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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Yeah, they talk better than they excited.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
These are the radio blogs on the Fred Show. It's
like we're writing in our diaries, except we say him aloud.
We call the blogs Paulina Row. Yes, the birthday, the
post birthday girl, Yeah, post birthday.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
I take it away, she had a birthday. Thank you
so much, dear blog. So, as you guys know, I
do have a little daughter.
Speaker 1 (00:22):
I have a daughter.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
As Teresa Judy, she would say daughters, I can't even
say it right. But anyways, I have a daughter and
her name is Gabriella. She's two months old. And one
thing that I want to do, and I've been thinking
about it for some time now, is I would really like.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
To pierce her ears. Controversial, I understand, rightfully. So is it?
Speaker 4 (00:42):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Extremely I think so? Yeah, which is wild?
Speaker 3 (00:45):
So like I had my ears pierced when I wasn't
not even being funny, like five days.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Old, maybe my mom my, mom, here's my belly button
in like two weeks.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
Stop now I'm picturing that. Yeah, I don't know. I
want to do it. I want to pierce my daughter's ears.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
But and I had my ears pierced too, and everything
and even like culturally like my daughter's Mexican and Polish
and both sides like, that's very common. It's super common.
So I was like, okay, you know, we're onto something.
But of course her dad does not want that. I'm
not surprised, right, He's kind of like, let her get
older type thing. And I thought my mom would ride
for me, and yesterday she told me, don't do it,
(01:35):
wait till she's at least a year. Her argument is
that the clothes that you take off of their their
like from their head, like, will get caught in the
earring when you tat onesies and stuff. Oh yeah, and
like then they cry. It's a whole production. And I
don't want to do that to her. I don't want
to hurt her. And I know even piercing her ears
could potentially, you know, cause her temporary pain.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
But I think I would rather as an infant, like
I think, I don't remember it, you haven't.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
Remember, It'll be so temporary. And I want to put
cute ear rings on her and stuff. I mean, I
had my ears pears. But then there's the argument of
let her make that choice herself, right when she's a
little bit older.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
And understands what an earring is.
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Maybe then she'll tell me if she wants her ears Piers,
and I'll take her.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
But I don't know.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
I feel like I want to do it now, but
everyone's like fighting me at home about it.
Speaker 1 (02:16):
I'm the only one that wants to do it.
Speaker 5 (02:18):
I say, do it.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (02:20):
My nieces got theirs done when they were infants. Literally yeah,
both of them.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Yeah, Stee.
Speaker 5 (02:25):
I understand it's a cultural thing, but I mean you're
if that's what you want. I mean you're the mom
that's right.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Yeah, I want to do it.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
I just it sucks because I'm always like going back
and forth with Hobby my husband about it, and I
don't want to like not agree because I don't want
to be those parents that like fight over things. I'd
rather be on the same page. Although we too affection though.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Like what does he I don't mean to say it
is like to be rude, but like, why does he
get a vote? I mean he's vocus as his kid,
but like he does, I don't know why. What's what's
he upset about?
Speaker 1 (02:53):
I honestly have no idea.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
He just wants her to be a little bit older,
maybe wait a couple of years so she could feel
all that ball I remember, Yeah, let let's make her
feel this.
Speaker 4 (03:03):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
I don't know how old were you.
Speaker 4 (03:05):
I was a baby, And to be honest, I don't
remember any of the pain. Yeah, I can't tell you
a lot of other things happened in my life the
cause pain, but that particular.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Thing I don't remember any of the pain.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
And I think it is so cute when you see
the little girl. Yes, babies, they have the little bitty's
studs in their ears.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
You ain't putting on? Well maybe I don't, why not, baby,
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
I mean, the only experience I have, I guess is
my sister, and she was she's eight years younger. So
there's a lot of that stuff I wasn't there for.
But I also feel like my dad had objections to
things that there were. Again, I don't mean to say
that a father doesn't get a vote in what happens
to his own child, but like he had a male
perspective objection to things that involved, you know, things that
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my mom would understand better I think than he or
I would. And I think this is like a whole
range of topics that you could say, you know, I
don't know you look at it from a male perspective,
and you I'm not saying you sexualize it, but I
don't know. There's just there's just things that like we
don't understand as men that women do. And I don't
necessarily know that I should get a vote and what's
best for my daughter if my wife feels a certain
(04:14):
kind of way about it. And again that's not to
say I don't get a vote. That's not to say
that men don't get a vote in their children's you
know what happens to their children. But there are certain
things that I think you would have a better you
would have more clarity on her that you've experienced or
that you know, you know, you understand better as a
woman than he might as a man.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I get that completely.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
And I think that pertains more to like the topics
maybe when she's older, right like when she comes to
me for certain things, clothing, flowing, you know, when you
know when things happen when you get older as a woman.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
But I don't, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
I feel like with this, he does have a right
because that is a kid, you know, and then he's
gonna see the ears Pierce, I can't lie.
Speaker 1 (04:53):
They're right there if I get him done.
Speaker 5 (04:55):
But I don't know.
Speaker 3 (04:56):
I just feel like that's something I feel strongly about,
like I really want to do it.
Speaker 5 (04:59):
It's it's funny your mom is against it, but she
did it to you. God's like the clothes might get
caught on.
Speaker 1 (05:10):
I was screaming, I'm three months old.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
It was okay, yeah, No. The things she says now,
it's so funny. She would like things that she did
with me, she would never know the baby.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Well, I see, it's the whole revision is history thing, too, right.
My mom remembers things that never happened. They never happened,
or they happened completely differently than the way she remembers
them now, And she'll call me later and be like,
it's true, It's totally true.
Speaker 1 (05:31):
Calin.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Have any thoughts on this.
Speaker 6 (05:33):
Yeah, I mean I think that it should be up
to the individual parents. So that's why I'm not giving
my opinion. I got mine peers when I was seven.
I asked for them to be pierced. But I think
whatever your parents are into, yeah, you know, yeah, I
think it's your thing. But I do think it's there
is things in milestones with girls, little girls that it
is like interesting to hear the dad's perspective, like my
dad didn't want me to shave my legs super early on.
Speaker 2 (05:57):
And the kind of stuff I'm talking about, like I
don't know, and I don't. I don't know what I'm
talking about, but I know there are certain you know,
clothing items or bras.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
Or makeup is a big saying makeup or.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Leg shaving or whatever else. It's like, why do I
get a voted? I really I can care, but I
also don't know what it's like to be a woman,
so I don't. I don't know that my perspective matters
as much as hers does.
Speaker 6 (06:21):
Right, it does feel odd to have your dad like
weigh in on that stuff.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
Brother allan Italian? Hi Ellen, good morning. It's like, yo,
you want me here? Like maybe he does.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Maybe that's why he said no, yeah, good morning.
Speaker 5 (06:35):
What do you think?
Speaker 2 (06:36):
Ellen?
Speaker 4 (06:38):
Oh? I?
Speaker 7 (06:39):
Well, first of all, anything about bringing up a baby's controversial,
Like literally every single thing you do is going to
offend somebody, or somebody's gonna have an opinion about it.
And the ear piercing. My daughter's turning seven, and she's
super excited to like phone her body and make that choice.
And when she was little, like I couldn't there to
(07:00):
like pierce her a little perfect little body, you know,
like that's just how I felt. She's just so perfect
and I didn't want to ruin, you know, hurt her
in any way. But yeah, now she's like deciding what
she wants to do or she wants to go and
pick out her ear rings, and and your mom's right
about like it's getting snagged on stuff. So I mean
(07:21):
there's a lot of pros and cons of your piercing. Okay, yeah,
that's whatever you want to do. You know.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Well, for sure, man Harvey does, Harvey doesn't get a vote. Whatever.
Thank you, Ellen, by the way, have a good day.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (07:39):
I don't know Mave does, and I don't think Polly does.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
No, and I don't.
Speaker 2 (07:44):
I guess I don't know why, but I suppose if
it's something that is there's no objection to, and it's
going to happen anyway, then I guess I would rather
that it happened when for me, if it were me,
I would rather have When I'm a baby, I can't remember,
like like Kiggy said, is supposed to going to you know,
the mall at thirteen and some teenager where the gun
(08:04):
comes out. You know that, you know that the figure.
Speaker 6 (08:07):
Oh my god, I was at Claire's and I saw
a girl's chunk of her ear fly right into the clothes.
I'm like, oh, I know, sorry, so sorry, but I'll
never forget that.
Speaker 2 (08:18):
I don't know, I don't know about all that, so
we'll see. But anyway, you think you're gonna are you
gonna override him on this?
Speaker 3 (08:23):
I think so someone's pick and choose your battles. That's
my everyday life. But I think this one I'm gonna do.
I feel strongly about it, and I want her to
have her earspirs.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
I want to put cute earrings on her, maybe some hoops.
Speaker 5 (08:33):
Get a hole downstairs, let's just girl get her earspearce.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
I was gonna say, you're pretty good at trading is
one thing for another? Self there, I'm not. I'm not
going to make that parallel, but like, I think you'll
figure it out.