November 11, 2024 • 28 mins
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is what's trending Jason and kiss. I'm kind of impressed.
Jason Brown made his picks on Friday, NFL Week ten
and your record, and there's one game to go. Eight
and five, Dad, they can't lose, Parsley, you couldn't lose.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Yes, you couldn't lose.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Taylor Swift will be at the game. Yes, the Bears
will wear white pants. Yes, Jason's crush of the week.
Derek Carr will throw two points. That's what I said. Yeah,
so you had the Bengals on Thursday. No, you had
the Panthers. Yes, you had the Bears. Hell, no, so bad.
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Those guys all have jobs today that do all the
Bears jobs. Hopefully not. They're right the four nine ers
in the Bucks, No, you're the Bucks. Sorry. Chiefs over
the Broncos. Yes, Builds over the Colts, Yes, Commanders over
the Steelers. No, Vikings over the Jaguars. Yes, Falcons over
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the Saints, No, Charges over the Titans. Yes, Cardinals over
the Jets. Yes, Eagles over the Cowboys. Yes, that's another
bad team. Lions over the Texans. Yes they you guys.
Eight and one? Yeah, we only lost one? What are we?
I'm sorry? What are we eight and one?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Oh Jesus, Mary, Joseph, I've been.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Consistent for years. Okay, it's true, though, that's true. I
said more nice things about the Lions than I do
the Bears. And hey, when I am a Dan Campbell guy,
and I was from day one. Did you guys watch
you watch that game? Yes to the Caitlin right, well, yeah,
I fell asleep towards the end those.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Red helmets when the Texans were giving me a headache,
like on the screen, like it was so blurry for
some reason.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
I don't know it was. They were abrasively red and
the face man was like like glittery red.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
I was like, this is Jason, I don't realize you can.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I mean, I realize there's red in the Texans is
red and blue, but like, I didn't realize you could
just you could just kind of do whatever like pick
I'm sure they all have to be approved by the NFL.
But yeah, like that was that was a different red
that I've ever seen. But that was the Cardinals random.
What are we doing? Were just making it up as
we go, so you could go nine and five tonight,
You've got the Rams over the Dolphins. Nice and then
your part slay hit. Wow, it's almost like you know
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what you're doing. Could it be like ever the Lions
and the Chiefs in the Super Bowl? Yeah? No, Are
they like it should have been last year? Yeah? Territories? No, territory.
Don't they have like territories? It could be Yeah, you're
talking like areas of the country. But yeah, no, anyone
can play against anyone about divisions. Super Bowl.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
The NFC plays the af right. So are they in
the same different the Lions on the NFC, the Chiefs
on the AC So they could Oh, okay, it's.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
The winner of the AFC and the winner of the
NFC that meet in the Super Bowl. And this year
where is it? It's in New Orleans. No lack a lot.
Isn't there a lot? They have it there a lot more.
It's not fair, guys. Just Veterans Day today and the
millions across the US are commemorating veterans, a federal holiday
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to honor both active and former US service members. Many
government institutions, banks, and schools will be close today. Also
a bunch of free stuff for veterans all over the place,
so different retailers and restaurants as a token of thank
you for your service and sacrifice. And we at the
frend show thank you, yes, for your service and sacrifice.
And what did the Styta Constitution always give it up
to members of the military active and retired.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Absolutely shall get ready.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Yeah, well I think she's been ready. Yeah, already did that.
Yeah yeah. A flight carrying the Auburn men's basketball team
had to make an emergency landing on Friday after players
on the airplane apparently got into some kind of a fight.
The plane carrying the aub men's basketball team had to
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declare an emergency in land after horse playe from some
of the players. The plane was in the air for
about forty five minutes on Friday as the team was
going to face Houston. However, after several players got into
each other's faces and were yelling, the plane turned around
went back to Alabama. I guess on Auburn, Alabama. That's
where the school is. One of the planes pilots described
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the incident as a fight and said the two players
got into an altercation. No punches were thrown. Needed. Player
traveled to Houston and the team got on a later
flight on Friday. They went on to beat number four
Houston on Saturday, seventy four to sixty nine. So I
don't know if it was a real fight, if they
were screwing around or what. But anyway, oh yeah, that.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
Must be that that is Rediklous. So I was the
coach everybody needs. They would still be running right now.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Well, I don't even know how that happens. Like these
are I mean, I know they're like me young, but
still call it like turning? What wastng right?
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Like this is not a car, bro We're in the sky, right,
We're going.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
To a what are you doing? Yeah? And now it's
at the time like stop. Yeah. More than half of
the monkeys that were bred for medical research that escaped
from a compound in South Carolina have been recovered. But
this is like a real life nightmare. It was like
deranged monkeys that had been messed with at the DNA
molecular level escaped from their laboratory. Twenty four of these
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monkeys were captured on Sunday, a day after forty three
of the monkeys escaped.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
I guess someone total on, someone's got one keeping it
as a path.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Well, you weren't supposed to do that. Someone trying. I
guess they they've been messing with these animals, and I
don't like that, but you know, whatever's going on with
these things, they were like, hey, don't don't like, don't
talk to them, don't go up to them, like call
the cops, like let them do their deal. Veterinarians have
been examining the animals, and initial reports indicate they're in
good health. The monkeys made a break for it. I
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guess this was last Wednesday after an employee at the
facility didn't fully lock the door and she fed and
checked on them. So you were fire. But I guess
he's just more like nice monkeys, you know, because I
told you last week they were doing something with their Yeah,
I don't know. Anyway, Americans are dooms spending, and that's
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trending this morning. There's been an increase in the number
of consumers who cope with feelings of anxiety by doom spending.
You guys do this, do you guys get anxious and
then spend money?
Speaker 5 (06:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Yeah, oh yeah. I'm on a firm.
Speaker 6 (06:29):
I'm on afterpay everything just because I'm like, I want
to spend money and buy things.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
It's not going to save that audio money.
Speaker 6 (06:35):
And you think that has to do with anxiety. I
think so because I've never bought that stuff. I feel
like you've always been that way, you think so. I
feel like you've been broke since the damn the chain.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
No, I did not buy a chain, but I buy
things for like myself, the baby, and now Amazon sends
me recommendations.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Do you get those?
Speaker 2 (06:55):
So now I must have it? It's recommended I must have.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
I've become a sucker for these, like Instagram clothing ass Yes, yes,
I don't know why, but like I've got I'm buying
like random sweaters now, like I bought what it's made
out of? Like what the hell I see yesterday? It's
made out of oyster shells? I don't I don't even.
That's not why I bought it. I bought it because
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I wanted to sweat sweatshirt or whatever. But I guess
they're like grinding down oyster shells now and making fabric out.
I don't know what they held. That was not why
I bought it. It's just a fun fact that you
should know. I don't know what, because yeah, but someone it.
Every now and again, I'll get one of these things
and I'll be like, this was cheap and it's not bad,
like it's like it holds up whatever. You're the one
on Fashion Nova and Timu and whatever else.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Excuse me, she is got.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
She by cheap sweater. Sometimes you have to do you
at least read the reviews. Do you see the people
try it on?
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Well? Yeah, but I don't know if I trust a
review because you can AI can't. They make reviews fake too.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
But you can see people now try that fits on,
like in your size.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
I don't know. Some I would say, one out of
five times, whatever it is, I'm not like prolifically buying
this stuff, But one out of five times it'll show
up and I'm like, this is like terrible. But the
other times I'm going, this looks like the same thing
that I would have bought it in a much more
expensive store with a different logo on it. I don't
know anyway. Doom spending is the practice of spending money
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to sue the fears about broader issues like politics and
the economy. Harris poll found that gen Z and millennial
consumers are more likely to say that it's better to
treat themselves now rather than hold off for the future.
That feels like it could change at any moment. See,
I'm kind of the opposite, Like I have spending guilt
buyers remorse over almost everything I buy. I buy it,
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I got didn't need that almost instantly, and so like
I do the opposite, Like if I think something bad's
going to happen, then I don't spend money on anything
because I'm like, I gotta have money because this thing
might happen. So I can't spend it because what I'm
might need to eat. You know, I might monkeys might
come and take all my stuff, and I might need
to buy me least you could eat that sweater made
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out of oysters. Well, the good part of the wist
already gone. It's almost less as damn it. Where's a
little oyster? Get me some saltine crackers? Eat the sweater?
I could? Yeah, Experts said the doom spending post is
a danger to consumers long term financial health. So how
do you curb it? Awareness is the first part. I'm
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plucking and taking a step back. The other thing I
noticed is that if I really want like a thing,
if I'm thinking about it after like a week, then
I should buy it. Yes, but a lot of times
I'll look at a thing I want that and then
I don't buy it, and then a week later I
don't even remember what I wanted, so that I didn't
need it, right, you know what I mean? Like I'll
be like, I want to do this, and then I
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if I don't. If if a week later I can't
remember what I wanted to do, then I guess I
didn't need to do it. Or if like three or
four days later, I'm still thinking about it, well, then
I go by it.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
That's right. I like that?
Speaker 1 (10:02):
You like that? Yeah? Yeah, And a Dodgers fan says
he was fired for going to the championship parade. So
the guy's been canned After calling out sick to party
at the Dodgers Championship celebration, the guy was given a
letter of termination that stated that he had been seen
at the Dodgers World Series parade. The now former employees
accusing his boss of being a Yankees fan, and that's
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the root of the issue. The guy posted his termination
letter on Reddit, and the message has since gone viral.
It turns out that a regular at the business tattled
on this guy when he saw him there. Show me
the proof there, Like when the Cubs won the World
Series in twenty sixteen. I don't think anybody was worse.
(10:43):
They was off. Yeah, I don't think anybody wants to win.
I mean, it's like point now the Dodgers. That's two
in a row, isn't there how they won?
Speaker 7 (10:49):
They won the.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Okay, so they so they win semi regularly. I don't
know if you haven't if you have a sick day
of vacation day, I don't know why you can't take
it for that.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
You're not sick.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
You don't know that this man had the sniffles. I
don't know. I don't know if you had the sniffles.
I have no idea dragon here. I am maybe have
some you know, he had a taco bell or something,
and then he he pooped himself. He was just getting
some fresh air, had to take a walk and ended
up the brain. I mean, I feel like stuff like that,
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there's only so many in your lifetime. So, but I
don't know if you should get fired for it. I
guess you can't call him sick for it. I don't know, right,
I don't know National Sunday Day, of course, it's Veterans
Day to day as well. Sunday like ice cream Sunday
Sunday I was like, it's a Monday, bro, Sunday.
Speaker 5 (11:46):
Nay.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
What did you say she's about to beat man Sunday Day?
Speaker 1 (12:00):
I honestly.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Said, upset.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
We don't celebrate that today. It's not the wrong. The
entertainment report is a fresh show. It's all right. The
honorable is here, Your honor take it away.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
All right, let's get into the courtroom. This one says, hey,
ki KEI. My name is Ashley. I've been dating my
boyfriend Kevin for five years now. He has two little
sons from a previous relationship that I love in street
like my own, but of course I've always wanted a
wedding in kids of my own. At our second year
of dating, he made a promise to me that by
year four we'd be married and expecting a baby.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
But year four is long and gone.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
So a few months ago, I made the decision to
stop my birth control, and I'm now pregnant with our
first child. When I told him the news, he said,
I thought you were on birth control, So that obviously
crushed me, but he accepted it and we worked through it.
Fast forward to our baby shower last weekend, where his
mom made a toast in front of all of our
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family and guests and said congratulations on trapping my son.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Whoa, and then they had laughed.
Speaker 4 (13:25):
I was crushed. I can't believe that he told his
mother that I trapped him. I am the one that's
trapped in a five year relationship with no commitment from
her son. I cried in the car about it and
asked him to confront his mom about her comment, but
he still hasn't. So now I'm avoiding all contact with
his mother and I don't plan on allowing her to
see our son when I deliver.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Am I wrong?
Speaker 4 (13:48):
No, Ashley girl, congratulations on the baby. But honey, I
don't think you need to be mad at his mother.
I think you should be mad with your man. I
feel like your anger is a little bit displaced because
you know, he told her that comment obviously, but that's
truly how he feels. And another thing is I am
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all for my body, my choice, you know, as a woman. However,
I don't think is right to stop your birth control
without talking it over with your partner.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Yeah you can't do that, I'm sorry. But if that's
the agreed upon method for preventing pregnancy and you just
stop right, then you I'm not going to use the
word trap, but you know what you're doing because you're
not telling the other person to use any preventative method.
So you know that the possibility of you getting pregnant
it has now is exponentially higher. That's something that and
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you could argue, well, you know, I mean a guy
could take this method of that method, not if he
doesn't know, right. And again, if you have an adult
conversation and you sit down and you say, hey, this
is what we're gonna do. We're gonna use this method
of that method, and you guys agree on that together,
then one person cannot you change it up right and
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not have that conversation so that again, I'm not gonna
use the word trapped.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
Well what.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Else are you gonna call a situation where you stop
doing something to prevent pregnancy and don't tell the other
person who then doesn't stop doing anything either.
Speaker 4 (15:18):
Right, And you could play devil advocate and say, you know,
he did promise her at year four they would be
married and expecting. It's now year five, he's made no
moves on the engagement and so have that conversation too. Well,
that's true, but she clearly took matters into her own hands,
and now they have a baby on the way, and
so actually, yeah, I don't think it's his mom's issue, honey.
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I think you are wrong, sadly, and I know you're pregnant,
so don't get emotion. I'm sorry, sorry, sorry.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Well, and you can't just go get pregnant because the
person who you want to be more official with or
more you build more of a foundation with, hasn't proposed
to you people try this thing. It's like, well, and
I'm not saying everyone doesn't on purpose, but it's like, uh, well,
now we have this kid together, so that you know,
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now we're like god to right. Yeah, now, well we
may as well get married now because we you know,
we've taken one additional step to sort of I don't
know what the word is. I'm looking for create a
human well, well, to solidify this relationship. Yeah, like in
perpetuity forever. But you guys with the jury eight five, five, five, nine,
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one one three five, what say you? Who's in the
wrong here? I'm gonna go with the dude needs to
he probably should have followed up on his promise, But
I'm also gonna go with she can't really act like
a victim in this situation, because she knew exactly what
she was doing when she stopped taking birth control. What
would be the other I mean, I suppose you could argue, well,
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she stopped taking birth control for some other health reason. Okay,
well then have that conversation exactly, whatever the reason is,
had that conversation.
Speaker 4 (16:53):
You have to share there with your partner. And she
mentioned in this in this letter that you know, she
feels like she's trapped in a relationship with no commitment. Honey,
you're not trapped. You can leave whenever you want. I know,
you may be attached to his other sons, you know,
his children, you may have a relationship with his family,
but you are not trapped.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
Honey, you can leave. Yeah, she ain't got the relationship
with the family no more.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Oh man.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Yeah, everybody's thinking it. Oh yeah, everybody knows. That's what
everybody And it's hard not to. It's hard not to
because again, if you guys, if you're having a responsible
physical relationship with someone and you had a conversation about it,
and then you know, if the rules changed, then everyone
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needs to know. Otherwise, why does only one person know?
Speaker 4 (17:42):
Yeah, And this is how you end up with men
who leave the relationship and you know he never wanted
to maybe he never wanted more kids with you, or
he never wanted wanted more keys.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
Did promise he did? He did say, won't get married
and have kids. Bru It's like a pinky promise.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
I mean, not again, I don't mean to. This isn't
all her fault by any means, but like I never
understand why when things aren't going someone's way, it's like, well,
let's just throw a kid into this.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Right, that'll fix it, right, Like.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
More stress, more responsibility. You know, in this particular case,
he could take the position that he was deceived. Again,
when you know, when we're all being adults and and
we're doing these sorts of things, this is the risks
that we take. But when we think the risk is
one percent, and now the risk is much higher, and
nobody told me about that. Like that's not fair either, Jessica, Hi,
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good morning, Hi, good morning. Hey, what do you want
to say? Peaky's cord? Hi?
Speaker 7 (18:40):
Everyone, By the way, I just wanted to say that
technically speaking, the mother.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
In lawson have said that because I feel like it
was inappropriate.
Speaker 5 (18:49):
However, the lady and the relationship isn't the wrong because.
Speaker 4 (18:55):
Yes, although you may have promised her that they're going
to have you know, kids and mayor be and everybody
the fourth year.
Speaker 5 (19:01):
However, as time progresses, and.
Speaker 7 (19:03):
I really should sometimes things change, feelings change, you know,
and maybe he changed his mind, or maybe he wants
to wait a little bit longer and he's just not.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Ready, you know.
Speaker 7 (19:12):
Like I've said things in my path and my poss
relationship that I didn't feel I would have done by
a certain time that I promised, you know.
Speaker 4 (19:20):
So no, yeah, she should have definitely involved him in
that decision.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Yeah, I'm really not trying to put this all on
the woman because he didn't live up to his word,
but like, I don't.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Know that is true.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
It's hard to look at this and say her response
to this was to get pregnant without telling him, essentially right,
because again, if you just for no other reason, but
I'm just going to get off birth control, to get
off birth control and not tell anybody you're trying to
get pregnant, right, absolutely, so maybe that kind of decision
making is how we got here. Again, I'm not blaming
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this all on her, I'm just creating. I'm just presenting
an alternative perspective here, which is that is the best
decision to make now. And so if you making decisions
like that all the time, you know, it's a little
bit uh deceptive. Oh yeah, it's a lot deceptive actually,
And I get it.
Speaker 4 (20:09):
As a woman, we have a clock that you all
don't have, you know, And she wanted kids. She wants
kids by a certain age, and she wants to start
her life. And maybe in her mind she's like, I'm
just gonna take matters into my own hands.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
But Suss is so wrong. I know you can't. You
can't do that, like you but.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
We're on a clock, damn it, y'all need to help us.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
There's just but there are so many layers. It's just
so many layers of deception.
Speaker 5 (20:33):
It is.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
But then she got to do with all those consequences
she started it. You know what I'm saying, Her mom
saying that is wrong, but I mean.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
It's the truth. It's the truth. Yeah, you know that's
what they're all saying behind that family group. Chech gotta
be wild too, all right, it's crazy. I've heard of
this sound the name before, where it's like we're not
gonna have kids, we're not gonna have kids when I
canna have kids. We decided this together. We had the conversation.
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Not one person decided. We decided, and then it comes
up again and it's like, but we decided, and then
all of a sudden, there's a kid yep, and it's like,
I hate, I hate to do that. I hate to
put blame on anybody. It was like a you know,
it's not a problem solver, it's not no Adriana, Hi,
good morning, good morning. Hey what do you want to say?
Speaker 7 (21:23):
Kiky scored, Well, two things, as women, we know what
we do when we know go on bar control. So
she knew the concept, like she knew what she was
doing when she did that. And second of all, who
knows if he like I know, he said four years
that they'd be married and have kids, But how does
she know, like there's no financial problems or something like
that that's going on that he hasn't done that yet, right, Yeah,
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you know what I mean, Like you have to look
at both, Like she knew darn well what she was doing.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
She let's call it what it.
Speaker 7 (21:51):
She kind of does track them because you know, you
you you know what's going to happen when you get
rid of your first control.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
Yeah, yeah, Adriana, thank you, have a good day you too.
Someone texted seven O Waight, she's holding him to a
promise that he made three years ago. She should have
had the discussion year four, not wait an extra a
year and bring the baby on him. She's wrong. Yeah,
I mean, you know, don't. I don't think you hold
someone to a promise by creating another human use again,
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we got to think about the child's life here. What
if he's like, yo, I feel trapped. You didn't communicate
with me. This is here, and I don't want anything
to do with you anymore. Well, now you're bringing a
kid into that. And again, I'm not putting it all
on her, but it is one of those disproportionate things
in relationships where there isn't necessarily the same equivalent for men. Right,
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Like I can I can use protection. There's a lot
of things I can do. I can get a vasectomy,
I can do all that, but like, there isn't a
pill for me to take. So if that's the method
that we decide we're going to use, then you're gonna
you gotta do it. Yeah, like and again, and if
I just say like you got to take the pill
because I don't know what I'm gonna do whatever I want.
Well that no, I mean, if you sit down and
have an adult conversation, say here's the method that we're
going to use, and it's to say I did collectively
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that that's the method, then you gotta do it. And
if you just stop, well then I think I have
every right to feel betrayed, right, which doesn't negate him
not following up on his stuff. But I again, I
come back to the same person that's gonna just unilaterally
stop taking birth control is the same person's not getting
proposed to. But you can't live off like a promise.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
That's like you're going off someone's word, like, oh, in
four years, it's gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Then we all get lied to all the time. I
promise my kid everything. I never I've never followed through
on any of it.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
That's a surprise.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Following through. Hey Lava, Hi, by Hi, good morning. What
do you want to say? This is a very this
is a very messy one.
Speaker 7 (23:50):
I was gonna say that I feel like it is
definitely baby trapping because I know what's means to her.
Speaker 3 (23:55):
But I feel like there was.
Speaker 1 (23:57):
A conversation that had to be had between the both
of them.
Speaker 7 (24:00):
He did promise in four years that they were gonna
get married or whatever was going to happen.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
I feel like he had she had to speak to
him and be.
Speaker 5 (24:06):
Like, Okay, you're not pulling up in your promise.
Speaker 3 (24:08):
I'm either going to leave you or you know, we
need to have a conversation.
Speaker 7 (24:12):
But this was This was not the way she had.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
To take things like this is. Honestly, I don't get
long term consequences as well, because if she's going to
do this, let's say he's okay with it, but at.
Speaker 5 (24:22):
A certain point he's gonna he might get.
Speaker 3 (24:24):
Like resentment towards the child or even to more.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
You know.
Speaker 7 (24:27):
I just feel like this was a whole wrong situation
Like this is now where she had to take hold.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
I'll never understand when people throw a child into an
already tumultuous situation. It's like that is very unlikely to
bring you together permanently. It is likely to cause more
stress and more resentment and more confusion.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
The key right right.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
The kid has nothing to say about it, of course,
have a good day, Tito. What's up, Tito? How you doing? Hey? Man,
how do I even recap this kiky scort? So this
woman uh waiting for Yeah, was waiting for a ring.
It's been four years. The dude said it would take two.
(25:10):
That wouldn't happen, And all of a sudden, now she's
pregnant because she decided without telling him to pull birth control,
and now his family is accusing her of trapping him.
She's still not engaged, and everybody seems a little confused here.
And I guess I think she kind of opened herself
up to this criticism. To be really honest, what do
you think?
Speaker 5 (25:28):
I just think that he's just trying to keep her around.
If he was really committed, they would have done something
like I don't know it. That's what it sounds like
to me. He's broken promises, you know. She he keeps
telling her, you know, one more year, one more year,
and then the year never comes it. He's not committed,
He's not fully committed.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
Right, So have a baby. Yeah, right, let's throw a
kid into this. Thank you che though. Hey Nicole, how
you doing? I'm good, Hey, Nicole, good morning, Welcome to
the Freend Show. What do you want to say?
Speaker 7 (26:01):
I wanted to say, what if the roles were reversed
and he agreed to have a family, but he had
secretly had of a sephony. That's not fair.
Speaker 5 (26:09):
One person doesn't get to choose family planning no matter
what we promis.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
Yeah, I agree, I agree. So yeah that would be
but he didn't do that. But yeah, you're right, that
would be. No different is a dude, you know, saying
I'm just going to go handle this and not tell
you about it, and now the decision has been made.
Speaker 4 (26:25):
Sorry, because I feel like sometimes maybe maybe as a
I'm trying to defend her a little bit, but like
as a woman, maybe she thought like, well, I'm the
one that has to carry the baby, and you know,
I'm the one that's going to take care of the
baby majority and I'm the one in the relationship. So
maybe she thought like, I can make this decision on
my own. But it's not right.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
You can't. You cannot. Again, you want to raise the
child on her own, and I cannot change the rules.
And then again, if a dude, and thank you, Nicole,
have a great day. I'm glad you called.
Speaker 2 (26:54):
I'm just trying to show a little compassion. Thank Yeah,
it is wild.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
It is just ignorant and he's like, there's no conversation
and he's doing whatever he wants and he's not being
considerate of you, and it's kind of like your problem
kind of thing. Well, then you know, I shame on you,
and accidents happened. But if you again, I've said it
like ten times. If you guys are gonna say, like
in a very adult, mature way, hey, here's what we're doing,
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and then all of a sudden you just don't do
it anymore, then I think you're opening yourself up to
people being like, damn, what was your motivation here? Because
what else could it be? Right, if it's a health thing,
like I don't know, I don't like taking the pill,
and or I don't like the IUD whatever it is,
and then again that's one thing. But then you got
to tell your partner. You got to say, hey, look,
I don't like the way I feel on this stuff.
I'm not going to take it. Heads up, you know,
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don't be out of here suiting up the club, right,
don't you doing your thing? Because it might work, But
when you don't tell anybody, yeah, I don't like it.
I don't like it. Kicking the Entertainer Report trending story
is in fun fact all next, the French show is
back in two minutes.
This is what's trending Jason and kiss. I'm kind of impressed.
Jason Brown made his picks on Friday, NFL Week ten
and your record, and there's one game to go. Eight
and five, Dad, they can't lose, Parsley, you couldn't lose.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
Yes, you couldn't lose.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Taylor Swift will be at the game. Yes, the Bears
will wear white pants. Yes, Jason's crush of the week.
Derek Carr will throw two points. That's what I said. Yeah,
so you had the Bengals on Thursday. No, you had
the Panthers. Yes, you had the Bears. Hell, no, so bad.
(00:48):
Those guys all have jobs today that do all the
Bears jobs. Hopefully not. They're right the four nine ers
in the Bucks, No, you're the Bucks. Sorry. Chiefs over
the Broncos. Yes, Builds over the Colts, Yes, Commanders over
the Steelers. No, Vikings over the Jaguars. Yes, Falcons over
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the Saints, No, Charges over the Titans. Yes, Cardinals over
the Jets. Yes, Eagles over the Cowboys. Yes, that's another
bad team. Lions over the Texans. Yes they you guys.
Eight and one? Yeah, we only lost one? What are we?
I'm sorry? What are we eight and one?
Speaker 2 (01:24):
Oh Jesus, Mary, Joseph, I've been.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
Consistent for years. Okay, it's true, though, that's true. I
said more nice things about the Lions than I do
the Bears. And hey, when I am a Dan Campbell guy,
and I was from day one. Did you guys watch
you watch that game? Yes to the Caitlin right, well, yeah,
I fell asleep towards the end those.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
Red helmets when the Texans were giving me a headache,
like on the screen, like it was so blurry for
some reason.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
I don't know it was. They were abrasively red and
the face man was like like glittery red.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
I was like, this is Jason, I don't realize you can.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
I mean, I realize there's red in the Texans is
red and blue, but like, I didn't realize you could
just you could just kind of do whatever like pick
I'm sure they all have to be approved by the NFL.
But yeah, like that was that was a different red
that I've ever seen. But that was the Cardinals random.
What are we doing? Were just making it up as
we go, so you could go nine and five tonight,
You've got the Rams over the Dolphins. Nice and then
your part slay hit. Wow, it's almost like you know
(02:25):
what you're doing. Could it be like ever the Lions
and the Chiefs in the Super Bowl? Yeah? No, Are
they like it should have been last year? Yeah? Territories? No, territory.
Don't they have like territories? It could be Yeah, you're
talking like areas of the country. But yeah, no, anyone
can play against anyone about divisions. Super Bowl.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
The NFC plays the af right. So are they in
the same different the Lions on the NFC, the Chiefs
on the AC So they could Oh, okay, it's.
Speaker 1 (02:52):
The winner of the AFC and the winner of the
NFC that meet in the Super Bowl. And this year
where is it? It's in New Orleans. No lack a lot.
Isn't there a lot? They have it there a lot more.
It's not fair, guys. Just Veterans Day today and the
millions across the US are commemorating veterans, a federal holiday
(03:14):
to honor both active and former US service members. Many
government institutions, banks, and schools will be close today. Also
a bunch of free stuff for veterans all over the place,
so different retailers and restaurants as a token of thank
you for your service and sacrifice. And we at the
frend show thank you, yes, for your service and sacrifice.
And what did the Styta Constitution always give it up
to members of the military active and retired.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Absolutely shall get ready.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Yeah, well I think she's been ready. Yeah, already did that.
Yeah yeah. A flight carrying the Auburn men's basketball team
had to make an emergency landing on Friday after players
on the airplane apparently got into some kind of a fight.
The plane carrying the aub men's basketball team had to
(04:02):
declare an emergency in land after horse playe from some
of the players. The plane was in the air for
about forty five minutes on Friday as the team was
going to face Houston. However, after several players got into
each other's faces and were yelling, the plane turned around
went back to Alabama. I guess on Auburn, Alabama. That's
where the school is. One of the planes pilots described
(04:23):
the incident as a fight and said the two players
got into an altercation. No punches were thrown. Needed. Player
traveled to Houston and the team got on a later
flight on Friday. They went on to beat number four
Houston on Saturday, seventy four to sixty nine. So I
don't know if it was a real fight, if they
were screwing around or what. But anyway, oh yeah, that.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
Must be that that is Rediklous. So I was the
coach everybody needs. They would still be running right now.
Speaker 1 (04:50):
Well, I don't even know how that happens. Like these
are I mean, I know they're like me young, but
still call it like turning? What wastng right?
Speaker 2 (04:56):
Like this is not a car, bro We're in the sky, right,
We're going.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
To a what are you doing? Yeah? And now it's
at the time like stop. Yeah. More than half of
the monkeys that were bred for medical research that escaped
from a compound in South Carolina have been recovered. But
this is like a real life nightmare. It was like
deranged monkeys that had been messed with at the DNA
molecular level escaped from their laboratory. Twenty four of these
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monkeys were captured on Sunday, a day after forty three
of the monkeys escaped.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
I guess someone total on, someone's got one keeping it
as a path.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Well, you weren't supposed to do that. Someone trying. I
guess they they've been messing with these animals, and I
don't like that, but you know, whatever's going on with
these things, they were like, hey, don't don't like, don't
talk to them, don't go up to them, like call
the cops, like let them do their deal. Veterinarians have
been examining the animals, and initial reports indicate they're in
good health. The monkeys made a break for it. I
(05:57):
guess this was last Wednesday after an employee at the
facility didn't fully lock the door and she fed and
checked on them. So you were fire. But I guess
he's just more like nice monkeys, you know, because I
told you last week they were doing something with their Yeah,
I don't know. Anyway, Americans are dooms spending, and that's
(06:18):
trending this morning. There's been an increase in the number
of consumers who cope with feelings of anxiety by doom spending.
You guys do this, do you guys get anxious and
then spend money?
Speaker 5 (06:27):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (06:27):
Yeah, oh yeah. I'm on a firm.
Speaker 6 (06:29):
I'm on afterpay everything just because I'm like, I want
to spend money and buy things.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
It's not going to save that audio money.
Speaker 6 (06:35):
And you think that has to do with anxiety. I
think so because I've never bought that stuff. I feel
like you've always been that way, you think so. I
feel like you've been broke since the damn the chain.
Speaker 4 (06:48):
No, I did not buy a chain, but I buy
things for like myself, the baby, and now Amazon sends
me recommendations.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Do you get those?
Speaker 2 (06:55):
So now I must have it? It's recommended I must have.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
I've become a sucker for these, like Instagram clothing ass Yes, yes,
I don't know why, but like I've got I'm buying
like random sweaters now, like I bought what it's made
out of? Like what the hell I see yesterday? It's
made out of oyster shells? I don't I don't even.
That's not why I bought it. I bought it because
(07:19):
I wanted to sweat sweatshirt or whatever. But I guess
they're like grinding down oyster shells now and making fabric out.
I don't know what they held. That was not why
I bought it. It's just a fun fact that you
should know. I don't know what, because yeah, but someone it.
Every now and again, I'll get one of these things
and I'll be like, this was cheap and it's not bad,
like it's like it holds up whatever. You're the one
on Fashion Nova and Timu and whatever else.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Excuse me, she is got.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
She by cheap sweater. Sometimes you have to do you
at least read the reviews. Do you see the people
try it on?
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Well? Yeah, but I don't know if I trust a
review because you can AI can't. They make reviews fake too.
Speaker 4 (07:58):
But you can see people now try that fits on,
like in your size.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
I don't know. Some I would say, one out of
five times, whatever it is, I'm not like prolifically buying
this stuff, But one out of five times it'll show
up and I'm like, this is like terrible. But the
other times I'm going, this looks like the same thing
that I would have bought it in a much more
expensive store with a different logo on it. I don't
know anyway. Doom spending is the practice of spending money
(08:24):
to sue the fears about broader issues like politics and
the economy. Harris poll found that gen Z and millennial
consumers are more likely to say that it's better to
treat themselves now rather than hold off for the future.
That feels like it could change at any moment. See,
I'm kind of the opposite, Like I have spending guilt
buyers remorse over almost everything I buy. I buy it,
(08:46):
I got didn't need that almost instantly, and so like
I do the opposite, Like if I think something bad's
going to happen, then I don't spend money on anything
because I'm like, I gotta have money because this thing
might happen. So I can't spend it because what I'm
might need to eat. You know, I might monkeys might
come and take all my stuff, and I might need
to buy me least you could eat that sweater made
(09:07):
out of oysters. Well, the good part of the wist
already gone. It's almost less as damn it. Where's a
little oyster? Get me some saltine crackers? Eat the sweater?
I could? Yeah, Experts said the doom spending post is
a danger to consumers long term financial health. So how
do you curb it? Awareness is the first part. I'm
(09:31):
plucking and taking a step back. The other thing I
noticed is that if I really want like a thing,
if I'm thinking about it after like a week, then
I should buy it. Yes, but a lot of times
I'll look at a thing I want that and then
I don't buy it, and then a week later I
don't even remember what I wanted, so that I didn't
need it, right, you know what I mean? Like I'll
be like, I want to do this, and then I
(09:52):
if I don't. If if a week later I can't
remember what I wanted to do, then I guess I
didn't need to do it. Or if like three or
four days later, I'm still thinking about it, well, then
I go by it.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
That's right. I like that?
Speaker 1 (10:02):
You like that? Yeah? Yeah, And a Dodgers fan says
he was fired for going to the championship parade. So
the guy's been canned After calling out sick to party
at the Dodgers Championship celebration, the guy was given a
letter of termination that stated that he had been seen
at the Dodgers World Series parade. The now former employees
accusing his boss of being a Yankees fan, and that's
(10:22):
the root of the issue. The guy posted his termination
letter on Reddit, and the message has since gone viral.
It turns out that a regular at the business tattled
on this guy when he saw him there. Show me
the proof there, Like when the Cubs won the World
Series in twenty sixteen. I don't think anybody was worse.
(10:43):
They was off. Yeah, I don't think anybody wants to win.
I mean, it's like point now the Dodgers. That's two
in a row, isn't there how they won?
Speaker 7 (10:49):
They won the.
Speaker 1 (10:52):
Okay, so they so they win semi regularly. I don't
know if you haven't if you have a sick day
of vacation day, I don't know why you can't take
it for that.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
You're not sick.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
You don't know that this man had the sniffles. I
don't know. I don't know if you had the sniffles.
I have no idea dragon here. I am maybe have
some you know, he had a taco bell or something,
and then he he pooped himself. He was just getting
some fresh air, had to take a walk and ended
up the brain. I mean, I feel like stuff like that,
(11:26):
there's only so many in your lifetime. So, but I
don't know if you should get fired for it. I
guess you can't call him sick for it. I don't know, right,
I don't know National Sunday Day, of course, it's Veterans
Day to day as well. Sunday like ice cream Sunday
Sunday I was like, it's a Monday, bro, Sunday.
Speaker 5 (11:46):
Nay.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
What did you say she's about to beat man Sunday Day?
Speaker 1 (12:00):
I honestly.
Speaker 2 (12:03):
Said, upset.
Speaker 1 (12:08):
We don't celebrate that today. It's not the wrong. The
entertainment report is a fresh show. It's all right. The
honorable is here, Your honor take it away.
Speaker 4 (12:32):
All right, let's get into the courtroom. This one says, hey,
ki KEI. My name is Ashley. I've been dating my
boyfriend Kevin for five years now. He has two little
sons from a previous relationship that I love in street
like my own, but of course I've always wanted a
wedding in kids of my own. At our second year
of dating, he made a promise to me that by
year four we'd be married and expecting a baby.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
But year four is long and gone.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
So a few months ago, I made the decision to
stop my birth control, and I'm now pregnant with our
first child. When I told him the news, he said,
I thought you were on birth control, So that obviously
crushed me, but he accepted it and we worked through it.
Fast forward to our baby shower last weekend, where his
mom made a toast in front of all of our
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family and guests and said congratulations on trapping my son.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Whoa, and then they had laughed.
Speaker 4 (13:25):
I was crushed. I can't believe that he told his
mother that I trapped him. I am the one that's
trapped in a five year relationship with no commitment from
her son. I cried in the car about it and
asked him to confront his mom about her comment, but
he still hasn't. So now I'm avoiding all contact with
his mother and I don't plan on allowing her to
see our son when I deliver.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Am I wrong?
Speaker 4 (13:48):
No, Ashley girl, congratulations on the baby. But honey, I
don't think you need to be mad at his mother.
I think you should be mad with your man. I
feel like your anger is a little bit displaced because
you know, he told her that comment obviously, but that's
truly how he feels. And another thing is I am
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all for my body, my choice, you know, as a woman. However,
I don't think is right to stop your birth control
without talking it over with your partner.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Yeah you can't do that, I'm sorry. But if that's
the agreed upon method for preventing pregnancy and you just
stop right, then you I'm not going to use the
word trap, but you know what you're doing because you're
not telling the other person to use any preventative method.
So you know that the possibility of you getting pregnant
it has now is exponentially higher. That's something that and
(14:42):
you could argue, well, you know, I mean a guy
could take this method of that method, not if he
doesn't know, right. And again, if you have an adult
conversation and you sit down and you say, hey, this
is what we're gonna do. We're gonna use this method
of that method, and you guys agree on that together,
then one person cannot you change it up right and
(15:02):
not have that conversation so that again, I'm not gonna
use the word trapped.
Speaker 2 (15:06):
Well what.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Else are you gonna call a situation where you stop
doing something to prevent pregnancy and don't tell the other
person who then doesn't stop doing anything either.
Speaker 4 (15:18):
Right, And you could play devil advocate and say, you know,
he did promise her at year four they would be
married and expecting. It's now year five, he's made no
moves on the engagement and so have that conversation too. Well,
that's true, but she clearly took matters into her own hands,
and now they have a baby on the way, and
so actually, yeah, I don't think it's his mom's issue, honey.
(15:39):
I think you are wrong, sadly, and I know you're pregnant,
so don't get emotion. I'm sorry, sorry, sorry.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
Well, and you can't just go get pregnant because the
person who you want to be more official with or
more you build more of a foundation with, hasn't proposed
to you people try this thing. It's like, well, and
I'm not saying everyone doesn't on purpose, but it's like, uh, well,
now we have this kid together, so that you know,
(16:05):
now we're like god to right. Yeah, now, well we
may as well get married now because we you know,
we've taken one additional step to sort of I don't
know what the word is. I'm looking for create a
human well, well, to solidify this relationship. Yeah, like in
perpetuity forever. But you guys with the jury eight five, five, five, nine,
(16:25):
one one three five, what say you? Who's in the
wrong here? I'm gonna go with the dude needs to
he probably should have followed up on his promise, But
I'm also gonna go with she can't really act like
a victim in this situation, because she knew exactly what
she was doing when she stopped taking birth control. What
would be the other I mean, I suppose you could argue, well,
(16:46):
she stopped taking birth control for some other health reason. Okay,
well then have that conversation exactly, whatever the reason is,
had that conversation.
Speaker 4 (16:53):
You have to share there with your partner. And she
mentioned in this in this letter that you know, she
feels like she's trapped in a relationship with no commitment. Honey,
you're not trapped. You can leave whenever you want. I know,
you may be attached to his other sons, you know,
his children, you may have a relationship with his family,
but you are not trapped.
Speaker 3 (17:10):
Honey, you can leave. Yeah, she ain't got the relationship
with the family no more.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Oh man.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Yeah, everybody's thinking it. Oh yeah, everybody knows. That's what
everybody And it's hard not to. It's hard not to
because again, if you guys, if you're having a responsible
physical relationship with someone and you had a conversation about it,
and then you know, if the rules changed, then everyone
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needs to know. Otherwise, why does only one person know?
Speaker 4 (17:42):
Yeah, And this is how you end up with men
who leave the relationship and you know he never wanted
to maybe he never wanted more kids with you, or
he never wanted wanted more keys.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
Did promise he did? He did say, won't get married
and have kids. Bru It's like a pinky promise.
Speaker 1 (17:59):
I mean, not again, I don't mean to. This isn't
all her fault by any means, but like I never
understand why when things aren't going someone's way, it's like, well,
let's just throw a kid into this.
Speaker 2 (18:09):
Right, that'll fix it, right, Like.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
More stress, more responsibility. You know, in this particular case,
he could take the position that he was deceived. Again,
when you know, when we're all being adults and and
we're doing these sorts of things, this is the risks
that we take. But when we think the risk is
one percent, and now the risk is much higher, and
nobody told me about that. Like that's not fair either, Jessica, Hi,
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good morning, Hi, good morning. Hey, what do you want
to say? Peaky's cord? Hi?
Speaker 7 (18:40):
Everyone, By the way, I just wanted to say that
technically speaking, the mother.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
In lawson have said that because I feel like it
was inappropriate.
Speaker 5 (18:49):
However, the lady and the relationship isn't the wrong because.
Speaker 4 (18:55):
Yes, although you may have promised her that they're going
to have you know, kids and mayor be and everybody
the fourth year.
Speaker 5 (19:01):
However, as time progresses, and.
Speaker 7 (19:03):
I really should sometimes things change, feelings change, you know,
and maybe he changed his mind, or maybe he wants
to wait a little bit longer and he's just not.
Speaker 2 (19:12):
Ready, you know.
Speaker 7 (19:12):
Like I've said things in my path and my poss
relationship that I didn't feel I would have done by
a certain time that I promised, you know.
Speaker 4 (19:20):
So no, yeah, she should have definitely involved him in
that decision.
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Yeah, I'm really not trying to put this all on
the woman because he didn't live up to his word,
but like, I don't.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
Know that is true.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
It's hard to look at this and say her response
to this was to get pregnant without telling him, essentially right,
because again, if you just for no other reason, but
I'm just going to get off birth control, to get
off birth control and not tell anybody you're trying to
get pregnant, right, absolutely, so maybe that kind of decision
making is how we got here. Again, I'm not blaming
(19:52):
this all on her, I'm just creating. I'm just presenting
an alternative perspective here, which is that is the best
decision to make now. And so if you making decisions
like that all the time, you know, it's a little
bit uh deceptive. Oh yeah, it's a lot deceptive actually,
And I get it.
Speaker 4 (20:09):
As a woman, we have a clock that you all
don't have, you know, And she wanted kids. She wants
kids by a certain age, and she wants to start
her life. And maybe in her mind she's like, I'm
just gonna take matters into my own hands.
Speaker 1 (20:20):
But Suss is so wrong. I know you can't. You
can't do that, like you but.
Speaker 2 (20:27):
We're on a clock, damn it, y'all need to help us.
Speaker 1 (20:29):
There's just but there are so many layers. It's just
so many layers of deception.
Speaker 5 (20:33):
It is.
Speaker 3 (20:33):
But then she got to do with all those consequences
she started it. You know what I'm saying, Her mom
saying that is wrong, but I mean.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
It's the truth. It's the truth. Yeah, you know that's
what they're all saying behind that family group. Chech gotta
be wild too, all right, it's crazy. I've heard of
this sound the name before, where it's like we're not
gonna have kids, we're not gonna have kids when I
canna have kids. We decided this together. We had the conversation.
(21:00):
Not one person decided. We decided, and then it comes
up again and it's like, but we decided, and then
all of a sudden, there's a kid yep, and it's like,
I hate, I hate to do that. I hate to
put blame on anybody. It was like a you know,
it's not a problem solver, it's not no Adriana, Hi,
good morning, good morning. Hey what do you want to say?
Speaker 7 (21:23):
Kiky scored, Well, two things, as women, we know what
we do when we know go on bar control. So
she knew the concept, like she knew what she was
doing when she did that. And second of all, who
knows if he like I know, he said four years
that they'd be married and have kids, But how does
she know, like there's no financial problems or something like
that that's going on that he hasn't done that yet, right, Yeah,
(21:45):
you know what I mean, Like you have to look
at both, Like she knew darn well what she was doing.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
She let's call it what it.
Speaker 7 (21:51):
She kind of does track them because you know, you
you you know what's going to happen when you get
rid of your first control.
Speaker 1 (21:56):
Yeah, yeah, Adriana, thank you, have a good day you too.
Someone texted seven O Waight, she's holding him to a
promise that he made three years ago. She should have
had the discussion year four, not wait an extra a
year and bring the baby on him. She's wrong. Yeah,
I mean, you know, don't. I don't think you hold
someone to a promise by creating another human use again,
(22:16):
we got to think about the child's life here. What
if he's like, yo, I feel trapped. You didn't communicate
with me. This is here, and I don't want anything
to do with you anymore. Well, now you're bringing a
kid into that. And again, I'm not putting it all
on her, but it is one of those disproportionate things
in relationships where there isn't necessarily the same equivalent for men. Right,
(22:38):
Like I can I can use protection. There's a lot
of things I can do. I can get a vasectomy,
I can do all that, but like, there isn't a
pill for me to take. So if that's the method
that we decide we're going to use, then you're gonna
you gotta do it. Yeah, like and again, and if
I just say like you got to take the pill
because I don't know what I'm gonna do whatever I want.
Well that no, I mean, if you sit down and
have an adult conversation, say here's the method that we're
going to use, and it's to say I did collectively
(23:01):
that that's the method, then you gotta do it. And
if you just stop, well then I think I have
every right to feel betrayed, right, which doesn't negate him
not following up on his stuff. But I again, I
come back to the same person that's gonna just unilaterally
stop taking birth control is the same person's not getting
proposed to. But you can't live off like a promise.
Speaker 3 (23:23):
That's like you're going off someone's word, like, oh, in
four years, it's gonna happen.
Speaker 1 (23:27):
Then we all get lied to all the time. I
promise my kid everything. I never I've never followed through
on any of it.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
That's a surprise.
Speaker 1 (23:40):
Following through. Hey Lava, Hi, by Hi, good morning. What
do you want to say? This is a very this
is a very messy one.
Speaker 7 (23:50):
I was gonna say that I feel like it is
definitely baby trapping because I know what's means to her.
Speaker 3 (23:55):
But I feel like there was.
Speaker 1 (23:57):
A conversation that had to be had between the both
of them.
Speaker 7 (24:00):
He did promise in four years that they were gonna
get married or whatever was going to happen.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
I feel like he had she had to speak to
him and be.
Speaker 5 (24:06):
Like, Okay, you're not pulling up in your promise.
Speaker 3 (24:08):
I'm either going to leave you or you know, we
need to have a conversation.
Speaker 7 (24:12):
But this was This was not the way she had.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
To take things like this is. Honestly, I don't get
long term consequences as well, because if she's going to
do this, let's say he's okay with it, but at.
Speaker 5 (24:22):
A certain point he's gonna he might get.
Speaker 3 (24:24):
Like resentment towards the child or even to more.
Speaker 1 (24:26):
You know.
Speaker 7 (24:27):
I just feel like this was a whole wrong situation
Like this is now where she had to take hold.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
I'll never understand when people throw a child into an
already tumultuous situation. It's like that is very unlikely to
bring you together permanently. It is likely to cause more
stress and more resentment and more confusion.
Speaker 2 (24:47):
The key right right.
Speaker 1 (24:50):
The kid has nothing to say about it, of course,
have a good day, Tito. What's up, Tito? How you doing? Hey? Man,
how do I even recap this kiky scort? So this
woman uh waiting for Yeah, was waiting for a ring.
It's been four years. The dude said it would take two.
(25:10):
That wouldn't happen, And all of a sudden, now she's
pregnant because she decided without telling him to pull birth control,
and now his family is accusing her of trapping him.
She's still not engaged, and everybody seems a little confused here.
And I guess I think she kind of opened herself
up to this criticism. To be really honest, what do
you think?
Speaker 5 (25:28):
I just think that he's just trying to keep her around.
If he was really committed, they would have done something
like I don't know it. That's what it sounds like
to me. He's broken promises, you know. She he keeps
telling her, you know, one more year, one more year,
and then the year never comes it. He's not committed,
He's not fully committed.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
Right, So have a baby. Yeah, right, let's throw a
kid into this. Thank you che though. Hey Nicole, how
you doing? I'm good, Hey, Nicole, good morning, Welcome to
the Freend Show. What do you want to say?
Speaker 7 (26:01):
I wanted to say, what if the roles were reversed
and he agreed to have a family, but he had
secretly had of a sephony. That's not fair.
Speaker 5 (26:09):
One person doesn't get to choose family planning no matter
what we promis.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
Yeah, I agree, I agree. So yeah that would be
but he didn't do that. But yeah, you're right, that
would be. No different is a dude, you know, saying
I'm just going to go handle this and not tell
you about it, and now the decision has been made.
Speaker 4 (26:25):
Sorry, because I feel like sometimes maybe maybe as a
I'm trying to defend her a little bit, but like
as a woman, maybe she thought like, well, I'm the
one that has to carry the baby, and you know,
I'm the one that's going to take care of the
baby majority and I'm the one in the relationship. So
maybe she thought like, I can make this decision on
my own. But it's not right.
Speaker 1 (26:42):
You can't. You cannot. Again, you want to raise the
child on her own, and I cannot change the rules.
And then again, if a dude, and thank you, Nicole,
have a great day. I'm glad you called.
Speaker 2 (26:54):
I'm just trying to show a little compassion. Thank Yeah,
it is wild.
Speaker 1 (27:00):
It is just ignorant and he's like, there's no conversation
and he's doing whatever he wants and he's not being
considerate of you, and it's kind of like your problem
kind of thing. Well, then you know, I shame on you,
and accidents happened. But if you again, I've said it
like ten times. If you guys are gonna say, like
in a very adult, mature way, hey, here's what we're doing,
(27:20):
and then all of a sudden you just don't do
it anymore, then I think you're opening yourself up to
people being like, damn, what was your motivation here? Because
what else could it be? Right, if it's a health thing,
like I don't know, I don't like taking the pill,
and or I don't like the IUD whatever it is,
and then again that's one thing. But then you got
to tell your partner. You got to say, hey, look,
I don't like the way I feel on this stuff.
I'm not going to take it. Heads up, you know,
(27:42):
don't be out of here suiting up the club, right,
don't you doing your thing? Because it might work, But
when you don't tell anybody, yeah, I don't like it.
I don't like it. Kicking the Entertainer Report trending story
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