August 21, 2025 • 8 mins
Keke has new respect for parents after having a funny conversation with her nephew.
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Speaker 3 (00:50):
Yo go all right, dear blog, you know parents, I
just want to extend my gratitude, appreciation and sympathy for you,
because what I've learned is having children is a constant
life of negotiation with a child, Like my nephew is this.
(01:10):
He is a negotiator, And I'm like, how does this
work as a parent, because for me, there's no I'm
not negotiating with you. It is like either you're gonna
do it or you're not. And so I get this
text yesterday And he does this often whenever he wants something.
He goes, hey, auntie, if my grades are good, can
I have X, Y, and Z. And I get stuck
(01:32):
on the part of if my grades are like, that
is your responsibility in life?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Like, that's not really a choice, Like you don't have
the choice to get bad grade.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Right, And I'm like, what has made you think that
you can negotiate doing your responsibility in life?
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Like, this is not how this works.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
No, you deliver good grades and then I decide if
I want to reward you for that. It's not a
if you do, then I do. And he loves to negotiate.
And I've seen other parents do this, even with the
like if you be good in this store, I'll get
you a toy. If you behave that, this doctor's appointment
will go. And my parents did it too, We'll go
get McDonald's.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
We'll go get Like what.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I want to know, By the way, how do you
find yourself negotiating with your kid? If this resonates with you,
five three five, because we have some time, I'd love
to hear this.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Yeah, no, I think you're right. Yeah, Like I don't
why are we doing this?
Speaker 3 (02:23):
And probably I don't know if you've come to this
point with Gigi it, but like do you have to
negotiate with her or make a promise?
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Like so she's what one and a half almost like
we're not really very yet because she can't really respond
to me or give me her demands.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Although she kind does well, she can tell you no right.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
She loves the word no, like it's her favorite word
in the world.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
But I have to either redirect with her or like
negotiate something different. If it's like bedtime, we're gonna take
away the toy or turn the TV off. If there's
a meltdown that comes with it, I gotta be like, Okay,
I'm gonna give your pacifier, you know. So it's like
I'm negotiating to I guess, and it's not the greatest
thing because I feel like she should just do as
I said, because I'm her mother and preparing, but I'm
(03:02):
scared me she gets older, it's gonna be a lot
of like, you know, if I do this, can I
do that? It's like no, right, no, if I clean
my room, my mother did this to me. She was
I wanted a fingernail extensions at like you know eight.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
She was shocking.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I know she already had a wig, right, So it
was when I laughed and makeup. But no, she goes,
if you clean out your room and clean your closet
top to bottom, you can go get your nails done.
She promised me that when I tell you guys, I
clean that that room from top to bottom. And she thought,
because she this is all happening on a Sunday, that
the nail salon was closed. So that was her plan.
(03:37):
And she's like, okay, I'm let her cleaning up and
then I'm gonna tell you the nail.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Saloon was open.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
And so yeah, she did not keep her part of
the negotiation, and I had a complete meltdown. So it's
like we got to stop this negotiation thing, like just
do what you're supposed to do.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, the text one thousand per parenting, it's all about
bribing your kids, and then someone else texted, that's what
doctors tell us to do if then statements.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Yeah, kail oh, I was just gonna ask Paulina. Don't
you ask gig sometimes? Like do you want to go
with me here? Even though like there's no option?
Speaker 5 (04:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Yeah, I'm like, you want to want to target?
Speaker 5 (04:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Surely know where the hell target is? She'll say no,
and You're like, well you're still going right, Like We're
just like, yeah, do you want to go here?
Speaker 4 (04:17):
No? But the thing is I'm trying to also test
her to see do you even know what I'm saying?
Like do you know what target is? Because I'm curious
she knows. I'm curious if she's like getting what I'm
putting down here, Like do you know where we're going?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I know. My parents were always super generous, but but
there were there were times when they would negotiate with me.
I mean the school, I was expected that was my job.
They always just say that growing up, like that's you.
My job is to go to work and make money
to pay for the food and the house and stuff.
Your job just go to school and I and then
I remember my dad used to say, I wish that
were my I wish my job. We're going to school
(04:51):
every day. I feel and I'm like, you're you're a moron.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Dad.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
I never said that to a face, but I thought that.
But now I wish my job were to go to school.
If somebody would pay amy when I make to do this,
to go to school every day and just learn and
just get all these degrees, I would do it if
that were my job. And he used to say that
someday you're gonna wish, and I'm like, you're an idiot
in my head. Never do his face because he'd slapped
me across his face. But uh, but they but but
(05:15):
I was afraid of the doctor, right. I had meningiitis
when I was a little kid, and I was in
the hospital for three or four weeks, and I hated it.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Of you know, three I'm conditioned. I hate the doctor.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
So they would bribe me to go to the doctor,
like if you go to the doctor and get your shot,
we'll go to the toy store or something like the
traumatic things or like really high level things that were complicated.
You know, my parents got divorced. Here, here's a hamster,
you know, here, here's here's guilt gifts, you know what
I mean, like, oh, you wanted the new video game, Fine,
you can have it because you're you know, your father's
a jackass or whatever it is. But but no, and
(05:44):
then and then there was an allowance situation where it
was like you, you know, you have to the famous
mowing the lawn thing that apparently never happened in my house,
but it did. It was hey, But but that was
more of like a spending responsibility thing. That was more like,
here's a couple easy things that you have to do.
We'll give the money for it, and then you could
spend the money now, or you could save it up
and spend it on something.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
But that was I think more about budgeting.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I think that was less about bribing me to do
stuff because they were overpaying me for the crappy work
I was doing and I'm a sucker.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
So every time we negotiate, he actually gets it, but
it's just like why are we doing this?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Well, that's the problem is it's learned behavior, right, so
like you do it, you do it for him once
and then every semester it's going to be good grades
and this. But then you have to ask yourself, like Okay,
you shouldn't have to do that, but is the investment
worth the result?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Like what is he asking for?
Speaker 5 (06:33):
Now?
Speaker 2 (06:33):
You're you've got some bougie as these nephews rather so
they're asking for Gucci and pradat. But you know, if
the guy wants a video game for a semester worth
of a's like that sounds like a pretty good deal
if that's the motivator. But if he wants you know,
Gucci slides because he went to pe class, then it's
like no, no think So hey Britney, Hi, Hi, So
(06:53):
you think this is a good idea or a bad idea.
You're a teacher and this negotiating stuff with kids, right, I.
Speaker 5 (07:00):
Wouldn't call it so much negotiating, but it's more of like,
if you do this, then this will happen. So I
teach it in my classroom as like executive functioning skills.
And some kids, you know, especially as a really young
age I'm fifth grade, they they don't know what's going
to happen next. So like if I don't know at home,
(07:23):
like if you do your homework, then you can stay
up for five more minutes, but not every day or
then you get your TV time.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Okay, that okay, So so it is it is kind
of negotiating, but it doesn't have necessarily be material material related,
like you don't have to buy them things, pay them.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Money, right right, Like how you guys are saying, like.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
So it's about choices and choices because my sister's big
on a therapist. God God saved my nieces. You know,
everything is a and you know this because you're the
you're the daughter of a therapist. Came but it's like
everything is you can choose to do this or you
can choose to do that. And she says it like
that too, and then Paul you look at her and
be okay, you know, but like you're choosing this, you're
(08:10):
choosing this path, Polly.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
That's valuable information.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Though I don't know something. I'm on the couch. We
make choices every day.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
But Brittany's kind of the same thing, right, You're you're
sort of laying out like here's here's one path and
here's the other.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 5 (08:25):
Right?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Because kids like that choice too.
Speaker 5 (08:27):
They like like quote unquote being in charge, although you're
kind of like limiting act.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Yeah, I got it, thank you, Brittany, have a good day. Thanks.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I was negotiating with my trainer yesterday on the lakefront.
If I run a little faster, do I not have
to run as far? And he said, shut the hell up.
More freadshell next
This is the Fread Show.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
Let's get you Hotel a trip for Tunisie Jennifer Lopez
her brand new Las Vegas residency. Jennifer Lopez off All
Night Live in Las Vegas March thirteenth, twenty twenty six
at the Coliseum at Caesar's Palace. Text Diva to three
seven three three seven right now for a chance to
win two tickets to the March thirteenth show at two
night hotels day March twelfth through the fourteenth at the
(00:24):
Flamingo Hotel and Casino, Las Vegas and Roun Trevert Fair.
A confirmation text to be sent Dannard Message and data
rates may apply.
Speaker 1 (00:31):
All thanks to Live Nation.
Speaker 2 (00:33):
Tickets are on sale now at ticketmaster dot com for
all shows running December thirtieth through January third, and March
sixth through the twenty eighth.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
They talk better than they say you tell me.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
These are the radio blogs on The Fread Show Life
for running in our diaries, except we say them a
loud We call them blogs ki ki.
Speaker 3 (00:50):
Yo go all right, dear blog, you know parents, I
just want to extend my gratitude, appreciation and sympathy for you,
because what I've learned is having children is a constant
life of negotiation with a child, Like my nephew is this.
(01:10):
He is a negotiator, And I'm like, how does this
work as a parent, because for me, there's no I'm
not negotiating with you. It is like either you're gonna
do it or you're not. And so I get this
text yesterday And he does this often whenever he wants something.
He goes, hey, auntie, if my grades are good, can
I have X, Y, and Z. And I get stuck
(01:32):
on the part of if my grades are like, that
is your responsibility in life?
Speaker 2 (01:36):
Like, that's not really a choice, Like you don't have
the choice to get bad grade.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Right, And I'm like, what has made you think that
you can negotiate doing your responsibility in life?
Speaker 1 (01:48):
Like, this is not how this works.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
No, you deliver good grades and then I decide if
I want to reward you for that. It's not a
if you do, then I do. And he loves to negotiate.
And I've seen other parents do this, even with the
like if you be good in this store, I'll get
you a toy. If you behave that, this doctor's appointment
will go. And my parents did it too, We'll go
get McDonald's.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
We'll go get Like what.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I want to know, By the way, how do you
find yourself negotiating with your kid? If this resonates with you,
five three five, because we have some time, I'd love
to hear this.
Speaker 1 (02:20):
Yeah, no, I think you're right. Yeah, Like I don't
why are we doing this?
Speaker 3 (02:23):
And probably I don't know if you've come to this
point with Gigi it, but like do you have to
negotiate with her or make a promise?
Speaker 4 (02:29):
Like so she's what one and a half almost like
we're not really very yet because she can't really respond
to me or give me her demands.
Speaker 1 (02:36):
Although she kind does well, she can tell you no right.
Speaker 3 (02:39):
Oh.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
She loves the word no, like it's her favorite word
in the world.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
But I have to either redirect with her or like
negotiate something different. If it's like bedtime, we're gonna take
away the toy or turn the TV off. If there's
a meltdown that comes with it, I gotta be like, Okay,
I'm gonna give your pacifier, you know. So it's like
I'm negotiating to I guess, and it's not the greatest
thing because I feel like she should just do as
I said, because I'm her mother and preparing, but I'm
(03:02):
scared me she gets older, it's gonna be a lot
of like, you know, if I do this, can I
do that? It's like no, right, no, if I clean
my room, my mother did this to me. She was
I wanted a fingernail extensions at like you know eight.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
She was shocking.
Speaker 3 (03:16):
I know she already had a wig, right, So it
was when I laughed and makeup. But no, she goes,
if you clean out your room and clean your closet
top to bottom, you can go get your nails done.
She promised me that when I tell you guys, I
clean that that room from top to bottom. And she thought,
because she this is all happening on a Sunday, that
the nail salon was closed. So that was her plan.
(03:37):
And she's like, okay, I'm let her cleaning up and
then I'm gonna tell you the nail.
Speaker 1 (03:41):
Saloon was open.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
And so yeah, she did not keep her part of
the negotiation, and I had a complete meltdown. So it's
like we got to stop this negotiation thing, like just
do what you're supposed to do.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, the text one thousand per parenting, it's all about
bribing your kids, and then someone else texted, that's what
doctors tell us to do if then statements.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Yeah, kail oh, I was just gonna ask Paulina. Don't
you ask gig sometimes? Like do you want to go
with me here? Even though like there's no option?
Speaker 5 (04:07):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Yeah, I'm like, you want to want to target?
Speaker 5 (04:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (04:10):
Surely know where the hell target is? She'll say no,
and You're like, well you're still going right, Like We're
just like, yeah, do you want to go here?
Speaker 4 (04:17):
No? But the thing is I'm trying to also test
her to see do you even know what I'm saying?
Like do you know what target is? Because I'm curious
she knows. I'm curious if she's like getting what I'm
putting down here, Like do you know where we're going?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (04:29):
I know. My parents were always super generous, but but
there were there were times when they would negotiate with me.
I mean the school, I was expected that was my job.
They always just say that growing up, like that's you.
My job is to go to work and make money
to pay for the food and the house and stuff.
Your job just go to school and I and then
I remember my dad used to say, I wish that
were my I wish my job. We're going to school
(04:51):
every day. I feel and I'm like, you're you're a moron.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
Dad.
Speaker 2 (04:54):
I never said that to a face, but I thought that.
But now I wish my job were to go to school.
If somebody would pay amy when I make to do this,
to go to school every day and just learn and
just get all these degrees, I would do it if
that were my job. And he used to say that
someday you're gonna wish, and I'm like, you're an idiot
in my head. Never do his face because he'd slapped
me across his face. But uh, but they but but
(05:15):
I was afraid of the doctor, right. I had meningiitis
when I was a little kid, and I was in
the hospital for three or four weeks, and I hated it.
Speaker 1 (05:20):
Of you know, three I'm conditioned. I hate the doctor.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
So they would bribe me to go to the doctor,
like if you go to the doctor and get your shot,
we'll go to the toy store or something like the
traumatic things or like really high level things that were complicated.
You know, my parents got divorced. Here, here's a hamster,
you know, here, here's here's guilt gifts, you know what
I mean, like, oh, you wanted the new video game, Fine,
you can have it because you're you know, your father's
a jackass or whatever it is. But but no, and
(05:44):
then and then there was an allowance situation where it
was like you, you know, you have to the famous
mowing the lawn thing that apparently never happened in my house,
but it did. It was hey, But but that was
more of like a spending responsibility thing. That was more like,
here's a couple easy things that you have to do.
We'll give the money for it, and then you could
spend the money now, or you could save it up
and spend it on something.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
But that was I think more about budgeting.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
I think that was less about bribing me to do
stuff because they were overpaying me for the crappy work
I was doing and I'm a sucker.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
So every time we negotiate, he actually gets it, but
it's just like why are we doing this?
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Well, that's the problem is it's learned behavior, right, so
like you do it, you do it for him once
and then every semester it's going to be good grades
and this. But then you have to ask yourself, like Okay,
you shouldn't have to do that, but is the investment
worth the result?
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Like what is he asking for?
Speaker 5 (06:33):
Now?
Speaker 2 (06:33):
You're you've got some bougie as these nephews rather so
they're asking for Gucci and pradat. But you know, if
the guy wants a video game for a semester worth
of a's like that sounds like a pretty good deal
if that's the motivator. But if he wants you know,
Gucci slides because he went to pe class, then it's
like no, no think So hey Britney, Hi, Hi, So
(06:53):
you think this is a good idea or a bad idea.
You're a teacher and this negotiating stuff with kids, right, I.
Speaker 5 (07:00):
Wouldn't call it so much negotiating, but it's more of like,
if you do this, then this will happen. So I
teach it in my classroom as like executive functioning skills.
And some kids, you know, especially as a really young
age I'm fifth grade, they they don't know what's going
to happen next. So like if I don't know at home,
(07:23):
like if you do your homework, then you can stay
up for five more minutes, but not every day or
then you get your TV time.
Speaker 2 (07:33):
Okay, that okay, So so it is it is kind
of negotiating, but it doesn't have necessarily be material material related,
like you don't have to buy them things, pay them.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Money, right right, Like how you guys are saying, like.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
So it's about choices and choices because my sister's big
on a therapist. God God saved my nieces. You know,
everything is a and you know this because you're the
you're the daughter of a therapist. Came but it's like
everything is you can choose to do this or you
can choose to do that. And she says it like
that too, and then Paul you look at her and
be okay, you know, but like you're choosing this, you're
(08:10):
choosing this path, Polly.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
That's valuable information.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Though I don't know something. I'm on the couch. We
make choices every day.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
But Brittany's kind of the same thing, right, You're you're
sort of laying out like here's here's one path and
here's the other.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
What are you gonna do?
Speaker 5 (08:25):
Right?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Because kids like that choice too.
Speaker 5 (08:27):
They like like quote unquote being in charge, although you're
kind of like limiting act.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
Yeah, I got it, thank you, Brittany, have a good day. Thanks.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I was negotiating with my trainer yesterday on the lakefront.
If I run a little faster, do I not have
to run as far? And he said, shut the hell up.
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