September 15, 2025 • 12 mins
A listener wants to know if she's in the wrong after causing a scene when her ex-husband brought his mistress to their child's birthday party... Judge Keke weighs in!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The order of it's a fresh show. It's all right,
The honorable Kikiliki is here. Judge Kiki eight, take it away.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Wow, all right, let's step into the courtroom.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
The gabble has been hit.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
All right, it says Hei ki key.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Am I wrong for refusing to let my ex husband
bring his former mistress to our child's birthday party. I've
been divorced for three years and since the divorce, my
ex and I have always celebrated our kids' birthdays together
as a family. It's the only day of the year
that we keep it cordial for our kids. Well, my
ex decided to marry his former mistress at the beginning
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of the year, and now his new wife is demanding
to attend my daughter's birthday party, and Kiki, it was
an absolute no for me. However, my ex decided to
bring her to the party anyway, and it completely ruined
my daughter's party. I had to have both of them
removed from the party and it costs a big scene.
(00:59):
Now some of my family is saying that I overreacted,
but I don't think I deserve to have to eat
cake with the woman that ruined my family.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Am I wrong? Judge Kiki, all right, I say you.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
You know, at first, you know, I always want to
take the woman's side, this is what I do. But
I had to really think about this, and I think
both of you are selfish, the ex husband and the
and you. You know, I feel like you are selfish
as well, because in that moment, I told my ex
not to bring the lady to the party. So he's
selfish for bringing her because he should have just suggested
(01:33):
in that moment, Okay, well we need to start having
separate birthday parties.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
I'm not going to ask this man.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
To disrespect his new wife, you know what I'm saying.
I can understand him wanting her to be there whatever.
Then if he if he was a mature I feel
like he would have said, okay, well we need to
start having separate birthday parties if you're not.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Going to allow my wife to attend boom.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
This is especially precarious though, because of the of the
cheating element.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
This isn't like they broke up and then went their
separate ways and met different people and then those people
aren't allowed to be there. I mean this, he was
cheating with this woman, So it's a slap in the face.
It's alas to have this woman to run. However, Judge Kiki,
it is not about them. It is about the kid
exactly so that one needs to behave.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
In my opinion, when she arrived to my daughter's birthday party,
I would have tried to keep my coup until after
the party, like I wouldn't have caused the scene had
them removed. I would have be like, you know what,
I'm gonna eat this today for my kid, but after this,
I'm gonna deal with both of y'all.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
You know.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
That would have been my mentality towards it. But I
feel like he could have also just suggested that they
have separate birthday parties because he knew how she felt
about this before the party.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
So I think they're both selfish.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Eight five five five three five context the same number
you guys are the jury.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Yeah. I think if the family dynamic is such that
everybody can't get along and the guy married the mistress,
which means she's the stepmom now and she's going to
be around for the foreseeable future, then they either have
to agree to cooperate or they have to have separate events,
because I mean, for how long can you mean, the
mistress part and the cheating part is unfortunate. But for
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how long can you say this woman you married cannot
be a part of this little unit over here, right, Like,
how long can.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
You keep her out? You know, what's done is done?
Speaker 1 (03:14):
M hm.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
And you want to say, you know, be the bigger
person for your kids, but like you said, it's a
sensitive situation. She was the mistress. She you know, she
played a part in my family falling apart. You're entitled
to that. But when you're at your kid's birthday party, like,
come on, let's all be adults until this is over
with and then we can fight in the parking lot.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
You know, like adults. Yeah, like civilized, like normal people. Yeah,
take it outside, well, because the kid's.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Gonna remember this now, you know, the kids, people getting
drug out of parties and all this stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
You don't forget stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Yeah, And I mean you expressed that to your ex
before you told him no.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
He clearly doesn't listen.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
But I feel like he's selfish because he could have
just said, Okay, well, my wife wants to be there,
so we will celebrate another time.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
Right, But at some point too, like when can he
take responsibility for like what he's done in the past,
and maybe oblige his act a little bit, like you
messed up, but at least you know, you're supposedly happy
now you're with the mistress, like you can go on
and live your life, but like for your acts, like
maybe the mother of your kids, like maybe just oblige
her because you were a dirty dog.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Right, you know.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
But then he has to go home to the new
wife and she's like you telling me, I can't come
somewhere with you.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I'm your wife.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
You know that can be a whole thing. So, yeah,
it's messy.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Yeah, I did it is Hey Michelle, Hey, hey, so
do you you've lived this?
Speaker 2 (04:36):
You know these stories?
Speaker 5 (04:37):
I lived it?
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Yes, I lived this story. What happened?
Speaker 6 (04:41):
Dad cheated on my mom. Mom found out and gave
him ultimatum. Dad chose to leave, and so at that
point then there was they separated, and then he's been
with her now for thirty years, and so she's the
first probably five years a little bit hectic. But then
(05:02):
Mom received and she's like, I'm not going to, you know,
ruin my children's birthdays and holidays because this.
Speaker 7 (05:08):
Woman ruined stuff.
Speaker 6 (05:09):
I'm going to be a bigger person, and mom didn't
talk to her, but everybody was invited to everything.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Yeah, no one's asking anyone to be friends here, you know,
And I realize that when you're not involved, it's easy
to say. But at some point it's about the kid
or kids or whatever. And so you know, either you
have to choose to accept it and just keep your
distance and cooperate, or or I don't know what the
alternative is. Everything's divisive and and there's never any semblance
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of mom and dad getting along ever again.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
And I don't know. I mean, maybe that's better than this,
but yeah, what are you saying?
Speaker 6 (05:45):
I see that the past thing was was my parents
still got along, but the new.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
Wife didn't like the fact that they got along.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
You had a mistress, You had a mistress, and that
you complaining about the di Nah, you don't get a vote. No,
you don't get a voted in the functionality of a
relationship that failed because there was infidelity.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
You don't get a vote in this. Exactly who are
you talking about?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
I mean, those little meta little mistresses. Oh I's got
something to say.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
No, no, now you're insecure.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Oh wait a minute, so you weren't insecure when you were,
when you were part of the demise of a relationship.
But now they're insecure because they get along. Because you
know that your little flusy.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
If she knew right, we'll carry out it to give it.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
A bit of another day. Thank you, Michelle, A good day,
Thank you, Thank you for sure. Now I want to
go live to Hadley now. Now Hadley is eleven, Hadley, Hadley, Yes,
you are a little young to be chiming in on this,
but I'd still like to hear what you have to say.
Speaker 8 (06:44):
Okay, so I agree with Kicky. I think that even
though so ex wife said don't bring her and he
decided to bring her in, shelfish but also them out
is also selfish. But it shouldn't matter what the parents want.
(07:04):
It should matter what the kids want, because it's the
kids party, not the parents' party.
Speaker 7 (07:08):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
That is a very mature perspective of a situation. I
hope that you do not fully understand at eleven years old. Okay,
yeah you are Hey, you are welcome here anytime. Handley,
have a good day. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you
so much. That teachable moment right there. Okay, we gotta
we talk about how adults do stupid things and kids
oftentimes have to play the stupid games and get the
(07:32):
stupid prizes because the adults did stupid stuff.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Hey, Chrizly, Chris, what's up? Bred are you doing? Hey?
What's going on? Brother? What do you think in Kiki's court?
Speaker 7 (07:43):
Well, listen, I feel for the lady.
Speaker 9 (07:46):
I feel for the mom who's hosting the party, But
it's trying to be a control freak the man.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Look, the past is the past.
Speaker 7 (07:53):
When you get.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Married, that person's won.
Speaker 7 (07:55):
It's a package deal.
Speaker 9 (07:57):
We see a lot of times where people try to
control situation because they don't like the result. And further,
if it were reversed or if she were married at
the time as well, she wouldn't have a problem.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Yeah, I mean it's easier said than done, man, because
you know, now you've got to look this woman in
the eye who was part of the demise of your family.
And again, I don't know the whole situation here. It's
never really as cut and dry as one person just
teaches it. It's very rare and dry.
Speaker 9 (08:25):
Yeah, but they're always listen, it's a divorce, so you know,
somebody's not going to be happy.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
But at the end of the day.
Speaker 7 (08:33):
You cannot control the other person when you're that's half
this kid, when you're no longer married to them. It's
just that's how it is.
Speaker 10 (08:41):
Yeah, So you know that's that's the type of thing
that does the kid wrong. How does your child learn
how to manage conflict if that's what they see?
Speaker 2 (08:53):
No, you're you're right, No, you're right. Thank you. Man,
have a good day. I'm glad you called them all right, No,
it's true. I mean, it is true. Get over it.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Well, it's like the adult's got to be adults, and
it's it's so hard to do. Like no one's saying
that's easy. No, but the adults got to be adults, right,
Hey aldough, Hey, hey, how you do a man Kiki score?
So just just to recap here and make sure I
get this right, judge Kiki. But basically, a woman and
her ex husband, they were in a relationship ahead a kid.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
He cheated.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Now he's married to the woman with whom he cheated,
and they have birthday parties every year and the former
husband and wife get together, you know, to celebrate the
kid's birthday, and they're cordial. Now the mistress showing up
who's the actually it was now the wife. Yeah, now
she's showing up too. It's making a whole thing uncomfortable.
And there was an altercation and people were drug out
and it was a whole thing.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
What do you think.
Speaker 7 (09:45):
I think that the new wife, who has nothing to
do with the kid, shouldn't come now that it happened
once that sort of it's already happened, And I agree
the kid wasn't thought of by either parent and that issue.
But going forward, Hey, look, if you want your new
wife to have a party with your daughter, fine, but
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not with me. You know, it's that simple. And it's
simply because I think mom's a little warm right now.
A couple of years down the road, she'd probably calmed down.
It's not like the daughter doesn't see this new woman
when she goes visit her father. We're just talking about
the birthday.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Yeah, I agree with that.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
I think this is a situation where maybe that woman
doesn't need to be included in this particular event. You know,
you're not saying you can't have a relationship with her,
because you're right when you go over to his house,
you're going to meet this woman and develop a relationship
hopefully or whatever. But for this particular thing, maybe she
doesn't need to be there. Maybe this is just mom
and dad handling this so that there's everyone's comfortable. I agree, although,
(10:52):
thank you. Have a good day, you too, Glad you called.
Thank you for listening. A lot of people have lived this.
Hey Lindsey, she is, hey, good morning. What do you think?
Speaker 5 (11:03):
Well, so, being someone that has sort of lived this,
my ex husband and I would do the same thing
for the kids, celebrate their birthdays together. But once I
started dating someone who I'm now currently married to. I
just got married last Friday. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I we start, we've just stopped. You like, once someone
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else is involved, I mean, regardless of cheating or cordially separating,
whatever it is, once you have a significant other or
another spouse or I don't feel there's any reason to
have to blend all of it together. Sure in passing, kids,
pick up, switching weekends, whatever it is, great, be cordial, Hi,
how are you see you later? But families say there's
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no reason for it out of respect for everyone involved.
That's uncomfortable. Some people can do it great, but given
the circumstances that he cheated at and she now the
little mistress homewrecker wants to don't like the white set
or the mom's set, eat cake with the girl that
ruined their family. Absolutely unacceptable. So everyone needs to be
(12:09):
an adult, do the thing separately, and the kids can
have three freaking birthday parties. Yeah, you don't have to
sit face to face with the person that stirred your
whole world up.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Yeah, because as a kid, I lived a thing where
people were trying to force the family unit. It's like,
well these you know, this is your step mom now,
and this is your these are your step brothers. And
it's like, no, no, no, I why do I have
to accept I don't have to accept this?
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Like I don't. I don't. I didn't want any of this.
I don't have. Why do I have to like this lady?
Speaker 7 (12:36):
Like I didn't.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
I didn't pick her. You did, and you picked her
with your pecker. Yeah, so so there, get her out
of here and she'll.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Be gone soon anyway. And she was, thank you, Lidsey,
you have a good day.
Speaker 7 (12:47):
You did.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Yeah I don't. I don't.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
I don't like the whole forced family unit thing. It's like, well,
but she's here now, so you have to accept that
I know, I don't. I got a mom and I
got a dad.
The order of it's a fresh show. It's all right,
The honorable Kikiliki is here. Judge Kiki eight, take it away.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Wow, all right, let's step into the courtroom.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
The gabble has been hit.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
All right, it says Hei ki key.
Speaker 3 (00:16):
Am I wrong for refusing to let my ex husband
bring his former mistress to our child's birthday party. I've
been divorced for three years and since the divorce, my
ex and I have always celebrated our kids' birthdays together
as a family. It's the only day of the year
that we keep it cordial for our kids. Well, my
ex decided to marry his former mistress at the beginning
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of the year, and now his new wife is demanding
to attend my daughter's birthday party, and Kiki, it was
an absolute no for me. However, my ex decided to
bring her to the party anyway, and it completely ruined
my daughter's party. I had to have both of them
removed from the party and it costs a big scene.
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Now some of my family is saying that I overreacted,
but I don't think I deserve to have to eat
cake with the woman that ruined my family.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Am I wrong? Judge Kiki, all right, I say you.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
You know, at first, you know, I always want to
take the woman's side, this is what I do. But
I had to really think about this, and I think
both of you are selfish, the ex husband and the
and you. You know, I feel like you are selfish
as well, because in that moment, I told my ex
not to bring the lady to the party. So he's
selfish for bringing her because he should have just suggested
(01:33):
in that moment, Okay, well we need to start having
separate birthday parties.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
I'm not going to ask this man.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
To disrespect his new wife, you know what I'm saying.
I can understand him wanting her to be there whatever.
Then if he if he was a mature I feel
like he would have said, okay, well we need to
start having separate birthday parties if you're not.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
Going to allow my wife to attend boom.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
This is especially precarious though, because of the of the
cheating element.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Exactly.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
This isn't like they broke up and then went their
separate ways and met different people and then those people
aren't allowed to be there. I mean this, he was
cheating with this woman, So it's a slap in the face.
It's alas to have this woman to run. However, Judge Kiki,
it is not about them. It is about the kid
exactly so that one needs to behave.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
In my opinion, when she arrived to my daughter's birthday party,
I would have tried to keep my coup until after
the party, like I wouldn't have caused the scene had
them removed. I would have be like, you know what,
I'm gonna eat this today for my kid, but after this,
I'm gonna deal with both of y'all.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
You know.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
That would have been my mentality towards it. But I
feel like he could have also just suggested that they
have separate birthday parties because he knew how she felt
about this before the party.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
So I think they're both selfish.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Eight five five five three five context the same number
you guys are the jury.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Yeah. I think if the family dynamic is such that
everybody can't get along and the guy married the mistress,
which means she's the stepmom now and she's going to
be around for the foreseeable future, then they either have
to agree to cooperate or they have to have separate events,
because I mean, for how long can you mean, the
mistress part and the cheating part is unfortunate. But for
(03:04):
how long can you say this woman you married cannot
be a part of this little unit over here, right, Like,
how long can.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
You keep her out? You know, what's done is done?
Speaker 1 (03:14):
M hm.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
And you want to say, you know, be the bigger
person for your kids, but like you said, it's a
sensitive situation. She was the mistress. She you know, she
played a part in my family falling apart. You're entitled
to that. But when you're at your kid's birthday party, like,
come on, let's all be adults until this is over
with and then we can fight in the parking lot.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
You know, like adults. Yeah, like civilized, like normal people. Yeah,
take it outside, well, because the kid's.
Speaker 1 (03:42):
Gonna remember this now, you know, the kids, people getting
drug out of parties and all this stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:47):
You don't forget stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (03:48):
Yeah, And I mean you expressed that to your ex
before you told him no.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
He clearly doesn't listen.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
But I feel like he's selfish because he could have
just said, Okay, well, my wife wants to be there,
so we will celebrate another time.
Speaker 4 (04:01):
Right, But at some point too, like when can he
take responsibility for like what he's done in the past,
and maybe oblige his act a little bit, like you
messed up, but at least you know, you're supposedly happy
now you're with the mistress, like you can go on
and live your life, but like for your acts, like
maybe the mother of your kids, like maybe just oblige
her because you were a dirty dog.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
Right, you know.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
But then he has to go home to the new
wife and she's like you telling me, I can't come
somewhere with you.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
I'm your wife.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
You know that can be a whole thing. So, yeah,
it's messy.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Yeah, I did it is Hey Michelle, Hey, hey, so
do you you've lived this?
Speaker 2 (04:36):
You know these stories?
Speaker 5 (04:37):
I lived it?
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Yes, I lived this story. What happened?
Speaker 6 (04:41):
Dad cheated on my mom. Mom found out and gave
him ultimatum. Dad chose to leave, and so at that
point then there was they separated, and then he's been
with her now for thirty years, and so she's the
first probably five years a little bit hectic. But then
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Mom received and she's like, I'm not going to, you know,
ruin my children's birthdays and holidays because this.
Speaker 7 (05:08):
Woman ruined stuff.
Speaker 6 (05:09):
I'm going to be a bigger person, and mom didn't
talk to her, but everybody was invited to everything.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Yeah, no one's asking anyone to be friends here, you know,
And I realize that when you're not involved, it's easy
to say. But at some point it's about the kid
or kids or whatever. And so you know, either you
have to choose to accept it and just keep your
distance and cooperate, or or I don't know what the
alternative is. Everything's divisive and and there's never any semblance
(05:39):
of mom and dad getting along ever again.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
And I don't know. I mean, maybe that's better than this,
but yeah, what are you saying?
Speaker 6 (05:45):
I see that the past thing was was my parents
still got along, but the new.
Speaker 5 (05:50):
Wife didn't like the fact that they got along.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
You had a mistress, You had a mistress, and that
you complaining about the di Nah, you don't get a vote. No,
you don't get a voted in the functionality of a
relationship that failed because there was infidelity.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
You don't get a vote in this. Exactly who are
you talking about?
Speaker 3 (06:09):
I mean, those little meta little mistresses. Oh I's got
something to say.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
No, no, now you're insecure.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
Oh wait a minute, so you weren't insecure when you were,
when you were part of the demise of a relationship.
But now they're insecure because they get along. Because you
know that your little flusy.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
If she knew right, we'll carry out it to give it.
Speaker 1 (06:28):
A bit of another day. Thank you, Michelle, A good day,
Thank you, Thank you for sure. Now I want to
go live to Hadley now. Now Hadley is eleven, Hadley, Hadley, Yes,
you are a little young to be chiming in on this,
but I'd still like to hear what you have to say.
Speaker 8 (06:44):
Okay, so I agree with Kicky. I think that even
though so ex wife said don't bring her and he
decided to bring her in, shelfish but also them out
is also selfish. But it shouldn't matter what the parents want.
(07:04):
It should matter what the kids want, because it's the
kids party, not the parents' party.
Speaker 7 (07:08):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
That is a very mature perspective of a situation. I
hope that you do not fully understand at eleven years old. Okay,
yeah you are Hey, you are welcome here anytime. Handley,
have a good day. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you
so much. That teachable moment right there. Okay, we gotta
we talk about how adults do stupid things and kids
oftentimes have to play the stupid games and get the
(07:32):
stupid prizes because the adults did stupid stuff.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Hey, Chrizly, Chris, what's up? Bred are you doing? Hey?
What's going on? Brother? What do you think in Kiki's court?
Speaker 7 (07:43):
Well, listen, I feel for the lady.
Speaker 9 (07:46):
I feel for the mom who's hosting the party, But
it's trying to be a control freak the man.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Look, the past is the past.
Speaker 7 (07:53):
When you get.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Married, that person's won.
Speaker 7 (07:55):
It's a package deal.
Speaker 9 (07:57):
We see a lot of times where people try to
control situation because they don't like the result. And further,
if it were reversed or if she were married at
the time as well, she wouldn't have a problem.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
Yeah, I mean it's easier said than done, man, because
you know, now you've got to look this woman in
the eye who was part of the demise of your family.
And again, I don't know the whole situation here. It's
never really as cut and dry as one person just
teaches it. It's very rare and dry.
Speaker 9 (08:25):
Yeah, but they're always listen, it's a divorce, so you know,
somebody's not going to be happy.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
But at the end of the day.
Speaker 7 (08:33):
You cannot control the other person when you're that's half
this kid, when you're no longer married to them. It's
just that's how it is.
Speaker 10 (08:41):
Yeah, So you know that's that's the type of thing
that does the kid wrong. How does your child learn
how to manage conflict if that's what they see?
Speaker 2 (08:53):
No, you're you're right, No, you're right. Thank you. Man,
have a good day. I'm glad you called them all right, No,
it's true. I mean, it is true. Get over it.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Well, it's like the adult's got to be adults, and
it's it's so hard to do. Like no one's saying
that's easy. No, but the adults got to be adults, right,
Hey aldough, Hey, hey, how you do a man Kiki score?
So just just to recap here and make sure I
get this right, judge Kiki. But basically, a woman and
her ex husband, they were in a relationship ahead a kid.
Speaker 2 (09:22):
He cheated.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Now he's married to the woman with whom he cheated,
and they have birthday parties every year and the former
husband and wife get together, you know, to celebrate the
kid's birthday, and they're cordial. Now the mistress showing up
who's the actually it was now the wife. Yeah, now
she's showing up too. It's making a whole thing uncomfortable.
And there was an altercation and people were drug out
and it was a whole thing.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
What do you think.
Speaker 7 (09:45):
I think that the new wife, who has nothing to
do with the kid, shouldn't come now that it happened
once that sort of it's already happened, And I agree
the kid wasn't thought of by either parent and that issue.
But going forward, Hey, look, if you want your new
wife to have a party with your daughter, fine, but
(10:08):
not with me. You know, it's that simple. And it's
simply because I think mom's a little warm right now.
A couple of years down the road, she'd probably calmed down.
It's not like the daughter doesn't see this new woman
when she goes visit her father. We're just talking about
the birthday.
Speaker 2 (10:28):
Yeah, I agree with that.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
I think this is a situation where maybe that woman
doesn't need to be included in this particular event. You know,
you're not saying you can't have a relationship with her,
because you're right when you go over to his house,
you're going to meet this woman and develop a relationship
hopefully or whatever. But for this particular thing, maybe she
doesn't need to be there. Maybe this is just mom
and dad handling this so that there's everyone's comfortable. I agree, although,
(10:52):
thank you. Have a good day, you too, Glad you called.
Thank you for listening. A lot of people have lived this.
Hey Lindsey, she is, hey, good morning. What do you think?
Speaker 5 (11:03):
Well, so, being someone that has sort of lived this,
my ex husband and I would do the same thing
for the kids, celebrate their birthdays together. But once I
started dating someone who I'm now currently married to. I
just got married last Friday. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I we start, we've just stopped. You like, once someone
(11:26):
else is involved, I mean, regardless of cheating or cordially separating,
whatever it is, once you have a significant other or
another spouse or I don't feel there's any reason to
have to blend all of it together. Sure in passing, kids,
pick up, switching weekends, whatever it is, great, be cordial, Hi,
how are you see you later? But families say there's
(11:47):
no reason for it out of respect for everyone involved.
That's uncomfortable. Some people can do it great, but given
the circumstances that he cheated at and she now the
little mistress homewrecker wants to don't like the white set
or the mom's set, eat cake with the girl that
ruined their family. Absolutely unacceptable. So everyone needs to be
(12:09):
an adult, do the thing separately, and the kids can
have three freaking birthday parties. Yeah, you don't have to
sit face to face with the person that stirred your
whole world up.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Yeah, because as a kid, I lived a thing where
people were trying to force the family unit. It's like,
well these you know, this is your step mom now,
and this is your these are your step brothers. And
it's like, no, no, no, I why do I have
to accept I don't have to accept this?
Speaker 2 (12:31):
Like I don't. I don't. I didn't want any of this.
I don't have. Why do I have to like this lady?
Speaker 7 (12:36):
Like I didn't.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
I didn't pick her. You did, and you picked her
with your pecker. Yeah, so so there, get her out
of here and she'll.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Be gone soon anyway. And she was, thank you, Lidsey,
you have a good day.
Speaker 7 (12:47):
You did.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Yeah I don't. I don't.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
I don't like the whole forced family unit thing. It's like, well,
but she's here now, so you have to accept that
I know, I don't. I got a mom and I
got a dad.
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