Radio Blogs: Paulina Talks About Deleting Instagram Photos

Paulina asks the crew what their opinion is on deleting photos of their exs on their social media. Find out what everyone has to say!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Get away, Pauline, thank you so much.

Speaker 2 (00:01):
Let's debate some more so, dear blog, I had a
question because somebody brought this up yesterday.

Speaker 3 (00:06):
My friends Tatzi actually shout out to her.

Speaker 2 (00:08):
Her and I were talking about this, and it was
really interesting because I never thought of it from a
different perspective or like, you know what about this situation.
But we've all seen or heard or maybe done the
whole Like when you break up with somebody, do you
delete the photos off your Instagram right or off your
social media? I think that is a question that people
agree or disagree with.

Speaker 4 (00:29):
Right.

Speaker 2 (00:29):
Some people are like, no, what happened, I lived it,
photos are saying. Some people are like no, like we're
not together, so I'm wiping clean, right? And I thought
that was very interesting because her and I had different opinions,
and I believe it was just like I would take
it off not to be petty, I just would wipe
it because it's not relevant to my life, Like it's
not like if I'm not with you, why would.

Speaker 3 (00:49):
You be on my on my Instagram?

Speaker 2 (00:50):
Personally, I'm like, and I'm not trying to be dramatic, like, oh,
I'm to this whole, Like wipe it clean, and like
you got to figure out what happened, and like everyone's
talking about it, talk of the town.

Speaker 3 (00:58):
Like to me, it's not that, it's more just I
would like a clean slate, like I know what happened.
I lived it. It was beautiful or maybe it wasn't.
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (01:05):
But point is, in this fake scenario, it's gone. It happened, right.

Speaker 4 (01:09):
It was a little weird when you started dating someone
new and you know, you go back and look in
their social media or like scroll through the grid and
it's like, oh, there's the last guy kind and they
looked real happy there, you know. But then again, it
doesn't mean just because it did happen, right, whether there's
a picture of it or not, it happened. Maybe we
don't need the reminder. I also think it can be
indicative of how the relationship ended, because sometimes you'll see

(01:31):
people who people used to date and it's like they're
still there, which suggests to me that maybe it wasn't
a horrible ending. If someone goes and wipes their social
media of a human being, typically that means I want
no remembrance of that human which you know, it could
mean that they're scorned by that person or that it
was a bad breakup or whatever. So I think that

(01:53):
can be the deciding factor.

Speaker 2 (01:55):
That's true too, even if we had the most beautiful,
cleanest breakup ever, I would still do it. I just
want that clean slay. I just feel like, listen, I
know what happened. Maybe I wouldn't delete it, I'd archive
it so you know it can always put it back
if I want to. But if I get back together,
I don't know, you know, just thinking out loud, but
I feel like to.

Speaker 3 (02:11):
Me that that's my choice.

Speaker 2 (02:12):
But then she asked me, would you de lead a
photo of a friend that you broke up with or
like you're not friends with no more? And I never
thought of that because I don't know. I think, no, like,
why would I lead a friend like that?

Speaker 3 (02:24):
Doesn't to me? But what's the difference.

Speaker 2 (02:26):
Right at the same time, too, you're asking, you know,
you delete your ex, but you won't lead a friend
that maybe you fell off with or that like kind
of did you dirty or whatever?

Speaker 3 (02:32):
But you're just not friends with no more? And I
guess she has my friend has.

Speaker 2 (02:36):
Done that, And I'm like, I've never deleted a photo
of anybody that's just a friend, like even if we're
not cool, no more like that. Now we're just really reaching,
Like where's going to wipe clean the whole grid?

Speaker 3 (02:46):
Like, I don't know, I didn't really think that.

Speaker 1 (02:48):
I don't think I've ever wiped a friend. I don't.

Speaker 4 (02:51):
I don't know that I've ever been serious enough with
anybody in the social media age to be posting their pictures,
which is a different conversation for me. It's a higher bar,
not because I'm special, but because I think exposing a
relationship that I'm in on my social media that's intended
for public consumption for the show and whatever else, that
I don't know that everyone's ready for that. Come in

(03:12):
here and read our text messages for one morning, and
you'll realize people just tend and for whatever reason, they
think they can be unkind because they don't have to
look us in the eye. And so I've told this
people I have dated before, Like, you want me to
put you up there, but I'm telling you someone's gonna
say something really mean and you may not like it
and you don't deserve it, but you didn't sign up
for that. So I don't know. So I guess I've
never had to take anybody down. But I am, I

(03:34):
am the king of I'm captain Petty. If i'm if
I'm done with you, I will unfollow you. The unfollow,
I will unfollow you.

Speaker 1 (03:42):
Yeah. And it's like, why why I follow you? Why
am I following you?

Speaker 4 (03:45):
If we're not friends anymore, if we don't talk, there's
no reason for me to be seeing your stuff. I
could mute you, I guess, and I realized for some
people that's very triggering. But no, I won't necessarily erase you.
I will unfollow you, which is petty. I know.

Speaker 3 (03:56):
No, No, I don't you. Yeah, I think if anything,
I would the unfollow.

Speaker 2 (04:00):
I wouldn't go delete our photos, Fred, but I would
unfollow you if you and I had a crazy falling
out or whatever, or me and Jason.

Speaker 3 (04:09):
No, I know, I'm it's a fake scenario. I was
just saying.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
I don't really saying no, it's not no, guys, I'm
just saying, but.

Speaker 3 (04:15):
No to me, like, I'm not going to lead our photos.

Speaker 2 (04:17):
We're friends, like it happened, right, I'd soon rather delete
a friend than I would delete it X.

Speaker 3 (04:23):
I just think like, oh interesting, Yeah, like an ex
is like a whole. It's a whole. I mean, years
and years you spend with someone. I think it looks
so goofy to like act like it never happened.

Speaker 4 (04:32):
If you do me dirty, I'm unfollowing you. If you
do me dirty, I'm I'm fine to show the world
I don't support what you're.

Speaker 3 (04:38):
That's when I was gonna make it shows me that
you're more pressed about me than if you don't.

Speaker 2 (04:42):
If you just leave me up there, I'd be like,
oh why, I'd ask my current boyfriend, like, why are
you so pressed that you need to delete everything?

Speaker 1 (04:48):
Like you're so mad? I don't know, and I agree
with you.

Speaker 4 (04:51):
That's the reason I'm self critical of the unfollowed because
it does sort of give someone else power. It does
suggest to them, oh this, Oh I got him, you
know with that one. But at the same time, what
I'm saying to you is I really don't care about
your bs, Like I'm not interested in looking at your
stuff because you did me wrong, you know what I mean?

Speaker 3 (05:09):
Yeah, have you ever had to re follow somebody after
you'dn did your big one?

Speaker 2 (05:13):
Yeah? Them, Yes, I feel like a clown, right, But we.

Speaker 4 (05:16):
Don't have we don't have to talk about that, I
mean it's frendshell.

Speaker 1 (05:20):
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