April 21, 2025 • 15 mins
Margaret is upset with her daughter because ever since she got divorced she has focused much of her time on her job as a nurse. Her mother thinks she's been negligent to her children since becoming a single mother. Judge Keke tells Margaret what she needs to hear...
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
She's a fresh show. It's Kiki's court. Okay, all right,
is the honorable Kiki is here? Judge kick take it away.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
All right, let's get in the courtroom. The gable has
been hit. It says, Hey, Kiki, my name is Margaret.
I need to know if you think I'm wrong for
telling my daughter that she's not a doctor and her
kids should come first. My daughter has been an er
nurse for ten years. She's a divorced, single mom of two,
and I feel like she has allowed her career as
a nurse to ruin her life.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Since her husband left three years ago.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
She has completely allowed her kids to become door dash kids,
meaning there's never a home cooked meal on a stove,
but instead they're being forced to live off of food
delivery services because she's always at work. I reached my
breaking point when she almost missed my granddaughter's awards ceremony. Luckily,
her ex husband made time to be there with me,
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but my daughter, on the other hand, came running in
late and completely missed my granddaughter's name being called. I
was furious. I told her, you're not doctor, You're just
a nurse. Stop trying to save the world and be
there for your family. Well, my daughter hasn't spoken to
me since, and even stop communication between me and my grandkids.
I feel bad, but I think it was the hard
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truth that she needed to hear.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Am I wrong?
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Well? The just a nurse thing I don't like, So
let's just fix that. The just a nurse, I mean
nurses the backbone of all of them. I mean doctors,
of course, you know, but nurses are out here right
right alongside the doctors helping them, in fact, in many ways,
you know, facilitating a lot of the things that the doctors,
you know, tell them to do, double checking, that kind
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of thing. So just a nurse thing, I don't know
about that. The second thing I would ask you, Kiki,
Judge Gieki, is are they in a position where she
she could work less and still provide? I wonder exactly,
because that's my question, Like, is she in a position
as a single mom where she doesn't need to work
this much she's choosing to or is this what it
takes in order to support the family.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
I don't know many people who work just to work.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
I don't know many people who would sacrifice time with
their children just because. And Margaret, I love you, but
I feel like you are wrong. Okay, Instead of reprimanding
your daughter in front of her ex husband by the way,
and saying you're not a doctor. You need to put
your kids first. How about you give give a little grace,
a little understanding, offer a little help. If you're tied
(02:23):
of your grandkids eating DoorDash every day, why don't you
cook my home cooked meal. You see your daughter busting
her butt to go to work, and clearly she needs
to work. And now you're praising him saying he made
time to be there for his daughter.
Speaker 3 (02:34):
He's a parent, that's what he's supposed to do. Oh
thank you.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
He doesn't get an award or a trophy because he
made time to be there. Like, you have to be
understanding on both parts. And until you made me, you
weren't a single mother, so you don't know the struggle
that comes along with that. And I just feel like
in this case, as a mother, you should have extended
your daughter a little grace. And yes, you can have
a conversation with her and say, hey, we got to
find a work life balance. I don't want you sacrificing
the time you're with the kids help her through that,
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But to just tell you're not.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
A doctor, you're just a nurse. That is insane to me.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
You know, I don't like that angle.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
I wouldn't talk to you either, Miss Margaret, not gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
No, I don't like that angle. No, there's a constructive
way to say. I know that your job is important
to you. I know that you're doing important work, but
you know you're missing a lot of stuff with your
kids and you're gonna regret that. Yes, And so you know,
is there a way to make sure that you you know,
don't you may not be able to make it do everything.
And that's also, by the way, why there's you got
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mom and dad in this situation. So dad can cover sometimes. Yes,
Dad can come to some things that mom can't come to.
Not everybody can be at everything all the time.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Can dad cook a meal for the kids during the weekend?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Can Dad pick them up and be at their activities
insteads since he has all this time in the world, Like,
it's just hard for it's just hard to say, you know,
you're just this and I don't understand why you're doing that.
And anybody who knows a nurse, if you've ever dated
a nurse, if you've ever been raised by a nurse.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
It's not easy for them to just get off the clock.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
It's not a job where you can just go in
and the next person comes in.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
It's like okay, bye.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
No, there's checks and balances, there's patients that need things,
and nurses work extremely hard.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
I don't want to I don't want to fight the doctors.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
But when I go to the anything medical I see
the nurses more than I see the doctors.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
It's different, but you can't discount the work that's being
done by nurses because they're not doctors. It's incredibly important
to the process.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
Yes, No, And I think what really breaks my heart
too in the situation is that when you said, you know,
she ran in laid and saw her daughter, but she
missed her daughter's name being called at the award ceremony.
I think what for me broke my heart was that
that mom already felt so much guilt when she was
on her way there trying to make it on time.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
And I think mom guilt is so real.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
So I think, you know, grandma or in this case,
her mother is really just piling onto the mom guilt
and the frustration that we feel as working moms.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
In my opinion and.
Speaker 4 (04:47):
I think it's it's messed up, and I think this
is a situation where yeah, people have to step in
and help.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
What do I always say, guys, it takes a.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Village and being a single mom, like my hats off
to you, close off to whatever, everything.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Off to you, everything they take any close off or
single moms, that's my job. I laid my body down.
I'm here to support all single moms for their plight.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
Say, man, it can't be easy.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
No, it's eight five three five you guys at the Jerry,
What do you think? Yeah, I don't know. I uh,
I think maybe there's there's some kind of constructive conversation
that might that might need to be had here because
we've talked about this before. You know, growing up, I
had a good friend when I was a little kid.
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His dad was a doctor, and they used to joke
like that the doctor's kid is the least cared for
because doctors have this it's like this out outward calling.
It's like I gotta take care of my patients, take
care of my patients, and they come home look at
their kid. And he didn't not love his kid, but
it was like you're fine, you know, he'd look at him,
and it wasn't he didn't care, but it was just
like you're fine, you know what I mean, Like I
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don't I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna come home, and
you're you're good, like you're not sick. Whatever, move on,
move along. And I do think there's like a there's
probably a complex if you want to call it that,
or wherever where whatever, where doctors feel this need to constantly.
It's like I don't know how you leave that behind, right,
you know what I mean? Like I don't know how
you do a shift and then just leave and then
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you're I mean, I feel like I would be there
all the time trying to save everybody, you know, and
you can't. Yeah, I can't do that because I gotta
go home and now be a family guy too, you know,
I'm caring for my patients all the time. Then I'm coming.
I'm sure it's a very difficult balance.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
And an er nurse, it's NonStop.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
I'm sure, like you see all types of crazy stuff
happening all day and I'm sure it's just not hard
to get off. And I just I could never see
myself mom shaming my daughter who is divorced, single trying
to make it with two kids, like grandma, pick.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Up some of the slag well, and you can encourage
her to maybe make sure her priorities are in order. Yeah,
but I also think that minimizing what she does in
an effort to do that is not the way to
go about it. You're just a nurse, no, no, no.
If you want her to reorganize and reconsider, hey, look,
I think you're working a little too much over time
and you're missing a little too much stuff. Now, again,
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the question that we don't know the answer to is
does she have to work the overtime? Like, is that
what is required for her to provide a life for
her family? Is the dad not contributing? We don't know
any of these things. Is she choosing to work because
she doesn't want to be at home, because she doesn't
want to be a mom, because she wants someone else
to handle that? Then there's probably a caring conversation that
could be had, you know, to address that. Not Yeah,
(07:30):
what you do is not that important. Hey, Nina, good morning.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Welcome, good morning.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
So well you heard the whole thing Kiki's court. What
do you think.
Speaker 5 (07:39):
It's horrible? My daughter is a nurse?
Speaker 6 (07:41):
She works fifteen hour shifts.
Speaker 5 (07:43):
She tries to pick up. She's a single mom, she
owns her own home, she has to pay the mortgage,
she has to feed her son, plus her sons has
special needs. So we all help about. I cook a
meal for her if she doesn't have time, I even
cook her lunch.
Speaker 7 (07:58):
So she takes it.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
But I can't grandmother help out right instead of you know,
putting her down.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Yeah, that's wrong. Well, and unfortunately, you know, most working
parents can't take a vacation day or take off for
every single event exactly, which is why the Paulina's point.
You know, that's where you come in, Nina. That's where
aunts and uncles come in. And that's where you know,
because again, it takes it takes a village.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Sometimes it takes a village.
Speaker 6 (08:22):
It takes a village.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Yeah, your daughter's lucky to have you there. She is rich.
Speaker 8 (08:28):
My grand I drive an hour for the other grandkids
to take them to school. I get up at six
in the morning, take them to school at six thirty
so I can get up there at seven thirty. I
feed them practice, and then I come back and do
the same thing every Wednesday and every other weekend.
Speaker 5 (08:45):
For my grandkid that's at the other set.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
See I do everything, and you're you're being proactive, Nina,
as opposed to his grandmother who's you know, again, maybe
the message is correct. Maybe this woman needs to, you know,
kind of reorganize here, but to put her down in
the getting.
Speaker 5 (09:01):
Me over for the kids if he doesn't want them
new uber.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
There's a different way to go about this. Thank you, Nina,
have a great day you as well. Thank you for listening. Tammy, Hi, Tammy,
good morning.
Speaker 7 (09:11):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Hey, So you are a you're a CNA. So you're
a nurse, right, Oh, I'm a nurse's aid. Okay, well
all right, and and so you're in the field, and
so you can relate to this. What do you think
when you hear this story about this, this grandmother putting
her own daughter down because she's not spending enough time
with her kids and because she was late to something
because she was working.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
Right.
Speaker 9 (09:32):
I follow her pain because I was also a single
mom and I recently became a CNA, and I see
what the nurses go through, especially the nurses we have children,
you know, constantly end up being late to things because
we can't just leave our positions nurses, aids or nurses.
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We can't just leave because we have patients who depend
on us. And not only that, we are support staff.
We're there to support everybody and the nurses and Sienna
and I feel like it's it's so harsh for her
to to do that to her daughter.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Yeah, you should.
Speaker 9 (10:13):
Try to support her because nurses work so hard, like
so hard, and they are the backbone of any medical facility.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Right and tell me if you're taking time off, if
you're if you're not working at fifteen, that means someone
else has to work the fifteen who probably already worked one.
So you know, again, it's not like there's just so
many people out there that can fill in all the
time for every practice and game and thing, which is
a shame, but you know, that's that's how she's making
a living for her family.
Speaker 9 (10:44):
There is also a very big nursing and just nursing
shortage period, Like nurses and c anda's are in high
demand right now because almost any facility you go to
is going to be understaffed. I really don't know very
much any facilities right now that aren't struggling with staffing,
So I can't see why she's just probably running late
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to things.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Well, Tammy, thank you have a great day.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Thanks for calling you too, Thank you for listening.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Jennifer High, good morning.
Speaker 6 (11:15):
Hi, good morning.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
So Kiki's Court, Basically, you've got a mom of a
woman who's a nurse and a single mother criticizing her
daughter for not putting her kids first in her opinion,
which has now resulted in this rift between them because
Mom's like, hey, you need to do more stuff with
your kids. And this woman is a nurse and I
assume she's working a lot in long hours and we
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don't know again if it's because she has to to
provide or because who knows what the reason is. But
according to the according to mom, her own mother, you're
not doing enough. What do you think?
Speaker 6 (11:51):
First, I want to say that this one really irks
me on so many different levels. Bring the single mother
is so hard, and you know, some time you have
to do what you have to do to just be
able to support your kids and support your family. And
trust me, I guarantee you there's times where she doesn't
want to be at work and she wants to be
at home with her kids and you know, going to
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every single function, but you can't and mom guilty is real, yeah, girl,
and right, and the fact that her own mother is
making her feel worse about just having to support her
kids like that is not okay. Like, if you see
your daughter is struggling, do something to help her out
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instead of making her feel worse about having to support
her family and make that decision.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
I agree. Thank you, Jennifer, have a great day.
Speaker 6 (12:40):
Thank you, Thank you guys, thanks.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
For calling, Thanks for listening to Lissa. Hi, good morning.
Speaker 7 (12:45):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
So you were the kid of the mom who was
a nurse, so this resonates with you.
Speaker 7 (12:51):
Yes, one of five?
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Okay, all right, and so when you hear this story,
what do you think?
Speaker 7 (12:57):
Hell, it breaks my heart a little bit. Us the
grandmother has lacked compassion, was what I'm getting from that.
Being young and seeing my mom she went to college,
became an arin full time nurse all by herself. Was
all five of us, and because she didn't really have
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that close knit with her mother, we picked up the
slack with each other, like we knew how to like
make something on the sof to cook or whatever. Again,
it was five of us, So I understand maybe her
kids a little younger, but like I said, her mother
just lacked a little compassion. I was more understanding of
my mother's situation, so I knew she couldn't be there
like I understand, you know, it's a little envious for
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other kids, but it was more understanding than anything. And
I never resented my mother for any of that.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Did you ever feel like that to her?
Speaker 7 (13:46):
It's crazy, I'm.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Starting to rupt you, Julyssa. But did you ever feel like,
just to flip it, that your mom, even though she
was doing what she had to do, were you ever
jealous of the patients, Like it's almost like maybe she
cares about them more than us, even though you knew
that way. But did you ever feel that way?
Speaker 7 (14:02):
Not at all. I mean, they're in the hospital, I'm not.
There was no jo, you know what I mean. They're
obviously unwill ill, can't take care of themselves, whereas I'm
fortunate and I have good health. You know, a mother
who when you know, if something was wrong, she did
step in and take care of it. You know, It's
not like we were neglected in that sense. So I
never felt jealous of the patience of anything. I felt
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sorry for them, you know.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Yeah, thank you for calling to listen. Have a good day,
you too, thank you, because I've heard that one before too,
with like people who are in relationships with people in
the healthcare field, for example, it's like they give everything
they've got all day and then they come home and
they go to sleep, and it's like, well, wait a minute,
hold on, you know what about this whole of their life?
You got me, you got family, whatever. And I think
that's why the thing I was saying before, the joke
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being that doctor's kids are the worst cared for, and
it's said tongue in cheek, but it's like it's probably
true because you know, all day long, I'm you know,
I'm diagnosing people and I'm doing surgeries and I'm you know,
doing whatever. And then I come home and I'm like,
one more right, they don't miss O're not loved. It's
just like not no, you're fighting.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Oh you can just get desensitized to like, you know,
your calm and call when I'm I'm curing real life
issues at work.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
So I think it's a real thing.
Speaker 7 (15:09):
It is.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
I think he was a nurse.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
I used to be like I'm having a migraine. She
was like, please go lay down somewhere, Like I I'll
please you know, so you do get desensitized. But at
the end of the day, like I like how Ju
Lisa just said it. She admired her mom's sacrifice for
her patients, and she understood why she was doing it.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
She had to she had to feed them.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
And you think the mom would be proud of her
daughter and then would just say, you know what, I
can help pick pick up the slack, right exactly, That's
what she would think, Margaret, come on now the Entertainment
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Fred Show,
She's a fresh show. It's Kiki's court. Okay, all right,
is the honorable Kiki is here? Judge kick take it away.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
All right, let's get in the courtroom. The gable has
been hit. It says, Hey, Kiki, my name is Margaret.
I need to know if you think I'm wrong for
telling my daughter that she's not a doctor and her
kids should come first. My daughter has been an er
nurse for ten years. She's a divorced, single mom of two,
and I feel like she has allowed her career as
a nurse to ruin her life.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Since her husband left three years ago.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
She has completely allowed her kids to become door dash kids,
meaning there's never a home cooked meal on a stove,
but instead they're being forced to live off of food
delivery services because she's always at work. I reached my
breaking point when she almost missed my granddaughter's awards ceremony. Luckily,
her ex husband made time to be there with me,
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but my daughter, on the other hand, came running in
late and completely missed my granddaughter's name being called. I
was furious. I told her, you're not doctor, You're just
a nurse. Stop trying to save the world and be
there for your family. Well, my daughter hasn't spoken to
me since, and even stop communication between me and my grandkids.
I feel bad, but I think it was the hard
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truth that she needed to hear.
Speaker 3 (01:15):
Am I wrong?
Speaker 1 (01:16):
Well? The just a nurse thing I don't like, So
let's just fix that. The just a nurse, I mean
nurses the backbone of all of them. I mean doctors,
of course, you know, but nurses are out here right
right alongside the doctors helping them, in fact, in many ways,
you know, facilitating a lot of the things that the doctors,
you know, tell them to do, double checking, that kind
(01:38):
of thing. So just a nurse thing, I don't know
about that. The second thing I would ask you, Kiki,
Judge Gieki, is are they in a position where she
she could work less and still provide? I wonder exactly,
because that's my question, Like, is she in a position
as a single mom where she doesn't need to work
this much she's choosing to or is this what it
takes in order to support the family.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
I don't know many people who work just to work.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
I don't know many people who would sacrifice time with
their children just because. And Margaret, I love you, but
I feel like you are wrong. Okay, Instead of reprimanding
your daughter in front of her ex husband by the way,
and saying you're not a doctor. You need to put
your kids first. How about you give give a little grace,
a little understanding, offer a little help. If you're tied
(02:23):
of your grandkids eating DoorDash every day, why don't you
cook my home cooked meal. You see your daughter busting
her butt to go to work, and clearly she needs
to work. And now you're praising him saying he made
time to be there for his daughter.
Speaker 3 (02:34):
He's a parent, that's what he's supposed to do. Oh
thank you.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
He doesn't get an award or a trophy because he
made time to be there. Like, you have to be
understanding on both parts. And until you made me, you
weren't a single mother, so you don't know the struggle
that comes along with that. And I just feel like
in this case, as a mother, you should have extended
your daughter a little grace. And yes, you can have
a conversation with her and say, hey, we got to
find a work life balance. I don't want you sacrificing
the time you're with the kids help her through that,
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But to just tell you're not.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
A doctor, you're just a nurse. That is insane to me.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
You know, I don't like that angle.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
I wouldn't talk to you either, Miss Margaret, not gonna lie.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
No, I don't like that angle. No, there's a constructive
way to say. I know that your job is important
to you. I know that you're doing important work, but
you know you're missing a lot of stuff with your
kids and you're gonna regret that. Yes, And so you know,
is there a way to make sure that you you know,
don't you may not be able to make it do everything.
And that's also, by the way, why there's you got
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mom and dad in this situation. So dad can cover sometimes. Yes,
Dad can come to some things that mom can't come to.
Not everybody can be at everything all the time.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
Can dad cook a meal for the kids during the weekend?
Speaker 2 (03:39):
Can Dad pick them up and be at their activities
insteads since he has all this time in the world, Like,
it's just hard for it's just hard to say, you know,
you're just this and I don't understand why you're doing that.
And anybody who knows a nurse, if you've ever dated
a nurse, if you've ever been raised by a nurse.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
It's not easy for them to just get off the clock.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
It's not a job where you can just go in
and the next person comes in.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
It's like okay, bye.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
No, there's checks and balances, there's patients that need things,
and nurses work extremely hard.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
I don't want to I don't want to fight the doctors.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
But when I go to the anything medical I see
the nurses more than I see the doctors.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
It's different, but you can't discount the work that's being
done by nurses because they're not doctors. It's incredibly important
to the process.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
Yes, No, And I think what really breaks my heart
too in the situation is that when you said, you know,
she ran in laid and saw her daughter, but she
missed her daughter's name being called at the award ceremony.
I think what for me broke my heart was that
that mom already felt so much guilt when she was
on her way there trying to make it on time.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
And I think mom guilt is so real.
Speaker 4 (04:39):
So I think, you know, grandma or in this case,
her mother is really just piling onto the mom guilt
and the frustration that we feel as working moms.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
In my opinion and.
Speaker 4 (04:47):
I think it's it's messed up, and I think this
is a situation where yeah, people have to step in
and help.
Speaker 3 (04:51):
What do I always say, guys, it takes a.
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Village and being a single mom, like my hats off
to you, close off to whatever, everything.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
Off to you, everything they take any close off or
single moms, that's my job. I laid my body down.
I'm here to support all single moms for their plight.
Speaker 3 (05:09):
Say, man, it can't be easy.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
No, it's eight five three five you guys at the Jerry,
What do you think? Yeah, I don't know. I uh,
I think maybe there's there's some kind of constructive conversation
that might that might need to be had here because
we've talked about this before. You know, growing up, I
had a good friend when I was a little kid.
(05:31):
His dad was a doctor, and they used to joke
like that the doctor's kid is the least cared for
because doctors have this it's like this out outward calling.
It's like I gotta take care of my patients, take
care of my patients, and they come home look at
their kid. And he didn't not love his kid, but
it was like you're fine, you know, he'd look at him,
and it wasn't he didn't care, but it was just
like you're fine, you know what I mean, Like I
(05:52):
don't I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna come home, and
you're you're good, like you're not sick. Whatever, move on,
move along. And I do think there's like a there's
probably a complex if you want to call it that,
or wherever where whatever, where doctors feel this need to constantly.
It's like I don't know how you leave that behind, right,
you know what I mean? Like I don't know how
you do a shift and then just leave and then
(06:14):
you're I mean, I feel like I would be there
all the time trying to save everybody, you know, and
you can't. Yeah, I can't do that because I gotta
go home and now be a family guy too, you know,
I'm caring for my patients all the time. Then I'm coming.
I'm sure it's a very difficult balance.
Speaker 3 (06:27):
And an er nurse, it's NonStop.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
I'm sure, like you see all types of crazy stuff
happening all day and I'm sure it's just not hard
to get off. And I just I could never see
myself mom shaming my daughter who is divorced, single trying
to make it with two kids, like grandma, pick.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Up some of the slag well, and you can encourage
her to maybe make sure her priorities are in order. Yeah,
but I also think that minimizing what she does in
an effort to do that is not the way to
go about it. You're just a nurse, no, no, no.
If you want her to reorganize and reconsider, hey, look,
I think you're working a little too much over time
and you're missing a little too much stuff. Now, again,
(07:07):
the question that we don't know the answer to is
does she have to work the overtime? Like, is that
what is required for her to provide a life for
her family? Is the dad not contributing? We don't know
any of these things. Is she choosing to work because
she doesn't want to be at home, because she doesn't
want to be a mom, because she wants someone else
to handle that? Then there's probably a caring conversation that
could be had, you know, to address that. Not Yeah,
(07:30):
what you do is not that important. Hey, Nina, good morning.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Welcome, good morning.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
So well you heard the whole thing Kiki's court. What
do you think.
Speaker 5 (07:39):
It's horrible? My daughter is a nurse?
Speaker 6 (07:41):
She works fifteen hour shifts.
Speaker 5 (07:43):
She tries to pick up. She's a single mom, she
owns her own home, she has to pay the mortgage,
she has to feed her son, plus her sons has
special needs. So we all help about. I cook a
meal for her if she doesn't have time, I even
cook her lunch.
Speaker 7 (07:58):
So she takes it.
Speaker 5 (07:59):
But I can't grandmother help out right instead of you know,
putting her down.
Speaker 1 (08:04):
Yeah, that's wrong. Well, and unfortunately, you know, most working
parents can't take a vacation day or take off for
every single event exactly, which is why the Paulina's point.
You know, that's where you come in, Nina. That's where
aunts and uncles come in. And that's where you know,
because again, it takes it takes a village.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Sometimes it takes a village.
Speaker 6 (08:22):
It takes a village.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
Yeah, your daughter's lucky to have you there. She is rich.
Speaker 8 (08:28):
My grand I drive an hour for the other grandkids
to take them to school. I get up at six
in the morning, take them to school at six thirty
so I can get up there at seven thirty. I
feed them practice, and then I come back and do
the same thing every Wednesday and every other weekend.
Speaker 5 (08:45):
For my grandkid that's at the other set.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
See I do everything, and you're you're being proactive, Nina,
as opposed to his grandmother who's you know, again, maybe
the message is correct. Maybe this woman needs to, you know,
kind of reorganize here, but to put her down in
the getting.
Speaker 5 (09:01):
Me over for the kids if he doesn't want them
new uber.
Speaker 1 (09:03):
There's a different way to go about this. Thank you, Nina,
have a great day you as well. Thank you for listening. Tammy, Hi, Tammy,
good morning.
Speaker 7 (09:11):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
Hey, So you are a you're a CNA. So you're
a nurse, right, Oh, I'm a nurse's aid. Okay, well
all right, and and so you're in the field, and
so you can relate to this. What do you think
when you hear this story about this, this grandmother putting
her own daughter down because she's not spending enough time
with her kids and because she was late to something
because she was working.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
Right.
Speaker 9 (09:32):
I follow her pain because I was also a single
mom and I recently became a CNA, and I see
what the nurses go through, especially the nurses we have children,
you know, constantly end up being late to things because
we can't just leave our positions nurses, aids or nurses.
(09:54):
We can't just leave because we have patients who depend
on us. And not only that, we are support staff.
We're there to support everybody and the nurses and Sienna
and I feel like it's it's so harsh for her
to to do that to her daughter.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Yeah, you should.
Speaker 9 (10:13):
Try to support her because nurses work so hard, like
so hard, and they are the backbone of any medical facility.
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Right and tell me if you're taking time off, if
you're if you're not working at fifteen, that means someone
else has to work the fifteen who probably already worked one.
So you know, again, it's not like there's just so
many people out there that can fill in all the
time for every practice and game and thing, which is
a shame, but you know, that's that's how she's making
a living for her family.
Speaker 9 (10:44):
There is also a very big nursing and just nursing
shortage period, Like nurses and c anda's are in high
demand right now because almost any facility you go to
is going to be understaffed. I really don't know very
much any facilities right now that aren't struggling with staffing,
So I can't see why she's just probably running late
(11:07):
to things.
Speaker 1 (11:08):
Well, Tammy, thank you have a great day.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
Thanks for calling you too, Thank you for listening.
Speaker 1 (11:13):
Jennifer High, good morning.
Speaker 6 (11:15):
Hi, good morning.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
So Kiki's Court, Basically, you've got a mom of a
woman who's a nurse and a single mother criticizing her
daughter for not putting her kids first in her opinion,
which has now resulted in this rift between them because
Mom's like, hey, you need to do more stuff with
your kids. And this woman is a nurse and I
assume she's working a lot in long hours and we
(11:39):
don't know again if it's because she has to to
provide or because who knows what the reason is. But
according to the according to mom, her own mother, you're
not doing enough. What do you think?
Speaker 6 (11:51):
First, I want to say that this one really irks
me on so many different levels. Bring the single mother
is so hard, and you know, some time you have
to do what you have to do to just be
able to support your kids and support your family. And
trust me, I guarantee you there's times where she doesn't
want to be at work and she wants to be
at home with her kids and you know, going to
(12:12):
every single function, but you can't and mom guilty is real, yeah, girl,
and right, and the fact that her own mother is
making her feel worse about just having to support her
kids like that is not okay. Like, if you see
your daughter is struggling, do something to help her out
(12:33):
instead of making her feel worse about having to support
her family and make that decision.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
I agree. Thank you, Jennifer, have a great day.
Speaker 6 (12:40):
Thank you, Thank you guys, thanks.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
For calling, Thanks for listening to Lissa. Hi, good morning.
Speaker 7 (12:45):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
So you were the kid of the mom who was
a nurse, so this resonates with you.
Speaker 7 (12:51):
Yes, one of five?
Speaker 1 (12:52):
Okay, all right, and so when you hear this story,
what do you think?
Speaker 7 (12:57):
Hell, it breaks my heart a little bit. Us the
grandmother has lacked compassion, was what I'm getting from that.
Being young and seeing my mom she went to college,
became an arin full time nurse all by herself. Was
all five of us, and because she didn't really have
(13:17):
that close knit with her mother, we picked up the
slack with each other, like we knew how to like
make something on the sof to cook or whatever. Again,
it was five of us, So I understand maybe her
kids a little younger, but like I said, her mother
just lacked a little compassion. I was more understanding of
my mother's situation, so I knew she couldn't be there
like I understand, you know, it's a little envious for
(13:39):
other kids, but it was more understanding than anything. And
I never resented my mother for any of that.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
Did you ever feel like that to her?
Speaker 7 (13:46):
It's crazy, I'm.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
Starting to rupt you, Julyssa. But did you ever feel like,
just to flip it, that your mom, even though she
was doing what she had to do, were you ever
jealous of the patients, Like it's almost like maybe she
cares about them more than us, even though you knew
that way. But did you ever feel that way?
Speaker 7 (14:02):
Not at all. I mean, they're in the hospital, I'm not.
There was no jo, you know what I mean. They're
obviously unwill ill, can't take care of themselves, whereas I'm
fortunate and I have good health. You know, a mother
who when you know, if something was wrong, she did
step in and take care of it. You know, It's
not like we were neglected in that sense. So I
never felt jealous of the patience of anything. I felt
(14:23):
sorry for them, you know.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
Yeah, thank you for calling to listen. Have a good day,
you too, thank you, because I've heard that one before too,
with like people who are in relationships with people in
the healthcare field, for example, it's like they give everything
they've got all day and then they come home and
they go to sleep, and it's like, well, wait a minute,
hold on, you know what about this whole of their life?
You got me, you got family, whatever. And I think
that's why the thing I was saying before, the joke
(14:45):
being that doctor's kids are the worst cared for, and
it's said tongue in cheek, but it's like it's probably
true because you know, all day long, I'm you know,
I'm diagnosing people and I'm doing surgeries and I'm you know,
doing whatever. And then I come home and I'm like,
one more right, they don't miss O're not loved. It's
just like not no, you're fighting.
Speaker 2 (15:02):
Oh you can just get desensitized to like, you know,
your calm and call when I'm I'm curing real life
issues at work.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
So I think it's a real thing.
Speaker 7 (15:09):
It is.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
I think he was a nurse.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
I used to be like I'm having a migraine. She
was like, please go lay down somewhere, Like I I'll
please you know, so you do get desensitized. But at
the end of the day, like I like how Ju
Lisa just said it. She admired her mom's sacrifice for
her patients, and she understood why she was doing it.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
She had to she had to feed them.
Speaker 1 (15:28):
And you think the mom would be proud of her
daughter and then would just say, you know what, I
can help pick pick up the slack, right exactly, That's
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