Paying For Someone Else's Wedding!

Fred reads a viral Reddit thread about a bride asking for her guests to pay for a portion of her wedding!

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thanks to Live Nation. I've been meaning to get to
this for like a week. I think I've referred to
it and haven't. But this is from Reddit, and I
think I know everybody would feel about this. But maybe
I'll attempt to play Devil's Advocate. I don't think I can,

(00:41):
but well, I can always play Devil's Advocate convincingly. I
just don't know if I feel like it. But Brian
is planning a free wedding where all guests contribute to
the event. So instead of covering the costs herself, she's
expecting attendees to pitch in by providing a venue, food, decorations, photography, music,
and even the wedding cake. The bride's friend, who shared

(01:03):
the story on Reddit, is not on board, saying that
the couple is financially well off, making the request seem unfair.
The friend suggested that if the bride wants a free wedding,
she should consider eloping or a simple city hall ceremony
rather than imposing the burden on guests. So, if you
were not responsible for a gift, but you were responsible
for either a cash donation towards the wedding or providing

(01:27):
some you know, resource, would you be into this because
you're already gonna spend however much you're gonna spend. So
let's say it's like, well, you want to contribute to
the catering, Do you want to contribute to the venue,
do you want to contribute to the whatever, Like you
get a little ownership in the day, right and then so,
but this is I'm essentially paying for my admittance to

(01:48):
the wedding, which you know, I hate that. I hate
that idea. You know, well, the gift needs to be
what the cost of the plate would be. Well, I
don't know how much you spend on your you know,
chicken or whatever. So I'm going to give you. And
by the way, maybe you don't want to live in
me like that. Maybe I want to buy you a
better gift than that. So like, how about you planning
the wedding that you want to have the way you
want it to be, what you can afford, and then

(02:09):
everybody comes and has a great time with whatever you
decide to do. That's that's what I say.

Speaker 2 (02:15):
Yeah, I agree, but you're the.

Speaker 1 (02:17):
One planning a wedding. I mean, what if it was like,
all right, no gifts, but like here's a donation page
for catering.

Speaker 3 (02:25):
It's crossed my mind. You know, you getting desperate in
these times, right, So you know I wont y'all rule
at my wedding. I'm like, what if I made it
like a concert, okay, like a little jingle ball, and
then y'all buy and take it and I can pull
this whole thing off. But I have a big issue
with brides in couples thinking that they should have their
wedding on the back of their guests, Like it should

(02:47):
not be you have to pay for this, or you
should cover your plate, or my gift should be at
least this amount. I think that is so tacky and
so I'm at the point now, like I'd rather wait
a couple of years or however long it takes to
afford the wedding I want to have. But I'm not
gonna make that someone else's burden. But if you got
a venue out there and you want a partner, he right,

(03:08):
you know, well.

Speaker 2 (03:10):
So yeah, logistically, like how would you even do? Like
cause I'm like, all right, I'm on board. Maybe I'm
trying to figure out I don't.

Speaker 1 (03:17):
Know, maybe you have a venue or access to a venue,
so like you're a member of a place, maybe you can,
I don't know, so like and then maybe maybe I
don't know, maybe people know people and then through contacts
it's like everybody chips in. But again, I agree with you,
Like I'm a guest, right, this is not my obligation
to go to your wedding, Like it's a privilege that
you're inviting me. But like you're throwing a party. Okay,

(03:38):
it's not a pot luck, and if it is, it is.
But I don't know that I'm interested in bringing a
dish to your wedding. Like I'm not not really into that.

Speaker 2 (03:45):
I mean, I don't care where my two hundred goes
or however much I'm giving, like because you know I'll
do a honeymoon fund or whatever. I just don't get
how you'll know how many people are going, how much
they're going to give in advance enough to know what
kind of wedding you can even throw. But yeah, I mean,
I don't really care where my money goes. Same, I'm
giving it regardless.

Speaker 1 (04:03):
The Kiky's looking at the site, Hey, can you send
me that Reddit post? Details there, biggest stories of the day.
How is she doing it? Exactly?

Speaker 3 (04:13):
Like, let's figure the logistics out.

Speaker 1 (04:14):
But I do see you on social ove of the
weekend talking about how we're working on partnerships. Oh that open.
I'm open to partnership.

Speaker 3 (04:21):
I'm so open, baby, I'm open to all the partnerships.
I'm actually about the post right now. I don't know
it a venue for an engagement party.

Speaker 1 (04:29):
Jason convinced that restaurant in Kansas City that Kaitlin's friends
of the ownership, So like, what what can you do
for the wedding?

Speaker 3 (04:36):
I've already told her I'm on the team, and Jason
has been helpful already. Engagement photos are happening.

Speaker 1 (04:41):
Because of Jason.

Speaker 2 (04:42):
So yeah, wow, we know we love you, Jason, we
love you.

Speaker 3 (04:46):
Everybody needs a Jason on the team.

Speaker 1 (04:49):
I'm just gonna make a wish list of all the
things I haven't been able to accomplish and see if
you can get a done for I don't know, it's
like my sick pleasure. Yeah, I don't know why. It
makes them happy.

Speaker 3 (04:59):
Paulina always knows the guys.

Speaker 1 (05:03):
Yes, and I really do what you need.

Speaker 3 (05:05):
Friend, you're right.

Speaker 1 (05:06):
I'll let you know. I'll make you both a list
and see what you guys.

Speaker 2 (05:09):
Yes, team will get something done for you.

Speaker 1 (05:11):
Yes.