Waiting by the Phone: My Wife Knows!

Adam is confused why his date won't call him back after a fun night out together... Find out why he got ghosted!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
I've ever been left waiting by the phone.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
It's a fresh show, Adam, good morning, welcome to the program.

Speaker 3 (00:06):
How are you?

Speaker 4 (00:08):
I'm doing all right? How are you doing?

Speaker 5 (00:09):
Man?

Speaker 3 (00:10):
Doing okay? What's going on with this woman?

Speaker 6 (00:11):
Kristin?

Speaker 2 (00:12):
I got to know how you met? About any days
that you've been on and where things are now? In
waiting by the phone because you feel like maybe she's
ghosting you?

Speaker 1 (00:19):
Right?

Speaker 3 (00:19):
Yeah, I mean so me and.

Speaker 1 (00:21):
Kristin had met by the pool at our gym one weekend,
and I mean we were both just kind of hanging
out with friends and so like both we were both
in the pool and we just kind of started talking
and so like I was like, I really want this
conversation to keep going.

Speaker 4 (00:36):
So I asked her out and she said yes, So
she gave me.

Speaker 1 (00:39):
Your number, and so like we texted for a little
bit and then we decided that we wanted to take
it further. So we met up for drinks and then
like drinks later that week ended up doing really really well,
and so like even before the date, like our artechts
were getting super super party and I mean even even
a little icy to a certain point, and so like

(01:01):
and then when we met we had like just this
in person chemistry that didn't disappoint, and.

Speaker 4 (01:07):
It was going really really good.

Speaker 1 (01:09):
Like I mean I was even late to work the
next day because like we had ended up having so
much late night fun. Oh okay, but I mean ever
since that day, like I just haven't heard from her,
and I don't know what's going on. Things were going well.
She agreed that things were going well, and I mean,
I don't know what happened.

Speaker 2 (01:26):
Yeah, it's always kind of crazy when this happens, because
it's like everything was going so well. I mean the
way you describe it, all this chemistry and all this
sort of you know, fun stuff going on at night,
you're late to work, I mean this is all this
all sounds great, except for whatever reason, something must have happened.
And now I assume you've texted, You've called Kristen, you've

(01:46):
you know, carry your pigeons and smoke signals and everything.

Speaker 3 (01:49):
Yeah, I mean I didn't.

Speaker 1 (01:50):
Like send her an over abundant, like desperate amount of
text but like I did a couple of check in texts,
even tried to call her one night, and on like
one of the nights we had like that, I knew
super because that was the night that she had the
preset schedule with work, and so like those were usually
the nights we would like talk over the phone, and
so like I tried to call her one night and

(02:10):
she just didn't pick up. And so I don't want
to be like a stalker and keep texting, and yeah,
we don't want but I just kind of want.

Speaker 2 (02:18):
To know what's going on. Like we're going really really
well and then nothing, Yeah makes sense. So we're going
to play a song. Come back in a couple of minutes.
We'll call Kristen. You'll be on the phone, Adam. We're
going to ask these questions for you. And the hope
is that maybe she's been busy or who knows what's
going on. Let's see what's up. In part two of
waiting at the phone, Hey Adam, Yeah, all right, let's
call Christen. You guys, you met at the gym, right,

(02:39):
You met at the gym, and you were at the
pool right with with your friends, and you hit it
off and we're chatting and everything went well, exchange numbers, texted,
you know, things kind of got.

Speaker 3 (02:53):
There was a lot of flirtation going on.

Speaker 2 (02:54):
They got a little spicy, giky they got a little
spicy by his uh, by his description, and you guys
have gone out and had a great time, and then
all of a sudden radio silence, Kristin is not responding
to you like she normally would. It appears that you're
being ghosted. You want to know why. Okay, let's call
Kristin now. Good luck Adam.

Speaker 3 (03:12):
I appreciate it, but thanks than Hi is this Kristen? Yeah,
this is hey Kristin. Good morning.

Speaker 2 (03:23):
My name is Fredam calling for the Fred Show, the
morning radio show, and I have to tell you that
we are on the radio right now and I do
need your permission to continue with the call.

Speaker 3 (03:31):
Is it okay?

Speaker 5 (03:31):
If we have for a second, I guess, I guess,
I guess okay, Well, thank you were calling out behalf
of a guy named Adam.

Speaker 2 (03:38):
I guess you met him at the at the pool
and you hung out a couple of times, and uh,
I guess you guys went on some dates and stuff
like that. Do you remember meeting this guy and going
out with him?

Speaker 7 (03:48):
Yep?

Speaker 2 (03:50):
Okay, So he describes to us a minute ago what
he thought was, you know this this great story about
meeting and all the chemistry you guys, had the dates
you've been on, but he says he can't get ahold
of you. Now, so what's going on with that? Why
are we ignoring Adam?

Speaker 6 (04:03):
Okay, listen, Adam is awesome.

Speaker 5 (04:06):
Okay, he's attractive, he's charming, he's confident, he has great energy.

Speaker 3 (04:13):
Okay, what's the butt? Where's the problem?

Speaker 2 (04:18):
You?

Speaker 4 (04:18):
Wait? So we did, we did go out. Okay, this
sex was amazing, but.

Speaker 3 (04:26):
Okay, still interesting.

Speaker 4 (04:28):
Okay, all right, just just wait for it.

Speaker 6 (04:31):
He's leaving my place and you know, he's talking.

Speaker 5 (04:34):
About, you know, meeting up again, and he just casually
slips in that you know, oh, he just has to
work it around, you know, like his kids swim schedule,
which okay, yeah cool, you've got kids, fine, and his
wife's works schedule.

Speaker 4 (04:50):
How do you think I felt.

Speaker 5 (04:53):
Having just had this amazing night with this man and
all of a sudden learning that he has a wife.

Speaker 2 (04:59):
Okay, so all us, So you guys, you met, you talked,
you hooked up, you went on dates. Didn't He never
mentioned that he was married, And then like in passing,
I was like, oh yeah, yeah, yeah, maybe tomorrow, but
if my wife can pick up the kids.

Speaker 4 (05:12):
How was it out there like it's nothing, and you
didn't know anything about this.

Speaker 3 (05:15):
You didn't know there was a wife.

Speaker 4 (05:16):
I knew nothing about it. I would have never gone
out with him.

Speaker 3 (05:19):
That's a detail.

Speaker 6 (05:20):
I had known that he had a wife.

Speaker 2 (05:22):
Be helpful to know. Let me bring Adam, and I
forgot to mention Kristin that Adam is here. I'm very forgetful. Also,
you're married Adam, and that that's just not important to know.

Speaker 4 (05:31):
I mean, I'm sorry.

Speaker 1 (05:33):
I mean, did I forget to mention that?

Speaker 4 (05:35):
I mean, yeah, yeah, you forgot to mention that.

Speaker 3 (05:39):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (05:39):
No, I'm non monogamous and my wife has agreed to
everything to an open relationship. She doesn't want to live
that life, and so she says that I'm I'm available
to do whatever I would like because she would like
me to be happy in that respect, but she doesn't
doesn't want to know about it.

Speaker 4 (05:58):
So she doesn't want to know about it, like.

Speaker 2 (06:00):
Really, and that would be interesting is to see, because
I mean, honestly, madam, what you're describing.

Speaker 4 (06:05):
Is not I don't believe that I have I don't
that what.

Speaker 2 (06:08):
He's describing I have heard of existing before, whereas oh I.

Speaker 5 (06:12):
Have to But the wife actually like agrees and like
she's available to like talk to, you.

Speaker 6 (06:17):
Know, potential partners. It's like they don't believe.

Speaker 2 (06:22):
A few she's says she's wanting to doing it. But
at the same time, it's Yadam, you got it. I'm
starting to rupt you, but you got to disclose that
the other person involved in this needs to have all
the information because maybe like in this case, Kristen is
not comfortable with this arrangement even if it's above board
in your house exactly.

Speaker 6 (06:41):
And I mean it is about board. Why can't I
talk to her? I have time to you know, with this.

Speaker 5 (06:46):
Kind of a lifestyle, and they're always allowed to talk
to the south and get it verified.

Speaker 4 (06:51):
That's all I'm asking for, Like, if.

Speaker 7 (06:52):
This is above board, the only way I could participate
in this is if I got to talk to your
wife and she said, yay, verily she can do this, Adam, I.

Speaker 3 (07:03):
Can about like a verification. That's not problem.

Speaker 1 (07:06):
I'm not trying to hide anything. Like she just was
very like she just very much said she doesn't want
to know about it if I'm being involved with another person.

Speaker 2 (07:13):
But I mean that's let's say that Adam's telling the truth.
I'm just going to give him the benefit of the
mount and he is telling the truth. You're saying that
if you could talk to her and verify, you might
be interested. But my question to Adam and tower you Kristen,
is are you not upset or concerned about how this
might define the relationship? Because even if it's okay, Adam,

(07:34):
what's the likelihood you leave your wife? What's the likelihood
you wind up committed to Kristen in a relationship like without?
I mean, Kristen, do you want to be a third
member of a dynamically for that when you meet a
guy or you meet when you guys start talking and
no one discloses this sort of open relationship thing.

Speaker 3 (07:53):
I mean in your mind, it's it's what I make
it for me, right?

Speaker 2 (07:56):
So Adam, do you if you fall in love with Kristin, well,
are you going to leave your wife?

Speaker 3 (08:00):
I mean that's pretty unlikely.

Speaker 1 (08:01):
But I mean also, Kristen said that she didn't want kids,
So I mean, I don't know what's to stop us
from Dan doing this?

Speaker 3 (08:08):
Like I don't good.

Speaker 6 (08:11):
It'll make me feel like I'm a cheater. I'm a cheater.
For the entire length of our relationship.

Speaker 4 (08:16):
How do I introduce you to people? Well, the family,
but like.

Speaker 2 (08:21):
I just want to trying to figure out is okay?
So let's say it's all on the up and up?
I mean, is that just so that you know you
haven't been cheating and then you're gonna dump this guy?
Or like if she says, yeah, it's true, I let
him do it, then are you okay with those terms?
Because he just said he's not leaving his life, So
basically now you can accept that you're going to.

Speaker 5 (08:37):
Be if there's no chance of him leaving his wife.

Speaker 4 (08:40):
And I'm just like some weird little secret.

Speaker 5 (08:42):
Yeah, I'm probably not interested honestly, Like, I just I
don't think I can live with that.

Speaker 4 (08:48):
I can't live that way.

Speaker 2 (08:49):
Right on your head, Kiki, what because this isn't like
he's insane?

Speaker 3 (08:53):
This is insane.

Speaker 7 (08:54):
Like you, if your wife gave me the green light
to do whatever you want to do, do it.

Speaker 2 (08:58):
But why bring in people unknowing like, hey, my wife,
I have a wife.

Speaker 3 (09:02):
You don't tell somebody after the fact. I think you've
got to lay that out for me.

Speaker 2 (09:06):
I think, Adam, you know that a lot of people
are gonna say no to this situation, and you didn't
want Kristin to say no, so you just didn't tell her.

Speaker 4 (09:13):
That's what I think why lied?

Speaker 2 (09:15):
And I can accept that, right, Okay, do we have
an accountable person on that?

Speaker 3 (09:22):
It's impossible.

Speaker 2 (09:23):
I do think you got to you got to lead
with it, Adam, Like you got to tell people, hey,
I'm in an open relationship, like I got a wife
and kids, and that's not going to change because everything
changes now for Kristen because maybe she didn't want to
be an accessory. Maybe she didn't want to be just
you know, the side thing. Maybe she wants you to
all to herself and she has every right to make
that decision. But if she doesn't know, then look here

(09:44):
we are.

Speaker 6 (09:45):
It's just really disrespectful, is really what it comes down to.

Speaker 5 (09:48):
It's incredibly disrespectful and it puts the other person in
a place where they feel dirty.

Speaker 4 (09:53):
And yeah, have.

Speaker 2 (09:55):
You ever had this problem before, Adam? I mean, I
assume you've been doing this for a little while. Like
if you had this issue, where when do you normally
lead with it? Do you normally tell people a friend
or no?

Speaker 1 (10:03):
I mean usually to kind of gauge how how things go.

Speaker 3 (10:07):
First, it's not going to work out.

Speaker 2 (10:08):
Kristin, Hey, thank you for your time and I'm sorry
that you know this happened to you and I wish
you to invest in Adam.

Speaker 3 (10:13):
Good luck out there to you as well.

Speaker 4 (10:14):
Thank you