Waiting by the Phone: Ladies Night!

Brandon is confused why his date Lana won't call him back after a fun night together... Find out why he got ghosted.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I've ever been left waiting by the phone.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
It's the Fred Show. Brandon, good morning, Welcome to the program.
How are you.

Speaker 3 (00:07):
I'm good. How you guys doing it there?

Speaker 1 (00:09):
Doing all right? Man?

Speaker 2 (00:10):
What's going on with this woman in Lana? We got
to know kind of everything, how you met, about any
dates you've been on, how those went, and why do
you think you're being ghosted?

Speaker 3 (00:19):
Well?

Speaker 4 (00:20):
Thanks you all for having me. I I met this
woman on hinge and we decided to meet up at
like a block party, you know, basically like like one
of those huge street festival things, like they shut down
a couple of blocks to have like some bands and stuff,
and like they serve they serve beer.

Speaker 2 (00:41):
That's kind of a it's a good date, right, I
Mean it's like, you know, built in activity and food
and drink, and you're walking and you're in public, so
like if you're scary, then the person could escape or
vice versa.

Speaker 4 (00:50):
Yeah, I think it'd be it'd be kind of like
a neutral way for us to meet up and kind
of get to know each other a little bit.

Speaker 2 (00:56):
And yet it's different from the drinks and coffee and
and you know, dinner dates that everyone seems to set up.

Speaker 1 (01:02):
So yeah, okay, so you.

Speaker 4 (01:03):
Do a super chill, super easy to like, you know,
approach and.

Speaker 3 (01:08):
Yeah, I don't know. So I told her that I'd probably.

Speaker 4 (01:12):
Be meeting up with some friends there, you know, show
up whenever she can. And yeah, it seemed like we
are having a good time. She left to go get
a drink and she just never came back. So I
figured I to take you guys up, so if you
get help me out.

Speaker 1 (01:25):
Wow, So she did. Is I was kidding about that?

Speaker 2 (01:27):
But like she she said, I'll be right back and
then and like, who done eat on you?

Speaker 3 (01:32):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:33):
Pretty much exactly. Yeah, in the middle of the date. Wow, okay.
And how long did it take for that to happen?

Speaker 1 (01:39):
An hour? A few minutes, I mean, how long until
she took off?

Speaker 4 (01:42):
It was pretty quick, you know, like I'd say, I'd
say less than a half hour, probably twenty minutes, thirty minutes. Yeah.

Speaker 1 (01:48):
Wow. Okay.

Speaker 2 (01:49):
Well, let's let's call this woman Lana. We'll see if
we can get her on the phone, and we're gonna
ask some questions about this date. You'll be on the
phone at the same time. And the hope, as always
is that there's a good explanation. Something happened. I could
have been something personal or embarrassing, or who knows, And
there's a good reason why she did this, and maybe
she wants to see you again. And if that's the case,
then we'll set you guys up on another date that

(02:11):
we pay for.

Speaker 1 (02:11):
Sound good. Hey Brandon, Yo, welcome back.

Speaker 3 (02:14):
Man.

Speaker 1 (02:14):
Let's call Lana.

Speaker 2 (02:15):
You guys, you recently went on a date and you
met for the first time at like a kind of
an outdoor festival after meeting on one of the dating apps,
and you say that you guys hung out for about
less than a half an hour and then she said, Hey,
I'm going to go get a drink, and then she
did and never came back.

Speaker 4 (02:30):
Yeah, yeah, exactly, exactly right.

Speaker 2 (02:32):
Yeah, okay, Well let's call her now and see if
we can figure out what's going on.

Speaker 1 (02:35):
Good luck, Brandon, Thank you, thank you.

Speaker 3 (02:44):
Huh.

Speaker 1 (02:45):
Hi's is Lana? Heylana? Good morning. My name is Fred.

Speaker 2 (02:49):
I'm calling for the Fred Show, the morning radio show,
and I have to tell you that we are on
the radio right now, and I would need your permission
to continue with the call. Can we chat for just
a second. You can hang up anytime. I mean, okay, okay, well,
thank you so much. We're calling on behalf of a
guy who reached out to us. His name is Brandon.
He says, you guys match on Hinge the dating app

(03:10):
recently and went to on a date to like a festival.
Oh yes, okay, well, so we just talked to him
and he just said nice things about you, that he
was excited to meet you, and you guys went to
this festival. And then he said that after about thirty minutes,
you took off to get a drink and never came back,
and that you haven't spoken with him since, and he's

(03:30):
wondering why.

Speaker 1 (03:32):
He has no idea why that happened.

Speaker 5 (03:35):
Well, I mean some of that is true.

Speaker 1 (03:38):
So the street festival.

Speaker 5 (03:40):
I love the idea because it was different than like
the typical thing normal drinks are a dinner date and
you know, on the way to the date, Brandon did
tell me that there were going to be some other
friends and that they may separate once I had gotten there.
And when I got there, it turned out that Brandon

(04:01):
had about twelve girls all around him that he just
introduces his friends, and it was it was a weird
tib like they looked at me strangely, and like nobody
introduced themselves and I was there for a while and
just trying to figure it all out, like what the
heck was going on, and it just it was like

(04:23):
all the women were flirting with him too to carry on.
And I mean, I like, I'm fine with people having
for friends, but like these were a lot of girlfriends, right, Yeah.

Speaker 2 (04:35):
I mean it's risky anytime you're including friends in a
first date, male or female. I mean if they're if
you're a guy and your boys are out with you
and you're just meeting a girl for the first time,
then you're running the risk that the girl might like
one of your friends better because it's just you know,
a numbers game. I don't know, it's possible, which is
why I and the same could be true. I mean,
I've been on a date before where it's come meet

(04:56):
up with me and my friends and I'm like, okay,
and I've never met you, I don't know you, and
I like your other friend better or whatever, So that's
a that's a risky move as it is. But but
he's inviting you to a group with a bunch of
women and they're not introducing themselves. He's not introducing them
to you, so you're this out. No one wants to
be the outsider in a group, no matter who it is.

Speaker 4 (05:15):
Thank you.

Speaker 3 (05:16):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (05:16):
And the final straw.

Speaker 5 (05:19):
When when I told him I was going to go
get a drink, all of them decided to also give
me a drink order and food orders.

Speaker 1 (05:26):
Oh really, no.

Speaker 5 (05:27):
Help her now, I was like, you know what, that's
that's that's the.

Speaker 3 (05:34):
Icing on the cake.

Speaker 5 (05:35):
Like I just left and I never looked back.

Speaker 2 (05:36):
I don't really blame you, and Brandon is here. I
forgot to mention. I'm very forgetful. I get caught up
in the story.

Speaker 1 (05:41):
Brandon. You forgot, you forgot.

Speaker 2 (05:45):
You forgot to mention that you invited her to a
social outing with a bunch of other women, and you
didn't even sort of ingratiate it, Like you didn't incorporate
her into the group. She was just an outsider, like,
I don't care who you are. That's uncomfortable.

Speaker 4 (05:59):
Well, I did tell her, you know, when we talked
about it like that, I that I might be meeting
up with some you know, some people that I knew there.

Speaker 1 (06:08):
You're harem of women. They are these women, by.

Speaker 4 (06:12):
The way, crazy man it's twenty twenty five, Like, yeah,
most of my friends are are women. So like I did,
I didn't really see that as a problem. I don't
think anybody was being like super rude or icy or
anything that they're like, I mean, look, I told her
that there would be some friends of mine there, Like,
I don't think anybody was being crazy rude or anything

(06:35):
like that. I'm sorry, Like, you know, maybe maybe like
that might have been like a little bit shocking that
a guy could have, like, you know, like friends that
are women.

Speaker 2 (06:45):
I don't mean, I don't know, Brandon, I don't really
care if it was if it's men or women, I
don't really care. What I care about is that they
weren't welcoming to your date. They had to have known
that you were on a date. It's weird to go
on a date with twelve other people, yes, and the
other person is like totally the odd in this case
odd woman out and then they're treating her like she's
some kind of they're not even being nice to her,

(07:06):
but then they're treating her like she's a waitress, you know.
So so I would have left too. I'd have been like,
what am I even doing here? Like I don't feel special.

Speaker 5 (07:14):
Yeah, Brandon, And it's like, what do we like sixteen
going to the mall together? Like this is like I
didn't know anybody. Nobody really like tried to get to
know me.

Speaker 4 (07:25):
Okay, well, you know it's a big street festival, it's
a big party. I wanted something neutral where you know,
there wouldn't be like a lot of pressure on anybody's Thirteen.

Speaker 1 (07:37):
To one is not neutral, Like that's just like I'm
not going to bring my son down a day.

Speaker 4 (07:43):
Seem like really confident and really cool, And I just
didn't I didn't think that'd be like a big deal.

Speaker 2 (07:48):
I think you could be confident and not feel like
you're part of the group. I mean, I don't think
there's anything to do with confidence. I think it's like
this wasn't a date. This is like a it was
like an audition or something like, Yeah, who are.

Speaker 1 (08:02):
All these people? One of them?

Speaker 2 (08:04):
Like why don't you you can't get a day of
twelve girls?

Speaker 1 (08:11):
Why do they get a noise? Are you good? Okay?

Speaker 3 (08:14):
I don't know, it's just guys.

Speaker 5 (08:15):
I think it's too many red flags for me.

Speaker 4 (08:17):
I'm sorry.

Speaker 3 (08:18):
Yeah, I mean, if you're just really insecure like that.
That's fine. I'm really glad that I sound up this early.

Speaker 2 (08:23):
See, I don't care how confident you are. It's am
I having fun? Am I comfortable? Am I being welcomed
into the group? Or am I like an outcast on
a date that I was I was invited to something.
I don't want to go and be invited to something
where I'm not being included. I mean, it has nothing
to do with confidence, right, Look.

Speaker 3 (08:42):
You're meeting somebody for the first time.

Speaker 4 (08:45):
It's a big party, and if you're not going to
be able to be friends with my friends, you know.

Speaker 3 (08:52):
Like, maybe it's good like we find I know.

Speaker 4 (08:54):
Okay, yeah, all right, Baverie, Okay, get off my phone, Brandon,
you not ready?

Speaker 2 (09:02):
That'll be all okay. Well, I have to ask the question.
It is my job. I know the answer. But would
you like to go out with Brandon again? One on one?
We'll pay for it. No, he's not inviting his entire
harem of of you know, of game show women or
whatever he's got, you know, models.

Speaker 5 (09:18):
A lot of buzzers, yeah, dealer, no deal.

Speaker 1 (09:21):
Women, right, yeah, with all the briefcases.

Speaker 2 (09:23):
Yeah, well, I don't think she's missing much. I don't
even think she'd know because no one talked to her.

Speaker 1 (09:28):
So yeah, I'm going to have to miss this. It's
a past. No, it's no date. Not going to happen, Brandon, dude.

Speaker 2 (09:35):
I just just go on a date with one on one,
you know.

Speaker 3 (09:40):
Well, all right, hey, thanks for thanks for helping me out.
I guess