April 16, 2025 • 10 mins
Hudson is confused why Lauren won't text him back after exchanging flirty DMS... Find out why Hudson got ghosted!
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Friend Show.
Had some good morning, Welcome to the program. How are
you good? How you doing doing all right? Man? What's
going on with this woman Lauren? We kind of need
the whole backstory. How did you meet? Tell us about
any dates you've been on? And then why do you
think you're being ghosted? Because that's what we're here to do,
is try and figure out what's going on.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
So I met her on Instagram and like I just
came across her page and thought she was really cute,
and uh, you know, I like a few photos or
whatever and followed her, and she followed me back, and
we just started like messaging. Eventually got her number, and
you know, we had a date planned, but we actually
(00:43):
never went because one morning, like I woke up and
she was blocked, like her whole thing was blocked, Like
I was blocked, number was blocked.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
I was like, what the hell? You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Like, so, I, uh, I don't know, I need some
help trying to figure this.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
So you slid in the DMS like you don't know
this person at all. You just she popped up on
for you or whatever, and you're like she's hot. So
you you know, you followed, got the followed back. I
know how this works. You know you got to follow,
you get the follow back, You send the DM, the
dms are going okay, and then you uh set up
this date, but it's not gonna happen because you got
blocked all of a sudden. So how do you go
from never meeting someone to being blocked?
Speaker 2 (01:21):
That's what I want to Like, I mean, I didn't
even have the date, you know what I mean? Like,
I'm so confused, like you you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
I don't know what happened. Well, no, I don't know.
It just never happened to me. But but I will
say I have You know, I've had conversations go go quiet,
and you it's bothering you because you go back. You
look like I didn't say anything, I didn't do anything,
Like what's going on here? What happened? So let's see
if we can figure this out. We're gonna call Lauren.
You'll be on the phone. We're gonna ask these questions
on your behalf. And the hope is always is that
(01:49):
we can straighten this out and then set you guys
up on I guess what will be the first date
you can meet for the first time, and we'll pay
for it. Okay, let's see what's going on. Pardon two
waiting at the phone, Lowly Young. We're back in two minutes.
It's the Fred Show. Stay right there, Lowly Young. Fred
Show on the radio on the iHeart app Live and anytime,
sir to put a Fred Show on de man make
us a pre set. Hey Hudson, Yeah, welcome back. Let's
(02:11):
call Lauren. You guys up. Well, you kind of met
on Instagram. You wound up following each other and then
you sent the DM and you were chatting and you
asked her out and she accepted, and you kind of
had a plan except then all of a sudden you
find yourself blocked and you're like, wait a minute, how
do we go from you know, flirty dms and planning
dates to being blocked exactly? Okay, let's call her now
(02:34):
and try and figure this out. Good luck, Hudson, thank you. Hello.
Hi is this Lauren?
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Yes, this is Lauren.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Hey Lauren, good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling
for the Fred Show, the morning radio show, and I
have to tell you that we are on the radio
and I would need your permission to continue with the call.
I said, okay, if we chat for just a second,
you can hang up anytime. Sure, I mean, why am
I on the radio?
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Oh it's kind of cool.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Yeah, the whole crew is here and we'll see if
it's cool in just a second. But thank you for
taking the time. We're calling on behalf of a guy
who says he's slipping your DMS and you guys were
talking about going out. His name is Hudson. Do you
remember this guy? Oh?
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Yeah, I remember him.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Okay, So he called us and he told us that
he I guess you popped up on his for you
or something, and he followed you and you followed him back,
and you DMed and he asked you out, and that
was all going well, and you guys are planning a
date and then he says he got blocked and he
doesn't know why. Now find it hard to believe that
he doesn't know why, But he doesn't know why. So
what happened? So?
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I mean, I thought we hit it off really well.
We had good banter, similar interest that he was cute.
You know, I was kind of excited for the date
as well. But then I found out that he actually
started messaging my best friend on Instagram, like a few
days after he messaged me, and I'm just like, what
the heck? Like that was a huge turn off. It
(03:58):
seems like you're trying to date me and my best
friend at the same time.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
We call that cal in the bees. Do you think
he knew that or do you think he was? I mean,
in all fairness, do you think he was just going
after hot girls on Instagram?
Speaker 3 (04:14):
I think he had to have known because we have
photos together on my Instagram.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Oh okay, now that is a rookie move. You know
you gotta go. Look, you can't. You can't fish where
your fish. You can't fish with the fish you just caught,
you know what I mean? Like, you can't. You can't
do that. You can't be trying to talk to somebody
and then also preying on the people from her profile
(04:38):
who were in the pictures with her. Rookie mistake. Who
does that? Okay? I forgot to mention that Hudson is here,
by the way, and he's been very quiet. I'm very forgetful.
I'm sorry. This is you know a problem for me. Hudson.
What are you doing? Is this what happened? You know?
You match with her or not match with her. I
(04:59):
guess you follow her and and you went looking through
her stuff to find more dates.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
No, like I just hold off the sete here like
I didn't do anything wrong, Like I uh, I'm single,
Like we haven't even gone on a date, like I was. Yeah,
I saw like one of Lauren's friends in the photos
and thought she was cute, so I just followed her,
Like what's the big deal?
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Like, Bro, you don't think they talk. You don't think.
I mean, if you're on somebody's Instagram profile, you probably chat.
You don't think that was gonna come up in conversation.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I don't know. I don't think it was a big deal.
That's the same way I found her. I mean I
was just like, you know, it's just liking folks.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
I don't know. Yeah, but wow, here's what happens, Hudson,
And let me tell you exactly what happened. And I
bet Lauren you're gonna tell me. I'm right. So he's
talking to you, and then he goes on your profile
and he finds that hot girl is friends with you,
He requests her, and then the only friends that you
have in common are the two of you. And you
you three. So then she calls her friends. She calls
(05:56):
Lauren and goes, hey, do you know this guy because
he's asking me out? And then Lauren's like, yeah, I
know because he's asking me out too. That's exactly how
that happened, right, does this happen to you?
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Yes? And he's pretty much used the same kind of
game and said the same I mean he said as
almost identical dms.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Like no, see, because I mean, I'm a dummy when
it comes to dating. I'm a dummy, but I know
better than that. I even know better than if I
find someone on a dating app and I see a
girl that I've dated in the photos with the First
of all, we've discussed this but a pet peeve of mine,
and it maybe has saved me before. But don't post
pictures with other men or other women on your dating
(06:31):
profile because you're just asking for someone to be a
more attracted to somebody else in the picture. Make it
about you. It's your profile. But that being said, it
has saved me a few times. We're like, I don't
know that girl, but I know another girl in the picture,
and I'm like, this isn't gonna go well because if
I match with her or try and go out with her,
and then she says to her friends, Oh, I met
I've matched with this guy. Fred he's you know whatever,
It'll never happen because another girl will be like more
(06:53):
than likely. Oh you know, YadA YadA YadA. So so
why why why don't we cast in it a little wider? Hudson,
You're more than welcome to D anybody you want, but like,
why don't we have to DM everybody she knows? I
don't know what's a big deal is.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
That's little, I don't know, a little up type for me.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Okay, now.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
You're pursuing me and trying to date me, and then
you're also doing the same thing to my best friend.
Obviously we're going to talk about it. Not a good
first impression at all, And I don't know if you
want to keep doing that. Go find someone who likes
to play games.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Let's just play Devil's Advocate for a second. I don't
like this this strategy, but let's just say you've never
met the guy you don't know, So let's say you
go out with him first and it works out. Then
he probably won't go out with your friend, and you're
good right, because like, if it works out then you don't,
then he's not going to go out with both of you.
That's not going to work.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I'm sure he would try if he's gonna I think
he would try, right, because you always yeah, wait, so exactly.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I'm not saying anybody should do this, but I'm just saying,
may the best woman win? Oh please? I mean, look,
who's to say that. Who's to say that he's not
compatible with Lauren but not in an inflammatory way, and
he is a better match for her friend. Who's to
(08:12):
say I'm trying to see both sides here. I'm not
saying do this so that I would do this. I
think you're asking for this exact outcome. But let's just
I mean, who's to say that, Lauren, maybe you'd like
the guy, but he's not for you, but he's a
great match for your friend. And so no harm, no foul,
nothing happened, nothing physical. You just sort of say not
for me.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
I mean, I can see where that could happen, but
it's just the fact that he pursued both of us
and it's not something that happened naturally. It's not like
they met and they kind of hit it off. And
it was a better match than me.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Let's go out first, I don't know, to start hitting
on my friends.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
On one day, and then you see if we have chemistry,
I would agree, you know, look at my Instagram for
all my hot times, or.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
How about this? How about this next time? Much? And
just ask him all out to the same date. Just
get him all out, you know, and let's just let's
just rapid fire this thing. We'll just we'll speed date
the whole friend group, and let's see where we wind up,
you know what I mean. Let's get him to compete
for you. Please, God, Hudson's thinking about it. Yeah, do
not do that, Hudson. I don't. I don't recommend that. No,
(09:20):
I'm gonna ask the question, Lauren. I mean he said
he you don't have a problem with what you did, Hudson.
You don't. You don't see the error in your ways.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I think it's that big of a deal, honestly, No, Laura,
I'll ask.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
The question, probably rhetorical, would you like to go out
with him? Would you like to meet him? At least
we'll pay for it, And and just to you, not
your friend, your friend doesn't get to go. No, No,
I'm good.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
I do not want to meet this guy. I'm I'm good.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
Okay, all right, well Hudson back to I G you go,
And let's maybe let's let's just cast a little wider net,
you know. Let's let's let's not target one single friend group.
How about we target lots of friend groups and only
one person of each group. How about that? Isn't that
stage advice? Oh yeah, Oh.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
My god, I think that.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
I don't think he's going. Yeah, you you do seem
you seem like you need a drink. Okay, best of
luck to both of you guys. Thank you for your time.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
The Entertainment Report is next and a hundred bucks Kiki
in the showdown Five questions You've never lost too in
a row? Will today be the day? It's coming up?
Frett Show
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Friend Show.
Had some good morning, Welcome to the program. How are
you good? How you doing doing all right? Man? What's
going on with this woman Lauren? We kind of need
the whole backstory. How did you meet? Tell us about
any dates you've been on? And then why do you
think you're being ghosted? Because that's what we're here to do,
is try and figure out what's going on.
Speaker 2 (00:22):
So I met her on Instagram and like I just
came across her page and thought she was really cute,
and uh, you know, I like a few photos or
whatever and followed her, and she followed me back, and
we just started like messaging. Eventually got her number, and
you know, we had a date planned, but we actually
(00:43):
never went because one morning, like I woke up and
she was blocked, like her whole thing was blocked, Like
I was blocked, number was blocked.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
I was like, what the hell? You know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Like, so, I, uh, I don't know, I need some
help trying to figure this.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
So you slid in the DMS like you don't know
this person at all. You just she popped up on
for you or whatever, and you're like she's hot. So
you you know, you followed, got the followed back. I
know how this works. You know you got to follow,
you get the follow back, You send the DM, the
dms are going okay, and then you uh set up
this date, but it's not gonna happen because you got
blocked all of a sudden. So how do you go
from never meeting someone to being blocked?
Speaker 2 (01:21):
That's what I want to Like, I mean, I didn't
even have the date, you know what I mean? Like,
I'm so confused, like you you know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (01:28):
I don't know what happened. Well, no, I don't know.
It just never happened to me. But but I will
say I have You know, I've had conversations go go quiet,
and you it's bothering you because you go back. You
look like I didn't say anything, I didn't do anything,
Like what's going on here? What happened? So let's see
if we can figure this out. We're gonna call Lauren.
You'll be on the phone. We're gonna ask these questions
on your behalf. And the hope is always is that
(01:49):
we can straighten this out and then set you guys
up on I guess what will be the first date
you can meet for the first time, and we'll pay
for it. Okay, let's see what's going on. Pardon two
waiting at the phone, Lowly Young. We're back in two minutes.
It's the Fred Show. Stay right there, Lowly Young. Fred
Show on the radio on the iHeart app Live and anytime,
sir to put a Fred Show on de man make
us a pre set. Hey Hudson, Yeah, welcome back. Let's
(02:11):
call Lauren. You guys up. Well, you kind of met
on Instagram. You wound up following each other and then
you sent the DM and you were chatting and you
asked her out and she accepted, and you kind of
had a plan except then all of a sudden you
find yourself blocked and you're like, wait a minute, how
do we go from you know, flirty dms and planning
dates to being blocked exactly? Okay, let's call her now
(02:34):
and try and figure this out. Good luck, Hudson, thank you. Hello.
Hi is this Lauren?
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Yes, this is Lauren.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Hey Lauren, good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling
for the Fred Show, the morning radio show, and I
have to tell you that we are on the radio
and I would need your permission to continue with the call.
I said, okay, if we chat for just a second,
you can hang up anytime. Sure, I mean, why am
I on the radio?
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Oh it's kind of cool.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
Yeah, the whole crew is here and we'll see if
it's cool in just a second. But thank you for
taking the time. We're calling on behalf of a guy
who says he's slipping your DMS and you guys were
talking about going out. His name is Hudson. Do you
remember this guy? Oh?
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Yeah, I remember him.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Okay, So he called us and he told us that
he I guess you popped up on his for you
or something, and he followed you and you followed him back,
and you DMed and he asked you out, and that
was all going well, and you guys are planning a
date and then he says he got blocked and he
doesn't know why. Now find it hard to believe that
he doesn't know why, But he doesn't know why. So
what happened? So?
Speaker 3 (03:37):
I mean, I thought we hit it off really well.
We had good banter, similar interest that he was cute.
You know, I was kind of excited for the date
as well. But then I found out that he actually
started messaging my best friend on Instagram, like a few
days after he messaged me, and I'm just like, what
the heck? Like that was a huge turn off. It
(03:58):
seems like you're trying to date me and my best
friend at the same time.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
We call that cal in the bees. Do you think
he knew that or do you think he was? I mean,
in all fairness, do you think he was just going
after hot girls on Instagram?
Speaker 3 (04:14):
I think he had to have known because we have
photos together on my Instagram.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Oh okay, now that is a rookie move. You know
you gotta go. Look, you can't. You can't fish where
your fish. You can't fish with the fish you just caught,
you know what I mean? Like, you can't. You can't
do that. You can't be trying to talk to somebody
and then also preying on the people from her profile
(04:38):
who were in the pictures with her. Rookie mistake. Who
does that? Okay? I forgot to mention that Hudson is here,
by the way, and he's been very quiet. I'm very forgetful.
I'm sorry. This is you know a problem for me. Hudson.
What are you doing? Is this what happened? You know?
You match with her or not match with her. I
(04:59):
guess you follow her and and you went looking through
her stuff to find more dates.
Speaker 2 (05:02):
No, like I just hold off the sete here like
I didn't do anything wrong, Like I uh, I'm single,
Like we haven't even gone on a date, like I was. Yeah,
I saw like one of Lauren's friends in the photos
and thought she was cute, so I just followed her,
Like what's the big deal?
Speaker 1 (05:18):
Like, Bro, you don't think they talk. You don't think.
I mean, if you're on somebody's Instagram profile, you probably chat.
You don't think that was gonna come up in conversation.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I don't know. I don't think it was a big deal.
That's the same way I found her. I mean I
was just like, you know, it's just liking folks.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
I don't know. Yeah, but wow, here's what happens, Hudson,
And let me tell you exactly what happened. And I
bet Lauren you're gonna tell me. I'm right. So he's
talking to you, and then he goes on your profile
and he finds that hot girl is friends with you,
He requests her, and then the only friends that you
have in common are the two of you. And you
you three. So then she calls her friends. She calls
(05:56):
Lauren and goes, hey, do you know this guy because
he's asking me out? And then Lauren's like, yeah, I
know because he's asking me out too. That's exactly how
that happened, right, does this happen to you?
Speaker 3 (06:05):
Yes? And he's pretty much used the same kind of
game and said the same I mean he said as
almost identical dms.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Like no, see, because I mean, I'm a dummy when
it comes to dating. I'm a dummy, but I know
better than that. I even know better than if I
find someone on a dating app and I see a
girl that I've dated in the photos with the First
of all, we've discussed this but a pet peeve of mine,
and it maybe has saved me before. But don't post
pictures with other men or other women on your dating
(06:31):
profile because you're just asking for someone to be a
more attracted to somebody else in the picture. Make it
about you. It's your profile. But that being said, it
has saved me a few times. We're like, I don't
know that girl, but I know another girl in the picture,
and I'm like, this isn't gonna go well because if
I match with her or try and go out with her,
and then she says to her friends, Oh, I met
I've matched with this guy. Fred he's you know whatever,
It'll never happen because another girl will be like more
(06:53):
than likely. Oh you know, YadA YadA YadA. So so
why why why don't we cast in it a little wider? Hudson,
You're more than welcome to D anybody you want, but like,
why don't we have to DM everybody she knows? I
don't know what's a big deal is.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
That's little, I don't know, a little up type for me.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
Okay, now.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
You're pursuing me and trying to date me, and then
you're also doing the same thing to my best friend.
Obviously we're going to talk about it. Not a good
first impression at all, And I don't know if you
want to keep doing that. Go find someone who likes
to play games.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
Let's just play Devil's Advocate for a second. I don't
like this this strategy, but let's just say you've never
met the guy you don't know, So let's say you
go out with him first and it works out. Then
he probably won't go out with your friend, and you're
good right, because like, if it works out then you don't,
then he's not going to go out with both of you.
That's not going to work.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
I'm sure he would try if he's gonna I think
he would try, right, because you always yeah, wait, so exactly.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
I'm not saying anybody should do this, but I'm just saying,
may the best woman win? Oh please? I mean, look,
who's to say that. Who's to say that he's not
compatible with Lauren but not in an inflammatory way, and
he is a better match for her friend. Who's to
(08:12):
say I'm trying to see both sides here. I'm not
saying do this so that I would do this. I
think you're asking for this exact outcome. But let's just
I mean, who's to say that, Lauren, maybe you'd like
the guy, but he's not for you, but he's a
great match for your friend. And so no harm, no foul,
nothing happened, nothing physical. You just sort of say not
for me.
Speaker 3 (08:32):
I mean, I can see where that could happen, but
it's just the fact that he pursued both of us
and it's not something that happened naturally. It's not like
they met and they kind of hit it off. And
it was a better match than me.
Speaker 1 (08:46):
Let's go out first, I don't know, to start hitting
on my friends.
Speaker 3 (08:50):
On one day, and then you see if we have chemistry,
I would agree, you know, look at my Instagram for
all my hot times, or.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
How about this? How about this next time? Much? And
just ask him all out to the same date. Just
get him all out, you know, and let's just let's
just rapid fire this thing. We'll just we'll speed date
the whole friend group, and let's see where we wind up,
you know what I mean. Let's get him to compete
for you. Please, God, Hudson's thinking about it. Yeah, do
not do that, Hudson. I don't. I don't recommend that. No,
(09:20):
I'm gonna ask the question, Lauren. I mean he said
he you don't have a problem with what you did, Hudson.
You don't. You don't see the error in your ways.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
I think it's that big of a deal, honestly, No, Laura,
I'll ask.
Speaker 1 (09:29):
The question, probably rhetorical, would you like to go out
with him? Would you like to meet him? At least
we'll pay for it, And and just to you, not
your friend, your friend doesn't get to go. No, No,
I'm good.
Speaker 3 (09:40):
I do not want to meet this guy. I'm I'm good.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
Okay, all right, well Hudson back to I G you go,
And let's maybe let's let's just cast a little wider net,
you know. Let's let's let's not target one single friend group.
How about we target lots of friend groups and only
one person of each group. How about that? Isn't that
stage advice? Oh yeah, Oh.
Speaker 2 (09:59):
My god, I think that.
Speaker 1 (10:01):
I don't think he's going. Yeah, you you do seem
you seem like you need a drink. Okay, best of
luck to both of you guys. Thank you for your time.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (10:12):
The Entertainment Report is next and a hundred bucks Kiki
in the showdown Five questions You've never lost too in
a row? Will today be the day? It's coming up?
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