Waiting by the Phone: Your Son Sleeps In Your Bed!?

Iris is confused why her date Matt won't call her back after a fun first date... Find out why she got ghosted!

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All thanks to Live Nation. Ever been left waiting by
the phone. It's the Fred Show. Iris, Good morning, welcome
to the program. How are you good? How are you?
We're doing great? Thanks for being here. What's going on
with this dude, Matt? We got to know how you

(00:41):
met about any dates you've been on, give us some context,
some backstory, all that good stuff, and then what's going
on now?

Speaker 2 (00:48):
Yeah? Thank you? So yeah, we met on we met online,
We met on Facebook dating. Actually, so yo.

Speaker 1 (00:57):
Walk about that one too often. I heard there's a
lot of people on there, though.

Speaker 3 (01:02):
Yeah, you know, is it like I don't I don't
know how I know this, but I saw that there
was a part on there that you can make it.
You don't know anybody like it will never pop up
in anyone that you know.

Speaker 1 (01:13):
Oh that's a good idea. Not that anyone will be
surprised to see me in any form of a dating app.
I mean, I'm single, but I guess if you weren't
single and you were trying to poke around on that
thing anyway. Okay, so Facebook dating, we don't hear a
lot about that, but you you met someone on there?

Speaker 4 (01:28):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:29):
No, and and like actually went out on a date,
which is rare. Like meeting someone you know online and
then actually having it results in a in a real
life day feels, uh, feels pretty rare.

Speaker 1 (01:42):
So why is it rare? Do you not date very much?
Or why why is it rare for you to go
on a date?

Speaker 2 (01:47):
I mean, I feel like dating these days, especially online
dating in general, is really hard to actually meet someone
who wants to meet in real life. I'm also a
single mom, which complicates things, right, So it's like two strikes.

Speaker 1 (02:03):
Yeah, and that could be hard to to coordinate. All right,
So you met this guy, you had a great date,
You felt like everything went really well, things kind of
came together, except you have not heard from him since then,
and that's bugging you. As it would anybody.

Speaker 5 (02:16):
Yeah, it feels especially weird because I have to say
it was a pretty great date, Like it wasn't just okay,
it was a really good date.

Speaker 2 (02:27):
So to not hear anything okay, they have him ghost
me after that just feels very odd. He'd also been
really responsive, like up to the date, you know what
I mean, like as we were planning it, as we
were talking, you know, texting, So I okay, yeah, just
it feels odd. It feels very odd.

Speaker 1 (02:46):
Well, let me call. Uh, We're gonna play a song.
Come back. We'll call Matt. You'll be on the phone.
We're going to ask these questions. At some point you're
welcome to jump in on the call, and hopefully we
can straighten this out and set you guys up on
another great date that we pay for.

Speaker 2 (02:58):
That would be amazing.

Speaker 1 (03:00):
Yes, all right, let's call Matt. You guys met on
Facebook dating, which is not a dating app that we
hear about very often on waiting by the phone. But
you guys connected, You went out, you had great conversation,
you really felt like the date went well, and you
don't date a whole lot, so you were excited about
the prospect here. But you have not heard from this
guy since the date, and you want to know why.

Speaker 6 (03:21):
That is it?

Speaker 1 (03:22):
All right, let's call him now? Good luck, Iris, Thank you?
Hi is Matt. Yeah it is Matt. Hey, Matt, good morning.
My name is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred Show,
the morning radio show, and I have to tell you
that we are on the radio right now, and I

(03:44):
would need your permission to continue with the call. Can
which yet for just a second on the show?

Speaker 6 (03:49):
Uh?

Speaker 1 (03:50):
Yeah, I guess.

Speaker 6 (03:50):
I mean it's a little weird day. You said you're
a radio show.

Speaker 1 (03:54):
I know, it's a little awkward. Thanks for listening, by
the way, But no, we're calling on behalf of a
woman named Ira Ris, who I guess you met recently
on maybe on Facebook dating or something, and then you
guys went on a date.

Speaker 7 (04:06):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I went out with her.

Speaker 6 (04:10):
What's right going on? What's the question here?

Speaker 1 (04:12):
Okay? Oh? We love bossing over here. Okay. Well, she
called us, Matt and told us I had a lot
of nice things to say about you, said that she
enjoyed meeting you and enjoyed the date and was hoping
to hear from you again. Says you were very communicative
before the date, and and she's confused as to why
you haven't reached out and responded to her since you

(04:33):
guys went out.

Speaker 7 (04:35):
Uh yeah, okay, I mean it's okay, it's a little awkward,
but look, uh, you know, Iris was was really nice.
I mean, I really liked her when we were talking
on Facebook dating. When we went on the date, the
conversation was good. I mean, we had good banster, you know.

Speaker 6 (04:51):
And she's gorgeous. She's absolutely beautiful.

Speaker 1 (04:54):
That's the problem. This all checks out. What's the problem? Then?

Speaker 6 (04:57):
Yeah, okay.

Speaker 7 (04:58):
I knew that she a single mom, you know, and
she doesn't get out much for the dating. So but
that didn't bother me, you know, I it was fine
hearing her talk about her son. She was very proud,
and I was totally fine. At the end of the date,
you know, we were I drove her home. We were
kissing in my car before we you know, kind of

(05:18):
said goodbye, and things were getting hot and heavy. But
then she told me like, okay, well, unfortunately I can't.

Speaker 6 (05:26):
I wish I could bring you up, but my son's
sleeping in my bed.

Speaker 7 (05:29):
Okay, okay, and when I you know, she she's yeah,
she said her son was sleeping in her bed. But
she already told me that her son is seventeen and
in high school and he sleeps in bed with her
every night, and so that oh no, it's.

Speaker 1 (05:54):
Get in my mind where I was in my bed.
I'm like, oh, mom's kids five, six, seven years old,
somewhay that you know mom's in yeah, oh boy, okay, oh.

Speaker 3 (06:04):
My, if we want to go down this wad right.

Speaker 6 (06:10):
So anyway, like you guys agree here that.

Speaker 1 (06:14):
Seventeen year old, I didn't know where this is going.
I didn't know. I didn't know if maybe you're going
to wind up in like the kid's bed or something like.
I didn't know where this was going. Because okay, no, no,
let me bring iris in. I got iris. You have
a lot of explaining to do, girl, Like your seventeen
year old son sleeps in your bed and you're there.

Speaker 4 (06:36):
Yes, he does, there is Look, it's it's complicated.

Speaker 1 (06:42):
Sounds like it, you know.

Speaker 2 (06:43):
I feel like when you're a parent, there are certain
things that you have to do for your child, and uh,
and what would be for us.

Speaker 6 (06:54):
If your seventeen year old sleeps in your bed every night?

Speaker 1 (06:57):
That's a big issue. I don't immediately take this like
a criminal place or anything like that. It's in my
mind it's well, I mean, we live in a Yeah, sadly,
this is the world we live in. But I guess
I'm really concerned about boundaries here. Like seventeen years old,
there's quite the attachment. I mean, what happens I mean,

(07:19):
what is he a junior in high school? In high school? No? Yeah,
I mean like what yeah, like what happens when it's
time to go to college and move out and things
like that. I mean, it seems like, you know, help
me out here.

Speaker 4 (07:33):
First of all, he's a he's a rising senior. Second
of all, look, I I'm not trying to get feisty here,
but I'm very surprised that that's the reason, especially because
you're you're not a parent, and you don't understand and
there's a lot of history and context here that I'm

(07:56):
not going to go into about.

Speaker 2 (07:58):
My son's he's and well.

Speaker 6 (08:04):
That that would be a deal breaker for.

Speaker 2 (08:06):
You how I choose to parent my child.

Speaker 1 (08:09):
Wait a minute, though, I like, you can't honestly, look,
no one's judging you or whatever your story is, but
you can't possibly tell me that that is something that
someone who you're going to date would find to be
you know, commonplace, and like, so what happens if this
relationship goes somewhere? Do we have to he has to
be out of the house then, like because he's taking

(08:29):
your wristpot in the bed, Like the dude, what do
you do that thing?

Speaker 4 (08:33):
If things were to progress, it would be a while
before you meet my son, for you know, obvious reasons.

Speaker 2 (08:42):
I'm very protective of him. I thought that was understood
in terms of like intimacy. There are ways to work
around that.

Speaker 5 (08:54):
Bedtime is our special time, but.

Speaker 2 (08:57):
You know, their afternoons mourning, there are other.

Speaker 7 (09:04):
I can't.

Speaker 6 (09:05):
I'm sorry you guys, I can't.

Speaker 7 (09:07):
I mean, this is this is the dilemma, and I
think that I am going to withhold the judgment, but
just on my side, we're going to get into studies.

Speaker 5 (09:18):
Now.

Speaker 1 (09:19):
I'm not sure, honestly, I don't know if this is
the Sun's thing or the moms. I don't know who
like a whole Yeah, I know, and I'm sorry for
whatever you've been through or however we got here, genuinely,
But I can also, in fairness, I can see why
somebody from the outside would look at this and say
where do I fit in?

Speaker 2 (09:36):
Oh, I mean, I would just think, especially because we
did have such a great date and you did seem
really supportive of me being a single momb which I
don't know, maybe.

Speaker 6 (09:47):
That was, maybe that was.

Speaker 1 (09:51):
But no, Yeah, you are welcome to figuring me as
a bad guy. But I'm I'm just doing what I
know is right for me. Yeah, I think I can
understand that you're Yeah, I'm sorry, Max.

Speaker 7 (10:05):
Somebody finds it understandable. I and I totally support that
you are supportive of your son, just not in that way.
And granted, like you said, I'm not a parent myself,
but I think that I am justified in not wanting
to be a part of that situations.

Speaker 1 (10:25):
There are a lot of single Okay, honestly, I'm not
even gonna argue with you, but so it's not for Matt. Iris,
I'll ask the question, Matt, would you like to go
out with her again? We'll pay for it. No, maybe
a hotel room too, I don't know. In the middle
of the day. Look, Iris, I'm I wish you the best,

(10:54):
and I just you know, I don't, I don't, I don't,
I don't know, I don't know. I don't know. I
just I don't know. I don't know, and so that's
not he's not going to be interested. And Iris, I
wish you the best in whatever's going on. And uh
and and thank you so much for sharing with us.

Speaker 2 (11:12):
There are a lot of studies about them.

Speaker 1 (11:14):
It's like reattached trying to make this easy. No, I
know there's there's attachment, there's attachment stuff going. I don't know.
I really I'm not going. I am not qualified for
this conversation. So I'm just going to get going. I
don't know. I got to go ahead and get going now.
So I wish you guys both the best of luck. Okay,
thank well, thank you