September 12, 2025 • 7 mins
Kaelin wants to know why straight men won't become friends with straight women!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Anyway, Sorry, here's.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Do a blog like writing in our diaries exactly say,
I'm aloud.
Speaker 3 (00:04):
Go ahead, deer blog. So I have a question for
the straight men. So I guess Fred and any and
kikiS and anyone listening.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
So me.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
And it was something that was ruminating in my mind,
and then you said something the other day that I
kind of feel like affirmed this, and so I just
want to know why do straight men not want to
make new straight female friends?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Okay, what's the context?
Speaker 4 (00:31):
So, and I think I'm stage.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
And I can tell you why.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Okay, for sure, I'm excited to know because I've been
pondering this because my new thing, and I found like
a life hack, is taking a bottle of wine to
the dog park.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
And so I sit outside. There's hell of dogs there.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Don't worry, I have one too, so I'm not like
creepy just sitting in the strange.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I guess if you just went to the dog park
without one, but you probably can.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Yeah, but it's the cheapest bar in town. I bring
it in my little bag, a red Solo.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Cup, and I said, there, I play with dogs. I
have my little happy hour. My dog gets outside, what
YadA YadA. So the other night I went, and this
is a little sad. I went on a Saturday night
that is not sad.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
That sounds like an amazing night. A bunch of dogs,
a red solo, cupful of alcohol, and solitude. Yeah, no,
that's probably is. You've described the greatest Saturday night at
all time.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Listen. The weather was hitting. It was hoodie weather. I
went to Binnie's. I got some red wine. Like I
was just you know, we were Me and Willie were
city girls, okay girls.
Speaker 4 (01:33):
So I went to the park and.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Unfortunately on Saturday nights it's a little less crowded than
it is on other nights, as there was only one
other gentleman there, and so, you know, I pull up,
I get my spot, and usually at the dog park
you end up talking to other people that are there
because your dogs play, and like.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Because you're kind of just standing there or sitting there,
you know, while they're doing there. Yeah, it's a social
event for them.
Speaker 4 (01:54):
It really is. Like we have chairs at ours.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
And he was standing up playing with the dogs, but
his dogs ran over to me, so we ended up
talking and we were really like we were just kicking it.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
We were both hanging out.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
I asked him, you know, I'm like, shoot, I wish
I would have brought you a cup. I would have
had some wine for you. And he's like, yeah, I'm jealous.
And so we talked for a little while. We hung
out and he was asking me questions and then came
the answer of well, how long did you have your dog?
And then I explained that she was my boyfriend's first
for a long time and then we started dating and
she kind of just we became obsessed with each other.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
And got it out.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
My dog and regardless of what happens is my dog.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
I'm glad you're learning.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
But the second that I brought up that I had
a boyfriend, this man like there was he ran through
the fence, like he didn't even open the door to
the fence.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
He literally put his dogs on his leashes and he
got the hell home.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
And I was just there with my you know what
in my hand, and I would say, like, it hurt
my feelings, and I was like, I thought we were
having fun. I thought we were going to become friends
and maybe not like an exchange of number situation, but
like I thought we were vibing, and it just really
hurt my feelings, and then you said the other day,
You're like, I'll follow a hot news anchor and see
that she's got a ring, and then I'll unfollow her.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
Why don't you want new friends?
Speaker 2 (03:07):
And I don't mean to suggest when I said that,
I don't mean to. Let me just clarify. I don't
mean to suggest I don't respect their work. But I'll
be honest. The first thing that I'm looking at when
I see is Wow, that person's attractive.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
Right.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
These people live in like places I've never been. They
live in like, you know, college Station, Texas. Like I
don't care about the weather in College Station. I'm sorry
I don't, but I'm like, oh, that person's attractive. And
then it's like, oh they're married. Yeah, I don't need to.
I would have maybe cared if it was seventy eight
degrees in College Station today, but I don't otherwise. Okay,
But man, this is what it is. I think that
(03:40):
most guys are trying to find someone to date, like,
so he his intention in coming over to you, he
probably and continuing to engage with you was that he
found you attractive because there's no notnything.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Else about you.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I didn't look at her well, does the matter he
thought you were You're a good looking woman, you.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Know, appreciate it, But I really I've seen the best.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Of you, and i've seen the worst of you, and
it's still a very high high level.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
In a very high level. That's a lie. No, No,
it's true, it's true. I do feel that way.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
But I think as soon as he heard that you
were taken that I guess it's just like, well, what
further engagement is there here? Because I would say that
typically it would be a pretty tough putt for a
single guy to make a platonic friendship with a woman
who has a boyfriend, because it's just kind of.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
The way it is.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Like I think if you went home and like if
you gave me your number, and or like if i'll
see tomorrow and we'll be friends, you know, and we'll
see each other at the dog park, and you go
home and tell your husband or especially your boyfriend, Hey,
I met this guy at the dog park, gave him
my number. We're gonna be friends. If we're being very transparent,
I think there are very few men that would go, oh,
that's a great idea, Like that's amazing, Like you should
(04:49):
absolutely go drink and hang out with another guy at
the pin and it should be that way, right. But
but I'm just saying we as manor are weak creatures
at times, and we can be possessive and we could
be insecure.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
And I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I think if if roles were reversed and your boyfriends
or fiances or whomever came home and said the same thing,
you might be like, well that, what did you hear?
That's not boundaried? Really, Like I don't. I don't know
about that. I mean, it's and again, is there anything
wrong with it inherently? But if I if I were
guessing it was he was interested and then you said
you had a boyfriend, and his takeaway is I'm.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Not going to be her best friend.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
I don't really want to be her best friend, and
we're not going to be able to date so and
I don't want to. I'm not trying to get in
any weird situation if your boyfriend walks up, so I'm
just gonna walk away.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Yeah, And to be clear, like I have, I do
have boundaries, like I would not have exchanged numbers with him.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
I am a social person like I.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
My boyfriend doesn't look I mean we were in Greece
and the boat driver, like I exchanged instagrams with him
because I wanted to like see where his story went.
Like I don't I don't do it because I have
a crush on him, but I don't know.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
I just it made me feel.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Sad like I was only I don't know, like we
weren't having a good conversation.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
Otherwise, like I.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Would take it that way. I would just say he
shot his heap. He saw an opportunity and he didn't
get it, and so he just dismissed. He just you know,
departed the kind of faster. Yeah, I don't know, because
I don't know what you know, he could have. I
guess he could have certainly tried to be your friend.
Then he could have also been the douchebag guy that's like, well,
(06:23):
we don't care about him.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Do we, or like you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Yeah, no, I mean you know what I'm talking about
as women who've been hit on my men and are
in relationships, you know how, I'm sure in my life
I've done it and I'm shamed, ashamed of myself. But
it's like, yeah, oh where's he? He ain't here, and
you know that kind of stupid stuff that men do.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Yeah, I mean I didn't think we were gonna go
get pedicures together. I just thought like there could have
been a smoother transition of his exit, like you could
have stayed like ten more minutes.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
It makes me not feel like I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Maybe maybe in some strange way, he was being respectful.
Maybe he felt like he didn't want you to feel
hit on, or he didn't want any sort of confrontation.
I'm trying to give this guy the benefit of the doubt.
But what I'm what it came down to is you
thought you were hot and then you were taking so
he walked away.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
I just like to yep, I'm from the Midwest, like
I'm just trying to talk to everyone.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
But yeah, that was it didn't feel great, So I'm sorry.
That's okay.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
I don't think it was personal.
Speaker 4 (07:11):
I'll see you guys at the dog park.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
I think he was envisioning a life together.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Someone texted friends saying I don't know enough about music
while being in radio Forever is funny. No, I don't
know about music theory. I know a lot about music.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
I'm not I don't, I'm not in the lab. You know,
I don't go to the studio with Armin van Buren
and Layer tracks. You know, I don't.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
I don't know what it's all called.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
You know, he doesn't know about glee Club.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
It's like, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I don't know what it's like. I can't build a
song with my mouth, okay, like I can no, not okay.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
I'm sure
Speaker 1 (07:47):
I can make people saying
Anyway, Sorry, here's.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Do a blog like writing in our diaries exactly say,
I'm aloud.
Speaker 3 (00:04):
Go ahead, deer blog. So I have a question for
the straight men. So I guess Fred and any and
kikiS and anyone listening.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
So me.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
And it was something that was ruminating in my mind,
and then you said something the other day that I
kind of feel like affirmed this, and so I just
want to know why do straight men not want to
make new straight female friends?
Speaker 1 (00:30):
Okay, what's the context?
Speaker 4 (00:31):
So, and I think I'm stage.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
And I can tell you why.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Okay, for sure, I'm excited to know because I've been
pondering this because my new thing, and I found like
a life hack, is taking a bottle of wine to
the dog park.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
And so I sit outside. There's hell of dogs there.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Don't worry, I have one too, so I'm not like
creepy just sitting in the strange.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
I guess if you just went to the dog park
without one, but you probably can.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Yeah, but it's the cheapest bar in town. I bring
it in my little bag, a red Solo.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Cup, and I said, there, I play with dogs. I
have my little happy hour. My dog gets outside, what
YadA YadA. So the other night I went, and this
is a little sad. I went on a Saturday night
that is not sad.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
That sounds like an amazing night. A bunch of dogs,
a red solo, cupful of alcohol, and solitude. Yeah, no,
that's probably is. You've described the greatest Saturday night at
all time.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Listen. The weather was hitting. It was hoodie weather. I
went to Binnie's. I got some red wine. Like I
was just you know, we were Me and Willie were
city girls, okay girls.
Speaker 4 (01:33):
So I went to the park and.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
Unfortunately on Saturday nights it's a little less crowded than
it is on other nights, as there was only one
other gentleman there, and so, you know, I pull up,
I get my spot, and usually at the dog park
you end up talking to other people that are there
because your dogs play, and like.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Because you're kind of just standing there or sitting there,
you know, while they're doing there. Yeah, it's a social
event for them.
Speaker 4 (01:54):
It really is. Like we have chairs at ours.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
And he was standing up playing with the dogs, but
his dogs ran over to me, so we ended up
talking and we were really like we were just kicking it.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
We were both hanging out.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
I asked him, you know, I'm like, shoot, I wish
I would have brought you a cup. I would have
had some wine for you. And he's like, yeah, I'm jealous.
And so we talked for a little while. We hung
out and he was asking me questions and then came
the answer of well, how long did you have your dog?
And then I explained that she was my boyfriend's first
for a long time and then we started dating and
she kind of just we became obsessed with each other.
Speaker 4 (02:26):
And got it out.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
My dog and regardless of what happens is my dog.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
I'm glad you're learning.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
But the second that I brought up that I had
a boyfriend, this man like there was he ran through
the fence, like he didn't even open the door to
the fence.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
He literally put his dogs on his leashes and he
got the hell home.
Speaker 3 (02:44):
And I was just there with my you know what
in my hand, and I would say, like, it hurt
my feelings, and I was like, I thought we were
having fun. I thought we were going to become friends
and maybe not like an exchange of number situation, but
like I thought we were vibing, and it just really
hurt my feelings, and then you said the other day,
You're like, I'll follow a hot news anchor and see
that she's got a ring, and then I'll unfollow her.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
Why don't you want new friends?
Speaker 2 (03:07):
And I don't mean to suggest when I said that,
I don't mean to. Let me just clarify. I don't
mean to suggest I don't respect their work. But I'll
be honest. The first thing that I'm looking at when
I see is Wow, that person's attractive.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
Right.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
These people live in like places I've never been. They
live in like, you know, college Station, Texas. Like I
don't care about the weather in College Station. I'm sorry
I don't, but I'm like, oh, that person's attractive. And
then it's like, oh they're married. Yeah, I don't need to.
I would have maybe cared if it was seventy eight
degrees in College Station today, but I don't otherwise. Okay,
But man, this is what it is. I think that
(03:40):
most guys are trying to find someone to date, like,
so he his intention in coming over to you, he
probably and continuing to engage with you was that he
found you attractive because there's no notnything.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Else about you.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I didn't look at her well, does the matter he
thought you were You're a good looking woman, you.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Know, appreciate it, But I really I've seen the best.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Of you, and i've seen the worst of you, and
it's still a very high high level.
Speaker 1 (04:03):
In a very high level. That's a lie. No, No,
it's true, it's true. I do feel that way.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
But I think as soon as he heard that you
were taken that I guess it's just like, well, what
further engagement is there here? Because I would say that
typically it would be a pretty tough putt for a
single guy to make a platonic friendship with a woman
who has a boyfriend, because it's just kind of.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
The way it is.
Speaker 2 (04:27):
Like I think if you went home and like if
you gave me your number, and or like if i'll
see tomorrow and we'll be friends, you know, and we'll
see each other at the dog park, and you go
home and tell your husband or especially your boyfriend, Hey,
I met this guy at the dog park, gave him
my number. We're gonna be friends. If we're being very transparent,
I think there are very few men that would go, oh,
that's a great idea, Like that's amazing, Like you should
(04:49):
absolutely go drink and hang out with another guy at
the pin and it should be that way, right. But
but I'm just saying we as manor are weak creatures
at times, and we can be possessive and we could
be insecure.
Speaker 1 (05:00):
And I don't know.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
I think if if roles were reversed and your boyfriends
or fiances or whomever came home and said the same thing,
you might be like, well that, what did you hear?
That's not boundaried? Really, Like I don't. I don't know
about that. I mean, it's and again, is there anything
wrong with it inherently? But if I if I were
guessing it was he was interested and then you said
you had a boyfriend, and his takeaway is I'm.
Speaker 1 (05:23):
Not going to be her best friend.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
I don't really want to be her best friend, and
we're not going to be able to date so and
I don't want to. I'm not trying to get in
any weird situation if your boyfriend walks up, so I'm
just gonna walk away.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Yeah, And to be clear, like I have, I do
have boundaries, like I would not have exchanged numbers with him.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
I am a social person like I.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
My boyfriend doesn't look I mean we were in Greece
and the boat driver, like I exchanged instagrams with him
because I wanted to like see where his story went.
Like I don't I don't do it because I have
a crush on him, but I don't know.
Speaker 4 (05:53):
I just it made me feel.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Sad like I was only I don't know, like we
weren't having a good conversation.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
Otherwise, like I.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Would take it that way. I would just say he
shot his heap. He saw an opportunity and he didn't
get it, and so he just dismissed. He just you know,
departed the kind of faster. Yeah, I don't know, because
I don't know what you know, he could have. I
guess he could have certainly tried to be your friend.
Then he could have also been the douchebag guy that's like, well,
(06:23):
we don't care about him.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Do we, or like you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Yeah, no, I mean you know what I'm talking about
as women who've been hit on my men and are
in relationships, you know how, I'm sure in my life
I've done it and I'm shamed, ashamed of myself. But
it's like, yeah, oh where's he? He ain't here, and
you know that kind of stupid stuff that men do.
Speaker 3 (06:39):
Yeah, I mean I didn't think we were gonna go
get pedicures together. I just thought like there could have
been a smoother transition of his exit, like you could
have stayed like ten more minutes.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
It makes me not feel like I don't know.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Maybe maybe in some strange way, he was being respectful.
Maybe he felt like he didn't want you to feel
hit on, or he didn't want any sort of confrontation.
I'm trying to give this guy the benefit of the doubt.
But what I'm what it came down to is you
thought you were hot and then you were taking so
he walked away.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
I just like to yep, I'm from the Midwest, like
I'm just trying to talk to everyone.
Speaker 4 (07:06):
But yeah, that was it didn't feel great, So I'm sorry.
That's okay.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
I don't think it was personal.
Speaker 4 (07:11):
I'll see you guys at the dog park.
Speaker 1 (07:12):
I think he was envisioning a life together.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Someone texted friends saying I don't know enough about music
while being in radio Forever is funny. No, I don't
know about music theory. I know a lot about music.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
I don't.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
I'm not I don't, I'm not in the lab. You know,
I don't go to the studio with Armin van Buren
and Layer tracks. You know, I don't.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
I don't know what it's all called.
Speaker 4 (07:35):
You know, he doesn't know about glee Club.
Speaker 1 (07:37):
It's like, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
I don't know what it's like. I can't build a
song with my mouth, okay, like I can no, not okay.
Speaker 4 (07:44):
I'm sure
Speaker 1 (07:47):
I can make people saying
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