September 12, 2025 • 9 mins
Fred reads a viral Reddit thread of last name drama between ex husband and wife!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, morality Monday on a Friday. I feel like
(00:02):
morality Monday on a Friday. So here's the situation. This
is a quote from the person who wrote him, but
this is I'm just reading from what they said. I
was married to my ex husband for four years. I
didn't change my name when I first got married because
neither of us cared very much. I only changed it
after our daughter was born because I wanted us to
share a last name. This is It was posted on Reddit, actually,
(00:24):
which is where I get. You know, people think that
I do all of the preparation for the show and
the elevator on the way up, and sometimes it sounds
like it that little screen that says captivating gives me
a little STAPs, you feel stats on the way up,
like what time it is?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
And I'm like, this is perfect, It's all I need.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
This is great.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I'm gonna get in the Hall of Fame for sure
this way and then and then I do the show.
But no, it's Reddit is really the secret, It really is,
except it can get real weird on there, so I
really I really can't start for the top and work
my way down like this is. You know, this was
an alien topic on there this morning. There's some conspiracy theories,
so I really can't use it completely. But nonetheless, this
(01:01):
woman explained that she and her ex husband divorced back
in twenty twenty two and that the fact that she
had his last name has never been an issue. During
a recent visit to pick up her daughter from a
custody visit, she then bumped into the ex husband's new girlfriend,
who confronted her about the name change. And here's the quote,
going back to the Reddit post, she told me that
her and my ex want to get married, but the
(01:24):
only thing standing in the way is that I haven't
changed my last name back. The ex wife wrote about this,
so she said that essentially she needs the ex has
got to change her name back to her original name
so that the new wife or girlfriend to be wife
would be the only one with the last name.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
That's the hold up. That's not the hold up. No, girl,
that's not the hold up. That's not why it is.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Due is not proposing to you because many people can
have the same last name.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Yes, and in fact, I think it's pretty common.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
You know, people get married, they change their last name,
they get divorced, They're like, I'm not changing my name again,
that's a big pain.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
My kids had the last name. We'll just keep it whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
You know, some people do change your last name back,
but then their kids would have a different last name
because oftentimes the father's last name is the one that
you know prevails. So I mean, yeah, you know, I
know people who've been married three times and now there's
all these people with the last name, Like, what is
what it is? Well, it has nothing to do with
getting married and not getting married. No, you don't own it.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
No, absolutely not. Girl, he line to you. If that's
the excuse he's telling you, and you're dumb.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
I would not bother you.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
So no, go ahead ahead eight five, five, five nine
one one oh three five. You can contact the same number.
I mean, if a guy said to you or a girl,
I guess in this case, it would be the guy
if you're taking his last name, if he said.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
To you, uh, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I mean, I really want you to have my last
name and be the only woman with it, and says
my ex does you know until she changes it, we're
not gonna be able to do it. I mean, wouldn't
you be like okay, really or do you feel some
kind of ownership over the name. Would you have a
problem as the person being proposed to, you know, marrying
the guy, would you have a problem if someone else
said the last name before you?
Speaker 4 (03:00):
They have children, correct, right, this couple, You know, I
would not have an issue with that, Like you are
the mother of his children. I can't get rid of
the kids, Like y'all are bonded forever. I mean, it's
a name, it's you were married, you did your time,
you earned it.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
This sounds like some weird possessive this thing and control thing.
And I guess if I if I were marrying somebody
who were like, let's say it's let's say this is
on her, Let's say she's the one obsessing over this,
I'd be I would have issues. Wait, hold on, you don't.
We don't own people here, we don't. We can't rewrite history.
Like if you want to get married, fine, if you
want to take my last name, great, But like, I'm
(03:34):
not going to go back and undo everything I've done before.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
I can't.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
No, you know, it's like people that want you to
they come in your life and they're like, I don't
want you to have anything to do with any of
those people. I mean, maybe there are situations where they're
bad influences, or maybe that you don't need to be
hanging out with an AX or something, but like, you
don't control my narrative, you don't control how this works.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
We're moving forward together, right, yeah, for sure?
Speaker 1 (03:54):
And then if I'm if I'm the girl and the
guy's like, yeah, I can't do it, won't be able
to propose until we get my to drop that name, well,
then I'm like, this is BS.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
He's reaching reaching.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
What would you all agree? Are we all like a
universal front about this, like a universal unless I'm changing
if I'm the ex wife, I'm changing the kids' names
back to my.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Name, and then that's what my mom did. Hey yeah,
then clean, sweet goodbye.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
But she doesn't want to change your name and she's
not going to do it now because it's it's his
it's her exes now girlfriend forcing it so so so
she's second, I'm gonna be like, no, I'm not doing it.
I'm not doing it for you, And what does it
even mean? Like I was already married to him, I
had kids with him, I did it with him.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Look at it, like you can't take that from me.
The seconds someone texted.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
If he didn't care that the first wife didn't have
his last name, why does he care about the second one?
Which is why I wonder if it's her and not him,
If this is a she issue, you're not in your head.
Speaker 5 (04:54):
I feel like it's it's her, and I feel like
that's a huge red flag, Like what if something that
actually matters comes up during their marriage?
Speaker 2 (05:02):
She cares about something that does not matter at all? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
What else do we have to what else do we
have to erase and pretend didn't happen.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Yeah, I'm I don't know, I'm out on her. I
don't like it. You're right, you were in on her previously.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
Yeah, I don't know her, but I'm out. At one
point you were like maybe with her, but then but
now it's were out. I'm moving on. We're completely out
all this marriage talk. Are you're going to have Kiki
have second thoughts and other text?
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Well? Oh no, girl? Are you taking his name? Yes?
On social media?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
On social media? I would think that would be the
one place you wouldn't take.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Name Yeah, no, no, no, I'll change my Facebook. I add
his name to my Facebook.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
But what about what about on like legal documents?
Speaker 6 (05:39):
I don't have to have it all it okay, minor stuff. Deal,
we're pump faking a little bit. No, well he knows
it now, Tanya. Oh boy, you've been Tana.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
You know what. That's what it says. I'm sorry, should
have read the fanatics. It's Friday. I apologize. I love you.
So you've met in this situation, this exact thing. Please.
Speaker 7 (06:07):
So I got married in nineteen had a kid, and
then like two years in the marriage, he went to divorce,
you know whatever. I didn't necessarily want it. But his
second wife three years later asked me if I changed
my last name and I said no, this is before
they obviously got married. And I said no. I said,
(06:29):
if he didn't want me to have his last name,
and then he should have thought about that before he
married me.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Period.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
So this woman wanted to be the only one that
had the last name, like the only like like somehow
ill that made her elite or something.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
You've already been married to him. It happened. It's done, right, Yeah,
get over it. Yeah exactly. Okay, So what happened and
we had.
Speaker 8 (06:50):
We had a child with it with I had a
child with him, and I'm like, I'm not changing my
last name from my child, and then now he is
on his third wife.
Speaker 9 (07:01):
Oh boy, And I kept his last name for like
ten ten ten years, and then I ended up getting
remarried and now I have a totally different last name
than any of my kids.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Okay, well it's gonna confusing now, So Tanya, I need
I'm gonna need to start drawing a map a little
bit here to see where everyone's going. We've got three husbands,
we've got two wives, we got three lives. No, it does, no,
there's no judgment. I'm just I'm just trying to make
sure we know whose last name is who's But you
didn't change.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Your last name.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
She still married him and then she took the name,
and so she had to get over it.
Speaker 8 (07:34):
Yeah, she had to, because.
Speaker 7 (07:37):
If he only wanted one person to have his last name,
then he should have thought about.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
That before he married me or divorced me.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
And then the second time and the third right, Yeah, yeah,
I think so.
Speaker 7 (07:50):
Maybe actually, maybe try to work on your marriage before
you just awor.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Somebody, you know what. Maybe, So Tanya, thank you have.
Speaker 9 (07:56):
A good day, and can you tell.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Me maybe don't I love you too? Maybe don't just
be out here giving out your last name like it's nothing, right, Jillian, Hey,
you're saying to girlfriend Ululu here.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
I think we all agree on that, right, Oh yeah, definitely. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
I mean what would you do in this situation. You'd
be like, no, I'm not changing it. If you were
the ex, You're not doing anything for this person.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Yeah, changing your name is just a total tain and
she's not part of your life, so screw it.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Yeah, I'm not going to do it for you.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
You know, like if I were going to do it,
I would have done it before. I'm not going to
do it because this guy's new girlfriend's intimidated by it.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
It's just a name.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Yeah, Unfortunately, I think the girlfriend really is like in
her own little girls, It just doesn't see the red
FLEs that were clearly.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
In front for her.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Yeah. I think so too. Thank you, Jillian. Have a
good day, you do.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
If someone texted pay me, it's gonna be like if
I get traded to another NFL team or something, and
it's like, oh, you know, your number fifty five is
already number fifty five, and I'm like, I want fifty
friends coming. He wants fifty five and the guy who's
got it's like okay million box
All right, morality Monday on a Friday. I feel like
(00:02):
morality Monday on a Friday. So here's the situation. This
is a quote from the person who wrote him, but
this is I'm just reading from what they said. I
was married to my ex husband for four years. I
didn't change my name when I first got married because
neither of us cared very much. I only changed it
after our daughter was born because I wanted us to
share a last name. This is It was posted on Reddit, actually,
(00:24):
which is where I get. You know, people think that
I do all of the preparation for the show and
the elevator on the way up, and sometimes it sounds
like it that little screen that says captivating gives me
a little STAPs, you feel stats on the way up,
like what time it is?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
And I'm like, this is perfect, It's all I need.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
This is great.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
I'm gonna get in the Hall of Fame for sure
this way and then and then I do the show.
But no, it's Reddit is really the secret, It really is,
except it can get real weird on there, so I
really I really can't start for the top and work
my way down like this is. You know, this was
an alien topic on there this morning. There's some conspiracy theories,
so I really can't use it completely. But nonetheless, this
(01:01):
woman explained that she and her ex husband divorced back
in twenty twenty two and that the fact that she
had his last name has never been an issue. During
a recent visit to pick up her daughter from a
custody visit, she then bumped into the ex husband's new girlfriend,
who confronted her about the name change. And here's the quote,
going back to the Reddit post, she told me that
her and my ex want to get married, but the
(01:24):
only thing standing in the way is that I haven't
changed my last name back. The ex wife wrote about this,
so she said that essentially she needs the ex has
got to change her name back to her original name
so that the new wife or girlfriend to be wife
would be the only one with the last name.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
That's the hold up. That's not the hold up. No, girl,
that's not the hold up. That's not why it is.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Due is not proposing to you because many people can
have the same last name.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Yes, and in fact, I think it's pretty common.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
You know, people get married, they change their last name,
they get divorced, They're like, I'm not changing my name again,
that's a big pain.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
My kids had the last name. We'll just keep it whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
You know, some people do change your last name back,
but then their kids would have a different last name
because oftentimes the father's last name is the one that
you know prevails. So I mean, yeah, you know, I
know people who've been married three times and now there's
all these people with the last name, Like, what is
what it is? Well, it has nothing to do with
getting married and not getting married. No, you don't own it.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
No, absolutely not. Girl, he line to you. If that's
the excuse he's telling you, and you're dumb.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
I would not bother you.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
So no, go ahead ahead eight five, five, five nine
one one oh three five. You can contact the same number.
I mean, if a guy said to you or a girl,
I guess in this case, it would be the guy
if you're taking his last name, if he said.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
To you, uh, yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
I mean, I really want you to have my last
name and be the only woman with it, and says
my ex does you know until she changes it, we're
not gonna be able to do it. I mean, wouldn't
you be like okay, really or do you feel some
kind of ownership over the name. Would you have a
problem as the person being proposed to, you know, marrying
the guy, would you have a problem if someone else
said the last name before you?
Speaker 4 (03:00):
They have children, correct, right, this couple, You know, I
would not have an issue with that, Like you are
the mother of his children. I can't get rid of
the kids, Like y'all are bonded forever. I mean, it's
a name, it's you were married, you did your time,
you earned it.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
This sounds like some weird possessive this thing and control thing.
And I guess if I if I were marrying somebody
who were like, let's say it's let's say this is
on her, Let's say she's the one obsessing over this,
I'd be I would have issues. Wait, hold on, you don't.
We don't own people here, we don't. We can't rewrite history.
Like if you want to get married, fine, if you
want to take my last name, great, But like, I'm
(03:34):
not going to go back and undo everything I've done before.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
I can't.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
No, you know, it's like people that want you to
they come in your life and they're like, I don't
want you to have anything to do with any of
those people. I mean, maybe there are situations where they're
bad influences, or maybe that you don't need to be
hanging out with an AX or something, but like, you
don't control my narrative, you don't control how this works.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
We're moving forward together, right, yeah, for sure?
Speaker 1 (03:54):
And then if I'm if I'm the girl and the
guy's like, yeah, I can't do it, won't be able
to propose until we get my to drop that name, well,
then I'm like, this is BS.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
He's reaching reaching.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
What would you all agree? Are we all like a
universal front about this, like a universal unless I'm changing
if I'm the ex wife, I'm changing the kids' names
back to my.
Speaker 2 (04:14):
Name, and then that's what my mom did. Hey yeah,
then clean, sweet goodbye.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
But she doesn't want to change your name and she's
not going to do it now because it's it's his
it's her exes now girlfriend forcing it so so so
she's second, I'm gonna be like, no, I'm not doing it.
I'm not doing it for you, And what does it
even mean? Like I was already married to him, I
had kids with him, I did it with him.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
Look at it, like you can't take that from me.
The seconds someone texted.
Speaker 1 (04:43):
If he didn't care that the first wife didn't have
his last name, why does he care about the second one?
Which is why I wonder if it's her and not him,
If this is a she issue, you're not in your head.
Speaker 5 (04:54):
I feel like it's it's her, and I feel like
that's a huge red flag, Like what if something that
actually matters comes up during their marriage?
Speaker 2 (05:02):
She cares about something that does not matter at all? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
What else do we have to what else do we
have to erase and pretend didn't happen.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
Yeah, I'm I don't know, I'm out on her. I
don't like it. You're right, you were in on her previously.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
Yeah, I don't know her, but I'm out. At one
point you were like maybe with her, but then but
now it's were out. I'm moving on. We're completely out
all this marriage talk. Are you're going to have Kiki
have second thoughts and other text?
Speaker 2 (05:24):
Well? Oh no, girl? Are you taking his name? Yes?
On social media?
Speaker 1 (05:30):
On social media? I would think that would be the
one place you wouldn't take.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Name Yeah, no, no, no, I'll change my Facebook. I add
his name to my Facebook.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
But what about what about on like legal documents?
Speaker 6 (05:39):
I don't have to have it all it okay, minor stuff. Deal,
we're pump faking a little bit. No, well he knows
it now, Tanya. Oh boy, you've been Tana.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
You know what. That's what it says. I'm sorry, should
have read the fanatics. It's Friday. I apologize. I love you.
So you've met in this situation, this exact thing. Please.
Speaker 7 (06:07):
So I got married in nineteen had a kid, and
then like two years in the marriage, he went to divorce,
you know whatever. I didn't necessarily want it. But his
second wife three years later asked me if I changed
my last name and I said no, this is before
they obviously got married. And I said no. I said,
(06:29):
if he didn't want me to have his last name,
and then he should have thought about that before he
married me.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Period.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
So this woman wanted to be the only one that
had the last name, like the only like like somehow
ill that made her elite or something.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
You've already been married to him. It happened. It's done, right, Yeah,
get over it. Yeah exactly. Okay, So what happened and
we had.
Speaker 8 (06:50):
We had a child with it with I had a
child with him, and I'm like, I'm not changing my
last name from my child, and then now he is
on his third wife.
Speaker 9 (07:01):
Oh boy, And I kept his last name for like
ten ten ten years, and then I ended up getting
remarried and now I have a totally different last name
than any of my kids.
Speaker 1 (07:15):
Okay, well it's gonna confusing now, So Tanya, I need
I'm gonna need to start drawing a map a little
bit here to see where everyone's going. We've got three husbands,
we've got two wives, we got three lives. No, it does, no,
there's no judgment. I'm just I'm just trying to make
sure we know whose last name is who's But you
didn't change.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Your last name.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
She still married him and then she took the name,
and so she had to get over it.
Speaker 8 (07:34):
Yeah, she had to, because.
Speaker 7 (07:37):
If he only wanted one person to have his last name,
then he should have thought about.
Speaker 3 (07:41):
That before he married me or divorced me.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
And then the second time and the third right, Yeah, yeah,
I think so.
Speaker 7 (07:50):
Maybe actually, maybe try to work on your marriage before
you just awor.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Somebody, you know what. Maybe, So Tanya, thank you have.
Speaker 9 (07:56):
A good day, and can you tell.
Speaker 1 (07:59):
Me maybe don't I love you too? Maybe don't just
be out here giving out your last name like it's nothing, right, Jillian, Hey,
you're saying to girlfriend Ululu here.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
I think we all agree on that, right, Oh yeah, definitely. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
I mean what would you do in this situation. You'd
be like, no, I'm not changing it. If you were
the ex, You're not doing anything for this person.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Yeah, changing your name is just a total tain and
she's not part of your life, so screw it.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Yeah, I'm not going to do it for you.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
You know, like if I were going to do it,
I would have done it before. I'm not going to
do it because this guy's new girlfriend's intimidated by it.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
It's just a name.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Yeah, Unfortunately, I think the girlfriend really is like in
her own little girls, It just doesn't see the red
FLEs that were clearly.
Speaker 1 (08:42):
In front for her.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
Yeah. I think so too. Thank you, Jillian. Have a
good day, you do.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
If someone texted pay me, it's gonna be like if
I get traded to another NFL team or something, and
it's like, oh, you know, your number fifty five is
already number fifty five, and I'm like, I want fifty
friends coming. He wants fifty five and the guy who's
got it's like okay million box
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