July 22, 2025 • 16 mins
Whitney is conflicted after finding out her husband as been lying to her about being on Ozempic. Fred and the crew weigh in on their thoughts!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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you are married and you've been lied to?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Straight up?
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I mean that's it.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
That's exactly what it is.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Okay, how did your husband lie to you? What happened?
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Well, I mean, to me, this is pretty major. Maybe
it's just me, but.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Hello, are you there? Your phone work a little bit? Okay,
so you think this is pretty major? What happened?
Speaker 3 (01:24):
He's been on ozema for six months and he's been
not only not telling me, but he just straight up
lied to me about it.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
How did he lie to you about it?
Speaker 4 (01:33):
Well?
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Because I mean, obviously, if he's taking azembic, he's losing weight.
So I'm asking him. I'm like, howyay, you know you're
doing oh, you know, just diet exercise, diet exercise, which, yeah,
he does work out, but he's not working out more
than he normally does. One of those people we eat
We eat pretty well. I mean, we eat pretty healthy.
We don't eat out a lot, we don't do fast
food and stuff like that very much. But he just
(01:55):
told me that that's all he was doing.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Okay, So so he's losing all this weight. You're like, man,
you look right, it's wow. It's hard work. You know,
hard work in the gym. You know, hard work is
transformed in my life. You know, abou god tails old
as time, Paulina. I mean this is twice a day
I've said, tale so old, this tale might be and so,
but you're not. You're not lying to people and telling
them that you're, you know, out here running five case
(02:19):
and marathons and iron Man's and stuff. Correct.
Speaker 5 (02:22):
But when it comes to my husband, I do have
to fabricate some things or move some things around. When
it comes to him, I can't be straight up because
he doesn't understand.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Okay, it's my own thing. Okay, So you you find
out that he's on a how did you find out
he was an ozampic? Well, I founded in the bathroom.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
So that was a little scary because you know, you
walk in and there's like a needle in the bathroom.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Okay, so expects our heroin or a zempic. Yeah, rights, right,
all right, so you say something to him, You're like,
wait a minute, I found ozampic. I'm not taking it,
so it must be you. Why are you lying to
me about it? Like, why wouldn't you just tell me?
I mean we're married?
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Well, because and that's that's my biggest sticking point, is
like he can do what he wants to do.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
That's fine.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
But his whole thing was he actually said to me, well,
I didn't tell you because it's not your business. You're
my husband. It's absolutely my business. You know, what if
he has some kind of allergic reaction to it or something.
What if he had some kind of weird side effect
thing and we go to the hospital and they're like,
you know what medications is he on? And I don't know,
(03:25):
and they treat him for something that interacts with you
know what I'm saying, Like, I know, I'm probably worst
case scenario in it, but that can happen.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Why do you think that he was a shame to
tell you the truth? Is it because he doesn't really
want to do the work and he wants you to
believe that he's doing it. Is it because and there's
nothing wrong with that. Like the thing that people being
ashamed about ZEMBEI I don't really understand, because it's like,
if it helps you and you think it's appropriate for
your body, then you should take it. I'm not a doctor.
(03:56):
I don't know much about it. I mean, I would
argue there are people taking ozempic who could probably work
out and be a little more healthy in their lives.
And accomplish something similar and maybe help themselves in the
long term, versus taking the shot for vanity but not
changing your life. And then I don't really know what
that means long to you know what I mean, It's
like I could take ozempic and eat big Max all day.
(04:16):
My cholesterol is still through the roof and I could
still have a heart attack, but I'd be skinny when
I had it. I mean, And again I don't I'm
not a physician. I don't know any of this for
a fact, but you know, that's what you hear, and
especially in the beginning, was that people who really needed it,
diabetic or people had diabetes or whatever, they couldn't get
it because it had become this kind of vanity miracle drug.
But why do you think, why do you think you
wouldn't tell you?
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Well, to be fair, he was doing the work like
he was working out, and we do eat pretty healthy,
but he did it on top of that too. He
actually told me it was none of my business, which
again I'm just and I know I've already brought that up,
but it just it really made me angry. And he
also said he had the nerve. This is what I
was like, Okay, I got to walk away from this
conversation because about to lose my mind. He actually says
(04:59):
to me, well, it's my body choice. It's none of
your business. I'm going to tell you. Oh oh say,
And I was like, sir, I okay, sure so you.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
For you, it's less about the ozembic use, but it's
the lies because you've asked him multiple times, how are
you doing this? And I mean, and he's, wow, it's
just you know, I'm doing everything right, but maybe he is,
maybe he's not, but he's also doing this and he
didn't want you to know.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
So for you, it's the lies, it's one hundred percent
about the lies. Like he can it is his decision
to do what he wants to do is with body
as lungs. It's not something dangerous, and it's not dangerous.
He's doing it under doctor supervision, not one of those
like mail order weird things where you can just get
it from wherever. Like, he's doing everything right, but he
first one he lied to me by omission because he
(05:43):
just didn't tell me that he was doing it or
was even thinking about doing it. And then you know,
I asked him and he lied to my face, like
multiple times.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Now people are texting. What one text here is is
asking about the money aspect of it, because it is
so is it such that maybe you both couldn't afford
to take it? So like he's using the money for
himself as opposed to you know, because maybe you maybe
you both can't afford it. So he doesn't want you
(06:13):
to know that he's spending all the money on it.
Is that a possibility or is that not an.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Issue he had No, he actually got it covered by
insurance because medical history. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
No, it had nothing to do with money.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
It's something he wanted to do, which again I would
have if he sat down and told me or when
I asked him how he was doing it, he had
told me the truth, we would not be having this
conversation right now.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Yeah. People are also texting that he's uh, he's probably
well and I don't know that this is true, but
he's probably planning. He's trying to look good for somebody
else or something like he's trying to hyper speed this
this body transformation for someone I don't know. I mean,
I guess it lends itself to a lot of things
when he's lying about it, right, Like if he just
(06:53):
told the truth, or or if maybe if he just
came out and told you, I'm kind of ashamed of it,
or I'm I don't I'm embarrassed and I need this,
or you know, I didn't think he would support me
in it, or you know, I don't know what kind
of conversations you've had. Maybe you're like, really, are you
really anti medicine? And are you somebody who know? Okay,
(07:13):
so that's not it.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
No, No, I'm not like an anti vaxxer or anything
like that, like I know, not at all. It was
something that his doctor, his actual doctor. Like, again, he
wasn't just going online and clicking a few buttons. He's
been doing this through his doctor, so the doctor felt
like it was medically necessary. He's doing the other work.
There's literally no reason he wasn't telling me. And kind
(07:36):
of with what you were just saying about, like he's
looking for somebody else or whatever, it's making me question
everything that he says. It's like, well, what else are
you lying to me about?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I have noticed this though, like people who are very
clearly using ozebic right because I know them well enough
to know their lifestyles and their habits. And things, and
but they want you to believe that it's not an exercise.
And I just simply I don't know why people are
ashamed to just say It's like, why don't you say
that like it is what it is? It because you
know that people are going to say that's kind of
(08:06):
the easy way out for you. Is it because people
might judge you? And is it because people you know
who are working out and trying to lose weight and
don't use those epic might resent you for it because
it's fun to get the compliments when you're working on
a losing weight and it almost feels like when people
just take a shot and lose the weight and aren't
necessarily working towards it. I can see the resentment. It's like,
(08:27):
wait a minute, I'm out here dragging my ass across his
lakefront trying to lose weight and it's very slow process
and you're taking a shot. Everyone says how good you look.
Instantly it's like, well that sucks, But that's that's not
a reason to lie to your partner about it. I
don't think. But let me take some phone calls on this.
Let me see if people have to say, Whitney, thank
you for calling. Good luck. Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
I appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
You know what to do, Thanks for listening. I mean,
of course, the right thing to do is call the
radio show, call the Friend Show. When you don't know
what to do, you call the frend Show. And I'm
one of the seventeen of us on this show. We'll
give you the advice that you need. Eight five five
five nine one one o three five. Gabby, Gabby, you're
of the camp that he's up to something.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
I would say that. I mean, first of all, we
are Mary, what what the reason there's no reason to lie?
You'll be asking too, is what happens? I also you lie? Yeah,
go ahead, it's just by experience. I mean my fiancee
he was he started kind of working out, blah blah blah,
(09:27):
getting in shape. Your Yeah, we thought that it was
for the wedding. But then I went through his instagram
all these women, and I said, what's going on? Oh
I know, ye not for our wedding. So okay, So
the reason why, exactly, there's no reason why he has
(09:47):
to lie.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Yeah, I agree with you. I agree. Thank you, Gabby.
I'm glad you called. You know, I feel the same way.
And once you tell a lie and then it compounds
and you've told me more than one lie, Well, then
I then why why wouldn't I assume you lying about
all kinds of stuff? Like I don't know, that's a
good point, like why lie about something like that? And
she's right and to a certain extent, if there were
(10:09):
some sort of health complication with it and she was
unaware of what he was doing, then I mean that
could be detrimental and she could, you know, potentially help him,
you know, if you had some issue and it's like,
what is he? What's he on? I don't know what
you mean. You don't know you're married to the guy.
We he lied to me about him. Lie to the world,
don't lie to me.
Speaker 6 (10:27):
Like if you want, if you want to post on
Instagram holding a protein shake acting like you're working out,
you know, I'll be I'm your wife, I'll be in
the comments. You're looking good baby, good job.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
But let me in on the line.
Speaker 6 (10:38):
Once you out me on the light, then I can't
trust you and I don't know what you're up to.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Well, here's Luca. Luca turned your radio down. Luca and Luke,
you know, or you could hang up. You don't have
to hang up. Well, he Luca says he lies about
being ozebic, which is why I wanted to hear. Why. Yeah,
if you lie about being ozepic, then call up here.
I want to know why you do that and turn
your radio down when you do. Well, y'all shame people,
Well that's one part. What do you mean who's being shamed?
Speaker 6 (11:02):
Well, people get socied for taking it because people are upset.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
You just went through this.
Speaker 6 (11:06):
People are upset because you may choose to lose weight
one way, somebody else is choosing another route.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
You feel like they're taking the easy way out.
Speaker 6 (11:13):
So then you get all this criticism about choosing the
easier way out.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
But I'm not shaving people to their I'm being I'm
being honest about as someone who's trying to lose weight
and be more healthy, not only for the aesthetic, but
because I don't want to necessarily have a heart attack
at forty five and die. Right, This is what I'm
vocalizing to you, what's happening inside of me. I would
never actually shame someone for taking it.
Speaker 6 (11:36):
No, you wouldn't, but people do, and it's a negative
connotation out there about it.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
So people lie about it, and.
Speaker 6 (11:41):
People get on Instagram and pretend like they're working out
and they don't feel comfortable to just say that they're not.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
And what's you're a husband's issue with it? My husband's well,
you're the one who has a husband. Yeah, I'm gonn
check the room.
Speaker 5 (11:51):
Yes, I am FA. So my husband is just like
your friend. We've talked about this many of times. His
whole thing is because he's very healthy, writing, he works out,
he's a fireman, and he says there's no shortcuts in life.
So that's his whole spiel on the ozembic situation. I
am on Manjaro and I was prescribed that as a tool,
So I work out, I eat, I am six pounds down.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
I am. I am living my life right.
Speaker 5 (12:13):
Now, and I use it as a tool because you're right, Fred,
if I get off of this, I am going to
gain the weight right back. If I don't change my lifestyle,
if I don't continue to work out. You have to
do that. It's very important. So my doctor subscribed it
to me. Subscribed it. Yeah, subscribed it forcribe. Subscribe, subscribe.
Speaker 4 (12:27):
She had a subscription.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I haven't a subscribed.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
To get a subscription, you know my husband doesn't believe
in it, and listen, that's his progative. He can do that,
but I I don't lie to him. But I have
told him before that I, you know, I'm taking a
break from it. And now was that one hundred percent true?
Speaker 1 (12:43):
No?
Speaker 3 (12:43):
It was not.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
So was it a lie? Perhaps it's sitting in my.
Speaker 5 (12:47):
Fridge if he opens the thing right now, if you
look right at it, so he knows it's happening. However,
he wants me to be very careful because I have
taken higher doses. I've gotten a little sick off of it.
You know, we had to kind of go back down
to two point five. So yeah, he to be honest
with your partner.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Okay, Holly, so you're onozebic and lying about it?
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Yes I am.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Who are you lying to.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
Everybody except accept one of my children?
Speaker 1 (13:13):
And why why are you like doctor right? Right?
Speaker 4 (13:19):
Because of the way people think of it. I mean,
I'm still trying to watch it, but I needed a
push start, and people just don't think you're also working
at it. They think you're just taking the easy way out.
And in my case, I'm not taking the easy way out,
and it's frustrating though, because I do need to be
on it. But the people that are, you know, weigh
(13:41):
one hundred and thirty pounds and they just feel like
they need to lose five pounds and they're going on this.
I think that's absolutely ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
See, I think it's really honest. I know I know
some older people who have taken it who are less
inclined to work out or they're not physically able to
work out as much, and it's been a tool for
them too. And then it sort of starts the process
of Wise, I'm beginning to look good, I'm beginning to
feel good. Now there's less weight on my body. Now
I can be more active. Now, it's all good. It's
all good. It's just I guess, within the confines of
(14:08):
a relationship, if I'm lying about it, then what else
am I lying about? I think that's a fair.
Speaker 4 (14:15):
I wouldn't go, but I certainly would kind of keep
pushing the conversation. I just don't understand what you why
you're lying to me about it. I thought I could
do is just keep pushing it and then just say
I don't understand, like, are you lying about anything else?
Like the other callers.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Set too, Yeah, and maybe why. I mean, I don't
know that I would jump to something nefarious, but like,
why are you I don't see so consumed with there
with looking good and lying to me about how you're
doing it. I don't. I think it's more. It's more
the fact that you don't think you can tell me
this because you think that I'll judge you, or you
think that I'll have a negative reaction or whatever. And
(14:51):
if it's not about the money, then it would be
one thing. If it's Hey, we can't neither one of
us can afford this, so we're gonna have to do
it the old fashioned way, and then one of you
goes and does it like that would suck, right, But
that's not the case here because no one's paying for it, right.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
I do think maybe part of it is because he
wants to maybe kind of let her know that he's
doing it on his own and he wasn't. He might
just want to show that he is trying to lose
weight and he's needing the help with it, and he
might just be embarrassed about it too. He needs help.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Yeah, Holly, thank you, and good luck to you. Okay, okay, thanks,
thank you. Maybe there's a mean, this is kind of
saying the same thing. But I think sometimes when people
get healthy and work out and work hard at something
and they start to look good and see results, there
is a bit of a righteousness that comes with that
because you earned it right and you feel good about
it and it was hard work. And then when someone
(15:46):
else maybe gets to share, when they approach it with
that same righteousness, but they didn't necessarily do the work
quote unquote, I guess that's it could be irritating. I
guess I can see that, like, you know, I'm out
here really working hard to do this and you aren't
working as hard, but you want the same level of praise.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
And it's like, but that's yeah, they don't take away
from your work.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
No you no, no, no, you're out there. I see
you out there on the lake. Well I don't mean
I don't mean me personally. I'm just sick. I'm speaking
from the perspective of people who are going about it
a different way, and it's like we're not necessarily well,
maybe we're not the same in how hard we're working
at this, but the end result is the same. So
that's where the resentment comes from. Absolutely. But that's that's
something I keep to myself except for when I'm at work.
(16:28):
But that's something I would never say that to somebody,
but I would. I would really question my relationship if
somebody were taking steps in their lives, you know, drastic
steps to do something, and it wouldn't share with me.
I would. I would worry about that.
Speaker 6 (16:40):
It's shady. No way to look at it other it's
like it's shady. You cannot lie to your partner because
you're worried about their reaction to what you're doing.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Like people loved, I.
Speaker 6 (16:49):
Didn't tell you because you know, I didn't want you
to get upset. I didn't know how you would react.
I didn't think you would support me. You can't think
for me. I'm your partner in life and I should
know what's going on with your body.
This is the fread Show. Let's get you Hotel a
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you are married and you've been lied to?
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Straight up?
Speaker 1 (01:03):
I mean that's it.
Speaker 3 (01:04):
That's exactly what it is.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Okay, how did your husband lie to you? What happened?
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Well, I mean, to me, this is pretty major. Maybe
it's just me, but.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Hello, are you there? Your phone work a little bit? Okay,
so you think this is pretty major? What happened?
Speaker 3 (01:24):
He's been on ozema for six months and he's been
not only not telling me, but he just straight up
lied to me about it.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
How did he lie to you about it?
Speaker 4 (01:33):
Well?
Speaker 3 (01:33):
Because I mean, obviously, if he's taking azembic, he's losing weight.
So I'm asking him. I'm like, howyay, you know you're
doing oh, you know, just diet exercise, diet exercise, which, yeah,
he does work out, but he's not working out more
than he normally does. One of those people we eat
We eat pretty well. I mean, we eat pretty healthy.
We don't eat out a lot, we don't do fast
food and stuff like that very much. But he just
(01:55):
told me that that's all he was doing.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
Okay, So so he's losing all this weight. You're like, man,
you look right, it's wow. It's hard work. You know,
hard work in the gym. You know, hard work is
transformed in my life. You know, abou god tails old
as time, Paulina. I mean this is twice a day
I've said, tale so old, this tale might be and so,
but you're not. You're not lying to people and telling
them that you're, you know, out here running five case
(02:19):
and marathons and iron Man's and stuff. Correct.
Speaker 5 (02:22):
But when it comes to my husband, I do have
to fabricate some things or move some things around. When
it comes to him, I can't be straight up because
he doesn't understand.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Okay, it's my own thing. Okay, So you you find
out that he's on a how did you find out
he was an ozampic? Well, I founded in the bathroom.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
So that was a little scary because you know, you
walk in and there's like a needle in the bathroom.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
Okay, so expects our heroin or a zempic. Yeah, rights, right,
all right, so you say something to him, You're like,
wait a minute, I found ozampic. I'm not taking it,
so it must be you. Why are you lying to
me about it? Like, why wouldn't you just tell me?
I mean we're married?
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Well, because and that's that's my biggest sticking point, is
like he can do what he wants to do.
Speaker 1 (03:04):
That's fine.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
But his whole thing was he actually said to me, well,
I didn't tell you because it's not your business. You're
my husband. It's absolutely my business. You know, what if
he has some kind of allergic reaction to it or something.
What if he had some kind of weird side effect
thing and we go to the hospital and they're like,
you know what medications is he on? And I don't know,
(03:25):
and they treat him for something that interacts with you
know what I'm saying, Like, I know, I'm probably worst
case scenario in it, but that can happen.
Speaker 1 (03:33):
Why do you think that he was a shame to
tell you the truth? Is it because he doesn't really
want to do the work and he wants you to
believe that he's doing it. Is it because and there's
nothing wrong with that. Like the thing that people being
ashamed about ZEMBEI I don't really understand, because it's like,
if it helps you and you think it's appropriate for
your body, then you should take it. I'm not a doctor.
(03:56):
I don't know much about it. I mean, I would
argue there are people taking ozempic who could probably work
out and be a little more healthy in their lives.
And accomplish something similar and maybe help themselves in the
long term, versus taking the shot for vanity but not
changing your life. And then I don't really know what
that means long to you know what I mean, It's
like I could take ozempic and eat big Max all day.
(04:16):
My cholesterol is still through the roof and I could
still have a heart attack, but I'd be skinny when
I had it. I mean, And again I don't I'm
not a physician. I don't know any of this for
a fact, but you know, that's what you hear, and
especially in the beginning, was that people who really needed it,
diabetic or people had diabetes or whatever, they couldn't get
it because it had become this kind of vanity miracle drug.
But why do you think, why do you think you
wouldn't tell you?
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Well, to be fair, he was doing the work like
he was working out, and we do eat pretty healthy,
but he did it on top of that too. He
actually told me it was none of my business, which
again I'm just and I know I've already brought that up,
but it just it really made me angry. And he
also said he had the nerve. This is what I
was like, Okay, I got to walk away from this
conversation because about to lose my mind. He actually says
(04:59):
to me, well, it's my body choice. It's none of
your business. I'm going to tell you. Oh oh say,
And I was like, sir, I okay, sure so you.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
For you, it's less about the ozembic use, but it's
the lies because you've asked him multiple times, how are
you doing this? And I mean, and he's, wow, it's
just you know, I'm doing everything right, but maybe he is,
maybe he's not, but he's also doing this and he
didn't want you to know.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
So for you, it's the lies, it's one hundred percent
about the lies. Like he can it is his decision
to do what he wants to do is with body
as lungs. It's not something dangerous, and it's not dangerous.
He's doing it under doctor supervision, not one of those
like mail order weird things where you can just get
it from wherever. Like, he's doing everything right, but he
first one he lied to me by omission because he
(05:43):
just didn't tell me that he was doing it or
was even thinking about doing it. And then you know,
I asked him and he lied to my face, like
multiple times.
Speaker 1 (05:53):
Now people are texting. What one text here is is
asking about the money aspect of it, because it is
so is it such that maybe you both couldn't afford
to take it? So like he's using the money for
himself as opposed to you know, because maybe you maybe
you both can't afford it. So he doesn't want you
(06:13):
to know that he's spending all the money on it.
Is that a possibility or is that not an.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
Issue he had No, he actually got it covered by
insurance because medical history. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:22):
No, it had nothing to do with money.
Speaker 3 (06:23):
It's something he wanted to do, which again I would
have if he sat down and told me or when
I asked him how he was doing it, he had
told me the truth, we would not be having this
conversation right now.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Yeah. People are also texting that he's uh, he's probably
well and I don't know that this is true, but
he's probably planning. He's trying to look good for somebody
else or something like he's trying to hyper speed this
this body transformation for someone I don't know. I mean,
I guess it lends itself to a lot of things
when he's lying about it, right, Like if he just
(06:53):
told the truth, or or if maybe if he just
came out and told you, I'm kind of ashamed of it,
or I'm I don't I'm embarrassed and I need this,
or you know, I didn't think he would support me
in it, or you know, I don't know what kind
of conversations you've had. Maybe you're like, really, are you
really anti medicine? And are you somebody who know? Okay,
(07:13):
so that's not it.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
No, No, I'm not like an anti vaxxer or anything
like that, like I know, not at all. It was
something that his doctor, his actual doctor. Like, again, he
wasn't just going online and clicking a few buttons. He's
been doing this through his doctor, so the doctor felt
like it was medically necessary. He's doing the other work.
There's literally no reason he wasn't telling me. And kind
(07:36):
of with what you were just saying about, like he's
looking for somebody else or whatever, it's making me question
everything that he says. It's like, well, what else are
you lying to me about?
Speaker 1 (07:44):
I have noticed this though, like people who are very
clearly using ozebic right because I know them well enough
to know their lifestyles and their habits. And things, and
but they want you to believe that it's not an exercise.
And I just simply I don't know why people are
ashamed to just say It's like, why don't you say
that like it is what it is? It because you
know that people are going to say that's kind of
(08:06):
the easy way out for you. Is it because people
might judge you? And is it because people you know
who are working out and trying to lose weight and
don't use those epic might resent you for it because
it's fun to get the compliments when you're working on
a losing weight and it almost feels like when people
just take a shot and lose the weight and aren't
necessarily working towards it. I can see the resentment. It's like,
(08:27):
wait a minute, I'm out here dragging my ass across his
lakefront trying to lose weight and it's very slow process
and you're taking a shot. Everyone says how good you look.
Instantly it's like, well that sucks, But that's that's not
a reason to lie to your partner about it. I
don't think. But let me take some phone calls on this.
Let me see if people have to say, Whitney, thank
you for calling. Good luck. Thank you so much.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
I appreciate you.
Speaker 1 (08:47):
You know what to do, Thanks for listening. I mean,
of course, the right thing to do is call the
radio show, call the Friend Show. When you don't know
what to do, you call the frend Show. And I'm
one of the seventeen of us on this show. We'll
give you the advice that you need. Eight five five
five nine one one o three five. Gabby, Gabby, you're
of the camp that he's up to something.
Speaker 2 (09:06):
I would say that. I mean, first of all, we
are Mary, what what the reason there's no reason to lie?
You'll be asking too, is what happens? I also you lie? Yeah,
go ahead, it's just by experience. I mean my fiancee
he was he started kind of working out, blah blah blah,
(09:27):
getting in shape. Your Yeah, we thought that it was
for the wedding. But then I went through his instagram
all these women, and I said, what's going on? Oh
I know, ye not for our wedding. So okay, So
the reason why, exactly, there's no reason why he has
(09:47):
to lie.
Speaker 1 (09:48):
Yeah, I agree with you. I agree. Thank you, Gabby.
I'm glad you called. You know, I feel the same way.
And once you tell a lie and then it compounds
and you've told me more than one lie, Well, then
I then why why wouldn't I assume you lying about
all kinds of stuff? Like I don't know, that's a
good point, like why lie about something like that? And
she's right and to a certain extent, if there were
(10:09):
some sort of health complication with it and she was
unaware of what he was doing, then I mean that
could be detrimental and she could, you know, potentially help him,
you know, if you had some issue and it's like,
what is he? What's he on? I don't know what
you mean. You don't know you're married to the guy.
We he lied to me about him. Lie to the world,
don't lie to me.
Speaker 6 (10:27):
Like if you want, if you want to post on
Instagram holding a protein shake acting like you're working out,
you know, I'll be I'm your wife, I'll be in
the comments. You're looking good baby, good job.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
But let me in on the line.
Speaker 6 (10:38):
Once you out me on the light, then I can't
trust you and I don't know what you're up to.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
Well, here's Luca. Luca turned your radio down. Luca and Luke,
you know, or you could hang up. You don't have
to hang up. Well, he Luca says he lies about
being ozebic, which is why I wanted to hear. Why. Yeah,
if you lie about being ozepic, then call up here.
I want to know why you do that and turn
your radio down when you do. Well, y'all shame people,
Well that's one part. What do you mean who's being shamed?
Speaker 6 (11:02):
Well, people get socied for taking it because people are upset.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
You just went through this.
Speaker 6 (11:06):
People are upset because you may choose to lose weight
one way, somebody else is choosing another route.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
You feel like they're taking the easy way out.
Speaker 6 (11:13):
So then you get all this criticism about choosing the
easier way out.
Speaker 1 (11:16):
But I'm not shaving people to their I'm being I'm
being honest about as someone who's trying to lose weight
and be more healthy, not only for the aesthetic, but
because I don't want to necessarily have a heart attack
at forty five and die. Right, This is what I'm
vocalizing to you, what's happening inside of me. I would
never actually shame someone for taking it.
Speaker 6 (11:36):
No, you wouldn't, but people do, and it's a negative
connotation out there about it.
Speaker 1 (11:40):
So people lie about it, and.
Speaker 6 (11:41):
People get on Instagram and pretend like they're working out
and they don't feel comfortable to just say that they're not.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
And what's you're a husband's issue with it? My husband's well,
you're the one who has a husband. Yeah, I'm gonn
check the room.
Speaker 5 (11:51):
Yes, I am FA. So my husband is just like
your friend. We've talked about this many of times. His
whole thing is because he's very healthy, writing, he works out,
he's a fireman, and he says there's no shortcuts in life.
So that's his whole spiel on the ozembic situation. I
am on Manjaro and I was prescribed that as a tool,
So I work out, I eat, I am six pounds down.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
I am. I am living my life right.
Speaker 5 (12:13):
Now, and I use it as a tool because you're right, Fred,
if I get off of this, I am going to
gain the weight right back. If I don't change my lifestyle,
if I don't continue to work out. You have to
do that. It's very important. So my doctor subscribed it
to me. Subscribed it. Yeah, subscribed it forcribe. Subscribe, subscribe.
Speaker 4 (12:27):
She had a subscription.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I haven't a subscribed.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
To get a subscription, you know my husband doesn't believe
in it, and listen, that's his progative. He can do that,
but I I don't lie to him. But I have
told him before that I, you know, I'm taking a
break from it. And now was that one hundred percent true?
Speaker 1 (12:43):
No?
Speaker 3 (12:43):
It was not.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
So was it a lie? Perhaps it's sitting in my.
Speaker 5 (12:47):
Fridge if he opens the thing right now, if you
look right at it, so he knows it's happening. However,
he wants me to be very careful because I have
taken higher doses. I've gotten a little sick off of it.
You know, we had to kind of go back down
to two point five. So yeah, he to be honest
with your partner.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Okay, Holly, so you're onozebic and lying about it?
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Yes I am.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Who are you lying to.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
Everybody except accept one of my children?
Speaker 1 (13:13):
And why why are you like doctor right? Right?
Speaker 4 (13:19):
Because of the way people think of it. I mean,
I'm still trying to watch it, but I needed a
push start, and people just don't think you're also working
at it. They think you're just taking the easy way out.
And in my case, I'm not taking the easy way out,
and it's frustrating though, because I do need to be
on it. But the people that are, you know, weigh
(13:41):
one hundred and thirty pounds and they just feel like
they need to lose five pounds and they're going on this.
I think that's absolutely ridiculous.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
See, I think it's really honest. I know I know
some older people who have taken it who are less
inclined to work out or they're not physically able to
work out as much, and it's been a tool for
them too. And then it sort of starts the process
of Wise, I'm beginning to look good, I'm beginning to
feel good. Now there's less weight on my body. Now
I can be more active. Now, it's all good. It's
all good. It's just I guess, within the confines of
(14:08):
a relationship, if I'm lying about it, then what else
am I lying about? I think that's a fair.
Speaker 4 (14:15):
I wouldn't go, but I certainly would kind of keep
pushing the conversation. I just don't understand what you why
you're lying to me about it. I thought I could
do is just keep pushing it and then just say
I don't understand, like, are you lying about anything else?
Like the other callers.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Set too, Yeah, and maybe why. I mean, I don't
know that I would jump to something nefarious, but like,
why are you I don't see so consumed with there
with looking good and lying to me about how you're
doing it. I don't. I think it's more. It's more
the fact that you don't think you can tell me
this because you think that I'll judge you, or you
think that I'll have a negative reaction or whatever. And
(14:51):
if it's not about the money, then it would be
one thing. If it's Hey, we can't neither one of
us can afford this, so we're gonna have to do
it the old fashioned way, and then one of you
goes and does it like that would suck, right, But
that's not the case here because no one's paying for it, right.
Speaker 4 (15:05):
I do think maybe part of it is because he
wants to maybe kind of let her know that he's
doing it on his own and he wasn't. He might
just want to show that he is trying to lose
weight and he's needing the help with it, and he
might just be embarrassed about it too. He needs help.
Speaker 1 (15:24):
Yeah, Holly, thank you, and good luck to you. Okay, okay, thanks,
thank you. Maybe there's a mean, this is kind of
saying the same thing. But I think sometimes when people
get healthy and work out and work hard at something
and they start to look good and see results, there
is a bit of a righteousness that comes with that
because you earned it right and you feel good about
it and it was hard work. And then when someone
(15:46):
else maybe gets to share, when they approach it with
that same righteousness, but they didn't necessarily do the work
quote unquote, I guess that's it could be irritating. I
guess I can see that, like, you know, I'm out
here really working hard to do this and you aren't
working as hard, but you want the same level of praise.
Speaker 3 (16:03):
And it's like, but that's yeah, they don't take away
from your work.
Speaker 1 (16:07):
No you no, no, no, you're out there. I see
you out there on the lake. Well I don't mean
I don't mean me personally. I'm just sick. I'm speaking
from the perspective of people who are going about it
a different way, and it's like we're not necessarily well,
maybe we're not the same in how hard we're working
at this, but the end result is the same. So
that's where the resentment comes from. Absolutely. But that's that's
something I keep to myself except for when I'm at work.
(16:28):
But that's something I would never say that to somebody,
but I would. I would really question my relationship if
somebody were taking steps in their lives, you know, drastic
steps to do something, and it wouldn't share with me.
I would. I would worry about that.
Speaker 6 (16:40):
It's shady. No way to look at it other it's
like it's shady. You cannot lie to your partner because
you're worried about their reaction to what you're doing.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Like people loved, I.
Speaker 6 (16:49):
Didn't tell you because you know, I didn't want you
to get upset. I didn't know how you would react.
I didn't think you would support me. You can't think
for me. I'm your partner in life and I should
know what's going on with your body.
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