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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Erica, Good morning, how you doing?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Good morning are how are you guys?
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Erica, Welcome to the show Starego. So you're calling about
your boyfriend Hobby, not to be confused with Javier, ma'am,
who is palling his husband. I don't think that's your boyfriend.
I think it's a different guy.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Speak of now or forever holds your place.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
But what's going on with this this guy Hovey, who's
your boyfriend who's not palling his husband?
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Yes, so I need your advice. Like I've been dating Hobby.
It's almost been a year to actually be a year
this Friday, and my best friend Cynthia like had gotten
really close to Hobby. Like they're close to the point
where you know, like they call each other bro and sis,
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and like she'll like put him in a headlock and
like they'll Joe go round and like I just don't
know because the other day, like we were all at
the pool and stuff, and like Hobby goes to like
pick Cynthia up and jump in the pool with her,
and I'm just.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Like, why are you holding her like that? Like it's
it's a little like putting my intentnas up.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
He gave her CPO that she didn't need.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
She wasn't finishing movie, she wasn't in peril, but he
was doing chess co bread.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I'm sorry. I'm sorry, Eric, I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
They're rough housing in the pool and it's okay. So
you're like, all right, and so they're having a good time.
They seem very close to one another, Like what other
kind of stuff they're doing.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Yeah, like they just like joke all day and just
like little insiders that I didn't even know that they
had with each other kind of thing, Like it's just
a little too close for comfort.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Okay, it's all right. So you're watching, So you meet
this guy and you guys get into a relationships. He
then becomes close with your friend after that. Yeah, so
they didn't know each other before. It wasn't like they
introduced you or something.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Oh like I introduced Simse to him.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Okay, So now they're closed and they're rough housing in
the pool, which in.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Itself sounds headlocks and stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
We're to say, all right, so look, I mean, and
you have concern about this, like you're starting to think,
well that they seem a little too close.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Well yeah, and then also like I got a d
m on ig the other day where it was from
a random page and they were just kind of like,
that's not your friend.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
So you got a message from like an egg it's
like like an insider.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Yeah, I mean you got a message him a.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Fake profile saying like you should watch out because that
that to me is that to me is extremely suss
Like that's that sounds like somebody who is in the
no trying to tell you something.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Yeah, like I didn't. It wasn't a real page, so
I just don't know who it was. But I'm just
like I don't know about this guy, like you know, it's.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
It's almost a year and I'm just like questioning her
question to check your.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Girl, right.
Speaker 5 (03:14):
So I was just about to say, I do. One
of my friend's husbands is more of a touchy guy.
I do think it's really situational, but she doesn't care.
I don't care, and I know nothing whatever happen. It's
more him like he's touchy with me in a not
like a sexual way. So and he's completely innocent. So
I do think there's situation. I'm trying to think of.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
A situation where I've ever like grabbed any of my
friend's wives or girlfriend and like throwing them in the
pool or so I don't think.
Speaker 5 (03:39):
Stands together like and she thinks it's funny, like she'll
take videos and he'll like spin me around.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
But we're not like making out.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
And I'm not one of these people that just automatically
assumes that everybody who like is close with somebody else
that male female, that's baby, there must be something nefarious
going on. But I will say, like this is this
is really comfortable. And now there's a random DM some
of a fake profile is telling you that you should
watch out Like that seems to me like that's somebody
(04:06):
in your life or or his life or someone that
sounds to make somebody in the know trying to warn
you about something, because what are the odds of that?
Speaker 6 (04:15):
I know.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
And it's like me and her have been friends like
since high school days, so I don't want to believe
that she would, you know, like be shady behind my
back or anything.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
But she likes with all your boyfriends.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
No, that's the thing. She like, we I've had since
like yeah, like sleepover days, you know, And it's just
like I don't understand what's going on.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Has he made any suggestion of like the three of
you or anything any weird stuff like that. Like No,
an only reason I say that is not I'm not
trying to be like salacious. I'm saying, has he expressed
any form of interest in her that goes outside the
bounds of friendship?
Speaker 1 (04:55):
In whatever form?
Speaker 7 (04:58):
I mean?
Speaker 2 (04:59):
The only thing, like I can remember is we were
all over at my house for like a game night,
and I told her to kind of like leave, you know,
like she was kind of like overstaying her welcome when
it was just us.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Girl she was hoping to bed friend. Yeah, oh no,
it's giving like this is a blacker Why this is happening?
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Yeah, this does not seem good to right and the
random stranger dmaking.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Really, it's like, what are the odds? Jersey Shore. Someone
wrote a lett the first night I own Erica. I
don't like this. This gives me the ick.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
But let me take some phone calls on this and
we'll see what anybody, Because we're joking about a lot
of different stuff here, but this does seem, as somebody
said on the text, that all jokes aside, this is
sus for sure, no kidding eighty A dirty boy.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Man, it's my hobby.
Speaker 8 (05:55):
If my husband ever grabbed one of you guys and
straddled you and read.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
The wor he did that one time. Straddle had run
into the pool one time.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Last time we were at the pool together all of us,
and he strattled me. I thought that was weird. But
I don't want to settle. And I was like, whoa,
what's going on? And then you wanted me to come
down to the basement alone with the bobble hands like
this is let me, let me take some phocals on this,
have the radio on im. I just does not just
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seems bad. Thank you, Eric, have a good day.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Like I think you Yeah, I feel that.
Speaker 8 (06:38):
When okay, I think that when a man has interest
in something else or someone else, I should say, I
think that there's like certain actions that are that are
then happening, you know what I mean. I think like Rufio,
you and I are friends, but I don't ever see you.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Like trying to like push me into a pool and
like me hanging out. That's exactly something rufe I would do.
We don't do.
Speaker 8 (07:01):
Like like I don't know like this sexual no not.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
So like that's what I don't know. He's trying to
change the cabbage in your bra for you was weird.
He's hungry.
Speaker 8 (07:14):
No, I I just feel like typically, like you know,
like I don't know. When men do certain things, I
feel like a lot of it can be for a reason.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
That's That's all I'm gonna say.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
And especially no, when men do certain things, it can
be for a reason.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Yes, he's interested more about this.
Speaker 8 (07:35):
I think it's more flirty in certain situations, like if
someone's husband. I think that's the keyword, right, someone's husband,
someone's person.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
I would say unsolicited high level of comfort touching is
concerning to me, Like I don't know, and.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
I hate to be this guy because I'm I'm not the.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Guy who's out there like everything's cheating and and I
don't believe that everyone's you know whatever. But like you're right,
I think there's certain things where it just it displays
a level of comfort that you have to ask, why
are you so damn comfortable?
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Good point, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (08:05):
Roughhousing as adults is also weird, Like I'm not like
getting in like a new gi as you said, No
one's calling me sis. Yeah, my guy friends like they'll
hug me when they see me, but they're not throwing
me anywhere?
Speaker 1 (08:18):
How do you say? Your name? Is it Malise? I'm Malise?
Good morning? How you doing? What do you stay or go?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
This woman is saying that her boyfriend and her and
her female best friend seem awfully close. And then there's
just a strange twist in all this, which is a
random DM from a source unknown saying, hey, watch out,
so someone whow where that's coming from?
Speaker 7 (08:41):
If I ever got the hate girl message, it's to go.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Yep, oh, the hate girl message. No one must receive that.
I'm married, And if my husband was doing that.
Speaker 7 (08:52):
While we were dating, I would.
Speaker 6 (08:53):
Have been gone a long time ago.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Yeah, I mean number one for me.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I wouldn't necessarily love what's going on with out the DM.
The DM almost confirms the suspicion in some ways, because
who would take the time to do that unless they
need something, you know.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
And it's a whole touching like it's they're so comfortable
doing that in front of you there.
Speaker 7 (09:14):
I think they're doing.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Something yeah, because you know, not to use like reverse
psychology or whatever, but hey, look, you know, hey, we
do this right in front of you, like nothing to
see here. It's like, no, there's probably more to see
here maybe, but and again I hate to be the
paranoid guy, but like I don't like this whatsoever.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Thank you so much for calling. Have a great day.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Think you too.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I think Holly might be a dirty boy.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
Man. Hey Titus, I love that name. How are you doing, Titus,
I'm doing awesome.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
How are you? Good morning, Titus?
Speaker 3 (09:41):
Good morning man. Thanks for being part of the thirteen.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
What say you?
Speaker 9 (09:45):
I'm saying that if you don't set a boundary, h
then there's everything limitless and it's going to to get worse.
Speaker 7 (09:52):
Oh so, if you don't set a boundary that this
is unacceptable.
Speaker 6 (09:55):
All this love w if he touchy feely?
Speaker 3 (09:59):
No, yes, someone just texted something similar, saying, hey, they're
testing their limits to see how far they can go
right in front of you, right, which.
Speaker 9 (10:06):
Is gonna be worse if you don't set a boundary.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Yeah. I mean, I think guys one.
Speaker 9 (10:11):
Hundred miles people can pull around and full around, but
I mean they're they're doing it right in front of
you like that. Now you got to set a boundary
this and this is the only guy who already can't
be friends.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Well now I don't know about that, but but I
in this particular case, this sounds more than friendly. Yeah,
thank you, Titus, have a good day.
Speaker 10 (10:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
I don't agree with that, but I will say, uh,
it's nuanced. I mean not in every case there's there's
I think it's you have to look at each one individually.
But I do believe that a man and a woman
can be friends, and even if there's sexual interest on
one side or both, it doesn't mean that line is crossed. Like,
I think it's fair for him to be in a
relationship with this woman that we just spoke to and
(10:51):
maybe think that her friend is hot or want to
get with her friend in some fantasy world, but not
because he's got a girlfriend and and he loves her
and he wants to be with her and he doesn't
want to jeopardize that. But I also think that you
can have those because that's always the argument is, well,
men and women can't be friends because because there's a
sexual element. Well maybe there is, but that doesn't mean
you cross it doesn't mean you go there and do it.
Speaker 5 (11:12):
Yeah, it's also different with like friends, you like guy
friends she brings into the relationship and then your own
best friend becoming so close with your man, like there
is a boundary if it's your.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Friend's man as opposed to like your own guy friend.
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (11:26):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (11:26):
And I think it's fair for her to say, hey, look,
I'm glad you guys are tight, but like it, I
really it's kind of embarrassing to me, you know what
I mean, Like people are starting to ask questions I'm
trying to get random to I don't know, like it
doesn't it doesn't seem appropriate. I think that's fair. It
would be fair for her to say that. I agree, Hey, Justin,
how you doing? Stay or go?
Speaker 6 (11:46):
Oh, good morning, guys, I say go. From personal experience,
it's never like actually happened to me. But I've been
part of friend groups where you could see like one
person's boyfriend or girlfriends it's really friendly with the significant
other's friends, and then you always later on find out
it's because they were messing around. So like I've always witnessed,
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it never happens to me, You've never done it. But
from every experience I've seen and never ended good.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
Yeah, thank you, Justin, have a good day, have a
good big ice. Yeah. I don't know, Hey Dylan, how
you doing?
Speaker 7 (12:23):
Hey, how you doing?
Speaker 1 (12:24):
Friend dealing man, there go.
Speaker 7 (12:27):
Oh man, you know, I'm pretty sure that she should
just go on a couple of reasons. It sounds like
the boyfriend's probably trying to play on both sides of
you know, flipping both sides of the coin here. As
I know that as man, we get called out for
being a little oblivious sometimes and whatnot. But I can
almost guarantee you that he knows what he's doing. Guarantee
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you that knows what he's doing too.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Well.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
This is a bad deal too, because she stands to
lose him at her friend and this because you know,
odds are they break up and watch those two get
together in fect This is a real well no, no,
you're right, but it doesn't make any less painful to
figure it out that way. Yeah, you're right. It's always
nice to know that someone's not really your friend. But
then you know, that's a double that's double your morning twice. Now,
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thank you, Dylan, have a good day, man, glad you called.
Thanks for listening. Hey, Samantha, Yes, hi, there go.
Speaker 10 (13:22):
I'm saying go, but maybe there should be a discussion.
Has she even told them that she's uncomfortable. That's one
of the big things because if they're both like saying
that nothing's going on, and maybe she is just you know, worried.
Speaker 7 (13:36):
For no reason.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
But well, then see how gasolit they you know, how
much she gets gasling. Because if they both just over
the top, were like, what do you mean this is normal?
It's not so, then I think that might be a tell.
And if they go, oh wow, you know what, you're right,
and and then there seems to be like a change
in behavior that's that's palatable and and quick, then I
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maybe maybe maybe the.
Speaker 10 (13:59):
Reaction was tell them everything, you know, like I mean,
if he's apologizing that she feels this way and validating
her feelings and things change going forward, maybe that's different.
But they do sound a little dirty doing that kind
of stuff in front of her.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Yeah, no, it's it's this doesn't look good. Thank you, Samantha,
have a good day.
Speaker 10 (14:19):
Thanks.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
I love you that.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Yeah, I love you too. Glad you called.
Erica, Good morning, how you doing?
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Good morning are how are you guys?
Speaker 3 (00:05):
Erica, Welcome to the show Starego. So you're calling about
your boyfriend Hobby, not to be confused with Javier, ma'am,
who is palling his husband. I don't think that's your boyfriend.
I think it's a different guy.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Speak of now or forever holds your place.
Speaker 3 (00:18):
But what's going on with this this guy Hovey, who's
your boyfriend who's not palling his husband?
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Yes, so I need your advice. Like I've been dating Hobby.
It's almost been a year to actually be a year
this Friday, and my best friend Cynthia like had gotten
really close to Hobby. Like they're close to the point
where you know, like they call each other bro and sis,
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and like she'll like put him in a headlock and
like they'll Joe go round and like I just don't
know because the other day, like we were all at
the pool and stuff, and like Hobby goes to like
pick Cynthia up and jump in the pool with her,
and I'm just.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Like, why are you holding her like that? Like it's
it's a little like putting my intentnas up.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
He gave her CPO that she didn't need.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
She wasn't finishing movie, she wasn't in peril, but he
was doing chess co bread.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
I'm sorry. I'm sorry, Eric, I'm sorry. I'm sorry.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
They're rough housing in the pool and it's okay. So
you're like, all right, and so they're having a good time.
They seem very close to one another, Like what other
kind of stuff they're doing.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Yeah, like they just like joke all day and just
like little insiders that I didn't even know that they
had with each other kind of thing, Like it's just
a little too close for comfort.
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Okay, it's all right. So you're watching, So you meet
this guy and you guys get into a relationships. He
then becomes close with your friend after that. Yeah, so
they didn't know each other before. It wasn't like they
introduced you or something.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Oh like I introduced Simse to him.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
Okay, So now they're closed and they're rough housing in
the pool, which in.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
Itself sounds headlocks and stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (02:17):
We're to say, all right, so look, I mean, and
you have concern about this, like you're starting to think,
well that they seem a little too close.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Well yeah, and then also like I got a d
m on ig the other day where it was from
a random page and they were just kind of like,
that's not your friend.
Speaker 3 (02:38):
So you got a message from like an egg it's
like like an insider.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
Yeah, I mean you got a message him a.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Fake profile saying like you should watch out because that
that to me is that to me is extremely suss
Like that's that sounds like somebody who is in the
no trying to tell you something.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Yeah, like I didn't. It wasn't a real page, so
I just don't know who it was. But I'm just
like I don't know about this guy, like you know, it's.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
It's almost a year and I'm just like questioning her
question to check your.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Girl, right.
Speaker 5 (03:14):
So I was just about to say, I do. One
of my friend's husbands is more of a touchy guy.
I do think it's really situational, but she doesn't care.
I don't care, and I know nothing whatever happen. It's
more him like he's touchy with me in a not
like a sexual way. So and he's completely innocent. So
I do think there's situation. I'm trying to think of.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
A situation where I've ever like grabbed any of my
friend's wives or girlfriend and like throwing them in the
pool or so I don't think.
Speaker 5 (03:39):
Stands together like and she thinks it's funny, like she'll
take videos and he'll like spin me around.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
But we're not like making out.
Speaker 3 (03:44):
And I'm not one of these people that just automatically
assumes that everybody who like is close with somebody else
that male female, that's baby, there must be something nefarious
going on. But I will say, like this is this
is really comfortable. And now there's a random DM some
of a fake profile is telling you that you should
watch out Like that seems to me like that's somebody
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in your life or or his life or someone that
sounds to make somebody in the know trying to warn
you about something, because what are the odds of that?
Speaker 6 (04:15):
I know.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
And it's like me and her have been friends like
since high school days, so I don't want to believe
that she would, you know, like be shady behind my
back or anything.
Speaker 1 (04:25):
But she likes with all your boyfriends.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
No, that's the thing. She like, we I've had since
like yeah, like sleepover days, you know, And it's just
like I don't understand what's going on.
Speaker 3 (04:41):
Has he made any suggestion of like the three of
you or anything any weird stuff like that. Like No,
an only reason I say that is not I'm not
trying to be like salacious. I'm saying, has he expressed
any form of interest in her that goes outside the
bounds of friendship?
Speaker 1 (04:55):
In whatever form?
Speaker 7 (04:58):
I mean?
Speaker 2 (04:59):
The only thing, like I can remember is we were
all over at my house for like a game night,
and I told her to kind of like leave, you know,
like she was kind of like overstaying her welcome when
it was just us.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
Girl she was hoping to bed friend. Yeah, oh no,
it's giving like this is a blacker Why this is happening?
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Yeah, this does not seem good to right and the
random stranger dmaking.
Speaker 1 (05:29):
Really, it's like, what are the odds? Jersey Shore. Someone
wrote a lett the first night I own Erica. I
don't like this. This gives me the ick.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
But let me take some phone calls on this and
we'll see what anybody, Because we're joking about a lot
of different stuff here, but this does seem, as somebody
said on the text, that all jokes aside, this is
sus for sure, no kidding eighty A dirty boy.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Man, it's my hobby.
Speaker 8 (05:55):
If my husband ever grabbed one of you guys and
straddled you and read.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
The wor he did that one time. Straddle had run
into the pool one time.
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Last time we were at the pool together all of us,
and he strattled me. I thought that was weird. But
I don't want to settle. And I was like, whoa,
what's going on? And then you wanted me to come
down to the basement alone with the bobble hands like
this is let me, let me take some phocals on this,
have the radio on im. I just does not just
(06:29):
seems bad. Thank you, Eric, have a good day.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
Like I think you Yeah, I feel that.
Speaker 8 (06:38):
When okay, I think that when a man has interest
in something else or someone else, I should say, I
think that there's like certain actions that are that are
then happening, you know what I mean. I think like Rufio,
you and I are friends, but I don't ever see you.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
Like trying to like push me into a pool and
like me hanging out. That's exactly something rufe I would do.
We don't do.
Speaker 8 (07:01):
Like like I don't know like this sexual no not.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
So like that's what I don't know. He's trying to
change the cabbage in your bra for you was weird.
He's hungry.
Speaker 8 (07:14):
No, I I just feel like typically, like you know,
like I don't know. When men do certain things, I
feel like a lot of it can be for a reason.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
That's That's all I'm gonna say.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
And especially no, when men do certain things, it can
be for a reason.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Yes, he's interested more about this.
Speaker 8 (07:35):
I think it's more flirty in certain situations, like if
someone's husband. I think that's the keyword, right, someone's husband,
someone's person.
Speaker 3 (07:42):
I would say unsolicited high level of comfort touching is
concerning to me, Like I don't know, and.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
I hate to be this guy because I'm I'm not the.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Guy who's out there like everything's cheating and and I
don't believe that everyone's you know whatever. But like you're right,
I think there's certain things where it just it displays
a level of comfort that you have to ask, why
are you so damn comfortable?
Speaker 1 (08:03):
Good point, That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 5 (08:05):
Roughhousing as adults is also weird, Like I'm not like
getting in like a new gi as you said, No
one's calling me sis. Yeah, my guy friends like they'll
hug me when they see me, but they're not throwing
me anywhere?
Speaker 1 (08:18):
How do you say? Your name? Is it Malise? I'm Malise?
Good morning? How you doing? What do you stay or go?
Speaker 3 (08:24):
This woman is saying that her boyfriend and her and
her female best friend seem awfully close. And then there's
just a strange twist in all this, which is a
random DM from a source unknown saying, hey, watch out,
so someone whow where that's coming from?
Speaker 7 (08:41):
If I ever got the hate girl message, it's to go.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
Yep, oh, the hate girl message. No one must receive that.
I'm married, And if my husband was doing that.
Speaker 7 (08:52):
While we were dating, I would.
Speaker 6 (08:53):
Have been gone a long time ago.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Yeah, I mean number one for me.
Speaker 3 (08:57):
I wouldn't necessarily love what's going on with out the DM.
The DM almost confirms the suspicion in some ways, because
who would take the time to do that unless they
need something, you know.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
And it's a whole touching like it's they're so comfortable
doing that in front of you there.
Speaker 7 (09:14):
I think they're doing.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Something yeah, because you know, not to use like reverse
psychology or whatever, but hey, look, you know, hey, we
do this right in front of you, like nothing to
see here. It's like, no, there's probably more to see
here maybe, but and again I hate to be the
paranoid guy, but like I don't like this whatsoever.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Thank you so much for calling. Have a great day.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
Think you too.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I think Holly might be a dirty boy.
Speaker 3 (09:35):
Man. Hey Titus, I love that name. How are you doing, Titus,
I'm doing awesome.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
How are you? Good morning, Titus?
Speaker 3 (09:41):
Good morning man. Thanks for being part of the thirteen.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
What say you?
Speaker 9 (09:45):
I'm saying that if you don't set a boundary, h
then there's everything limitless and it's going to to get worse.
Speaker 7 (09:52):
Oh so, if you don't set a boundary that this
is unacceptable.
Speaker 6 (09:55):
All this love w if he touchy feely?
Speaker 3 (09:59):
No, yes, someone just texted something similar, saying, hey, they're
testing their limits to see how far they can go
right in front of you, right, which.
Speaker 9 (10:06):
Is gonna be worse if you don't set a boundary.
Speaker 1 (10:08):
Yeah. I mean, I think guys one.
Speaker 9 (10:11):
Hundred miles people can pull around and full around, but
I mean they're they're doing it right in front of
you like that. Now you got to set a boundary
this and this is the only guy who already can't
be friends.
Speaker 3 (10:22):
Well now I don't know about that, but but I
in this particular case, this sounds more than friendly. Yeah,
thank you, Titus, have a good day.
Speaker 10 (10:30):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
I don't agree with that, but I will say, uh,
it's nuanced. I mean not in every case there's there's
I think it's you have to look at each one individually.
But I do believe that a man and a woman
can be friends, and even if there's sexual interest on
one side or both, it doesn't mean that line is crossed. Like,
I think it's fair for him to be in a
relationship with this woman that we just spoke to and
(10:51):
maybe think that her friend is hot or want to
get with her friend in some fantasy world, but not
because he's got a girlfriend and and he loves her
and he wants to be with her and he doesn't
want to jeopardize that. But I also think that you
can have those because that's always the argument is, well,
men and women can't be friends because because there's a
sexual element. Well maybe there is, but that doesn't mean
you cross it doesn't mean you go there and do it.
Speaker 5 (11:12):
Yeah, it's also different with like friends, you like guy
friends she brings into the relationship and then your own
best friend becoming so close with your man, like there
is a boundary if it's your.
Speaker 1 (11:23):
Friend's man as opposed to like your own guy friend.
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (11:26):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (11:26):
And I think it's fair for her to say, hey, look,
I'm glad you guys are tight, but like it, I
really it's kind of embarrassing to me, you know what
I mean, Like people are starting to ask questions I'm
trying to get random to I don't know, like it
doesn't it doesn't seem appropriate. I think that's fair. It
would be fair for her to say that. I agree, Hey, Justin,
how you doing? Stay or go?
Speaker 6 (11:46):
Oh, good morning, guys, I say go. From personal experience,
it's never like actually happened to me. But I've been
part of friend groups where you could see like one
person's boyfriend or girlfriends it's really friendly with the significant
other's friends, and then you always later on find out
it's because they were messing around. So like I've always witnessed,
(12:10):
it never happens to me, You've never done it. But
from every experience I've seen and never ended good.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
Yeah, thank you, Justin, have a good day, have a
good big ice. Yeah. I don't know, Hey Dylan, how
you doing?
Speaker 7 (12:23):
Hey, how you doing?
Speaker 1 (12:24):
Friend dealing man, there go.
Speaker 7 (12:27):
Oh man, you know, I'm pretty sure that she should
just go on a couple of reasons. It sounds like
the boyfriend's probably trying to play on both sides of
you know, flipping both sides of the coin here. As
I know that as man, we get called out for
being a little oblivious sometimes and whatnot. But I can
almost guarantee you that he knows what he's doing. Guarantee
(12:49):
you that knows what he's doing too.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
Well.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
This is a bad deal too, because she stands to
lose him at her friend and this because you know,
odds are they break up and watch those two get
together in fect This is a real well no, no,
you're right, but it doesn't make any less painful to
figure it out that way. Yeah, you're right. It's always
nice to know that someone's not really your friend. But
then you know, that's a double that's double your morning twice. Now,
(13:13):
thank you, Dylan, have a good day, man, glad you called.
Thanks for listening. Hey, Samantha, Yes, hi, there go.
Speaker 10 (13:22):
I'm saying go, but maybe there should be a discussion.
Has she even told them that she's uncomfortable. That's one
of the big things because if they're both like saying
that nothing's going on, and maybe she is just you know, worried.
Speaker 7 (13:36):
For no reason.
Speaker 3 (13:37):
But well, then see how gasolit they you know, how
much she gets gasling. Because if they both just over
the top, were like, what do you mean this is normal?
It's not so, then I think that might be a tell.
And if they go, oh wow, you know what, you're right,
and and then there seems to be like a change
in behavior that's that's palatable and and quick, then I
(13:58):
maybe maybe maybe the.
Speaker 10 (13:59):
Reaction was tell them everything, you know, like I mean,
if he's apologizing that she feels this way and validating
her feelings and things change going forward, maybe that's different.
But they do sound a little dirty doing that kind
of stuff in front of her.
Speaker 3 (14:15):
Yeah, no, it's it's this doesn't look good. Thank you, Samantha,
have a good day.
Speaker 10 (14:19):
Thanks.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
I love you that.
Speaker 1 (14:20):
Yeah, I love you too. Glad you called.
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