Waiting By The Phone: The Voting Checklist

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Waiting by the phone. It's the Fred Show. Alison, good morning,
Welcome to the show. How are you, good morning? I
mean I'm okay, okay, right, Well, because you think maybe
you're being ghosted, and that's what we're here to do.
On waiting by the phone's figure this out for you
and hopefully straighten it out. But you met a guy
named Dan. How did you guys meet? Tell us about
any dates that you've been on and where things are now?

Speaker 2 (00:21):
Yeah, so, I mean we met on Hinge and I
was excited to meet him. You know, we had some
like flirtatious dms going back and forth, and he actually
was even better in person, which is kind of rare.

Speaker 3 (00:37):
I feel like your.

Speaker 2 (00:38):
Expectations are usually lower, you know, but he was.

Speaker 3 (00:42):
He's really he's.

Speaker 2 (00:43):
Really hot, he's smart, he's witty, you know, Like I
don't know, I just really am excited to see where
things would go. But he has just completely become a ghost.
He's not reaching out, he's I mean, he even like
ants to meet with me on him and followed me
on social media, Like I.

Speaker 1 (01:04):
Don't I really don't understand. That's it. Like if you
go as far as unmatching with people, on dating apps
and like unfollowing and stuff like. That's a conscious move.
That's you saying I don't want anything to do with
this person again because I've gone out with right, I've
gone out with people that didn't go great. I didn't
unmatch them on the app. I just you know, we
just stopped talking. But to go unmatches like, I do

(01:25):
not want to hear from you ever again under any
circumstanis that is crazy. But yet you look back on
this date and you thought it was great.

Speaker 2 (01:31):
Yeah, I thought it was awesome. I was really like
getting to note like it was really excited about how
well it was going. And I was like, oh, this.

Speaker 3 (01:39):
Guy's great, you know.

Speaker 1 (01:41):
Huh. Okay, Well, we're gonna call this guy Dan in
just a second. You'll be on the phone. At the
same time, we're going to ask some questions. At some point,
you're welcome to jump in. The hope here is that
we could figure out what happened. It's clearly something happened,
but we're going to figure it out. And you know,
the hope is that we can set you guys up
on a second day. Okay, I'm gonna play one song
and then we'll come back and do it. Stay right there,

(02:03):
let's find out what's going on. In part two of
Waiting Mint the phone after Hozier Fred Show back in
two minutes. Good morning, it's the Fred Show. Commercial free
for the next thirty minutes. You don't have to go anywhere, Hey, Alison, Yeah,
all right, let's call this guy Dan. You met on
one of the dating apps, she met on Hinge, and
you set up a date. You went out. You thought
the date went really well, except you haven't heard from

(02:24):
this guy since then. And not only that, but he's
unmatched you on the app, he's unfollowed you. So, I mean,
this is a conscious decision here. This is not like
I haven't gotten around to responding. This is a dude,
for whatever reason, had a different experience on this date
than you did it. It would, one would presume. But
you're saying, how could that be? Right? I don't know.

Speaker 2 (02:43):
I think it was really I mean, I thought it couldn't.

Speaker 3 (02:46):
Have gone any better, honestly.

Speaker 1 (02:48):
Huh Okay, Well, let's call Dan right now. Good luck, Allison,
thank you? Hello? Hi? Is this Dan? Yeah? I hate Dan.
Good morning. My name is Fredam calling from The Fred's Show,
The Morning Radio Show. And I have to tell you
that we are on the radio right now and I
would need your permission to continue with the call. Can

(03:09):
which have for just a second on the show, would
you mind? Uh? Yeah, that's okay? Yeah, well great, Thank
you so much for calling on. Behalf of a woman
named Alison. You met her on Hinge and recently went
on a date. I assume you remember Allison. Yeah, yeah, okay,
So she reached out to us and and was just

(03:30):
telling us that she enjoyed meeting you and thought the date.
She thought the day went great. You know that your
reaction makes me think that it didn't. Also, she says,
you unfollowed her, aren't responding to her, unmatched her on
the app the whole thing. So what happened?

Speaker 3 (03:44):
Is this a prank?

Speaker 1 (03:45):
Like like you guys set this date up as a No,
we had nothing to do with it. And this isn't
a prank either. We didn't set the date up and
we don't know what happened. Why would you say that?

Speaker 3 (03:57):
Well, yeah, little weird towards the end. But I mean,
look like at the beginning we hit it off. I
was really into her, you know, she seemed great and everything,
and then towards the end of the day, she she
slides this piece of paper across the table and she

(04:20):
said it was her election checklist, and she said the
only way that she would agree to see me again
is if I voted for everybody that she had written
on that checklist.

Speaker 1 (04:36):
Oh wow. So she put together a little document, little
voter guide for you. Voter guide for you. Okay, huh,
And she she was.

Speaker 3 (04:46):
Dead serious about this, Like I thought it was a joke,
but she insisted.

Speaker 1 (04:51):
Did she include the judges?

Speaker 2 (04:53):
Though?

Speaker 1 (04:53):
Are the judges on there? Because I'm worried about the
judge the judges is a lot of them. Did she
do all the work for me with the judges? Yeah?

Speaker 3 (05:00):
I think so, because there were a lot of names
on this and I recognize some of them, and I
recognize all of them. And I mean, it wasn't even
that I disagreed with a lot of them, but it
was just like she even said, this is a very
personal thing, voting, and I agreed, but yet she's trying
to force this.

Speaker 1 (05:17):
It's very personal, but you'll be personally doing it exactly
the way that I tell you to, or you'll never
see me again. I mean, that is rather presumptuous that
you would let me. Dan, I forgot to mention that
Alison is here. Alison, Yeah, Holy Dan, I'm here. Dan.
Tell me about this election checklist that you failed to mention.

Speaker 2 (05:36):
Yeah, I mean, that's just an important thing for me
to know, Like who, there's human rights involved right now?
You know, and like, so does this person care about
about the same things I care about?

Speaker 1 (05:46):
Like the values were my value hold on in fairness?
That's not that's not what you did. You didn't You
didn't ask him. You told him what he's going to
do if he wants to see you again. I think
if I don't mean to speak for Dan, but I
feel like that the objection because he said that he
probably agrees with you on a lot of this stuff.
But what you didn't ask him the questions. You said, Hey, here,

(06:08):
here's what you're gonna do, and if you don't, then
you'll never see me again. That's what you apparently what
you did, right, It's a really quick way.

Speaker 2 (06:16):
It's a really efficient way, a quick way to know,
like is this it would this workout or wouldn't it?
Because if he doesn't want to vote for the same people,
then we have way way too much.

Speaker 1 (06:28):
Wow, that is different about what we believe in. I mean,
really clear, go ahead, go ahead and finish.

Speaker 2 (06:34):
I'm sorry, No, it's a really clear way to know
is this guy the right guy for me? And if
if he's not, then there's no point wasting our time.

Speaker 1 (06:42):
I feel like Dan, if she had had a dialogue
with you, you sound like an agreeable guy, like you
would have been amiable to him. Maybe, I mean maybe
not in the first date, but I know it's a
it's a very important topic, especially right now. You probably
would have been willing to have a conversation about it
right as opposed to, hey, this is what I need
you to do.

Speaker 3 (06:58):
Well, yeah, it can be a consation. I think you
can learn about a lot of people that way, and
you know where they sit on a lot of issues.
But that's really different than getting a sheet of paper
with like a list of demands slid across the table.
To you, that's just no that that that's not a dialogue.
That's a command. That's that's a balance.

Speaker 1 (07:24):
It Do it now or else You'll never see this sweater.

Speaker 2 (07:31):
And let nobody else is objected to this. Everyone else
has been fine with it. I've given it to friends,
and family, and I've let them know that one of
the disagree because this election is so divisive. If we disagree,
then we are not going to be doing.

Speaker 1 (07:46):
This like friends and family anymore. We're not going to
be friends in family anymore. Holidays must be so much fun.

Speaker 2 (07:51):
Hey, she's standing on Yeah, I mean if they're if
they disagree with me, then we have too much there's
too much disparity.

Speaker 1 (08:00):
Hey, look really like, well, first ofll, I'm glad to
cover the judges. Okay, I'm really back to that. I
guess it's very important to do. You have every right,
of course, to feel the way that you do, and
you have every right to look for those qualities or
look for those commonalities and other people. But I think
the part that you're missing is that you don't know
this person. He owes you nothing, and to on a
very first date, command that someone cast their vote the

(08:23):
way that you dictate or else, or to tell friends
and family you're going to do it exactly the way
that I isn't that kind of part of the problem
that we're having right now.

Speaker 2 (08:33):
I mean, look, it's just it's really his loss because
you know, the sex is great and he missed out
on it, so you know it's his.

Speaker 1 (08:42):
Loss, okay? And do you think I just have to ask,
do you think, Alison, that no one else is objected
to this because because they're trying to appease you or
they just don't want the smoke? Like I feel like
a lot of people when it comes to our difference
is they just say okay because it's just not worth
the argument with certain PEPs, like do you really think
everyone you're going out with and everyone in your family

(09:02):
is going to do exactly as you say?

Speaker 2 (09:04):
I mean if they I think a lot of the
people that I am friends with and interact with are
pretty practical people, and they're like, well, let's yeah, let's
see where we stand on this. And they've been they've
been happy to fill it out. So I don't know
if they were lying or what, but I haven't gotten
any pushback.

Speaker 1 (09:23):
Just as a questionnaire. I didn't realize it's a lot
to this. Like you say, of the other people you date,
you give them the same thing. How do you know that?
How do you know at the end of the day
they're voting for what you say? You know you go
to that I could pull whatever, and I can tell
you right now that at least fifty percent of people
are lying about this election. Just based on the statistics,
I can tell you that I know it for that person,

(09:45):
let's have sex feeling like that's what? Yeah, I mean,
I just look, I would feel you can't tell me,
Kiki that you wouldn't be a little put off.

Speaker 2 (09:56):
I might need to bust out some questionnaires up in
here and just make sure everybody on the same.

Speaker 1 (10:03):
She's set her own business. Is she coming in early
district manager. I'm extremely passionate about county commissioner. It's very
important important whoever's in charge of the water exactly right. Yeah,

(10:26):
you know what, if you don't vote with me on that,
then you obviously don't care about your drinking water. Yes,
I just think it's a little The whole thing is presumptuous.
It's a very voting is a very personal thing, and
I understand that you want to be aligned with people
and you want to be on the same page with
your priorities. But there's I think there's another way to
go about that. Yeah, what she's doing is insane.

Speaker 2 (10:46):
I mean, good, everybody, everybody had her own way.

Speaker 1 (10:50):
Well, that's one thing. That is one way. However, it's
not Dan's way. So Dan, I'm sorry you're missing out
on that. But you know, I don't blame you, really,
I think it's I think it's a lot to ask
if someone you just met to agree to be exactly
aligned with them and their wishes and not even have

(11:11):
a conversation about, you know, the why or how you feel.
Thank you.

Speaker 3 (11:15):
I mean, even if I was married to somebody, I
wouldn't expect that of them to vote the way I
wanted to vote, you know, nor would I want to be,
you know, receive that kind of pressure in any kind
of relationship.

Speaker 2 (11:27):
So, yeah, it wasn't such a clear cut election this year.
Then then yeah, in the past when things were a
little bit more muddy, for sure, But in this situation
it's too important.

Speaker 1 (11:39):
Well, we're not even talking about president here. Apparently I
got to vote for everybody I like. I got like
sixty people I gotta vote for against of you. Okay, look, guys,
I'm sorry I don't have to ask the question, Dan,
but I will any interest in another day. There is
no interest, okay, as I'm gonna work four years from now. Yeah, maybe,

(12:00):
but see, this is my whole gripe about this entire process.
My gripe about this entire process is I bet if
these two just talked about it. I bet if she
wasn't commanding and said you'll do it my way or else,
I bet if they just talked about it, they're aligned.
I bet they are on a lot of things, and
maybe they're not. But there was no conversation. We just
said you do this or not, you do it my way,
or you suck. And I don't know. That's a little concerning,

(12:21):
but good luck to both of you guys.

Speaker 3 (12:24):
Thank you, thank you.

Speaker 1 (12:25):
It's seven hundred bucks. The show vis Shelley and the
Entertainment Report POL Next spread Show