KeKe Court: The Podcast - I Smashed My Roommate's Ex

Jason and Bella join KeKe for a special case of "Smashing the Homies"! Take a listen and weigh in! 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, friend, we are back in the courtroom with another course.
Now this case, okay, will not be on the air,
so it's just between us. But I would love your
thoughts on it, and I'll post a video too. But
and I might invite somebody in to come way in today,
one of my friends around the building. So but let
me give you let me give you the case first, okay.

(00:21):
It says, hey, ki ki, am I wrong for refusing
to stop sleeping with a guy after finding out he's
actually my roommate's X. It says, I have a casual
friends with benefit situation with a guy I met on
a dating map. Let's call him Jake. We've been hooking
up for about two months now. No feelings involved on
either side, just consistent sex. He doesn't sleep over, we

(00:44):
don't do dates. We just hook up, okay. I live
with my roommate Emily, who I've known since college. We
get along great, We've been living together for a little
over a year. But last week Jake came over while Emily.
He was in her room. She came out for some
water and she saw him in froze. After he left,

(01:06):
she asked me if we were dating, and I said no,
we're not dating, it's just a casual thing. She then
told me, very emotionally, like, with tears in her eyes,
that Jake is her ex boyfriend from high school. Apparently
they dated for like a year in high school and
broke up because he cheated on her, and it seemed
like she was still broken up about it. She said

(01:26):
seeing him again totally messed her up, and she asked
me tearfully if I would stop seeing him out of respect.
I said, I was sorry she was upset, but that
I didn't know their history and I'm not in love
with him and we're not even dating. I said, I
think about it, but I don't think I should be
forced to cut off things when there's no relationship between
them anymore. But now she's barely talking to me. She

(01:48):
said she feels unsafe in her home and that she
can't trust me. She told a few of our mutual friends,
and now they're split, half of them saying I'm being
insensitive and choosing sex over friendship, the other saying Emily
cannot police who I sleep with, especially over a guy
she hasn't spoken to in years since high school. Kiki,

(02:08):
we're in our mid twenties to be honest. The sex
with Jake is really good and I don't feel like
I should have to give it up because of some
past drama that I had. No partying, but now our
apartment is super tense. I don't even invite him over anymore.
I just go to his place. Am I wrong for
refusing to stop hooking up with him after finding out
he dated my roommate? Well, well, well, okay, me being

(02:33):
the people pleaser that I am and knowing that I
have to live with this girl and she's a great
roommate and we don't have any drama after she told
me that you know, it made her feel away, and
you know she dated him, I would stop sleeping with him,
And let me tell you why, because you've said already

(02:53):
that there's no feelings between you all. You're not dating.
It's just casual sex. If you want to go find
you can find somebody else to go have casual sex with.
This is clearly your roommate, and if you're trying to
build a friendship with her or you guys have a
home together and it's working out great, I would not
jeopardize that over just some casual sex. Now, I don't

(03:15):
think it's right for Emily even on her behalf like girl,
y'all dated back in high school. Let it go, like
get over it at this point, but she's crying. She's
still clearly emotionally feeling away about this guy. And some
girls are just like that. You know, we've all had
a friend who's like, well, you know, back in the
third grade, he tried to talk to me, like girl, please,

(03:38):
But you know, she's clearly still emotionally upset about however
their relationship ended and seeing him into in the house,
you know, triggered her. So me, being the girl I am,
I would just stop dating him or stop seeing him
because you're not dating I would stop seeing him, like
I would just like, you know what, okay, girl, I'm

(03:59):
gonna leave him alone whatever. And I would tell Jake like, hey,
you know, I had love hooking up with you, Okay,
but my roommate is saying that y'all dated and it's
awkward now, and I don't want to cause any tension
in the house, so let's just be cool and move on.
Or you know, you could keep going to his house
and doing what you're doing, but again, you don't want

(04:21):
to cause tension with's your roommate. I think that I
would put my roommate first in this scenario, but it's like,
it's because I see both sides. Let me go find
somebody else that can weigh in on this hold on.
So I went to the table and Jason and Bella
were free. So I said, y'all come over. Okay, y'all,

(04:41):
here's the scenario. This girl is, she's hooking up this guy.
They met on a dating app. They've been having casual
sex for a while. Yes, that is a very important
part going on. Just make sure we got permission, slips

(05:02):
have been signed. Oh thank god. So they have an agreement.
It's casual sex. There's no feelings involved, there's no dates,
they don't sleep over, they just hook up. He go home.
One day he came over to you do to do?
Her roommate came out and saw him, and the roommate
froze and then went in her room whatever. And then

(05:23):
when he left, the roommate came out and was like
in tears and asked her friend, like are you dating him?
And she's like, no, girl, that's just my friend. Like
what benefits? And so she was like, well, I used
to date him in high school. In tears in high school.
And then the roommate like, okay, like, girl, that's not

(05:45):
my man. We don't love each other. It's nothing like that.
We just looking up. And so the roommate goes, you know, well,
it's like I would really appreciate it if you could
stop seeing him, because now I can't. I don't feel
safe in my home, and like I don't. She was
like that, like basically just on girl called like I

(06:08):
used to look up with him and we dated for
like a year. He cheated on me, and I just
that's crazy that y'all hooking up. And so the roommates like,
I don't want to stop hooking up with him, because
girl that was in high school, we're in our mid twenties,
that was in high school. What do you think she
should do? If you were the roommate, what would you do?
Would you stop hooking up with him or would you
be like girl that was so long ago? Set over it?

Speaker 2 (06:30):
Yeah, you called in the two people pleasers who have
been in relationships for one thousand either.

Speaker 1 (06:34):
And you know why that's so funny, because that's why
before I went and got you guys, I described myself.
I said, the people pleaser, and me would absolutely be
like I don't want to smoke at home with my roommate.
I can find some casual dick somewhere else. I'm just
gonna leave, you know what I'm saying, Like I'm just
gonna stop messing with him to please her. But then
I was like, I don't know, what would.

Speaker 3 (06:56):
I think it really depends on like the length of
the friendship, because it's like if you guys are just
casual roommates, like y'all met on like Craigslist or something.

Speaker 1 (07:04):
Yeah, she did say they've only been living together a year.

Speaker 3 (07:06):
Okay, So I mean, I don't know. I feel like
I would. I'm putting my people pleasing hat aside. I
feel like i'd be like girl that was high school,
Like I was dating girls in high school?

Speaker 1 (07:20):
Okay, do you need us? Who is it?

Speaker 3 (07:23):
I can't see it's Krista and her daughter, Like do
you know how many I was dating girls in high school?
Like these girls are married and like, you know, having
kids or whatever, Like I feel no ties to them,
like whatsoever. Like I'm not looking at their Facebook posts
and be like, oh my god, I wish you know
they could be me, Like like y'all need you need

(07:45):
to let No, I don't like you need to let that.
Like high school is a completely different world. Yes, Like
that's just one example, but like I would be like,
girl that that was high school, Like you just got
to maybe stop banging in the house respect. Yeah, but
like I'm not going to stop seeing this guy because
you dated him ten years ago, Like that's crazy. Now,

(08:06):
if it was outside of high school and y'all were adults,
that's a different story. Like I don't care about the
statue of limitations, like if it was twenty years like
you shouldn't hook up with your friend's acts period. But
I feel like when y'all are in high school, y'all
are still children, Like.

Speaker 2 (08:20):
Come on, okay, Yeah, I feel like I would stop
because I'm like, if there's no feelings, can't you just
go find somebody.

Speaker 3 (08:30):
If it's a really good dick. She did say that
I know that you don't have a lot of experience
in that area, but I'm sure. I'm sure the Hebrew
Hammer has an amazing dick. But like we're talking like toxic,
life changing.

Speaker 2 (08:46):
Say when he said dick, I didn't, I guess because
I didn't realize we were allowed to say stuff like
that on this Yeah you can.

Speaker 3 (08:51):
Say whatever, well, not whatever you want, but yeah.

Speaker 1 (08:54):
Well you can say well, okay, so yeah I was
clutching her. Yeah, oh I freak out, Like.

Speaker 2 (09:02):
I think I'd probably move on because I'm like, if
it's casual, can't you find like there's got to be
somebody else out there that'll give her quote good dick,
and like, like, I wouldn't want to disrupt the peace
in my house because I'm just that would suck, like
coming home and it's just like an uncomfortable, awkward environment
and you guys are just casually hooking up. Go find

(09:25):
another casual hookup who's just as hot and has just
as good dick.

Speaker 3 (09:30):
Sometimes the dick be real good though, and you can't.
It's hard to find it. It's hard to find it for.

Speaker 1 (09:37):
It and not problematic this guy, she's like, we have
an understanding, Like we don't.

Speaker 3 (09:43):
Yeah, that's hard, especially to try to find two people
that can come to that conclusion and they're actually everyone
says it but actually have no strings attached. Like that
is a unique unicorn of a situation.

Speaker 1 (09:54):
Yep, unicorn, yep. Okay, so we're torn. We were still
what was your verdict? Well was what bell is it?
And I explained being a people pleaser and that I
didn't want to have tension in the house.

Speaker 3 (10:05):
I am the toxic one, the normal Kiki's out here
spreading toxicity.

Speaker 1 (10:12):
No, I just said, I'm like, I just know me.
I don't like conflicts, so I would have been like, okay, girl, whatever,
but I hate those girls are friends that are like,
you know, back in third grade. He liked me right now,
like I don't care I have a friend like that.
Really so fucking annoying, She says, like everybody, everybody, everybody

(10:34):
that you used to talk to. She knows.

Speaker 2 (10:37):
The first cousin, second cousin removed twice stated, I'm like,
how the fuck, how do you what do you mean
to do?

Speaker 1 (10:45):
You know? All these people around, like, leave some for me.

Speaker 2 (10:48):
Girl, I don't have a problem, And I'm like Jesus Christ,
I'm like, leave something for the girlies out there in the.

Speaker 1 (11:00):
Keep the peace in your house, or get another roommate
and keep the good. I don't know, but Jerry is hung.
The jury is hung. That's what you got. I don't
like this man, she said, let's call him Jake. So
let's shut out to good. Okay, y'all, y'all have heard

(11:24):
from Jason, y'all heard from Bella, and now let me
hear from you. Let me know what you think. That's
today's case. Honey, it meanstime girl, I don't know good