August 4, 2025 • 14 mins
A listener wants to know if she's in the wrong for allowing her husband to sleep through his alarms to miss his job interview!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
She's a fresh show.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
It's Kiki's court, judge, Kiky, all rise for the honorable judge. Kiki,
your honor, yes, take it away?
Speaker 1 (00:10):
All right, let's step into the courtroom.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
The gavel has been hit, it says, hey, Kike, Am
I wrong for making my husband miss his interview?
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
My thirty five year old husband has been out of
work for six months. I've been carrying the bills on
my salary and working overtime.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
To keep us afloat.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Last week, he finally got an interview for a job
he's been chasing for years, which has truly been a
dream opportunity for him. I was excited and relieved, and
the interview was scheduled at nine am. He said he'd
wake up by seven point thirty to prepare. However, the
night before he stayed up until two am playing video games.
(00:50):
I was reminding him twice that he needed to get up,
and he waved me off and got snappy. So the
next morning I got up at six forty five to
go to work.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
He was still dead asleep.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
His alarm started blaring at seven point thirty and I
watched him snooze it three times at this point to
avoid an argument, I decided I'm not waking him up,
and I left for work. He finally woke up at
nine point fifteen, missed the interview, completely freaked out and
called me at work asking me why didn't I wake him?
And I told him, you're not a child. He was
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livid and said that I was passive, aggressive, unsupportive, and
that I sabotaged him. Now he's not talking to me,
and even his mother called me to say I should
have had his back. I think he needed this wake
up call. But now I'm wondering if I crossed the line.
Am I wrong? Judge Kiki, girl, You're not wrong, girl,
(01:44):
you are not wrong. If his mother want to get involved,
she should have called. I don't know, mother's always called.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Hey, I backed off, right, Yes, but no, you're not wrong.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
This is a grown man who it's been unemployed for
six months. You don't have anything else to do but
prepare for this interview, Okay, you have no other obligations
right now?
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Yeah, A lazy person with no job is that's a
bad combination.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I mean, and things happen.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
People lose their jobs every day, so I don't want
to even say it's just a lazy person, but this story.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
But you're right, no, yeah, I'm talking about this.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
I mean, six months no job, and then when you
have the job interview, you don't take it seriously right,
That to me is not responsible.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
And then your wife is warning you, like women tend
to do, you know, give you a little reminder and
you get snappedy.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
She did, and she did look out for him. She
was like, hey, let's get some rest before this interview. Yeah,
and then you're like nah, and you keep playing your
video games.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
And then now, now, sis, you were a little petty
because you were there as the alarm was going off.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
That was a little petty.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
You know, she watched them, she watched some snoozy alarm.
But she was like, I'm not arguing with you, and
she left.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
It's not up to her.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
The her argument that I would make, though, is abou
about this sleeping through the alarm and her being aware
of that is this affects her negatively too, So you know,
she may have taught him a lesson, but it doesn't
sound like he's someone who's going to interpret that lesson
very well. And ultimately, now this is another job he
won't get. So how does that affect her negatively? How
did that behavior really Did it really penalize him or
(03:20):
did it really penalize her?
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Well, I think at this point she I would be
considering some other things because if this is maybe this
may not be a first time offender where you're sleeping
through alarms. You might sleep through alarms all the time,
and maybe that's why you don't have.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
A job, are you guys with the jury eight five, five, five, nine,
one one three five.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
She could have woken him up. I wouldn't have either.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
But then I guess if I don't wake him up
and he doesn't have a job and I want to
stay with him, then that's on me at some point,
like I've chosen this.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Life, did you though?
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Well? Yeah, because again no job for six months. I
know that it's hard to get a job. Yeah, it's
very difficult to get a job right now. But the
behavior like this is not going to your point, might
be the reason why he doesn't have a job exactly.
And so then the question is she gonna motivate him,
She's gonna wake him up, Is she gonna you know,
push him out the door, try and help him? And
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and she doesn't have to do that, but if she
doesn't do that, then he's probably never going to get one.
And then if she stays with him, then she's choosing
that life.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
So you say leave him all together.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Yeah, but you just said that too, So no, you're
talking about like how I don't even say I'm the
only one that said that.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
You're not wrong, you said the same thing.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I think, honestly, at some point you gotta ask you
if this is a one time deal.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Maybe he didn't want this.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
I don't know that there could be other parameters here,
but I wonder, I wonder if this is just kind
of not his mentality. And if that's the case, then
maybe this is what you're up against for, you know,
as a mentality. And maybe this is you know, if
you choose to continue to be with this person and
they choose to make those kind of choices and you
can't really complain too much to other people.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
Yeah, right, But tough priorities though, like of maybe playing
video games at night. And maybe it's a little different,
but why don't you do some side hustle like go,
you know, drive for uber, or do door dash or
do something and bring an income. Again, Yes, getting a
job is very hard it's not like they're just handing
them out these days. But I think you can still
bring in some income. I think you can still have
that drive to do it. He seems like he doesn't
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want to do it, right, That's what I'm getting.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
I don't know this man. I don't want to know
this man. But it just seems like me doesn't want that.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Because if jobs are hard to get, and you want
a job, and you're well intentioned, and you have a
job interview, that might be the one night that you
take it seriously, yes, and that you don't stay up,
and that you make sure that you're awake, and that
you're at the job interview you and you do your
best to get the job. But again, I gotta wonder
does this guy even care?
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Right?
Speaker 3 (05:40):
And then I remind you about it and I'm up
late telling you to go to bed, and you get
snappy with me, and I've been paying these meals for
six months alone, working over time, sir.
Speaker 5 (05:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Then then for him to turn around a gaslight her
and be like, somehow this is your fault.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Right, you sabotage He was waiting for that opportunity, avatar.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
But I will say, and this is that this is
not her fault. But how long does this go And
we don't have all the context, but how long does
this go on before you need to start making choices
for you that may not involve this person anymore?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
That's real? You know? Hey, Brian, Yes, how you doing? Brian?
Good morning Keiky's Court. You're the jury? What say you?
Speaker 6 (06:20):
I wanted to know what it would it be the
same if the show was on all the footnet with
the woman that was at work Because me get a
bad rep sometimes and my wife has been out of
work for over two years, and I'll still pay the
bills and do what I got to do for my family,
and that's considered being a man. But when it's when
it's turned around, you know, why don't we put as
much heat on a woman not being able to find
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a job out here for everybody?
Speaker 1 (06:43):
I hear what he's.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Saying, but doesn't But doesn't that depend on sort of
the parameter within your relationship and what you guys have decided.
For example, if you two have decided together collectively that
you both need to work to maintain your lifestyle, and
there's no intensity for her to live up to her
end of the deal, I don't. I don't necessarily know
that this has to be gender based. Right If you
(07:05):
have agreed to take care of the family and she's
taking care of the house and the kids, well that's
a job, So you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
So I guess I guess.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
What I said is is, yeah, he sounds like a deadbeat.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
But I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
You know, your wife, is your life predicated on her
working too? Are you having to do twice as much
now or or or is that not the deal that
you have?
Speaker 6 (07:28):
We we downgraded our lifestyle, so it's a lot of
things that we don't do in order to in order
for us to stay financially safe. But it's a lot
of things that I would like to, like my family
go back to doing if my wife would see it,
back to work. But for right now, we're maintaining everything.
We have a home through cars, and we're doing okay
(07:49):
because I get the whole men her work.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
Yeah, I hear, I hear you, right, I hear the
men providing, the man providing thing and whatever. But I
guess what I would be thinking about is, regardless of
your gender, what what are our roles? What have we
decided we're going together? Who is going to pay what bills?
What have we decided? And are you living up to
what you agreed to do? And if the answer is no,
then that would be my problem. I wouldn't necessarily be well,
(08:12):
you're the man, so you should or whatever, only if
that's what we decided.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
But thank you, Brian, have of the day, No problem, Brian.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
Her some job links, Brian, Brian will how to get
back to work?
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Yeah, he does, he does. I just raising kids. Though
it sounds like she's holding it down at home.
Speaker 4 (08:27):
He didn't seem to upset that when Fred was kind of,
you know, explaining that situation.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
But yeah, again, it's what did they agree to? He
she's playing video games that night. That's what I really
wanted to know. I'm very triggered by this.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Yeah, it's right because and is she still expecting the
same life that they had before, but yet she doesn't
have a job. I mean, there's so many different aspects
of this, but I guess I would say, whatever relationship
you're in, if you live with someone else and you're
expected to do this, and you're expected to do that,
and then you stop doing the part that we agreed
to together, that you're going to do. That would be
my problem.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
I agree with that. As a wife, I agree.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
With them if I if we say, hey, I'm i'm
gonna stay home and I'm gonna take care of the kids,
and I'm gonna take care of the house, and I'm
gonna take care of all these other things, and I'm
not going to bring in an income.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
I need you to go make up make the income. Well,
then I don't.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
I wouldn't pressure her to make money because we agreed
that she's gonna do the other things that we'd have
to pay someone to do exactly.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
And all parties need to be clear on the agreement. Yes,
you know, sometimes people just wake up and decide that
they're done working.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Like excuse me, excuse me, cue Like somebody said, she
could have woke him up. It could have relieved the press.
It could have relieved the pressure off of her. Again,
I mean, what she did didn't exactly help her cause,
but she didn't have to do it right.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
She shouldn't be obligated to wake a grown man up
who has been off for six months. What else are
you doing, my boy? Yeah, I would have been I
would have been sitting on a computer waiting at four
in the morning, you know, on.
Speaker 5 (09:51):
My touch, right, and the alarm thing triggers me to like,
who can't wake up to an alarm?
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Yes, Like, even when I had roommates, it's going off,
it's going on, get up.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
I would have woken him up and left for work.
This way, it's on him. She's also married to a
man child. Yeah, I mean, Mike, Mike, Mike, Mike, you're saying,
leave this man.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Yeah, well, I mean, just.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
He didn't sleep through the alarm.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
He snoozed it three times. That's a good point.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
He wake up, So this is not he's just not motivated,
you're saying, And it's a good likelihood that this isn't
going to change.
Speaker 6 (10:28):
I'm like you, guys, I got a four m alarm
every day.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
That's right, Go off, king, put your boots on the ground,
go to work.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Yeah yeah, and that turns killing you on junk mail,
deliberate chunk mail.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Hey you yes, no, thank you, thank you, yes, thank
you so much.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Have a good day, Mike. That's right, thank you, hard
working man.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Right there, he said enough with us, Yeah, Mike, No,
he said what he said, that's right.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Yeah, Yeah, Mike was triggered too. He was lost for
words almost already period. Right, good man, Savannah, he's a
little bit speechless.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Hey Sarah, Sarah, how you doing.
Speaker 7 (11:18):
I'm doing well. How are you guys?
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Great? Thank you for calling him, for listening. So Keiky's Court.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Basically, this woman's with a guy who's been out of
work for six months, had a job interview, chose to
stay up all night playing video games. Lauren went off.
He didn't get up for the interview. She wants it
all go down, didn't do anything about it. Now he's
mad at her. What say you?
Speaker 7 (11:35):
Yeah? Not okay. My husband had the same issue when
we first had her twins. He lost his job during COVID.
We had our twins in twenty twenty, and he would
stay up late playing video games because he thought he
could handle it. He was so sleep deprived that he
ended up sleepwalking. And he wasn't helping me at all
with the twins, and they were newborns, and it got
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so bad that we were five every day and I
finally told him I'm not your mother, and if you
want to go have someone be a mother to, you
can move back in with your mother. And I think
you realized that I was serious, and he shaped up
and never even touched the video game at all after that.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Yeah, and that sucks that you kind of had to
put the fire under his butt, but sometimes people need that.
I mean, at least you gave him a chance to
clean it up.
Speaker 7 (12:25):
Yeah. No, not acceptable, because I.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Know people go through stuff in life and they get
depressed or whatever, and your job as a partner, I'm
sure would beat it to lift him up, but for
how long?
Speaker 3 (12:34):
Right? Right?
Speaker 7 (12:36):
And shame on the mother in law for even stepping in. Honestly,
if that was one of my boys, I would have
been like, you're not moving back in here, fix it
with your wife to better. I raised you better than that.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Well, yes, I'll go ahead and say it. Maybe we
know where the problem lies. Hello, you know, thank you, Sarah,
I have a good day.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Thank you, because we all I think.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
Sometimes people think they're doing kids a favor when they
all have their back. But I think sometimes people are
They're going to be a product of what of what
they were raised as and what their parents continue to enable. Right,
So if every time he screws up he calls mom,
and mom calls and yells at the wife, well then
what is why would he Where is he getting the
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idea that he needs to do better?
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Exactly? Because it's like, no, no, that's my baby boy.
He's perfect.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Well he's not taking care of his obligations, so he's
not perfect. He's hurting her, Yes he is, but maybe
he feels enabled by it because Mom's going to solve
his problems every time. Hey Joanna, Yes, Hi, Hi, good morning.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
What do you think?
Speaker 8 (13:37):
Good morning? I love you guys. I want to say
that he totally is gaslighting her. Yeah, he is just
fifting the blame. He hits snooze three times, like it's
not for responsibility. I agree with you, guys. Yeah, he's
totally guess lit her. It's not for a responsibility to
make sure that he gets up and goes to the interview.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Like Ki said, Moby solving your problems. Come on, I'd
be so embarrassed.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
I love to say I didn't raise him like that.
Oh yes you did, Miss Shirley.
Speaker 5 (14:09):
And I feel like sometimes like as women, we feel
like we're the moms of our partners sometimes in certain situations,
and we shouldn't.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Yeah, that's true, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6 (14:18):
I'm not your memory
She's a fresh show.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
It's Kiki's court, judge, Kiky, all rise for the honorable judge. Kiki,
your honor, yes, take it away?
Speaker 1 (00:10):
All right, let's step into the courtroom.
Speaker 3 (00:12):
The gavel has been hit, it says, hey, Kike, Am
I wrong for making my husband miss his interview?
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Okay?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
My thirty five year old husband has been out of
work for six months. I've been carrying the bills on
my salary and working overtime.
Speaker 1 (00:27):
To keep us afloat.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Last week, he finally got an interview for a job
he's been chasing for years, which has truly been a
dream opportunity for him. I was excited and relieved, and
the interview was scheduled at nine am. He said he'd
wake up by seven point thirty to prepare. However, the
night before he stayed up until two am playing video games.
(00:50):
I was reminding him twice that he needed to get up,
and he waved me off and got snappy. So the
next morning I got up at six forty five to
go to work.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
He was still dead asleep.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
His alarm started blaring at seven point thirty and I
watched him snooze it three times at this point to
avoid an argument, I decided I'm not waking him up,
and I left for work. He finally woke up at
nine point fifteen, missed the interview, completely freaked out and
called me at work asking me why didn't I wake him?
And I told him, you're not a child. He was
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livid and said that I was passive, aggressive, unsupportive, and
that I sabotaged him. Now he's not talking to me,
and even his mother called me to say I should
have had his back. I think he needed this wake
up call. But now I'm wondering if I crossed the line.
Am I wrong? Judge Kiki, girl, You're not wrong, girl,
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you are not wrong. If his mother want to get involved,
she should have called. I don't know, mother's always called.
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Hey, I backed off, right, Yes, but no, you're not wrong.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
This is a grown man who it's been unemployed for
six months. You don't have anything else to do but
prepare for this interview, Okay, you have no other obligations
right now?
Speaker 2 (02:07):
Yeah, A lazy person with no job is that's a
bad combination.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I mean, and things happen.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
People lose their jobs every day, so I don't want
to even say it's just a lazy person, but this story.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
But you're right, no, yeah, I'm talking about this.
Speaker 2 (02:21):
I mean, six months no job, and then when you
have the job interview, you don't take it seriously right,
That to me is not responsible.
Speaker 3 (02:28):
And then your wife is warning you, like women tend
to do, you know, give you a little reminder and
you get snappedy.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
She did, and she did look out for him. She
was like, hey, let's get some rest before this interview. Yeah,
and then you're like nah, and you keep playing your
video games.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
And then now, now, sis, you were a little petty
because you were there as the alarm was going off.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
That was a little petty.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
You know, she watched them, she watched some snoozy alarm.
But she was like, I'm not arguing with you, and
she left.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
It's not up to her.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
The her argument that I would make, though, is abou
about this sleeping through the alarm and her being aware
of that is this affects her negatively too, So you know,
she may have taught him a lesson, but it doesn't
sound like he's someone who's going to interpret that lesson
very well. And ultimately, now this is another job he
won't get. So how does that affect her negatively? How
did that behavior really Did it really penalize him or
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did it really penalize her?
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Well, I think at this point she I would be
considering some other things because if this is maybe this
may not be a first time offender where you're sleeping
through alarms. You might sleep through alarms all the time,
and maybe that's why you don't have.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
A job, are you guys with the jury eight five, five, five, nine,
one one three five.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
She could have woken him up. I wouldn't have either.
Speaker 2 (03:40):
But then I guess if I don't wake him up
and he doesn't have a job and I want to
stay with him, then that's on me at some point,
like I've chosen this.
Speaker 1 (03:47):
Life, did you though?
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Well? Yeah, because again no job for six months. I
know that it's hard to get a job. Yeah, it's
very difficult to get a job right now. But the
behavior like this is not going to your point, might
be the reason why he doesn't have a job exactly.
And so then the question is she gonna motivate him,
She's gonna wake him up, Is she gonna you know,
push him out the door, try and help him? And
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and she doesn't have to do that, but if she
doesn't do that, then he's probably never going to get one.
And then if she stays with him, then she's choosing
that life.
Speaker 1 (04:20):
So you say leave him all together.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Yeah, but you just said that too, So no, you're
talking about like how I don't even say I'm the
only one that said that.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
You're not wrong, you said the same thing.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I think, honestly, at some point you gotta ask you
if this is a one time deal.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
Maybe he didn't want this.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
I don't know that there could be other parameters here,
but I wonder, I wonder if this is just kind
of not his mentality. And if that's the case, then
maybe this is what you're up against for, you know,
as a mentality. And maybe this is you know, if
you choose to continue to be with this person and
they choose to make those kind of choices and you
can't really complain too much to other people.
Speaker 4 (04:56):
Yeah, right, But tough priorities though, like of maybe playing
video games at night. And maybe it's a little different,
but why don't you do some side hustle like go,
you know, drive for uber, or do door dash or
do something and bring an income. Again, Yes, getting a
job is very hard it's not like they're just handing
them out these days. But I think you can still
bring in some income. I think you can still have
that drive to do it. He seems like he doesn't
(05:17):
want to do it, right, That's what I'm getting.
Speaker 1 (05:19):
I don't know this man. I don't want to know
this man. But it just seems like me doesn't want that.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Because if jobs are hard to get, and you want
a job, and you're well intentioned, and you have a
job interview, that might be the one night that you
take it seriously, yes, and that you don't stay up,
and that you make sure that you're awake, and that
you're at the job interview you and you do your
best to get the job. But again, I gotta wonder
does this guy even care?
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Right?
Speaker 3 (05:40):
And then I remind you about it and I'm up
late telling you to go to bed, and you get
snappy with me, and I've been paying these meals for
six months alone, working over time, sir.
Speaker 5 (05:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
Then then for him to turn around a gaslight her
and be like, somehow this is your fault.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Right, you sabotage He was waiting for that opportunity, avatar.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
But I will say, and this is that this is
not her fault. But how long does this go And
we don't have all the context, but how long does
this go on before you need to start making choices
for you that may not involve this person anymore?
Speaker 1 (06:12):
That's real? You know? Hey, Brian, Yes, how you doing? Brian?
Good morning Keiky's Court. You're the jury? What say you?
Speaker 6 (06:20):
I wanted to know what it would it be the
same if the show was on all the footnet with
the woman that was at work Because me get a
bad rep sometimes and my wife has been out of
work for over two years, and I'll still pay the
bills and do what I got to do for my family,
and that's considered being a man. But when it's when
it's turned around, you know, why don't we put as
much heat on a woman not being able to find
(06:41):
a job out here for everybody?
Speaker 1 (06:43):
I hear what he's.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Saying, but doesn't But doesn't that depend on sort of
the parameter within your relationship and what you guys have decided.
For example, if you two have decided together collectively that
you both need to work to maintain your lifestyle, and
there's no intensity for her to live up to her
end of the deal, I don't. I don't necessarily know
that this has to be gender based. Right If you
(07:05):
have agreed to take care of the family and she's
taking care of the house and the kids, well that's
a job, So you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
So I guess I guess.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
What I said is is, yeah, he sounds like a deadbeat.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
But I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:17):
You know, your wife, is your life predicated on her
working too? Are you having to do twice as much
now or or or is that not the deal that
you have?
Speaker 6 (07:28):
We we downgraded our lifestyle, so it's a lot of
things that we don't do in order to in order
for us to stay financially safe. But it's a lot
of things that I would like to, like my family
go back to doing if my wife would see it,
back to work. But for right now, we're maintaining everything.
We have a home through cars, and we're doing okay
(07:49):
because I get the whole men her work.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
Yeah, I hear, I hear you, right, I hear the
men providing, the man providing thing and whatever. But I
guess what I would be thinking about is, regardless of
your gender, what what are our roles? What have we
decided we're going together? Who is going to pay what bills?
What have we decided? And are you living up to
what you agreed to do? And if the answer is no,
then that would be my problem. I wouldn't necessarily be well,
(08:12):
you're the man, so you should or whatever, only if
that's what we decided.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
But thank you, Brian, have of the day, No problem, Brian.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
Her some job links, Brian, Brian will how to get
back to work?
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Yeah, he does, he does. I just raising kids. Though
it sounds like she's holding it down at home.
Speaker 4 (08:27):
He didn't seem to upset that when Fred was kind of,
you know, explaining that situation.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
But yeah, again, it's what did they agree to? He
she's playing video games that night. That's what I really
wanted to know. I'm very triggered by this.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Yeah, it's right because and is she still expecting the
same life that they had before, but yet she doesn't
have a job. I mean, there's so many different aspects
of this, but I guess I would say, whatever relationship
you're in, if you live with someone else and you're
expected to do this, and you're expected to do that,
and then you stop doing the part that we agreed
to together, that you're going to do. That would be
my problem.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
I agree with that. As a wife, I agree.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
With them if I if we say, hey, I'm i'm
gonna stay home and I'm gonna take care of the kids,
and I'm gonna take care of the house, and I'm
gonna take care of all these other things, and I'm
not going to bring in an income.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
I need you to go make up make the income. Well,
then I don't.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
I wouldn't pressure her to make money because we agreed
that she's gonna do the other things that we'd have
to pay someone to do exactly.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
And all parties need to be clear on the agreement. Yes,
you know, sometimes people just wake up and decide that
they're done working.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
Like excuse me, excuse me, cue Like somebody said, she
could have woke him up. It could have relieved the press.
It could have relieved the pressure off of her. Again,
I mean, what she did didn't exactly help her cause,
but she didn't have to do it right.
Speaker 3 (09:38):
She shouldn't be obligated to wake a grown man up
who has been off for six months. What else are
you doing, my boy? Yeah, I would have been I
would have been sitting on a computer waiting at four
in the morning, you know, on.
Speaker 5 (09:51):
My touch, right, and the alarm thing triggers me to like,
who can't wake up to an alarm?
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Yes, Like, even when I had roommates, it's going off,
it's going on, get up.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
I would have woken him up and left for work.
This way, it's on him. She's also married to a
man child. Yeah, I mean, Mike, Mike, Mike, Mike, you're saying,
leave this man.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
Yeah, well, I mean, just.
Speaker 6 (10:17):
He didn't sleep through the alarm.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
He snoozed it three times. That's a good point.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
He wake up, So this is not he's just not motivated,
you're saying, And it's a good likelihood that this isn't
going to change.
Speaker 6 (10:28):
I'm like you, guys, I got a four m alarm
every day.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
That's right, Go off, king, put your boots on the ground,
go to work.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
Yeah yeah, and that turns killing you on junk mail,
deliberate chunk mail.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
Hey you yes, no, thank you, thank you, yes, thank
you so much.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Have a good day, Mike. That's right, thank you, hard
working man.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
Right there, he said enough with us, Yeah, Mike, No,
he said what he said, that's right.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
Yeah, Yeah, Mike was triggered too. He was lost for
words almost already period. Right, good man, Savannah, he's a
little bit speechless.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Hey Sarah, Sarah, how you doing.
Speaker 7 (11:18):
I'm doing well. How are you guys?
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Great? Thank you for calling him, for listening. So Keiky's Court.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
Basically, this woman's with a guy who's been out of
work for six months, had a job interview, chose to
stay up all night playing video games. Lauren went off.
He didn't get up for the interview. She wants it
all go down, didn't do anything about it. Now he's
mad at her. What say you?
Speaker 7 (11:35):
Yeah? Not okay. My husband had the same issue when
we first had her twins. He lost his job during COVID.
We had our twins in twenty twenty, and he would
stay up late playing video games because he thought he
could handle it. He was so sleep deprived that he
ended up sleepwalking. And he wasn't helping me at all
with the twins, and they were newborns, and it got
(11:58):
so bad that we were five every day and I
finally told him I'm not your mother, and if you
want to go have someone be a mother to, you
can move back in with your mother. And I think
you realized that I was serious, and he shaped up
and never even touched the video game at all after that.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Yeah, and that sucks that you kind of had to
put the fire under his butt, but sometimes people need that.
I mean, at least you gave him a chance to
clean it up.
Speaker 7 (12:25):
Yeah. No, not acceptable, because I.
Speaker 2 (12:27):
Know people go through stuff in life and they get
depressed or whatever, and your job as a partner, I'm
sure would beat it to lift him up, but for
how long?
Speaker 3 (12:34):
Right? Right?
Speaker 7 (12:36):
And shame on the mother in law for even stepping in. Honestly,
if that was one of my boys, I would have
been like, you're not moving back in here, fix it
with your wife to better. I raised you better than that.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
Well, yes, I'll go ahead and say it. Maybe we
know where the problem lies. Hello, you know, thank you, Sarah,
I have a good day.
Speaker 1 (12:53):
Thank you, because we all I think.
Speaker 2 (12:56):
Sometimes people think they're doing kids a favor when they
all have their back. But I think sometimes people are
They're going to be a product of what of what
they were raised as and what their parents continue to enable. Right,
So if every time he screws up he calls mom,
and mom calls and yells at the wife, well then
what is why would he Where is he getting the
(13:16):
idea that he needs to do better?
Speaker 1 (13:18):
Exactly? Because it's like, no, no, that's my baby boy.
He's perfect.
Speaker 2 (13:22):
Well he's not taking care of his obligations, so he's
not perfect. He's hurting her, Yes he is, but maybe
he feels enabled by it because Mom's going to solve
his problems every time. Hey Joanna, Yes, Hi, Hi, good morning.
Speaker 1 (13:36):
What do you think?
Speaker 8 (13:37):
Good morning? I love you guys. I want to say
that he totally is gaslighting her. Yeah, he is just
fifting the blame. He hits snooze three times, like it's
not for responsibility. I agree with you, guys. Yeah, he's
totally guess lit her. It's not for a responsibility to
make sure that he gets up and goes to the interview.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Like Ki said, Moby solving your problems. Come on, I'd
be so embarrassed.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
I love to say I didn't raise him like that.
Oh yes you did, Miss Shirley.
Speaker 5 (14:09):
And I feel like sometimes like as women, we feel
like we're the moms of our partners sometimes in certain situations,
and we shouldn't.
Speaker 1 (14:16):
Yeah, that's true, you know what I mean.
Speaker 6 (14:18):
I'm not your memory
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