October 21, 2025 • 16 mins
Julianne is conflicted because she is head over heels with this guy. The only issue is she hooked up with his friend a year ago.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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how are you doing? Good morning?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Hi, good morning.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
So this is Stairgo and people hit us up on
all the various social platforms, Fresher Radio, Fretscherradio dot com.
You can just send us a DM. Let us know
what you think. Every day on every Tuesday, I should say,
we we have folks on and then we hear you,
you're your situation, your scenario, and then we talk about
you behind your back. That's that's amazing what this segment is.
(01:03):
So what's going on with this guy? This is a
guy that you recently were asked out by and you're
excited about it, but there's a problem, so explained.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Yeah, So recently, I've been talking to this guy that
I'm really really interested. He's so cool, very sweet, very
down to earth, my kind of guy. He's like the
male version of me, which I think is really really cool.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
He's great, if I do say so myself, He's a
lot of me, which is why I like him so much. Okay,
all right, fine, Yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
We've been talking, we've been flirting.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
I'm so into it.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
But the second he asked me out, I kind of panicked.
And the reason I panicked is because about sometime last year,
for about three months, I was casually hooking up with
his friend.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Okay, it was just up, but I never dated his friend.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
It was, you know, every time we wanted to do something,
we would just do it and then that was it.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
It was more like friends with benefits.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
That's the best way I could describe that as friends
with benefits. And the guy that I'm currently about to
go out with doesn't know that, and I don't know
if I should, you know, tell him before we go out,
which could possibly ruin everything, or if.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
I should just keep it to myself and gofa that
the friend tells him, and then the guy that I'm
seeing might say to me, well, why didn't you tell
me that earlier? I had to hear it from him,
so that puts me in an awkward position. Or should
I just abort the whole mission before it even starts
and just you know, be like whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
No, I have a few questions.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
That's not my happiness, you know, right, But I have.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
A few questions. So this was simply hooking up. There
was there was no he didn't you wor in love,
you weren't dating, There was no really death to it.
It was just it was what it was. It was
surface correct. Yeah, okay? And then how close are these guys?
Speaker 3 (03:10):
They're best friend since childhood, they met in elementary school.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Oh great, but I think you know, he probably knows.
How do you know for a fact he doesn't know?
I mean, because like I don't know. I know who
my best friends are getting with for the most parts.
And I can tell you that if my best friend
pops up with a girl that I hooked up with, uh,
you know, more than once or twice even maybe, then
I probably would say something to them because I don't
(03:37):
want them to feel like they don't have the information
from me. So but okay, so what makes you think
he doesn't know?
Speaker 2 (03:46):
I mean, he's never brought it up to me, he said, Meaning.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Is that something you're like, Hey, you know, I love
that you slept with my friend for three months, Like
I love that about you, you know. I mean, I
don't know. It would be a strange thing to bring up,
but like I guess, if I saw something going where
somewhere with someone more serious and I knew about this,
I might I might let them know that I knew
(04:10):
and didn't mind, because I would imagine that if roles
were reversed, that I would be focused on this and
I would be worried about it.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
That's a fair point, But that is a fair point.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
But I feel like if it were me and another
woman and maybe she was going out with somebody else
and we were best friends, I feel like she would
say something like that to me. Maybe it's just because
they're guys, but I mean, I don't know, like I
would bring it up to her, like if she was
going to date a guy that I was messing with,
(04:43):
and maybe she didn't know, but maybe she would know.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
I don't know. I think The more important part here
is that you want to date this guy. You like
him more than you liked other people. You like him
more than you like the guy that you were hooking
up with. It was a year ago you said something
like that last year is what you said. So I
think ultimately the question that we should all be focused
on is how do you make it work with this
(05:06):
guy without him feeling blindsided? And wouldn't you guys agree?
Maybe you don't, but eight five five five nine one
three five I would love to know what people have
to say. You can call hi, text the same number,
but it's almost like maybe you do. You get this
on the table now, you know, and you'd be like, hey,
his head's up, like I like you. I'd like to,
you know, like to see where this goes. I just
want to be fully transparent, you know, because it's this
other person's a part of your life, and I know
(05:28):
we're going to come into contact with him probably and
hang out with him or whatever. I did hook up
with him last year and it didn't mean anything. It
was it was what it was. I didn't know you,
and I just want to be transparent because that sort
of removes the taboo from this, and if the guy
freaks out, then that may say something about how this
was going to go down the road anyway, or maybe
(05:49):
he's like, yeah, I don't love it, but you know,
I like you. I'd like to see where this goes.
You didn't know me, so I mean that would be
kind of the fair thing to do would be to
be like, hey, I don't I don't have to like this,
but I also we didn't know each other then, so
so be it.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Yeah, I think I like that idea a lot.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
Just lay it out from see what he says, see
how it takes it. I think it's better to be
transparent and before started a relationship with anybody, whether it's
a friendship or a relationship, a partnership.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
So I like that because if you don't say anything
and then he finds out down the road, I guess, well, well,
it's still not fair for him to judge you based
on you know, what you guys share together, based on
what you've done in the past before you knew him.
I guess I could make the argument like why didn't
you tell me? Like what is there not to know? Kiki?
(06:39):
That's what you think?
Speaker 5 (06:40):
Oh for sure? Like, and I would also be mad
at my friend. Yeah, if he knows that I'm hooking
up with this new girl and you and him have
this secret behind my back, I don't care how long,
how long ago it was. I feel like somebody in
this situation should be honest with him.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Is it more on the front, that's a good question,
you know, or is it on her? I wonder, Well, they're.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
The ones who are going to be dating. So I
suppose you could establish, you know, the air of or
not the error that you're being transparent. Right, and again,
you like this guy, you haven't known him that long
and hasn't progressed that far. I think now would be
the time to say this to him. And again if
he's like, man, I don't love that, but that's okay,
(07:22):
let's see where this goes. Or that's cool, I get it,
you know, that's been fine. But if he freaks out
on you, I can't believe this. I could never be
with you whatever. Imagine what's going to happen if in
three or four months or six months, when there are
emotions involved and feelings, then everyone's going to be really
hurt by this. It's going to be catastrophic. Yeah, but
let me take some phone calls on this street. Let's
(07:43):
see what other people I have to say, Polena, what
you're doing over there?
Speaker 6 (07:46):
You guys love giving your power away and it really
kills me.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I hate to see you.
Speaker 6 (07:51):
You guys know how I feel when there's a fight
or something happens, because like he might screw up.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
You need that AMMO in your pocket.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Up, Helen, Oh, Helena, know this is so unhealthy. It
is so it is so unhealthy, Polana, And hang on
to these nuggets so that you can deeply cut someone
when you feel like it. It's so selfish and so wrong.
I love you so much. That is such an awful
thing to do. Harbor, harbor incriminating information, things that you
(08:21):
know will cut deep, so that you can just win
the argument in the moment, because you do realize one
of these times, and I don't wish this upon you, Polina,
but one of these times, you're gonna bust out with
this horrible thing and it's gonna do irreparable damage.
Speaker 6 (08:35):
Yes, I'm working on it. I am in therapy. My
up it to twice a week at this point, because.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
That's where I'm at.
Speaker 6 (08:40):
But I only say that because people like to I
don't know how to say it. Like people want to
always like come with it right, like, oh I got you,
But it's.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Like, no, I got you. You get what I'm saying.
You have to like be.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Trying to get each other, like get We have to
gauge the level of arguments that we're getting. Not every
argument is a war. Not every time you do disagree.
Do you need to be armed with a nuclear weapon?
I mean it's like sometimes sometimes people just disagree and
like you move past it. But what you're never gonna
move past is when it's like you never wash the dishes, Paulina, Yeah,
(09:14):
you know what, and I bang your best friend. You
know what, You're right, that's how it would go.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Yeah, the big stuff.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
You don't want to use it for anything, because the
objective shouldn't be to just absolutely destroy the person that
you're arguing with if you love them. I mean maybe
if you have no intention of reconciliation. But this is
I don't know. Let me take some phone Callst. Julianne,
have a good day.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Yeah, you gotta hurt me?
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Oh they No one needs to hurt you. You don't
need to hurt the people. You don't need to be
hanging on this. I hate the fact that you harbor
this stuff because I think, unfortunately, Paulina, that this could
really backfire in a way that is going to hurt
you worse. And I don't want that to happen to you.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
And I'm not like trying to hurt people.
Speaker 6 (09:58):
But I'm saying, like he's, you know, my boyfriend whatever
in this situation, cheats on me or something like I'm
talking like crazy, I'm not talking about the dishes or
the laundry like something big. Then I think it's always
good to have that animal. You have to be ahead
of people in this world. Why are you assuming he's
going to cheat? What if he doesn't? She I hope
he doesn't.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
He probably won't.
Speaker 7 (10:16):
Like just like a liar holding something in that you
weren't like open about.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Well, if it's like something I would use later, you
know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Why Why are you holding onto things too? Why? I
don't I don't know, Like how about the fa If
someone hurts you, that's awful. You don't have to you
don't have to cut decapitate them back. I don't. And
then again like I don't like it. I don't like
it at all. It's so toxic. Guy, it's so toxic.
Speaker 7 (10:46):
I know.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
I don't like it. Pete, don't do it. And I
say this only from the perspective of my care for you,
because I do think you'll find you want to cut
people and you want that you want to blow them up.
That's fine, that's your right. I only really care about
you in this scenario. But I'm telling you, I feel
like this is the kind of thing that backfires or
if someone does it to you, you'd be devastated. And
yet this is your practice. I don't like it. Hey, Tay, Hey, Hi,
(11:10):
good morning. What do you think I think?
Speaker 8 (11:14):
Pers off Paulina, You're hilarious, but I do agree with Fred.
Speaker 9 (11:20):
But with that.
Speaker 8 (11:21):
Girl, I'm sure the friend the guy already knows that
you've been sleeping with his friend, and like I said earlier,
you should just tell him and we're adults, like it happens, whatever.
But it also might be that he already knows that
you were sleeping with his friend, and his friend is like, hey,
go try that out. Like I'm telling you, she's she's
(11:43):
doing some work over there, and yeah, now you're like
you're trying not to hurt him, and like Paulina, He's
gonna pull out the bag, Like, hey, I already.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Knew just for me if a guy said that, if
one of my buddies said that to me, like when
I first met someone, like, dude, you need to go
there because like that that lady does, she does this
one thing, you know whatever, Like that's funny, But that's
funny or maybe that's okay when I first meet the person,
But then what if I wind up marrying that person
and then that dude standing next to me at my
(12:14):
wedding and that's the same guy that two years ago
told me about the thing she does with her left hand,
And it's like no, like I don't need to know that.
You know that that's not good information for me to
have long term.
Speaker 8 (12:25):
Well then that's when you meet Polly. He's method of
you got to hand them to pull out on him,
like hey, no, no, I try to do a thing,
but your mom be a tad.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
Mom.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Keep keep my mom's name out of your mouth. I
have a good day day. I'm so scared to god people,
you guys are ruthless, Like when did I I am
not the most sensitive human being, but like, come on,
like that is not a good way to operate, Julie, Yes,
good morning, Cerco. So this woman she called us because
she met a guy she likes, but last year she
(13:00):
had a just sort of a casual sexual relationship with
his best friend, and for her, it's like, well, I
like the new guy, but I don't know how much
I should disclose because I don't know if he knows
or doesn't know, or how it could impact the future
and how things progress. What do you think.
Speaker 9 (13:17):
I would ask the friend with benefits if he said anything,
depending on what her relationship is with him now, I
would reach out and just ask him out right, hey,
did you tell him? Because I want to date him
and I don't know if he knows.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
That's interesting.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
Now.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
I don't know how i'd feel about that further communication
if if there was nothing there or nothing to hide,
Like I almost feel like I'd rather you just tell
me and not involve him. But I suppose why not
just have the conversation between the two, because then.
Speaker 9 (13:46):
It really puts him on the spot. So if he
does know and it doesn't bother him, now it's awkward
because you're I don't know. It depends on how much
he and how long was she with the guy the
friends with benefits? Was this like a one offer? Was
this a round?
Speaker 1 (14:01):
I said a few months, a couple of months, I think,
is what she said. Yeah, so it was, but she
insists that there was nothing more so.
Speaker 9 (14:09):
Right, but they had to have had some level of
friendship if they were hooking up on a regular basis
for several months. So I think i'd still reach out
and see where things you're at with him? Is he
dating somebody now? Has he said anything? I don't know.
I would I would want to.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Know before fair enough, Thank you, Julie, no problem. I
hate to say this would bother me, but it would,
and that's not mature of me, because everybody has a past,
including me. But I wouldn't love it, and it I
want to believe that it wouldn't stand in the way
of the person that I'm supposed to be with, But
I wouldn't love it. I would not love the fact
(14:45):
that my best friend knows what I know and that
this could be the person that I'm with forever that
I cherish the most and I share that with him. Yeah,
I don't. I wouldn't love it.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Yeah, that's honest, for sure.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
But I think I think that's a little bit immature,
because again, like you could go through my inventory and
find things you don't like either if you chose to,
but I didn't know you then. So hey, Kylie, Ki,
good morning. Hi Kylie. What do you think stre go
she should say?
Speaker 7 (15:14):
But she really needs to communicate that with you know,
the student too hopefully soon to be boyfriend. I actually
met my boyfriend on the dating apps, and on her
first date, he kind of let me know that he
was still close with a lot of friends he actually
met on the apps that just they didn't work out,
but you know, they were still talking and hanging out,
and we've been together for four years and we're still
(15:37):
you know, a part of that friend group. So I
think that the communication is just really key. She just
needs to tell him and if he really likes her,
I mean he'll choose dano be in a relationship with her.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yeah sure, yeah, yeah, fair enough. Good advice. Thank you,
have a good day.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Thank you, guys.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
All Right, I don't know final say Kiki, tell him, don't.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
Tell him, man, I'm thinking about Paulina. Say, we might
need to have some ammo, little ammo.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Maybe when you guys stop it. There's one but well,
you guys, I started to sound like Kaitlin. Now, now
you guys, knock it off. Yeah, now, you guys, that
is the wrong thing to do.
This is the Fred Show. Each time celebrate the holiday
season with Mariah Carey's Christmas Time in Las Vegas. It's
November twenty eight through December thirteenth, Adobe Live at Park
MGM and you could be going a trip or two
to the December twelfth show at two Night's Day at
Park MGM December twelfth through to fourteenth and round trip airfare.
(00:21):
Text touch to five seven, seven three nine right now
for a chance to win. A confirmation text will be
sent standard message and data rates may apply. It's all
thanks to the Live Nation. It's stay or go all right. Julianne, Julianne,
how are you doing? Good morning?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Hi, good morning.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
So this is Stairgo and people hit us up on
all the various social platforms, Fresher Radio, Fretscherradio dot com.
You can just send us a DM. Let us know
what you think. Every day on every Tuesday, I should say,
we we have folks on and then we hear you,
you're your situation, your scenario, and then we talk about
you behind your back. That's that's amazing what this segment is.
(01:03):
So what's going on with this guy? This is a
guy that you recently were asked out by and you're
excited about it, but there's a problem, so explained.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Yeah, So recently, I've been talking to this guy that
I'm really really interested. He's so cool, very sweet, very
down to earth, my kind of guy. He's like the
male version of me, which I think is really really cool.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
He's great, if I do say so myself, He's a
lot of me, which is why I like him so much. Okay,
all right, fine, Yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
We've been talking, we've been flirting.
Speaker 1 (01:41):
I'm so into it.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
But the second he asked me out, I kind of panicked.
And the reason I panicked is because about sometime last year,
for about three months, I was casually hooking up with
his friend.
Speaker 2 (01:58):
Okay, it was just up, but I never dated his friend.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
It was, you know, every time we wanted to do something,
we would just do it and then that was it.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
It was more like friends with benefits.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
That's the best way I could describe that as friends
with benefits. And the guy that I'm currently about to
go out with doesn't know that, and I don't know
if I should, you know, tell him before we go out,
which could possibly ruin everything, or if.
Speaker 4 (02:30):
I should just keep it to myself and gofa that
the friend tells him, and then the guy that I'm
seeing might say to me, well, why didn't you tell
me that earlier? I had to hear it from him,
so that puts me in an awkward position. Or should
I just abort the whole mission before it even starts
and just you know, be like whatever.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
No, I have a few questions.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
That's not my happiness, you know, right, But I have.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
A few questions. So this was simply hooking up. There
was there was no he didn't you wor in love,
you weren't dating, There was no really death to it.
It was just it was what it was. It was
surface correct. Yeah, okay? And then how close are these guys?
Speaker 3 (03:10):
They're best friend since childhood, they met in elementary school.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Oh great, but I think you know, he probably knows.
How do you know for a fact he doesn't know?
I mean, because like I don't know. I know who
my best friends are getting with for the most parts.
And I can tell you that if my best friend
pops up with a girl that I hooked up with, uh,
you know, more than once or twice even maybe, then
I probably would say something to them because I don't
(03:37):
want them to feel like they don't have the information
from me. So but okay, so what makes you think
he doesn't know?
Speaker 2 (03:46):
I mean, he's never brought it up to me, he said, Meaning.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Is that something you're like, Hey, you know, I love
that you slept with my friend for three months, Like
I love that about you, you know. I mean, I
don't know. It would be a strange thing to bring up,
but like I guess, if I saw something going where
somewhere with someone more serious and I knew about this,
I might I might let them know that I knew
(04:10):
and didn't mind, because I would imagine that if roles
were reversed, that I would be focused on this and
I would be worried about it.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
That's a fair point, But that is a fair point.
Speaker 3 (04:22):
But I feel like if it were me and another
woman and maybe she was going out with somebody else
and we were best friends, I feel like she would
say something like that to me. Maybe it's just because
they're guys, but I mean, I don't know, like I
would bring it up to her, like if she was
going to date a guy that I was messing with,
(04:43):
and maybe she didn't know, but maybe she would know.
Speaker 1 (04:46):
I don't know. I think The more important part here
is that you want to date this guy. You like
him more than you liked other people. You like him
more than you like the guy that you were hooking
up with. It was a year ago you said something
like that last year is what you said. So I
think ultimately the question that we should all be focused
on is how do you make it work with this
(05:06):
guy without him feeling blindsided? And wouldn't you guys agree?
Maybe you don't, but eight five five five nine one
three five I would love to know what people have
to say. You can call hi, text the same number,
but it's almost like maybe you do. You get this
on the table now, you know, and you'd be like, hey,
his head's up, like I like you. I'd like to,
you know, like to see where this goes. I just
want to be fully transparent, you know, because it's this
other person's a part of your life, and I know
(05:28):
we're going to come into contact with him probably and
hang out with him or whatever. I did hook up
with him last year and it didn't mean anything. It
was it was what it was. I didn't know you,
and I just want to be transparent because that sort
of removes the taboo from this, and if the guy
freaks out, then that may say something about how this
was going to go down the road anyway, or maybe
(05:49):
he's like, yeah, I don't love it, but you know,
I like you. I'd like to see where this goes.
You didn't know me, so I mean that would be
kind of the fair thing to do would be to
be like, hey, I don't I don't have to like this,
but I also we didn't know each other then, so
so be it.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
Yeah, I think I like that idea a lot.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
Just lay it out from see what he says, see
how it takes it. I think it's better to be
transparent and before started a relationship with anybody, whether it's
a friendship or a relationship, a partnership.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
So I like that because if you don't say anything
and then he finds out down the road, I guess, well, well,
it's still not fair for him to judge you based
on you know, what you guys share together, based on
what you've done in the past before you knew him.
I guess I could make the argument like why didn't
you tell me? Like what is there not to know? Kiki?
(06:39):
That's what you think?
Speaker 5 (06:40):
Oh for sure? Like, and I would also be mad
at my friend. Yeah, if he knows that I'm hooking
up with this new girl and you and him have
this secret behind my back, I don't care how long,
how long ago it was. I feel like somebody in
this situation should be honest with him.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Is it more on the front, that's a good question,
you know, or is it on her? I wonder, Well, they're.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
The ones who are going to be dating. So I
suppose you could establish, you know, the air of or
not the error that you're being transparent. Right, and again,
you like this guy, you haven't known him that long
and hasn't progressed that far. I think now would be
the time to say this to him. And again if
he's like, man, I don't love that, but that's okay,
(07:22):
let's see where this goes. Or that's cool, I get it,
you know, that's been fine. But if he freaks out
on you, I can't believe this. I could never be
with you whatever. Imagine what's going to happen if in
three or four months or six months, when there are
emotions involved and feelings, then everyone's going to be really
hurt by this. It's going to be catastrophic. Yeah, but
let me take some phone calls on this street. Let's
(07:43):
see what other people I have to say, Polena, what
you're doing over there?
Speaker 6 (07:46):
You guys love giving your power away and it really
kills me.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
I hate to see you.
Speaker 6 (07:51):
You guys know how I feel when there's a fight
or something happens, because like he might screw up.
Speaker 2 (07:56):
You need that AMMO in your pocket.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Up, Helen, Oh, Helena, know this is so unhealthy. It
is so it is so unhealthy, Polana, And hang on
to these nuggets so that you can deeply cut someone
when you feel like it. It's so selfish and so wrong.
I love you so much. That is such an awful
thing to do. Harbor, harbor incriminating information, things that you
(08:21):
know will cut deep, so that you can just win
the argument in the moment, because you do realize one
of these times, and I don't wish this upon you, Polina,
but one of these times, you're gonna bust out with
this horrible thing and it's gonna do irreparable damage.
Speaker 6 (08:35):
Yes, I'm working on it. I am in therapy. My
up it to twice a week at this point, because.
Speaker 2 (08:39):
That's where I'm at.
Speaker 6 (08:40):
But I only say that because people like to I
don't know how to say it. Like people want to
always like come with it right, like, oh I got you,
But it's.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Like, no, I got you. You get what I'm saying.
You have to like be.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
Trying to get each other, like get We have to
gauge the level of arguments that we're getting. Not every
argument is a war. Not every time you do disagree.
Do you need to be armed with a nuclear weapon?
I mean it's like sometimes sometimes people just disagree and
like you move past it. But what you're never gonna
move past is when it's like you never wash the dishes, Paulina, Yeah,
(09:14):
you know what, and I bang your best friend. You
know what, You're right, that's how it would go.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Yeah, the big stuff.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
You don't want to use it for anything, because the
objective shouldn't be to just absolutely destroy the person that
you're arguing with if you love them. I mean maybe
if you have no intention of reconciliation. But this is
I don't know. Let me take some phone Callst. Julianne,
have a good day.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
Yeah, you gotta hurt me?
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Oh they No one needs to hurt you. You don't
need to hurt the people. You don't need to be
hanging on this. I hate the fact that you harbor
this stuff because I think, unfortunately, Paulina, that this could
really backfire in a way that is going to hurt
you worse. And I don't want that to happen to you.
Speaker 2 (09:56):
And I'm not like trying to hurt people.
Speaker 6 (09:58):
But I'm saying, like he's, you know, my boyfriend whatever
in this situation, cheats on me or something like I'm
talking like crazy, I'm not talking about the dishes or
the laundry like something big. Then I think it's always
good to have that animal. You have to be ahead
of people in this world. Why are you assuming he's
going to cheat? What if he doesn't? She I hope
he doesn't.
Speaker 2 (10:16):
He probably won't.
Speaker 7 (10:16):
Like just like a liar holding something in that you
weren't like open about.
Speaker 2 (10:21):
Well, if it's like something I would use later, you
know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (10:24):
Why Why are you holding onto things too? Why? I
don't I don't know, Like how about the fa If
someone hurts you, that's awful. You don't have to you
don't have to cut decapitate them back. I don't. And
then again like I don't like it. I don't like
it at all. It's so toxic. Guy, it's so toxic.
Speaker 7 (10:46):
I know.
Speaker 1 (10:47):
I don't like it. Pete, don't do it. And I
say this only from the perspective of my care for you,
because I do think you'll find you want to cut
people and you want that you want to blow them up.
That's fine, that's your right. I only really care about
you in this scenario. But I'm telling you, I feel
like this is the kind of thing that backfires or
if someone does it to you, you'd be devastated. And
yet this is your practice. I don't like it. Hey, Tay, Hey, Hi,
(11:10):
good morning. What do you think I think?
Speaker 8 (11:14):
Pers off Paulina, You're hilarious, but I do agree with Fred.
Speaker 9 (11:20):
But with that.
Speaker 8 (11:21):
Girl, I'm sure the friend the guy already knows that
you've been sleeping with his friend, and like I said earlier,
you should just tell him and we're adults, like it happens, whatever.
But it also might be that he already knows that
you were sleeping with his friend, and his friend is like, hey,
go try that out. Like I'm telling you, she's she's
(11:43):
doing some work over there, and yeah, now you're like
you're trying not to hurt him, and like Paulina, He's
gonna pull out the bag, Like, hey, I already.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
Knew just for me if a guy said that, if
one of my buddies said that to me, like when
I first met someone, like, dude, you need to go
there because like that that lady does, she does this
one thing, you know whatever, Like that's funny, But that's
funny or maybe that's okay when I first meet the person,
But then what if I wind up marrying that person
and then that dude standing next to me at my
(12:14):
wedding and that's the same guy that two years ago
told me about the thing she does with her left hand,
And it's like no, like I don't need to know that.
You know that that's not good information for me to
have long term.
Speaker 8 (12:25):
Well then that's when you meet Polly. He's method of
you got to hand them to pull out on him,
like hey, no, no, I try to do a thing,
but your mom be a tad.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
Mom.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
Keep keep my mom's name out of your mouth. I
have a good day day. I'm so scared to god people,
you guys are ruthless, Like when did I I am
not the most sensitive human being, but like, come on,
like that is not a good way to operate, Julie, Yes,
good morning, Cerco. So this woman she called us because
she met a guy she likes, but last year she
(13:00):
had a just sort of a casual sexual relationship with
his best friend, and for her, it's like, well, I
like the new guy, but I don't know how much
I should disclose because I don't know if he knows
or doesn't know, or how it could impact the future
and how things progress. What do you think.
Speaker 9 (13:17):
I would ask the friend with benefits if he said anything,
depending on what her relationship is with him now, I
would reach out and just ask him out right, hey,
did you tell him? Because I want to date him
and I don't know if he knows.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
That's interesting.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
Now.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
I don't know how i'd feel about that further communication
if if there was nothing there or nothing to hide,
Like I almost feel like I'd rather you just tell
me and not involve him. But I suppose why not
just have the conversation between the two, because then.
Speaker 9 (13:46):
It really puts him on the spot. So if he
does know and it doesn't bother him, now it's awkward
because you're I don't know. It depends on how much
he and how long was she with the guy the
friends with benefits? Was this like a one offer? Was
this a round?
Speaker 1 (14:01):
I said a few months, a couple of months, I think,
is what she said. Yeah, so it was, but she
insists that there was nothing more so.
Speaker 9 (14:09):
Right, but they had to have had some level of
friendship if they were hooking up on a regular basis
for several months. So I think i'd still reach out
and see where things you're at with him? Is he
dating somebody now? Has he said anything? I don't know.
I would I would want to.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Know before fair enough, Thank you, Julie, no problem. I
hate to say this would bother me, but it would,
and that's not mature of me, because everybody has a past,
including me. But I wouldn't love it, and it I
want to believe that it wouldn't stand in the way
of the person that I'm supposed to be with, But
I wouldn't love it. I would not love the fact
(14:45):
that my best friend knows what I know and that
this could be the person that I'm with forever that
I cherish the most and I share that with him. Yeah,
I don't. I wouldn't love it.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
Yeah, that's honest, for sure.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
But I think I think that's a little bit immature,
because again, like you could go through my inventory and
find things you don't like either if you chose to,
but I didn't know you then. So hey, Kylie, Ki,
good morning. Hi Kylie. What do you think stre go
she should say?
Speaker 7 (15:14):
But she really needs to communicate that with you know,
the student too hopefully soon to be boyfriend. I actually
met my boyfriend on the dating apps, and on her
first date, he kind of let me know that he
was still close with a lot of friends he actually
met on the apps that just they didn't work out,
but you know, they were still talking and hanging out,
and we've been together for four years and we're still
(15:37):
you know, a part of that friend group. So I
think that the communication is just really key. She just
needs to tell him and if he really likes her,
I mean he'll choose dano be in a relationship with her.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
Yeah sure, yeah, yeah, fair enough. Good advice. Thank you,
have a good day.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Thank you, guys.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
All Right, I don't know final say Kiki, tell him, don't.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
Tell him, man, I'm thinking about Paulina. Say, we might
need to have some ammo, little ammo.
Speaker 1 (16:04):
Maybe when you guys stop it. There's one but well,
you guys, I started to sound like Kaitlin. Now, now
you guys, knock it off. Yeah, now, you guys, that
is the wrong thing to do.
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