Waiting by the Phone: Ms. Independent!

Amanda is confused why Blake won't call her back after having a great first date... Find our why she got ghosted!

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(00:45):
It's the Fread Show, Amanda, Good morning, welcome to the program.
How are you?

Speaker 2 (00:50):
I'm doing well?

Speaker 1 (00:50):
How are you doing okay? What's going on with this dude? Blake?
I gotta know how you met about any dates that
you've been on and then what's happening now? Why you
think you're being ghosted.

Speaker 2 (01:00):
So I met this guy Blake on Hinge and we
went for a drink and I walked away from the
date thinking it was really fun, like we had good chemistry,
kind of hit it off right away. So I just
texted him and I got home and thanked him for
the date and like, you know, sent a little inside
joke from the date to and he didn't respond at all,

(01:22):
like completely ghosted me. So I'm just confused about what happened,
and I want to know. Yeah, I just I felt
like it was a good date, so it was kind
of rude for him to.

Speaker 1 (01:34):
Respond, right, Paulina, Tail's the oldest time, you know, old
as time. People go on these dates, they think it
went well, they feel connection, and then for whatever reason,
they never hear from these people again. It's like why, Yeah,
I mean, how can it be? And I know how
it can be because has happened hundreds of times, But
how can it be that you thought that you went
on a great date and the other person didn't think

(01:56):
so and doesn't call you back. It's very frustrating. So
let's get to the ottom of this. We're going to
play a song and come back and call Blake. You'll
be on the phone at the same time. And the
hope is always is that we can set you up
on another date, straighten things out, set you guys up,
and then pay for that. All right, all right, welcome back.
Let's call Blake. You guys, you met and went on

(02:16):
a date and you felt like everything went really well
after meeting on Hinge of the dating apps, you go
on this date. You thought the chemistry was good, the
conversation was great. You texted him thanking him for the
date afterwards, and you never heard back and haven't heard
from him since, and you want to know why. Yeah,
all right, let's call him now. Good luck, Amanda, thank
you hisus Blake Blake. Good morning. My name is fredam

(02:46):
calling from the Fred's Show, the Morning radio Show. I
have to tell you that we are on the radio
right now. I would need your permission to continue with
the call. Can which that for just a second, would
you mind?

Speaker 3 (02:54):
Uh?

Speaker 1 (02:55):
Okay, So we're calling on behalf of a woman named
Amanda who said that she met you on Hinge. Guys,
went out for a drink state do you remember going
out with her? Yeah, this is weird.

Speaker 3 (03:04):
It's on radio, but Okay, well yeah, and.

Speaker 1 (03:07):
I said that weird, it's very normal. But anyway, so
what happened because we're don't worry about that part. Yeah,
let's never one relax so uh no, but we're trying
to figure out what happened because she said she had
a good time with you, and uh and then for
whatever reason, you haven't called her again. She said she

(03:28):
even texted you after the date, something I don't know
she thought was an inside joke. But what happened? Why
are you not calling her?

Speaker 3 (03:35):
Okay, I'm actually surprised she even wants to see what happened.
Like she seemed like she totally did not care.

Speaker 1 (03:43):
No, I mean she said she did care, So what
do you mean?

Speaker 3 (03:46):
I mean, she's just what Amanda's just like one of those,
you know, really independent girls.

Speaker 1 (03:51):
Do you hear about? What do you what do you mean?

Speaker 2 (03:54):
What do you mean? Right now?

Speaker 1 (03:57):
Right here?

Speaker 3 (03:58):
Right like the whole time, I'm the whole date, she
just kept talking and talking about how much she loves
being single and like how good she is at being single,
and like she spoke about her friend Cooper, who I
guess it's her gay bestie, her guestie, whatever you call it.

(04:18):
And she was like saying how he basically filled every
box she would need in a relationship of her getting.

Speaker 1 (04:27):
And oh you were worried about the radiole minute ago.
Apparently we've gotten over that, so like bringing.

Speaker 3 (04:37):
Up but I'm like, why why why am I even here?
Why are we even going out? If you have you
have everything you need pretty much?

Speaker 1 (04:44):
Right, Okay, I'm just little taking it back. I'm sorry,
but which is hard to do. That's hard to do.
So your your issue with this is that she she
came off like she didn't need a partner, and here
you're looking for a partner and this woman's just sitting
a whole time going I don't really essentially I don't
need you. And I also, by the way, have another
person in my life who fulfills so many of these

(05:05):
things that you would do. So it's like, I get
it now. So what am I doing here? Is what
you're saying to yourself totally Yeah, well Amanda is here.
Let me bring Amanda in Amanda. Wait, was it this
much or this much talk about how you don't need anybody,
but yet you're on a date with somebody.

Speaker 2 (05:23):
I mean, I'm just expressing that. I yeah, like I'm
independent and I don't need anyone, but that doesn't mean
I don't want someone. I thought that, like people like that,
people want that from a partner.

Speaker 1 (05:34):
I think it's attractive to be out, you know, to
meet someone who can do their own thing and doesn't
doesn't isn't clinging if rely on another person for everything.
But I also think, and I'm probably guilty of this myself,
you know, it's easy to go on a date and
kind of talk someone out of being with you, because
you know, it's except for the gay best friend thing,
which I sort of wish I had a lesbian best friend,

(05:55):
but I don't. I mean, I have Jason, so there's that.
But but I'm just I'm curious, Like, can you see
how someone who you're on a date with might be like, well,
I don't think this person's actually looking to partner up.

Speaker 2 (06:10):
I mean, if I didn't want to partner up, why
would I be on a date?

Speaker 1 (06:12):
You know, but I can see why he was confused.
And what about this best friend of yours? I mean,
were you that explicit? Did you say, like, yeah, I
basically have all my needs are met except except for
those needs with this other person.

Speaker 2 (06:23):
Cooper, I mean pretty much like, yeah, like it's good
to have friends that check other boxes. You can't put
all that pressure on a partner.

Speaker 1 (06:31):
So for you, Blake, she took the independence thing too far.
There's a point which it's no longer attractive for you
for sure.

Speaker 3 (06:38):
Like, you know, I don't want someone quingy with no wife,
but that's not a thing. That's not good either. But
but but there's a balance, and it just sounded like
she doesn't need anyone, and I'm like, you know, I
want something more. Seriously, I think.

Speaker 1 (06:52):
She's good, okay, I mean, it's not worth seeing where
it goes. I mean I also think that maybe a
person like that could meet you and realize, oh no,
maybe I do want someone in my life, and maybe
I do want to give up some of that independence,
and maybe I want to spend less time with my
gay best friend Cooper.

Speaker 3 (07:11):
Nah. I mean, it just seems she was real set
on it, So I don't think it's a good match.

Speaker 1 (07:19):
I'm sorry, because in fairness, if we talked to you
and you said, well, she was over the top, you know,
Klingia needed to be with someone all the time, and
you know, was really rushing things. You wouldn't like that either.
I mean, I guess I would rather a person who
can stand alone, that finds a way to you know,
an interest in you and wants the partnership from you.

(07:39):
Then somebody who from day one it's zero to one
hundred and you're responsible for everything. Right, So I don't
think this is the worst thing.

Speaker 3 (07:48):
Yeah, I mean, I guess to me, it's like, you know,
if you're applying for a job, you don't want a
job where they're like, we're going to work you one
hundred hours a week. But you also don't don't want
to play stuff like you got to be here for
eight hours. We only need you for twenty minutes during
the one trush otherwise goes star into the abyss like that.
That's no fun either.

Speaker 1 (08:05):
Yeah, okay, I might need you to draw me a picture,
but yeah, but I hear what you're saying. And also,
you know, let's say I think some guys. I think
some guys kind of get off on women that need them. Yes,
and that's that's your thing or maybe it's your thing,
and so anyway, Amanda, look, I'm not sure you did
anything wrong. I mean, that's authentically who you are and
it's not for him, so, uh, Blake, I assume you're

(08:26):
not interested. I tried to talk you into it, but
you don't want another date. We'll pay for it. I'm good.

Speaker 3 (08:31):
She's so independent that it's not attractive.

Speaker 1 (08:35):
Okay, Wow, all right, well Amanda, Hey, he's not for you.
I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for. But there's
your answer. I wish you the best as well. She
hung up on never mind. Cool, she's that independent, Blake.
She's like, I don't need you. I don't need to
show I don't need nobody. Maybe I kind of see
what you're saying. All Right, good luck, Blake, all right,
thanks sm