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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Thank you for having us.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Saw this Morning the Radio, the iHeart Have any time,
search for a Fred Show on demand, Fred Show Radio,
on the Gram, The Fred Show, TikTok for behind the
scenes video content, and on the Tangent. Yesterday our offer
Uncentered podcast. We got a little bit of an insight
into childbirth. Of course, Paulina is back. Gave birth to
baby Gabriella approximately six weeks ago. Yeah, and you came
right back to work. Now, I have a lot of
(00:23):
questions because you wrote a bunch of stuff down on here.
This is not me being overly intrusive, guys. I mean,
this is like I get a little guide each day
to what everyone's willing to talk about, and you're willing
to talk about your your post What was this visit?
It wasn't your You've been to the doctor since you
had a baby, right.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Yeah, they saw me two weeks after, but they want
to see you six weeks for your postpartum.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
So they come and they're taking a look. They're taking
a look and look, and you were signed off for
for adult activities.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
I'm clear.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Oh hell yeah, did you go ahead and dive right in?
Speaker 3 (00:54):
I wanted to, but I don't have protection, and I
heard that if you don't stay protective, you know, you
can have some Irish twins as they call them.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Because I did point that out yesterday. I was very concerned,
I know, you know, because you were you were thinking
you were gonna get the okay. Oh yeah, you got
the okay, and then you were thinking that you're ready
to just sort of partake in those things. And I
think it was on the tangentary off the year. I
asked you, and what are you doing to prevent another one?
And the answer is nothing?
Speaker 3 (01:20):
Yeah, no, I I guess I can't really even get
birth control depending what I want to do right, I
can't really get it for another week or so. But
my husband, Hobby and I have talked and we're like, well,
what are the options?
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Right?
Speaker 3 (01:31):
I don't want more kids? And I say this now,
I may change my mind, but I don't think I
want any more. But I feel like the easiest way
would be for him to go and just get snipped
and just call it a day.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I agree with that, you know what I mean, It's
easiest way.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
But yesterday shout out to a LEXI are my provider
at where I go. She mentioned like that it is reversible.
But if you do want another kid whatever, it's like
not worth the process. She says, I would be one
hundred and twenty percent positive you don't want more kids.
She's like, you know, so I'm just letting you know,
and I'm just like, true, true, But I think I
I've never been on birth control too, Like that's my
(02:03):
my toxic trait.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
I never been on birth control, So I think that's
your toxic.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Yeah, I've never been on it, Like truthfully, I just
never have, and like this is the first time I'm
going to have to be.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
So we're trying to.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Figure out if that's just in case because you don't
want him to go, you know, semi permanently shut down
the factory just yet.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Right because I mean, like you guys, no man should
change my mind every five minutes about everything. And it's
the truth, right, So, like I don't know what if
I do change my mind or what if I I
don't know, hible.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
For him to put his sperm in a bank, I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
I didn't know that was an option.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
I think he just took it in a freezer right
just right next to like the popsicles, right, I would
label it and you know, just to make sure it
doesn't am. So yesterday was the first that you left
him stay at home dad, Yes, because he took a
bunch of time off from the firehouse. He's a firefighter, yep.
And how did that go?
Speaker 3 (02:51):
It went well from my understanding. But also I know
how hard it is to care for a newborn, you know,
being I guess to stay at home on for six
weeks because it's a lot of work. So I think
he was like feeling good day one, but I think
day two is saying I think it's a little tougher.
I think he's gonna burn out soon.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Because you asked the question on here, and I'm curious
eight five, five, five, nine one one three five how
many women were nervous to leave and go back to
work or leave for an extended period of time and
leave dad in charge of the baby. And lots of
capable dads out there, and hove, I'm sure he is.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
One of them.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
He is.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
He's honestly better than me. He's more calmon all of
that too.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Really. Oh yeah, Like there's.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
We were talking about this on the Tangy yesterday. There's
this like innate connection between you and baby because obviously
you grew the baby inside of you whatever, and so
I don't know, there's just a there's something between. There's
something that we as men don't have that you guys
have that's like innate, that's unspoken. Not to say that
we can't do a great job, but like, I don't know,
(03:52):
it's different. It's different when the guys watching the baby
than when then the mother's watching the baby. And I
think also your anxiety, probably in anticipation of leaving and
then being gone, probably adds to the pressure.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Oh yeah, I just literally bought another camera right now,
just to put in the house because I want to
see like the baby, like the baby, like because she
we're upstairs right and then like we hang out downstairs now,
so I want to be able to kind of see
if he brings her down, make sure she's not crying
for a long period of time. Oh, I'm gonna be
on it with this. He will now she's listening.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
He will.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
But like for me, like we said, like I feel
like as the mother, you when your baby screams or cries,
those those hurt, Like those cries hurt you, like biologically,
there's something there, and like I know with him he's
more calm and all of that, and he can handle
it and he's doing a great job. But when I'm there,
it's a little different. Mama's more nurturing. I feel like
I kind of attend to her knees a little quicker.
(04:48):
That's what I've observed. But we'll see, Tee.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
You could be or he could be like my mom
who goes into my sister's house and then turns all
the cameras around. My sister has a camera in every room.
She turns the cameras around because she doesn't want.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
To be watched right every room at Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Well, no, she got one in the living room, she
got one in the nursery. Yes, I think she's got
one everywhere. And they and they'll sit at dinner and
watch the baby on the baby camera. Yeah, Like they'll
they're sitting at their dinner relaxing and they're watching them,
and my Mom's like, I don't want to be And
then the other thing is they'll call my mom and
she's crying and my Mom's like, yeah, I know, I'm
(05:25):
sitting here. I'm in the next room, Like, well, then
go do something about it, Like no, she can cry
for a minute. You know what I mean, but like, honestly,
the cameras, So you're are you watching hobby all day?
Speaker 3 (05:35):
I do watch the camera. I only have one, but
I just purchased another one. The thing is with the cameras.
My mom did the same thing too when she came in.
The first question she asked me is where are the cameras.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
I don't have any cameras, but she asks.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
Where are they? Where are they? And I'm just like,
they're not here, relaxed. But I don't know. I feel
like it's hard not to watch when you have a
newborn at home.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
But I'm wondering eight five five five one three five.
Someone just texted this. If you can't leave your child
with your partner without fear, that's weird.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Now, I don't know that. It's not fear.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
It's not fear and it's not wrong, but I don't
know that.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I think it's weird for a mom to leave her
child at home with her husband and not like feel
a certain or is it?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
I don't know what do I know. I'm not married,
I don't have kids, I'm not a woman. Actually feeling
is valid.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Yeah, he's the first time mom so yeah, and that's
that's my child, and I'm always going to feel that
she could be the next room right here, she could
be in the next radio station next to us, Like
I'm still going to feel like she's your respect right,
I'm not near her, So of course I have a
little bit of anxiety and the first time mom, so
a lot of this is new for me.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Valid well, Paulin, we have four kids.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Someone texted, I'm still concerned about what I'll return to
when I leave my husband with the kids.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Nations four.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
But he's like, that's why we only have a certain
amount of cameras and I control the cameras. Even though
it's like it's like, did you go outside today? Yeah,
we went outside. I didn't see it on the cameras all.
We went out the other door.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Don't worry. I think that's very normal.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Thinks are normal from the female, especially from the female perspective,
especially because of what I'm talking about, what you were
describing yesterday, and I've seen it with my sister too.
It's just that you made the baby, like there's just something,
there's some kind of a connectivity between you and this
child that was inside of you that I you know,
it doesn't make it doesn't make us as man and
fathers like any less capable at all. It's got to
(07:22):
be super stressful for you as a woman.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
One hundred percent. And it's like something that you can't really,
I don't know, like get over. You just can't. And
I probably never will to be honestly, you're always gonna
have that. She has cameras for Big Tim and she
there's no baby there there.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
I don't trust him with herself, you know.
Speaker 5 (07:37):
And I think a lot of times for women, and
I'm just again, I have no experience, but I think
we are caregivers to are men sometimes like you, you
probably take care hobby a lot and do things for him.
So you're thinking, like, is he okay? Now you're thinking
now it's him and the baby. You're like, oh my god,
both of my children, both of my babies are at
home and I'm not there, so I would be worried too.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
One hundred percent.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Let me see this Ben. Ben's doing the full background
check on these people. Like people are calling and he's
asking for their blood type and DNA. So he's like,
and I understand, he's typing a full explanation of what
I'm about to hear, which is put her on hold? Ben?
Speaker 1 (08:12):
Put her on hold? Man, Like, how many keys do
you have right on hold? Now?
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Is her name Tessandra? Is your name to Sandra or Cassandra?
I'm just curious. It's Cassandra. There is no name tess Sandra,
Ben so Ben, There's no such thing anyway.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
So what did you Good morning to Sandra? Cassandra? How
are you?
Speaker 6 (08:36):
I am good?
Speaker 5 (08:36):
How are you?
Speaker 6 (08:37):
Oh my god, I'm freaking out. I love you guys
so much.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Well, I'm very very happy that you called. What what
did you want to say about all of this?
Speaker 6 (08:44):
So? I ended up So I was on maternity late
for twelve weeks. I said, the whole twelve weeks, because
you know, Mama heads Ppa and I couldn't leave my
baby that quickly. God bless you Paulina for being a
being able to do that. And so the way our
schedule worked out is I have to go to work
two days a week in the morning, and then my
(09:06):
husband watches him in the morning. That first week was
so hard for me. I cried the first day I
went on my trinity to leave. I cried the entire
time on my way to work. But once I got
past that first week and I saw, like my husband
get that connection with my son, it's like it's magic
to watch how beautiful like their special connection is. And
(09:29):
then I have my special connection with him, so it's possible.
It's really really cool to see how wonderful my husband
is with him.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Yeah, and I'm not saying for one second that men
aren't fully capable and the hobbies.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
I'm fully capable.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
But I mean, I just I'm curious from the female
perspective what that's like when you when you leave your
baby at home with anybody.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
But I mean, let's look at Rufie here. He can
keep the kids alive.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
But I mean, I mean he does it every night.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Yeah, But I mean you've heard the man talk. It's like,
I mean, when they're infants. I feel like, when they're infants,
it's there.
Speaker 4 (10:04):
It's a lot, it's it's a lot easier because they
they don't they they don't move around, they can't, they're
they're not vocal.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
It's it's when they start walking and talking. Oh my goodness.
Speaker 6 (10:15):
Yeah, well nine and a half and my husband's like, like,
what do I do? And I'm like, you got to
figure it out, brother, there's nothing.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
Else thinking right, Well, to Sandra, it's a pleasure to
meet you. I've never met anyone named to Sandra before,
but call any time. Okay, I love you too. No,
I just have the I have the utmost respect for Honestly,
I was just shocked that you wanted to come back
so quickly, because I'm not judging. I truly like have
so much respect for for you for wanting to come
back to your your your working life. But I imagine
(10:46):
it's hard.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
It is so hard, But like I said yesterday, it
would have been hard regardless of when for me, Like
I want Hobby and my husband to have that bond
with his daughter. So that's also why I'm also, you know,
like kind of doing this too. But I don't know,
I feel like it's gonna we make you work. My therapist,
I talked my therapists about this. I was like, what
if I get backlash? What if people don't like what
I'm doing? And she said, you're adjusting, well, your baby's adjusting. Well,
(11:07):
that's all you got to tell people. Just stay out
of the bike lane.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
You'll be fine. Buddy.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Hey Christina, good morning, Hi, Hi, good morning, Hey, what
do you want to say welcome, thanks for listening.
Speaker 7 (11:19):
By the way, thank you guys. So we have three
girls and from the very my oldest is eleven. My
mom always says that my husband's the better parent, and
that kind of burns, but it's because he's so he runs,
he's the opposite.
Speaker 6 (11:35):
So I'll sit back, I'll watch for.
Speaker 7 (11:37):
Keys, and my husband just runs like he's so hands on.
So my mom's so bragged about him all the time.
You know, he's the best dad when they're when they're newborns,
and I'm like.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Okay, like what about me? Though, I know, I'm like
I just popped her out, But that's okay.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
Christina, thank you so much for calling. Have a great day.
Speaker 7 (11:56):
Thank you guys.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
See this is this.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Sounds like something my sister would do. Hey Jamie, Hey,
hi Jamie. So what's going on with the cameras? Hi?
Speaker 7 (12:06):
Okay, So, Paulina, I be careful because I have Irish
twins literally eleven eleven months and three weeks apart.
Speaker 6 (12:20):
My son's due day was my daughter's first birthday.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Oh, be careful. So they cut you looe and you
were like, let's go.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
Listen.
Speaker 7 (12:31):
I honestly I don't even know. And Paulina also, I
was never on birth control either. This is my first
time ever on birth control, so girl, be careful.
Speaker 6 (12:40):
Anyway.
Speaker 7 (12:41):
So I'm a hairdresser and I work every other Saturday,
and my husband has the kids every other Saturday. And
besides like texting and calling and facetiming, facetiming him like constantly,
I get up on the cameras and I'll like see
and if he's like doing something or if he's just
like sitting on the couch not playing with the kids,
(13:01):
I'm like, what are you doing?
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Because you can yell through the camera right like the app,
you can actually talk through the camera on somebody seas Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (13:12):
Camera, so yeah, one hot the cameras. Congratulations on your baby,
and you go, mom, oh, thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Congrat see you.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Yeah yeah Jamie, Yeah, they just turned one in two.
Wrap it up, girl, please get keep that.
Speaker 6 (13:31):
Yeah, we're done, We're done.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Ye no more, no more. Yeah, listen to that. Paulina,
thank you, Jamie, I have a good day, man.
Speaker 5 (13:38):
Thank you guys too.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
And Katie called, sorry Katie, we gotta go, but yeah,
there you go. So the moral of the story is
hot is capable, but install some cameras. Yell at him
to the microphone on cameras and wrap it up.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Wrap that up. That's what we've learned. And stand the
bike lanes too, that we've learned. More Fred Show next
right here,
Thank you for having us.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Saw this Morning the Radio, the iHeart Have any time,
search for a Fred Show on demand, Fred Show Radio,
on the Gram, The Fred Show, TikTok for behind the
scenes video content, and on the Tangent. Yesterday our offer
Uncentered podcast. We got a little bit of an insight
into childbirth. Of course, Paulina is back. Gave birth to
baby Gabriella approximately six weeks ago. Yeah, and you came
right back to work. Now, I have a lot of
(00:23):
questions because you wrote a bunch of stuff down on here.
This is not me being overly intrusive, guys. I mean,
this is like I get a little guide each day
to what everyone's willing to talk about, and you're willing
to talk about your your post What was this visit?
It wasn't your You've been to the doctor since you
had a baby, right.
Speaker 3 (00:39):
Yeah, they saw me two weeks after, but they want
to see you six weeks for your postpartum.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
So they come and they're taking a look. They're taking
a look and look, and you were signed off for
for adult activities.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
I'm clear.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Oh hell yeah, did you go ahead and dive right in?
Speaker 3 (00:54):
I wanted to, but I don't have protection, and I
heard that if you don't stay protective, you know, you
can have some Irish twins as they call them.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Because I did point that out yesterday. I was very concerned,
I know, you know, because you were you were thinking
you were gonna get the okay. Oh yeah, you got
the okay, and then you were thinking that you're ready
to just sort of partake in those things. And I
think it was on the tangentary off the year. I
asked you, and what are you doing to prevent another one?
And the answer is nothing?
Speaker 3 (01:20):
Yeah, no, I I guess I can't really even get
birth control depending what I want to do right, I
can't really get it for another week or so. But
my husband, Hobby and I have talked and we're like, well,
what are the options?
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Right?
Speaker 3 (01:31):
I don't want more kids? And I say this now,
I may change my mind, but I don't think I
want any more. But I feel like the easiest way
would be for him to go and just get snipped
and just call it a day.
Speaker 1 (01:40):
I agree with that, you know what I mean, It's
easiest way.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
But yesterday shout out to a LEXI are my provider
at where I go. She mentioned like that it is reversible.
But if you do want another kid whatever, it's like
not worth the process. She says, I would be one
hundred and twenty percent positive you don't want more kids.
She's like, you know, so I'm just letting you know,
and I'm just like, true, true, But I think I
I've never been on birth control too, Like that's my
(02:03):
my toxic trait.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
I never been on birth control, So I think that's
your toxic.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Yeah, I've never been on it, Like truthfully, I just
never have, and like this is the first time I'm
going to have to be.
Speaker 1 (02:11):
So we're trying to.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Figure out if that's just in case because you don't
want him to go, you know, semi permanently shut down
the factory just yet.
Speaker 3 (02:18):
Right because I mean, like you guys, no man should
change my mind every five minutes about everything. And it's
the truth, right, So, like I don't know what if
I do change my mind or what if I I
don't know, hible.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
For him to put his sperm in a bank, I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (02:33):
I didn't know that was an option.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
I think he just took it in a freezer right
just right next to like the popsicles, right, I would
label it and you know, just to make sure it
doesn't am. So yesterday was the first that you left
him stay at home dad, Yes, because he took a
bunch of time off from the firehouse. He's a firefighter, yep.
And how did that go?
Speaker 3 (02:51):
It went well from my understanding. But also I know
how hard it is to care for a newborn, you know,
being I guess to stay at home on for six
weeks because it's a lot of work. So I think
he was like feeling good day one, but I think
day two is saying I think it's a little tougher.
I think he's gonna burn out soon.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
Because you asked the question on here, and I'm curious
eight five, five, five, nine one one three five how
many women were nervous to leave and go back to
work or leave for an extended period of time and
leave dad in charge of the baby. And lots of
capable dads out there, and hove, I'm sure he is.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
One of them.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
He is.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
He's honestly better than me. He's more calmon all of
that too.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Really. Oh yeah, Like there's.
Speaker 2 (03:30):
We were talking about this on the Tangy yesterday. There's
this like innate connection between you and baby because obviously
you grew the baby inside of you whatever, and so
I don't know, there's just a there's something between. There's
something that we as men don't have that you guys
have that's like innate, that's unspoken. Not to say that
we can't do a great job, but like, I don't know,
(03:52):
it's different. It's different when the guys watching the baby
than when then the mother's watching the baby. And I
think also your anxiety, probably in anticipation of leaving and
then being gone, probably adds to the pressure.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Oh yeah, I just literally bought another camera right now,
just to put in the house because I want to
see like the baby, like the baby, like because she
we're upstairs right and then like we hang out downstairs now,
so I want to be able to kind of see
if he brings her down, make sure she's not crying
for a long period of time. Oh, I'm gonna be
on it with this. He will now she's listening.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
He will.
Speaker 3 (04:26):
But like for me, like we said, like I feel
like as the mother, you when your baby screams or cries,
those those hurt, Like those cries hurt you, like biologically,
there's something there, and like I know with him he's
more calm and all of that, and he can handle
it and he's doing a great job. But when I'm there,
it's a little different. Mama's more nurturing. I feel like
I kind of attend to her knees a little quicker.
(04:48):
That's what I've observed. But we'll see, Tee.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
You could be or he could be like my mom
who goes into my sister's house and then turns all
the cameras around. My sister has a camera in every room.
She turns the cameras around because she doesn't want.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
To be watched right every room at Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Well, no, she got one in the living room, she
got one in the nursery. Yes, I think she's got
one everywhere. And they and they'll sit at dinner and
watch the baby on the baby camera. Yeah, Like they'll
they're sitting at their dinner relaxing and they're watching them,
and my Mom's like, I don't want to be And
then the other thing is they'll call my mom and
she's crying and my Mom's like, yeah, I know, I'm
(05:25):
sitting here. I'm in the next room, Like, well, then
go do something about it, Like no, she can cry
for a minute. You know what I mean, but like, honestly,
the cameras, So you're are you watching hobby all day?
Speaker 3 (05:35):
I do watch the camera. I only have one, but
I just purchased another one. The thing is with the cameras.
My mom did the same thing too when she came in.
The first question she asked me is where are the cameras.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
I don't have any cameras, but she asks.
Speaker 3 (05:47):
Where are they? Where are they? And I'm just like,
they're not here, relaxed. But I don't know. I feel
like it's hard not to watch when you have a
newborn at home.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
But I'm wondering eight five five five one three five.
Someone just texted this. If you can't leave your child
with your partner without fear, that's weird.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Now, I don't know that. It's not fear.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
It's not fear and it's not wrong, but I don't
know that.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I think it's weird for a mom to leave her
child at home with her husband and not like feel
a certain or is it?
Speaker 1 (06:14):
I don't know what do I know. I'm not married,
I don't have kids, I'm not a woman. Actually feeling
is valid.
Speaker 3 (06:19):
Yeah, he's the first time mom so yeah, and that's
that's my child, and I'm always going to feel that
she could be the next room right here, she could
be in the next radio station next to us, Like
I'm still going to feel like she's your respect right,
I'm not near her, So of course I have a
little bit of anxiety and the first time mom, so
a lot of this is new for me.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Valid well, Paulin, we have four kids.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Someone texted, I'm still concerned about what I'll return to
when I leave my husband with the kids.
Speaker 1 (06:45):
Nations four.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
But he's like, that's why we only have a certain
amount of cameras and I control the cameras. Even though
it's like it's like, did you go outside today? Yeah,
we went outside. I didn't see it on the cameras all.
We went out the other door.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
Don't worry. I think that's very normal.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Thinks are normal from the female, especially from the female perspective,
especially because of what I'm talking about, what you were
describing yesterday, and I've seen it with my sister too.
It's just that you made the baby, like there's just something,
there's some kind of a connectivity between you and this
child that was inside of you that I you know,
it doesn't make it doesn't make us as man and
fathers like any less capable at all. It's got to
(07:22):
be super stressful for you as a woman.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
One hundred percent. And it's like something that you can't really,
I don't know, like get over. You just can't. And
I probably never will to be honestly, you're always gonna
have that. She has cameras for Big Tim and she
there's no baby there there.
Speaker 1 (07:35):
I don't trust him with herself, you know.
Speaker 5 (07:37):
And I think a lot of times for women, and
I'm just again, I have no experience, but I think
we are caregivers to are men sometimes like you, you
probably take care hobby a lot and do things for him.
So you're thinking, like, is he okay? Now you're thinking
now it's him and the baby. You're like, oh my god,
both of my children, both of my babies are at
home and I'm not there, so I would be worried too.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
One hundred percent.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Let me see this Ben. Ben's doing the full background
check on these people. Like people are calling and he's
asking for their blood type and DNA. So he's like,
and I understand, he's typing a full explanation of what
I'm about to hear, which is put her on hold? Ben?
Speaker 1 (08:12):
Put her on hold? Man, Like, how many keys do
you have right on hold? Now?
Speaker 2 (08:17):
Is her name Tessandra? Is your name to Sandra or Cassandra?
I'm just curious. It's Cassandra. There is no name tess Sandra,
Ben so Ben, There's no such thing anyway.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
So what did you Good morning to Sandra? Cassandra? How
are you?
Speaker 6 (08:36):
I am good?
Speaker 5 (08:36):
How are you?
Speaker 6 (08:37):
Oh my god, I'm freaking out. I love you guys
so much.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Well, I'm very very happy that you called. What what
did you want to say about all of this?
Speaker 6 (08:44):
So? I ended up So I was on maternity late
for twelve weeks. I said, the whole twelve weeks, because
you know, Mama heads Ppa and I couldn't leave my
baby that quickly. God bless you Paulina for being a
being able to do that. And so the way our
schedule worked out is I have to go to work
two days a week in the morning, and then my
(09:06):
husband watches him in the morning. That first week was
so hard for me. I cried the first day I
went on my trinity to leave. I cried the entire
time on my way to work. But once I got
past that first week and I saw, like my husband
get that connection with my son, it's like it's magic
to watch how beautiful like their special connection is. And
(09:29):
then I have my special connection with him, so it's possible.
It's really really cool to see how wonderful my husband
is with him.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
Yeah, and I'm not saying for one second that men
aren't fully capable and the hobbies.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
I'm fully capable.
Speaker 2 (09:41):
But I mean, I just I'm curious from the female
perspective what that's like when you when you leave your
baby at home with anybody.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
But I mean, let's look at Rufie here. He can
keep the kids alive.
Speaker 3 (09:53):
But I mean, I mean he does it every night.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Yeah, But I mean you've heard the man talk. It's like,
I mean, when they're infants. I feel like, when they're infants,
it's there.
Speaker 4 (10:04):
It's a lot, it's it's a lot easier because they
they don't they they don't move around, they can't, they're
they're not vocal.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
It's it's when they start walking and talking. Oh my goodness.
Speaker 6 (10:15):
Yeah, well nine and a half and my husband's like, like,
what do I do? And I'm like, you got to
figure it out, brother, there's nothing.
Speaker 2 (10:25):
Else thinking right, Well, to Sandra, it's a pleasure to
meet you. I've never met anyone named to Sandra before,
but call any time. Okay, I love you too. No,
I just have the I have the utmost respect for Honestly,
I was just shocked that you wanted to come back
so quickly, because I'm not judging. I truly like have
so much respect for for you for wanting to come
back to your your your working life. But I imagine
(10:46):
it's hard.
Speaker 3 (10:47):
It is so hard, But like I said yesterday, it
would have been hard regardless of when for me, Like
I want Hobby and my husband to have that bond
with his daughter. So that's also why I'm also, you know,
like kind of doing this too. But I don't know,
I feel like it's gonna we make you work. My therapist,
I talked my therapists about this. I was like, what
if I get backlash? What if people don't like what
I'm doing? And she said, you're adjusting, well, your baby's adjusting. Well,
(11:07):
that's all you got to tell people. Just stay out
of the bike lane.
Speaker 1 (11:09):
You'll be fine. Buddy.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
Hey Christina, good morning, Hi, Hi, good morning, Hey, what
do you want to say welcome, thanks for listening.
Speaker 7 (11:19):
By the way, thank you guys. So we have three
girls and from the very my oldest is eleven. My
mom always says that my husband's the better parent, and
that kind of burns, but it's because he's so he runs,
he's the opposite.
Speaker 6 (11:35):
So I'll sit back, I'll watch for.
Speaker 7 (11:37):
Keys, and my husband just runs like he's so hands on.
So my mom's so bragged about him all the time.
You know, he's the best dad when they're when they're newborns,
and I'm like.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Okay, like what about me? Though, I know, I'm like
I just popped her out, But that's okay.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
Christina, thank you so much for calling. Have a great day.
Speaker 7 (11:56):
Thank you guys.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
Bye.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
See this is this.
Speaker 2 (11:58):
Sounds like something my sister would do. Hey Jamie, Hey,
hi Jamie. So what's going on with the cameras? Hi?
Speaker 7 (12:06):
Okay, So, Paulina, I be careful because I have Irish
twins literally eleven eleven months and three weeks apart.
Speaker 6 (12:20):
My son's due day was my daughter's first birthday.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Oh, be careful. So they cut you looe and you
were like, let's go.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
Listen.
Speaker 7 (12:31):
I honestly I don't even know. And Paulina also, I
was never on birth control either. This is my first
time ever on birth control, so girl, be careful.
Speaker 6 (12:40):
Anyway.
Speaker 7 (12:41):
So I'm a hairdresser and I work every other Saturday,
and my husband has the kids every other Saturday. And
besides like texting and calling and facetiming, facetiming him like constantly,
I get up on the cameras and I'll like see
and if he's like doing something or if he's just
like sitting on the couch not playing with the kids,
(13:01):
I'm like, what are you doing?
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Because you can yell through the camera right like the app,
you can actually talk through the camera on somebody seas Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (13:12):
Camera, so yeah, one hot the cameras. Congratulations on your baby,
and you go, mom, oh, thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (13:22):
Congrat see you.
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Yeah yeah Jamie, Yeah, they just turned one in two.
Wrap it up, girl, please get keep that.
Speaker 6 (13:31):
Yeah, we're done, We're done.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Ye no more, no more. Yeah, listen to that. Paulina,
thank you, Jamie, I have a good day, man.
Speaker 5 (13:38):
Thank you guys too.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
And Katie called, sorry Katie, we gotta go, but yeah,
there you go. So the moral of the story is
hot is capable, but install some cameras. Yell at him
to the microphone on cameras and wrap it up.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Wrap that up. That's what we've learned. And stand the
bike lanes too, that we've learned. More Fred Show next
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