April 21, 2025 • 14 mins
Fred asks the crew what their significant other is saved as in their phone!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
How your significant other's name is saved in your phone
speaks volumes about your relationship apparently, So before I tell
you what that means, I'll just go left to right.
I would start with myself. I don't have a partner,
so I can't I can't answer this. How is Big
Tim saved in your phone? Big Tim?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Yes, it really depends on the day. I'm not gonna
lie you change. You changed his name on your phone?
Speaker 3 (00:25):
Yes, honey, if he makes me upset, that number is
not saved.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
You unsaved the man's number who lives.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
With you if I do, or I change it to
his mother's name and it just says her son.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Uh huh, so and so, so.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
You will take the time to go into your phone
book and change the way someone's written. Yes, The only
way I'm changing someone's name in my phone is if
either I'm erasing them or if I want to put
something in there to identify, not to answer them like no.
The problem putting no is that if you have more
than one no, then you don't know which no it
is calling.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Now.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
That's while you don't even know who's calling. That's that's extreme.
I will delete people's number.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
I will not I'm not gonna take the time and
going the phone will can change it to I hate
this person?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Why change it?
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Because it's kind of it makes you feel a way
when that number pops up, it's like, look at this clown,
you know, like it says, you know.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Yeah, your therapy got it. He lives there. It's better
than change.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Like some people go and change their Facebook name, like
a lot of my Mary friends, they'll go from like
Kaylen Jane Jones to Kaylin Marie because they won't they'll
drop their whose last name to show like they're mad
and I love watching that. Yeah, Or some people will
change their relationship status or go vent on Facebook face
(01:47):
doing all that.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
I just change your name in my phone and laugh
when you call it.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Text me the place where people are crying for help constantly.
You just have to be able to decode it. Yes,
Like I know someone who's having a little bit of
tough a little bit of difficulty in their relationship, and
now one side is all just pictures of that person
and the kids and and intentionally without the person and
they're not they're not.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
They're still together.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
But I'm just I'm noticing the passive aggressiveness of it's
like I'm just gonna keep posting pictures without this person
in it, and it's almost like are you are you
inviting people to ask you why which you are or
when you post them there like I need extra prayers today.
It's like now, now, okay, fine, I give you a
little extra prayer, like what am I praying about?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
You know?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
And then you I think it just draws people in.
People start calling you, texting you. It's attention seeking, you know.
It's it's like what cryptic message are you trying to
send through Facebook?
Speaker 4 (02:39):
See to do that?
Speaker 6 (02:41):
I just I feel like, especially if you've been together
for a really long time and you've let people like
and you have to be like real, like sure that,
like your relationship is like over before you start. Like
I posted a Sam Hunt song once that's called break
Up in a Small Town and I just like this
song and like his brother was.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Like in boxing me, like what do you mean? Like
what's wrong? I'm like, I'm not breaking up.
Speaker 6 (03:04):
I've been dating your brother for for a decade, so
like I'm not breaking up with them on Facebook?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Kayla, you never posted a meme or a song or
anything on social media that was intended to you know
that had a double meaning.
Speaker 7 (03:18):
I'm sure I have, but I don't not in my relationship,
Like I would never put that out. I would never
think to do that. I would do something more like
between us. But I'm not going to do something public
like that.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
But what do you mean? What would you do?
Speaker 4 (03:29):
I don't know, like hide all his sock one of
his socks or something.
Speaker 7 (03:32):
I don't know, you know, like I would do like
psychological warfare just between us.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
Yeah, I'm not doing that.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I'm hiding one of your.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
Socks, right, you know, take the toilet paper or something.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
You know, what is what is he in your phone?
Speaker 4 (03:49):
As you're the same, but there is a photo?
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Oh yeah? Does that mean something? I don't know that
count so, Jenny.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (03:56):
It's just like a little extra effort, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
I think people have dated it.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
I've always been in my phone is either either their
name or their name and the dating.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
App that I met them.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Oh I got if you type in hinge in my phone,
I've got a lot of hinges in there. I got
a lot of hinges. Oh yeah, I got a lot
of shyes to differentiate between you know, the so and
so that I know from another city. Yeah, yeah, I
got a lot of those, or a lot of ass.
I got some AZ's in there because when I'm in
as you know, the Jessica in the Shy is different
from the Jessica when I'm in Raleigh, which is different
(04:29):
from the Jessica when I'm in West Palm, which is
way different from the Jessica when I am in.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
Might not you got a Jessica in every city?
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I certainly, I certainly do. I got a Jessica everywhere
you want to go.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
But he has a black heart next to my name.
I don't know what that means. I just asked him,
So a black heart black heart?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Okay, what is uh? Mike the mechanic, He's just Mike f.
Speaker 6 (04:57):
Yeah, because I had a lot of mics met him,
you know. But I think what he has me saved
is better. It's Jason Brown gay like because like he
would like.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Save people in his opposed to the Jason Brown that
he knows it's straight.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
He knows a straight one, but he would like save people.
And then he was like meeting that work customers but
live like nothing else but gay.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
After that's amazing.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Do you have anyone in your phone and We've talked
about this before, but their name and then some kind
of identifying feature like I want to hit Becky big boobs.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I did hit Mecky big boobs.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Oh yeah that was a real That was real because
her name was Becky and she indeed had large.
Speaker 6 (05:43):
I mean, if it makes sense, yeah, if it'll help you,
honestly know, it's more just like where like you like
where I meet people in mind, No, more like physical
places versus like okay, dating apps. But I don't think
I have any like so and so grinder or anything
in my phone.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Well I would hope that it's been fourteen years, you
should not being grinder anymore, all, Paulina.
Speaker 5 (06:02):
I'm just boring old Paulina year and I have him
saved und her husband.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
He just says husband.
Speaker 8 (06:07):
I mean he's been through a lot of phases as well,
like obviously like when we first started dating, or like
when we met it was you know, hobby whatever, which,
by the way, I learned that he's a why not
an I so j A v hy so I used
to have j A v I for a long time.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah, I know how dare I was crazy? Well because
j A v I e R so he spells it
right correct. Yeah, so he's just husband now.
Speaker 5 (06:29):
But like Kiki said, I mean there are days where
husband is not husband, husband is do not answer, husband
is baby daddy like husband would be a lot of things.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I've never taken the when I'm mad and someone I
don't take the time to go in, I don't even know.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
It would take me a second to figure out how
to do that. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
Yeah, no, I mean I respect it, I'm inspired, But.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
I mean it's just a good feeling when you see
like goofy clown.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Isn't a good feeling or do you realize, Yeah, that
guy sleeps in my bed and he's a goofy clown.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Like I'm calling you. Look at this, look at this
goofy clown calling it? And then well, you know, I
anymore goes back to like bay.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Well, your partner's contact name on your phone gives insight
into your relationship. According to a psychotherapist, since the name
on our phone is a visual symbol of our partner
and a reminder of our relationship with them, then using
personal jokes your nicknames can affect a deeper or more
intimate connection. If our partner uses our full name like
they would for any other contact and puts gay after it.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
It keeps their gay.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Might be that they don't attribute additional value to our communication.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
I think we're reaching now. I think we're really reaching.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Like if if you're in my phone as first and
last name and I'm dating you, I don't think that
that should be of any concern to you.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Like, we don't like that.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
What do you meant your name?
Speaker 4 (07:48):
No, you don't need first of all, how many Kalin's
you know. Let's let's say first of all.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
We're not dating anymore Kalin.
Speaker 7 (07:54):
So if we don't know, but like my last name really, Like,
I'm just I.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Think you're just Kaitlin in my phone because I only
know one. But I'm just saying, like if I met
you in some kind I mean, you know, because you
meet someone and I don't know, you gave me your
an info and I put your name in my contact,
I don't go change the contact or the style of
the contact because I'm dating you now.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
It is what it is.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
If we've slept together, you can't have my last name
in there.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
I have a couple of people in there as I
just haven't changed the name back from how I had
to change the name in my phone book in order
to still have a friendship with this person because of
the person I was dating before. Like, I have a
female friend, I have a couple of female friends, but
I have one in particular who who I have slept with,
but we're cool. I wouldn't sleep with there when I'm
(08:39):
in a relationship because that's cheating, so I wouldn't do that,
but she'd text me, and it got to the point
where I was basically being told I couldn't even interact
with this person anymore. So I changed her name to
a male name in my phone and she still is
a male name in my life. I just haven't changed
it back. But it's like, I'm not going to not
be friends with this person because I'm not doing anything wrong.
(09:00):
You know, you haven't the other person you met this
person yet, So I changed it to a male name,
So then no problem.
Speaker 4 (09:06):
How did your girl know you slept with her?
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Because I think she asked me who it was, like,
who was so and so? And I was like, Oh,
we used to date and we're just cool, and it
was like, oh no, no, none of that. I'm like,
we mean none of that. She's to evaporate now because
like I don't know, we're cool, Like I don't know,
I mean, and this person still talk to her ex.
So I'm like, I don't you know what I mean? Like, ill,
(09:30):
who are you to tell me that I can't. I
only casually dated and occasionally you know, boom boom with
that person.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
I wasn't.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
I didn't live with that person, Like you're the person
your texting, you know. Yeah, So I'm just so, how
about if we're in a relationship, how about if we
just how about we just trust each other because in
a relationship and like we can't, we can't make everybody
go away who we used to know.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
I wish we could. I wish we trust me.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
I wish I wish that the second that you met
the person he was supposed to be with, that all
of the knowledge that you've gained from dating other people,
all the good knowledge, like all the tricks, tips and tricks,
all those things you could remember, but everything else was
erased and you're the only thing they ever could think about.
I wish that were a thing that you had, but
you had amnesia about everybody but me. But you also
(10:18):
remembered how to do that thang you know what I mean.
So you remember how to do that thang, but you
don't remember how you learned the.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
Thing totally attainable, I think. So, yeah, how about you're
onto something.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Oh zempic that does that, yeah, and makes your thing bigger.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Okay, different places, Honestly, I think.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
I'm honest something in a different kind of lab.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Kiki, let's get in the lab. Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
Let's work on this weight loss that gives you amnesia
about everyone that you've dated before the person you're with now,
but you still remember the tips and tricks, and it
makes whatever you want to be bigger bigger and whenever
you want to small or smaller, this is great.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Hey, I'll be alive for that one.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
You said, ozampic, I'm there.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Yeah, and again apparently I read last week it's coming
in pill form now, ozembic is if that's the case,
now we're talking, no objecting myself.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
That's one way. That is one way for it.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
People who are like, because here's the thing, I have
lost weight and I've kept the weight off and I know,
thank you, and I already know because I do it
in my head. I know what everybody says. Anytime anyone
loses weight now, it's oh, it's ozembic. It's impossible that
you're actually working for it, you know, it's oh, it
must be ozempic, because there are a lot of people
out there who are who don't need ozembic, who are
taking it because it's too lazy to work out.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
And no, no, I need you to.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
Know that I am not you post those gym videos.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
I am not yeah, taking that route, and for some
people that's the only way theyre gonna lose weight.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
If you're older, you're diabetic, whatever.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
It is great by all means, but that's that's the
only unfortunate thing about this ozempic these days is that
I feel like everybody who looks healthy now it's, oh, well,
they must be taking ozempic secretly.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
No, it's not a secret.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Public so we've been very public with your everybody knows,
and so this goes if you but if you're actually like,
if you're really eating, like, okay, Jason, you're not an Olympic, right,
And I know you've been watching your diet. I know
you haven't been drinking soda. Yeah, I know you've made
(12:27):
a lot of like conscious choices to lose weight.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
So you're doing all this, it's not that much fun.
Everybody knows it.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
And so even if, even though it's a compliment, if
someone's like, oh, he must be an Ozmpic because it
means you're skinny, you're at the same time you're like, what,
wait a minute, I'm having to eat sticks over here
or you know, or nothing at all, eating air right,
and you over here saying oh, he must just be
poping a pill.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
And that's not that that that's not cool.
Speaker 6 (12:51):
No, yeah, but it's it's okay as long as they
feel better.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
You can think whatever you want.
Speaker 6 (12:55):
But I want someone I would like them to be like,
oh wait, like oh my god, like are you are
you okay?
Speaker 4 (13:01):
Like CMO and christ right, like worry about me.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
So anyway, this this thing goes on and on.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Some people may stick to saving a person's real name
or save a number, or not save a number at all,
and that's for pessimistic reasons. When we take a measure
like this, we're incorporating an element of protection. After all,
if we save someone's name, there's a risk that we
might need to change or delete it if the relationship
doesn't work out. No, I just don't take the time
to save you until I think I'm gonna need to.
(13:32):
I mean, I'm not saving your phone number unless like
I'm gonna be talking to you regularly. I don't even
bother really, So it's not, it's not. It has nothing
to do with this person's good. This psychiatrist or psychologist
whoever they ask, is going into insecure, anxious, preoccupied, seeking
reassurance and effect all this blah blahlahh. No, that's none
of that. If I save your number, that means this
(13:53):
might be going somewhere. What are we in your phone?
Hows geniuses yes, genius one two three gay genius genus
boyfriend genius gay, Marion's girlfriend, thank you. There's hobbies, uh
(14:15):
girlfriend Yeah, And then and then there's for Kaitlin, it's
ex girlfriend might be.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Gay, you know what.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
So yeah, just in case, ends on the day, Just
in case you change your mind, I'm good with an asterisk.
And then if you go into the notes, it says
not out yet though, right right, you're gonna dig a
little deeper in there.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Fred Shoe
How your significant other's name is saved in your phone
speaks volumes about your relationship apparently, So before I tell
you what that means, I'll just go left to right.
I would start with myself. I don't have a partner,
so I can't I can't answer this. How is Big
Tim saved in your phone? Big Tim?
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Yes, it really depends on the day. I'm not gonna
lie you change. You changed his name on your phone?
Speaker 3 (00:25):
Yes, honey, if he makes me upset, that number is
not saved.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
You unsaved the man's number who lives.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
With you if I do, or I change it to
his mother's name and it just says her son.
Speaker 4 (00:38):
Uh huh, so and so, so.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
You will take the time to go into your phone
book and change the way someone's written. Yes, The only
way I'm changing someone's name in my phone is if
either I'm erasing them or if I want to put
something in there to identify, not to answer them like no.
The problem putting no is that if you have more
than one no, then you don't know which no it
is calling.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Now.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
That's while you don't even know who's calling. That's that's extreme.
I will delete people's number.
Speaker 1 (01:04):
I will not I'm not gonna take the time and
going the phone will can change it to I hate
this person?
Speaker 2 (01:08):
Why change it?
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Because it's kind of it makes you feel a way
when that number pops up, it's like, look at this clown,
you know, like it says, you know.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Yeah, your therapy got it. He lives there. It's better
than change.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Like some people go and change their Facebook name, like
a lot of my Mary friends, they'll go from like
Kaylen Jane Jones to Kaylin Marie because they won't they'll
drop their whose last name to show like they're mad
and I love watching that. Yeah, Or some people will
change their relationship status or go vent on Facebook face
(01:47):
doing all that.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
I just change your name in my phone and laugh
when you call it.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Text me the place where people are crying for help constantly.
You just have to be able to decode it. Yes,
Like I know someone who's having a little bit of
tough a little bit of difficulty in their relationship, and
now one side is all just pictures of that person
and the kids and and intentionally without the person and
they're not they're not.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
They're still together.
Speaker 1 (02:09):
But I'm just I'm noticing the passive aggressiveness of it's
like I'm just gonna keep posting pictures without this person
in it, and it's almost like are you are you
inviting people to ask you why which you are or
when you post them there like I need extra prayers today.
It's like now, now, okay, fine, I give you a
little extra prayer, like what am I praying about?
Speaker 2 (02:29):
You know?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
And then you I think it just draws people in.
People start calling you, texting you. It's attention seeking, you know.
It's it's like what cryptic message are you trying to
send through Facebook?
Speaker 4 (02:39):
See to do that?
Speaker 6 (02:41):
I just I feel like, especially if you've been together
for a really long time and you've let people like
and you have to be like real, like sure that,
like your relationship is like over before you start. Like
I posted a Sam Hunt song once that's called break
Up in a Small Town and I just like this
song and like his brother was.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Like in boxing me, like what do you mean? Like
what's wrong? I'm like, I'm not breaking up.
Speaker 6 (03:04):
I've been dating your brother for for a decade, so
like I'm not breaking up with them on Facebook?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
Kayla, you never posted a meme or a song or
anything on social media that was intended to you know
that had a double meaning.
Speaker 7 (03:18):
I'm sure I have, but I don't not in my relationship,
Like I would never put that out. I would never
think to do that. I would do something more like
between us. But I'm not going to do something public
like that.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
But what do you mean? What would you do?
Speaker 4 (03:29):
I don't know, like hide all his sock one of
his socks or something.
Speaker 7 (03:32):
I don't know, you know, like I would do like
psychological warfare just between us.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
Yeah, I'm not doing that.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I'm hiding one of your.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
Socks, right, you know, take the toilet paper or something.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
You know, what is what is he in your phone?
Speaker 4 (03:49):
As you're the same, but there is a photo?
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Oh yeah? Does that mean something? I don't know that
count so, Jenny.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (03:56):
It's just like a little extra effort, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
I think people have dated it.
Speaker 1 (04:00):
I've always been in my phone is either either their
name or their name and the dating.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
App that I met them.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Oh I got if you type in hinge in my phone,
I've got a lot of hinges in there. I got
a lot of hinges. Oh yeah, I got a lot
of shyes to differentiate between you know, the so and
so that I know from another city. Yeah, yeah, I
got a lot of those, or a lot of ass.
I got some AZ's in there because when I'm in
as you know, the Jessica in the Shy is different
from the Jessica when I'm in Raleigh, which is different
(04:29):
from the Jessica when I'm in West Palm, which is
way different from the Jessica when I am in.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
Might not you got a Jessica in every city?
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I certainly, I certainly do. I got a Jessica everywhere
you want to go.
Speaker 4 (04:43):
But he has a black heart next to my name.
I don't know what that means. I just asked him,
So a black heart black heart?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Okay, what is uh? Mike the mechanic, He's just Mike f.
Speaker 6 (04:57):
Yeah, because I had a lot of mics met him,
you know. But I think what he has me saved
is better. It's Jason Brown gay like because like he
would like.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Save people in his opposed to the Jason Brown that
he knows it's straight.
Speaker 6 (05:13):
He knows a straight one, but he would like save people.
And then he was like meeting that work customers but
live like nothing else but gay.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
After that's amazing.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Do you have anyone in your phone and We've talked
about this before, but their name and then some kind
of identifying feature like I want to hit Becky big boobs.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
I did hit Mecky big boobs.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Oh yeah that was a real That was real because
her name was Becky and she indeed had large.
Speaker 6 (05:43):
I mean, if it makes sense, yeah, if it'll help you,
honestly know, it's more just like where like you like
where I meet people in mind, No, more like physical
places versus like okay, dating apps. But I don't think
I have any like so and so grinder or anything
in my phone.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Well I would hope that it's been fourteen years, you
should not being grinder anymore, all, Paulina.
Speaker 5 (06:02):
I'm just boring old Paulina year and I have him
saved und her husband.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
He just says husband.
Speaker 8 (06:07):
I mean he's been through a lot of phases as well,
like obviously like when we first started dating, or like
when we met it was you know, hobby whatever, which,
by the way, I learned that he's a why not
an I so j A v hy so I used
to have j A v I for a long time.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yeah, I know how dare I was crazy? Well because
j A v I e R so he spells it
right correct. Yeah, so he's just husband now.
Speaker 5 (06:29):
But like Kiki said, I mean there are days where
husband is not husband, husband is do not answer, husband
is baby daddy like husband would be a lot of things.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I've never taken the when I'm mad and someone I
don't take the time to go in, I don't even know.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
It would take me a second to figure out how
to do that. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
Yeah, no, I mean I respect it, I'm inspired, But.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
I mean it's just a good feeling when you see
like goofy clown.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Isn't a good feeling or do you realize, Yeah, that
guy sleeps in my bed and he's a goofy clown.
Speaker 3 (07:00):
Like I'm calling you. Look at this, look at this
goofy clown calling it? And then well, you know, I
anymore goes back to like bay.
Speaker 1 (07:07):
Well, your partner's contact name on your phone gives insight
into your relationship. According to a psychotherapist, since the name
on our phone is a visual symbol of our partner
and a reminder of our relationship with them, then using
personal jokes your nicknames can affect a deeper or more
intimate connection. If our partner uses our full name like
they would for any other contact and puts gay after it.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
It keeps their gay.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Might be that they don't attribute additional value to our communication.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
I think we're reaching now. I think we're really reaching.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
Like if if you're in my phone as first and
last name and I'm dating you, I don't think that
that should be of any concern to you.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Like, we don't like that.
Speaker 2 (07:47):
What do you meant your name?
Speaker 4 (07:48):
No, you don't need first of all, how many Kalin's
you know. Let's let's say first of all.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
We're not dating anymore Kalin.
Speaker 7 (07:54):
So if we don't know, but like my last name really, Like,
I'm just I.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
Think you're just Kaitlin in my phone because I only
know one. But I'm just saying, like if I met
you in some kind I mean, you know, because you
meet someone and I don't know, you gave me your
an info and I put your name in my contact,
I don't go change the contact or the style of
the contact because I'm dating you now.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
It is what it is.
Speaker 4 (08:15):
If we've slept together, you can't have my last name
in there.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
I have a couple of people in there as I
just haven't changed the name back from how I had
to change the name in my phone book in order
to still have a friendship with this person because of
the person I was dating before. Like, I have a
female friend, I have a couple of female friends, but
I have one in particular who who I have slept with,
but we're cool. I wouldn't sleep with there when I'm
(08:39):
in a relationship because that's cheating, so I wouldn't do that,
but she'd text me, and it got to the point
where I was basically being told I couldn't even interact
with this person anymore. So I changed her name to
a male name in my phone and she still is
a male name in my life. I just haven't changed
it back. But it's like, I'm not going to not
be friends with this person because I'm not doing anything wrong.
(09:00):
You know, you haven't the other person you met this
person yet, So I changed it to a male name,
So then no problem.
Speaker 4 (09:06):
How did your girl know you slept with her?
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Because I think she asked me who it was, like,
who was so and so? And I was like, Oh,
we used to date and we're just cool, and it
was like, oh no, no, none of that. I'm like,
we mean none of that. She's to evaporate now because
like I don't know, we're cool, Like I don't know,
I mean, and this person still talk to her ex.
So I'm like, I don't you know what I mean? Like, ill,
(09:30):
who are you to tell me that I can't. I
only casually dated and occasionally you know, boom boom with
that person.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
I wasn't.
Speaker 1 (09:37):
I didn't live with that person, Like you're the person
your texting, you know. Yeah, So I'm just so, how
about if we're in a relationship, how about if we
just how about we just trust each other because in
a relationship and like we can't, we can't make everybody
go away who we used to know.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
I wish we could. I wish we trust me.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
I wish I wish that the second that you met
the person he was supposed to be with, that all
of the knowledge that you've gained from dating other people,
all the good knowledge, like all the tricks, tips and tricks,
all those things you could remember, but everything else was
erased and you're the only thing they ever could think about.
I wish that were a thing that you had, but
you had amnesia about everybody but me. But you also
(10:18):
remembered how to do that thang you know what I mean.
So you remember how to do that thang, but you
don't remember how you learned the.
Speaker 4 (10:23):
Thing totally attainable, I think. So, yeah, how about you're
onto something.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Oh zempic that does that, yeah, and makes your thing bigger.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
Okay, different places, Honestly, I think.
Speaker 1 (10:37):
I'm honest something in a different kind of lab.
Speaker 2 (10:44):
Kiki, let's get in the lab. Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
Let's work on this weight loss that gives you amnesia
about everyone that you've dated before the person you're with now,
but you still remember the tips and tricks, and it
makes whatever you want to be bigger bigger and whenever
you want to small or smaller, this is great.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Hey, I'll be alive for that one.
Speaker 4 (11:03):
You said, ozampic, I'm there.
Speaker 1 (11:05):
Yeah, and again apparently I read last week it's coming
in pill form now, ozembic is if that's the case,
now we're talking, no objecting myself.
Speaker 2 (11:15):
That's one way. That is one way for it.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
People who are like, because here's the thing, I have
lost weight and I've kept the weight off and I know,
thank you, and I already know because I do it
in my head. I know what everybody says. Anytime anyone
loses weight now, it's oh, it's ozembic. It's impossible that
you're actually working for it, you know, it's oh, it
must be ozempic, because there are a lot of people
out there who are who don't need ozembic, who are
taking it because it's too lazy to work out.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
And no, no, I need you to.
Speaker 4 (11:41):
Know that I am not you post those gym videos.
Speaker 1 (11:45):
I am not yeah, taking that route, and for some
people that's the only way theyre gonna lose weight.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
If you're older, you're diabetic, whatever.
Speaker 1 (11:52):
It is great by all means, but that's that's the
only unfortunate thing about this ozempic these days is that
I feel like everybody who looks healthy now it's, oh, well,
they must be taking ozempic secretly.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
No, it's not a secret.
Speaker 1 (12:07):
Public so we've been very public with your everybody knows,
and so this goes if you but if you're actually like,
if you're really eating, like, okay, Jason, you're not an Olympic, right,
And I know you've been watching your diet. I know
you haven't been drinking soda. Yeah, I know you've made
(12:27):
a lot of like conscious choices to lose weight.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
So you're doing all this, it's not that much fun.
Everybody knows it.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
And so even if, even though it's a compliment, if
someone's like, oh, he must be an Ozmpic because it
means you're skinny, you're at the same time you're like, what,
wait a minute, I'm having to eat sticks over here
or you know, or nothing at all, eating air right,
and you over here saying oh, he must just be
poping a pill.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
And that's not that that that's not cool.
Speaker 6 (12:51):
No, yeah, but it's it's okay as long as they
feel better.
Speaker 2 (12:54):
You can think whatever you want.
Speaker 6 (12:55):
But I want someone I would like them to be like,
oh wait, like oh my god, like are you are
you okay?
Speaker 4 (13:01):
Like CMO and christ right, like worry about me.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
So anyway, this this thing goes on and on.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Some people may stick to saving a person's real name
or save a number, or not save a number at all,
and that's for pessimistic reasons. When we take a measure
like this, we're incorporating an element of protection. After all,
if we save someone's name, there's a risk that we
might need to change or delete it if the relationship
doesn't work out. No, I just don't take the time
to save you until I think I'm gonna need to.
(13:32):
I mean, I'm not saving your phone number unless like
I'm gonna be talking to you regularly. I don't even
bother really, So it's not, it's not. It has nothing
to do with this person's good. This psychiatrist or psychologist
whoever they ask, is going into insecure, anxious, preoccupied, seeking
reassurance and effect all this blah blahlahh. No, that's none
of that. If I save your number, that means this
(13:53):
might be going somewhere. What are we in your phone?
Hows geniuses yes, genius one two three gay genius genus
boyfriend genius gay, Marion's girlfriend, thank you. There's hobbies, uh
(14:15):
girlfriend Yeah, And then and then there's for Kaitlin, it's
ex girlfriend might be.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
Gay, you know what.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
So yeah, just in case, ends on the day, Just
in case you change your mind, I'm good with an asterisk.
And then if you go into the notes, it says
not out yet though, right right, you're gonna dig a
little deeper in there.
Speaker 2 (14:40):
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