KeKe Court- The Podcast: "I Ruined The 4th Of July Party!"

KeKe Court breaks down the case of the ruined 4th of July party! 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Let's and we are back in the courtroom.

Speaker 2 (00:06):
It is Key Key with another episode of the Key
Key coord podcast. And because the show was best of today,
I'm here to give you a new case. Because this
one is very timely. Let's get into it. It says, hey,
Kei Key, am I wrong for refusing to sing the
national anthem at my family's Fourth of July party. I

(00:27):
come from a very patriotic, small town kind of family,
and every year my parents host a huge Fourth of
July gathering with fireworks, food decorations, the works, and every
year they make everyone stand up and sing the national
anthem before dinner, like we're at a middle school assembly. Now,
I will give them credit that my parents and my

(00:49):
uncles are all veterans. So this year I brought my
boyfriend to the gathering, and when it was time to
sing the anthem, I just decided.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
I didn't want to do it. I just didn't.

Speaker 2 (01:01):
I sat quietly while everyone else stood and sang. My
boyfriend also sat next to me, quietly, mostly just following
my lead. He didn't know what to do. I didn't
say anything. I didn't roll my eyes, I didn't make
a scene. I just chose not to participate well. My
uncle noticed and made a snide comment. He said, I

(01:22):
guess some people think they're too cool for America. Now
that opened the floodgates. My mom pulled me aside afterward
and told me I embarrassed her and disrespected the spirit
of the holiday. My dad said that if I hate
this country so much, maybe I shouldn't come next year.
My cousins got passive aggressive on social media and made

(01:45):
little nasty posts on their Facebook pages. I didn't mean
to start anything. I just didn't want to vibe with
the performative patriotism. And I didn't think that me quietly
opting out would ruin the whole day of the family
thinks I some ungrateful anti American buzzkill. Am I wrong

(02:05):
for not singing and ruining the moment? Or should my
family chill out and just let me observe the holiday?
How I please? Am I wrong?

Speaker 1 (02:15):
Whoa girl? Okay, lots to unpack here. Now. I love
my country. Let me just say that.

Speaker 2 (02:23):
You know, I'm not proud of every decision that's being
made and things that are happening, But overall, you know,
I came up as a little girl who dreamt of
singing the national anthem one day at like the super Bowl.
So I understand that part of it, But I don't
know who sings the national anthem at the damn family gatherings?

Speaker 1 (02:43):
Is this normal? Like? Is this just maybe black people
don't do it? I don't know.

Speaker 2 (02:47):
I've never in my life been at a family function
and we'd be like, you know what, guys, let's sing
the black national anthem because there is one. No, I've
never been at a family function where they said let's
sing any national anthem them. Never, So that's odd to me,
you know, just to start off. But you know, you,
every family is different. And if this is your family tradition, okay,

(03:11):
I don't think you're wrong, though, I don't I think
you have You're an adult at this point. You say,
you're twenty six years old here. You know you have
the right to decide for yourself how you want to
celebrate your holidays. And if you don't want to sing
the national anthem at the damn family cookout, that is

(03:31):
your prerogative in my opinion, And I understand that as
veterans and people who are super proud of their country,
and you know your uncles and your dad and your
mom whatever. They are older and they have their own
views of life, and they are allowed to be triggered
that you didn't want to participate, But that doesn't make
you wrong. In my opinion, I think you can get

(03:53):
up and do whatever the hell you want to do.
If you decided to get up and sing juvenile back
that ass.

Speaker 1 (03:58):
Up at the party, that's your parah.

Speaker 2 (04:00):
Everybody is an adult in this situation, and everybody has
the right to celebrate in holidays how they choose to.

Speaker 1 (04:08):
Same with voting, same with just life in general.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
We're all adults with free will, and we have the
right to make the decisions that we want to make. Now,
are you always going to land on the right side
of history?

Speaker 1 (04:19):
No? Probably not. I mean hopefully you will, but most
times no.

Speaker 2 (04:24):
So you know, your family can agree to disagree, but
they don't have the right to like condemn you because
you decided not to participate in singing the national anthem,
which in my opinion, is weird to do at a
family gathering. But hey, I don't want to, you know,
let me know if this is something that your family does.

Speaker 1 (04:40):
But I don't think you're wrong.

Speaker 2 (04:42):
Friend, I don't, and I think maybe you know, you
say in the letter that you didn't want to do
it because you didn't want to be a part of
performative patriotism. But I also think that this situation can
open up a deeper dialogue with you and your family
to maybe discuss why you truly, you know you performing

(05:03):
the patriotism is one thing, but maybe there's some things
you want to discuss within your family of why you
don't feel as patriotic and why you don't want to
sing the national anthem and why you chose to sit
down And maybe though you guys need to have that
deeper conversation and that can even get very wild, like
that can open up a real can of worms, because
I think within the last couple of months, a lot

(05:25):
of us have realized that, you know, our family members
are not all on the right side of history, or
we all don't have the same views and beliefs. And
I think, you know, there is a healthy way to
have that conversation and where you people can agree to
disagree or y'all can have an drag out, blowout fight.

(05:47):
But either way, I think it's important to share with
your family why you feel the way you feel, and
maybe that can help either change their views on some
things or help them to kind of see your side
of things, or it can completely let you know that
this is a type of family that you're dealing with,
and you now you know that they don't align with
any of your beliefs. So I think it can open

(06:09):
up a deeper conversation. And I think that if I
was you and I saw how my family reacted, I
would say, well, hey, guys, let me explain to you
why I'm feeling this way, and I would open up
the conversation and have the dialogue, because why not. They're
already pissed at you, so how much work it's gonna get.
But I think it's important to have those conversations with
family members. I know, even in my family, we've had

(06:32):
some intense, okay conversations over the last couple of months
between me and my brothers, my boyfriend, just trying to
get them to understand and see the you know, the
woman the side of things and how you know, things
are affecting women, also how things are affecting my race
and how like it's just so many different conversations.

Speaker 1 (06:52):
Sorry, my phone's going on.

Speaker 2 (06:53):
There's just so many different conversations that can be had
between families right now with everything that is happening in
our world. So I think it opens up a different,
deeper conversation. And since they're already mad girl, take it there,
take it there. But yeah, you don't have to sing
the national anthem if you don't want to see the
national anthem at the cookout, Like, come on, man, that's

(07:14):
my thoughts.

Speaker 1 (07:14):
Let me know what you think.

Speaker 2 (07:15):
I posted the video frad Show Radio on Instagram at
on air keykey on Instagram, and I'll be back in
the courtroom with more cases this week.

Speaker 1 (07:24):
Thanks for listening, friend,