How to Buy a Home - Step 2: Realtors & Lenders (Choosing Your Guides)

Choosing the right realtor and lender is the most important decision of your entire home-buying journey. In this foundational step of the How to Buy a Home Starter Kit, David Sidoni reveals how to build your real estate “dream team” — one that guides, protects, and empowers you from day one. This episode exposes the industry myths that keep first-time buyers confused and shows you how to find professionals who work for you, not just the deal.

Synopsis

Most first-time buyers think their realtor’s job is to find a house and write an offer, and their lender’s job is to get them the lowest rate. Wrong. In this episode, David breaks down the truth about what real estate and mortgage professionals are really supposed to do — act as your advocates and educators long before you ever start touring homes.

You’ll learn why finding your guides early is the #1 shortcut to buying with confidence and saving money in the process. David walks through the “red flags” that signal you’re working with an order-taker instead of a true advisor, explains how fees really work (even after the 2024 NAR lawsuit), and shows you exactly what to look for in a first-time–buyer–friendly realtor and lender.

This episode is all about mindset — shifting from “I can figure it out on my own” to “I deserve a team that helps me win.” You’ll walk away knowing how to interview potential agents and lenders, how to spot true advocates who will guide you through every step, and why this early investment of time can make or break your success as a homebuyer.

Quote

“You don’t have to do all the planning on your own — that’s the number one thing that will make or break your home-buying dreams.”

Highlights

• Why Step 2 is the most important step in the 10-part homebuying process
• The truth about what your lender and realtor actually do
• How to avoid “door-openers” and “order-takers” who only chase transactions
• The real story behind agent fees after the 2024 NAR lawsuit
• How early education with the right guides multiplies your buying power
• The mindset shift that turns confusion into confidence
• Red flags to avoid when choosing your real estate team
• What to look for in a first-time–buyer–focused realtor and lender
• Why spending 10x more time researching your team is worth it
• The “personal Yoda” principle — why long-term guidance creates better outcomes

Referenced Episodes

• [Ep. 5] The Biggest Dirty Little Secret in Real Estate
• [Ep. 164] START HERE: 10 Steps to Buying Your First Home
• [Ep. 169] Woman Power: This Single Woman Bought Her First Home
• [Ep. 229] What Is a Unicorn Real Estate Team?
• [Ep. 339] Don’t Get Pre-Qualified—Get a Plan (Interview)
• [Ep. 340] Down Payment Assistance, Discovery Calls & Lending Myths (Interview)
• [Ep. 382] 2025 Crucial Housing Market Shift Pt. 1: Rates
• [Ep. 383] 2025 Crucial Housing Market Shift Pt. 2: Sales, Inventory & Affordability
• [Ep. 384] 2025 Crucial Housing Market Shift Pt. 3: Rent Math & Buying Power
• [Ep. 388] The Playbook Vol. 1: The Rent Replacement Strategy
• [Ep. 389] The Playbook Vol. 2: Your Last Lease Ever

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