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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Katie is here. Good morning, Katie. How are you, Katie? Well,
how was that, Katie? Stay or go low group therapy
action here? Let's find out, because again, when things are
not going properly in your life, call him the local
radio show. I mean, that makes perfect sense to me.
So what's going on with your husband? Explain?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Please?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Yeah, So once we got married, he just out of
nowhere told me that he doesn't think it's appropriate for
me to go on bachelor at trips or even girls'
trips in general.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Okay, all right, so you married this man and then
I assume something came up like of this nature a
girl's trip, for example, and you're like, hey, I'm going
on a girls trip, and this dude says.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
No, yeah, that's actually exactly what happened. And I was like,
I was actually shocked if I never heard this before
until after we got married. And then he just said, well,
I just don't think it's appropriate because you're a married
woman and there's too much temptation on those types of trips.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
And then he just said he.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Doesn't understand like why I would even want to ever
travel without him.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Oh wow, So it was okay before, it's not Okay, now, yes.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Like I actually, before we got married, had gone on
bachelorette trips, girls tips.
Speaker 5 (01:27):
And he never said a thing.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
And then this first one came up, and I was
I'm just like so confused because he's never acted like
this was a problem before.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
I mean, what does he do when you like go
to work or go to the store or I don't know,
leave your house alone. What does he do during those times?
How is that? I mean, I suppose you could be
doing exactly the same thing if you wanted to.
Speaker 6 (01:49):
I mean, I.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Guess it's just yeah, he just said that those trips
to him, they are just like way too much temptation.
There's going to be I don't know, I don't understand.
Speaker 7 (02:00):
Does he get along with your friends, like your girlfriends, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
He gets along great with them, and like before, he
actually think it was no big thing. So I don't know.
I think everyone needs a break from their spouse at
some point and spend time with their friends. Especially it's girlfriends,
Like it's not like with you know, a bunch of
like straight guys. Like it's just it's so bizarre.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yeah, that would be weird if the girl strip was
a bunch of straight single men. I would I would
probably ask ask some questions. Tell me again, what you're
going on on a girls trip with the you know
offensive line from the you know whatever, Like, tell me, yeah,
is there a history of infidelity? No, so you've never
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cheated on him?
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Never has he been cheated on? Sounds like it.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
I think there was a girlfriend in the past who
yets like was there was infidelity question?
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Yeah, because we got some text about that too, which,
by the way, it doesn't mean that it's okay for
him to be controlling. I'm just trying to figure out
where he's coming from. He did marry you, after all,
and he did allow you to do this ahead of time.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
So I don't like it.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
This is very controlling, and it feels like maybe he
thinks now that you're married that he he gets to
a certain more control over you, which I don't agree with.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
I mean, you got to respect his wishes. Again. If
it's like, yeah, I'm going to.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I don't know, I'm going to secrets adult you know
swingers resort with with five random men that I met
on MySpace like that, I mean that's an issue, Like
I might I might have some concerns.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I would ask a few questions about that.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
But you know, as far as like you going on girls'
trips and whatever, I would encourage it.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
I'd be like, hell.
Speaker 7 (03:45):
Yeah, it's giving loser mentality, Like oh what am I
gonna do?
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Where you're gonna go? Don't leave me. I'm like, come on,
ho go like have fun with your girl. I'm gonna
whatever whatever, be my underwear all weekend.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yes, Like, if you've always been honest with him, You've
always been honest. You've always so this is what you're saying.
I mean, you've always been honest. You you you haven't
cheated on him. He knows the people that you're going with.
I assume that you're willing to communicate with him while
you're there. I guess I don't. I don't like this
at all. Eight five five one three five little group
(04:22):
therapy action. You guys got to get in on this.
But but Katie, we're gonna talk about you behind your back.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Now, Let's see what happens to you when it's his turn.
Speaker 4 (04:31):
Right, he's invited on the Bachelor party, like he's just
gonna not go like you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Or like the guy's weekend.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Excellent question. Pauline. When he wants to go on a
guy's trip, does he go? And my other question is
does he have friends? Because the other thing I've found
is men, and well I can only speak for men.
Men who don't have friends tend to have a bigger
problem with this kind of stuff. It's like because they
don't have any anywhere to go themselves, right, or they
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don't take trips like this, or you're the only person
that they hang out with or that kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Well, that's sad.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Yeah, I mean he has friends, but most of them
are already married, So I actually don't think any of
his friends that he's like best friends with their left
to like go on back to their trips and stuff
like that.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Okay, because I've heard about this before where it's like
I basically want you to sit at home with me
all day because I don't have anything else to do.
And it's like, well, that's not my problem, all right, Katie, Well,
thank you so much. We're going to take some phone
calls on they saying good luck to you.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Okay, thank you.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Someone just texted me this is single behavior, and that's
why you're single.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Fred.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
It's not controlling, it's respecting your marriage, respecting you. She's
going on the girl's trip. Why are you married to
someone that you don't trust?
Speaker 2 (05:44):
That's so weird.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
So I can't go to the beach in Tampa or
whatever whatever beach is out there, because.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I'm married, I'm not allowed to get on. I'm planning
to go with my friends.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Go hang out with your female friends, or again, I
guess if it were single men and women, and then
you're not being invited.
Speaker 5 (05:58):
I mean even and you should be able to trust
your partner.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I guess it would depend on the circumstances. But ninety
nine percent of the things that I can think of,
I would like to believe if I'm in a relationship
and everyone's been honest and transparent and there's no history
of any issue, then I would like to believe that
I would be okay with it now if she cheated
on him in the past or I don't know that
they got to work through that, obviously, but I could
understand some reservations. Still doesn't mean he gets to control her.
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He either forgives her or he doesn't. But at the
same time, it doesn't even sound like she has any
history of betraying him.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
No I agree.
Speaker 7 (06:34):
It sounds like he did something on a trip, you know,
like he seen something, right, He's either seen something or
he's done something, and he's just like, no, you can't
do it, because I know what happens on these trips.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Also, like, have you been on a girl's trip?
Speaker 7 (06:45):
It's like drunk, eating food and like dancing with each other.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Like I was gonna say, girls, good luck trying to
pull a single girl away from a girl's trip.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
No, trust me, I've tried it. It almost never.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
I have a very low batting average approaching a group
before women on a girl's trip. Just you come with me.
It doesn't happen very often. Hey Mandy, Mandy, Hi, what
do you think stare go?
Speaker 6 (07:13):
It's a double edged sword. But because I don't know
the entire situation, of course, but I know I'm going
through a similar situation that started like that, and it
is full out control red flags a waven. I could
not die this phone fast enough. It is a very
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insecure man. The person that said, you know, like it's
a you know, being respectful in a marriage. No, a
marriage has to be built on trust. And if you
cannot be away from your spouse for a few days
with known friends. What if this was a business trip,
what if it was anything. It started that way with me,
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I couldn't go on the girls trip, you know, and
he pulled the whole thing or it was disrespectful. So
much could happen, you know, basically, you're he's saying, you know,
I don't trust you no further than I can see you,
and that is crazy. It got to the point I
couldn't even go to the grocery store.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
I don't like that, but they can't.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
But it started with the you know, can't go on
this trip, and then it was this friend, is this,
this and this, And it was always a problem until
I basically have no friends, and then he had no friends,
and it just got worse and worse and worse.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Either he wants you all to himself kind of thing.
Speaker 6 (08:40):
You know, exactly. Yeah, it's just it's a control and
even he may not even see it as that. I
don't know either. I would go and show him like, look,
I'm coming back to you, and you know, ask for
forgiveness later, because it's it's ridiculous, you know. Do you
give that a person that type of control?
Speaker 2 (09:03):
What kind of life is the future.
Speaker 6 (09:06):
Going to have and I wish I would have seen
that being but of course I didn't. And it's past
therapy now, like it's just over.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
So you're not in that relationship anymore.
Speaker 6 (09:15):
Now get some hell something.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Are you out of that relationship? Mindy in the process.
Speaker 6 (09:21):
This is a very long we got kids involved, all
that good luck out there, but you're in the right
on this.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
I mean again, I feel like even if they're like said,
it comes down to trust or no trust, and even
if trust was betrayed, then it's okay. Then am I
forgiving you and moving on? Or am I not? And
even if it's like a miyby, I'll let you go
have a great day. By the way, thanks for calling.
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Listened to herself on me.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Even if it's.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
An insecurity that's like maybe a healthy insecurity, then you
can talk about it and see it makes me nervous.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
This is this is what's going on with me and I.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
You know, can we communicate or can we can we
work out a way that like I want you to
go and have a great time, but I'd feel better
if whatever, and then try and like moderate the insecurity
as opposed to just saying I can I own you
no you can't go, you can't go hang out with
your friends, you can't do this, you can't do that.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
Right, Telling someone you can't do something in a relationship
or marriage is just like that's crazy to me. That's
not marriage, that's not I don't think so. And like
what also bothers me too with some of these messages.
It's like about what's a respect thing? I get it right,
respecting your partner. But I always told happy my husband,
I said, when we get married, like, I don't want
to lose myself, and you can't lose yourself either, like
still do what you do and I always be respectful, right, right,
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one hundred percent.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
But I'm saying like, don't lose yourself is what I'm saying.
Speaker 7 (10:41):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 6 (10:42):
Right?
Speaker 4 (10:42):
Respect number one. But like just because I want to
go on a trip with my girls to whatever, you
know what I mean, Like, that doesn't mean I don't
respect you. You would still respect them while you're on
the trip, exactly by not doing the trip. I'll respect
you here, I'll respect you ever, respect you always.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
But I'm going on the damn trip to Cabo. I'm
going to the Bartenda. Hi Taylor, good morning, Hey, good morning,
say or go what do you think I think she
should say?
Speaker 8 (11:10):
Well, first of all, it depends on one thing, like
I need to know personally who pays for the majority
of the vacation. And also that's what parties are a
different thing. Those are completely fine. But if he's paying
for all vacations and all of a sudden she has
this money to go on a girl's trip and not,
you know, involve him in a trip on her behalf,
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that's that's a little bit messed up.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
I mean, I think there are variables here that we
don't know. Yeah, I guess if she's always going on
trips and never including him or I mean that that
might be another issue. But this sounds this doesn't sound
like being inconsiderate. This sounds like a trust problem. This
sounds like a control thing.
Speaker 8 (11:46):
Yeah, it would be definitely has some sort of trust.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Problems if she's constantly going away and making him stay
with the kids or whatever. I mean, at some point
you might become resentful like why am I never invited?
But why would you be invited on a girl's trip?
And why would he have a problem with it within itself?
But thank you, Taylor, have a good day, many appreciate it.
Let's see Grace, Hey, Grace, how you doing, Grace, good morning?
Speaker 2 (12:12):
What do you think? Stare go and just a recap here.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
This woman is upset because her husband they got married,
and now he's like, I don't want you going on girls' trips.
I don't want you going off on your own. He
was fine with it before, but bachelor, that's red parties,
girl trips. Now he doesn't want it to go. It
sounds controlling, Yeah, I.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
Mean it's a little bit controlling, but at the end
of the day, like I think some people have different
opinions about marriage and they're like, oh, well, like why
do you need to go on a trip by yourself
if we're married, Like I want to do everything together.
But I think she can just tell him, like, look,
it's your opportunity to like, you know, be on the couch,
have some beer, watch a sport of your choice, like
far in the house without me all like just be
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yourself and enjoy the time and everything's going to be fine.
And like we want time apart because the time together
will be more special.
Speaker 6 (13:02):
So let me go with my friend.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
And if you have a fundamental belief about this, then
I think that's something you got to work out before
you married, Like, you can't just bit and switch, like
if you've got some serious issue with trips that don't
include you, then don't allow it before marriage. And then
and then all of a sudden say no, you can't
do that now, Like not, that's not how this works, right.
Speaker 5 (13:21):
It seems like it was kind of whiplash because before
he didn't say a thing, and now all of a
sudden there's this.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Change of well, we're married, now I own you or something.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Yeah, I don't. I don't like it. Great, thank you,
have a good day. Who's paying? A lot of people
are consumed on the text with who's paying?
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Worry about that? Man, I don't know that matter.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
I mean again, if it's constantly like I'm out of
town every weekend, you gotta take care of my obligations
and pay for it too, that's a whole different topic.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
Yeah. I don't think that's what this is though,
Katie is here. Good morning, Katie. How are you, Katie? Well,
how was that, Katie? Stay or go low group therapy
action here? Let's find out, because again, when things are
not going properly in your life, call him the local
radio show. I mean, that makes perfect sense to me.
So what's going on with your husband? Explain?
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Please?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Yeah, So once we got married, he just out of
nowhere told me that he doesn't think it's appropriate for
me to go on bachelor at trips or even girls'
trips in general.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
Okay, all right, so you married this man and then
I assume something came up like of this nature a
girl's trip, for example, and you're like, hey, I'm going
on a girls trip, and this dude says.
Speaker 3 (00:48):
No, yeah, that's actually exactly what happened. And I was like,
I was actually shocked if I never heard this before
until after we got married. And then he just said, well,
I just don't think it's appropriate because you're a married
woman and there's too much temptation on those types of trips.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
And then he just said he.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
Doesn't understand like why I would even want to ever
travel without him.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Oh wow, So it was okay before, it's not Okay, now, yes.
Speaker 3 (01:22):
Like I actually, before we got married, had gone on
bachelorette trips, girls tips.
Speaker 5 (01:27):
And he never said a thing.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
And then this first one came up, and I was
I'm just like so confused because he's never acted like
this was a problem before.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
I mean, what does he do when you like go
to work or go to the store or I don't know,
leave your house alone. What does he do during those times?
How is that? I mean, I suppose you could be
doing exactly the same thing if you wanted to.
Speaker 6 (01:49):
I mean, I.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Guess it's just yeah, he just said that those trips
to him, they are just like way too much temptation.
There's going to be I don't know, I don't understand.
Speaker 7 (02:00):
Does he get along with your friends, like your girlfriends, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
He gets along great with them, and like before, he
actually think it was no big thing. So I don't know.
I think everyone needs a break from their spouse at
some point and spend time with their friends. Especially it's girlfriends,
Like it's not like with you know, a bunch of
like straight guys. Like it's just it's so bizarre.
Speaker 1 (02:23):
Yeah, that would be weird if the girl strip was
a bunch of straight single men. I would I would
probably ask ask some questions. Tell me again, what you're
going on on a girls trip with the you know
offensive line from the you know whatever, Like, tell me, yeah,
is there a history of infidelity? No, so you've never
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cheated on him?
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Never has he been cheated on? Sounds like it.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
I think there was a girlfriend in the past who
yets like was there was infidelity question?
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Yeah, because we got some text about that too, which,
by the way, it doesn't mean that it's okay for
him to be controlling. I'm just trying to figure out
where he's coming from. He did marry you, after all,
and he did allow you to do this ahead of time.
Speaker 2 (03:09):
So I don't like it.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
This is very controlling, and it feels like maybe he
thinks now that you're married that he he gets to
a certain more control over you, which I don't agree with.
Speaker 2 (03:20):
I mean, you got to respect his wishes. Again. If
it's like, yeah, I'm going to.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
I don't know, I'm going to secrets adult you know
swingers resort with with five random men that I met
on MySpace like that, I mean that's an issue, Like
I might I might have some concerns.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I would ask a few questions about that.
Speaker 1 (03:40):
But you know, as far as like you going on girls'
trips and whatever, I would encourage it.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
I'd be like, hell.
Speaker 7 (03:45):
Yeah, it's giving loser mentality, Like oh what am I
gonna do?
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Where you're gonna go? Don't leave me. I'm like, come on,
ho go like have fun with your girl. I'm gonna
whatever whatever, be my underwear all weekend.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
Yes, Like, if you've always been honest with him, You've
always been honest. You've always so this is what you're saying.
I mean, you've always been honest. You you you haven't
cheated on him. He knows the people that you're going with.
I assume that you're willing to communicate with him while
you're there. I guess I don't. I don't like this
at all. Eight five five one three five little group
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therapy action. You guys got to get in on this.
But but Katie, we're gonna talk about you behind your back.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
Now, Let's see what happens to you when it's his turn.
Speaker 4 (04:31):
Right, he's invited on the Bachelor party, like he's just
gonna not go like you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Or like the guy's weekend.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Excellent question. Pauline. When he wants to go on a
guy's trip, does he go? And my other question is
does he have friends? Because the other thing I've found
is men, and well I can only speak for men.
Men who don't have friends tend to have a bigger
problem with this kind of stuff. It's like because they
don't have any anywhere to go themselves, right, or they
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don't take trips like this, or you're the only person
that they hang out with or that kind of thing.
Speaker 2 (05:01):
Well, that's sad.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Yeah, I mean he has friends, but most of them
are already married, So I actually don't think any of
his friends that he's like best friends with their left
to like go on back to their trips and stuff
like that.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
Okay, because I've heard about this before where it's like
I basically want you to sit at home with me
all day because I don't have anything else to do.
And it's like, well, that's not my problem, all right, Katie, Well,
thank you so much. We're going to take some phone
calls on they saying good luck to you.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Okay, thank you.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
Someone just texted me this is single behavior, and that's
why you're single.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Fred.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
It's not controlling, it's respecting your marriage, respecting you. She's
going on the girl's trip. Why are you married to
someone that you don't trust?
Speaker 2 (05:44):
That's so weird.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
So I can't go to the beach in Tampa or
whatever whatever beach is out there, because.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
I'm married, I'm not allowed to get on. I'm planning
to go with my friends.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
Go hang out with your female friends, or again, I
guess if it were single men and women, and then
you're not being invited.
Speaker 5 (05:58):
I mean even and you should be able to trust
your partner.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I guess it would depend on the circumstances. But ninety
nine percent of the things that I can think of,
I would like to believe if I'm in a relationship
and everyone's been honest and transparent and there's no history
of any issue, then I would like to believe that
I would be okay with it now if she cheated
on him in the past or I don't know that
they got to work through that, obviously, but I could
understand some reservations. Still doesn't mean he gets to control her.
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He either forgives her or he doesn't. But at the
same time, it doesn't even sound like she has any
history of betraying him.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
No I agree.
Speaker 7 (06:34):
It sounds like he did something on a trip, you know,
like he seen something, right, He's either seen something or
he's done something, and he's just like, no, you can't
do it, because I know what happens on these trips.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Also, like, have you been on a girl's trip?
Speaker 7 (06:45):
It's like drunk, eating food and like dancing with each other.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Like I was gonna say, girls, good luck trying to
pull a single girl away from a girl's trip.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
No, trust me, I've tried it. It almost never.
Speaker 1 (06:57):
I have a very low batting average approaching a group
before women on a girl's trip. Just you come with me.
It doesn't happen very often. Hey Mandy, Mandy, Hi, what
do you think stare go?
Speaker 6 (07:13):
It's a double edged sword. But because I don't know
the entire situation, of course, but I know I'm going
through a similar situation that started like that, and it
is full out control red flags a waven. I could
not die this phone fast enough. It is a very
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insecure man. The person that said, you know, like it's
a you know, being respectful in a marriage. No, a
marriage has to be built on trust. And if you
cannot be away from your spouse for a few days
with known friends. What if this was a business trip,
what if it was anything. It started that way with me,
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I couldn't go on the girls trip, you know, and
he pulled the whole thing or it was disrespectful. So
much could happen, you know, basically, you're he's saying, you know,
I don't trust you no further than I can see you,
and that is crazy. It got to the point I
couldn't even go to the grocery store.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
I don't like that, but they can't.
Speaker 6 (08:21):
But it started with the you know, can't go on
this trip, and then it was this friend, is this,
this and this, And it was always a problem until
I basically have no friends, and then he had no friends,
and it just got worse and worse and worse.
Speaker 2 (08:38):
Either he wants you all to himself kind of thing.
Speaker 6 (08:40):
You know, exactly. Yeah, it's just it's a control and
even he may not even see it as that. I
don't know either. I would go and show him like, look,
I'm coming back to you, and you know, ask for
forgiveness later, because it's it's ridiculous, you know. Do you
give that a person that type of control?
Speaker 2 (09:03):
What kind of life is the future.
Speaker 6 (09:06):
Going to have and I wish I would have seen
that being but of course I didn't. And it's past
therapy now, like it's just over.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
So you're not in that relationship anymore.
Speaker 6 (09:15):
Now get some hell something.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Are you out of that relationship? Mindy in the process.
Speaker 6 (09:21):
This is a very long we got kids involved, all
that good luck out there, but you're in the right
on this.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
I mean again, I feel like even if they're like said,
it comes down to trust or no trust, and even
if trust was betrayed, then it's okay. Then am I
forgiving you and moving on? Or am I not? And
even if it's like a miyby, I'll let you go
have a great day. By the way, thanks for calling.
(09:50):
Listened to herself on me.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Even if it's.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
An insecurity that's like maybe a healthy insecurity, then you
can talk about it and see it makes me nervous.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
This is this is what's going on with me and I.
Speaker 1 (10:04):
You know, can we communicate or can we can we
work out a way that like I want you to
go and have a great time, but I'd feel better
if whatever, and then try and like moderate the insecurity
as opposed to just saying I can I own you
no you can't go, you can't go hang out with
your friends, you can't do this, you can't do that.
Speaker 4 (10:17):
Right, Telling someone you can't do something in a relationship
or marriage is just like that's crazy to me. That's
not marriage, that's not I don't think so. And like
what also bothers me too with some of these messages.
It's like about what's a respect thing? I get it right,
respecting your partner. But I always told happy my husband,
I said, when we get married, like, I don't want
to lose myself, and you can't lose yourself either, like
still do what you do and I always be respectful, right, right,
(10:38):
one hundred percent.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
But I'm saying like, don't lose yourself is what I'm saying.
Speaker 7 (10:41):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 6 (10:42):
Right?
Speaker 4 (10:42):
Respect number one. But like just because I want to
go on a trip with my girls to whatever, you
know what I mean, Like, that doesn't mean I don't
respect you. You would still respect them while you're on
the trip, exactly by not doing the trip. I'll respect
you here, I'll respect you ever, respect you always.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
But I'm going on the damn trip to Cabo. I'm
going to the Bartenda. Hi Taylor, good morning, Hey, good morning,
say or go what do you think I think she
should say?
Speaker 8 (11:10):
Well, first of all, it depends on one thing, like
I need to know personally who pays for the majority
of the vacation. And also that's what parties are a
different thing. Those are completely fine. But if he's paying
for all vacations and all of a sudden she has
this money to go on a girl's trip and not,
you know, involve him in a trip on her behalf,
(11:32):
that's that's a little bit messed up.
Speaker 1 (11:33):
I mean, I think there are variables here that we
don't know. Yeah, I guess if she's always going on
trips and never including him or I mean that that
might be another issue. But this sounds this doesn't sound
like being inconsiderate. This sounds like a trust problem. This
sounds like a control thing.
Speaker 8 (11:46):
Yeah, it would be definitely has some sort of trust.
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Problems if she's constantly going away and making him stay
with the kids or whatever. I mean, at some point
you might become resentful like why am I never invited?
But why would you be invited on a girl's trip?
And why would he have a problem with it within itself?
But thank you, Taylor, have a good day, many appreciate it.
Let's see Grace, Hey, Grace, how you doing, Grace, good morning?
Speaker 2 (12:12):
What do you think? Stare go and just a recap here.
Speaker 1 (12:14):
This woman is upset because her husband they got married,
and now he's like, I don't want you going on girls' trips.
I don't want you going off on your own. He
was fine with it before, but bachelor, that's red parties,
girl trips. Now he doesn't want it to go. It
sounds controlling, Yeah, I.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
Mean it's a little bit controlling, but at the end
of the day, like I think some people have different
opinions about marriage and they're like, oh, well, like why
do you need to go on a trip by yourself
if we're married, Like I want to do everything together.
But I think she can just tell him, like, look,
it's your opportunity to like, you know, be on the couch,
have some beer, watch a sport of your choice, like
far in the house without me all like just be
(12:53):
yourself and enjoy the time and everything's going to be fine.
And like we want time apart because the time together
will be more special.
Speaker 6 (13:02):
So let me go with my friend.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
And if you have a fundamental belief about this, then
I think that's something you got to work out before
you married, Like, you can't just bit and switch, like
if you've got some serious issue with trips that don't
include you, then don't allow it before marriage. And then
and then all of a sudden say no, you can't
do that now, Like not, that's not how this works, right.
Speaker 5 (13:21):
It seems like it was kind of whiplash because before
he didn't say a thing, and now all of a
sudden there's this.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Change of well, we're married, now I own you or something.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
Yeah, I don't. I don't like it. Great, thank you,
have a good day. Who's paying? A lot of people
are consumed on the text with who's paying?
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Worry about that? Man, I don't know that matter.
Speaker 1 (13:42):
I mean again, if it's constantly like I'm out of
town every weekend, you gotta take care of my obligations
and pay for it too, that's a whole different topic.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
Yeah. I don't think that's what this is though,
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