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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show. Chris,
Good morning, welcome to the show.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hey, how are you all right? Man?
Speaker 1 (00:10):
It's waiting by the phone. Let's hear what's going on
with this woman? Teresa? How did you meet? Tell us
about any dates that you've been on, and then what's
going on now?
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Yeah, I'm at SISA on Hinge, which is a dating
up most people know about. I had a lot of
luck on Hinge. I thought i'd luck with Theresa. I
met her. We both live in Lincoln Park area and
buildings like literally almost in nice to each other. And
our first date we walked our dogs together. She had
a dog, I have a dog. We both walk them
(00:41):
each morning. So we decided to meet for coffee and
do that together.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Okay, walk with the dogs.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
We got along great, the dogs even like each other.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
What a nice active date. Look at that, you know,
and just going about your routines. Everybody's getting along. This
is so this is very sweet, like a Hallmark movie
or something.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Yeah, something different at least, you know, not the typical movie.
And at dinner her so I thought, you know, conversation
was easy, had a lot in common. You know, I've
felt like we're both inquisitive about or at least I was,
about her life, that, you know, things going on with her,
because my friends told me, you know, in order to
really engage with a woman, we should ask I should
(01:17):
ask about her, you.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Know what she's about, you know, thinking about her as
opposed to a lot of guys on this thing that
it turns out it's all about them. And so you're
asking about her, you're engaging with her, trying to figure
out or her interests in what makes her.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yeah, right, I'm kind of opposed to talking about myself
in that instance. Honestly, I really I want to know
about her, right. So we met for drinks and dinner
on the second date, the second go round, and she
or we were going to and she said she wasn't
feeling great, so we had like one drink, she left,
talked about rescheduling, but since then she's kind of been
ghosting though response to anything text called.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Nothing Wow, okay, huh.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
I felt we were onto something. I don't really know
what's going on.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Yeah, and it this all sounds pretty good. Sounds like
you were doing a lot of the right things. So
let's see if we can get Teresa on the phone.
We'll ask some questions for you, and hopefully whatever's going
on we can straighten out. Set you guys up on
a third date in this case that we pay for.
All right, all right, so I'm gonna play one song.
Can you hang on, We'll come back and do it.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Sounds good.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Let's see what happens next.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
In part two of waiting out a phone in three
minutes after us, you're a Fred Show. Sure, the Fred
Show is not commercial free for the next forty minutes.
You don't have to go anywhere. Hey, Chris, Hey, how's
it going? Still good? Still great? Yeah, So let's call
this woman Teresa. You were telling us about her. You
met on hings, you live near each other, You went
on a couple of dates. You thought you were doing
all the right stuff, asking about her, talking about her,
(02:40):
getting to know her, not making it about yourself, and
really two dates that went well, except now you're being ghosted.
And even the second date was kind of weird. You said,
she kind of bailed, you know, kind of mid date after.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
One drink, just one drink, and then kind of show
and well I haven't worked from her.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
All right, Well, let's call her at some point, you're
welcome to jump in on the call and hopefully we
can straighten this out and set you guys up on
another date and.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Pay for it. You ready, that's sure? Hello?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Hi is this Teresa? Yeah, Hey Teresa, good morning. It's
Fred from the Fred Show. The whole crew is here.
When I have to tell you that we are on
the radio right now and I would need your permission
to continue with the calls.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
That okay if we chat for a minute. Yeah, sure,
thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I know it's kind of strange, but we're calling on
behalf of a guy who reached out to us. His
name is Chris. Says he met you on him. You
guys are kind of neighbors and went on a couple
of dates.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Yes, yeah, I remember Chris.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Okay, So he told us about what he thought was
a really successful first date. Its kind of an okay
second date, but says, since then you are not responding
to him, you're ghosting. He's kind of wondering why. So
that's what we're here, trying to figure it out, maybe
fix it.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Yeah, I mean I kind of was hoping he'd take
the hint that I'm not interested.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
But.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
So like so you're not interested. But why though, I mean.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
You know he's he's a fine person and all that,
but I don't know if he told you he is
a therapist, you know, focuses on mental health, and like
that's that's great, that's an admirable career path whatever. But
like he couldn't turn it off for the dates, you
know what I'm saying. Like the entire walk, it honestly
(04:26):
felt like we were in a therapy session. He kept
like digging for skeletons in my closet, you know, and
like he even went as far as like giving me
tips for dealing with my grief and like that. And
then he said I wasn't reaching my full potential in
(04:49):
life because of God. Why he's say, oh, cognitive distortions
and like black and white thinking or something like that.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
God like sounds about.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
Like control falcies and you know, he's like playing yourself
for the past. And then oh, and then he brought
up like my relationship with.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
My dad and my daddy.
Speaker 4 (05:15):
I know, I don't.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Psychology. I can do all this.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
I mean, like I mean, you know, like he was
nice whatever, but like so I agreed to like continue
the day, like get some drinks whatever. But you know,
I'm pretty sure he's a freaking psycho. Like seriously, you know,
I mean.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I don't know about your mom. Camlin's mom is a
is a psychotherapist. My sister is too. My sister, I
think once you learn. I got to think once you
learn about all that stuff, that it's hard to shut
it off. But at the same time, my sister is
not saying you're not giving me like you know, she's
not talking about theories and Freud, you know, and and
Adler and whatever else.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
When we sit down to talk. It's so annoying that, I.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
Mean that our first date, like our first time dating,
you know, and he's bringing up all these things like
not cool.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Let me bring up for to mention that Chris is here.
I always leave that part out. I'm sorry about that.
I don't want to cause any further issues for you
or any further skeletons. But Chris, so you were being inquisitive,
but you were prying like you were psychoanalyzing your date.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Listen, I was just listening. So what I did. She's
entitled to her feelings, but I was just trying to help.
Entitled to her feelings, you can't avoid your emotions. Okay,
how was this attitude? How is this working for you?
Speaker 3 (06:43):
Annoying?
Speaker 4 (06:43):
The attitude is for you, you know.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
I mean, and I shouldn't. I shouldn't have to agree
to keep going and.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Doing with it.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
I should and shouldn't. All that just kind of anxiety.
You might consider not using.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Maybe dating, turn it off.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Bro all this, I feel like even theist doesn't sound
like this.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Guys, I appreciate that after all this, after hearing all this,
I just said, I don't think today. I don't think
she's ready.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
I don't think you're a normal person.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Yeah, you're just spewing like terms. I mean, it's exactly
and I understand you're trying to help, but this is annoying.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
It's what I did. I am sorry. I can't turn
it off. I I care a little too much, I guess, huh.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Okay, I mean if I wanted, like a therapy session,
I go see a therapist, like I don't want that.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
For my Yeah, so you can't shut it off, like
you can't just just not sort of dig' don't.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
I don't do it as digging. I'm trying to get
to know the person, and that's that's just how that's
my love language, if you will.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Okay, all right, well think so, Teresa, what's your what's
your takeaway from this one?
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Speak from the eye, Yeah, speak from the eye perspective,
you know.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
I just I really again, like it's great that that's
his career path, but he can't shut it off. I mean,
he's maybe he needs to find another therapist, fello therapist,
a date or something, because I don't think it's okay
to like treat a date as a therapy session.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
I just still know about that black and white thinking. Teresa,
I'm worried.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
About it, my gosh, not you too, Chris.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
I'm it's not going to work out. Chris, Teresa is
that interested? I wish you the best of luck, both
of you.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
I appreciate it, guys, thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
The Entertainer reports seven hundred and fifty bucks for shops
Shelley all coming up Brett shows
Ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show. Chris,
Good morning, welcome to the show.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Hey, how are you all right? Man?
Speaker 1 (00:10):
It's waiting by the phone. Let's hear what's going on
with this woman? Teresa? How did you meet? Tell us
about any dates that you've been on, and then what's
going on now?
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Yeah, I'm at SISA on Hinge, which is a dating
up most people know about. I had a lot of
luck on Hinge. I thought i'd luck with Theresa. I
met her. We both live in Lincoln Park area and
buildings like literally almost in nice to each other. And
our first date we walked our dogs together. She had
a dog, I have a dog. We both walk them
(00:41):
each morning. So we decided to meet for coffee and
do that together.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Okay, walk with the dogs.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
We got along great, the dogs even like each other.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
What a nice active date. Look at that, you know,
and just going about your routines. Everybody's getting along. This
is so this is very sweet, like a Hallmark movie
or something.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
Yeah, something different at least, you know, not the typical movie.
And at dinner her so I thought, you know, conversation
was easy, had a lot in common. You know, I've
felt like we're both inquisitive about or at least I was,
about her life, that, you know, things going on with her,
because my friends told me, you know, in order to
really engage with a woman, we should ask I should
(01:17):
ask about her, you.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Know what she's about, you know, thinking about her as
opposed to a lot of guys on this thing that
it turns out it's all about them. And so you're
asking about her, you're engaging with her, trying to figure
out or her interests in what makes her.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yeah, right, I'm kind of opposed to talking about myself
in that instance. Honestly, I really I want to know
about her, right. So we met for drinks and dinner
on the second date, the second go round, and she
or we were going to and she said she wasn't
feeling great, so we had like one drink, she left,
talked about rescheduling, but since then she's kind of been
ghosting though response to anything text called.
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Nothing Wow, okay, huh.
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
I felt we were onto something. I don't really know
what's going on.
Speaker 1 (01:59):
Yeah, and it this all sounds pretty good. Sounds like
you were doing a lot of the right things. So
let's see if we can get Teresa on the phone.
We'll ask some questions for you, and hopefully whatever's going
on we can straighten out. Set you guys up on
a third date in this case that we pay for.
All right, all right, so I'm gonna play one song.
Can you hang on, We'll come back and do it.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
Sounds good.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
Let's see what happens next.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
In part two of waiting out a phone in three
minutes after us, you're a Fred Show. Sure, the Fred
Show is not commercial free for the next forty minutes.
You don't have to go anywhere. Hey, Chris, Hey, how's
it going? Still good? Still great? Yeah, So let's call
this woman Teresa. You were telling us about her. You
met on hings, you live near each other, You went
on a couple of dates. You thought you were doing
all the right stuff, asking about her, talking about her,
(02:40):
getting to know her, not making it about yourself, and
really two dates that went well, except now you're being ghosted.
And even the second date was kind of weird. You said,
she kind of bailed, you know, kind of mid date after.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
One drink, just one drink, and then kind of show
and well I haven't worked from her.
Speaker 1 (02:55):
All right, Well, let's call her at some point, you're
welcome to jump in on the call and hopefully we
can straighten this out and set you guys up on
another date and.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Pay for it. You ready, that's sure? Hello?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Hi is this Teresa? Yeah, Hey Teresa, good morning. It's
Fred from the Fred Show. The whole crew is here.
When I have to tell you that we are on
the radio right now and I would need your permission
to continue with the calls.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
That okay if we chat for a minute. Yeah, sure,
thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I know it's kind of strange, but we're calling on
behalf of a guy who reached out to us. His
name is Chris. Says he met you on him. You
guys are kind of neighbors and went on a couple
of dates.
Speaker 4 (03:35):
Yes, yeah, I remember Chris.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
Okay, So he told us about what he thought was
a really successful first date. Its kind of an okay
second date, but says, since then you are not responding
to him, you're ghosting. He's kind of wondering why. So
that's what we're here, trying to figure it out, maybe
fix it.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Yeah, I mean I kind of was hoping he'd take
the hint that I'm not interested.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
But.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
So like so you're not interested. But why though, I mean.
Speaker 4 (04:04):
You know he's he's a fine person and all that,
but I don't know if he told you he is
a therapist, you know, focuses on mental health, and like
that's that's great, that's an admirable career path whatever. But
like he couldn't turn it off for the dates, you
know what I'm saying. Like the entire walk, it honestly
(04:26):
felt like we were in a therapy session. He kept
like digging for skeletons in my closet, you know, and
like he even went as far as like giving me
tips for dealing with my grief and like that. And
then he said I wasn't reaching my full potential in
(04:49):
life because of God. Why he's say, oh, cognitive distortions
and like black and white thinking or something like that.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
God like sounds about.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
Like control falcies and you know, he's like playing yourself
for the past. And then oh, and then he brought
up like my relationship with.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
My dad and my daddy.
Speaker 4 (05:15):
I know, I don't.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Psychology. I can do all this.
Speaker 4 (05:21):
I mean, like I mean, you know, like he was
nice whatever, but like so I agreed to like continue
the day, like get some drinks whatever. But you know,
I'm pretty sure he's a freaking psycho. Like seriously, you know,
I mean.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
I don't know about your mom. Camlin's mom is a
is a psychotherapist. My sister is too. My sister, I
think once you learn. I got to think once you
learn about all that stuff, that it's hard to shut
it off. But at the same time, my sister is
not saying you're not giving me like you know, she's
not talking about theories and Freud, you know, and and
Adler and whatever else.
Speaker 3 (05:57):
When we sit down to talk. It's so annoying that, I.
Speaker 4 (05:59):
Mean that our first date, like our first time dating,
you know, and he's bringing up all these things like
not cool.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
Let me bring up for to mention that Chris is here.
I always leave that part out. I'm sorry about that.
I don't want to cause any further issues for you
or any further skeletons. But Chris, so you were being inquisitive,
but you were prying like you were psychoanalyzing your date.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Listen, I was just listening. So what I did. She's
entitled to her feelings, but I was just trying to help.
Entitled to her feelings, you can't avoid your emotions. Okay,
how was this attitude? How is this working for you?
Speaker 3 (06:43):
Annoying?
Speaker 4 (06:43):
The attitude is for you, you know.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
I mean, and I shouldn't. I shouldn't have to agree
to keep going and.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Doing with it.
Speaker 2 (06:53):
I should and shouldn't. All that just kind of anxiety.
You might consider not using.
Speaker 3 (06:59):
Maybe dating, turn it off.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
Bro all this, I feel like even theist doesn't sound
like this.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Guys, I appreciate that after all this, after hearing all this,
I just said, I don't think today. I don't think
she's ready.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
I don't think you're a normal person.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Yeah, you're just spewing like terms. I mean, it's exactly
and I understand you're trying to help, but this is annoying.
Speaker 2 (07:26):
It's what I did. I am sorry. I can't turn
it off. I I care a little too much, I guess, huh.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Okay, I mean if I wanted, like a therapy session,
I go see a therapist, like I don't want that.
Speaker 1 (07:36):
For my Yeah, so you can't shut it off, like
you can't just just not sort of dig' don't.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
I don't do it as digging. I'm trying to get
to know the person, and that's that's just how that's
my love language, if you will.
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Okay, all right, well think so, Teresa, what's your what's
your takeaway from this one?
Speaker 3 (07:54):
Speak from the eye, Yeah, speak from the eye perspective,
you know.
Speaker 4 (07:59):
I just I really again, like it's great that that's
his career path, but he can't shut it off. I mean,
he's maybe he needs to find another therapist, fello therapist,
a date or something, because I don't think it's okay
to like treat a date as a therapy session.
Speaker 1 (08:15):
I just still know about that black and white thinking. Teresa,
I'm worried.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
About it, my gosh, not you too, Chris.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
I'm it's not going to work out. Chris, Teresa is
that interested? I wish you the best of luck, both
of you.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
I appreciate it, guys, thank you very much.
Speaker 1 (08:30):
The Entertainer reports seven hundred and fifty bucks for shops
Shelley all coming up Brett shows
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