December 2, 2025 • 17 mins
Becca is conflicted after her boyfriend is convinced their child doesn't look like him at all. Fred and the crew discuss!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:25):
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Speaker 2 (00:27):
Go all right, Hi Becca, good morning, welcome to the program.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Hello, Hi Becca, what's going on?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
This is a complicated one here because and I don't
know that I have a little gist in front of
me and what's going on. I want you to tell
everyone the story, but I I don't know. I people
are gonna like my opinion on this. But what's going
on with you? And this is your boyfriend who you
reconnected with?
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Right?
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Yeah, we took we took the break a few years ago,
but we ended up preconciling and getting pregnant with our
son and we've been together ever since.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Well, congratulations, by the way, I mean, that's exciting to
have a kid and whatever. No, I don't want to
interrupt you. But that's the good news. Congratulations to you.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Oh, thank you. Yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
But recently, my boyfriend came to me and shared that
he wants to get a paternity test, which totally shook
me to my core because he said that he and
his family have concerns over the fact that our baby
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looks nothing like him because my boyfriend has he has
like dark eyes, dark hair, dark complexion, and he's feeling
insecure about having a paler, you know, blonde, blue eyed son,
and he feels like people always scare and that friends
and family are like talking about it, but it's never
(02:03):
been a question in my mind.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Well, first of all, that's got to feel good that
my family and I have been talking about this about
how a kid looks nothing like me and how the
mother might be a little little hohoche, I mean you
know what I mean, Like, that's that feels great that
you know, that conversation that has taken place.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
Oh, it was horrible, it was horrible. I felt terrible
when he brought it up. It's never been a question
in my mind, obviously, and you know he's never said
anything like this before. When But when he brought it up,
you know, he pointed out that we were on a
(02:41):
break back then before I got pregnant, and now he's
wondering if maybe the baby is someone else's.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
I know the baby is his.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
I'm obviously confident in that. But you know, the baby
looks like me. You know, sometimes kids look more like parents.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
On the other how long was this a break before
you guys, like when you guys were apart before you
got pregnant.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Was it months? Was it years? I mean, I don't know,
it was just a couple of months.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Did you get with anybody else during that time? I
mean again, I'm not suggesting that you did anything wrong here, because,
by the way, if you were on a break and
you did get with someone else and you got pregnant
like that, you can do that. You weren't together. It
wasn't like you cheated. I'm just curious if that's even
a remote possibility.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Yeah, that's a fair question, But honestly, no, like absolutely not.
I was using that break to you know, focus on
myself and like making sure I was, you know, doing
what I wanted to be doing. And so no, there
was no one else in the picture. That's what's crazy.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Well, I want to know what every one of the
room thinks.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Of course, but you guys at home as well, eight
five five five three five, you can contact the same number.
What I might be an unpopular opinion, I don't think
you necessarily. I don't think you owe him anything except
you're well. I feel like in Steerago the theme is
pretty similar, and it has to do with trust, and
it's people who are to get Usually it has something
to do with people who were together who don't believe
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one another for whatever reason. And then I wonder, like, well,
why are you together if you don't believe what the
other person's saying. But I think you could very easily
put this to rest. You don't owe him this, But
I mean, there's a scientific proven way to determine that
it is in fact his, that there was no overlap,
that there was no indiscretion, and then you never discuss
this again, and if it ever comes up, it's like, dude,
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we already did this. I say, just go get the
paternity test proved to him, because you know for a
fact that it's his. Prove to him that it's his.
This is over and it's never discussed again. Now, if
you want to go get into the fact that he
doesn't trust you. That's another thing. But I mean, I
guess it's possible that you could have been impregnated by
someone else because you weren't together, So why not just
go do it and then we're done preach?
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Okay, so more people guess with you.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I thought that was gonna ben unpopular opinion because I'm
I suppose you're giving in to his insecurity, which you
don't have to do. But I guess this is again
you know the answer, So just go do it and
this is over.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
We're done with that, And then you guys think she
should stay with him after that, like I would take
the test and leave if anything, or I'm not taking
the test unless I'm legally required to if I know
that that's my kid, And you guys are talking about
this in that way.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I guess for me though, Kaylin, it's like they weren't
together and so it's not necessity. It's an insecurity and
and she told him that it is, and she told
him she wasn't with anyone else. And if this relationship
is going to go on for years and years and years,
then at some point you're going to have to believe
the things had come out of her mouth, but they
were not together. Now this is it would be very
different from me if they're if they were married or
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in a relationship of partnership and they didn't break up,
and then all of a sudden, they've been together the
whole time, all of a sudden he comes out and goes,
you know what, I think, maybe you cheated on me.
That would be one thing, but it's not unfeasible or infeasible,
whatever the word is. It's not impossible that during the
time they were together that she had a one off hookup.
So I guess this is just an easy thing to
put to rest.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
Yeah, but she's saying she didn't and I believe her,
and I think she should leave him.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
And I think if you take that test, fine, that's
up to you. But I think, go, that's my piky,
where are you coming from.
Speaker 6 (06:20):
I would absolutely take the test just to shut everybody up,
And then it's up to you. It's your prerogative if
you want to stay or go. But at the end
of the day, like he wants, if you're not sure
about this being your kid, let me let me shut
you up and your family and your mama and everybody else.
Let's put it all to rest. Let's put it on
the table, and then once I take the test. Now
you really don't hate me because I'm a throw it
in your face every day.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
But she didn't believe me. But rest of your life,
for the rest of your life.
Speaker 6 (06:44):
But I do think, like you, he's not sure and
that's so you can't especially if the relationship hasn't been consistent.
He's not wrong for having a wanting to know the truth.
Like that's what tests are here for.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Take the test.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Yeah, And Caitlyn's point is, well, she told him the
truth because they're in trusting relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
I just don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Well, it's but there are scenarios where I would say
this is outrageous and and and and she'd be feeding
into his insecurity. And there are other situations where I say,
let's just check the box because and then we can
deal with it after that. But like, let's check the box. Becca,
What does it make you feel when I say just
go do it and then this is over.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
I mean, I've definitely thought about all of these options.
And yeah, I feel like, you know, if I go
do the test, like it is going to be unfortunately
kind of spiteful on my behalf, like like, y'all are
saying like I don't think I I don't think that
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I'm the kind of person that would be like, okay,
I'll do it. Like I would very.
Speaker 7 (07:49):
Much be like, there you want to prove period.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Yeah, I can understand that I can't refrigerate.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
It.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
And then I might post it on social media. His
whole family will be like, oh, you guys talking about
me behind my back.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Check it out. I'm posting it. Everybody knows I make
them T shirts.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Oh yeah, let me take some phone calls on this, Becca.
I want to see people at home have to say
a bunch of texts about this too. But thank you
for sharing. I wish you the best. I hope it
works out. Maybe let us know what you decide to do.
Thank you, have a good day.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
What the test say?
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Yeah, and I'm curious, Well, yeah, if we don't hear
from her, then I think we keep right.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
You're curious. What No, I'm curious. That is maybe a
silly question. But like, let's just say she does end
up leaving the relationship, but she.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
Files for child support, where there's still have to be
a test done for that.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
So the test is coming either way most times for
child support. Absolutely, Okay, got it. So, I mean that's
what I learned on Judge mat.
Speaker 5 (08:46):
I was going to say, you know, that's record.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I mean, that's that's that's a real legal process.
Speaker 7 (08:52):
So I know.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
Yeah, so you're right, then, Fred, like, just knock.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
It out, now, just do it now. I wouldn't. And
I mean because she knows.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
I mean, if she's absolutely certain and if she wasn't
with anyone else, it's like, this isn't, this isn't.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
This is a no.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Brainer one argument, you know what I mean, Like you're
you know the answer, the easiest.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Test you'll ever take. But would you stay or would
you go? How could you stay after that? That's true?
Speaker 6 (09:12):
Well, the thing is I know that we were on
a break, so I would give him the grace of
he doesn't know what I was up to, honestly, and
I don't know what he was.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Yeah, but people lie every day to my partner. I
don't know. I don't know this lady.
Speaker 6 (09:30):
Know that if there's a question and it's a child involved,
I wouldn't want my child to grow up with his
other side of the family always having this lingering question
when I could have easily put it to rest if
I knew one hundred percent the test.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
But don't see Yeah, yeah, I mean that's I guess
that's what you have to decide next. But if I
know the answer to the question, and it's a debate,
I you know, you know me, I'm winning the argument.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
But you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
If I know I'm right, like, then we're going to
prove that because es, that's when it comes to my
integrity and your family. That's another thing. Why does the
whole family not believe her either?
Speaker 7 (10:07):
That?
Speaker 1 (10:07):
I hate that it's messed up.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Francesca, Hi, Hi, Hey, good morning. So you just heard it.
I'll recap it quickly if you didn't here. But this
woman was with a man. They went on a few
months break, they got back together, she got pregnant, they
have a kid. He doesn't think the kid looks like him.
His family apparently agrees with him, and he wants a
paternity test, even though she says it's yours. I didn't
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get with anyone else. What would what do you think?
Speaker 1 (10:35):
So?
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Personally? I would go, I'm a nurse and I studied genemics,
and I think that like, kids can come out looking
all kinds of ways. It doesn't always have to be
a mix of both parents. And to be honest, I
don't know that this is a personal opinion, but I
never want to be with anyone who'd even remotely questioned
me like that.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
And that's just like more of a deep rooted issue.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
So I think she would be someone would be lucky
to have her and never question her at she should go.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Yeah, yeah, I did.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
I would feel much more strongly against the test if
if they hadn't taken a break, because it's like, dude, okay,
now you're just insecure. You don't trust me, like forgets you. Man,
that's that's a terrible thing, right, You're you're accusing me
of of cheating on you. Now, she was in her
right to sleep with another man if she wanted to
while they were not together. So I think it's that
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gray area that makes me think, well, let's just get
this out of the way. But thank you for calling it,
for listening and being part of the thirteen.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Have a good day. Thank you glad you called.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
I guess I thought that my opinion would be a
little less popular because I'm essentially leaning into his insecurity
and his family, and I don't like the way this
went down, but it's just it's if she's sure, it's
such an easy thing to do. Hey, Lindsay, Lindsay, good morning.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
Hi.
Speaker 7 (11:50):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Do you actually went through this, this exact thing? This?
Speaker 8 (11:54):
Yeah, pretty much.
Speaker 9 (11:55):
I was dating.
Speaker 8 (11:58):
The father of my daughter when I was I don't know,
in my twenties. We broke up, got back together after
being at a break, ended up getting pregnant, and then
his father was the instigator of like, you guys are
on a break, how do you even know it's yours?
Like this little girl's not allowed in my home.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
She's not allowed.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
It was awful.
Speaker 8 (12:20):
Yeah, So I was like, you know what, if that's
what you want to do, then bring it home and
go ahead. Slab your eighteen month old daughter's mouth and
find it out. Go ahead and do it so it comes.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Home with it.
Speaker 8 (12:31):
Can't bring himself to do it because he knew that
it was her or his the whole time.
Speaker 9 (12:35):
So we ended up staying.
Speaker 8 (12:37):
Together, had a second child, and then ended up getting divorced.
And it was the best decision that I could ever
have done. I let both children be a part of
his family to an extent, but it's awful. It's just
a constant thing that always comes up, and it's so unfair.
And if that's the kind of like if they don't
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trust you, that never goes away and it's always going
to be an issue.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Yeah, Lindsay, I'm sorry you went through that, but I
appreciate you. Sharon, have a good day.
Speaker 8 (13:07):
Yeah you too.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
I gotta say though, like if I this might this
is probably also not popular, but if I were dating someone,
I took a break and I hooked up with someone
else during the break, and I knew that I wasn't
bringing in any kind of like anything from that, like
there no, there was no repercussion, like I don't know,
I didn't get.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
An instase right exactly like that.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Nothing was oozing or anything. I didn't need any kind
of solve or ointments or whatever. I'm not suggesting that
I would lie, but I'm not sure that I would
be forthright with that information.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Now she told us she didn't do it.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
I believe her, but I also can see a world
where I would not ask questions or want to know
the answers about what happened, because, let's face it, when
people take breaks it's usually to explore something like this,
you know what I mean, like it tends to happen.
So I don't again like this is just an easy
slam dunk. She didn't do it, get the thing and whatever.
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But I guess there's a part of me that understands
his concern Now as far as getting the whole family
involved behind your back, I hate that, But I don't know.
Breaks are just synonymous with shenanigans and put that on
I just I just don't know. Dot com are synonymous
with shenanigans. I'm just I'm not saying that I would
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lie to someone, because I don't condone lying, but I
wouldn't be in a big hurry to tell you about
the stuff I did and we weren't together, because it
doesn't matter anymore because we're back together, and I think
it's only going to cause problems moving forward.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Ricky, how you doing, Good morning, Good morning.
Speaker 7 (14:43):
How are you guys doing?
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Hey, man, stare Go, What do you think.
Speaker 7 (14:47):
I think she should say? First of all, she said
her boyfriend was darker, they were on a break. I mean,
there's a lot of things the question there, so I
think she should give him the paternity that it is.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
And yeah, yeah, it could be that simple. Thank you, Ricky,
you have a good day, man, Thank you. Yeah, we
all we all seem everyone seems to agreed take the test.
But it's a matter of then what do you do?
You know, do you stay with him? Do you do
you have some understanding for his concern, or do you
say no, forget you man? Hey, Susie, Hi, Hi, good morning, welcome,
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thanks for listening.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Stay or go?
Speaker 9 (15:26):
She should definitely go. If they're not married and he
already has trusted you, she needs to take the test,
prove him wrong, and then get out.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
That's the part I'm unsure about is do we do
we accept? Do we just say okay, I get it?
Kinda I'm gonna give you some grace on this just
based on the definition of a break or am I
that is that? Is this egregious enough that I can't
forgive you for this? You should take my word for it.
And that's the end of it. That's the hard part
of this, I think. And you're saying, you're saying he
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should trust her or she should go, and that's it.
Speaker 9 (16:02):
I think he should trust her if she says that,
it's that it's his something like the fraternity of a
child is definitely not something you want to mess around
with or lie about. And if she is lying, which
I don't, it doesn't seem like she is, then that's
one thing. But if she's positive that it couldn't be
anybody else's but his, then I think she needs to
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maybe second guests where she's going to be, especially because
the family's involved, like when you're listen attached to their
family too, and not having the trust of anybody like
that's just not a good start.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
Everyone, you're a little harlot. The whole family thinks you
are like a man.
Speaker 9 (16:47):
Letter on you.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
I can't stand that either, with yeah, you're own sorry.
Speaker 9 (16:51):
Go ahead, Oh I'm sorry. My oldest son looks identically like me,
and my husband coaches many of his sports teams and
everyone is always skim, which is his kid. And when
they pointed out it's exactly like this woman, it's he
looks like me, blue eyes, blonde hair, and my husband
has dark eyes and dark hair. So I was like, oh, hey,
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of yours, THEFP is the X like my husband.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
There you go, then, thank you, Susie, have a.
Speaker 9 (17:20):
Good day, Thanks you too.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yeah, anytime, it's.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Like, and by the way, my e're in an argument
and there's a debate in a relationship, and it's like, well,
my family said, it's all great, great, great, So you
went and told him you were inside of the story,
and and you've all been talking about it without doing anything.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
That's cool. Yeah, that's I hate that.
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Speaker 1 (00:25):
That show is on. It's stay or.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Go all right, Hi Becca, good morning, welcome to the program.
Speaker 1 (00:34):
Hello, Hi Becca, what's going on?
Speaker 2 (00:37):
This is a complicated one here because and I don't
know that I have a little gist in front of
me and what's going on. I want you to tell
everyone the story, but I I don't know. I people
are gonna like my opinion on this. But what's going
on with you? And this is your boyfriend who you
reconnected with?
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Right?
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Yeah, we took we took the break a few years ago,
but we ended up preconciling and getting pregnant with our
son and we've been together ever since.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Well, congratulations, by the way, I mean, that's exciting to
have a kid and whatever. No, I don't want to
interrupt you. But that's the good news. Congratulations to you.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Oh, thank you. Yeah yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
But recently, my boyfriend came to me and shared that
he wants to get a paternity test, which totally shook
me to my core because he said that he and
his family have concerns over the fact that our baby
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looks nothing like him because my boyfriend has he has
like dark eyes, dark hair, dark complexion, and he's feeling
insecure about having a paler, you know, blonde, blue eyed son,
and he feels like people always scare and that friends
and family are like talking about it, but it's never
(02:03):
been a question in my mind.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Well, first of all, that's got to feel good that
my family and I have been talking about this about
how a kid looks nothing like me and how the
mother might be a little little hohoche, I mean you
know what I mean, Like, that's that feels great that
you know, that conversation that has taken place.
Speaker 3 (02:20):
Oh, it was horrible, it was horrible. I felt terrible
when he brought it up. It's never been a question
in my mind, obviously, and you know he's never said
anything like this before. When But when he brought it up,
you know, he pointed out that we were on a
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break back then before I got pregnant, and now he's
wondering if maybe the baby is someone else's.
Speaker 4 (02:48):
I know the baby is his.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
I'm obviously confident in that. But you know, the baby
looks like me. You know, sometimes kids look more like parents.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
On the other how long was this a break before
you guys, like when you guys were apart before you
got pregnant.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
Was it months? Was it years? I mean, I don't know,
it was just a couple of months.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Did you get with anybody else during that time? I
mean again, I'm not suggesting that you did anything wrong here, because,
by the way, if you were on a break and
you did get with someone else and you got pregnant
like that, you can do that. You weren't together. It
wasn't like you cheated. I'm just curious if that's even
a remote possibility.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Yeah, that's a fair question, But honestly, no, like absolutely not.
I was using that break to you know, focus on
myself and like making sure I was, you know, doing
what I wanted to be doing. And so no, there
was no one else in the picture. That's what's crazy.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Well, I want to know what every one of the
room thinks.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Of course, but you guys at home as well, eight
five five five three five, you can contact the same number.
What I might be an unpopular opinion, I don't think
you necessarily. I don't think you owe him anything except
you're well. I feel like in Steerago the theme is
pretty similar, and it has to do with trust, and
it's people who are to get Usually it has something
to do with people who were together who don't believe
(04:11):
one another for whatever reason. And then I wonder, like, well,
why are you together if you don't believe what the
other person's saying. But I think you could very easily
put this to rest. You don't owe him this, But
I mean, there's a scientific proven way to determine that
it is in fact his, that there was no overlap,
that there was no indiscretion, and then you never discuss
this again, and if it ever comes up, it's like, dude,
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we already did this. I say, just go get the
paternity test proved to him, because you know for a
fact that it's his. Prove to him that it's his.
This is over and it's never discussed again. Now, if
you want to go get into the fact that he
doesn't trust you. That's another thing. But I mean, I
guess it's possible that you could have been impregnated by
someone else because you weren't together, So why not just
go do it and then we're done preach?
Speaker 1 (04:55):
Okay, so more people guess with you.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
I thought that was gonna ben unpopular opinion because I'm
I suppose you're giving in to his insecurity, which you
don't have to do. But I guess this is again
you know the answer, So just go do it and
this is over.
Speaker 5 (05:12):
We're done with that, And then you guys think she
should stay with him after that, like I would take
the test and leave if anything, or I'm not taking
the test unless I'm legally required to if I know
that that's my kid, And you guys are talking about
this in that way.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I guess for me though, Kaylin, it's like they weren't
together and so it's not necessity. It's an insecurity and
and she told him that it is, and she told
him she wasn't with anyone else. And if this relationship
is going to go on for years and years and years,
then at some point you're going to have to believe
the things had come out of her mouth, but they
were not together. Now this is it would be very
different from me if they're if they were married or
(05:49):
in a relationship of partnership and they didn't break up,
and then all of a sudden, they've been together the
whole time, all of a sudden he comes out and goes,
you know what, I think, maybe you cheated on me.
That would be one thing, but it's not unfeasible or infeasible,
whatever the word is. It's not impossible that during the
time they were together that she had a one off hookup.
So I guess this is just an easy thing to
put to rest.
Speaker 5 (06:09):
Yeah, but she's saying she didn't and I believe her,
and I think she should leave him.
Speaker 1 (06:14):
And I think if you take that test, fine, that's
up to you. But I think, go, that's my piky,
where are you coming from.
Speaker 6 (06:20):
I would absolutely take the test just to shut everybody up,
And then it's up to you. It's your prerogative if
you want to stay or go. But at the end
of the day, like he wants, if you're not sure
about this being your kid, let me let me shut
you up and your family and your mama and everybody else.
Let's put it all to rest. Let's put it on
the table, and then once I take the test. Now
you really don't hate me because I'm a throw it
in your face every day.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
But she didn't believe me. But rest of your life,
for the rest of your life.
Speaker 6 (06:44):
But I do think, like you, he's not sure and
that's so you can't especially if the relationship hasn't been consistent.
He's not wrong for having a wanting to know the truth.
Like that's what tests are here for.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
Take the test.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
Yeah, And Caitlyn's point is, well, she told him the
truth because they're in trusting relationship.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
I just don't know.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Well, it's but there are scenarios where I would say
this is outrageous and and and and she'd be feeding
into his insecurity. And there are other situations where I say,
let's just check the box because and then we can
deal with it after that. But like, let's check the box. Becca,
What does it make you feel when I say just
go do it and then this is over.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
I mean, I've definitely thought about all of these options.
And yeah, I feel like, you know, if I go
do the test, like it is going to be unfortunately
kind of spiteful on my behalf, like like, y'all are
saying like I don't think I I don't think that
(07:45):
I'm the kind of person that would be like, okay,
I'll do it. Like I would very.
Speaker 7 (07:49):
Much be like, there you want to prove period.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Yeah, I can understand that I can't refrigerate.
Speaker 4 (07:57):
It.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
And then I might post it on social media. His
whole family will be like, oh, you guys talking about
me behind my back.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Check it out. I'm posting it. Everybody knows I make
them T shirts.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
Oh yeah, let me take some phone calls on this, Becca.
I want to see people at home have to say
a bunch of texts about this too. But thank you
for sharing. I wish you the best. I hope it
works out. Maybe let us know what you decide to do.
Thank you, have a good day.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
What the test say?
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Yeah, and I'm curious, Well, yeah, if we don't hear
from her, then I think we keep right.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
You're curious. What No, I'm curious. That is maybe a
silly question. But like, let's just say she does end
up leaving the relationship, but she.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
Files for child support, where there's still have to be
a test done for that.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
So the test is coming either way most times for
child support. Absolutely, Okay, got it. So, I mean that's
what I learned on Judge mat.
Speaker 5 (08:46):
I was going to say, you know, that's record.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I mean, that's that's that's a real legal process.
Speaker 7 (08:52):
So I know.
Speaker 4 (08:53):
Yeah, so you're right, then, Fred, like, just knock.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
It out, now, just do it now. I wouldn't. And
I mean because she knows.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
I mean, if she's absolutely certain and if she wasn't
with anyone else, it's like, this isn't, this isn't.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
This is a no.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Brainer one argument, you know what I mean, Like you're
you know the answer, the easiest.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Test you'll ever take. But would you stay or would
you go? How could you stay after that? That's true?
Speaker 6 (09:12):
Well, the thing is I know that we were on
a break, so I would give him the grace of
he doesn't know what I was up to, honestly, and
I don't know what he was.
Speaker 1 (09:22):
Yeah, but people lie every day to my partner. I
don't know. I don't know this lady.
Speaker 6 (09:30):
Know that if there's a question and it's a child involved,
I wouldn't want my child to grow up with his
other side of the family always having this lingering question
when I could have easily put it to rest if
I knew one hundred percent the test.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
But don't see Yeah, yeah, I mean that's I guess
that's what you have to decide next. But if I
know the answer to the question, and it's a debate,
I you know, you know me, I'm winning the argument.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
But you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
If I know I'm right, like, then we're going to
prove that because es, that's when it comes to my
integrity and your family. That's another thing. Why does the
whole family not believe her either?
Speaker 7 (10:07):
That?
Speaker 1 (10:07):
I hate that it's messed up.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
Francesca, Hi, Hi, Hey, good morning. So you just heard it.
I'll recap it quickly if you didn't here. But this
woman was with a man. They went on a few
months break, they got back together, she got pregnant, they
have a kid. He doesn't think the kid looks like him.
His family apparently agrees with him, and he wants a
paternity test, even though she says it's yours. I didn't
(10:31):
get with anyone else. What would what do you think?
Speaker 1 (10:35):
So?
Speaker 4 (10:35):
Personally? I would go, I'm a nurse and I studied genemics,
and I think that like, kids can come out looking
all kinds of ways. It doesn't always have to be
a mix of both parents. And to be honest, I
don't know that this is a personal opinion, but I
never want to be with anyone who'd even remotely questioned
me like that.
Speaker 3 (10:52):
And that's just like more of a deep rooted issue.
Speaker 4 (10:54):
So I think she would be someone would be lucky
to have her and never question her at she should go.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Yeah, yeah, I did.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
I would feel much more strongly against the test if
if they hadn't taken a break, because it's like, dude, okay,
now you're just insecure. You don't trust me, like forgets you. Man,
that's that's a terrible thing, right, You're you're accusing me
of of cheating on you. Now, she was in her
right to sleep with another man if she wanted to
while they were not together. So I think it's that
(11:23):
gray area that makes me think, well, let's just get
this out of the way. But thank you for calling it,
for listening and being part of the thirteen.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
Have a good day. Thank you glad you called.
Speaker 2 (11:33):
I guess I thought that my opinion would be a
little less popular because I'm essentially leaning into his insecurity
and his family, and I don't like the way this
went down, but it's just it's if she's sure, it's
such an easy thing to do. Hey, Lindsay, Lindsay, good morning.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
Hi.
Speaker 7 (11:50):
Hi.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Do you actually went through this, this exact thing? This?
Speaker 8 (11:54):
Yeah, pretty much.
Speaker 9 (11:55):
I was dating.
Speaker 8 (11:58):
The father of my daughter when I was I don't know,
in my twenties. We broke up, got back together after
being at a break, ended up getting pregnant, and then
his father was the instigator of like, you guys are
on a break, how do you even know it's yours?
Like this little girl's not allowed in my home.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
She's not allowed.
Speaker 3 (12:19):
It was awful.
Speaker 8 (12:20):
Yeah, So I was like, you know what, if that's
what you want to do, then bring it home and
go ahead. Slab your eighteen month old daughter's mouth and
find it out. Go ahead and do it so it comes.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Home with it.
Speaker 8 (12:31):
Can't bring himself to do it because he knew that
it was her or his the whole time.
Speaker 9 (12:35):
So we ended up staying.
Speaker 8 (12:37):
Together, had a second child, and then ended up getting divorced.
And it was the best decision that I could ever
have done. I let both children be a part of
his family to an extent, but it's awful. It's just
a constant thing that always comes up, and it's so unfair.
And if that's the kind of like if they don't
(12:59):
trust you, that never goes away and it's always going
to be an issue.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
Yeah, Lindsay, I'm sorry you went through that, but I
appreciate you. Sharon, have a good day.
Speaker 8 (13:07):
Yeah you too.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
I gotta say though, like if I this might this
is probably also not popular, but if I were dating someone,
I took a break and I hooked up with someone
else during the break, and I knew that I wasn't
bringing in any kind of like anything from that, like
there no, there was no repercussion, like I don't know,
I didn't get.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
An instase right exactly like that.
Speaker 2 (13:28):
Nothing was oozing or anything. I didn't need any kind
of solve or ointments or whatever. I'm not suggesting that
I would lie, but I'm not sure that I would
be forthright with that information.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
Now she told us she didn't do it.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
I believe her, but I also can see a world
where I would not ask questions or want to know
the answers about what happened, because, let's face it, when
people take breaks it's usually to explore something like this,
you know what I mean, like it tends to happen.
So I don't again like this is just an easy
slam dunk. She didn't do it, get the thing and whatever.
(14:02):
But I guess there's a part of me that understands
his concern Now as far as getting the whole family
involved behind your back, I hate that, But I don't know.
Breaks are just synonymous with shenanigans and put that on
I just I just don't know. Dot com are synonymous
with shenanigans. I'm just I'm not saying that I would
(14:25):
lie to someone, because I don't condone lying, but I
wouldn't be in a big hurry to tell you about
the stuff I did and we weren't together, because it
doesn't matter anymore because we're back together, and I think
it's only going to cause problems moving forward.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
Ricky, how you doing, Good morning, Good morning.
Speaker 7 (14:43):
How are you guys doing?
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Hey, man, stare Go, What do you think.
Speaker 7 (14:47):
I think she should say? First of all, she said
her boyfriend was darker, they were on a break. I mean,
there's a lot of things the question there, so I
think she should give him the paternity that it is.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
And yeah, yeah, it could be that simple. Thank you, Ricky,
you have a good day, man, Thank you. Yeah, we
all we all seem everyone seems to agreed take the test.
But it's a matter of then what do you do?
You know, do you stay with him? Do you do
you have some understanding for his concern, or do you
say no, forget you man? Hey, Susie, Hi, Hi, good morning, welcome,
(15:22):
thanks for listening.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Stay or go?
Speaker 9 (15:26):
She should definitely go. If they're not married and he
already has trusted you, she needs to take the test,
prove him wrong, and then get out.
Speaker 1 (15:36):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
That's the part I'm unsure about is do we do
we accept? Do we just say okay, I get it?
Kinda I'm gonna give you some grace on this just
based on the definition of a break or am I
that is that? Is this egregious enough that I can't
forgive you for this? You should take my word for it.
And that's the end of it. That's the hard part
of this, I think. And you're saying, you're saying he
(15:57):
should trust her or she should go, and that's it.
Speaker 9 (16:02):
I think he should trust her if she says that,
it's that it's his something like the fraternity of a
child is definitely not something you want to mess around
with or lie about. And if she is lying, which
I don't, it doesn't seem like she is, then that's
one thing. But if she's positive that it couldn't be
anybody else's but his, then I think she needs to
(16:26):
maybe second guests where she's going to be, especially because
the family's involved, like when you're listen attached to their
family too, and not having the trust of anybody like
that's just not a good start.
Speaker 1 (16:41):
Everyone, you're a little harlot. The whole family thinks you
are like a man.
Speaker 9 (16:47):
Letter on you.
Speaker 1 (16:48):
I can't stand that either, with yeah, you're own sorry.
Speaker 9 (16:51):
Go ahead, Oh I'm sorry. My oldest son looks identically like me,
and my husband coaches many of his sports teams and
everyone is always skim, which is his kid. And when
they pointed out it's exactly like this woman, it's he
looks like me, blue eyes, blonde hair, and my husband
has dark eyes and dark hair. So I was like, oh, hey,
(17:13):
of yours, THEFP is the X like my husband.
Speaker 1 (17:18):
There you go, then, thank you, Susie, have a.
Speaker 9 (17:20):
Good day, Thanks you too.
Speaker 1 (17:23):
Yeah, anytime, it's.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Like, and by the way, my e're in an argument
and there's a debate in a relationship, and it's like, well,
my family said, it's all great, great, great, So you
went and told him you were inside of the story,
and and you've all been talking about it without doing anything.
Speaker 1 (17:37):
That's cool. Yeah, that's I hate that.
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