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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The show is on.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
It's stay or go. Mike is here. Good morning, Mike.
How you doing. Welcome, Hey guys.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
And I'm doing all right. I'm just not sure what
to do.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Oh look at this guy. He sounds truly distraught. Well,
this is what we're here for. We're here to comment
on your life. What's going on Mike with you? This
is your wife, the situation with your wife? Yeah, yeah, yeah,
So what's the name.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
So yeah, I work in construction and she works from
home in a corporate job.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
So when we moved in together, we agreed she would.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Handle like the laundry, the cooking, and some other little
things around the house. So she's home all day and
I go to work and construction heavy labor. But for
a while now she's been slipping, like she agreed to
do these things and she's not doing anymore. And when
we talk about it, she reminds me like, hey, we
both work. Just because I work from home doesn't mean
(00:59):
you know all this time to do this stuff. And
I'm like, you're at home typing, and you know.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
It goes like that, It goes like that, Yeah, she's
at home type right, No, No, she's so she's at home
not necessarily exerting herself the way that you are in
your opinion, exactly.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
I mean between calls she be could it's like throwing
a laundry or cook some food.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
That's all she's going anywhere.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Exactly. Yeah, Mike, I don't know. You may not have
a home crowd he or like. Okay, but but here now,
in fairness, I'm trying, Mike. You guys agreed to this though,
or did you? Did you have a conversation about this?
Did you guys agree and and like a division of
labor that you discussed.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
We did agree upon this, and she did it for
a little while, but lately she has been slipped.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
And I can't get it across to her.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
We always have arguments. And look, I make way more
money than she does. I pay like all the bills.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
You should hire a housekeeper or you know, you should
hire some help, and she makes so much money.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Exactly, I'm ready for Mike.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
I'm sorry. I had a very little sympathy for you. Bruh,
I really do.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Okay, but and again I'm scared but you you guys,
I want to be clear about this. You sat down.
This isn't just your expectation. This isn't just I'm the man,
and when I come home from my construction job with
my dirty hens, you know, I need a meal on
the table and my laundry done or whatever. Like you
(02:45):
guys sat down and said, Okay, look, I'm going to
do this and you're going to do that. What do
you do aside from your job? Do you do anything
to help around the house or did you just determine
that she was going to do all of that.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
I mean, I need time to do decompressed when I
get home. It's long days. I work ten twelve hour days.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
So you decided you're not going to do any of that.
I mean, I make the good bills, Sue, Oh oh,
oh No, I.
Speaker 5 (03:13):
Mean I am going to say construction is a very
difficult job.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I'm just adding that in there. I'm not saying. I'm
not saying anything else in the agreement that they had.
I guess I love it.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
I appreciate my wife, and we talked about this before
and she did it for a while, but now she's slipping.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
I mean, maybe she doesn't want to feel like she's
your maid. Maybe maybe that's what's going on. Maybe she
agreed to it, but maybe it's time to reassess a
little bit. Maybe you guys sit down and talk a
little bit more about it and say, hey, look, this
stuff's not getting done. We talked about you doing it.
It doesn't seem like you want to do it anymore.
Like maybe have the demand of your job has it changed?
(03:56):
I mean, you know, how do we do this? Why
not communicate what.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
We are communicating?
Speaker 3 (04:01):
And I'm fuster I'm extremely frustrated because it's just arguing
back and forth.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Oh God, she doesn't want to do her anymore.
Speaker 6 (04:08):
You don't have kids, right, Mike, you don't have kids, right?
Speaker 1 (04:16):
No, no kids.
Speaker 6 (04:17):
Okay, that's a good thing in the situation, because I
feel like the day that happens, she'sn't the what your
wife or your girlfriend. It's gonna be expected to do
all of this. I'm telling you right now, she'd be
expected to work. She'll be expected to do like laundry,
feed the kids, all these things. Get I'm ready for bed,
bath time. Like you're not really giving equal partner right now.
And I know construction is difficult. You work outside, she's inside,
but you both are still working.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
She wants to decompressed too.
Speaker 6 (04:38):
After she's done typing.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Exactly, but like she and she's not just sitting on
her butt doing nothing. You're saying she has a corporate job.
She has a job.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Correct, Yes she does. It's a corporate job.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Okay, So, but what I mean is just because she
works from home doesn't mean she's not working. It doesn't
mean that. Yes, I suppose she could put laundry in,
you know, between calls or whatever. I guess she could
do that, But I mean she also has she going
to lose your physical labor.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
Bruh, She's doing mental labor. That's even that's even worse. Sometimes,
like I would love to go hold the sign sometimes
a little stop sign, rather than have to.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
No real life.
Speaker 7 (05:22):
Guard.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
I would be anything some days other than working from home.
Let me tell you something. I was one of these.
My God was like you before I worked from home.
I thought work working from home was the biggest luxury.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
You don't know that.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Hell, so you are in it when your house is
your job, and your job is your house, and there
is no escape. So if she's at home all day working,
imagine closing her laptop and stopping typing to only come
home to now work for you as well, it's too
much and if you make so much money, sir, I
would highly suggest you hiring some help for your wife
so that you guys can have a healthy balance in
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your relationship.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
This is what about this? What about this? What if
you like? What if she just quits your job and
that becomes her job is to manage the house? Not
that I'm not that I think she would be fulfilled
by that, because that's done something. Maybe she would be
It sounds like she wouldn't like that, But is is
that an option? If it's like, Look, I can't manage
all of this because I still do have an obligation
to my job if I expect to keep it, because
they expect me to work and not do and not
(06:16):
iron your shirts. So my question to you is, what
if she comes to you and says, or what if
you go to her and say, quit your job? I
make enough money for both of us, but I do
expect that you're gonna clean the house and make food.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
That's that's an option, because I really think she hates
her job.
Speaker 5 (06:33):
I mean, one is physically taxing, one is mentally taxing.
But they're both taxing and they should both be looked
at equally.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Yes, let me take some phone calls. Mike, I don't
think this is going to go well for you, but
I wish you the best and thank you for calling, you,
for listening.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
I appreciate you.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Yeah, eight three five, you can call it text the
same number. I mean she Yeah. If in fact they
sat down and discussed this and and that's her part
of it, Hey, I'm gonna I agree to do this
and that and then it's not happening, then it's probably
worthy of a conversation. But they're married. He loves her,
(07:10):
he should want her to be happy and fulfilled. Maybe
she's not fulfilled doing his laundry and wiping his butt,
and so they need to sort of reassess, and he
needs to communicate that as opposed to just expecting it,
because he didn't seem he didn't say no, but he
didn't seem all that into the idea of her not working.
Because again, I think homemaking quote unquote or managing a
(07:30):
house is a job in itself.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
Right, or like maybe the over the weekend, if he's
so you know, burnt out, then he can do all
the housework or I don't know, they need to work
something out because he can't put it.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
All on Tammy. How you doing, Tammy? Hey y'all.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
Girl, Hey friend, Hey, Mike, get me upset.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I'm sorry, Yeah, Twitch, listen, I'm working from home.
Speaker 4 (07:56):
I'm in it.
Speaker 8 (07:57):
Okay, someday I can't even showered.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
That's how awesome.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
So me, this job is and if you got kids,
is over with.
Speaker 8 (08:06):
I have opened so many kids, y'all have.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
I to chill out.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
My needs to chill and grow up.
Speaker 8 (08:17):
And it's your goal for Mike, stay or go from
homebir she needs to.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
Get out of it.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
I agree with that. I agree with them. I think everybody,
everybody just assumes that staying at home is the better
of the two options. But we've talked about this before.
I have friends who who they're out working all day
and they're in this case, their wife is at home
and you know, taking the kids to school, making lunches,
cleaning the house, doing all the errands and whatever, and
(08:43):
then dude comes home. In this case, I mean, you
can be reverse of course. Dude comes home and then
he wants to like kick back, and his wife is like, no,
you got kids, you got stuff to do, and he's like,
but I've been out all day, and she's like what
I wouldn't give to be out all day, you know
what I mean. So I think everyone thinks that it's
great her on the other side, but yet you've got
to compromise because yes, it's hard work doing twelve hours
(09:06):
of construction, but it's also you know, she has a
job and she's doing it. Little Washington his underwear too,
and I guess not well enough. So yeah, and this
dude doesn't seem like he's maybe the best communicator either.
So there's that.
Speaker 8 (09:21):
Get no.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Thank you, Tammy. I love it. This reminds me that
Dave Chappelle's git when he's with Wayne Brady and the
hose come up and run. Wayne and Brady have to
smack it. Aaron, How you doing, Aaron?
Speaker 4 (09:49):
Oh?
Speaker 9 (09:50):
Yeah, Hi, how you doing? Hey?
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Good morning, Welcome. What do you want to say?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Good morning?
Speaker 9 (09:55):
Yes, I would say I know you know, last caller
was kind of mad at Mike, but uh, he definitely
the communication needs to be open, kind of what everyone
is saying and just hear everyone's side. It's like you said,
the workload maybe increased on her end, and he doesn't
have a clear understanding. He just keeps saying she's flipping.
But why is that. Another thing is too, I would
(10:17):
recommend anyone hiring help if you can afford it, since
he's making good money. But it definitely takes a lot
of the like his expectations of her doing all this.
If you have a you know, a cleaning lady or
you're getting your grass cut, it just kind of takes
that expectation off of that person. I agree for them
(10:39):
doing it, and even if things aren't getting done to
his like standard, if you're having a cleaning lady, it's
like it's it's off that personal like, you know, you
have that personal connection to them, the cleaning lady. If
you have to tell her, hey, something's I've done right,
you know you're paying her, so it's easier to do that.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Yeah, man, it makes sense. Thank you, Aron, have a
good day. Glad you called. That's another thing too, is
like who knows, maybe they had the conversation. Again, I'm
trying to see the other side here. It's very hard.
I try to we try and be balanced, you know,
but uh, you know, maybe they had a conversation where
he was like, well, let's hire He doesn't sell like
this kind of guy, but it's like, hey, let's hire
someone and she's like, no, let's save the money. And
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if she said that and then stuff's not getting done,
then I think he could go back and say, look,
we offered to hire, I offered to pay for somebody.
We talked about this, and you said you didn't want
to spend the money because you're going to do it, Well,
then you have to do it. But again, I doesn't
I think he would have mentioned that if that weren't
the case, because I could see that where it's like, look,
you don't have to do this, we can get someone
to do it, but maybe you don't want that person
(11:39):
in your space. Maybe you don't want to pay that
we don't want to spend the money. You want to
spend the money on something else, that's fine. But then
if you're saying you're going to do it, then we
got to get it. It has to get done.
Speaker 9 (11:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
I mean this goes back to my whole like we
can never say must be nice thing, because until you've
worked someone's job, you really just don't know. I mean
people think and we have, you know, relatively easy jobs,
but people think we just talked, talk, talk and have
the best time and leave, but the hours are hard,
you know it does take a lot out of you
to be on, you know, especially if you're going through, like,
you know, a death in the family or something. So
(12:09):
everybody's job is hard in its own ways, and it's
very dangerous to argue about that.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
Absolutely, y'all. Yeah, No, I know. Morning they wake up,
they're done talking about team. They got the rest of
their day. Oh, how I apologize, Thank you, keeping I'm
so sorry.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
I've been waiting for that apology for something you used
to say to me all the time in the hallway
out here. Thank you for that apology. Been waiting for that. Tiffany,
Good morning, Tiffany, good morning. What do you want to
if you're just tuning in, by the way, stare go
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This dude, he's upset because his wife, he's a construction worker,
he's out, you know, doing that. And he says he
makes a lot of money. His wife works from home.
He says that his wife agreed to do a lot
of the household chores and do her at home job,
corporate job. And he says he's not getting done apping,
she's slipping that the home, you know, the work of
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the housework is not getting done, and he's not happy
about it. They did have a conversation. He says that
she did agree to it. What is he supposed to do?
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Well?
Speaker 8 (13:23):
I'm of the opinion that if he has a standard
that is not being upheld, then why don't the two
of them start doing their own chores for a little bit.
She does what's good for her, she does what's good
for him. It's twenty twenty four. You can get laundry service,
you can get groceries delivered. You don't have to do
everything except coordinate it. And if he's making so much
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money and he has these provider vibes, then it shouldn't
be a problem outsourcing. She's not his mommy. He doesn't
get it both ways.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Yeah, yeah, I think you're right, Tiffany. Thank you, have
a good day. Thank you for calling, Thanks for listening. Hey, Jason,
good morning, Jason. Is it mike ye mechanic? He has
a few words he's called himself, Jason, though, Hi, Jason,
what do you want to say?
Speaker 9 (14:16):
Hey?
Speaker 7 (14:16):
Honestly, it shouldn't even be about him staring or going.
She needs to go ahead and go and go quickly
because if this is the way he's acting now, how
is he gonna act when kids are around? For anything
else down the line, like it is ridiculous that this
grown ass man can't cook a dinner, clean up a
little bit, and guarantee she's not happy, and Ben, I
guarantee it.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
You know what, let's go ahead and call this man
a short short man as well. Yeah, that's exactly right.
You know what, Jason, this guy's not putting it down
your dark I agree. Have you heard the men talk
like that? He gave tu pup shop energy? He did? Yeah,
he certainly did, Jason, I agree with you.
Speaker 7 (14:54):
Yeah, he's a grown ass man. He needs the man
up and do do equalnestly.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
He needs to go.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
I agree, Thank you, Jason, have a good day. I
love that. Bafe his number training me on Jason. Yeah,
I think that's if someone texted this. A few people
have texted this, and I think it's right. I think
it's I think it comes down to he probably treats
her like a maid and she's probably over it, and
that's what I think. That's what it probably comes down to,
not that she didn't agree to do it, not that
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she couldn't do some of this stuff. I mean, come on,
you're on a call. You could put launderine I guess
you're on a call. You could do something else. I
get if you agree to that, if that's if that's
what you but the way that he was acting on
that call, if he treats her anywhere like that, with
that energy, then she's probably over it. It's like, you
don't respect what I'm doing. And she's bringing money home too,
and she's.
Speaker 4 (15:41):
Probably already beating herself up about this already because I
remember working from home and Big Tim would come back
back and I would hear the car pull up, and
I would hurry up and go do something like I
was busy, you know, like, oh, let me get up
and act like I'm cleaning. Yeah, because because in your
mind you think this person is home all day, there's
no excuse. But like until you hear that little Microsoft team,
(16:02):
you don't.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Know the shruggle, right, I used to think pre COVID. Honestly,
if you had told me, I've said this so many times,
if you had told me Fred, here's the deal. We're
gonna put everything you need in your house and you
can do the show and you don't have to leave
your house. You'll do anything, I would have thought that
was the greatest thing ever until it happens. And then
we did that for about three days and we're like, nope, no,
not having it. Couldn't do it, not having no eggs
(16:25):
in the air once that's what did you. Yeah we
were on the air. Yeah, yeah, we were on the air. Yeah.
I made eggs. That's where we were at. It was like,
please bring me back to the office. I'm really glad
that we came in just to wear my eggs. I'm hungry.
I'd enjoyed it, The entertainber reports the next Fred's show,
The show is on.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
It's stay or go. Mike is here. Good morning, Mike.
How you doing. Welcome, Hey guys.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
And I'm doing all right. I'm just not sure what
to do.
Speaker 2 (00:11):
Oh look at this guy. He sounds truly distraught. Well,
this is what we're here for. We're here to comment
on your life. What's going on Mike with you? This
is your wife, the situation with your wife? Yeah, yeah, yeah,
So what's the name.
Speaker 3 (00:26):
So yeah, I work in construction and she works from
home in a corporate job.
Speaker 1 (00:33):
So when we moved in together, we agreed she would.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Handle like the laundry, the cooking, and some other little
things around the house. So she's home all day and
I go to work and construction heavy labor. But for
a while now she's been slipping, like she agreed to
do these things and she's not doing anymore. And when
we talk about it, she reminds me like, hey, we
both work. Just because I work from home doesn't mean
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you know all this time to do this stuff. And
I'm like, you're at home typing, and you know.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
It goes like that, It goes like that, Yeah, she's
at home type right, No, No, she's so she's at home
not necessarily exerting herself the way that you are in
your opinion, exactly.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
I mean between calls she be could it's like throwing
a laundry or cook some food.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
That's all she's going anywhere.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Exactly. Yeah, Mike, I don't know. You may not have
a home crowd he or like. Okay, but but here now,
in fairness, I'm trying, Mike. You guys agreed to this though,
or did you? Did you have a conversation about this?
Did you guys agree and and like a division of
labor that you discussed.
Speaker 3 (01:55):
We did agree upon this, and she did it for
a little while, but lately she has been slipped.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
And I can't get it across to her.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
We always have arguments. And look, I make way more
money than she does. I pay like all the bills.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
You should hire a housekeeper or you know, you should
hire some help, and she makes so much money.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Exactly, I'm ready for Mike.
Speaker 4 (02:19):
I'm sorry. I had a very little sympathy for you. Bruh,
I really do.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
Okay, but and again I'm scared but you you guys,
I want to be clear about this. You sat down.
This isn't just your expectation. This isn't just I'm the man,
and when I come home from my construction job with
my dirty hens, you know, I need a meal on
the table and my laundry done or whatever. Like you
(02:45):
guys sat down and said, Okay, look, I'm going to
do this and you're going to do that. What do
you do aside from your job? Do you do anything
to help around the house or did you just determine
that she was going to do all of that.
Speaker 1 (02:58):
I mean, I need time to do decompressed when I
get home. It's long days. I work ten twelve hour days.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
So you decided you're not going to do any of that.
I mean, I make the good bills, Sue, Oh oh,
oh No, I.
Speaker 5 (03:13):
Mean I am going to say construction is a very
difficult job.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
I'm just adding that in there. I'm not saying. I'm
not saying anything else in the agreement that they had.
I guess I love it.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
I appreciate my wife, and we talked about this before
and she did it for a while, but now she's slipping.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
I mean, maybe she doesn't want to feel like she's
your maid. Maybe maybe that's what's going on. Maybe she
agreed to it, but maybe it's time to reassess a
little bit. Maybe you guys sit down and talk a
little bit more about it and say, hey, look, this
stuff's not getting done. We talked about you doing it.
It doesn't seem like you want to do it anymore.
Like maybe have the demand of your job has it changed?
(03:56):
I mean, you know, how do we do this? Why
not communicate what.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
We are communicating?
Speaker 3 (04:01):
And I'm fuster I'm extremely frustrated because it's just arguing
back and forth.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Oh God, she doesn't want to do her anymore.
Speaker 6 (04:08):
You don't have kids, right, Mike, you don't have kids, right?
Speaker 1 (04:16):
No, no kids.
Speaker 6 (04:17):
Okay, that's a good thing in the situation, because I
feel like the day that happens, she'sn't the what your
wife or your girlfriend. It's gonna be expected to do
all of this. I'm telling you right now, she'd be
expected to work. She'll be expected to do like laundry,
feed the kids, all these things. Get I'm ready for bed,
bath time. Like you're not really giving equal partner right now.
And I know construction is difficult. You work outside, she's inside,
but you both are still working.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
She wants to decompressed too.
Speaker 6 (04:38):
After she's done typing.
Speaker 2 (04:40):
Exactly, but like she and she's not just sitting on
her butt doing nothing. You're saying she has a corporate job.
She has a job.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Correct, Yes she does. It's a corporate job.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Okay, So, but what I mean is just because she
works from home doesn't mean she's not working. It doesn't
mean that. Yes, I suppose she could put laundry in,
you know, between calls or whatever. I guess she could
do that, But I mean she also has she going
to lose your physical labor.
Speaker 4 (05:06):
Bruh, She's doing mental labor. That's even that's even worse. Sometimes,
like I would love to go hold the sign sometimes
a little stop sign, rather than have to.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
No real life.
Speaker 7 (05:22):
Guard.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
I would be anything some days other than working from home.
Let me tell you something. I was one of these.
My God was like you before I worked from home.
I thought work working from home was the biggest luxury.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
You don't know that.
Speaker 4 (05:32):
Hell, so you are in it when your house is
your job, and your job is your house, and there
is no escape. So if she's at home all day working,
imagine closing her laptop and stopping typing to only come
home to now work for you as well, it's too
much and if you make so much money, sir, I
would highly suggest you hiring some help for your wife
so that you guys can have a healthy balance in
(05:53):
your relationship.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
This is what about this? What about this? What if
you like? What if she just quits your job and
that becomes her job is to manage the house? Not
that I'm not that I think she would be fulfilled
by that, because that's done something. Maybe she would be
It sounds like she wouldn't like that, But is is
that an option? If it's like, Look, I can't manage
all of this because I still do have an obligation
to my job if I expect to keep it, because
they expect me to work and not do and not
(06:16):
iron your shirts. So my question to you is, what
if she comes to you and says, or what if
you go to her and say, quit your job? I
make enough money for both of us, but I do
expect that you're gonna clean the house and make food.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
That's that's an option, because I really think she hates
her job.
Speaker 5 (06:33):
I mean, one is physically taxing, one is mentally taxing.
But they're both taxing and they should both be looked
at equally.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Yes, let me take some phone calls. Mike, I don't
think this is going to go well for you, but
I wish you the best and thank you for calling, you,
for listening.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
I appreciate you.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Yeah, eight three five, you can call it text the
same number. I mean she Yeah. If in fact they
sat down and discussed this and and that's her part
of it, Hey, I'm gonna I agree to do this
and that and then it's not happening, then it's probably
worthy of a conversation. But they're married. He loves her,
(07:10):
he should want her to be happy and fulfilled. Maybe
she's not fulfilled doing his laundry and wiping his butt,
and so they need to sort of reassess, and he
needs to communicate that as opposed to just expecting it,
because he didn't seem he didn't say no, but he
didn't seem all that into the idea of her not working.
Because again, I think homemaking quote unquote or managing a
(07:30):
house is a job in itself.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
Right, or like maybe the over the weekend, if he's
so you know, burnt out, then he can do all
the housework or I don't know, they need to work
something out because he can't put it.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
All on Tammy. How you doing, Tammy? Hey y'all.
Speaker 4 (07:47):
Girl, Hey friend, Hey, Mike, get me upset.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I'm sorry, Yeah, Twitch, listen, I'm working from home.
Speaker 4 (07:56):
I'm in it.
Speaker 8 (07:57):
Okay, someday I can't even showered.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
That's how awesome.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
So me, this job is and if you got kids,
is over with.
Speaker 8 (08:06):
I have opened so many kids, y'all have.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
I to chill out.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
My needs to chill and grow up.
Speaker 8 (08:17):
And it's your goal for Mike, stay or go from
homebir she needs to.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
Get out of it.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
I agree with that. I agree with them. I think everybody,
everybody just assumes that staying at home is the better
of the two options. But we've talked about this before.
I have friends who who they're out working all day
and they're in this case, their wife is at home
and you know, taking the kids to school, making lunches,
cleaning the house, doing all the errands and whatever, and
(08:43):
then dude comes home. In this case, I mean, you
can be reverse of course. Dude comes home and then
he wants to like kick back, and his wife is like, no,
you got kids, you got stuff to do, and he's like,
but I've been out all day, and she's like what
I wouldn't give to be out all day, you know
what I mean. So I think everyone thinks that it's
great her on the other side, but yet you've got
to compromise because yes, it's hard work doing twelve hours
(09:06):
of construction, but it's also you know, she has a
job and she's doing it. Little Washington his underwear too,
and I guess not well enough. So yeah, and this
dude doesn't seem like he's maybe the best communicator either.
So there's that.
Speaker 8 (09:21):
Get no.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Thank you, Tammy. I love it. This reminds me that
Dave Chappelle's git when he's with Wayne Brady and the
hose come up and run. Wayne and Brady have to
smack it. Aaron, How you doing, Aaron?
Speaker 4 (09:49):
Oh?
Speaker 9 (09:50):
Yeah, Hi, how you doing? Hey?
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Good morning, Welcome. What do you want to say?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
Good morning?
Speaker 9 (09:55):
Yes, I would say I know you know, last caller
was kind of mad at Mike, but uh, he definitely
the communication needs to be open, kind of what everyone
is saying and just hear everyone's side. It's like you said,
the workload maybe increased on her end, and he doesn't
have a clear understanding. He just keeps saying she's flipping.
But why is that. Another thing is too, I would
(10:17):
recommend anyone hiring help if you can afford it, since
he's making good money. But it definitely takes a lot
of the like his expectations of her doing all this.
If you have a you know, a cleaning lady or
you're getting your grass cut, it just kind of takes
that expectation off of that person. I agree for them
(10:39):
doing it, and even if things aren't getting done to
his like standard, if you're having a cleaning lady, it's
like it's it's off that personal like, you know, you
have that personal connection to them, the cleaning lady. If
you have to tell her, hey, something's I've done right,
you know you're paying her, so it's easier to do that.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
Yeah, man, it makes sense. Thank you, Aron, have a
good day. Glad you called. That's another thing too, is
like who knows, maybe they had the conversation. Again, I'm
trying to see the other side here. It's very hard.
I try to we try and be balanced, you know,
but uh, you know, maybe they had a conversation where
he was like, well, let's hire He doesn't sell like
this kind of guy, but it's like, hey, let's hire
someone and she's like, no, let's save the money. And
(11:19):
if she said that and then stuff's not getting done,
then I think he could go back and say, look,
we offered to hire, I offered to pay for somebody.
We talked about this, and you said you didn't want
to spend the money because you're going to do it, Well,
then you have to do it. But again, I doesn't
I think he would have mentioned that if that weren't
the case, because I could see that where it's like, look,
you don't have to do this, we can get someone
to do it, but maybe you don't want that person
(11:39):
in your space. Maybe you don't want to pay that
we don't want to spend the money. You want to
spend the money on something else, that's fine. But then
if you're saying you're going to do it, then we
got to get it. It has to get done.
Speaker 9 (11:48):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (11:48):
I mean this goes back to my whole like we
can never say must be nice thing, because until you've
worked someone's job, you really just don't know. I mean
people think and we have, you know, relatively easy jobs,
but people think we just talked, talk, talk and have
the best time and leave, but the hours are hard,
you know it does take a lot out of you
to be on, you know, especially if you're going through, like,
you know, a death in the family or something. So
(12:09):
everybody's job is hard in its own ways, and it's
very dangerous to argue about that.
Speaker 4 (12:13):
Absolutely, y'all. Yeah, No, I know. Morning they wake up,
they're done talking about team. They got the rest of
their day. Oh, how I apologize, Thank you, keeping I'm
so sorry.
Speaker 2 (12:31):
I've been waiting for that apology for something you used
to say to me all the time in the hallway
out here. Thank you for that apology. Been waiting for that. Tiffany,
Good morning, Tiffany, good morning. What do you want to
if you're just tuning in, by the way, stare go
(12:52):
This dude, he's upset because his wife, he's a construction worker,
he's out, you know, doing that. And he says he
makes a lot of money. His wife works from home.
He says that his wife agreed to do a lot
of the household chores and do her at home job,
corporate job. And he says he's not getting done apping,
she's slipping that the home, you know, the work of
(13:13):
the housework is not getting done, and he's not happy
about it. They did have a conversation. He says that
she did agree to it. What is he supposed to do?
Speaker 1 (13:23):
Well?
Speaker 8 (13:23):
I'm of the opinion that if he has a standard
that is not being upheld, then why don't the two
of them start doing their own chores for a little bit.
She does what's good for her, she does what's good
for him. It's twenty twenty four. You can get laundry service,
you can get groceries delivered. You don't have to do
everything except coordinate it. And if he's making so much
(13:46):
money and he has these provider vibes, then it shouldn't
be a problem outsourcing. She's not his mommy. He doesn't
get it both ways.
Speaker 2 (13:56):
Yeah, yeah, I think you're right, Tiffany. Thank you, have
a good day. Thank you for calling, Thanks for listening. Hey, Jason,
good morning, Jason. Is it mike ye mechanic? He has
a few words he's called himself, Jason, though, Hi, Jason,
what do you want to say?
Speaker 9 (14:16):
Hey?
Speaker 7 (14:16):
Honestly, it shouldn't even be about him staring or going.
She needs to go ahead and go and go quickly
because if this is the way he's acting now, how
is he gonna act when kids are around? For anything
else down the line, like it is ridiculous that this
grown ass man can't cook a dinner, clean up a
little bit, and guarantee she's not happy, and Ben, I
guarantee it.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
You know what, let's go ahead and call this man
a short short man as well. Yeah, that's exactly right.
You know what, Jason, this guy's not putting it down
your dark I agree. Have you heard the men talk
like that? He gave tu pup shop energy? He did? Yeah,
he certainly did, Jason, I agree with you.
Speaker 7 (14:54):
Yeah, he's a grown ass man. He needs the man
up and do do equalnestly.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
He needs to go.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
I agree, Thank you, Jason, have a good day. I
love that. Bafe his number training me on Jason. Yeah,
I think that's if someone texted this. A few people
have texted this, and I think it's right. I think
it's I think it comes down to he probably treats
her like a maid and she's probably over it, and
that's what I think. That's what it probably comes down to,
not that she didn't agree to do it, not that
(15:22):
she couldn't do some of this stuff. I mean, come on,
you're on a call. You could put launderine I guess
you're on a call. You could do something else. I
get if you agree to that, if that's if that's
what you but the way that he was acting on
that call, if he treats her anywhere like that, with
that energy, then she's probably over it. It's like, you
don't respect what I'm doing. And she's bringing money home too,
and she's.
Speaker 4 (15:41):
Probably already beating herself up about this already because I
remember working from home and Big Tim would come back
back and I would hear the car pull up, and
I would hurry up and go do something like I
was busy, you know, like, oh, let me get up
and act like I'm cleaning. Yeah, because because in your
mind you think this person is home all day, there's
no excuse. But like until you hear that little Microsoft team,
(16:02):
you don't.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Know the shruggle, right, I used to think pre COVID. Honestly,
if you had told me, I've said this so many times,
if you had told me Fred, here's the deal. We're
gonna put everything you need in your house and you
can do the show and you don't have to leave
your house. You'll do anything, I would have thought that
was the greatest thing ever until it happens. And then
we did that for about three days and we're like, nope, no,
not having it. Couldn't do it, not having no eggs
(16:25):
in the air once that's what did you. Yeah we
were on the air. Yeah, yeah, we were on the air. Yeah.
I made eggs. That's where we were at. It was like,
please bring me back to the office. I'm really glad
that we came in just to wear my eggs. I'm hungry.
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