November 5, 2025 • 11 mins
Fred reads a Reddit thread about a man who proposed to his girlfriend in public and she only said yes because it was in front of a ton of people.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the press show. Zame is taking over Las
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three seven now for a chance to win. A confirmation
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apply all thanks to Live Nation. A twenty two year
old woman and her boyfriend of three years attended his
parents anniversary party, where he unexpectedly proposed in front of
his family and friends, and despite earlier conversations where she
had expressed that she wasn't ready for that, he did
it anyway. At the moment of the public proposal, she
(00:41):
felt pressured and said yes to avoid embarrassing him in
front of all these people, even though inside she knew
that she couldn't yet accept. Later, in private, she told
him that she would not move forward with the engagement
because she wasn't ready, and he responded by saying that
she embarrassed him by saying yes and then changing her mind.
She said that she never intended to hurt him and
only accepted publicly to spare the moment, but acknowledge the
(01:05):
situation has now become more complicated, and of course people
online are going both ways on this. I think it
would have been more embarrassing to say no in front
of all of these people. I mean, this was his
parents anniversary party, so this would have been a home crowd.
First of all, not the place you don't I'm not
the place to propose. But second of all, it would
(01:27):
have been more embarrassing. I think if she had said
no in front of his parents and all these other people. Instead,
it was okay, yeah, now he has to walk it
back now because but she also told him that she
didn't want to be engaged to him. So rather than
stay engaged to this man and marry him and she's
not ready, she just went back later and said, look,
I didn't I didn't want to do this in front
of everybody, but I did tell you I wasn't ready,
(01:49):
and so I don't want to be engaged to you
right now, and so go tell your parents that it
was a little premature. And then I thought about it,
and I want to take a step back. That to
me is a whole lot kinder yes than just saying
but if you say no in front of everybody that
that probably is the end of the relationship. I don't
know you recover from that.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
And that's embarrassment in like real time. That's four k
right there in front of your whole family. Off, get up,
off your knee, looks at it. No, like she did
you a favor. Actually a boy saying yes and then
telling you later, So she's not wrong.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
But I want to know from you, guys, eight five, five, five, nine,
one one oh three five would you rather would you
rather say yes and just get out of the sort
of public eye of the whole thing that's happening and
then later go back and figure it out, or would
you rather just say because I've again, you see it
online sometimes I don't know if it's real. You see
it at the sporting events. I think those are stage.
But you see it where people propose and the person
says no and runs away. That to me is like
(02:43):
life crushing rejection, public rejection, Like I don't know that
you can get over that.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Here's what I will say about this situation, though there
should be no situation in my opinion, just me where
you are proposing and you don't know, you have not
already spoken about it totally. I really do feel like
that should be a conversation. There should be planning. You
should know that she wants to do that, so you
should not be just willing Nelly proposing, and obviously this situation,
(03:08):
she said she didn't want to.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
When here comes to my man batching segment, I think
that it was a power trip on his part. He
wasn't listening to her, he wasn't paying attention to her.
She said, I am not ready, and he said, no,
watch this, hold my beer. Yeah, and then he gets
on one knee and does it anyway, and it's almost
like it's almost like he was trapping her in some ways. Yes,
because it's like a power thing. It's like, but we
(03:30):
talked about it and we said and I said I
wasn't ready, so he knew what the answer would be.
So it was almost like the only way to get
her to say yes was to pressure her and do
it in front of everyone. Paulina, I think.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
It was very much planned because he knew, like, if
it's in front of a lot of people, she's probably
not going to say no. Even though they've talked about it,
and she said, I'm not ready, and honestly, she should
go home and if they use protection, check those or
she's not on birth control, get on that because this
man will trap her. It sounds like, okay, I take
it to the next level, I know, but like I'm
thinking ahead for her.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Yeah, Kyla, right and.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Check your condom. We'll go far into the future with
the story. Guy's poking holes and stuff. Man, Yeah, this
is crazy. Well she said I'm not ready, and he
still did it. He did it anyway. I remember when
I was young, there was a dude proposing I was
weird in some fancy restaurant and I was proposing to
his fiancea. And we knew because she would get up
to go to the bathroom and he was like I
(04:24):
think he handed maybe handed the ring to the waiter
or there was like some negotiation going on. Maybe the
waiter told us like, hey, that guy's about to propose
something like that. So, but this was like in the salads,
like be eating salads, and so I'm watching this guy.
I'm maybe like nine, and I'm watching this guy and
he's sweating bullets. She has no idea, She's just eating
her food or whatever, and I knew that it was
coming with the dessert and we're all sitting there watching
(04:46):
and at one point I said to my dad, I go, hey,
like this guy, this is agonizing, and my Dad's like, yeah,
but you don't ever ask that question unless you already
know the answer, like and it kind of like blew
my mind. I was like, I thought the whole thing
was like mystical and surprising, you know, I thought, because
because the person who gets, you know, proposed to typically
acts like they didn't know it was coming, and maybe
(05:08):
they didn't exactly know that it was coming, like then,
but it's not actually the first time it's It shouldn't
be the first time it's being discussed. It should not
on one knee. But I never as a little kid, I
was like I never. I'm like, wow, dude, you just
you go out and buy a ring and then you
just one day get on one knee and you just
hope she says yes, and it's like but no, No,
I had a pretty good idea what your mom was
(05:29):
going to say before I asked, Like, it's kind of
like you ask, you kind of pre ask, you know,
like you do the thing where even like when you're
talking about going like from dating to like being girlfriend boyfriend,
don't you kind of do that? I mean, I guess
it's a guy. You kind of do the thing where
you're like, what would you say if I how would
you feel about? Like, like what are your thoughts on?
Like basically you just make it so that when you
(05:50):
finally say do you want to be my girlfriend? Like
you know the answer is yes, right, yeah, because you
don't because nobody wants to get rejected no, and.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
Like you should, like you should know what people are
looking for, right.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Anthony, you're saying the same thing. Man, it is this
guy got what's coming to him? Yeah?
Speaker 5 (06:08):
Absolutely, you kind of you hit it on the head.
It was at his parents anniversary. It was a power
trip thing. He wanted to be in front of people.
And I missed who said it. It might have been Kaylin.
You don't go into that if you don't know what
the answer is going to be. Right, if you had
a conversation like I proposed to my now wife, I
(06:29):
knew what that answer was going to be, and I
still did it in private because I knew she didn't
want to be a public thing.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Mmmm.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Yeah, that's another thing. Is you got to be with
somebody who wants the production, you know, like some I
think there are people I think you would know if
your partner like this is the whole thing. He should
have just known none. He didn't listen to her on
any of this, and so I wouldn't be surprised if
she bails. But it sounds like she's not bailing. It
sounds like she just wants to take a step back.
She didn't dump him, she didn't leave the relationship. I
(06:57):
think she just said, hey, man, you got to go
undo everything you just did, right.
Speaker 5 (07:02):
Because now it's either we have to commit to a
year's long engagement until they're actually ready to tie the
knot and then that looks bad. Or he could have
listened in the first place, and, like you said, has
to go back and say like, hey, we're we're going
to reevaluate some things. We're not over, but it's just
not happening right now.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Yeah, yeah, which I think you can move past that.
Thank you, Anthony, have a good day.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
Yeah you too, well, you guy.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Yeah, thanks. Man, if I did something, my parents would
be like that was stupid. Like if I did something
like that and then I went back and had to
tell him me, ah, so we're not actually engaged because
like she didn't want that, and my parents would be like,
what did you talk to you about it for? Like
why did you do that? Then my parents would it
come they crack me, you know, they'd be like, you're
an idiot, like that's not how this works, dude, Like
why did you do it? Like that? But I also
think it's a reasonable thing to go back and say
(07:48):
to family and friends, like, you know, we got caught
up in there. You could make it, you could make
it a little more romantic than it was. Hey, he
got caught up in the moment. He was just so
excited to get the ring and whatever, and we have
talked about it, but we're just not quite there yet.
I think anybody in a relationship or any period of
time would respect that. Yes, just like, Okay, so you
weren't quite ready, you got excited, You're not gonna break up.
(08:09):
You're just gonna like take a step back rather than
let that weigh over you. Because that's a horrible way
to start to start an engagement. And the process where
the girl didn't even want to do it. Yeah, as
I'm watching it, As I'm watching Kiki do all this
wedding planning and stuff like, if you weren't elated with
the process, this would be one hundred times worse.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Yeah, and if you messed up my first proposal in
any way, shape or form, I'm out the door, like, bro, yeah, Kaitlin, like,
I don't want now you're gonna do a redo of this.
You've already gotten down. You're looking goofy on the floor.
Your family got photos.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
And videos of this. You didn't mess this whole experience
up for me. Yeah, we may have to. We'd have
to pretend that was it, Like, OK, some day, some
day I'll tell you, like in six months or a year,
just hand me the ring back and we'll pretend like
that happened and that was it, Like, because we can't
do this again, redo it. It's weird, right exactly, Hey,
Lucas going on? Look it? So you are you moving
(09:05):
someone right now? What are you doing? Are you? Are
you cutting a tree down? No?
Speaker 6 (09:09):
No, I'm not work right now?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Well I knew I just like I can hear that.
I like a guy who can work. And together you're
putting what together?
Speaker 6 (09:19):
All the chiefs Minima Takatas Mussy his oldest.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Oh, bring some of those over here. I need some
breakfast anyway, So what do you get? The final say
on this? The dude proposes to his girlfriend in front
of his parents and all their friends at his parents
anniversary party. She'd already said she wasn't ready. He did
it anyway, and now she's having a backtrack and he's
mad at her.
Speaker 6 (09:40):
Well, in my opinions, first of all, you you too
your parents spotlights.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
He took the parents spotlight. That's another of all. He
put her on the spot.
Speaker 6 (09:49):
So basically, you know, she in my opinion, she got
like you guys talk, She's gonna say no, you're embarrassed,
embarrassed the guy and find of everybody so best you
your there's.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
No choice, no choice.
Speaker 6 (10:01):
You gotta say yes, you know, and to make you
look good and everybody, I'm happy on the party and
continue the party with the good moods.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Yeah, yeah, you gotta keep party. You gotta keep partying
after that, that's for sure, exactly.
Speaker 6 (10:16):
So you know, like imagine she's gonna say no, like
all the head out of that room probably would be
out right now.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
The party is. It's like he knew this, Like the
party would be ruined, the parents would hate her, there'd
be no coming back. It was like it was like
a yes, it was Lucas, I gotta go have a
good day. Man, Thank you have a good day at work. Yeah? No,
But but why would you why would you even want that?
Like as a man, like what or whoever's proposing woman whatever,
(10:44):
why would you even want that? Like why would you
want to know? I'm doing this because I know she'll
say yes out of pressure. To Paulina's point, he's trying
to trap her. Yeah, it's go check the condoms man. Yeah,
this is that kind of guy, the kind of guy
you gotta worry about. Man, the lifetime movie about women
like this guy. You know, they should make more lifetime
movies about guys like this guy. Let's do follow me,
(11:06):
Let's do blogs and waiting by the phone More Fred
Show next right here,
This is the press show. Zame is taking over Las
Vegas this January for his seven night presidency Adobe Live
at Park MGM, and we've got a trip for two
to the January twenty fifth show to night Hotel State
at Park MGM January twenty fourth through the twenty sixth
and round trip airfare. Text Remember to three seven three
three seven now for a chance to win. A confirmation
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text will be said. Standard message of data rates may
apply all thanks to Live Nation. A twenty two year
old woman and her boyfriend of three years attended his
parents anniversary party, where he unexpectedly proposed in front of
his family and friends, and despite earlier conversations where she
had expressed that she wasn't ready for that, he did
it anyway. At the moment of the public proposal, she
(00:41):
felt pressured and said yes to avoid embarrassing him in
front of all these people, even though inside she knew
that she couldn't yet accept. Later, in private, she told
him that she would not move forward with the engagement
because she wasn't ready, and he responded by saying that
she embarrassed him by saying yes and then changing her mind.
She said that she never intended to hurt him and
only accepted publicly to spare the moment, but acknowledge the
(01:05):
situation has now become more complicated, and of course people
online are going both ways on this. I think it
would have been more embarrassing to say no in front
of all of these people. I mean, this was his
parents anniversary party, so this would have been a home crowd.
First of all, not the place you don't I'm not
the place to propose. But second of all, it would
(01:27):
have been more embarrassing. I think if she had said
no in front of his parents and all these other people. Instead,
it was okay, yeah, now he has to walk it
back now because but she also told him that she
didn't want to be engaged to him. So rather than
stay engaged to this man and marry him and she's
not ready, she just went back later and said, look,
I didn't I didn't want to do this in front
of everybody, but I did tell you I wasn't ready,
(01:49):
and so I don't want to be engaged to you
right now, and so go tell your parents that it
was a little premature. And then I thought about it,
and I want to take a step back. That to
me is a whole lot kinder yes than just saying
but if you say no in front of everybody that
that probably is the end of the relationship. I don't
know you recover from that.
Speaker 2 (02:07):
And that's embarrassment in like real time. That's four k
right there in front of your whole family. Off, get up,
off your knee, looks at it. No, like she did
you a favor. Actually a boy saying yes and then
telling you later, So she's not wrong.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
But I want to know from you, guys, eight five, five, five, nine,
one one oh three five would you rather would you
rather say yes and just get out of the sort
of public eye of the whole thing that's happening and
then later go back and figure it out, or would
you rather just say because I've again, you see it
online sometimes I don't know if it's real. You see
it at the sporting events. I think those are stage.
But you see it where people propose and the person
says no and runs away. That to me is like
(02:43):
life crushing rejection, public rejection, Like I don't know that
you can get over that.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Here's what I will say about this situation, though there
should be no situation in my opinion, just me where
you are proposing and you don't know, you have not
already spoken about it totally. I really do feel like
that should be a conversation. There should be planning. You
should know that she wants to do that, so you
should not be just willing Nelly proposing, and obviously this situation,
(03:08):
she said she didn't want to.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
When here comes to my man batching segment, I think
that it was a power trip on his part. He
wasn't listening to her, he wasn't paying attention to her.
She said, I am not ready, and he said, no,
watch this, hold my beer. Yeah, and then he gets
on one knee and does it anyway, and it's almost
like it's almost like he was trapping her in some ways. Yes,
because it's like a power thing. It's like, but we
(03:30):
talked about it and we said and I said I
wasn't ready, so he knew what the answer would be.
So it was almost like the only way to get
her to say yes was to pressure her and do
it in front of everyone. Paulina, I think.
Speaker 4 (03:41):
It was very much planned because he knew, like, if
it's in front of a lot of people, she's probably
not going to say no. Even though they've talked about it,
and she said, I'm not ready, and honestly, she should
go home and if they use protection, check those or
she's not on birth control, get on that because this
man will trap her. It sounds like, okay, I take
it to the next level, I know, but like I'm
thinking ahead for her.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
Yeah, Kyla, right and.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
Check your condom. We'll go far into the future with
the story. Guy's poking holes and stuff. Man, Yeah, this
is crazy. Well she said I'm not ready, and he
still did it. He did it anyway. I remember when
I was young, there was a dude proposing I was
weird in some fancy restaurant and I was proposing to
his fiancea. And we knew because she would get up
to go to the bathroom and he was like I
(04:24):
think he handed maybe handed the ring to the waiter
or there was like some negotiation going on. Maybe the
waiter told us like, hey, that guy's about to propose
something like that. So, but this was like in the salads,
like be eating salads, and so I'm watching this guy.
I'm maybe like nine, and I'm watching this guy and
he's sweating bullets. She has no idea, She's just eating
her food or whatever, and I knew that it was
coming with the dessert and we're all sitting there watching
(04:46):
and at one point I said to my dad, I go, hey,
like this guy, this is agonizing, and my Dad's like, yeah,
but you don't ever ask that question unless you already
know the answer, like and it kind of like blew
my mind. I was like, I thought the whole thing
was like mystical and surprising, you know, I thought, because
because the person who gets, you know, proposed to typically
acts like they didn't know it was coming, and maybe
(05:08):
they didn't exactly know that it was coming, like then,
but it's not actually the first time it's It shouldn't
be the first time it's being discussed. It should not
on one knee. But I never as a little kid, I
was like I never. I'm like, wow, dude, you just
you go out and buy a ring and then you
just one day get on one knee and you just
hope she says yes, and it's like but no, No,
I had a pretty good idea what your mom was
(05:29):
going to say before I asked, Like, it's kind of
like you ask, you kind of pre ask, you know,
like you do the thing where even like when you're
talking about going like from dating to like being girlfriend boyfriend,
don't you kind of do that? I mean, I guess
it's a guy. You kind of do the thing where
you're like, what would you say if I how would
you feel about? Like, like what are your thoughts on?
Like basically you just make it so that when you
(05:50):
finally say do you want to be my girlfriend? Like
you know the answer is yes, right, yeah, because you
don't because nobody wants to get rejected no, and.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
Like you should, like you should know what people are
looking for, right.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Anthony, you're saying the same thing. Man, it is this
guy got what's coming to him? Yeah?
Speaker 5 (06:08):
Absolutely, you kind of you hit it on the head.
It was at his parents anniversary. It was a power
trip thing. He wanted to be in front of people.
And I missed who said it. It might have been Kaylin.
You don't go into that if you don't know what
the answer is going to be. Right, if you had
a conversation like I proposed to my now wife, I
(06:29):
knew what that answer was going to be, and I
still did it in private because I knew she didn't
want to be a public thing.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Mmmm.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
Yeah, that's another thing. Is you got to be with
somebody who wants the production, you know, like some I
think there are people I think you would know if
your partner like this is the whole thing. He should
have just known none. He didn't listen to her on
any of this, and so I wouldn't be surprised if
she bails. But it sounds like she's not bailing. It
sounds like she just wants to take a step back.
She didn't dump him, she didn't leave the relationship. I
(06:57):
think she just said, hey, man, you got to go
undo everything you just did, right.
Speaker 5 (07:02):
Because now it's either we have to commit to a
year's long engagement until they're actually ready to tie the
knot and then that looks bad. Or he could have
listened in the first place, and, like you said, has
to go back and say like, hey, we're we're going
to reevaluate some things. We're not over, but it's just
not happening right now.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
Yeah, yeah, which I think you can move past that.
Thank you, Anthony, have a good day.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
Yeah you too, well, you guy.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Yeah, thanks. Man, if I did something, my parents would
be like that was stupid. Like if I did something
like that and then I went back and had to
tell him me, ah, so we're not actually engaged because
like she didn't want that, and my parents would be like,
what did you talk to you about it for? Like
why did you do that? Then my parents would it
come they crack me, you know, they'd be like, you're
an idiot, like that's not how this works, dude, Like
why did you do it? Like that? But I also
think it's a reasonable thing to go back and say
(07:48):
to family and friends, like, you know, we got caught
up in there. You could make it, you could make
it a little more romantic than it was. Hey, he
got caught up in the moment. He was just so
excited to get the ring and whatever, and we have
talked about it, but we're just not quite there yet.
I think anybody in a relationship or any period of
time would respect that. Yes, just like, Okay, so you
weren't quite ready, you got excited, You're not gonna break up.
(08:09):
You're just gonna like take a step back rather than
let that weigh over you. Because that's a horrible way
to start to start an engagement. And the process where
the girl didn't even want to do it. Yeah, as
I'm watching it, As I'm watching Kiki do all this
wedding planning and stuff like, if you weren't elated with
the process, this would be one hundred times worse.
Speaker 2 (08:26):
Yeah, and if you messed up my first proposal in
any way, shape or form, I'm out the door, like, bro, yeah, Kaitlin, like,
I don't want now you're gonna do a redo of this.
You've already gotten down. You're looking goofy on the floor.
Your family got photos.
Speaker 1 (08:40):
And videos of this. You didn't mess this whole experience
up for me. Yeah, we may have to. We'd have
to pretend that was it, Like, OK, some day, some
day I'll tell you, like in six months or a year,
just hand me the ring back and we'll pretend like
that happened and that was it, Like, because we can't
do this again, redo it. It's weird, right exactly, Hey,
Lucas going on? Look it? So you are you moving
(09:05):
someone right now? What are you doing? Are you? Are
you cutting a tree down? No?
Speaker 6 (09:09):
No, I'm not work right now?
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Well I knew I just like I can hear that.
I like a guy who can work. And together you're
putting what together?
Speaker 6 (09:19):
All the chiefs Minima Takatas Mussy his oldest.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Oh, bring some of those over here. I need some
breakfast anyway, So what do you get? The final say
on this? The dude proposes to his girlfriend in front
of his parents and all their friends at his parents
anniversary party. She'd already said she wasn't ready. He did
it anyway, and now she's having a backtrack and he's
mad at her.
Speaker 6 (09:40):
Well, in my opinions, first of all, you you too
your parents spotlights.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
He took the parents spotlight. That's another of all. He
put her on the spot.
Speaker 6 (09:49):
So basically, you know, she in my opinion, she got
like you guys talk, She's gonna say no, you're embarrassed,
embarrassed the guy and find of everybody so best you
your there's.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
No choice, no choice.
Speaker 6 (10:01):
You gotta say yes, you know, and to make you
look good and everybody, I'm happy on the party and
continue the party with the good moods.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Yeah, yeah, you gotta keep party. You gotta keep partying
after that, that's for sure, exactly.
Speaker 6 (10:16):
So you know, like imagine she's gonna say no, like
all the head out of that room probably would be
out right now.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
The party is. It's like he knew this, Like the
party would be ruined, the parents would hate her, there'd
be no coming back. It was like it was like
a yes, it was Lucas, I gotta go have a
good day. Man, Thank you have a good day at work. Yeah? No,
But but why would you why would you even want that?
Like as a man, like what or whoever's proposing woman whatever,
(10:44):
why would you even want that? Like why would you
want to know? I'm doing this because I know she'll
say yes out of pressure. To Paulina's point, he's trying
to trap her. Yeah, it's go check the condoms man. Yeah,
this is that kind of guy, the kind of guy
you gotta worry about. Man, the lifetime movie about women
like this guy. You know, they should make more lifetime
movies about guys like this guy. Let's do follow me,
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