Waiting by the Phone: He Still Sleeps In My Bed!

Iris is confused why her date won't call her back after having a really good night out... Find out why she got ghosted!

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(00:47):
to the program. How are you good?

Speaker 1 (00:50):
How are you with jewing? Great?

Speaker 2 (00:51):
Thanks for being here. What's going on with this dude, Matt?
We gotta know how you met about any dates you've
been on? Give us some context, some backstory, all day
good stuff, and then what's going on now?

Speaker 3 (01:03):
Yeah, saying thank you? So, yeah, we we met on
we met online. We met on Facebook dating.

Speaker 1 (01:10):
Actually, so about that one too often? I heard there's
a lot of people on there though, Yeah, you know,
is it? Like, I don't.

Speaker 2 (01:20):
I don't know how I know this, but I saw
that there was a part on there that you can
make it. You don't know anybody like it will never
pop up in anyone that you know. Oh that's a
good idea. Not that anyone will be surprised to see
me in any form of a dating app. I mean,
I'm single, but I guess if you weren't single and
you were trying to poke around on I think anyway. Okay,
so Facebook dating, we don't hear a lot about that,
but you you.

Speaker 1 (01:41):
You met someone on there?

Speaker 4 (01:43):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (01:43):
No, And and like actually went out on a date,
which is rare. Like meeting someone you know online and
then actually having it results in a in a real
life bait feels uh, feels pretty rare.

Speaker 1 (01:57):
So why is it rare? Do you not dat very much?
Or why? Why is it rare for you to go
on a date?

Speaker 3 (02:01):
I mean, I feel like dating these days, especially online
dating in general, is really hard to actually meet someone
who wants to meet in real life. I'm also a
single mom, which complicates things, right, so it's like two strikes.

Speaker 1 (02:17):
Yeah, that could be hard to coordinate.

Speaker 2 (02:20):
All right, So you met this guy, you had a
great date, you felt like everything went really well, things
kind of came together, except you have not heard from
him since then, and that's bugging you, as it would anybody.

Speaker 3 (02:31):
Yeah, it feels especially weird because I have to say
it was a pretty great date, Like, it wasn't just okay,
it was a really good date. So to not hear anything,
they have him ghost me after that just feels very odd.
He'd also been really responsive, like up to the date,

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you know what I mean, like as we were planning it,
as we were talking, you know, texting, So I okay, yeah,
it just it feels to go very odd.

Speaker 1 (03:01):
Well, let me call. We're going to play a song.
Come back.

Speaker 2 (03:04):
We'll call Matt. You'll be on the phone. We're going
to ask these questions at some point. You welcome to
jump in on the call and hopefully iris Yes, all right,
let's call Matt. You guys met on Facebook Dating, which
is not a dating app that we hear about very often.

Speaker 1 (03:15):
On waiting by the phone.

Speaker 2 (03:16):
But you guys connected, you went out, you had great conversation,
you really felt like the date went well, and you
don't date a whole lot, so you were excited about
the prospect here. But you have not heard from this
guy since the date, and you want to know.

Speaker 1 (03:30):
Why that is it? All right, let's call him now?
Good luck, Iris, Thank you.

Speaker 2 (03:44):
Hi. This is Matt. Hey mag good morning. My name
is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred's Show, the Morning
radio Show, and I have to tell you that we
are on the radio right now and I would need
your permission to continue with the call.

Speaker 1 (03:55):
Can whichat for just a second on the show? Uh?

Speaker 2 (03:59):
Yeah, I mean it's a little weird. You said you're
a radio show. I know it's a little awkward. Thanks
for listening, by the way, But no, we're calling on
behalf of a woman named Iris, who I guess you
met recently on uh maybe on Facebook dating or something,
and then you guys went on a date.

Speaker 5 (04:16):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I went out with her.

Speaker 1 (04:19):
What's right going on?

Speaker 5 (04:20):
What's a question here?

Speaker 1 (04:21):
Okay? Oh? We love bossing over here.

Speaker 2 (04:26):
Okay, Well, she called us Matt and told us I
had a lot of nice things to say about you.
Said that she enjoyed meeting you and enjoyed the date
and was hoping to hear from you again. Says you
were very communicative before the date and and she's confused
as to why you haven't reached out and responded to
her since you guys went out.

Speaker 1 (04:44):
Uh yeah, okay, I mean it's okay.

Speaker 5 (04:47):
It's a little awkward, but look, uh, you know, Iris
was was really nice. I mean I really liked her
when we were talking on Facebook dating. We went on
the date, the conversation was good. I mean, we had
good answer you know, and she's gorgeous. She's absolutely beautiful.

Speaker 1 (05:03):
Uh, the problem this all checks out. What's the problem? Then? Yeah, okay.

Speaker 5 (05:07):
I knew that she's a single mom, you know, and
she doesn't get out much for the dating. So but
that didn't bother me, you know. I it was fine
hearing her talk about her son. She was very proud,
and I was totally fine. At the end of the date,
you know, we were I drove her home. We were
kissing in my car before we you know, kind of

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said goodbye and things were getting hot and heavy. But
then she told me, like, okay, well, Unfortunately I can't.

Speaker 1 (05:36):
I wish I could bring you up.

Speaker 5 (05:36):
But my son sleeping in my bed. Okay, okay, and
when I you know, she she's yeah, she said her
son was sleeping in her bed. But she already told
me that her son is seventeen and in high school

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and he sleeps in bed with her every night.

Speaker 1 (06:00):
So I'm bad.

Speaker 2 (06:02):
Oh no, it's because in my mind where it's in
my bed, I'm like, oh, mom's out of your kids five, six,
seven years old, somebody that you know mom's in yeah, yeah,
oh boy, okay.

Speaker 1 (06:13):
Oh my, if we want to go down this head
so anyway, like.

Speaker 5 (06:21):
You guys agree here that.

Speaker 1 (06:23):
Seventeen year old sign, I didn't know where this is going.
I didn't know.

Speaker 2 (06:28):
I didn't know if maybe you're going to wind up
in like the kids bed or something like. I didn't
know where this was going. Because okay, no, no, let
me bring iris in.

Speaker 1 (06:38):
I got iris. You have a lot of explaining to do.

Speaker 2 (06:40):
Girl, Like your seventeen year old son sleeps in your
bed and you're there.

Speaker 3 (06:45):
Yes, he does, there is. Look, it's it's complicated, sounds
like it, you know. I feel like when you're a parent,
they're certain saying that you have to do for your
child and what would be.

Speaker 1 (07:01):
For the issue.

Speaker 5 (07:03):
Though, if your seventeen year old sleeps in your bed
every night, that's a big issue.

Speaker 2 (07:07):
I don't immediately take this to like a criminal place
or anything like that. It's in my mind's not well.
I mean, we live in a Yeah, sadly, this is
the world we live in. But I guess I'm really
concerned about boundaries here, Like seventeen years old, there's quite
the attachment. I mean, what happens I mean, what is

(07:29):
he a junior in high school? Senior in high school? No? Yeah,
I mean like what yeah, Like what happens when it's
time to go to college and move out and things
like that.

Speaker 1 (07:38):
I mean, it seems like, you know, help me out here.

Speaker 3 (07:42):
The first of all, he's a he's a rising senior.

Speaker 4 (07:45):
Second of all, look, I'm not I'm not trying to
get feisty here, but I'm very surprised that that's the reason,
especially because you're you're not a parent, and you don't
understand and there's a lot.

Speaker 3 (08:03):
Of history and context here that I'm not going to
go into about.

Speaker 4 (08:07):
My son's needs and well.

Speaker 3 (08:13):
That that would be a deal breaker. For you how
I choose to parent my child.

Speaker 1 (08:18):
Wait a minute, you can't.

Speaker 2 (08:20):
Honestly, no one's judging you or whatever your story is,
but you can't possibly tell me that that is something
that someone who you're going to date would find to
be you know, commonplace, and like, so what happens if
this relationship goes somewhere? We have to he has to
be out of the house then, like, because he's taking
your spot in the bed, Like the dude, what do

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you do the things?

Speaker 3 (08:42):
If things were to progress, it would be a while
before you meet my son, for you know, obvious reasons.
I'm very protective of him. I thought that was understood
in terms of like intimacy. There are ways to work
around that. Bedtime is our special time. But you know,

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their afternoon, their mournings, there are other.

Speaker 1 (09:13):
I can't.

Speaker 5 (09:14):
I'm sorry, guys, I can't. I mean, this is this
is the dilemma, and I think that I am going
to withhold the judgment.

Speaker 1 (09:24):
But just on, we're going to get into studies now.

Speaker 2 (09:28):
I'm not sure, honest I don't know if this is
the Sun's thing or the moms.

Speaker 1 (09:32):
I don't know who, Like, there's a whole lot going
on yeah, I don't.

Speaker 2 (09:35):
And I'm sorry for whatever you've been through or however
we got here genuinely, But I can also, in fairness,
I can see why somebody from the outside would look
at this and say, where do I fit in? Oh?

Speaker 3 (09:46):
I mean, I would just think, especially because we did
have such a great date and you did seem really
supportive of me being a single bomb, which I don't know,
maybe that.

Speaker 1 (09:56):
Was, maybe that was but uh no, Yeah, you are welcome.

Speaker 5 (10:04):
You're thinking of me as a bad guy, but I'm
I'm just doing what I know is right for me.

Speaker 1 (10:10):
Yeah, I think I understand that.

Speaker 5 (10:11):
You're Yeah, I'm sorry, Max, somebody finds it understandable I
and I totally support that you are supportive of your son,
just not in that way. And granted, like you said,
I'm not a parent myself, but I think that I
am justified in not wanting to be a part of

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that situation.

Speaker 1 (10:34):
There's a lot of.

Speaker 2 (10:38):
Okay, honestly, I'm not even gonna argue with you, but
so it's not for Matt Iris. I'll ask the question, Matt,
would you like to go out with her again? We'll
pay for it a hotel room too. I don't know
in the middle of the day.

Speaker 1 (11:00):
Look, iris I, I'm.

Speaker 2 (11:03):
I wish you the best, and I just you know,
I don't, I don't, I don't, I don't know, don't
I don't know, I don't know.

Speaker 1 (11:08):
I just don't.

Speaker 2 (11:09):
I don't know. I don't know. And so that's not
he's not going to be interested. Uh And iris, I
wish you the best in whatever's going on. And uh
and and thank you so much for sharing with us.