Waiting by the Phone: Let Me Ask My Mom!

Teddy is confused why his date Lisa won't call him back after a fun nigh out... Find out why he got ghosted!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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waiting by the phone? It's the Fread Show. Hey Teddy,
good morning, welcome to the program. How are you?

Speaker 2 (00:34):
I'm doing all right?

Speaker 1 (00:35):
How are you doing doing? Okay?

Speaker 2 (00:36):
Man?

Speaker 1 (00:37):
What's going on with this woman Lisa? It's waiting by
the phone. We're trying to figure out if you've been ghosted.
It sounds like maybe you have, but we need the backstory.
How did you meet Lisa? Tell us about any dates
you'd been on, and then where things are now?

Speaker 2 (00:49):
So we met on Hinge and I asked her out
to dinner and we went out. She was even hotter, funnier,
hit in person than she was when we were texting.
We had a great time, I thought, and we were
planning date number two, but then she just sort of disappeared.
Oh I don't know why.

Speaker 1 (01:07):
Okay, And you look back on this date, I ask everybody,
but you look back on this date and everything went well.
I mean, you left the date feeling pretty good about
where things stood. Hey, I'm we're going to go out again,
Like I'm going to reach out and she's going to
be interested. The chemistry was there, the conversation was there,
and everything.

Speaker 2 (01:24):
Yeah, I mean, like I said, she was funny. I
was actually really laughing a lot, and I was having
a great time, and she seemed like she was too.

Speaker 1 (01:33):
Okay because the mood's light, you know. So then what
could possibly have gone wrong? I've said that many times too,
and then and then I find out. But okay, well, Teddy,
let's play a song. We'll come back and we'll call Liza.
You'll be on the phone. We'll ask these questions on
your behalf, and you know, the hope is that we
can figure out what's going on. It's possible that she
has something on her end and we can straighten things out.

(01:53):
I said, you guys have one another day that we
pay for. Sound good? Yeah? Sound good? Hey, Teddy, yeah,
all right, let's call Lisa. You guys met, you went
on a date. You thought the date went great, tales
so old as time. Hell, but you have not heard
from Lisa since the date, and you're puzzled. You're disappointed.
You want to know why.

Speaker 2 (02:12):
Yeah, exactly, I mean I've reached out to her, but
she hasn't responded.

Speaker 1 (02:16):
Okay, well, let's call Lisa and see if we can
get her on the phone and figured this out. Good luck, Teddy. Hi'
is Lisa? Yeah, Lisa, Hi, good morning, It's Fred. My
name is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred Show, the
morning radio show. I have to tell you that we
are on the radio right now, and I would need

(02:37):
your permission to continue with the call. Can reach out
for just a second. Okay, all right, well thank you?
That was yes, I like it. We're calling on We
have of a guy named Teddy and he reached out
to us so that I guess you guys matched on
an app or something and recently went on a date
that he felt went really well. But he says he's

(02:58):
reached out to you since the date and you have responded.
He's puzzled, why is why are you not responding to
uh to Teddy.

Speaker 2 (03:07):
Okay, this is awkward.

Speaker 3 (03:12):
I mean, Teddy is okay, I'm not I'm just not interested,
all right, I'm just a but there's.

Speaker 1 (03:22):
More of this story though, there's more of the story.
Why are you not interested? Like, here's the thing. Maybe
I don't know if you've ever been ghosted, maybe never
been ghosted before, but he feels like he's being ghosted.
It's bugging him. He kind of wants some closure if
you're not going to go out with him again, So
can you tell us what happened or why why you've
changed your mind about him?

Speaker 2 (03:39):
Okay?

Speaker 4 (03:40):
So Teddy basically asks his mom for permission to do
absolutely everything.

Speaker 1 (03:46):
Okay, well what does that mean? Like give me an example?

Speaker 4 (03:50):
Okay, all right. So when we first matched, he he
and I started talking. It felt cool, and then I remember,
right when we start to talking, he was just like, oh,
I don't know what I want to eat.

Speaker 2 (04:05):
And he'd like, you know what, I need to call.

Speaker 4 (04:07):
My mom and ask her I need call no, And
I was just I was like, all right, in truth
jang but okay, kind of cute, like he wants to
call his mom.

Speaker 1 (04:16):
I don't know.

Speaker 4 (04:17):
I just was like, all right, then when we were
trying to figure out when and where to meet for
the date, he made another comment and he was like, oh,
I wanted I want to check. I want to check
to see if my mom, you know, if we're committing
before we're committing to anything. And I'm like, okay, I mean,
I'll just give you the benefit of the doubt. You know,

(04:38):
maybe you had plans, like maybe he just kind of
had plans with his mom or something, and you know,
that was that. So I didn't really say anything. And
then my final straw was when we were on the
date and towards the end of the date, I was like,
we're like finishing up dinner and I was like, hey,
actually I have an extra ticket to this concert the

(04:59):
following week and I don't know if you wanted to
come with me. And he's like, oh, yeah, sounds fun.

Speaker 2 (05:03):
You know what, I just need to run by.

Speaker 1 (05:04):
My mom really first. So this dude, he actually it
was a good date, like you you were going to
overlook that and go out with him again. So he
didn't actually fumble necessarily. But it turns out that the
dude can't even like put his pants on without asking
his mom if that's okay, which is very unattractive. I mean,
it's one thing to have a great relationship with your mom.
I think that's usually a good sign. But I also,

(05:27):
you know, I don't need to ask my mom like
where to take you on a date and if I
can go to a concert next week. I mean, I'm
a grown as.

Speaker 2 (05:34):
Man, exactly. I was.

Speaker 3 (05:35):
I was like, this is you know what now, dude?

Speaker 4 (05:37):
Like absolutely, if you need to go to the bathroom
to check with your mom, Like no, no, this.

Speaker 2 (05:41):
Is a lot a lot.

Speaker 1 (05:42):
I forgot to mention Lisa that Teddy is here and
Teddy's been very quiet throughout this. Teddy, why do we
Why are we asking mom, you know, for permission to
go out? Like we're grown ups. We don't have to
do that anymore.

Speaker 2 (05:56):
Okay, So just to be clear, I don't need my
mom's permission, Like, I'm not asking for her permission. I
just I like to get her opinion. What do you talk?

Speaker 4 (06:06):
You ask her for anything, all her opinions before you
do anything, do you not?

Speaker 2 (06:12):
So what that's not weird?

Speaker 1 (06:14):
Yeah, no, it is weird. It is weird. Like at
some point you have to make decisions for yourself because
you're a grown up. I mean I don't. I can't
remember the last time I called mom to ask her,
you know, if I can go to a concert next week.

Speaker 2 (06:25):
So you don't consult your mom on anything.

Speaker 1 (06:29):
I'm not on. No, not as it pertains to you know,
life issues and decisions that I need to make for myself. No, Like,
my schedule is my schedule. You know what I do
with my dating my call, right, it's you know you
do at your mound with the calendar invite. Well, I
mean yes, but that doesn't mean. That doesn't mean if
she gets a vote. I mean, she has a right
to know where I am at all times. But other
than that, you know, a couple of facetimes throughout the date.

(06:52):
But other than that, No, that's crazy. Teddy on man,
you're grown up.

Speaker 2 (06:57):
I mean, honestly, she with her before I even did this.
She thought it was a good idea to find.

Speaker 1 (07:03):
Out your mom told you to come on the radio.

Speaker 4 (07:06):
Yeah, well, in that case, you know, Mama's always round.

Speaker 1 (07:09):
We love Mama, get out of here on radio. I mean,
there is a difference between having a close relationship and
being a full on mama's boy, And I think this
might be beyond that. This might be another level above
and beyond just mama's boy. I mean, because this is like,
this is like you need permission, This is like she
still runs your life.

Speaker 2 (07:29):
And I think, yeah, again, I don't I'm not asking
for permission. Sometimes she says something's a good idea, and
I'm like, I don't know. I just like to get
her input. But why can't you on her own anything
like that's not an attractive quality?

Speaker 1 (07:42):
And why are you telling maybe this is something you
do in you know, in your private life. But I
don't know that I would tell everybody that, because again,
I think women want a confident, decisive guy who has
a good relationship with family, but doesn't need to ask
for permission to do basic things.

Speaker 2 (07:57):
I mean, I guess I'm realizing that.

Speaker 3 (08:00):
No.

Speaker 2 (08:00):
I mean, I again, I'm not asking for permission.

Speaker 4 (08:03):
It's just a're you're asking all the time.

Speaker 2 (08:08):
This is weird checking in. It's just checking in.

Speaker 1 (08:12):
It's a lot whatever it is.

Speaker 4 (08:14):
Yeah, all right, Well, next time you're going to ask
if we should have sex?

Speaker 3 (08:18):
Is that? Like?

Speaker 1 (08:19):
What would say about that? Do you think you think
mom would be in favor?

Speaker 2 (08:22):
I mean, my mom, she's very encouraging of using protection
so un.

Speaker 1 (08:31):
I'm glad that mom says it's okay sex with protection.
Very strange. All right, look, Lisa, I'll ask the question.
I know the answer is rhetorical. Would you like to
go out with Teddy again? And we'll pay for it.
We'll ask mom first and clear it all with her.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
This is way too excessive for me. Absolutely not weird.

Speaker 1 (08:53):
Yeah, not going to work out. Hey, Teddy, look again,
I'm glad that you have a good relationship with your mom.
That's a nice thing. I might not tell everybody that
I have to ask for her permission to use the
bathroom and and that I run every decision by her.
I might not share that I might maybe consider not
doing that.

Speaker 2 (09:10):
I mean, I hear you. I think I'm just gonna
not so I'll just say I need to think about it.

Speaker 1 (09:15):
Right and then do it anyway. Okay, All right, Well, hey,
whatever float you bout? I guess Teddy right right right right,
We've really we've really got nowhere here but at Lisa,
thanks for your time, Teddy, good luck to you as well.