March 13, 2025 • 14 mins
Mikayla saved up for her younger sister to help buy her a car because she wanted to show her how proud she is of her. When she gave her the car, her younger sister asked if there's anyway she could take the car back and keep the money to get a different one. Listen to Judge Keke weigh in!
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
A freshew. It's Kiki's court. It's fun. Your wish. Your
wish is our demand. Eight.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Your demand is our wish. Take it away, Judge Kiki.
All right, we'll do We'll do Kiki's Court on a
Thursday morning.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
It's time. Let's do it.
Speaker 3 (00:14):
Why not?
Speaker 2 (00:15):
The people domazd it is and then you had me
double checking. Y, No, it is Thursday.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Thank you for that.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It doesn't really matter what day it is. Just come
in and talk. You talk, It's what I do. Oh wow, yeah,
all right, take it away.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
All right, let's get into the courtroom. The gavel has
been hit. Hey Kiki. My name is Mikayla.
Speaker 4 (00:31):
I'm a nurse and I've been like a second mom
to my little sister. She just started her sophomore year
of college, and I was so proud of her that
I took my savings and help my parents by buying
her a car to get through school. I was so
proud to give her this car and let her know
how extremely proud I am of her for all of
her accomplishments through high school and how well she's been
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doing in college. Well after a week of giving her
this car, I got a text message from my little
sister that read, Hi, sis, I love you so much
and I want to thank you for the gift of
this car. However, if I'm being honest, this doesn't really
fit my style and I would prefer you take the
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car back and maybe give me the money that you
spent on the car.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Because what because this car does not.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
Fit me and my friends aren't even able to fit
inside of the car.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Okay, I'll take it. I'll take the car back. I'll
take the car back. Thank you for all that That's
what I'll do. I'll take the car back.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
She goes on to say, thank you for all that
you do and have done for me. And I don't
want you to think that I am unappreciative. However, I
just want to be honest.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
What I don't want you think I'm gonna appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
But you gave me an automobile, and I'm telling you
that it's not good enough. Yes, a free automobile, and
I couldn't afford an automobile.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
So the sister took the car back, but she did
not give her the money.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Why would you? She didn't have to give her the money.
Okay that oh sorry?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Sorry, Judge of the bailiff is acting. I'm the bailiff
that I'm acting up man. All of a sudden, the
bailiff decided he's a judge. I'm so sorry. I'm actually
insulted by this. I'm personally insulted by this.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
You are, and I love that because I was extremely
inssaulted by it as well. I don't My first car
was so trash, but I and I saved up and
my family helped me get it.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
But it was a horrible car. But at that age,
you just.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Take what you can get.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
And that the fact that you wrote your sister back
and asked her to take this car back, and not
only just take it back, but give you the money
for it, as if you can do something more responsible
with the money at your age, to me, it's insane,
it's entitlement, it's it's disrespectful, it's unappreciative, and I feel
very bad for this nurse who has saved up her
money to buy this car for a sister. Now, I
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will say she did attach photos of the car and
it is one of those cars. It's just a two
seater with no no trunk.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
No car.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
Yeah, Mini Cooper, Yeah, what is this a go kart.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Oh, I don't know what they Okay, so yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:09):
It's is a gay from A to B.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Why how old is the little sister?
Speaker 3 (03:15):
I don't know if she's a sophomore in college. Okay,
so gen Z, Yeah, I know how I feel about them.
Her brain's not formed.
Speaker 5 (03:20):
They do be hurting our feelings without even trying to,
Like I think, I think like youth is wasted on
the young, like they don't have a perspective, and sometimes
they just say stuff that I you know, go in
the closet and cry and I'm like, she didn't mean it,
she didn't mean it.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Should there is there is a level of honesty, and
I don't know, it does seem to be generational. I
don't mean to pick on gen Z specifically, because we
need all people to listen to us, including gen Z,
but there does seem to be a like a harshness
with which sometimes the message is delivered, you know, and
like Bell's not this way. Well, I mean Bella does
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say what's on her mind. Yeah, pretty unedited. But I mean, like,
you know, we've had other interns in the past where
I'm like, you know, I'm the boss, right, like like
you you work for us, right, you do you want?
You know, and like very well intentioned nice it's it's
it's not even that they didn't work hard or that
they didn't or that they were they were poor and
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there was poor intent. It was just there's just a
comfortability that didn't exist when I was coming up, or
when you were coming up, or when you were coming
And I'm not even sure if it's generational or what
did I.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Really don't know.
Speaker 5 (04:29):
It's also perspective, like they don't know what they don't
know what they haven't lived through.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
I feel like people are afraid to tell people the truth,
Like people are afraid to say, you can't talk to
your boss like that, right, or you can't talk to
the leader or the thing like that. Like you know,
if you you'll get to the point someday where you're
that person and then you decide, you get to make
the decisions. But like, I just can't imagine saying to
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someone I don't want to blame this on a generation.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
This just seems downright inconsidered.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
But I can't imagine somebody giving me an automobile and
me being like that doesn't suit my needs. Just give
me the money, But I want to know what you
guys think eight five five three five.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You guys are the jury because.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
On one hand, you kind of want to encourage your
children to speak up for themselves and advocate for themselves.
It's for what they need, right, But then there's also
this line of like you're just not ungrateful.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Yeah, but sometimes what you need isn't necessarily the responsibility
of the person who you're telling you need it. Like
that's true. Again, I'm not asking for anyone to be mistreated.
I'm not asking for anyone to accept any form of
abuse or or to be treated, you know, again, treated
unfairly or asked to do things against their will or whatever.
But like you know, sometimes if it's hey, you got
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to do this, then then you got to do it.
And if you don't want to do it, then maybe
you don't need to be there, Like maybe you gotta
find someplace. But again, everyone's going to expect you to
do something. Yeah, but I.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Just can't imagine. I cannot imagine.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
How about is how about you take the car it
doesn't suit your needs, You drive that thing around because
it was free, and then in time, maybe you can
save up a little money and then use that car
and the money you saved to get a little bit
better car and then do like everybody else does, where
you just step things up. I mean to me, there
is no different than someone who gets it like an
engagement ring or a gift.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Now, no, I'm serious, this is no different. I give
you a gift.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
It was I'm trying, and one sentimental and one was
trying to be helpful. But nonetheless I'm giving you money. Essentially,
I think this is I want you to have this
and then for you to go, I don't want that one.
Give me the money. I'll go buy a bigger one,
or give me the money.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
No, and maybe it works that way.
Speaker 5 (06:40):
Knew someone at a dealership and had a deal or
wanted that car, so that like she wasn't driving distracted
with other people in it, Like maybe she you know,
maybe it wasn't just an exchange of money. Maybe she
got hooked, like I don't know her reasoning, but I'm
sure she has them.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Absolutely like a gues it's a guess saver. Now, I
will say, you cannot put much in the car but.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Your body, right, But that's okay. She is tiny, Yeah, you.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Know what, you know what else.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
You could take the bus, you could you could walk,
that's true. You can't put much on your back either,
can true. As my man, I just my parents joke
about this though, because I didn't they got me a
car for my sixteenth birthday, but they made me think
that wasn't happening. And their deal was, you got to
work all the money you save up until your your
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birthday towards a car will match that amount of money.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
That was the deal they made with me.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
So I didn't have much, but I did make I
definitely worked a lot harder than I probably would have otherwise.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
And so I had this little bit of money.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
And but when you know, when I'm like fifteen, I
got a year to go, I'm like, I want this
brand new car. And by the time we got to
my birthday, and like literally the morning of my birthday,
when I didn't think I was getting a car and
I only had, you know, a few thousand dollars to spend,
I would have accepted anything like I would literally you
you could have pulled up and my parents joke about this,
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like you went from wanting a brand new whatever to
being like, I will take a used Pinto from nineteen
seventy years and years before I was born. Anything so
that I have the ability to drive around and like,
you know, hang out with my friends and have the
independence and whatever else.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
And you're complaining about it.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
Yeah, no, for people asking the car was they used
Toyota Scion IQ.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Oh, I don't know. I don't know, Erica, what happened?
Good morning, Hi.
Speaker 6 (08:24):
Good morning, Thanks for having me. So I had a
similar experience and my son. I have three sons, and
my oldest son, he's doing so well in school. I said,
let me buy you a car, you know, just to
congratulate you, just to watch you. He said, Mom, you know,
don't buy me a car.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Put this money on my tuition. Oh so put this.
Speaker 6 (08:45):
Money on my tuition. And I was I wasn't hurt,
but I was like, baby, this is what I want
to give you with he said. And he told me
every year that I sent to the car, save the money,
put it on my put it on my tuition. So
now he has a I have another son that's his
the middle son. He's like, Mom, I want the car.
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So yeah, I can understand this generation. You got to
hit a miss. You got to He's fifty for save
that thinks their title and fifty percent understand that there's.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
A futurer Oh, Erica went away out, Erica. When are
you back, Erica? Are you there?
Speaker 4 (09:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Yeah, no, I look, I'll be honest to me.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
That's a little bit different because you know, maybe your
son realizing how much he owed in college, at least
he was asking you to apply it to something else
that would help him in the long run, as opposed
to telling you that the gift you were giving him
wasn't enough or good, you know what I mean. Like, honestly,
maybe he feels like you were trying to help him out,
but he doesn't mind taking the bus or walking or
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taking the train if it means that you shave off
you know, I don't know, six payments on his college
whatever it is.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
You know, maybe he's savvy.
Speaker 6 (09:52):
Enough to know that he wasn't in college doom, but
he's in college now.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Okay, Yes, I have less.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Of a problem with But I hear what you're saying.
You wanted to do this, and he wanted you to
do But then, thank you, Erica for colling have a
great day. I have less of a problem with that.
Speaker 4 (10:08):
Oh yeah, he was being trying to be responsible it
sound like and respectful and.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Yeah, because you know, I mean, what do people graduate.
I mean, at this rate, hundreds of thousands of dollars
in college loans that they wind up paying off. And
maybe he's seen friends or other people and it's like, man,
you know, I'll be fifty before I pay this off.
So in his mind it was I'll take this sacrifice
if you can help me here, which is different than
what you're giving me.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Isn't good enough.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Give me the money so I can get something better, right,
But you don't have the money, And that's the point. Hey, Ari, Hi, Hi,
good morning. Okay, you're gen z so we get to
hear from you. How old are you?
Speaker 7 (10:44):
Well, I'm kind of like, oh, I'm twenty two.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Okay.
Speaker 7 (10:49):
I have a little sister who's kind of growing up
that way. I was raised to always respect your elders,
no matter how long they are, no matter what they
say to you, you always are respectful. But my sister
is kind of in that woke generation where it's like
I have to defend myself, but I feel like she's
confusing defending herself, or like I can talk to them
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however I want, And I'm like, no, I understand and yes,
you have that that like right to like defend yourself,
but also you have to be careful with authority figures,
especially in school, like she's cursed teachers out before, she's
got in trouble for that, and it's it's and I'm
just like, no, you do not. It's like it doesn't matter.
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I know they're wrong, but come talk to me about that.
Don't be telling them in their faith. And I feel
like that's what happening in our generation is like they're
trying to develop this like authority of like this is me,
this is myself. I'm going to defend myself, but they're
confusing that for like but yet I'm going to talk
to these elders however I want because of that.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Yeah, there is there, definitely is some of that and
very well said Ari. And again, I'm all for people
speaking their mind. I'm all for people standing up for themselves.
I'm all for people you know, not being uh, you know,
minimized or whatever it is. We've come a long way
since you know some of us were at that age,
but at the same time, there still is a hierarchy
and a pecking order, and you know, you don't get
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to just say whatever you want. And and people are
ungrateful in every generation too. I mean, I'm sure there
are examples of things just like this story that are
happening with people much older and people who are younger.
So again, I don't mean to pick on any generation,
but it does kind of make me laugh. You know,
God bless ben Hamen who moved you know, the previous
to Bellahamine, ben Hamen who moved south. We love the guy,
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but every now and again he'd say something to me,
and I love him. I knew his dad. I mean,
he's like, you know, he's like my little brother in
some ways. But I'd be like, who are you talking to?
Who works for whom?
Speaker 4 (12:41):
You know?
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Ari? Thank you have a great day, you too think?
Very well spoken?
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Yeah, okay, so we all we all agree this is
just wildly ungrateful.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Yeah, it's giving.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
And you fred stories though for it about the new
generation not even wanting to drive. So I'm not mad
at her saying, hey, you know, thank you, But it's
the asking for the money in place of it, you
know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
If you don't want the car, then turn the car down. Yeah,
if you're not going to drive it turn the car down.
But if you if someone's offering to do something to
help you, then you're not in a position to tell them.
What do they say? Gift horse in the mouth. You
can't take a gift horse in the mouth, I think
is not the phrase. I think that's how you say.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
It, new gift horse in the mouth?
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Was it look gift? She look at this, Paulina? How's
it go? How does this saying go?
Speaker 7 (13:28):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (13:28):
No, the gift and the horse in the mouth.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
Right, you don't look a gift horse in the mouth
means not being ungrateful when receiving a gift.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Oh, just the saying wow. So yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I mean if I don't know, if if someone I
know needs a car and I have a car lane
around is not a nice car, then I say, here
you go. And then if they don't like a car,
then then don't take it. Then I'll sell it and
take my money. I guess it's crazy.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
I learned that lesson when I was little.
Speaker 5 (13:58):
My grandpa got me this watch that, unbeknownst to me,
was like a very nice watch, and I don't like watches.
And I was a little kid, and I was like,
I don't want this, and I thought, if, like I
asked him to return it, that he would give me
the money or give me another gift.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
No, I lost that damn watch. I could have sold that.
I never did that again.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
It's funny. I saw that watch on Antique's Roadshow. Yeah,
and the person is it's worth seven gazillion dollars. It's
only it's one of one. Benjamin Benjamin Franklin actually wore it.
If you invented it and wore it, and you wouldn't
actually be here now, you'd be at your house in
the Bahamas.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Except it really does.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
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A freshew. It's Kiki's court. It's fun. Your wish. Your
wish is our demand. Eight.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Your demand is our wish. Take it away, Judge Kiki.
All right, we'll do We'll do Kiki's Court on a
Thursday morning.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
It's time. Let's do it.
Speaker 3 (00:14):
Why not?
Speaker 2 (00:15):
The people domazd it is and then you had me
double checking. Y, No, it is Thursday.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Thank you for that.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
It doesn't really matter what day it is. Just come
in and talk. You talk, It's what I do. Oh wow, yeah,
all right, take it away.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
All right, let's get into the courtroom. The gavel has
been hit. Hey Kiki. My name is Mikayla.
Speaker 4 (00:31):
I'm a nurse and I've been like a second mom
to my little sister. She just started her sophomore year
of college, and I was so proud of her that
I took my savings and help my parents by buying
her a car to get through school. I was so
proud to give her this car and let her know
how extremely proud I am of her for all of
her accomplishments through high school and how well she's been
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doing in college. Well after a week of giving her
this car, I got a text message from my little
sister that read, Hi, sis, I love you so much
and I want to thank you for the gift of
this car. However, if I'm being honest, this doesn't really
fit my style and I would prefer you take the
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car back and maybe give me the money that you
spent on the car.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Because what because this car does not.
Speaker 4 (01:23):
Fit me and my friends aren't even able to fit
inside of the car.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Okay, I'll take it. I'll take the car back. I'll
take the car back. Thank you for all that That's
what I'll do. I'll take the car back.
Speaker 4 (01:34):
She goes on to say, thank you for all that
you do and have done for me. And I don't
want you to think that I am unappreciative. However, I
just want to be honest.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
What I don't want you think I'm gonna appreciate it.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
But you gave me an automobile, and I'm telling you
that it's not good enough. Yes, a free automobile, and
I couldn't afford an automobile.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
So the sister took the car back, but she did
not give her the money.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Why would you? She didn't have to give her the money.
Okay that oh sorry?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Sorry, Judge of the bailiff is acting. I'm the bailiff
that I'm acting up man. All of a sudden, the
bailiff decided he's a judge. I'm so sorry. I'm actually
insulted by this. I'm personally insulted by this.
Speaker 4 (02:13):
You are, and I love that because I was extremely
inssaulted by it as well. I don't My first car
was so trash, but I and I saved up and
my family helped me get it.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
But it was a horrible car. But at that age,
you just.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Take what you can get.
Speaker 4 (02:27):
And that the fact that you wrote your sister back
and asked her to take this car back, and not
only just take it back, but give you the money
for it, as if you can do something more responsible
with the money at your age, to me, it's insane,
it's entitlement, it's it's disrespectful, it's unappreciative, and I feel
very bad for this nurse who has saved up her
money to buy this car for a sister. Now, I
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will say she did attach photos of the car and
it is one of those cars. It's just a two
seater with no no trunk.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
No car.
Speaker 4 (02:59):
Yeah, Mini Cooper, Yeah, what is this a go kart.
Speaker 1 (03:05):
Oh, I don't know what they Okay, so yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:09):
It's is a gay from A to B.
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Why how old is the little sister?
Speaker 3 (03:15):
I don't know if she's a sophomore in college. Okay,
so gen Z, Yeah, I know how I feel about them.
Her brain's not formed.
Speaker 5 (03:20):
They do be hurting our feelings without even trying to,
Like I think, I think like youth is wasted on
the young, like they don't have a perspective, and sometimes
they just say stuff that I you know, go in
the closet and cry and I'm like, she didn't mean it,
she didn't mean it.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
Should there is there is a level of honesty, and
I don't know, it does seem to be generational. I
don't mean to pick on gen Z specifically, because we
need all people to listen to us, including gen Z,
but there does seem to be a like a harshness
with which sometimes the message is delivered, you know, and
like Bell's not this way. Well, I mean Bella does
(03:56):
say what's on her mind. Yeah, pretty unedited. But I mean, like,
you know, we've had other interns in the past where
I'm like, you know, I'm the boss, right, like like
you you work for us, right, you do you want?
You know, and like very well intentioned nice it's it's
it's not even that they didn't work hard or that
they didn't or that they were they were poor and
(04:19):
there was poor intent. It was just there's just a
comfortability that didn't exist when I was coming up, or
when you were coming up, or when you were coming
And I'm not even sure if it's generational or what
did I.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
Really don't know.
Speaker 5 (04:29):
It's also perspective, like they don't know what they don't
know what they haven't lived through.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
I feel like people are afraid to tell people the truth,
Like people are afraid to say, you can't talk to
your boss like that, right, or you can't talk to
the leader or the thing like that. Like you know,
if you you'll get to the point someday where you're
that person and then you decide, you get to make
the decisions. But like, I just can't imagine saying to
(04:56):
someone I don't want to blame this on a generation.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
This just seems downright inconsidered.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
But I can't imagine somebody giving me an automobile and
me being like that doesn't suit my needs. Just give
me the money, But I want to know what you
guys think eight five five three five.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
You guys are the jury because.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
On one hand, you kind of want to encourage your
children to speak up for themselves and advocate for themselves.
It's for what they need, right, But then there's also
this line of like you're just not ungrateful.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Yeah, but sometimes what you need isn't necessarily the responsibility
of the person who you're telling you need it. Like
that's true. Again, I'm not asking for anyone to be mistreated.
I'm not asking for anyone to accept any form of
abuse or or to be treated, you know, again, treated
unfairly or asked to do things against their will or whatever.
But like you know, sometimes if it's hey, you got
(05:46):
to do this, then then you got to do it.
And if you don't want to do it, then maybe
you don't need to be there, Like maybe you gotta
find someplace. But again, everyone's going to expect you to
do something. Yeah, but I.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
Just can't imagine. I cannot imagine.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
How about is how about you take the car it
doesn't suit your needs, You drive that thing around because
it was free, and then in time, maybe you can
save up a little money and then use that car
and the money you saved to get a little bit
better car and then do like everybody else does, where
you just step things up. I mean to me, there
is no different than someone who gets it like an
engagement ring or a gift.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Now, no, I'm serious, this is no different. I give
you a gift.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
It was I'm trying, and one sentimental and one was
trying to be helpful. But nonetheless I'm giving you money. Essentially,
I think this is I want you to have this
and then for you to go, I don't want that one.
Give me the money. I'll go buy a bigger one,
or give me the money.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
No, and maybe it works that way.
Speaker 5 (06:40):
Knew someone at a dealership and had a deal or
wanted that car, so that like she wasn't driving distracted
with other people in it, Like maybe she you know,
maybe it wasn't just an exchange of money. Maybe she
got hooked, like I don't know her reasoning, but I'm
sure she has them.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
Absolutely like a gues it's a guess saver. Now, I
will say, you cannot put much in the car but.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Your body, right, But that's okay. She is tiny, Yeah, you.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
Know what, you know what else.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
You could take the bus, you could you could walk,
that's true. You can't put much on your back either,
can true. As my man, I just my parents joke
about this though, because I didn't they got me a
car for my sixteenth birthday, but they made me think
that wasn't happening. And their deal was, you got to
work all the money you save up until your your
(07:25):
birthday towards a car will match that amount of money.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
That was the deal they made with me.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
So I didn't have much, but I did make I
definitely worked a lot harder than I probably would have otherwise.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
And so I had this little bit of money.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
And but when you know, when I'm like fifteen, I
got a year to go, I'm like, I want this
brand new car. And by the time we got to
my birthday, and like literally the morning of my birthday,
when I didn't think I was getting a car and
I only had, you know, a few thousand dollars to spend,
I would have accepted anything like I would literally you
you could have pulled up and my parents joke about this,
(07:56):
like you went from wanting a brand new whatever to
being like, I will take a used Pinto from nineteen
seventy years and years before I was born. Anything so
that I have the ability to drive around and like,
you know, hang out with my friends and have the
independence and whatever else.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
And you're complaining about it.
Speaker 4 (08:13):
Yeah, no, for people asking the car was they used
Toyota Scion IQ.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Oh, I don't know. I don't know, Erica, what happened?
Good morning, Hi.
Speaker 6 (08:24):
Good morning, Thanks for having me. So I had a
similar experience and my son. I have three sons, and
my oldest son, he's doing so well in school. I said,
let me buy you a car, you know, just to
congratulate you, just to watch you. He said, Mom, you know,
don't buy me a car.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Put this money on my tuition. Oh so put this.
Speaker 6 (08:45):
Money on my tuition. And I was I wasn't hurt,
but I was like, baby, this is what I want
to give you with he said. And he told me
every year that I sent to the car, save the money,
put it on my put it on my tuition. So
now he has a I have another son that's his
the middle son. He's like, Mom, I want the car.
(09:06):
So yeah, I can understand this generation. You got to
hit a miss. You got to He's fifty for save
that thinks their title and fifty percent understand that there's.
Speaker 1 (09:14):
A futurer Oh, Erica went away out, Erica. When are
you back, Erica? Are you there?
Speaker 4 (09:21):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Yeah, no, I look, I'll be honest to me.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
That's a little bit different because you know, maybe your
son realizing how much he owed in college, at least
he was asking you to apply it to something else
that would help him in the long run, as opposed
to telling you that the gift you were giving him
wasn't enough or good, you know what I mean. Like, honestly,
maybe he feels like you were trying to help him out,
but he doesn't mind taking the bus or walking or
(09:44):
taking the train if it means that you shave off
you know, I don't know, six payments on his college
whatever it is.
Speaker 1 (09:51):
You know, maybe he's savvy.
Speaker 6 (09:52):
Enough to know that he wasn't in college doom, but
he's in college now.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Okay, Yes, I have less.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
Of a problem with But I hear what you're saying.
You wanted to do this, and he wanted you to
do But then, thank you, Erica for colling have a
great day. I have less of a problem with that.
Speaker 4 (10:08):
Oh yeah, he was being trying to be responsible it
sound like and respectful and.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Yeah, because you know, I mean, what do people graduate.
I mean, at this rate, hundreds of thousands of dollars
in college loans that they wind up paying off. And
maybe he's seen friends or other people and it's like, man,
you know, I'll be fifty before I pay this off.
So in his mind it was I'll take this sacrifice
if you can help me here, which is different than
what you're giving me.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Isn't good enough.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
Give me the money so I can get something better, right,
But you don't have the money, And that's the point. Hey, Ari, Hi, Hi,
good morning. Okay, you're gen z so we get to
hear from you. How old are you?
Speaker 7 (10:44):
Well, I'm kind of like, oh, I'm twenty two.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
Okay.
Speaker 7 (10:49):
I have a little sister who's kind of growing up
that way. I was raised to always respect your elders,
no matter how long they are, no matter what they
say to you, you always are respectful. But my sister
is kind of in that woke generation where it's like
I have to defend myself, but I feel like she's
confusing defending herself, or like I can talk to them
(11:09):
however I want, And I'm like, no, I understand and yes,
you have that that like right to like defend yourself,
but also you have to be careful with authority figures,
especially in school, like she's cursed teachers out before, she's
got in trouble for that, and it's it's and I'm
just like, no, you do not. It's like it doesn't matter.
(11:30):
I know they're wrong, but come talk to me about that.
Don't be telling them in their faith. And I feel
like that's what happening in our generation is like they're
trying to develop this like authority of like this is me,
this is myself. I'm going to defend myself, but they're
confusing that for like but yet I'm going to talk
to these elders however I want because of that.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Yeah, there is there, definitely is some of that and
very well said Ari. And again, I'm all for people
speaking their mind. I'm all for people standing up for themselves.
I'm all for people you know, not being uh, you know,
minimized or whatever it is. We've come a long way
since you know some of us were at that age,
but at the same time, there still is a hierarchy
and a pecking order, and you know, you don't get
(12:10):
to just say whatever you want. And and people are
ungrateful in every generation too. I mean, I'm sure there
are examples of things just like this story that are
happening with people much older and people who are younger.
So again, I don't mean to pick on any generation,
but it does kind of make me laugh. You know,
God bless ben Hamen who moved you know, the previous
to Bellahamine, ben Hamen who moved south. We love the guy,
(12:31):
but every now and again he'd say something to me,
and I love him. I knew his dad. I mean,
he's like, you know, he's like my little brother in
some ways. But I'd be like, who are you talking to?
Who works for whom?
Speaker 4 (12:41):
You know?
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Ari? Thank you have a great day, you too think?
Very well spoken?
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Yeah, okay, so we all we all agree this is
just wildly ungrateful.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Yeah, it's giving.
Speaker 4 (12:53):
And you fred stories though for it about the new
generation not even wanting to drive. So I'm not mad
at her saying, hey, you know, thank you, But it's
the asking for the money in place of it, you
know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (13:04):
If you don't want the car, then turn the car down. Yeah,
if you're not going to drive it turn the car down.
But if you if someone's offering to do something to
help you, then you're not in a position to tell them.
What do they say? Gift horse in the mouth. You
can't take a gift horse in the mouth, I think
is not the phrase. I think that's how you say.
Speaker 1 (13:22):
It, new gift horse in the mouth?
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Was it look gift? She look at this, Paulina? How's
it go? How does this saying go?
Speaker 7 (13:28):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (13:28):
No, the gift and the horse in the mouth.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
Right, you don't look a gift horse in the mouth
means not being ungrateful when receiving a gift.
Speaker 1 (13:38):
Oh, just the saying wow. So yeah, you know.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I mean if I don't know, if if someone I
know needs a car and I have a car lane
around is not a nice car, then I say, here
you go. And then if they don't like a car,
then then don't take it. Then I'll sell it and
take my money. I guess it's crazy.
Speaker 3 (13:56):
I learned that lesson when I was little.
Speaker 5 (13:58):
My grandpa got me this watch that, unbeknownst to me,
was like a very nice watch, and I don't like watches.
And I was a little kid, and I was like,
I don't want this, and I thought, if, like I
asked him to return it, that he would give me
the money or give me another gift.
Speaker 3 (14:11):
No, I lost that damn watch. I could have sold that.
I never did that again.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
It's funny. I saw that watch on Antique's Roadshow. Yeah,
and the person is it's worth seven gazillion dollars. It's
only it's one of one. Benjamin Benjamin Franklin actually wore it.
If you invented it and wore it, and you wouldn't
actually be here now, you'd be at your house in
the Bahamas.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Except it really does.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
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