, if we have ten
thousand dollars in the bank, we have ten thousand dollars
to spend. It's like I would argue, if we have
ten thousand dollars in the bank, we have five thousand
dollars to spend.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
That's how.
Speaker 1 (23:54):
But again I don't know, you know, I guess my
way means that if I get canned, then I have
a little litle bit more to live on. But you
could also argue that I could maybe have a little
more in life than I'm willing to have. I mean,
it's again, you could argue both sides of it. I mean,
I don't know that with money, it's ever really a
bad thing to be overly conservative. But you could also say, well,
what good is it if you've got a whole ton
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of money and then you're dead, right, So there's got
to be a happy medium. But like, you know, to
Paulina's point and say, oh, look, we got all this money,
I'm going to go buy Cuban links and then here
we are, and then Jason goes and gets him instead.
So because you know he's got a lot of money.
What do you guys do he just pays for everything. Yes,
that's the other reason. I really don't know how either
of you are broke. That's something I don't understand.
Speaker 10 (24:37):
Yeah, when you have on at prey checks right, well,
when you have a lot of debt, you don't make
a lot of money, you're broke.
Speaker 2 (24:48):
That's all that works. I just feel like.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
If my moneys were being paid, I would have a
lot more money.
Speaker 10 (24:52):
It's the asking for me, because no matter how down
bad I am and how many max out credit cards
I am, I will not ask that man for a
single cent.
Speaker 2 (25:01):
Maybe it's my pride.
Speaker 10 (25:02):
I don't know what it is, but I can never
come like, can you give me a thousand dollars? Like
I have never and I just can never do that.
If he wants, he's you know, paying the bills in
the house that he built and bought and whatever. I'm
so grateful, but I cannot physically sit there and ask him.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
Even if it's for something that you need for both
of you. Correct.
Speaker 10 (25:23):
I would rather get another credit card and start more
than ask him for cash. So that's the part that
triggers me because I could never And the fact that
he's like, yeah, just ask me if you need like
that is wild to me, interesting because it's it's like
a power dynamic, you like, yeah, like it's yeah like that.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
I'm sorry, Yeah, no, that's not Yeah, that's great. Huh.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
I've seen it my couch, Jason, because like, would you
like my I already had my therapy this week, but
you like, would you like my therapy next week?
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Sure? Girl, we're in therapy and we're working through that.
Speaker 10 (25:58):
But yeah, noney, the money brings itself to it's a
very real, very very understatement of the century.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
But the money thing is a very real thing, especially
if you didn't grow and I swear that your parents
and your upbringing is what sort of instills this in you.
And if you didn't grow up a certain kind of way,
then I think it can be it can be really
difficult for people to find. Yeah, and again, there's a
power dynamic. If one person makes more than the other,
if one person pays more than the other. I think
it's got to be a careful balance of not making
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someone feel less than because you live in their house.
I mean, they allowed you to live in their house,
Like he well, he didn't actually about you in us myself.
Speaker 10 (26:35):
Yeah, but he never asked you to leave, right. But
I think that's why too, Like he already does so much.
Like I just couldn't sit there and be like, oh,
give me this so I can go shopping, right Like,
That's why it's like, Okay, I can handle the few
things that I have to like take care of from.
Speaker 1 (26:48):
Himself, you know, yeah, fair enough. There's also a transparency
thing here too, though. It's like I wonder why he
doesn't want her to know how much he's got, that's sure,
right Again? Is it because she's gonna spend Is it
because she's going to try and outlive their lifestyle? Or
is it because he's being shady and he's spending in
on other things that he doesn't want her to know about.
Speaker 10 (27:07):
I mean, you can like another woman, I was like
waiting Kiki every week, the person I was like, where's Keky?
Speaker 2 (27:14):
Their family?
Speaker 1 (27:15):
Which is why I would love to know, Like that's
why I asked the question. And I don't know if
she's being honest enow, but I would love to know,
like all your viewpoints on saving and spending the same,
because I would venture to say the answer is no. Now,
that doesn't mean that he's right or she's wrong. It
doesn't mean that he's not controlling. It's a lot of
things here. But like again, if I marry somebody who
just wants to spend, I might be a little bit
more inclined to say, you know what, let's have a
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shared account. Each of us will contribute this much each month,
and then that money have at it. You know what,
do what you need to do. I think that's the
solution here. In the meantime, I'm keeping this money over here.
Hey Antonio, Hi Antonio, what do you think?
Speaker 6 (27:54):
Well, my wife and I we have separate accounts. We
don't want our depth to be you know, effecting our
mind that we make separately. But one thing I have
done is I've ad her her to my bank account,
so if anything happens to me, she still has access
to it. So like I'm hiding any transactions from her either.
You know, everything's visible there, so.
Speaker 2 (28:13):
She still has access to my account.
Speaker 5 (28:15):
It's a good man, no good you know my secret
meals would be over.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Thank you too, had a good day, glad you call man.
Hey Kaitlin, Hello, good morning, Hi Kaylyn, good morning, how
do you guys, do it the money stuff in your relationship.
Speaker 9 (28:35):
So we keep things separate. I will say, I think
it's really important that she at least is able to
see how much he has in the savings and what
kind of you know, investments.
Speaker 6 (28:44):
And whatnot he has.
Speaker 9 (28:45):
We have showed each other what we have, but you know,
we kept things separate w we were dating. We kept
things separate we were engaged, and when we got married,
we're like, why change it, Like, finances is the number
one cause of the divorce, and this has worked for us,
so let's just keep it going how we're doing. And
it's worked out really well.
Speaker 7 (29:00):
We have zero fights.
Speaker 1 (29:02):
Okay, it works for you, Thank you, Caitlin. Yeah, yeah,
that would be weird. Like imagine if I actually know
somebody who this happened to on a much smaller scale.
But he married into a very very wealthy family, Like
he was a I won't say what he did, but
he worked for the city and he made not a
ton of money, and he married somebody who had a
trust fund worth hundreds of millions of dollars, Like she
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had a ton of money, and it didn't really make
any sense for him to do the job he was
doing because there was just so much money that whatever.
But every time he wanted to go to the mall,
or every time he wanted to buy new shoes, or
if he had a suggestion for a vacation or something,
he had to go to her and be like, can
(29:45):
I have the money to do this, honey kind of thing.
It got to the point where the patriarch of the family,
the guy who made all the money, actually put him
on the payroll and gave him a job to quote
unquote job to do, so that he basically had money
in his pocket to do something with that was his
his own. Like what if he wanted to buy her
a gift, like it was a legitimate I never thought
about this, but like what if she had all the money,
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what if he wanted to go buy her a ring?
He had to literally go and say, Honey, I need
ten thousand dollars to go buy you this or that.
Because they decided together that he wasn't going to do
this job that paid X because they had all the
money they needed and they were going to raise the
kids together and do all these different things. But I'd
never really thought about that before, Like, you got all
the money in the world, but you got a power
dynamic going there where Like now he's got to ask
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for permission to do stuff, and that's not cool, or
at least he felt that. I don't know if that
was true. It's a good family, right, Well here's twenty thousand. Yeah, oh,
I tried to marry In.
Speaker 2 (30:39):
It didn't for me, right, she got a system?
Speaker 1 (30:46):
Yeah right, well no, trust me right almost. Jason Strait
so extremely interested. Well, you didn't have to ask for permission,
but the entertainer report will do the next show beas.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
Shelley six hundred and fifty bucks. After that Fred show,