Waiting by the Phone: You Should Have A Drink!

West is confused why Gigi won't text him back after a really fun night out! Find out why he got ghosted!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
I've ever been left waiting by the phone. It's the
Fred Show West, Good morning, Welcome to the program.

Speaker 2 (00:09):
How are you pretty good?

Speaker 3 (00:10):
Pretty good? Thanks for talking to me.

Speaker 2 (00:12):
You got it?

Speaker 1 (00:12):
Man? What's going on with this woman Gigi? We got
to know kind of the whole backstory. How did you meet?
Tell us about any dates you've been on, and then
where things are now? All right?

Speaker 3 (00:20):
Well, yeah, so we met on the apps and I
asked her to go bowling. So I think that's like
a fun little you know, you have to talk and
you get to hang out.

Speaker 2 (00:31):
And we had a great time.

Speaker 3 (00:32):
And how so she loved the idea of going bowling,
like she jumped at it right away, and I was
expecting a second date. It went so well, But she's
fully gone on ghost mode with me, and I don't
know why. And I know you guys can help people.

Speaker 2 (00:48):
And okay, are you a good bowler?

Speaker 1 (00:50):
I'm curious because like if you're a really good bowler
and then she's an average bowler, you.

Speaker 2 (00:54):
Know that kind of thing.

Speaker 1 (00:55):
I don't know, like do you have your own shirt
with your signature on the back of it, or your own.

Speaker 2 (00:59):
Bowl or anything.

Speaker 1 (01:00):
No, I'm very mediocre, Okay, I mean, I'm just saying
like it would be I guess it would be if
if you were into it and you wanted to share
that with someone. But like typically people are not good bowlers,
and and so I don't know, it's kind of I
guess it's more fun if you both are at the
same level. But you're saying it was just a casual thing.
But but you wanted to do something on the date
as opposed to just drinking, which is what I feel

(01:21):
like most dates are these days.

Speaker 2 (01:23):
Right, That's exactly it.

Speaker 1 (01:24):
Yeah, okay, all right, And and so you really left
the date thinking this is this is great, like I'm
gonna see this woman again. You know we had a connection,
but in fact you have not seen her. You haven't
heard from her, she hasn't responded to you, and you
want to know why you're being ghosted. Yes, okay, all right,
Well we're gonna call her just a second, Hey, West, Yes,
let's call Gigi. You guys met, you went on a date.

(01:46):
It was a bowling date after meeting on one of
the apps. You thought you had a great time. She
was into the activity, you know, the activity date, some
entertainment on the date, not just eating and drinking. You
took her to do something, except you have not heard
a war heard from Gig since that date, and you're
you're stumped.

Speaker 2 (02:02):
You're like, well, I thought this was a good date.
What happened? Yeah?

Speaker 4 (02:05):
Yeah, can you help me?

Speaker 2 (02:07):
Yeah? Well, let's call it out. Let's see good luck West?

Speaker 4 (02:16):
Hello?

Speaker 2 (02:17):
Hi is this Gigi?

Speaker 3 (02:19):
Yeah? This is she?

Speaker 1 (02:20):
Hey, good morning. My name is Fred. I'm calling from
the Fred's Show, the morning radio show. I have to
tell you that we are on the radio right now,
and I would need your permission to continue with the call.
Can we chat for just a second, would you mind?

Speaker 2 (02:31):
Sure? Thank you.

Speaker 1 (02:32):
We're calling on behalf of a guy named West, who
I guess. I mean, that's a hard name to forget.
But you, I guess you met West on the dating
apps and you went on a date with him recently,
little little bowling.

Speaker 2 (02:41):
Remember that, Yes I do? Yeah, all right, Well, he.

Speaker 1 (02:44):
Reached out to us and he had nice things to
say about you, and he felt like the date went
really well. But he hasn't heard from you since then,
and he thinks that you're ghosting him. So what what happened?
What's going on?

Speaker 2 (02:58):
So?

Speaker 4 (02:58):
Okay, I guess for starters, I'm sober, but I'm like
totally cool if people drink around me, and yeah, and
I told Wes that before the date, and he kept
on insisting that he wouldn't drink either, and kept saying like,
if you're sober, I'm sober.

Speaker 1 (03:14):
Uh yeah, Well that's kind of annoying. It's like, it's okay,
so you don't drink. You don't care if he drinks,
but he had to kind of like rub it in
your face that it was almost like he wanted to
but he wasn't because of you, but he had to
make sure you knew that repeatedly.

Speaker 4 (03:30):
Well yeah, and like and then when we actually decided
to meet up and go like on this bowling date,
the first thing he did was order two beers.

Speaker 1 (03:40):
Oh not for himself, like one for you and one
for him, even though you already let him know that
you don't drink, So I unclear.

Speaker 4 (03:48):
At first, I was like I told you I'm sober,
and he was like, oh no, these are for me,
and like again, like I don't care if other people drink,
but like, why did he go out of his way
to make such like a big production about not drinking,
Like because I'm sober, you're sober, like, and then he
did the exact opposite.

Speaker 1 (04:05):
Okay, all right, so you had to call attention to it,
and then he didn't even do that.

Speaker 2 (04:09):
Okay, so oh that was the first. Oh there's more,
Oh need do too?

Speaker 4 (04:13):
Yeah, So yeah, first road flag and the second came
a little bit later when like, you know, we're bowling,
we're having a pretty good time. And then he was
like really deep in thought, and so I asked him,
like what are you thinking about? Like what's on your mind?
And he simply responded, you should drink.

Speaker 2 (04:31):
Oh okay.

Speaker 1 (04:34):
So I don't know your story and you don't really
have to get into it, but I you don't drink
because maybe you had an issue with it or whatever
it is, or maybe you have some kind of traumatic
past with drinking, whatever the case may be. Most people
who don't drink, there's a reason for it. And you
just casually saying you should drink with me, like, that's
just it's wildly inconsiderate and disrespectful, really really annoying.

Speaker 4 (04:55):
Yes, exactly. And then like he kept trying to convince me,
like to drink and that it would be fine if
I just had one, and like I don't know. He's
just in my book, he's a liar and he doesn't
respect my sobriety.

Speaker 1 (05:07):
That's actually a vegetarian, Like you should chew on this bacon, right,
It's like, no, you know, this person is choosing to
live this way for whatever reason, health or ethics or
both or whatever. I forgot to mention West is here.
Why are you West? Why are you pushing a woman
who doesn't drink to drink. That's not how this works.
I just wandered her to have fun. She's you were
like hanging out like you would. You would have been

(05:29):
fine with just one drink. But people have a fun plenty.
They have plenty, plenty of fun. People have plenty of
fun without drinking. And it's not that simple. I mean,
this is it is a choice, but it's a choice
she's making for reasons that are important to her.

Speaker 2 (05:43):
So it's not as simple.

Speaker 1 (05:45):
I mean, I get we haven't gotten into why, but
like for her, that could be a trigger. Like and
you're just joking about it like it's something casual. You
can't do that.

Speaker 3 (05:53):
It is casual.

Speaker 2 (05:54):
It's nice.

Speaker 1 (05:55):
Note one drink for everybody.

Speaker 2 (06:00):
Beer.

Speaker 3 (06:00):
It's not like I got like a martini.

Speaker 1 (06:04):
You're missing the point, dude. Like, for some people it's
an addiction. For some people, they've been to rehab and treatment.
For some people, family have For some people they grew
up around it in an abusive way. I'm not trying to,
you know, be a downer here, but it's not. It's
not just half a beer instead of a martini. It's
they're not having anything.

Speaker 4 (06:21):
And even if she didn't want to, that's okay too, right,
It's just it's all good, right, Like.

Speaker 1 (06:26):
Why are you pushing someone to drink? And then why
are you making a big deal of the fact that
you weren't going to and then you did. You're making
her uncomfortable.

Speaker 3 (06:33):
I'm just trying to have fun to really at.

Speaker 2 (06:35):
All of y'all.

Speaker 1 (06:37):
You're probably the same guy that's like, you don't drink,
that's fine, a little little coke won'te or anything.

Speaker 2 (06:41):
You know, you're probably that guy. You don't get it.

Speaker 1 (06:45):
I mean, that's what I'm talking about. Wow, Gigi, I
was kidding, but he wasn't. Like, I'm gonna ask the question.
I know the answer, but I'm gonna ask the question.
It's my job. If this dude can lay off this
obsession he has with you drinking? Would you go out
with him again? I mean, I think you should say no,
but I think you are anyway.

Speaker 4 (07:06):
Yeah, absolutely not.

Speaker 1 (07:09):
All right, hey, West, not going to work out. Don't
push people who don't drink to drink. It's not that simple,
all right, Okay, yeah yeah right now, well now he's
laughing about Okay, geez you thank you for your time.

Speaker 2 (07:26):
Good luck out there, West, good luck to you as well,