June 17, 2025 • 20 mins
Brianna is conflicted because she wants to introduce her boyfriend to her parents. He's a really nice guy and the relationship is going well.. the only issue is he is 26 years older! Fred and the crew weigh in on this age gap!
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Brianna's here, Hi Brianna, good morning, Good morning. By the way,
when I said to you, look up azrabay John if
(00:45):
you can spell it, then someone texted me our friend
Violetta and said that was funny. It wasn't a slam though.
I don't know how to spell azerbae John, So if
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I guess you'd have to get close. Like how many
words is that? I don't even know what's one word?
And I think if you I think you could get
close enough that, but I don't. I don't think I
would spell it right the first time I got it
(01:05):
giving by John, right, John, I just wouldn't get it
right the first time anyway, Brianna, I don't know. Don't
worry about that. So here go. Thank you for your note.
You can dm us, you can hit us up friendshire
radio dot com. So you are in a new relationship
with a boyfriend of about six months. This has been
(01:26):
going on, yes.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
And I want to just preface by saying we are
very happy, We're very into each other, and everything is
great except one thing.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Great, nice topic this, Thanks for calling. You just want
to call here, brag. I'm so happy in my life
scrubs stark that yeah, relationship. Well, so what is the
one thing though?
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Well, so we have a very big age yap. So
I'm twenty four and he is fifty.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Okay, all right, so we get a nice nice twenty
six year age gap. I need to hear both of Now.
I'm not quite fifty. In fact, I'm not anyone you're fifty.
But but you know, let's defend the older let's defend
the older men dating the younger women. Thing for a
moment until I hear the old thing. So how did
you meet? And like why are we talking of? If
(02:16):
you're happy? I get that it's a huge age gap,
but like what's the insecurity? Like where does it come from?
Why are we talking?
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Well, we met while we were both out, and this
is not like a thing for me, like I don't
seek out men that are older than me.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
But we met at a bar.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
I thought he was much younger than fifty. He does
not look fifty, and I approached him and then we
got along and after talking for a while, he was like,
by the way, how old are you? So I wasn't
like looking for this, but it just kind of happened.
And we've been dating for six months now, so it's
like kind of getting to be time to introduce into
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my family. But I'm very afraid of how they're going
to react. They know that I'm dating someone, but they
don't know his age.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Does he have kids? Old are his kids?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
He does not have kids?
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Okay, because that could get a little weird, you know
if I agree if his kids were you know, close
to your age. And there's my dad, right, yeah, that's right,
your dad has dated someone. You're one of your friends.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Right, Well, I'm not her friend, but we did attend
the same high school at one point.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Yeah, we're not friends now are we? We never were?
But can help no?
Speaker 4 (03:23):
Mom?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Right, Oh my goodness. So weird. And so your family's like, oh,
this is so exciting, Brionn has met someone or whatever.
How do you I mean, is your dad? Let me see,
if you're twenty four of your dad, your dad could
very easily be close to his age, which could make
things kind of weird. I mean, are you worried about
what they're going to say?
Speaker 5 (03:45):
I am.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
I mean, I don't think they're going to tell me
to break up with him, but I don't think they're
going to be like jumping for joy about it. And
my friends know about him and they're concerned. They've told
me that they're concerned.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Well that says a lot now why it's huge age gap, right,
but like why if you're happy, why are they concerned?
Would be my question?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Well, none of them have met him, and I think
they're just like, why is a fifty year old man
dating a twenty four year old Like they think it
reflects badly on him, but he's such a great guy
and they don't.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Know him HM, So I have a lot of questions.
First of all, eight five, five, five, nine one one
three five, you know, you know what? What what do
you think when you hear this this twenty four year
old fifty year old dynamic? I also would ask the
question like why is it necessarily a bad look? Like
if you're a mature twenty four year old and he's
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a decent guy and he's not a perver, weirdo or creep,
then I guess I don't know why this couldn't be
a thing, like yeah, it's unorthodox, but like why, I
don't know, I don't, I don't know. I mean, I've
dated people of all ages. I'm forty four. I've dated
people anywhere from twenty five to over fifty, so I've
gone both ways. But like if I date someone who's
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over fifty, no one says anything about that. I've dated
people who are twenty eight and the next first and
I dated is my age, and they think that they
think I'm disgusting for that. But is am I disgusting
for that? Or is there an insecurity about that? It's
like you were dating someone so much younger, what are
you doing with me? It's like well, because I can
like both things, right, Like, I'm not necessarily I'm not
(05:16):
targeting twenty somethings, but if I meet someone that I
connect with you, then I'm not really sure that I
care about the age necessarily, But your priorities may differ.
I mean, he's fifty, Like, do you want kids? He
may not want kids, he may want not want to
start now, Like, I feel like that's the kind of
stuff that might get you in trouble. Em heard, I mean,
(05:37):
do you want kids? She's like, received, yeah, yeah, yeat,
you know, yeah, do you want kids?
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I think I do? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:50):
Okay, Well, I mean what did I get on it?
I mean, have you had that discussion with him? I
feel like it's that kind of stuff that where you
you might have an issue because you might very well
be very mature for your age and and find that
this guy offers security and money, a parental figure, you know,
or something needs that maybe. Well, I'm just saying, like,
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you're allowed to you're allowed to be to gravitate towards
whatever you need, right and maybe and there's something wrong.
You're both adults, right, I mean, there's something there's nothing
inherently wrong about this, but I guess I wonder, like,
do you do you think that you will align on
all of the principles and all of the goals that
you have for one another.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Yeah, those are valid concerns, But I am also just
kind of like living in the moment of this relationship,
and for the moment, it's.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Very good, is he rich?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Hell?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Yeah, Yeah, I want to say that, Like, you know,
when I was twenty four, I'm surprised that anybody went
out with me. When I was thirty four, I'm surprised
that anybody went out with me, to be honest, Like,
the difference between the human being that and I'm not
sure that's saying much, but the difference between the human
being I am now and I was twenty years ago
is significantly different. And I don't know, I'm much more settled.
(07:05):
I'm much more kind of like, you know, I don't know.
I don't have anything to prove to anybody anymore. I
am who I am. I don't know. I think I'm
a better version of myself. You know, back then, I
thought I was hot stuff, and I don't know, I
had a lot to prove. I didn't have any resources.
I didn't know, you know, my butt from a hole
in the wall, you know whatever. I just so, I
(07:26):
guess I can see why younger women gravitate towards older men.
I just wonder, I just wonder how long you're you're
sort of you're gonna be on how many points you
were aligned? Or hey, are you happy not having kids
and being with a guy who's much older, who's rich
and there's security there? And I mean, I guess, I
guess this all depends on what your priorities are, right.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
God, lots to think about. Geez.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Yeah, all right, Well, let me take some calls on this,
Brianna and I will have to follow up. I can't
wait to hear and I let me get Let me guess, Brianna,
he's got money, he's mature and confident, and the sex
is really good. Right, what's the problem? Thank you, good luck,
have a good day and keep the radio and we'll
(08:11):
see what people have to say. Bye. Can you've done
something like this?
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Yeah, twenty was where I maxed out, maxed out, excuse me,
choked up there?
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Think about it? Emotional? Yeah, yeah, when beneath my wings, Yeah,
twenty is where I maxed out. But I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
I mean, I do also have concerns, Like one of
the reasons that I'm not still in that relationship is
like I and this is dark, but like I took
care of my grandpa as he was dying, and I
was like, I'm about to do that and like ten
years for this man, you know what I mean, Like
I just found I can't do it again.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
He was in his fifties. Yeah, he was fished. I
think you had a little bit more time than that.
Hopefully I hear what you're saying. I was like, I
can't do that. You're going to be a caretaker at
some point you marry this guy. Yeah, So that was
part of it. Honestly.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
I was like, I need I need a little because
I want to have kids, But I.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Think I don't want to say anything. I think that
generally women think that men who date women who are
much younger are doing it like it's only to their benefit,
like it's just about sex or just about an own body,
or just about just about or somehow it's like naivitae
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or lack of maturity or manipulation or something. Not every
twenty something I've gone out with appealed to me right
like they could be banging in every way, but like
we couldn't connect because we didn't have similar priorities because
they were I mean, I've met very mature late twenties,
early thirties people who you know, they're not into the partying,
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into the things that are traditionally stereotypically young stuff, stuff
that we all did go out and going out every
weekend and going out and getting crazy, stuff that you
maybe don't do when you get a little bit older.
So it hasn't always appealed to me, right, Like, sometimes
I've noticed the maturity gap and it doesn't work. So
I don't think it's in And sure, I think there
are guys out there with a vote and they're rich
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and they're old and they're divorced and they just want
hot chicks and they don't care about talking to them
or connecting. It's fine too, and that's all right too
if that's if you're transparent about that. But I don't
know that it's I don't know that it's always as
it looks. I think there are examples where it's like that,
and I think there are examples from the other way
where the girl has really no interest in the guy
he has interest in the money and the resources and
(10:21):
not getting messed with, you know, or not being with
an F boy, a younger f boy, I guess, right,
and like her like, who's asking?
Speaker 3 (10:28):
I mean, I'm not asking ages, so you know, like
for my ex, for example, he looked he didn't look
his age.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
So who's like going, wait, how old are you?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
No?
Speaker 1 (10:36):
What, Diane? You say, this is too big of an
age gap. This is a hard nol for you.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Yeah, and when he was twenty four years old, she's born,
she was, I mean, when he was twenty four, she
was born. It's no, absolutely not.
Speaker 6 (10:49):
I have a daughter that's almost that age, and I
would absolutely not be on.
Speaker 5 (10:52):
Board with this.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
So she comes home with you, I mean, let me
ask you this. She's she's around twenty four, your daughter, Diane,
she's twenty five, okay, And I'm sure that in her
life you've seen her dates and real douchebags that are
her own age, right, And they're douchebags maybe not because
they're inherently bad people, but because they're young and stupid
and naive and and and and immature, because we all
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are before we know better. Right, So like, would you
there's no way that you could see this for what
it is, which is maybe he's a decent guy and
they connect and he's and he's got his act together
more than somebody her own age might.
Speaker 5 (11:30):
I can't. It's my husbands, dag.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
It's appropriate because by the time she's going to have
babies with him, he's going to be ready for bad.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Another wrong with that?
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Are you ready for?
Speaker 1 (11:42):
Let's on the bedtime? All right?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Like there's wrong with They're going to be falling apart?
Come on now, right.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
I see the concerns. I see the concerns, but I
guess I take it more to are their lifestyles going
to align? Are their goals going to align? Because I
do think it's possible that they both could be good people.
And yeah, okay, thank you, Diane. I know, peop, yeah,
I know, yeah, yeah, okay, well, thank you Diane. Have
(12:08):
a good day. Thanks right spoken. You may not want
to have kids. You may want to, I don't know,
travel the world and be secure and and maybe that
that guy can offer that, and someone your own age can.
I mean, I think I think we all assume that
everybody has similar priorities, and maybe this woman doesn't. I don't,
but she did say she was thinking about kids, and
so that's an issue. Hey Liz, Hi, Hi, Liz, so
(12:32):
you this resonates with you. You've been on the on her
side of this.
Speaker 4 (12:36):
Yes, not such an huge age cap. But I dated
someone who was fifteen years older than me years ago.
I'm thirty now, and I dated this person when I
was twenty two, and my parents were not on board
with it. They didn't they didn't like it. It was
more like I've never looked my age, so I look
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way younger then I actually am, and they just thought
it was weird. And I've dated that person for like
two years, and we were.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Like, why did it all? I'm sorry interrupt you, but
why did it ultimately not work out?
Speaker 4 (13:15):
I think it was like I had a different mentality
back then, Like I wanted to go out and party
and do.
Speaker 5 (13:21):
All this stuff.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
When you're like twenty and he's always here trying to
like settle down and start a family and everything.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
It was more like that type of I see. Okay,
so you were attracted to each other and there was
like a connection maybe physically or whatever, but again that
your priorities were different. Yes, yeah, yeah, okay, Well thank you, Liz,
have a good day, Glad you called. That's what. That's
where I think ultimately they may align. I don't know.
(13:48):
Not every twenty four year old wants to go out
and get hammered every weekend. Not every fifty year old
is like you know in a recliner on the AARP website.
You know, I mean, I think there's probably a compromise
in there somewhere. Hey, Diane, another dian Yes, Diane number two,
Uh huh, certainly no less important than Diane number one,
just the second one to call in this segment. What
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do you think? This is a woman who called in
Stay Orgo? She's twenty four, didt young guy who's fifty.
Her friends are concerned, her family doesn't know, and she's
been with him for six months and is happy, but
is in sure? What do you think?
Speaker 4 (14:20):
Well?
Speaker 6 (14:21):
I think if she were confident in knowing that this
is a good relationship for her, it's really healthy and strong.
It doesn't matter what other people think. But I'll tell
you I think her parents might pick up on that
and say, wow, this could be really good for you
because that's what happened with me. And I was forty five.
He was twenty three years older than me. He was
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the age of my father, and of course they had
some you know, like a second thought, but when they
met him, they could see how he related to me
and how I related to him, and it was wonderful.
My mom actually cried when we broke.
Speaker 5 (14:58):
Up, oh wow.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
But ultimately was the demise of the relationship.
Speaker 6 (15:03):
What ultimately happened, well, what happened was it was an
energy difference where he actually had more energy than I did.
I was more of a deep thinker, profound meditation, spirituality
kind of a person, and he was more of a
let's go travel Let's go here, let's go there, and
I'm the world's worst traveler. So I wanted him to
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be free to do what he really felt like he.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
Wanted to do.
Speaker 6 (15:29):
And I said, you know this, I really need to let.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
You go oh wow wow. And Diane, I think I
feel like when people hear these age gaps, all they're
thinking about, or at least the first thing it comes
to their mind is sex. The first thing that comes
to their mind is this is about sex. This is
about the physicality. The old guy wants young girl and
I don't. That's certainly probably an element in a lot
(15:54):
of these cases, but I don't think it is in everyone.
Speaker 6 (15:56):
No, oh, no, gosh no. I mean that was part
of it, and we both had kind of like wounded
backgrounds in that area. But the other part of it
was that we were so deeply connected in a just
a fundamental way that we had fun no matter what
we did.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Yeah and so yeah, and in which case, it had
nothing to do with age. Really, it had more to
do with your interests and what you guys wanted to
do in life. And I think that the situation you
ran into could happen if you were the same age,
or if you were thirty years apart. So sorry to
think about it.
Speaker 6 (16:30):
Oh, all the time, and we still stay in touch.
He's a lawyer. He did my mother's papers before she passed.
He was at my dad's funeral. I mean we cried together.
He's still a wonderful friend.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
But you won't reconcile. There's no way that you can see,
you know, finding some common grounds.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
At this point. He's in his nineties.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Oh, that's a part of time.
Speaker 5 (16:52):
Well, I.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
I to some papers of your own, you know. Yeah, okay,
I mean you did the hard work, you know, time
time for the payoff, you know what. Oh, God, we're terrible.
All right, thank you, Dian, I have a good day.
Thank you for sharing. All right, I only have ten.
It really was sweet. No, man, no, I mean yes.
(17:17):
I will also say forties and sixties I think are
probably less of a maturity difference than twenties and forties. Yes,
in any case, so I can see them. But listen
from the male perspective, here comes big Rich beg Rich
is here. Hey, he's forty seventy. His girlfriend's twenty five.
My man, congrats, dude.
Speaker 5 (17:38):
Come on, come on, we have to make it sound
like that, Fred, Is it like that?
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Is that what it is?
Speaker 5 (17:46):
I mean that those are the numbers. Yes, those are
the numbers.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
And how did you mean?
Speaker 5 (17:51):
We met at a mutual friend's house when we were
in sure she told me she was twenty eight years old.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Well that's a big difference, Rich, twenty five? Come on, man,
so you hell have you together?
Speaker 5 (18:03):
The prime at the time, she was twenty three, and
she told me she was twenty eight, And every time
I saw her after that it went down a year.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
Okay, all right, so she's eighteen, so you've been just
for two years. It says on the screen you've been
together for two years. Yeah, So what's the future.
Speaker 5 (18:19):
Living together for two years, dating for like just a
little over two years.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
Yeah, okay, and so what is it? Wow, you pulled in,
she pulled a Jason on you and just moved in
and never left, Ainy, nothing wrong with that. What what's
the endgame here?
Speaker 5 (18:31):
Like?
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Are you gonna get married and have kids and do
all the things that you would do with you? Yeah?
Speaker 5 (18:36):
Yeah, that's that's that's what we're that's what we're hoping for.
I mean, we're obviously trying to get some stuff ironed out, uh,
each of us in our in our lives. And then
you know, her thing is she wants a white fence.
Pick a fence, and then she'll get married.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Rich has to get divorced and she has to graduate
high school. So there's a luck going on.
Speaker 5 (18:55):
I've been divorced for seven years.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Rinchie was too easy. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, but no,
I hope, Look, I hope it works out if you
guys connect and everybody you know and you're on the
same page, and then I don't know who would who
should judge Rich? Right?
Speaker 5 (19:10):
Yeah, we get we get a lot of judgment online
and stuff like that, and she has. She posts a
lot of one of her TikTok says wish we met earlier,
and then it shows a picture of me and and
uh two thousand and two and her in two thousand
and two.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
And I love doing that. Yeah, that's not that's certainly
going to feed the narrative. Hey, Rich, good luck, man,
I appreciate you calling. Have a good day. You're good support,
all right, not good for rich life man? Yeah yeah, Hey,
(19:45):
no college loans for her. He can pay for it,
you know, I want to give me. Oh man, what's
the website? I think they are quite what's the website
called grinder? Want to jump on important show, Shelley, Next
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they Whip Me, Stay or Go? They whip me Now? Yeah, Man,
Brianna's here, Hi Brianna, good morning, Good morning. By the way,
when I said to you, look up azrabay John if
(00:45):
you can spell it, then someone texted me our friend
Violetta and said that was funny. It wasn't a slam though.
I don't know how to spell azerbae John, So if
you wanted to know where it was, you'd have to
I guess you'd have to get close. Like how many
words is that? I don't even know what's one word?
And I think if you I think you could get
close enough that, but I don't. I don't think I
would spell it right the first time I got it
(01:05):
giving by John, right, John, I just wouldn't get it
right the first time anyway, Brianna, I don't know. Don't
worry about that. So here go. Thank you for your note.
You can dm us, you can hit us up friendshire
radio dot com. So you are in a new relationship
with a boyfriend of about six months. This has been
(01:26):
going on, yes.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
And I want to just preface by saying we are
very happy, We're very into each other, and everything is
great except one thing.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
Great, nice topic this, Thanks for calling. You just want
to call here, brag. I'm so happy in my life
scrubs stark that yeah, relationship. Well, so what is the
one thing though?
Speaker 2 (01:49):
Well, so we have a very big age yap. So
I'm twenty four and he is fifty.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Okay, all right, so we get a nice nice twenty
six year age gap. I need to hear both of Now.
I'm not quite fifty. In fact, I'm not anyone you're fifty.
But but you know, let's defend the older let's defend
the older men dating the younger women. Thing for a
moment until I hear the old thing. So how did
you meet? And like why are we talking of? If
(02:16):
you're happy? I get that it's a huge age gap,
but like what's the insecurity? Like where does it come from?
Why are we talking?
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Well, we met while we were both out, and this
is not like a thing for me, like I don't
seek out men that are older than me.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
But we met at a bar.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
I thought he was much younger than fifty. He does
not look fifty, and I approached him and then we
got along and after talking for a while, he was like,
by the way, how old are you? So I wasn't
like looking for this, but it just kind of happened.
And we've been dating for six months now, so it's
like kind of getting to be time to introduce into
(02:52):
my family. But I'm very afraid of how they're going
to react. They know that I'm dating someone, but they
don't know his age.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Does he have kids? Old are his kids?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
He does not have kids?
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Okay, because that could get a little weird, you know
if I agree if his kids were you know, close
to your age. And there's my dad, right, yeah, that's right,
your dad has dated someone. You're one of your friends.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Right, Well, I'm not her friend, but we did attend
the same high school at one point.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Yeah, we're not friends now are we? We never were?
But can help no?
Speaker 4 (03:23):
Mom?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Right, Oh my goodness. So weird. And so your family's like, oh,
this is so exciting, Brionn has met someone or whatever.
How do you I mean, is your dad? Let me see,
if you're twenty four of your dad, your dad could
very easily be close to his age, which could make
things kind of weird. I mean, are you worried about
what they're going to say?
Speaker 5 (03:45):
I am.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
I mean, I don't think they're going to tell me
to break up with him, but I don't think they're
going to be like jumping for joy about it. And
my friends know about him and they're concerned. They've told
me that they're concerned.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
Well that says a lot now why it's huge age gap, right,
but like why if you're happy, why are they concerned?
Would be my question?
Speaker 2 (04:05):
Well, none of them have met him, and I think
they're just like, why is a fifty year old man
dating a twenty four year old Like they think it
reflects badly on him, but he's such a great guy
and they don't.
Speaker 1 (04:14):
Know him HM, So I have a lot of questions.
First of all, eight five, five, five, nine one one
three five, you know, you know what? What what do
you think when you hear this this twenty four year
old fifty year old dynamic? I also would ask the
question like why is it necessarily a bad look? Like
if you're a mature twenty four year old and he's
(04:35):
a decent guy and he's not a perver, weirdo or creep,
then I guess I don't know why this couldn't be
a thing, like yeah, it's unorthodox, but like why, I
don't know, I don't, I don't know. I mean, I've
dated people of all ages. I'm forty four. I've dated
people anywhere from twenty five to over fifty, so I've
gone both ways. But like if I date someone who's
(04:55):
over fifty, no one says anything about that. I've dated
people who are twenty eight and the next first and
I dated is my age, and they think that they
think I'm disgusting for that. But is am I disgusting
for that? Or is there an insecurity about that? It's
like you were dating someone so much younger, what are
you doing with me? It's like well, because I can
like both things, right, Like, I'm not necessarily I'm not
(05:16):
targeting twenty somethings, but if I meet someone that I
connect with you, then I'm not really sure that I
care about the age necessarily, But your priorities may differ.
I mean, he's fifty, Like, do you want kids? He
may not want kids, he may want not want to
start now, Like, I feel like that's the kind of
stuff that might get you in trouble. Em heard, I mean,
(05:37):
do you want kids? She's like, received, yeah, yeah, yeat,
you know, yeah, do you want kids?
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I think I do? Yeah?
Speaker 1 (05:50):
Okay, Well, I mean what did I get on it?
I mean, have you had that discussion with him? I
feel like it's that kind of stuff that where you
you might have an issue because you might very well
be very mature for your age and and find that
this guy offers security and money, a parental figure, you know,
or something needs that maybe. Well, I'm just saying, like,
(06:11):
you're allowed to you're allowed to be to gravitate towards
whatever you need, right and maybe and there's something wrong.
You're both adults, right, I mean, there's something there's nothing
inherently wrong about this, but I guess I wonder, like,
do you do you think that you will align on
all of the principles and all of the goals that
you have for one another.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
Yeah, those are valid concerns, But I am also just
kind of like living in the moment of this relationship,
and for the moment, it's.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
Very good, is he rich?
Speaker 2 (06:41):
Hell?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Yeah, Yeah, I want to say that, Like, you know,
when I was twenty four, I'm surprised that anybody went
out with me. When I was thirty four, I'm surprised
that anybody went out with me, to be honest, Like,
the difference between the human being that and I'm not
sure that's saying much, but the difference between the human
being I am now and I was twenty years ago
is significantly different. And I don't know, I'm much more settled.
(07:05):
I'm much more kind of like, you know, I don't know.
I don't have anything to prove to anybody anymore. I
am who I am. I don't know. I think I'm
a better version of myself. You know, back then, I
thought I was hot stuff, and I don't know, I
had a lot to prove. I didn't have any resources.
I didn't know, you know, my butt from a hole
in the wall, you know whatever. I just so, I
(07:26):
guess I can see why younger women gravitate towards older men.
I just wonder, I just wonder how long you're you're
sort of you're gonna be on how many points you
were aligned? Or hey, are you happy not having kids
and being with a guy who's much older, who's rich
and there's security there? And I mean, I guess, I
guess this all depends on what your priorities are, right.
Speaker 2 (07:49):
God, lots to think about. Geez.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Yeah, all right, Well, let me take some calls on this,
Brianna and I will have to follow up. I can't
wait to hear and I let me get Let me guess, Brianna,
he's got money, he's mature and confident, and the sex
is really good. Right, what's the problem? Thank you, good luck,
have a good day and keep the radio and we'll
(08:11):
see what people have to say. Bye. Can you've done
something like this?
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Yeah, twenty was where I maxed out, maxed out, excuse me,
choked up there?
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Think about it? Emotional? Yeah, yeah, when beneath my wings, Yeah,
twenty is where I maxed out. But I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
I mean, I do also have concerns, Like one of
the reasons that I'm not still in that relationship is
like I and this is dark, but like I took
care of my grandpa as he was dying, and I
was like, I'm about to do that and like ten
years for this man, you know what I mean, Like
I just found I can't do it again.
Speaker 1 (08:44):
He was in his fifties. Yeah, he was fished. I
think you had a little bit more time than that.
Hopefully I hear what you're saying. I was like, I
can't do that. You're going to be a caretaker at
some point you marry this guy. Yeah, So that was
part of it. Honestly.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
I was like, I need I need a little because
I want to have kids, But I.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Think I don't want to say anything. I think that
generally women think that men who date women who are
much younger are doing it like it's only to their benefit,
like it's just about sex or just about an own body,
or just about just about or somehow it's like naivitae
(09:20):
or lack of maturity or manipulation or something. Not every
twenty something I've gone out with appealed to me right
like they could be banging in every way, but like
we couldn't connect because we didn't have similar priorities because
they were I mean, I've met very mature late twenties,
early thirties people who you know, they're not into the partying,
(09:40):
into the things that are traditionally stereotypically young stuff, stuff
that we all did go out and going out every
weekend and going out and getting crazy, stuff that you
maybe don't do when you get a little bit older.
So it hasn't always appealed to me, right, Like, sometimes
I've noticed the maturity gap and it doesn't work. So
I don't think it's in And sure, I think there
are guys out there with a vote and they're rich
(10:01):
and they're old and they're divorced and they just want
hot chicks and they don't care about talking to them
or connecting. It's fine too, and that's all right too
if that's if you're transparent about that. But I don't
know that it's I don't know that it's always as
it looks. I think there are examples where it's like that,
and I think there are examples from the other way
where the girl has really no interest in the guy
he has interest in the money and the resources and
(10:21):
not getting messed with, you know, or not being with
an F boy, a younger f boy, I guess, right,
and like her like, who's asking?
Speaker 3 (10:28):
I mean, I'm not asking ages, so you know, like
for my ex, for example, he looked he didn't look
his age.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
So who's like going, wait, how old are you?
Speaker 2 (10:36):
No?
Speaker 1 (10:36):
What, Diane? You say, this is too big of an
age gap. This is a hard nol for you.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Yeah, and when he was twenty four years old, she's born,
she was, I mean, when he was twenty four, she
was born. It's no, absolutely not.
Speaker 6 (10:49):
I have a daughter that's almost that age, and I
would absolutely not be on.
Speaker 5 (10:52):
Board with this.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
So she comes home with you, I mean, let me
ask you this. She's she's around twenty four, your daughter, Diane,
she's twenty five, okay, And I'm sure that in her
life you've seen her dates and real douchebags that are
her own age, right, And they're douchebags maybe not because
they're inherently bad people, but because they're young and stupid
and naive and and and and immature, because we all
(11:15):
are before we know better. Right, So like, would you
there's no way that you could see this for what
it is, which is maybe he's a decent guy and
they connect and he's and he's got his act together
more than somebody her own age might.
Speaker 5 (11:30):
I can't. It's my husbands, dag.
Speaker 2 (11:31):
It's appropriate because by the time she's going to have
babies with him, he's going to be ready for bad.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Another wrong with that?
Speaker 2 (11:40):
Are you ready for?
Speaker 1 (11:42):
Let's on the bedtime? All right?
Speaker 2 (11:44):
Like there's wrong with They're going to be falling apart?
Come on now, right.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
I see the concerns. I see the concerns, but I
guess I take it more to are their lifestyles going
to align? Are their goals going to align? Because I
do think it's possible that they both could be good people.
And yeah, okay, thank you, Diane. I know, peop, yeah,
I know, yeah, yeah, okay, well, thank you Diane. Have
(12:08):
a good day. Thanks right spoken. You may not want
to have kids. You may want to, I don't know,
travel the world and be secure and and maybe that
that guy can offer that, and someone your own age can.
I mean, I think I think we all assume that
everybody has similar priorities, and maybe this woman doesn't. I don't,
but she did say she was thinking about kids, and
so that's an issue. Hey Liz, Hi, Hi, Liz, so
(12:32):
you this resonates with you. You've been on the on her
side of this.
Speaker 4 (12:36):
Yes, not such an huge age cap. But I dated
someone who was fifteen years older than me years ago.
I'm thirty now, and I dated this person when I
was twenty two, and my parents were not on board
with it. They didn't they didn't like it. It was
more like I've never looked my age, so I look
(12:58):
way younger then I actually am, and they just thought
it was weird. And I've dated that person for like
two years, and we were.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Like, why did it all? I'm sorry interrupt you, but
why did it ultimately not work out?
Speaker 4 (13:15):
I think it was like I had a different mentality
back then, Like I wanted to go out and party
and do.
Speaker 5 (13:21):
All this stuff.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
When you're like twenty and he's always here trying to
like settle down and start a family and everything.
Speaker 1 (13:27):
It was more like that type of I see. Okay,
so you were attracted to each other and there was
like a connection maybe physically or whatever, but again that
your priorities were different. Yes, yeah, yeah, okay, Well thank you, Liz,
have a good day, Glad you called. That's what. That's
where I think ultimately they may align. I don't know.
(13:48):
Not every twenty four year old wants to go out
and get hammered every weekend. Not every fifty year old
is like you know in a recliner on the AARP website.
You know, I mean, I think there's probably a compromise
in there somewhere. Hey, Diane, another dian Yes, Diane number two,
Uh huh, certainly no less important than Diane number one,
just the second one to call in this segment. What
(14:09):
do you think? This is a woman who called in
Stay Orgo? She's twenty four, didt young guy who's fifty.
Her friends are concerned, her family doesn't know, and she's
been with him for six months and is happy, but
is in sure? What do you think?
Speaker 4 (14:20):
Well?
Speaker 6 (14:21):
I think if she were confident in knowing that this
is a good relationship for her, it's really healthy and strong.
It doesn't matter what other people think. But I'll tell
you I think her parents might pick up on that
and say, wow, this could be really good for you
because that's what happened with me. And I was forty five.
He was twenty three years older than me. He was
(14:43):
the age of my father, and of course they had
some you know, like a second thought, but when they
met him, they could see how he related to me
and how I related to him, and it was wonderful.
My mom actually cried when we broke.
Speaker 5 (14:58):
Up, oh wow.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
But ultimately was the demise of the relationship.
Speaker 6 (15:03):
What ultimately happened, well, what happened was it was an
energy difference where he actually had more energy than I did.
I was more of a deep thinker, profound meditation, spirituality
kind of a person, and he was more of a
let's go travel Let's go here, let's go there, and
I'm the world's worst traveler. So I wanted him to
(15:26):
be free to do what he really felt like he.
Speaker 2 (15:28):
Wanted to do.
Speaker 6 (15:29):
And I said, you know this, I really need to let.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
You go oh wow wow. And Diane, I think I
feel like when people hear these age gaps, all they're
thinking about, or at least the first thing it comes
to their mind is sex. The first thing that comes
to their mind is this is about sex. This is
about the physicality. The old guy wants young girl and
I don't. That's certainly probably an element in a lot
(15:54):
of these cases, but I don't think it is in everyone.
Speaker 6 (15:56):
No, oh, no, gosh no. I mean that was part
of it, and we both had kind of like wounded
backgrounds in that area. But the other part of it
was that we were so deeply connected in a just
a fundamental way that we had fun no matter what
we did.
Speaker 1 (16:14):
Yeah and so yeah, and in which case, it had
nothing to do with age. Really, it had more to
do with your interests and what you guys wanted to
do in life. And I think that the situation you
ran into could happen if you were the same age,
or if you were thirty years apart. So sorry to
think about it.
Speaker 6 (16:30):
Oh, all the time, and we still stay in touch.
He's a lawyer. He did my mother's papers before she passed.
He was at my dad's funeral. I mean we cried together.
He's still a wonderful friend.
Speaker 1 (16:42):
But you won't reconcile. There's no way that you can see,
you know, finding some common grounds.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
At this point. He's in his nineties.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
Oh, that's a part of time.
Speaker 5 (16:52):
Well, I.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
I to some papers of your own, you know. Yeah, okay,
I mean you did the hard work, you know, time
time for the payoff, you know what. Oh, God, we're terrible.
All right, thank you, Dian, I have a good day.
Thank you for sharing. All right, I only have ten.
It really was sweet. No, man, no, I mean yes.
(17:17):
I will also say forties and sixties I think are
probably less of a maturity difference than twenties and forties. Yes,
in any case, so I can see them. But listen
from the male perspective, here comes big Rich beg Rich
is here. Hey, he's forty seventy. His girlfriend's twenty five.
My man, congrats, dude.
Speaker 5 (17:38):
Come on, come on, we have to make it sound
like that, Fred, Is it like that?
Speaker 1 (17:44):
Is that what it is?
Speaker 5 (17:46):
I mean that those are the numbers. Yes, those are
the numbers.
Speaker 1 (17:48):
And how did you mean?
Speaker 5 (17:51):
We met at a mutual friend's house when we were
in sure she told me she was twenty eight years old.
Speaker 1 (17:58):
Well that's a big difference, Rich, twenty five? Come on, man,
so you hell have you together?
Speaker 5 (18:03):
The prime at the time, she was twenty three, and
she told me she was twenty eight, And every time
I saw her after that it went down a year.
Speaker 1 (18:11):
Okay, all right, so she's eighteen, so you've been just
for two years. It says on the screen you've been
together for two years. Yeah, So what's the future.
Speaker 5 (18:19):
Living together for two years, dating for like just a
little over two years.
Speaker 1 (18:23):
Yeah, okay, and so what is it? Wow, you pulled in,
she pulled a Jason on you and just moved in
and never left, Ainy, nothing wrong with that. What what's
the endgame here?
Speaker 5 (18:31):
Like?
Speaker 1 (18:31):
Are you gonna get married and have kids and do
all the things that you would do with you? Yeah?
Speaker 5 (18:36):
Yeah, that's that's that's what we're that's what we're hoping for.
I mean, we're obviously trying to get some stuff ironed out, uh,
each of us in our in our lives. And then
you know, her thing is she wants a white fence.
Pick a fence, and then she'll get married.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Rich has to get divorced and she has to graduate
high school. So there's a luck going on.
Speaker 5 (18:55):
I've been divorced for seven years.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Rinchie was too easy. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, but no,
I hope, Look, I hope it works out if you
guys connect and everybody you know and you're on the
same page, and then I don't know who would who
should judge Rich? Right?
Speaker 5 (19:10):
Yeah, we get we get a lot of judgment online
and stuff like that, and she has. She posts a
lot of one of her TikTok says wish we met earlier,
and then it shows a picture of me and and
uh two thousand and two and her in two thousand
and two.
Speaker 1 (19:22):
And I love doing that. Yeah, that's not that's certainly
going to feed the narrative. Hey, Rich, good luck, man,
I appreciate you calling. Have a good day. You're good support,
all right, not good for rich life man? Yeah yeah, Hey,
(19:45):
no college loans for her. He can pay for it,
you know, I want to give me. Oh man, what's
the website? I think they are quite what's the website
called grinder? Want to jump on important show, Shelley, Next
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