Radio Blogs: Kaelin's Question To The Show

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Dear blood.

Speaker 2 (00:01):
So I have a moral dilemma and I feel like,
I know you guys are going to say, but I
just want to bring it to the table. It's something
that I'm just perusing in my crazy.

Speaker 3 (00:10):
Chaotic brain of mine.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
So I know someone who is dating someone thinking of
dating someone that I have dated, and it was a
really bad relationship. Really bad, not just like oh, you know,
light stuff. It was really bad. And I understand very
much that different people have different experiences, but I do

(00:35):
know for a fact that it was just not a
personal to me experience with this person, right, and it's
not a best friend, but you know, we were just
talking about sisterhood and women and I just I don't know.
I wish someone had told me about it, or at
least just said, heads up, this is what I know,
this is what people's experience were. And I don't want

(00:56):
to go into detail. I don't want to be heavy,
but I really it's like should I say something or
should I just watch it happen, like I've watched it
happen to other people.

Speaker 1 (01:06):
And myself, yikes.

Speaker 3 (01:08):
Yeah, and they don't know that you dated this person
at all.

Speaker 1 (01:14):
Yeah, I because.

Speaker 2 (01:15):
If they had, maybe they would have asked, but and
I know, stay out of it, but it's like stuff
that would be hard for me to feel like I
should stay out of it.

Speaker 1 (01:24):
I feel like people, I feel like it always backfires. Yeah,
I feel like even when you're right, you're right because
I've been single for a long time and so it's
not It hasn't been uncommon in my life that people
have met someone that I dated, or vice versa or whatever.
And it just in my experience when someone goes, hey,
what do you I met so and so, and I'm like, hey,
I don't. I might not like I didn't have a

(01:46):
great experience, you know whatever, This is kind of what
I went through, And then they do it anyway, and
then the same thing happens. But then usually there's some
rift or damage that's caused in the process because that
person then goes and tells the other person this is
what Zoe and so said, Well that's not true, and
then even if it does happen, they don't want to
be you know what I mean. It's it's very messy.

(02:06):
I feel like people have to figure out on their own,
and it's got to be hard to do because it's
almost like you're watching the car accident before it happens.

Speaker 2 (02:12):
Yeah, and maybe it's a little triggering for me too,
but it's I might do the story later. Meghan Good
is dating Jonathan Major, and she said a lot of
people did warn her, you know, hey, he's going through
this abuse trial with his ex, YadA, YadA, and she
chose to stay. But she already knew that, like she
knew he was on trial what he was on trial for.
They spoke about it at length. But yeah, I mean,

(02:32):
I probably won't end up, but it's just something that
I had been struggling with.

Speaker 3 (02:37):
The end of the day, I just feel like you
have to do what you feel is right because then
you can sleep at night knowing that you did what
was right. However, you do have to be prepared, like
Fritz said, to deal with the consequences that are come
that will come with that, because a lot of times
people bond over having one of the time. Yeah, so
she'll go back and say, oh, well, Kaylen's hot. Yeah,
so strong until it falls apart, but you'll be the

(02:58):
end and to start out, so yeah, okay.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
And I suppose I suppose people can change. I suppose
people can be different. In the content I mean maybe
I don't know, your experience could possibly be different from
someone else. I just don't know if there's a win there.
And then, of course what happens is you if you
say something later like man, I you know, I had
a bad experience, and then it's like I wish you
told me, And then it's kind of a no win

(03:23):
because if you say something too early and then let's say,
God honestly, God forbid, but let's say that you it
was a different experience, Well then then that's not good
on you at the time. Even if they haven't figured
it out yet, that's not good on you. Then if
they break up, they're embarrassed, which makes it weird, the
friendship weird after. I mean, it's just unfortunately there's really
no win.

Speaker 3 (03:44):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (03:44):
Yeah, so you just gotta keep your mouth shut.

Speaker 2 (03:46):
Okay that's hard for me to do, but.

Speaker 1 (03:48):
Yeah, me too. Don't just bring it on here, just
bring it to if ye's let's just bring it here,
use a lot of innuendo and then let people wonder
what they hell more. Fredshaw next