May 1, 2025 • 8 mins
Devin is confused why his date won't call him back after he had a great time at his date... Find out why he got ghosted!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fredshell Davin.
Good morning, welcome to the program. How are you very well?
Devin's got a deep voice. Hig, Devin, Let's hear about
this date that you went on with Jackie is her name.
We got to know kind of all the background, how
you met, about the date or dates, and then where
(00:22):
you guys stand right now?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Okay, Well, I met Jackie actually on a dating app,
and we decided we're going to go out to dinner.
So we had like a dinner date, and I already
liked her. We have it such a good time or laughing,
and I don't know, out of nowhere, she just completely
ghosted me. And I'm just kind of confused because we
talked about, like during our date, going on another date,
(00:45):
and she said like she wanted to go. But then
when I cut out of contact her, so I don't
get any response.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Okay, I mean, I guess some people are forward enough
to say hey, I'm not interested, and some people might
kind of dodge it, you know, and say oh yeah,
yeah yeah, and then ghost you, which isn't cool, but
you know, who knows. But you look back on this
date and you feel like it all went great. I mean,
the communication was good. You know, weird topics. You didn't
bring up, like any kind of you know, crazy ass
(01:10):
political view or some sort of sado masochism that you're into,
or like, I mean, just honestly, like you look back
and you say this was a good date.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
There should be another day.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Yeah, yeah, I mean I those are my best behavior.
We had such a good time. Like, there's nothing could
have been wrong.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Okay, you don't have a pet snake collection, you don't.
You didn't lie about your job. I mean, this is
everything went straightforward and on the up and up.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
All right, Well let's I'm gonna play one song. We'll
come back in a couple of minutes. We'll call Jackie.
You'll be on the phone. We'll ask some questions. At
some point you're welcome to jump in, and you know,
our hope is that we can straighten this out, figure
out what's going on, set you guys up on another date,
and pay for that one, which we never have to do.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
So it'll be a very nice date if it happens.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
I'm good.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Can you hang out for a second, going to be
right back. Okay, let's see what's going on.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Part two of waiting by the phone after the chain
Smoker's back into minutes. You've got to hear this The
Fred Show, The Fred Show on the radio, and the
iHeart app live each morning and catch up anytime. Search
for The Fred Show on demand. Devin, All right, let's
call Jackie. You guys met on a dating app. You
went on a date, you thought it went great, good chemistry.
You talked about a second date, except she's not responding
(02:18):
to you. You've reached out to her, called her, texted
or whatever to plan the state, and she's nowhere to
be found.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
And you want to know why you're being ghosted. Let's
call her right now? Good luck? Hello?
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Hi is this Jackie? Yes, Hi, Hey Jackie, good morning.
My name is Fred. The whole crew is here from
the Fred Show. I'm sorry to bother you, but I
do have to tell you that we are on the
radio right now. I would need your permission to continue
with the call. Is it okay if we talked for
a couple of minutes?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Oh okay. I know it's weird.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I don't know if you've heard this before, maybe not,
but we're calling on behalf of a guy named Devin
who says he met you on a dating app and
you guys recently went on a date. Devin, Yeah, okay,
all right, Well, so what happened with this guy? Because
he called us sounds like a nice enough guy. They
usually do, but there's always something. Nonetheless, he said that
(03:14):
he thought the date went great, he likes you, felt
good chemistry.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
He says that you.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Guys even talked about going out again, and apparently now
you're not responding to him.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
So what's going on?
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Oh that's the story he's going with.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Oh okay, okay, that's the story. Then that's not all
of it. No, we did go on a date.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
I mean, he was nice and the date went well,
I thought, and I would have been happy to go
out with him again.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
But after our date, what he didn't tell.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
You is he texts me and asks me.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
If I would drag him to his colonoscopy.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Oh okay, I mean because they put you under for that,
you know, so you need someone to to well, you
need someone to pick you up, I know. Yeah, So
he's not gonna drive, right, yeah? Okay?
Speaker 3 (04:02):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
All right, so you've met him once one date, and
yet he wants you to go you know, help him
out with a kolonoscopy. Okay, and you you think that
you think that's a little intrusive. It's a little too
too much, too soon.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
Not just that he wanted to stay at my house
the night before because his appointment was like early or something,
so he wanted to stay at my house.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Oh wait, but this person that I just met. But
there's the crip.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
You offer that work and I can then take him
to his coina.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Who whoa, whoa, whoa what I'm the chauffeur.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
I've not had one yet, but I from what I kaling,
you have. From what I understand, you know they got
you got to clean yourself out before they go looking
around in there with a camera. So you gotta drink
some potion or whatever, and then you poop for like
half a day, right, a long time?
Speaker 4 (04:48):
Oh yeah, picking laxatives like NonStop. I don't want someone
some stranger blowing.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
Up my bathroom.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
So it's one thing to ask someone to drive you
to an appointment. That's one thing. I mean, that's one thing.
It's a whole different thing to say that you got
to do the prep and all that stuff. I mean,
my I think that's alone time. I think I need
to be on my own for that. Let me bring
in Devon. I forgot to mention that Devon is here. Dude,
you were you were comfortable going over to her house
(05:16):
doing what you got to do to get ready for
this colonoscopy and then having her drive you. Now one
part of you is like, this isn't sexy.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
I mean I had to get my medical procedure done.
I mean I don't understand what the deal is. And
we have such a good time. I mean, it.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Had so much fun that you wanted to Let me
tell you.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
When I'm when I'm having a great time on a date,
when I'm thinking, is is this woman gonna let me
crap at her house?
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Right? Like excessively? It's real bad. I don't know if
you've had one before, but it's real bad.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
And I don't do you not have a friend or
like a like a mom or an aunt or like
an uncle or something? I hate, Like, I hope you
do have all those things, but there's nobody else in
your life who you don't hope to have a romance relationship.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
You want to do that for you.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Nobody lives here in town. So it's like I need
needed to help and she was very caring, very giving.
You mean, she said she'd like to help people out.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
It's a stretched maybe somebody would drive you. Maybe that's
a little weird too, But let me come over the
day before and do the whole deal.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
No, no, no, we.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Have a really really, really good time.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Though, you know, so three time one, thank Kevin. You
want to ruin it.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
That was our one date.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Only your moments to fall in love if I just.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Like, uh, and then a few moments to talk to.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
Me like a housewife and your mom all in one, Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
I mean, I'm sorry you don't have anybody else to
do this for you, but I probably wouldn't ask somebody
to on the first date, uh or or at least
for the Hey, for our second date, I'm gonna pooh everywhere,
and then you're gonna drive me to Michael and askaby
which which good on you for you know, being responsible
and checking on your uh your clon health, you know.
(07:02):
But but that might be something that you do privately.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
But the door would have been closed, I mean, like
I would have been going to the bathroom, he.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Would have closed sim it's loud, you're.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
But he would have closed the door and you know,
I bet he even would have ran the sink. That's thoughtful,
you're gonna Oh no, I think it's it's a little
personal for someone that you don't know that well. And remember,
you eventually want this person to do other things with you,
and they don't even know you, and and now they're
going to be thinking about that. I just I don't know.
I think that was a misjudgment on your part. But okay, Jackie,
(07:35):
would you would you consider, you know, maybe give this
guy another chance? I mean, so it wasn't a good call.
I guess he thought he was falling in love. You
could be his soulmate. And if you'd driven him to
the colonoscopy, that would have confirmed it. I guess which
it which it probably would have. Yeah, will you give
him another shot? Though, Jackie?
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Uh No, I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Okay, it was a reach. It was too personal, it
was too much and okay, made you feel uncomfortable and
maybe maybe this guy's you know, moving at a different speed. Yeah, Okay.
Did everything go okay with the kolonoscopy? I hope everything
went well if it already happened, Yeah, I mean things
are good? Oh good, good, glad to hear it.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
How was that prep?
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:16):
And by the way, now that you've done the prep,
can you you really don't think that that were weird
to do at someone else's house.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
I mean, in my opinion, it wasn't that bad. Yeah,
a lot, but there was.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
Yeah, it was.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
It was a method.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
So okay, guys, look, thank you for your time, and
I wish you both the best of luck. The Entertainment
Report and four hundred and fifty bucks in the Showdown
Versus Kiki five questions will play next Fred's show back
in two
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fredshell Davin.
Good morning, welcome to the program. How are you very well?
Devin's got a deep voice. Hig, Devin, Let's hear about
this date that you went on with Jackie is her name.
We got to know kind of all the background, how
you met, about the date or dates, and then where
(00:22):
you guys stand right now?
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Okay, Well, I met Jackie actually on a dating app,
and we decided we're going to go out to dinner.
So we had like a dinner date, and I already
liked her. We have it such a good time or laughing,
and I don't know, out of nowhere, she just completely
ghosted me. And I'm just kind of confused because we
talked about, like during our date, going on another date,
(00:45):
and she said like she wanted to go. But then
when I cut out of contact her, so I don't
get any response.
Speaker 1 (00:50):
Okay, I mean, I guess some people are forward enough
to say hey, I'm not interested, and some people might
kind of dodge it, you know, and say oh yeah,
yeah yeah, and then ghost you, which isn't cool, but
you know, who knows. But you look back on this
date and you feel like it all went great. I mean,
the communication was good. You know, weird topics. You didn't
bring up, like any kind of you know, crazy ass
(01:10):
political view or some sort of sado masochism that you're into,
or like, I mean, just honestly, like you look back
and you say this was a good date.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
There should be another day.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Yeah, yeah, I mean I those are my best behavior.
We had such a good time. Like, there's nothing could
have been wrong.
Speaker 1 (01:26):
Okay, you don't have a pet snake collection, you don't.
You didn't lie about your job. I mean, this is
everything went straightforward and on the up and up.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (01:36):
All right, Well let's I'm gonna play one song. We'll
come back in a couple of minutes. We'll call Jackie.
You'll be on the phone. We'll ask some questions. At
some point you're welcome to jump in, and you know,
our hope is that we can straighten this out, figure
out what's going on, set you guys up on another date,
and pay for that one, which we never have to do.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
So it'll be a very nice date if it happens.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
I'm good.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Can you hang out for a second, going to be
right back. Okay, let's see what's going on.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Part two of waiting by the phone after the chain
Smoker's back into minutes. You've got to hear this The
Fred Show, The Fred Show on the radio, and the
iHeart app live each morning and catch up anytime. Search
for The Fred Show on demand. Devin, All right, let's
call Jackie. You guys met on a dating app. You
went on a date, you thought it went great, good chemistry.
You talked about a second date, except she's not responding
(02:18):
to you. You've reached out to her, called her, texted
or whatever to plan the state, and she's nowhere to
be found.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
And you want to know why you're being ghosted. Let's
call her right now? Good luck? Hello?
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Hi is this Jackie? Yes, Hi, Hey Jackie, good morning.
My name is Fred. The whole crew is here from
the Fred Show. I'm sorry to bother you, but I
do have to tell you that we are on the
radio right now. I would need your permission to continue
with the call. Is it okay if we talked for
a couple of minutes?
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Oh okay. I know it's weird.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I don't know if you've heard this before, maybe not,
but we're calling on behalf of a guy named Devin
who says he met you on a dating app and
you guys recently went on a date. Devin, Yeah, okay,
all right, Well, so what happened with this guy? Because
he called us sounds like a nice enough guy. They
usually do, but there's always something. Nonetheless, he said that
(03:14):
he thought the date went great, he likes you, felt
good chemistry.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
He says that you.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
Guys even talked about going out again, and apparently now
you're not responding to him.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
So what's going on?
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Oh that's the story he's going with.
Speaker 3 (03:26):
Oh okay, okay, that's the story. Then that's not all
of it. No, we did go on a date.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
I mean, he was nice and the date went well,
I thought, and I would have been happy to go
out with him again.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
But after our date, what he didn't tell.
Speaker 4 (03:45):
You is he texts me and asks me.
Speaker 3 (03:49):
If I would drag him to his colonoscopy.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Oh okay, I mean because they put you under for that,
you know, so you need someone to to well, you
need someone to pick you up, I know. Yeah, So
he's not gonna drive, right, yeah? Okay?
Speaker 3 (04:02):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
All right, so you've met him once one date, and
yet he wants you to go you know, help him
out with a kolonoscopy. Okay, and you you think that
you think that's a little intrusive. It's a little too
too much, too soon.
Speaker 4 (04:14):
Not just that he wanted to stay at my house
the night before because his appointment was like early or something,
so he wanted to stay at my house.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Oh wait, but this person that I just met. But
there's the crip.
Speaker 4 (04:27):
You offer that work and I can then take him
to his coina.
Speaker 3 (04:30):
Who whoa, whoa, whoa what I'm the chauffeur.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
I've not had one yet, but I from what I kaling,
you have. From what I understand, you know they got
you got to clean yourself out before they go looking
around in there with a camera. So you gotta drink
some potion or whatever, and then you poop for like
half a day, right, a long time?
Speaker 4 (04:48):
Oh yeah, picking laxatives like NonStop. I don't want someone
some stranger blowing.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
Up my bathroom.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
So it's one thing to ask someone to drive you
to an appointment. That's one thing. I mean, that's one thing.
It's a whole different thing to say that you got
to do the prep and all that stuff. I mean,
my I think that's alone time. I think I need
to be on my own for that. Let me bring
in Devon. I forgot to mention that Devon is here. Dude,
you were you were comfortable going over to her house
(05:16):
doing what you got to do to get ready for
this colonoscopy and then having her drive you. Now one
part of you is like, this isn't sexy.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
I mean I had to get my medical procedure done.
I mean I don't understand what the deal is. And
we have such a good time. I mean, it.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Had so much fun that you wanted to Let me
tell you.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
When I'm when I'm having a great time on a date,
when I'm thinking, is is this woman gonna let me
crap at her house?
Speaker 3 (05:42):
Right? Like excessively? It's real bad. I don't know if
you've had one before, but it's real bad.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
And I don't do you not have a friend or
like a like a mom or an aunt or like
an uncle or something? I hate, Like, I hope you
do have all those things, but there's nobody else in
your life who you don't hope to have a romance relationship.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
You want to do that for you.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Nobody lives here in town. So it's like I need
needed to help and she was very caring, very giving.
You mean, she said she'd like to help people out.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
It's a stretched maybe somebody would drive you. Maybe that's
a little weird too, But let me come over the
day before and do the whole deal.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
No, no, no, we.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Have a really really, really good time.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Though, you know, so three time one, thank Kevin. You
want to ruin it.
Speaker 4 (06:27):
That was our one date.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
Only your moments to fall in love if I just.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Like, uh, and then a few moments to talk to.
Speaker 4 (06:35):
Me like a housewife and your mom all in one, Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
I mean, I'm sorry you don't have anybody else to
do this for you, but I probably wouldn't ask somebody
to on the first date, uh or or at least
for the Hey, for our second date, I'm gonna pooh everywhere,
and then you're gonna drive me to Michael and askaby
which which good on you for you know, being responsible
and checking on your uh your clon health, you know.
(07:02):
But but that might be something that you do privately.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
But the door would have been closed, I mean, like
I would have been going to the bathroom, he.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Would have closed sim it's loud, you're.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
But he would have closed the door and you know,
I bet he even would have ran the sink. That's thoughtful,
you're gonna Oh no, I think it's it's a little
personal for someone that you don't know that well. And remember,
you eventually want this person to do other things with you,
and they don't even know you, and and now they're
going to be thinking about that. I just I don't know.
I think that was a misjudgment on your part. But okay, Jackie,
(07:35):
would you would you consider, you know, maybe give this
guy another chance? I mean, so it wasn't a good call.
I guess he thought he was falling in love. You
could be his soulmate. And if you'd driven him to
the colonoscopy, that would have confirmed it. I guess which
it which it probably would have. Yeah, will you give
him another shot? Though, Jackie?
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Uh No, I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Okay, it was a reach. It was too personal, it
was too much and okay, made you feel uncomfortable and
maybe maybe this guy's you know, moving at a different speed. Yeah, Okay.
Did everything go okay with the kolonoscopy? I hope everything
went well if it already happened, Yeah, I mean things
are good? Oh good, good, glad to hear it.
Speaker 3 (08:15):
How was that prep?
Speaker 2 (08:16):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:16):
And by the way, now that you've done the prep,
can you you really don't think that that were weird
to do at someone else's house.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
I mean, in my opinion, it wasn't that bad. Yeah,
a lot, but there was.
Speaker 3 (08:28):
Yeah, it was.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
It was a method.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
So okay, guys, look, thank you for your time, and
I wish you both the best of luck. The Entertainment
Report and four hundred and fifty bucks in the Showdown
Versus Kiki five questions will play next Fred's show back
in two
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