June 3, 2025 • 13 mins
Dante is torn on what to do with his marriage after his wife donated a bunch of his old things. One of the things she donated included a jacket his deceased mother gave him. Fred and the crew weigh in on what Dante should do!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's stay or go. Okay, Dante here, Hi Dante, how
you doing, man?
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I'm okay.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
I mean, all things considered, look at this guy. All
things considered, Well, we don't know what all those things are.
So we got to understand here. This is. You can
hit us up on all the different socials that we
have Fred Show Radio. Search for the Fred Show Fredshow
Radio dot com. You got this, this situation going on
with your wife. So what happened? Well, you know, I'm
(00:30):
not like a pack rat, but I have my things.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
I have my stuff, like you know, there's my things, right,
and my wife likes to clean.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I know this.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I try to keep my space is clean, my stuff clean,
our shared space is clean.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Right.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
But I go, I go out of town, I come back,
I have I have, I have fewer things.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
She got rid of a lot of stuff, so she
decided to go through your stuff while you were gone,
and just I guess, like, pair down, like you don't
need this, you don't need that. She made that this
so that you would have a more organized space. I
think that was her intention.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
But I uh, I got a little hot about it, and.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Yeah, it's just upset. Still, I'm still kind of upset
about it, honestly, So she didn't say to you ahead
of time, like hey, are you leaving town? Like can
I go through this stuff? And you know, I let
me keep the stuff you wear and maybe will donate
the stuff that you don't. She didn't discuss this with you.
You came back and your closet is like different.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Yeah, I'm saying, yeah, there's there's there's clothing, right, it's shoes,
it's belts, it's it's some really personal things that I
kind of thought, we're assumed were hands off, but she
got her hands on them.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Like when did she give away? Did she give it
away or throw it away? Or what did she do?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Donate gone? You know, she gave me like the same
hold like, oh yeah, I took it to donation. It's
you know, it's kind of out of my hands. Now.
I thought about driving around and seemed like I pick
through it, but I just got really mad.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
What did she give away that was important to you?
Speaker 2 (01:59):
Top of my list? It was a jacket that honestly
doesn't fit me so well anymore, but my mom gave
it to me. Oh and and like she and she
passed away, you know, And so it's kind of like
something I remember her by, and uh, I'm getting kind
of I'm getting tight to talk about right now, so
I'm just just I got to sit down.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
I'm sitting down now. So she thought she was helping me, Like, look,
did do you believe that she had the best of
intentions or do you think was it one of those
like points of contention in your relationship where she was like,
I need you to get this together and you're like no, no, no,
So finally she just did it. I mean, do you
feel like it was she was trying to surprise you
in a good way or do you think it was like, no,
you know what, I've asked you enough times and now
(02:38):
I'm just gonna do it because I'm because I'm kind
of mad about it.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
I've gotten notes about stuff I've had before from her.
I've had some feedback. But honestly, like, I think she
was helping. I think she she she convinced me that
she thought she was helping doing good thing because she
knows that like if I sat and did it would
take so much time. But you know, since she's just
going through it, it's she's so much more fishing with that.
And we already know that she's you know, she's a
clean one. She tidies up and she's very good at it,
(03:03):
and she prides herself on just getting stuff done, you know, like.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
A power hour. She can just go through things really quick,
like a whirlwind and okay, boom. But Dante, this is
stay or go. So like we're are you really at
the level where you're so mad about this that you're
thinking about ending your relationship? Like this is your wife.
I'm tearing. It's like we've it was just such a shock.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
It's such a shock and I don't know how to
move forward here. I don't know how to move forward
on this one.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
It's it's like that's like.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
My it's not just like like deleting photos.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Or something from you, you know, it's like disy possessions.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I cannot give back.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Well you get back. What she could have done to Dante
is she could have organized the space and then taking
the stuff that she didn't think that you wanted anymore
and held on to it and like putting bags or
something and be like, hey, if you see anything here
that you're missing, it's in the garage. You can go
through that if you want to, And then you make
the decision on what to donate, because maybe I don't
know if you share a closet or share a bedroom,
(03:55):
whatever it is. But you know, if somebody else is
hoarding essentially and has all kinds of crap and you don't,
I can see why that would be irritating, especially if
it's a bunch of stuff that you're not even using
and you're just too lazy to go through it. But
for her to have made the edits herself. Listen to
this man, he's distraught, yea. But for her to have
made the decision and then given it away and now
it's gone, I mean that's very controlling.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, I mean, send me a text, I mean something,
I'll give me a chance some saying it.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Take a photo and say it to me like, hey,
is this okay? Is this okay? I agree? I agree.
Well let me. I'm gonna take some phone calls on this.
We're gonna talk about you behind your back. But have
the radio on or I heart or whatever. And I
don't know if this is a divorceable offense, but it's
certainly it's not ideal. Eight five five five one h
three five. Thank you Dante, good luck, thank you, appreciate you.
(04:44):
What are you guys gonna do if you come home
and your significant other has rearranged all your stuff and
not only that, and that might be nice, by the way,
I mean like, I'm going through a bit of an
organizational phase myself, except the organization includes me deciding what
stays and goes, and then somebody helping me organize because
(05:05):
I don't know what contraptions to buy and how to lay.
I don't know. It's basically I'm lazy and I don't
want to do it, but I need to do it.
But I'm not letting the person throw stuff away without
consulting me first, right, Like, you don't get to just
go through my stuff and throw my stuff away, especially
considering you don't know what items you know are nostalgic
(05:27):
to me or hold value. Now, the other thing is
we've all probably known the person who's like, well, we
can't throw that away because of this, and before long
you're not throwing anything away. So I don't know if
maybe this was an intervention where she's like, look, I
can't live like this anymore, because we again, we're only
hearing his side of the story, so we don't know
exactly how much stuff we're talking about here, But maybe
it's just so much stuff where she's like, like, for example,
(05:48):
you guys know, I've had the closet of death in
my house and finally there's no longer the closet of death,
but ninety percent of what was in there got thrown
away or donated. I don't know why, because I hadn't
opened the close. I couldn't open the closet of death
in my house for like me, years and years and years,
which means nothing in there was really necessary for my survival,
right because I wasn't even going in there to use it.
(06:08):
So somebody probably could have gone in there and gotten
rid of a lot of that stuff, and I could
have been mad at them, But the truth is I
wasn't using it. It was just taking up space. So
they may have done me a favor. So then it
may have been me being like you know what I mean,
It could have been me just being a prima donna
because maybe I'm married and my wife in this case,
(06:28):
this guy Dante's wife had said to him one hundred times,
please clean this up. So I'm trying to look at
this on both sides.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
Here, I'd say thank you if it was me, Like,
I'd be really upset about the stuff like his mom
gave him, and I feel like she should have known
better than to toss that. But outside of that, you
will come up with an excuse to keep every single
thing if you have a problem with hoarding, like I
would have been, Like, you know what, Actually I feel
a lot lighter. Thank you for going through and getting
(06:55):
rid of some of this stuff that I was having
a hard time letting go of.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Oh you're a better person than me, you do Oh no, no, no,
Like I, I would be very angry. At the very least,
she should have kept the stuff that she didn't think
that he needed.
Speaker 5 (07:09):
Yes, in a bag in the garage in the corner,
you go through it later. If not, then then I
will donate it. If you're gonna be lazy and not
get to it, because sometimes you don't get to it
right and the excuses keep coming, then good will be
at the door to come pick it up. But at least,
like I wouldn't throw it out, Absolutely not. There are
so many things that I want to go into my basement.
You guys have been in my basement. It looks like
I don't even know, Like the Cubs Convention Center, Like
it's awful and there's just.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Like the Cubs through up in your basis they did.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
It's it's wild and like, but there's also like things
from like Hobby's childhood and like things are important in baseball,
and it realizes a big, big baseball guy when he
was a kid, and like I would I want to
toss it's so bad, but like I won't touch it
because I know it means a lot to him. One
day it may go, but I would never you know,
have him come home and then like everything's missing, because
I feel like that's so mean.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
And Paulina, that's the question. How many times do you
ask someone to do something before you do take it
into your own hands? Because if it were that important,
if you had stuff that was that important to you,
and I had to one hundred times, then is that
that kind of on you at some point? I'm playing
Devil's advocate here. I mean, I would be mad if
people threw my stuff away or donated it without asking me.
But how many times do we have to have this
conversation before it's like, Okay, I'm just gonna do this
(08:16):
because this is a shared space exactly, and I live
here too, you know, And I don't know how many
closets they have. Maybe they don't have a situation where
maybe they're sharing one closet, you know. So I mean again,
how many times you have to ask your significant other
to do something before you take it into your own hands,
and then it's kind of at your own risk. Hey, Marrabelle,
how you doing good? How are you?
Speaker 6 (08:36):
Good morning?
Speaker 5 (08:36):
Hi?
Speaker 1 (08:37):
So you just heard this thing. This guy Dante calls
in his wife while he was out of town, basically
went through all of his stuff in the closet, organized
it for him, but got rid of a ton of
stuff without consulting him. What would you do.
Speaker 6 (08:49):
I completely understand where he's coming from. I mean, I
guess there was a lot of things of value to him,
and there are things that reminded him, you know, gave
them memories of his mother. So I completely understand and
why he could be so upset. But at the end
of the day, I mean, she really meant well and
thought that she was doing something to help. I think
(09:10):
that it's not enough of a reason for you to separate.
You are in all your right to feel the way
that you do. Take some time to kind of like
you know, work through those problems which your partner. I
feel like, you know, things are just things, their attachments.
At the end of the day, your mom is there
with you in spirit. There's other ways to remember her,
(09:32):
and I don't think that this is a good reason
for a separation, but definitely go to therapy, try to
work it out and try to find, you know, a
way for you guys to communicate a little bit better
and so things like this don't continue to happen in
the future.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Yeah, thank you, Mary Belle, have a good day.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
Okay, thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
I mean, you know, the jacket he said didn't fit.
It's like, I don't know, maybe he is that guy
who it's every well, I got to keep that because
I mean I had that as a child or whatever.
It's like, well, well, what are you going to do
with it? Well, I don't know, but it was mineus
I you know, I can't throw that away.
Speaker 6 (10:05):
But you don't ever have the right to go through
some stuff and throw it out, and that's their belongings.
I don't care how many times I asked you, I'm
not going to throw away your stuff.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Rosie, Hi, Rosie, how you doing, Hi?
Speaker 7 (10:18):
Friends, I'm great at you.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Hey, Rosie, what are you going to do in this situation?
You come home, your husband went through your stuff, organize
it for you, cleaned it all up, but then he
threw some stuff away. What do you do?
Speaker 7 (10:29):
No, No, absolutely not.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
He's got to go.
Speaker 7 (10:33):
Absolutely unacceptable.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
It's not your stuff.
Speaker 4 (10:37):
Now.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
How many are you married?
Speaker 5 (10:39):
I'm a widow.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
You're a widow.
Speaker 6 (10:41):
Okay, for thirty years.
Speaker 7 (10:43):
It's a wonderful man. And today I'm just thankful that
I had someone so amazing in my life for so long.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Well, that's no, that's very sweet. But how many times, though,
in the course of any relationship, how many times do
you ask someone to do something before you have the
right to take it into your own hands? I mean,
is it five times? Is it ten, it is at twenty?
Or never? You just that's just you're just gonna have
to deal with it.
Speaker 7 (11:03):
I mean, I think that there needs to be the
common respect in a relationship with the two people that
there has to be communication. There's some sort of either
communication is lost in this relationship or she's just a
very selfish, militiative person. And I think that she really
needs to read the book Let them, because.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
Let them be a nasty hoarder. Let them let them
have their stuff all over the place, let them keep
that jacket that doesn't fit from their mama.
Speaker 7 (11:33):
Let them give them a bin to put under the bed.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Yeah, I mean there's there's Yeah, and Rosie, thank you
so much for calling for sharre and have a good day,
thank you. K Yeah, I mean there's definitely another way
to go about this. Hey, Christina, Hi, Hi, good morning
there go. What do you think so?
Speaker 8 (11:50):
I mean, I think it's a little a little petty
to leave over this, But I my dad's a hoarder.
I feel like he might be a hoarder. It sounds
like with the emotion he has attacked to all the stuff,
he might be one. And he studies a pack rat.
But I lost a ton of stuff in my basement
a couple of years ago. My basement flooded a lot
of sentimental things, but things like I didn't use. It
(12:12):
was just in my basement, and it felt so good
to clear that stuff out. Like I didn't ask for
it to be tossed or anything. It just I lost
it because of the flood. But it was like it
felt good to get here.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Yeah, there is something very freeing about it. And I'm
sorry it happened under the under those circumstances because you
really weren't you didn't have the ability to sort of
pick and choose what you wanted to keep. But it
is very freeing when you when you're sort of a
massed a bit of a collection of things and you
were able to get rid of it, like it's it's
it is a super freeing thing. But but I mean,
I think part of the process is that you have
control over what goes and what comes. But to your point,
(12:47):
maybe this guy couldn't let go, like maybe he and
so I don't know, maybe there's a more serious issue here.
Speaker 8 (12:54):
Yeah, I mean, and in the end, it's just stuff.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Yeah, but it's momsion, mom him the jacket, I mean
it was a it was a member's only jacket, Okay.
I mean it's like it was a Cowboys starter jacket.
All right, I mean those are those are very collectible
from the nineties. Alright, Thank you, Christina, have a good day,
Thank you too. It was a gold it was a
gold sparkles on it. I mean, come on, you know,
when he was in fifth grade, he was in the
dance you know thing, and and he did a dance
(13:20):
recital with it. His mom knit that. It was a
sweater knit by his mother. You mean he's dead, you know,
like what, You're never gonna be never to be knit again,
you know. Or you could go, I got it, go
to Goodwill and just shop for your own stuff. Maya
bag like it is this mom sweater. Seven dollars, that's
(13:42):
that's a deal.
It's stay or go. Okay, Dante here, Hi Dante, how
you doing, man?
Speaker 2 (00:07):
I'm okay.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
I mean, all things considered, look at this guy. All
things considered, Well, we don't know what all those things are.
So we got to understand here. This is. You can
hit us up on all the different socials that we
have Fred Show Radio. Search for the Fred Show Fredshow
Radio dot com. You got this, this situation going on
with your wife. So what happened? Well, you know, I'm
(00:30):
not like a pack rat, but I have my things.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
I have my stuff, like you know, there's my things, right,
and my wife likes to clean.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I know this.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
I try to keep my space is clean, my stuff clean,
our shared space is clean.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Right.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
But I go, I go out of town, I come back,
I have I have, I have fewer things.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
She got rid of a lot of stuff, so she
decided to go through your stuff while you were gone,
and just I guess, like, pair down, like you don't
need this, you don't need that. She made that this
so that you would have a more organized space. I
think that was her intention.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
But I uh, I got a little hot about it, and.
Speaker 1 (01:09):
Yeah, it's just upset. Still, I'm still kind of upset
about it, honestly, So she didn't say to you ahead
of time, like hey, are you leaving town? Like can
I go through this stuff? And you know, I let
me keep the stuff you wear and maybe will donate
the stuff that you don't. She didn't discuss this with you.
You came back and your closet is like different.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Yeah, I'm saying, yeah, there's there's there's clothing, right, it's shoes,
it's belts, it's it's some really personal things that I
kind of thought, we're assumed were hands off, but she
got her hands on them.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
Like when did she give away? Did she give it
away or throw it away? Or what did she do?
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Donate gone? You know, she gave me like the same
hold like, oh yeah, I took it to donation. It's
you know, it's kind of out of my hands. Now.
I thought about driving around and seemed like I pick
through it, but I just got really mad.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
What did she give away that was important to you?
Speaker 2 (01:59):
Top of my list? It was a jacket that honestly
doesn't fit me so well anymore, but my mom gave
it to me. Oh and and like she and she
passed away, you know, And so it's kind of like
something I remember her by, and uh, I'm getting kind
of I'm getting tight to talk about right now, so
I'm just just I got to sit down.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
I'm sitting down now. So she thought she was helping me, Like, look,
did do you believe that she had the best of
intentions or do you think was it one of those
like points of contention in your relationship where she was like,
I need you to get this together and you're like no, no, no,
So finally she just did it. I mean, do you
feel like it was she was trying to surprise you
in a good way or do you think it was like, no,
you know what, I've asked you enough times and now
(02:38):
I'm just gonna do it because I'm because I'm kind
of mad about it.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
I've gotten notes about stuff I've had before from her.
I've had some feedback. But honestly, like, I think she
was helping. I think she she she convinced me that
she thought she was helping doing good thing because she
knows that like if I sat and did it would
take so much time. But you know, since she's just
going through it, it's she's so much more fishing with that.
And we already know that she's you know, she's a
clean one. She tidies up and she's very good at it,
(03:03):
and she prides herself on just getting stuff done, you know, like.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
A power hour. She can just go through things really quick,
like a whirlwind and okay, boom. But Dante, this is
stay or go. So like we're are you really at
the level where you're so mad about this that you're
thinking about ending your relationship? Like this is your wife.
I'm tearing. It's like we've it was just such a shock.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
It's such a shock and I don't know how to
move forward here. I don't know how to move forward
on this one.
Speaker 1 (03:28):
It's it's like that's like.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
My it's not just like like deleting photos.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Or something from you, you know, it's like disy possessions.
Speaker 2 (03:33):
I cannot give back.
Speaker 1 (03:34):
Well you get back. What she could have done to Dante
is she could have organized the space and then taking
the stuff that she didn't think that you wanted anymore
and held on to it and like putting bags or
something and be like, hey, if you see anything here
that you're missing, it's in the garage. You can go
through that if you want to, And then you make
the decision on what to donate, because maybe I don't
know if you share a closet or share a bedroom,
(03:55):
whatever it is. But you know, if somebody else is
hoarding essentially and has all kinds of crap and you don't,
I can see why that would be irritating, especially if
it's a bunch of stuff that you're not even using
and you're just too lazy to go through it. But
for her to have made the edits herself. Listen to
this man, he's distraught, yea. But for her to have
made the decision and then given it away and now
it's gone, I mean that's very controlling.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, I mean, send me a text, I mean something,
I'll give me a chance some saying it.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
Take a photo and say it to me like, hey,
is this okay? Is this okay? I agree? I agree.
Well let me. I'm gonna take some phone calls on this.
We're gonna talk about you behind your back. But have
the radio on or I heart or whatever. And I
don't know if this is a divorceable offense, but it's
certainly it's not ideal. Eight five five five one h
three five. Thank you Dante, good luck, thank you, appreciate you.
(04:44):
What are you guys gonna do if you come home
and your significant other has rearranged all your stuff and
not only that, and that might be nice, by the way,
I mean like, I'm going through a bit of an
organizational phase myself, except the organization includes me deciding what
stays and goes, and then somebody helping me organize because
(05:05):
I don't know what contraptions to buy and how to lay.
I don't know. It's basically I'm lazy and I don't
want to do it, but I need to do it.
But I'm not letting the person throw stuff away without
consulting me first, right, Like, you don't get to just
go through my stuff and throw my stuff away, especially
considering you don't know what items you know are nostalgic
(05:27):
to me or hold value. Now, the other thing is
we've all probably known the person who's like, well, we
can't throw that away because of this, and before long
you're not throwing anything away. So I don't know if
maybe this was an intervention where she's like, look, I
can't live like this anymore, because we again, we're only
hearing his side of the story, so we don't know
exactly how much stuff we're talking about here, But maybe
it's just so much stuff where she's like, like, for example,
(05:48):
you guys know, I've had the closet of death in
my house and finally there's no longer the closet of death,
but ninety percent of what was in there got thrown
away or donated. I don't know why, because I hadn't
opened the close. I couldn't open the closet of death
in my house for like me, years and years and years,
which means nothing in there was really necessary for my survival,
right because I wasn't even going in there to use it.
(06:08):
So somebody probably could have gone in there and gotten
rid of a lot of that stuff, and I could
have been mad at them, But the truth is I
wasn't using it. It was just taking up space. So
they may have done me a favor. So then it
may have been me being like you know what I mean,
It could have been me just being a prima donna
because maybe I'm married and my wife in this case,
(06:28):
this guy Dante's wife had said to him one hundred times,
please clean this up. So I'm trying to look at
this on both sides.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
Here, I'd say thank you if it was me, Like,
I'd be really upset about the stuff like his mom
gave him, and I feel like she should have known
better than to toss that. But outside of that, you
will come up with an excuse to keep every single
thing if you have a problem with hoarding, like I
would have been, Like, you know what, Actually I feel
a lot lighter. Thank you for going through and getting
(06:55):
rid of some of this stuff that I was having
a hard time letting go of.
Speaker 1 (06:58):
Oh you're a better person than me, you do Oh no, no, no,
Like I, I would be very angry. At the very least,
she should have kept the stuff that she didn't think
that he needed.
Speaker 5 (07:09):
Yes, in a bag in the garage in the corner,
you go through it later. If not, then then I
will donate it. If you're gonna be lazy and not
get to it, because sometimes you don't get to it
right and the excuses keep coming, then good will be
at the door to come pick it up. But at least,
like I wouldn't throw it out, Absolutely not. There are
so many things that I want to go into my basement.
You guys have been in my basement. It looks like
I don't even know, Like the Cubs Convention Center, Like
it's awful and there's just.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Like the Cubs through up in your basis they did.
Speaker 5 (07:32):
It's it's wild and like, but there's also like things
from like Hobby's childhood and like things are important in baseball,
and it realizes a big, big baseball guy when he
was a kid, and like I would I want to
toss it's so bad, but like I won't touch it
because I know it means a lot to him. One
day it may go, but I would never you know,
have him come home and then like everything's missing, because
I feel like that's so mean.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
And Paulina, that's the question. How many times do you
ask someone to do something before you do take it
into your own hands? Because if it were that important,
if you had stuff that was that important to you,
and I had to one hundred times, then is that
that kind of on you at some point? I'm playing
Devil's advocate here. I mean, I would be mad if
people threw my stuff away or donated it without asking me.
But how many times do we have to have this
conversation before it's like, Okay, I'm just gonna do this
(08:16):
because this is a shared space exactly, and I live
here too, you know, And I don't know how many
closets they have. Maybe they don't have a situation where
maybe they're sharing one closet, you know. So I mean again,
how many times you have to ask your significant other
to do something before you take it into your own hands,
and then it's kind of at your own risk. Hey, Marrabelle,
how you doing good? How are you?
Speaker 6 (08:36):
Good morning?
Speaker 5 (08:36):
Hi?
Speaker 1 (08:37):
So you just heard this thing. This guy Dante calls
in his wife while he was out of town, basically
went through all of his stuff in the closet, organized
it for him, but got rid of a ton of
stuff without consulting him. What would you do.
Speaker 6 (08:49):
I completely understand where he's coming from. I mean, I
guess there was a lot of things of value to him,
and there are things that reminded him, you know, gave
them memories of his mother. So I completely understand and
why he could be so upset. But at the end
of the day, I mean, she really meant well and
thought that she was doing something to help. I think
(09:10):
that it's not enough of a reason for you to separate.
You are in all your right to feel the way
that you do. Take some time to kind of like
you know, work through those problems which your partner. I
feel like, you know, things are just things, their attachments.
At the end of the day, your mom is there
with you in spirit. There's other ways to remember her,
(09:32):
and I don't think that this is a good reason
for a separation, but definitely go to therapy, try to
work it out and try to find, you know, a
way for you guys to communicate a little bit better
and so things like this don't continue to happen in
the future.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Yeah, thank you, Mary Belle, have a good day.
Speaker 6 (09:48):
Okay, thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
I mean, you know, the jacket he said didn't fit.
It's like, I don't know, maybe he is that guy
who it's every well, I got to keep that because
I mean I had that as a child or whatever.
It's like, well, well, what are you going to do
with it? Well, I don't know, but it was mineus
I you know, I can't throw that away.
Speaker 6 (10:05):
But you don't ever have the right to go through
some stuff and throw it out, and that's their belongings.
I don't care how many times I asked you, I'm
not going to throw away your stuff.
Speaker 1 (10:15):
Rosie, Hi, Rosie, how you doing, Hi?
Speaker 7 (10:18):
Friends, I'm great at you.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Hey, Rosie, what are you going to do in this situation?
You come home, your husband went through your stuff, organize
it for you, cleaned it all up, but then he
threw some stuff away. What do you do?
Speaker 7 (10:29):
No, No, absolutely not.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
He's got to go.
Speaker 7 (10:33):
Absolutely unacceptable.
Speaker 2 (10:35):
It's not your stuff.
Speaker 4 (10:37):
Now.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
How many are you married?
Speaker 5 (10:39):
I'm a widow.
Speaker 1 (10:40):
You're a widow.
Speaker 6 (10:41):
Okay, for thirty years.
Speaker 7 (10:43):
It's a wonderful man. And today I'm just thankful that
I had someone so amazing in my life for so long.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
Well, that's no, that's very sweet. But how many times, though,
in the course of any relationship, how many times do
you ask someone to do something before you have the
right to take it into your own hands? I mean,
is it five times? Is it ten, it is at twenty?
Or never? You just that's just you're just gonna have
to deal with it.
Speaker 7 (11:03):
I mean, I think that there needs to be the
common respect in a relationship with the two people that
there has to be communication. There's some sort of either
communication is lost in this relationship or she's just a
very selfish, militiative person. And I think that she really
needs to read the book Let them, because.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
Let them be a nasty hoarder. Let them let them
have their stuff all over the place, let them keep
that jacket that doesn't fit from their mama.
Speaker 7 (11:33):
Let them give them a bin to put under the bed.
Speaker 1 (11:37):
Yeah, I mean there's there's Yeah, and Rosie, thank you
so much for calling for sharre and have a good day,
thank you. K Yeah, I mean there's definitely another way
to go about this. Hey, Christina, Hi, Hi, good morning
there go. What do you think so?
Speaker 8 (11:50):
I mean, I think it's a little a little petty
to leave over this, But I my dad's a hoarder.
I feel like he might be a hoarder. It sounds
like with the emotion he has attacked to all the stuff,
he might be one. And he studies a pack rat.
But I lost a ton of stuff in my basement
a couple of years ago. My basement flooded a lot
of sentimental things, but things like I didn't use. It
(12:12):
was just in my basement, and it felt so good
to clear that stuff out. Like I didn't ask for
it to be tossed or anything. It just I lost
it because of the flood. But it was like it
felt good to get here.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Yeah, there is something very freeing about it. And I'm
sorry it happened under the under those circumstances because you
really weren't you didn't have the ability to sort of
pick and choose what you wanted to keep. But it
is very freeing when you when you're sort of a
massed a bit of a collection of things and you
were able to get rid of it, like it's it's
it is a super freeing thing. But but I mean,
I think part of the process is that you have
control over what goes and what comes. But to your point,
(12:47):
maybe this guy couldn't let go, like maybe he and
so I don't know, maybe there's a more serious issue here.
Speaker 8 (12:54):
Yeah, I mean, and in the end, it's just stuff.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Yeah, but it's momsion, mom him the jacket, I mean
it was a it was a member's only jacket, Okay.
I mean it's like it was a Cowboys starter jacket.
All right, I mean those are those are very collectible
from the nineties. Alright, Thank you, Christina, have a good day,
Thank you too. It was a gold it was a
gold sparkles on it. I mean, come on, you know,
when he was in fifth grade, he was in the
dance you know thing, and and he did a dance
(13:20):
recital with it. His mom knit that. It was a
sweater knit by his mother. You mean he's dead, you know,
like what, You're never gonna be never to be knit again,
you know. Or you could go, I got it, go
to Goodwill and just shop for your own stuff. Maya
bag like it is this mom sweater. Seven dollars, that's
(13:42):
that's a deal.
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