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Hey Brianna, Hi, Hi Brianna, good morning, Welcome to the show.
I want to hear about this guy Alex. Tell us
how you met, about any dates you've been on, and
then where things are now?
Speaker 3 (00:45):
Yeah, so we met like everyone does online bumble and
we grabbed drinks.
Speaker 4 (00:54):
Honestly, it was great. I felt like I could really
talk to him about anything. I was really looking forward
to seeing him again, you know. But after the date,
he literally never reached out to me. I have no
idea what happened.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Really, Okay, so you look back on this date and
you felt like the conversation was good. I mean, these
are all the questions I always ask. But there was chemistry.
I mean, you know, oh my god, yeah, you look
like your pictures. He looked like his. I mean, I'm
trying to think of all the things that usually go
wrong with these dating app dates. I mean, a normal
date in by every definition.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
Like nothing was weird. We were flirty, I had a
really good time. So I'm just like confused why he
just wouldn't at least like text.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Me, you know.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Yeah, and you mentioned in the note, you mentioned that,
you know, there was a kind of a in my words,
but a comfort in the communication. Like you guys, you
really felt like you could talk to him about anything,
and and there was just a natural nature to it all.
Speaker 4 (01:53):
You said, it was like it was, it felt very easy.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
We definitely had it like connection.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Huh Okay, except you haven't heard a word from this
guy since the date.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Have you reached out to him at all?
Speaker 2 (02:05):
Or are you just waiting for him, you know, as
the man as the gentleman to reach out to ask
you out.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
Well, I was waiting at first, but then a couple
of days went by, so I did text him and nothing.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
He didn't respond.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Okay, so he's ghosting you. It would appear. But here's
the thing. We're going to call this guy Alex. You'll
be on the phone at the same time. We're going
to ask these questions on your behalf, try and figure
out what's going on.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
You know, the guy.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
There could be some other explanation. Maybe he does want
to see you again. And if that's the case, then
we're going to set you up on that date and
pay for it.
Speaker 1 (02:32):
Okay, Oh my god, it I would love that.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Hey, Brianna, Right, all right, let's call this guy Alex.
You met on one of the dating apps and you, guys,
you felt like you connected. It was bumble that you
met on and then you went on this date and
you felt like you connected in person. You were attracted
to him, you felt like that was mutual. The conversation
was flowing, there was a comfort, there was I mean,
a lot of good things happen on this date. Except
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you haven't heard from this guy. You've reached out to him,
he hasn't responded to you, So it would appear that
you're being ghosted.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
I mean, I'm one hundred percent being ghosted. I just
don't know why.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
All right, Well, let's call Alex now and try and
figure this out. Good luck, Brianna, thank you.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
Hello.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Hi is this Alex? This is him Alex. Good morning.
My name is Fred.
Speaker 2 (03:21):
I'm calling from the Fred's Show, the Morning radio Show,
and I do have to tell you that we are
on the radio right now, and I would need your
permission to continue with the call. Said, okay, with chat
for just a second on the show. You can hang
up anytime, sure, sure, Well, thank you very much. We're
calling on behalf of a woman named Brianna who says
she met you on Bumble, the dating app, and you,
guys recently went out on a date to you remember
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meeting her?
Speaker 5 (03:44):
Yeah, I remember, Brian. Okay's pretty cool.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
She's pretty cool.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Well, okay, I guess that's better than I was expecting, because,
you know, we just talked to her and she told
us about your date and had a lot of nice
things to say about you and felt like there was
good chemistry and all kinds of things. Except she says
she can't get a hold of you since the date.
So why are you not reaching out? Why are you
not responding? I mean, you know, if she was cool,
then what's the problem.
Speaker 3 (04:10):
Okay?
Speaker 5 (04:10):
She I mean, yeah, she was cool. She's not wrong
about the date.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
The date was really good.
Speaker 5 (04:14):
Actually I was actually really into her. But it was
during the date that she said something to me that
was a little concerning.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Well, do tell I mean, I'm on the edge of
my seat. What does she tell you that was concerning?
Speaker 6 (04:27):
Okay?
Speaker 5 (04:27):
She told me that she feels like she might be asexual.
I was pretty sure I knew what that meant, but
I had to ask her just in case, and she confirmed, like,
it means she's you're not sexually attracted to anyone. So
what am I supposed to do with that?
Speaker 2 (04:42):
Like?
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Why was I even there? Well, I'm okay, hopefully for
more than just can I.
Speaker 3 (04:47):
Just say something like? All right? Well, can I just
say it?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Sometimes it is Brianna Alex. I forgot to mention that
Brianna is here. I'm extremely forgetful. I'm sorry about that.
I was going to try and get some more information,
but h yeah, Brianna, go ahead to say something. You
can say something. What what does it mean when you tell?
I mean, I think we all know what we think
we know, at least when you tell a man on
a date that you're asexual. How is he supposed to
interpret that?
Speaker 3 (05:08):
Okay, but I didn't actually say I was asexual. I said,
like I might be asexual. And I only said that.
Speaker 4 (05:17):
Because, like we were both sharing things, and like I
just I felt really comfortable sharing that with him. But
now he's judging me for it, So I really just
I don't think that that's fair.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Okay, But here's the thing, Brianna. If I'm Alex, you
can tell me if I'm wrong. But if I want
a date with you, and we have chemistry and we're
attracted to each other, even if that's not going to happen,
date one right away, right now, across the table, you know,
on the dinner table. I mean, what I'm hearing you
say is I may not be a sexual person, and
so this relationship might not include that or a lot
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of that, And I don't I don't know. I can
see how if I first mettioned one. If I'm being
really honest, I mean, you'd like to believe, well, it's
more than that.
Speaker 1 (05:59):
But I mean the only.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
Thing you care about is sex, then I guess that's.
Speaker 2 (06:03):
Not That's not what I said. That's not what he
said either. But I mean, I can understand why you're
on this date. You're like, okay, so wait a minute,
so that's never happening, then I guess or.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
Not I not answer at all?
Speaker 4 (06:14):
Is it's just so rude, like I was reaching out,
what are you thinking?
Speaker 5 (06:20):
My thing is, it's fine, agree a sexual but my
thing is, like I don't that's not all I care
about is sex. But eventually a natural progression of a relationship.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Will lead down that road.
Speaker 5 (06:31):
I think that's like, you know, I just at that point,
I'm like, well, for me, that's a natural progression of
a relationship a sexual that's fine.
Speaker 6 (06:40):
I'm not asexual. I'm a sexual being. I'm not a
sexual being. See here's the thing, and I don't know
enough about this. Maybe there are people who are a
sexual who can straighten this out. But I would guess
that asexual person would be best suited with another asexual
person because you know, just my my naive. Maybe it's
na a table, but I would sing that if one
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person is a sexual person and the other ones not,
that's going to be very frustrating for probably both sides, right,
because you got one person that wants to do that,
the other person that doesn't so you're probably both annoyed.
So how would that work, Brianna, if in fact you
are not as interested or at all.
Speaker 3 (07:16):
I mean, I never said I wasn't interested.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
I'm the one that's going out of their way to
figure out what happened.
Speaker 3 (07:24):
So like, I never said I wasn't interested.
Speaker 4 (07:27):
I was just sharing a part of myself that I
thought would have been accepted considering we weren't talking about
each other's lives.
Speaker 3 (07:35):
I know better now, Well, no one's really share no
much of myself until later.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
No, I don't think anyone's saying that, Brianna. I think
that there's if you do say that, then there's a
chance it's going to be interpreted a good chance the
way that I think everybody here has interpreted it, and
it might not. I mean, it might need a little
further explanation. Because again, if you're someone who likes an
activity and someone else says I'm just not into that activity,
well I don't know that.
Speaker 4 (08:04):
You know, you just didn't say I wasn't into the
activity of sex. I just said that I might be
a sexual. There's a difference, And the thing is he
doesn't know the difference. And Okay, that's fine, but I
like to just not respond or not reach out at all.
Speaker 3 (08:21):
It's just it's childish.
Speaker 2 (08:22):
But if I say to you, Brionna, I don't even
know why I'm trying to defend this someone. If I
say to you, I might be a vegetarian, that might
indicate to other people that I don't eat a lot
of meat, you know, I mean, And then you might say,
you know, well, I I mean again, and that's not
a reason not to go out with somebody. But like,
if I'm beginning to feel that I might be, you know,
fall under a particular you know, sort of description, well,
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then that might indicate that my activity is leading in
that direction. So for you to say to me out loud,
like I think I'm a sexual. If I'm listening to that,
not knowing anything, not having any context, what I'm hearing
is you're you haven't wanted to do that as much.
I think that's a fair thing boundaries, right, I think
it's a fair conclusion to draw.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
So I don't think it's don't say it.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
I think it's if that's who you are, then that's
all good, but it may not be for everybody.
Speaker 4 (09:13):
Yeah, I mean, I just don't think I just don't
think we're gonna get We're not going to be on
the same page.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
So I just don't think we're going to get anything
out of this.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
Okay, Yeah, that's what we're saying.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Yeah said he could have and he could have told
you why.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
I do hear that part of it.
Speaker 4 (09:33):
But I do understand why he would be hesitant, geeky.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
Look on your phone. I'm with him. He said this like,
I mean, she's wild. I don't know the words. I
feel like we're all saying the same thing, but yet
there's an argument, So I don't know.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
Look, Alex, I'm gonna ask the question, do you would
you be interested in going out with her again? Maybe
you have a further conversation about this. Maybe we all
have the wrong impression. Maybe by definition she's not using
right word or not describing it properly, or we don't understand.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
So would you want to give another chance? We'll pay
for it. No.
Speaker 5 (10:06):
At this point, I don't really enjoy her argument style.
So you know two things?
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Oh, okay, is there an argument style that people do like?
Speaker 5 (10:17):
No?
Speaker 1 (10:17):
Yeah, Brianna, is anyone there? Alex? Are you there?
Speaker 5 (10:22):
I'm here?
Speaker 3 (10:23):
I mean, maybe that's her argument style.
Speaker 4 (10:26):
Hang up.
Speaker 1 (10:27):
I guess you hung up on us. I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
I did this for her, and then she's the one
who hangs up. All right, Look, Alex, I'm sorry. I
don't know if you want to go on a date
with someone else will pay for it.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
I'm tired. I don't know, Alex.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
I guess that's said good luck to both of you, guys,
But since she's not here, then only good luck to you.