August 7, 2025 • 6 mins
Keke's friend is getting married and has been sending out wedding invites.. Turns out her friend has not been inviting her friend's husbands to the wedding.... Fred and the crew debate on whether or not this is okay!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Yeah, they talk better than they tell me about. These
are the radio blogs on the Fred Show, like for
running in our diaries, except we said them aloud. We
call them blogs kinky go.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Yes, Okay, So, dear blog. I know we've been down
this road before. But I have a wedding coming up
for a friend, and you know, the friend group is tight,
So everybody has gotten their invites, rs vps are rolling in,
but there's some controversy because not everyone on the invite
list received a plus one. So I got a call
(00:31):
that said, hey, you girl, are you going to you
know so and so's wedding? I said yes. They said,
did Big Tim get an invite too? And I said yes,
and they're like, hmmm, well that's funny because my husband
didn't get invited and you all aren't even married. I said, oh, no,
hold on it. Yeah, I didn't make the invite, right,
(00:56):
But I was like, hmm, that's interesting. And so it
made me think of the question, like, when you're who
you know, doing a whole wedding, should every person invite
it get a plus one option.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
I didn't realize if you were married that you could
invite just one of the people, right, Yeah, I thought
it was just kind of assumed that if I, if
I'm married, that my wife could come with me, Like
I didn't. I guess I figured that was a given.
Like when you invited me, you know it was gonna
be like, honey, I'm going to Toledo for a wedding
this week, so I gotta go. You know, Sorry, you
have a good weekend. Like whose wedding is? And I'm
(01:29):
so I know them too, Yeah, I know you weren't invited,
Like right, yeah, I don't know. I guess the only
time that I would, I don't know what the etiquette is,
but the only time that I would, I would. It's
a little gray of a gray area for me because
I typically am not dating anyone, and even if I were,
I'm not married to them. So like I sometimes will ask,
and I know people think that's rude, but it's like,
(01:49):
I don't know. Am I expected to show up by myself?
Maybe I am, but I guess I would. And people
have said to me before, like, oh, it's rude to ask.
I'm like, but I just tell me no, like can
I bring someone or not? And if the answer is no,
then no. But I guess it's the etiquette would say
it's based on a way that the invitation's written, right.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
I guess so, And I just I just thought if
you have a wedding and every person you invite, you
just give them a plus one, whether they take a
person or not, you just offer it because maybe they
want to bring their best you know, their bestie to
hang with them tonight or may. I don't know. Everybody
wants somebody to kiss the something that a wedding.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
No always, sorry, girl, Yeah, weddings are a little weird
to go to by yourself, especially if you maybe don't
know the person as well, Like if it's a family
wedding or something, that's one thing, but I don't know.
And I get that it would be rude to put
someone in the spot that like, hey, can I bring someone?
But I also know about situations where people have just
brought or RSVP plus one and they didn't have one
and they didn't know. So I guess I would rather
(02:43):
just clarify, like, hey, are you expecting me or expect
can I bring someone? And if you say like oh no,
I've had people say no it was just you and
it's fine because I also would understand somebody who's like,
I don't need to pay. I don't need some random
at my wedding, you know what I mean, Like, I
don't don't go on like hinge and I wouldn't do this,
but like, don't go get a dating app, you know,
don't go match with somebody and then bring that what
I gotta pay for that I even know them, so
(03:05):
I get that, like in the dating world that can
be a little bit weird. But I did not know
that you could invite one half of a married couple
and not the.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Other right, and then here you go, you got your
technically single friend over here with her man, and now
everybody's looking like, well, why didn't I get an invite?
And I'm just like, I don't know the proper way
to do this. I just if it was me, I
think I would just invite whoever I want to invite,
and they would get a plus one. Whatever you do
with your plus one is up to you. But you know,
(03:33):
I don't want to single anybody out. That's how I think.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
That's the easiest way to do this, because then you
don't have this situation where it's like, well, Kiki's boyfriend
got invited, but my wife didn't or my husband didn't,
and I think that's more important than a boyfriend. And
then you get into all that, and then you could
also make the argument I don't care what you think,
it's my wedding. Well that part, but I also think
if it's your wedding, you're gonna you might alienate yourself
from people by doing it this way. True, you know
(03:58):
what I mean, Like your friend might be irritated with you.
And I'm not saying it's there right because again, it's
your day, but like, why would you leave my husband
out of this right.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
In this particular friend, She says she did not r SVP.
She's like, I'm just not because it's only from me.
And I was like, oh, okay.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
I think married or long term someone should get a
plus one. I understand if someone's single, you're not giving
them one if things are tight money or space, but
I think it shouldn't matter married or long term you've
been dating to him forever. I think you both should
have plus ones. Not going as wild.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Right, I was like, oh boy, I'm with you though
about it. Just kind of assuming that people are going
to bring a plus one because you're going to invite couples,
and you're going to invite singles, and some of the
couples won't come, right because I get when you invite people,
you're thinking in your head, well like three quarters of
these people are going to RSVP, and then because you
know how many people you can, you're going to pay
for and whatever. I guess I figure it kind of
all shakes out.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
I don't know. I was just like, I don't want
to be in the middle of this. I don't want
to be I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Someone takes said I was a maid of honor and
I found out three days before her wedding that my
spouse was not invited honor. Your spouse wasn't.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
Invited to brides or people just do this. I don't
get it. You're already doing the wedding and doing the
whole circus, Like just pay that little one hundred dollars plate,
let's up. I don't get it, Like what why are
you trying to like be this big shot of like
your husband can't come or you're a boy or whatever.
I give plus a right give I've given a plus
one when I got married because I was like, well,
just bring whoever, like Caylen didn't bring a significant other.
(05:30):
She brought a good friend and that was okay with that.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yeah, she told her boyfriend at the time. You don't get.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Exactly she don't get to come.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
No, I asked your permission because I know obviously, like
I don't want you to have to pay for just
someone who's just a friend. But I also don't want
to bring a random if I'm single, I think that's disrespectful.
So I'd rather bring a girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Yeah, I would as a single person, even if I
absolutely ask. Just to be clear, I love it about
you know, if it's cool depending on the status. And again,
you have every right to tell me no, Like no,
like we were just planning on you and you're paying
for it to your day. It's fine. We're getting married
next year and we're finishing up our list. But every
name on it has either the partner we know or
(06:07):
it will say plus one. I think it's proper etiquette,
and I guess it's how Danita Listener number one texted
that it does have to do with what the invitation says.
Typically it'll say mister and missus, or it'll say mister,
or it'll say and guest. But I've also had a
plus one where it didn't say that, So I don't know.
And I'm not married and never I never have a girlfriend,
so I'm always in this position, so I don't know.
(06:30):
Jesse Lope, this is what I've been saying. This is
what I've been saying. Waiting the phone will do more.
Freadshell next
Yeah, they talk better than they tell me about. These
are the radio blogs on the Fred Show, like for
running in our diaries, except we said them aloud. We
call them blogs kinky go.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Yes, Okay, So, dear blog. I know we've been down
this road before. But I have a wedding coming up
for a friend, and you know, the friend group is tight,
So everybody has gotten their invites, rs vps are rolling in,
but there's some controversy because not everyone on the invite
list received a plus one. So I got a call
(00:31):
that said, hey, you girl, are you going to you
know so and so's wedding? I said yes. They said,
did Big Tim get an invite too? And I said yes,
and they're like, hmmm, well that's funny because my husband
didn't get invited and you all aren't even married. I said, oh, no,
hold on it. Yeah, I didn't make the invite, right,
(00:56):
But I was like, hmm, that's interesting. And so it
made me think of the question, like, when you're who
you know, doing a whole wedding, should every person invite
it get a plus one option.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
I didn't realize if you were married that you could
invite just one of the people, right, Yeah, I thought
it was just kind of assumed that if I, if
I'm married, that my wife could come with me, Like
I didn't. I guess I figured that was a given.
Like when you invited me, you know it was gonna
be like, honey, I'm going to Toledo for a wedding
this week, so I gotta go. You know, Sorry, you
have a good weekend. Like whose wedding is? And I'm
(01:29):
so I know them too, Yeah, I know you weren't invited,
Like right, yeah, I don't know. I guess the only
time that I would, I don't know what the etiquette is,
but the only time that I would, I would. It's
a little gray of a gray area for me because
I typically am not dating anyone, and even if I were,
I'm not married to them. So like I sometimes will ask,
and I know people think that's rude, but it's like,
(01:49):
I don't know. Am I expected to show up by myself?
Maybe I am, but I guess I would. And people
have said to me before, like, oh, it's rude to ask.
I'm like, but I just tell me no, like can
I bring someone or not? And if the answer is no,
then no. But I guess it's the etiquette would say
it's based on a way that the invitation's written, right.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
I guess so, And I just I just thought if
you have a wedding and every person you invite, you
just give them a plus one, whether they take a
person or not, you just offer it because maybe they
want to bring their best you know, their bestie to
hang with them tonight or may. I don't know. Everybody
wants somebody to kiss the something that a wedding.
Speaker 1 (02:22):
No always, sorry, girl, Yeah, weddings are a little weird
to go to by yourself, especially if you maybe don't
know the person as well, Like if it's a family
wedding or something, that's one thing, but I don't know.
And I get that it would be rude to put
someone in the spot that like, hey, can I bring someone?
But I also know about situations where people have just
brought or RSVP plus one and they didn't have one
and they didn't know. So I guess I would rather
(02:43):
just clarify, like, hey, are you expecting me or expect
can I bring someone? And if you say like oh no,
I've had people say no it was just you and
it's fine because I also would understand somebody who's like,
I don't need to pay. I don't need some random
at my wedding, you know what I mean, Like, I
don't don't go on like hinge and I wouldn't do this,
but like, don't go get a dating app, you know,
don't go match with somebody and then bring that what
I gotta pay for that I even know them, so
(03:05):
I get that, like in the dating world that can
be a little bit weird. But I did not know
that you could invite one half of a married couple
and not the.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
Other right, and then here you go, you got your
technically single friend over here with her man, and now
everybody's looking like, well, why didn't I get an invite?
And I'm just like, I don't know the proper way
to do this. I just if it was me, I
think I would just invite whoever I want to invite,
and they would get a plus one. Whatever you do
with your plus one is up to you. But you know,
(03:33):
I don't want to single anybody out. That's how I think.
Speaker 1 (03:36):
That's the easiest way to do this, because then you
don't have this situation where it's like, well, Kiki's boyfriend
got invited, but my wife didn't or my husband didn't,
and I think that's more important than a boyfriend. And
then you get into all that, and then you could
also make the argument I don't care what you think,
it's my wedding. Well that part, but I also think
if it's your wedding, you're gonna you might alienate yourself
from people by doing it this way. True, you know
(03:58):
what I mean, Like your friend might be irritated with you.
And I'm not saying it's there right because again, it's
your day, but like, why would you leave my husband
out of this right.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
In this particular friend, She says she did not r SVP.
She's like, I'm just not because it's only from me.
And I was like, oh, okay.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
I think married or long term someone should get a
plus one. I understand if someone's single, you're not giving
them one if things are tight money or space, but
I think it shouldn't matter married or long term you've
been dating to him forever. I think you both should
have plus ones. Not going as wild.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Right, I was like, oh boy, I'm with you though
about it. Just kind of assuming that people are going
to bring a plus one because you're going to invite couples,
and you're going to invite singles, and some of the
couples won't come, right because I get when you invite people,
you're thinking in your head, well like three quarters of
these people are going to RSVP, and then because you
know how many people you can, you're going to pay
for and whatever. I guess I figure it kind of
all shakes out.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
I don't know. I was just like, I don't want
to be in the middle of this. I don't want
to be I don't know.
Speaker 1 (04:59):
Someone takes said I was a maid of honor and
I found out three days before her wedding that my
spouse was not invited honor. Your spouse wasn't.
Speaker 4 (05:07):
Invited to brides or people just do this. I don't
get it. You're already doing the wedding and doing the
whole circus, Like just pay that little one hundred dollars plate,
let's up. I don't get it, Like what why are
you trying to like be this big shot of like
your husband can't come or you're a boy or whatever.
I give plus a right give I've given a plus
one when I got married because I was like, well,
just bring whoever, like Caylen didn't bring a significant other.
(05:30):
She brought a good friend and that was okay with that.
Speaker 1 (05:32):
Yeah, she told her boyfriend at the time. You don't get.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Exactly she don't get to come.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
No, I asked your permission because I know obviously, like
I don't want you to have to pay for just
someone who's just a friend. But I also don't want
to bring a random if I'm single, I think that's disrespectful.
So I'd rather bring a girlfriend.
Speaker 1 (05:45):
Yeah, I would as a single person, even if I
absolutely ask. Just to be clear, I love it about
you know, if it's cool depending on the status. And again,
you have every right to tell me no, Like no,
like we were just planning on you and you're paying
for it to your day. It's fine. We're getting married
next year and we're finishing up our list. But every
name on it has either the partner we know or
(06:07):
it will say plus one. I think it's proper etiquette,
and I guess it's how Danita Listener number one texted
that it does have to do with what the invitation says.
Typically it'll say mister and missus, or it'll say mister,
or it'll say and guest. But I've also had a
plus one where it didn't say that, So I don't know.
And I'm not married and never I never have a girlfriend,
so I'm always in this position, so I don't know.
(06:30):
Jesse Lope, this is what I've been saying. This is
what I've been saying. Waiting the phone will do more.
Freadshell next
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