Radio Blogs: Kaelin's Wedding Gift Etiquette!

Kaelin attended another wedding over the weekend and her and her boyfriend have very different views on how to give the newlyweds a gift!

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Speaker 1 (01:12):
So I feel like all I've been doing lately, and
by lately, I mean like the last five to seven years,
is going to weddings. I go to a lot of weddings.
It's kind of my second job. And you know, we've
seen the changes and the trends evolve. We've talked about
on the show. You know, do you give a cash gift?
Do you still stick with the registry? You know? And

(01:32):
I think think things have evolved. So one trend I
have noticed is that not a lot of people, some
people still do will bring their cards to the actual wedding.
Typically they'll mail it before or afterwards, which I feel
like is nice, especially if it's out of town. You
don't have to lug that whole box home. But I know,
you know, for the Nanas and the Aunties, they still

(01:53):
want to bring their card and put it in a box. Well,
I prefer to send it later. But I do like
to get a good card, write something in there and
give a little cash. I will always give cash for
a wedding. My boyfriend always wants to send the cash
via Venmo or Zelle. And I think we're getting a

(02:14):
little too lax, a little too informal. I don't know
what you guys think, but I know some people are
doing this. It just makes me feel a little icky
to just like send you some cash, you know, for
your wedding.

Speaker 2 (02:27):
Yeah, because I send people money like when they when
they like buy me breakfast, right, you know, I don't Yeah, yeah,
I think it's at a little informal. It's like, oh here,
here's some money. Was like, it's like throwing money at someone.
Oh yeah, here's money, here, this whatever, and it takes
two seconds and there's no real effort involved. Yeah. I
don't think we're there yet for weddings.

Speaker 1 (02:48):
No, I don't think so. Now, there were people in
between the at the wedding, I was at last between
the church and the party that were running to buy
their cards and stuff. Then I'm like, you don't need
to just mail it after as.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
Long as you do it because trust me, we all
know people will remember if you don't do it. Everyone
remembers the people who didn't give gifts. Right or wrong,
everybody remembers the people who didn't give gifts.

Speaker 1 (03:10):
I've noticed that I haven't really noticed that. And for
friends that I've heard talk crap about like wedding gifts situations,
I'll give them a little more because I very much
don't want to be talking no.

Speaker 2 (03:22):
It, And well, I don't think that we should have
to give based on what we think it are. Like
I've heard We've been over this a million times, but
I've heard the thing where it's like, you should give
the amount of money that you think it cost for
you and your guests to attend. Now, I'll give you
whatever because I might, I might want to give you
more than I think your wedding cost. I don't know.
It's not my job to pay for myself at your wedding.

Speaker 3 (03:43):
No, no, no, no.

Speaker 2 (03:45):
I do think people will judge you based on what
they've done for you in the past. Like my mom
is like this. My mom my mom is given to
cousins graduations and friends kids graduations, and she remembers who
gave to us, and she remember my grandma, my nana
was really about this and then she remembers who thanked
her and who didn't. Oh, oh, that's a big one.

(04:07):
The thank you is a big one from my mom.
If she sends you something and you don't say thank
you in any form, she doesn't like that. Even if
it's just I don't know. You were supposed to send
a gift because it was a graduation. You were supposed
to send a gift because it was a wedding. She
wants to thank you, and she'll remember if you didn't
do it. So these are all the things I think
people consider, But I don't know that a zel. You
can't just zell. I can just zell you fifty bucks

(04:29):
at your birthday and go here.

Speaker 1 (04:30):
I don't love it. And well, by the way, I
do always give more if I have a date with
me regardless. You know, I don't think you should pay
for plates you.

Speaker 2 (04:37):
Give on behalf of because there were two of you. Yeah, yeah, no,
I think that makes sense.

Speaker 1 (04:41):
Pee would you be You're the only married person in
the room. Would you be offended if someone zell do you?

Speaker 2 (04:46):
No?

Speaker 3 (04:46):
I've had people do that.

Speaker 1 (04:47):
Really.

Speaker 3 (04:48):
A family friend actually did because she lives in Florida
and she couldn't go to my veigas wedding. I totally understand.
So she zelled me and I thought that was really sweet.
Oh I don't care, but I also I get the
feeling I wouldn't do it personally, I'm not very Yeah,
but I think the next twenty maybe thirty years, I
think that's going to be the new trend because millennials
don't have checks, Like we just don't have them.

Speaker 1 (05:06):
We're Shelley. But you know, I just I know it's hard,
and I usually give cash, so I hand it to
the person like directly if I see them after or whatever.
But I don't know if I'm here, I don't give
what's in the line, like ingrats and the rest of
your life.

Speaker 2 (05:22):
Yeah, I don't know. That's a good question, because you're right.
I mean, I guess I have. I have to dig
for my checks. Yeah, you go find them because I
have so rarely use them. Yeah, and then I'll put
money in the envelope because if it gets lost and
that's gone. But yeah, I don't know what you do
because you're right, I mean, everyone that is really how
it's going. But at the same time, it's just so impersonal. Yeah,
it's like you could send a card and then wait

(05:43):
a few days and then zell and hope the card
and the zell land at the same time.

Speaker 1 (05:47):
But like, I don't know, that's what you say, like, hey,
did you get myzelf? You know what I mean?

Speaker 3 (05:50):
Like you feel silly. But I can also argue right
and say that some people do like an online account
or a wedding whatever.

Speaker 1 (05:57):
It's called honeymoon fund, and some people will give their
gift that way.

Speaker 3 (06:01):
Is that none of the same?

Speaker 2 (06:02):
Almost almost kind of you're saying that's how I want
you to give it, Like yeah, you know, yeah, that's
a nice thing to do.

Speaker 1 (06:09):
Though.

Speaker 2 (06:10):
I think that's a nice thing to do if you're
having a wedding, is have some form of like digital
way that I can do it, because that way I'm
doing the efficient thing. But then I don't feel like
it's informal because you're saying do it this way.

Speaker 1 (06:22):
I agree.

Speaker 4 (06:23):
Yeah, it's also tacky to like put your your cash
app code on the invite or something like that. Yeah,
people do that now. They'll put like happy birthday to me,
and then they'll put their cash app in.

Speaker 1 (06:35):
The corner like that's so tag.

Speaker 4 (06:37):
Yeah, No, I don't know, but Actually, I don't care
how you give me the money. Okay, cash app means it,
you put it in my hand.

Speaker 2 (06:44):
It just seems like, I know how fast.

Speaker 1 (06:49):
I gotta give some money.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
Oh my god, I get on my app boom boom
boom here So I don't know, here's two hundred bucks whatever.
It just seems so sort of like an afterthought, you
know what I mean. But I guess it's better than nothing. Yeah,
you guys do with the cards after Paulleen? Do you
used toll have your wedding cards? I do.

Speaker 1 (07:04):
I'm such a like little dork.

Speaker 3 (07:05):
I keep all my cards birthday and I have communion
cards for my Baptists. I have it all at Okay, Yeah,
I like to look at that stuff later, So be classy.

Speaker 1 (07:13):
Get a car from the Dallas store. Yes, cards are
expensive too. I got to conect that in.

Speaker 2 (07:18):
Yeah, ninety nine cents.

Speaker 1 (07:20):
Yeah yeah, that was the value area.

Speaker 2 (07:21):
The last card I bought was seven dollars.

Speaker 1 (07:24):
It works.